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Alberoni, Francesco, 2017. Friendship. Leiden: Brill. vi + 134 pp., ISBN
9789004288393, €102.00/$122.00 (e-book)
Friendships are part of the microlevel of society based on direct personal re-
lationships bound by mutual interests. These reflect freely chosen relation-
ships, more so than the loyalties, partly hereditary in origin, of family life, and
lacking the emotional intensity of romantic pairs. They are unlike somewhat
anonymous macro social structures like the nation-state, and meso, commu-
nal, social structures. According to Alberoni, groups without a purpose pro-
duce friendly interactions that tend toward the banal and mundane, unlike
true friendships where the interests remain spontaneous and authentic.
In Nicomachean Ethics, Aristotle already distinguished friendship based on
utility or pleasure as inferior to friendship based on mutual goodwill that re-
flects appreciation of common values. In such friendships people appreciate
each other for their own sake rather than for ulterior purposes. Nevertheless,
friends have different combinations of reasons (and feelings) for bonding,
which is why they are not ordinarily absolutely loyal in a familial sense, and
are lacking the passion of romantic love.
Alberoni understands friendship not as being based on exchange, but as
being an encounter that repudiates the logics of the market, the deperson-
alizing norms of modern bureaucracy, and the objectives of collectivities.
Summarizing some ideas in the book with a little elaboration, friendship is the
ethical form of love, which differs from the abstract sense of duty that is forced
by bureaucratic imposition in more anonymous social settings. Romantic love,
like the rise of a social or political movement, can initially reflect a feeling of
transfiguration, which might eventually become routinized and somewhat
banal. But true friendship knows neither a nascent state of excitement nor
solidification in institutional form. Friendship remains grounded in the real,
which is why there is no feeling of exaltation, unlike in romance.