Politeness is having or showing behaviour that is respectful and

considerate of other people.

So, basically it’s treating people with respect.
 Politeness is very important in life.
There are many reasons why politeness is important in life but one
of them is that if you’re polite, you are more likely to achieve your
objectives and get what you want. Also, people are more likely to take
you seriously and deal with you in a good way.
As the 19th century American writer Joss Billings said:
Politeness is better than logic. You can often persuade when you cannot
convince.
And I think what he meant by that is that if you’re polite, people will
listen and take your arguments, ideas, opinions seriously. They  may
even change their own behaviour and do what you’d like them to do!
Now, although politeness is expressed in different ways in different
cultures, there is a general theory of politeness which can probably be
applied to most – but maybe not all – cultures.
Here are the 3 Golden Rules of Politeness 
Number 1: Don’t Impose
People have their own personal space.They don’t want their personal
space invaded.They don’t want to be pressured into doing something
they don’t really want to do.They want to be treated as individuals.
f you impose, invade their personal space,  and try to get them to do
things they don’t want to do, they might reject you. They might not want
to deal with you and won’t  respond to you in a positive way. So, don’t
order or command.
Rule Number 2: Give Options.
When you ask someone to do something, give them options which they
can refuse or accept.  They have the choice to do what you want or to
say ‘I’m sorry, I’d rather not do that.’ If you have a suggestion, give
people the option to accept or refuse it, and give them the option to think
of a suggestion of their own.
It’s really important to give people options so they don’t feel trapped.
Rule Number 3: Make the other person feel good.
Now, this does not mean that you have to make people feel really happy.
It just means that most people want to feel positive and in control of the
situation. They want to know that you respect their ideas and opinions
and their status as an individual

Nomor 1: Jangan memaksakan

Orang-orang memiliki ruang pribadi mereka sendiri. Mereka tidak ingin
ruang pribadi mereka diserang. Mereka tidak ingin dipaksa melakukan
sesuatu yang tidak ingin mereka lakukan. Mereka ingin diperlakukan
sebagai individu.
Jika Anda memaksakan, menyerbu ruang pribadi mereka, dan mencoba
membuat mereka melakukan hal-hal yang tidak mereka inginkan,
mereka mungkin menolak Anda. Mereka mungkin tidak ingin berurusan
dengan Anda dan tidak akan menanggapi Anda dengan cara yang positif.
Jadi, jangan pesan atau perintah.
Aturan Nomor 2: Berikan Opsi.
Ketika Anda meminta seseorang untuk melakukan sesuatu, berikan
mereka pilihan yang bisa mereka tolak atau terima. Mereka memiliki
pilihan untuk melakukan apa yang Anda inginkan atau mengatakan,
"Maaf, saya lebih suka tidak melakukan itu." Jika Anda memiliki saran,
berikan orang pilihan untuk menerima atau menolaknya, dan memberi
mereka pilihan untuk berpikir dari saran mereka sendiri.
Sangat penting untuk memberikan opsi kepada orang lain agar mereka
tidak merasa terjebak.
Aturan Nomor 3: Buat orang lain merasa senang.
Sekarang, ini tidak berarti bahwa Anda harus membuat orang merasa
sangat bahagia. Itu hanya berarti bahwa kebanyakan orang ingin merasa
positif dan mengendalikan situasi. Mereka ingin tahu bahwa Anda
menghargai gagasan dan pendapat mereka serta status mereka sebagai
individu

Help wearing a jacket and open the café door

A woman is just about to step outside the café and a man she
doesn't know helps her put on her jacket and open the door for her. In
America, this woman might be called sexist and actually humiliated. But
in France, this would not be considered sexist and would instead be
considered French ethics. To refuse this kind of treatment would be
considered rude in France. This is one of the habits of French people
who are exemplary.
Spend Food On A Plate
In China if you finish your food clean on a plate it is an insult
and a rude act. because for them a clean plate shows the host does not
provide enough food to fill the stomach of his guest. while what we
know in Indonesia we should spend the food on the plate.
Give A Tip
In Indonesia or in some countries, tipping is a very common
thing to do. but giving a tip in Japan is considered insulting to others and
we will be considered arrogant and demeaning the work of the person
given the tip