The Tale of Relation

So often you and I try to relate to what she says. That is fine. However, we want her to be
relating to us as well. We value ourselves when we only drive down two-way streets. So
how in the world do we get her relating to us? Take my workshop and find out. Okay,
until that time here is a hint: Talk in a way that is relatable. Sometimes we need to listen
to ourselves. Women many times WANT to make conversation with us but we make it
hard. How is she supposed to conversationally relate to, “I am from the city of Angles.” It
is difficult to relate to things: For example, 1 2 3 relate to the word ‘Lamp Post.’ See? It’s
f*cking hard. Now how about relating to, ‘I was playing around in my car in a parking
lot, making reverse donuts in the snow when to my surprise, BAM, I backed right into a
lamp post I hadn’t seen.’ (I actually did do this once) Now, I bet you can more easily
relate to that AND you feel more comfortable with me (I’m just a silly monkey-boy
human like you.)

People don’t relate to ‘things’ very easily. They relate to feelings. While you talk try to
answer the question, “How do you feel about it?” Own it! Use the ‘I’ word. Say, “I feel
_________. That made me feel __________. Jessica Simpson makes me feel
__________ in my pants.”

I took surfing lessons for the first time recently. When I finally got up on the board I
waved to my friends on shore. ‘Look at me. I’m surfing!’ This lasted for about half a
second and then splash - fell off the board and was pounded by the wave.

Speak in a way that women (and everyone) can see and feel. That is when they get
excited to talk back to you and begin to make a commitment to the interaction. They may
never have gone surfing but they can relate to the feelings of learning something new, of
being proud of yourself and then wiping out. We can all relate to that.