How do you deal with a mother in law who puts down your parenting ways and is

coming for 10 days to visit?

My dad told us about his aunt (she raised him from the time he was 8 years old until he left
school) and how she handled her overbearing mother in law.

It went like this: mother in law called to let her know she was coming to visit for a week and she
was bringing company with her.

Mother in law then gave his aunt a list of instructions on how his aunt was to feed them, what
meals to serve and when to serve them.

There were also detailed instructions on how the children and any of the aunt’s friends and the
children’s friends were to behave around said mother in law and HER company.

Mother in law also said that they would arrive “Tomorrow afternoon”. Dad said his aunt smiled
and sweetly said “How lovely!”

As soon as his aunt hung up the phone, she told dad and his cousin that they were going on a
camping trip. The boys were ecstatic!

They asked when are we going? She said “Tomorrow morning!” After she locked up the house
the next day, she put a note on the door “ We went camping. Be gone a week.

Sorry we missed you. Have a nice stay!”! I have to say I have always loved his aunt!
You should consult with a therapist about your insecurity issues, because they will be toxic to this or any
other relationship.

If your girlfriend has said good night to you, she isn’t expecting a call from you (unless you have
some separate agreement). She might be listening to voicemail, calling a friend, checking in with
a relative, touching base with a work associate, confirming a ride for the next day, ordering a
pizza, etc.

It’s unhealthy and highly unattractive to make an unexpected call and then manufacture some
fantasy about her unavailability.