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Fight or flight.
I think we’ve all heard the phrase. It refers to the way each person is hard-wired to react to
real or perceived danger. Psychologists have recently added another option, giving us three
ways we might respond to threats: we fight back, we flee, or we freeze up. This happens
in life-or-death situations, but it also occurs on a smaller scale whenever we feel endangered:
At the mall, when you see someone who mistreated you in the past
At work, when the boss criticizes your work
At a party, when a friendly conversation takes an uncomfortable turn
At school, when you hear an ugly rumor someone has started about you
So whether the situation is potentially fatal or just a little threatening, you’re going to
respond in one of those three ways. What does that look like? Here are few possibilities that
cover a range of intensity:
Fight Responses
Flight Responses
Subtly changing the subject
Taking a step back or turning slightly away from the group when a conversation becomes
uncomfortable
Avoiding certain people, places, or topics
Literally fleeing—moving away from the source of discomfort
Laughing it off; acting like there is no threat
Freeze Responses
Not answering when one is addressed
Stumbling to a halt
Feeling paralyzed, as if one is physically unable to move
Squeezing the eyes shut and going still
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This is obviously just a sampling; more responses can be found for specific emotions in
the Second Edition of The Emotion Thesaurus.
Because this is how we react to real or perceived danger as human beings, it’s important to
know which way are characters will lean. Figuring out their fight, flight, or freeze
tendency early on can help in a number of ways.
So before you start writing, ask yourself: Is this character more likely to fight, flee, or
freeze in a threatening situation? When that scenario arises in the story, you’ll know
their general kind of response. Then you can individualize the reaction to fit your character.
If you’ve done your research and it’s time to start writing scenes, you can then conduct a
casting call: use the characters who will serve your story best in that moment. If a scene
needs conflict but your protagonist tends to shy away from trouble, team them up with a
friend, co-worker, or rival who is impulsive or thrives on confrontation. If you don’t want to
kill the tension by resolving a problem too quickly, pair a fighter with someone who’s
reluctant to face conflict.
Each scene needs different things. (For more help on planning and structuring at this level,
check out One Stop for Writers’ Informal and formal Scene Maps). The more you know about
your characters beforehand, the better equipped you‘ll be to figure out who should be
involved in various parts of the story.
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Characters should do the same. When they feel threatened or vulnerable, they’ll try to hide
that by conveying a false emotion.
Writing hidden emotion can be tricky because you have to show the false emotion to the rest
of the cast while revealing the real emotion to the reader. There are a number of ways to
effectively get this information across, and one of them is through the fight-flight-or-freeze
response. Consider the following example from The Emotional Wound
Thesaurus:
Sara poured sugar in her coffee and stirred, the clink of the spoon melodic against the cozy
murmur of voices from neighboring tables. Sunlit, with a breeze coming off the water, the
outdoor café was so peaceful this time of day—before the high school kids took it over.
“I like this place,” Mom said, blowing on her tea. “It reminds me of where I used to go as a
girl.”Sara smiled and leaned back, the wooden seat slats warming her skin. “The place with
the éclairs?”
“Mmmm. That’s the one.” Mom took a sip, then her eyebrows shot up. “Oh, a friend of yours
showed up at Mass on Sunday. Annemarie? Marybeth?” She shook her head. “Something
with two names.”
Sara jerked, dousing her hand in hot coffee. She set the cup down with a clatter and
shrugged. Don’t know who you mean.
“My memory these days—I swear.” Mom sighed. “She said you worked together last
summer during your internship.”
Sara met her mother’s gaze, which showed curiosity instead of the horror that would be
there if she knew the truth.
“Doesn’t ring a bell.” Sara grabbed the check. “’I’ll get this. Hey, how’s your yoga class
going?”
Here we see signs of a flight response. When Sara’s mom mentions the girl from the
past, Sara immediately goes on high alert. She doesn’t show this; overtly, she acts as if
nothing has changed. So how do we know she’s upset? She gives the barest reaction possible:
a shrug. No verbal reply at all. You can almost hear Sara silently begging her mom to let it go.
When she doesn’t, Sara’s flight response escalates in the form of her wrapping up their outing
and changing the subject.
There are other clues that Sara is hiding her emotion, such as the initial involuntary jerk, the
clarity of her thoughts, and the overall change in mood (from a calm, casual lunch date to one
charged with tension). When you combine her flight response with these other signals, it
becomes clear that she’s not being forthright.
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As you can see, the fight-flight-or-freeze response is rooted in real-life behavior,
and knowing which tendency is most likely for our characters can add a sense of realism and
authenticity to our writing. So take the time to figure this out, and you’ll reap the benefits in
stronger characterization, well-balanced scenes, and deeper, more layered emotional
responses.
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