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Why We Should Not Compare Ourselves with Others

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Why We Should Not Compare Ourselves with Others

Introduction
In our society, many times, individuals tell us to measure ourselves with others. "You

should be like your father," "You can win; the others aren't as excellent as you," "You must be

the top in your class," etc., and this is not always the most significant way of thinking. There are

several reasons to stop comparing ourselves to others and start comparing ourselves instead. In

this paper, I'll go through some compelling arguments for why this is the best course of action.

First Reason

It's important to remember that no matter how hard you work, someone will always be

better than you. Irrespective of how you look at it, the fact remains (Basu, 2019). This might lead

to feelings of inadequacy compared to others, even if you don't know why. While being the

finest architect of your age might make you feel fabulous, if someone comes along and surpasses

your level of excellence, you may feel dejected, even if your abilities as an architect remain

unaltered.

Second Reason

If you measure yourself to anyone else, you will, without a doubt, discover someone who

is in a worse situation than you are. This may result in an erroneous feeling of superiority and,

ultimately, a harmful amount of pride. On the other hand, if you are in your classroom and

placed second or third, you will suddenly become the most extraordinary learner even though

you are only as wonderful of a student as the other students.

Third Reason

After examining the first two possible reasons for this, there is still a third one. Make the

other person seem terrible, and you'll put yourself in a far better position than they will. For

someone like me to take over as head of the organization, I will need to portray you as either a
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deviant or an idiot to get what I want, which is to seize your position. If that's the case, I'll be

able to top what you've accomplished (Kross et al., 2020).

Fourth Reason

Because making comparisons between ourselves and other people is a kind of self-

criticism, doing so does not contribute to our development as human beings. Because no one has

access to the most private thoughts and emotions of another person, no one knows their

backstory or their most fundamental motivations, and as a result, it may be difficult to accept

someone when we judge them harshly (Schmitt, Steinheber, Schreiber, & Roth, 2018).

The Last But Most Important

It is essential to refrain from making comparisons to other people since doing so raises

the possibility that we may mimic the behaviours and thoughts of those around us (Ryan, 2019).

But before we can grow spiritually, we need to figure out who we are at our core and what

motivates us first. Only then can we hope to progress (Li, Weston, & Roller, 2019).

Conclusion

Because of all of these factors, we shouldn't compare ourselves to anybody else other

than ourselves, even if we are extraordinary. The only person we should compare ourselves to is

ourselves. Our only point of reference for making comparisons is our conscious experience.

Therefore, if we adhere to this pattern, we won't judge ourselves by the standards of others, we

won't go out of our way to make other people seem inadequate, we won't be so hard on

ourselves, and we'll accept ourselves just as we are. We are going to have better days in the

future.
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References

Basu, R. (2019). What we epistemically owe to each other. Philosophical Studies, 176(4), 915–

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Kross, E., Verduyn, P., Sheppes, G., Costello, C. K., Jonides, J., & Ybarra, O. (2020). Social

media and well-being: Pitfalls, progress, and next steps. Trends in Cognitive Sciences,

25(1). https://doi.org/10.1016/j.tics.2020.10.005

Li, M., Weston, J., & Roller, S. (2019). ACUTE-EVAL: Improved dialogue evaluation with

optimized questions and multi-turn comparisons. ArXiv:1909.03087 [Cs], 23(3).

Retrieved from https://arxiv.org/abs/1909.03087

Ryan, F. M. (2019, September 2). “Making ourselves and others possible”: Gender and

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