Spare the rod and spoil the child

Dear Mr. Chan,

I am writing about the conflicts you have had with your son. I am so sorry to hear
that things have got out of turned out so badly. I would like to give you some advice
and suggestions to help improve the relationship with your son.
To start off, I think you use the wrong method to discipline your children. Few days
before, a news have reported that you have been use some harsh punishment to
your son. The idea of ‘ Spare the rod and spoil the child’ is good, but is outdated
nowadays. In addition, treating teenagers with corporal punishment not only
hurts your children’s dignity and it will back witch they won’t conform to you
gradually. Also, corporal punishment is violence. Nowadays, some experts
says that use a ‘carrot’ instead of using a ‘stick’. And here ‘a carrot’ is
representing the reward of being good under your rules which is reward him
something good, maybe a new game . In other words, the ‘stick’ is
representing for bad behavior under your rule, which you can hit it.
So, base on this situation , I am suggesting some method to you to improve
the relation of your son and you. First of all, you should control your temper
and communicate well with your son. You should listen to their
problems and work together to find suitable solutions. It is better to support
and encourage teenagers . Good role models are vital for young people. You
need to show their children good behavior. If the parent behaves
badly, how can we expect the child to be obedient?
I hope that you can find my suggestions useful. Hopefully you can repair the
relationship with your son although it may take time and effort. Good luck!
Best wishes,
Chris Wong.