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CHAPTER ONE
INTRODUCTION
The pastor’s wife is an important personality in the pastoral ministry. This is in line with the
notion of a wife, especially if that person is or is to be a leader. The pastor’s wife makes the
pastor’s ministry complete. A woman’s place in the life of a man is very important as the
Bible states that; “the Lord God said, it is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a
helper suitable for him” (Genesis 2:18, NIV). Thus, the pastor’s wife is a suitable helper to
the pastor. She is a valuable assistance to the pastor. It means that the pastor’s wife knows the
pastor and his goal and is available to assist the pastor achieve his set goal.
It is of note that the pastor’s wife is in the first place a believer in Christ with the knowledge
of God and strong believes in the Holy Scriptures (The Bible) she is a person of noble
character and is teachable. She is also someone who takes personal responsibility in the
training of her children in the fear of the Lord. Susanna Wesley was a pastor’s wife. She
trained her ten (10) children in the way of the Lord. She stated that; “the children of this
family were taught, as soon as they can speak, the Lord’s prayer, which they were made to
say at rising and bedtime constantly… when the Wesley children were a little older, the day
began with reading or saying a psalm, reading an Old Testament chapter, and saying private
prayers – all before breakfast. At the end of school day, they paired up to read a psalm and a
New Testament chapter (lovino, https://www.umc.org). two of the children, John and Charles
In the Church of Christ in Nations (COCIN), there are many departinents; Youth, Finance,
Women Fellowship, Church Growth, and Evangelism and Missions. The women Fellowship
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is geared towards equipping women in faith. This ministry (women fellowship) becomes an
important area in which the pastor’s wife is to function. This is in line with the fact that the
The Regional Church Council Gigiring is an obedient council to the General Church Council
(GCCN) and thus, live within the provision of the church. In line with the provision of the
church (COCIN), Regional Church Council Gigiring regards the pastor’s wife as an adviser
to the Women Fellowship. The COCIN Bye-Laws state thats: “pastor’s wives shall be
counselors and advisers to the women fellowship and other groups at she different of the
In the discharge of their functions as advisers in the women fellowships, the pastor’s wives
have faced serious challenges. One of the major challenges is that the women fellowship is
not bond by the advice the pastor’s wife give. In fact, this made the pastor’s wife an object of
ridicule as she may be obeyed. It is pathetic that at times the women leader have collusion
with the pastor’s wife based on the advice the pastor’s wife put forth.
This study becomes very necessary in the light of the challenges faced by the pastor’s wife.
The is aimed at unveiling the many challenges she faced and make necessary
recommendations among which is that the pastor’s wife should be educationally and
recommendations if considered by the church (COCIN) will make the pastor’s wife enjoy her
work as a pastor’s wife in the church especially in the Regional Church Council, Gigiring.
The problem of this study is that though the constitution of the church made a provision that
the pastor’s wife is to be a counselor and adviser to the women fellowship, It did not go to
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state constitutionally the functions of the pastor’s wife as an adviser. A mention is different
from a constitutional back-up, perhaps, this is why the voice of the pastor’s wife may be
heard by the women fellowship and thus, at times bring collusion. Interaction among the
pastor’s wives within the Gigiring Regional Church Council has proved this serious problem.
The following questions are considered very relevant to carry out this study;
1. What is the place of the pastor’s wife in Church of Christ in Nations (COCIN)?
2. What is the understanding of the pastor’s wife as an adviser in the women fellowship?
3. What are the challenges faced by the pastor’s wife as an adviser to the women
fellowship?
4. How can the problems faced by the pastor’s wife as an adviser to the women
fellowship overcome?
The main aim of this study is to show the place of the pastor’s wife as an adviser in COCIN
3. To identify the challenges faced by the pastor’s wife as an adviser to the women
This study is considered very important to the Church (COCIN) especially RCC Gigiring,
leaders and members of the women fellowship, pastors in COCIN especially RCC Gigiring,
The study concentrates and is centered on the role of the pastor’s wife as an adviser in
Women Fellowship in the Regional Church Council (RCC), Gigiring. COCIN, RCC Gigiring
has 13 LCCs. However, this study focused on five (5) LCCS, VIZ, Mado, Gold & Base,
1.7 Methodology
This research employed both qualitative and quantitative methods to collect data in respect to
subject which the researcher investigate rather than measuring the level of occurrence (Smith
and Larkin, 2009:23). Thus, “the knowledge gained through qualitative investigations is more
informative, richer and offers enhanced understandings compared to that which can be
Reynolds (2013:15), “Qualitative research also allows for new theological integrations that
Quantitative methods on the other hand, emphasize objective measurements and the
(Babbie, 1992:1), Qualitative research focuses on gathering numerical data and generalizing
The main goal in conducting qualitative research study is to determine the relationship
between one thing (an independent variable) and another (a dependable or outcome variable)
These two fit perfectly into this research and informed the researcher’s choice and
Church of Christ in Nations (COCIN) to share things together in respect to spiritual, physical,
COCIN:- This is a church denomination which full meaning is Church of Christ in Nations
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Gigiring:- This is the location of the Regional Church Council in this study.
CHAPTER TWO
LITERATURE REVIEW
A wiferefers to a woman who is married to a man. Thus, a woman becomes awife through a
process of marriage. Marriage is a heart bound issue. The husbandis to be intensely and
because they complement and completeeach other in life. From creation the woman was the
glory of man. She was createdfrom him and for him, (Kore; 2002:9). Thus, marriage is
between a woman andman (male and female) not homosexual man and man, and not
lesbianismwoman to woman.
A pastor wife is a woman who is married to a pastor. The term "Pastor's wife" or"minster's
wife" refers to a woman who is the wife of a pastor. She is first and foremost a woman
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married to a pastor, and raising a family with her husband who is a pastor. Some pastors"
wives may be young in age and in marriage, while someare older and have been married for a
short time or over thirty to fifty years andstill serving in the ministry (Paiya; 2019:1). A
Pastor's wife is a woman married toa man called by God into the ministry of the gospel and
It is very important to note that a pastor's wife is a person, very human likeeveryone else. She
is a Christian, one who has received Jesus as her Lord andSaviour and walk with Christ
alongside her husband. In the home front she is theassistant pastor, in the church she is the
mother of the church, especially thewomen, (Dashan; 2014:3). He further stated that; "Being
born again is seen in herbehavior, words and lifestyle. She is industrious and is not a church
parasite butone who works with her own hands. She is creative and possesses the qualities
ofthe proverbial woman: Her husband trusts her. He is respected because of her" (3).
Lami Gotom made it simpler to understand who a pastor wife is as she assertedthat;
husband. She is his friend and she is the onethe Lord has culled
to work in his vineyard with the pastor. The wife of the pastoris a
co-worker with the pastor in the vineyard of the Lord, she is the
consultant and adviser. She isa woman who loves the Lord and is
(Gotom, 2009:88).
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It is important to note that a pastor's wife is onewith the pastor. Even though shemight not
have heard the voice to be in the ministry. her acceptance to be with thepastor as her husband
means she is in the ministry with him. It implies that theyagreed to be together in all things;
"Do two walk together unless they have agreedto do so" (Amos 3:3, NIV). The woman who
marries a clergy man should have adefinitive call, or inner urge by which she knows that she
is a help mate in theservice with the minister (pastor). Her inner desire through the years to be
apastor's wife now becomes a strong call that nothing could shake, (Harrison:1964:214).
The position is clear, a pastor's wife may not be the arrowhead but she assists.Every pastor's
wife may not be called to stand on the pulpit or take leadershipposition, but every pastor's
wife is called to stand with her husband. They may notdo the same work but as a fitting
helper, a suitable companion, she shares thepastoral burden, problems, suffering, stress,
ministry as well ashonour, respect and care befitting the reward of pastoral ministry together
The effectiveness and efficiency of the pastoral ministry entails the couple (pastorand his
wife) walking and working together. The pastor and his wife need eachother in the ministry
as much as they need each other at home. They can do manythings together depending on
their gifting, such as preaching, administrationoverseeing the church and leading worship.
She in particular can minister toWomen and coordinate children's programme. Pastors and
Pastors wives are ordinary women like any other women we might know or come across but
who majorly and primarily find their identity in their local congregation. They are daughters
The following are some of the definition of a pastor’s wife as put forth by Helen Oyekanmi;
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i. Pastors’ wives are women filled with unspeakable pain, at times they are lovely
ii. Pastor’s wives are women who usually isolated themselves from outside world
because of the fear of pollution and what people will say about them.
iii. Pastors’ wives are set of women who cannot take decision of their own God on
their families or themselves without consideration for their husband status, his
work, and they church. The struggle about what the members will say, so they are
tensed in decision making. Only their husbands can help them. Most pastors wives
did not ever prepared to be pastors wives. They just simply married a husband by
his first name Ishaya, Gideon, James, Luka, not with the title ‘pastor’. Yet in the
ministry contexts, there are implicit expectations placed on each pastor’s wife.She
iv. Pastors’ wives are the major carriers of trials and temptation facing their
husbands.
v. Hurts of various kinds from church members insult when things are not going on
well or the pastors seem not to meet their expectations. Maintenance of high moral
vi. Pastors’ wives sustain themselves as channels of blessings to their families and
church members.
viii. Experiencing emotional trauma when financial status is little or nothing to write
home about.
ix. They must take care of their husbands, children, extended family and church
members.
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xii. Each one of the pastors wives must be 24/7 hours available for her husband and
the church using her potentials, gifting and interest to meet varied needs.
xiii. They depend on the benevolent of the members and must always be appreciative
xiv. Other include, no personal friends, enduring crisis situations without saying
anything, train their children to be model, endure emotional stress, sickness and
sometimes depression. They are vulnerable to all kinds of negativity and offences.
So they cannot make friends or be friends to anyone in and outside the church
(Mckeover, 2017:1).
The pastor's wife is someone in agreement with the pastor. You may have beenmarried before
your husband joined the ordained ministry. If that is the case, thenthere is no doubt that as
you as the wife consented to the call and if you did, then itwas a unanimous decision and as
such a co-operate responsibility. However, youmay have married your husband after he has
been ordained. In this case, acceptinghim as a husband means you also have given consent to
the duties assigned to himby God. Whichever is the case, it is most important to realize that
God has calledyou not only as a pastor's wife but also as his own child with specific
thenoble task of reconciling men and women to God. As the pastor shepherds God'speople,
The pastor's wife as the pastor is expected to have some characteristics featuresthat make her
unique amongst other women. Many scholars have given thecharacteristics of a pastor's wife
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which are not quite different from those of thepastor. Iwuagu (2001), Gotom (2009) and
many other scholars agreed that thefollowing are some of the characteristics of a pastor's
wife:
1. Love: The pastor's wife should love the Lord her God with all her heartembrace her
2. Humility and loyalty: The pastor's wife should be humble and loyal toChrist, her husband
and the church. Such qualities are a pastor's wifecommands respect from the husband, church
members and the society.When a wife loves and humble, God can make available to her
3. Faithful, Truthful and Honest: The wife of the pastor is expected to be areliable woman
who can be trusted by her husband, church members andthe society. It is indeed disastrous if
the wife of the pastor is unfaithful,dishonest and cannot speak the truth.
4. Peaceful and sober: Peace is another vital quality of the pastor's wife. Sheis expected not to
be quarrelsome or pugnacious the pastor's wife needs tobe sober in word and action.
5. Role Model: The pastor's wife is supposed to be an example: "A wife ofnoble character
who can find? She is worth for more than rubies. Herhusband lies full confidence in her and
lacks nothing of value. She bringshim good, not harm all the days of her life" (Proverbs
31:10-12, NIV).
6. Modest: A pastor's wife should also be modest in dressing and in her otherdemands. She is
supposed to show contentment in what her husband bringsand from the support by the
church.
7. The pastor's wife is expected to manifest the qualities of a pastor as earlierdiscussed in this
study.
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Many scholars have written about the roles of the pastor's wife from differentperspectives.
However, this considered the roles of the pastor's wife from theangle of Gotom (2009) and
Kechalla (2019). Thus, the roles of the pastor's wifeare looked into as; Her roles in her
husband, her roles to the church and her rolesto the society.
The responsibilities of the pastor's wife to her husband are very enormous. One isthat as the
pastor goes about ministering and attending to people, he too needssomeone to minister to
him. He may claim righteousness and spiritualitysignifying he is close to God, however, the
fact remains that he is flesh and blood.Thus, he needs someone he can be accountable to, and
It is natural that there are times the pastor will become discourage (like Job whomthe wife
said that he should abuse God and die) and contemplate suicide at worseand at least
resignation. It is at this periods of intense pressure that his wife'sministry becomes effective it
is at this point that she demonstrates that she is apastor's pastor. "there is no one who can fit
the shoes of the pastor's wife whenthe pastor's moral has gone down. It is through her
ministry to the pastor that shecan restore him to himself" (Gotom: 94). A pastor's wife is
expected to take careof the pastor physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
To her Children
The pastor's wife is to take proper care of her children physical (food, health,education,
Angelena passed on a love of music, a legacy ofhigher education a sense of self-worth, and a
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bold religious faith to her daughter, who would one day serve as National Security Advisor to
President George W.Bush" (- 2005: 14), Sussanah Wesley taught her children. John and
Charles thepower of prayer, "the daughter and wife of strong Christian ministers, Albertce
encouraged Martin Luther King Jr’s strength of purpose in fighting racialinequality" (41);
Sonya Carson's belief that for son Ben need to aspire to higheracademic goals, she lifted him
out of the ghetto and into the medical field, Wherehe became a world-renowned pediatric
To the Church
The pastor's wife who is part and parcel of the pastor, function in many areas inthe church.
The pastor's wife can help make pastoral calls. The pastor's wife maynot accompany her
husband on all routine pastoral calls but there are certainoccasion that her presence is helpful
and necessary. These include visiting a newfamily in the church or when a pastor needs to
become acquainted with the womenand young people of the family or most importantly when
he calls on singlewomen or women who may have questionable motives in asking for him to
call.This serves to protect the pastor's reputation and keep the work of the ministryabove
It is most likely that the pastor's wife function among the women, girls andchildren in the
church. She is a teacher, leader, counselor, and adviser in thechurch especially within the
women.
To the Society.
Gotom (112) outlined the following as the pastor's wife responsibilities to thecommunity;
i. Spiritual Leader: The pastor's wife is looked upon as a spiritual leader.She is expected to
perform spiritual roles in the community. Forexample, if there is death in the community, it is
expected that she willgive words of comfort and encouragement from the word of God
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andalso pray with the bereaved - she is seen as a representative of God inthe community just
ii. In Visitation: It is expected that the pastor's wife move from house tohouse visiting the
CHAPTER THREE
The COCIN women fellowship has on originating point. In an interview with Rev. Seth
Ndem (The former General Secretary of COCIN), the COCIN women fellowing stated in
1932 at Kabwir. However, the general believed stands that the fellowship stated in 1942
under the leadership of Miss Bissie Barnie a foreign missionary under the Sundan United
Mission (S.U.M) (Francis 2018:11). Yossi Maton aptly captunely this as she stated that; “the
founder of COCIN Women Fellowship cannot be clearly established, but Miss Bissie Barnie
is often fondly associated strongly with it’s establishment and growth”…” (2005:12)
important point to note is that the Women Fellowship in COCIN came into existence through
From the above, it is very clear that there is paucity of materials as to when the women
It is however, very important to point out that there are other sources that stated that the
(TEKAN). Maton (12) captured it thus, “ from wider perspective, the commencement of
(TEKAN) and Sudan United Mission (SUM): This position collaborated by the higher bearer
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as cited by Maton (23) which stated that, “after 25 th February Conference, a special meeting
was organized for all native Christian women which gave birth to both TEKAN as well as
This research was able to look at the position of the pastor’s wife in COCIN before looking at
This is pertinent to state that COCIN as a denominational has no place for the pastor’s wife.
Infact, she is not recognized by the church because neither the constitution or Bye-laws of the
church has anything to do with. It is only the By-laws that states that, “Pastor’s wives shall be
counselors and advisers to the women fellowship and other groups at the different levels and
From the foregoing, the position of the pastor’s wife in the church is a good as non-existent.
Rev. William Ishifanus John (The Chairman, Regional Church Council, Gigiring). In an oral
interview states that: “The position is a weak position with no profound portfolio. Her advice
This work gathered that the pastor’s wife is as important as the husband in the ministry of the
church. According to Esther Gokum (Assistant Women Leader, RCC Giginring), Mafeng
Yahnan, Palang Chuwang, Paulina Nyako (pastor’s wives in Giginring RCC), “the pastor’s
wife is a supporter to her husband.” Nanchi Japhalt, Vwi (Assistant Secretary COCIN
Women Fellowship RCC Gigiring) stated that: the pastor’s wife is to assist her husband.”
Other voices on the place of the pastor’s wife include; Rev. Pau Ganamu Mangkan, “A
pastor’s wifr is a co-worker and equally a pastor”, Rev. Dr. Stephen Hosea Vongdip (COCIN
Director of Personal), “A pastor’s wife is a pastor of her husband and colleague in the
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ministgry,” Mrs Lami Dakop (CWF Leader Gold and Baze), a pastor’s wife is a mummy to
everyone in the church,” Mrs. Deborah Malizo (Wife to COCIN General Secretary), “A
pastor’s wife is called together with her husband to serve God. She is a mother to the
church,” Rev. Seth Usman ndem (Former COCIN General Secretary), “he is an assistant to
her husband. Shepherd the flock with her husband,” Rev. Bulus Dung Tsok (COCIN
Director, Church Growth), “She is called to serve, married to a man that together they can
The above collections show that there is a missing gap in the constitution and Bye-laws of
COCIN that need to be filled. This is because the pastor’s wife is an indispensable and
integral part of the pastoral ministry. Some pastors wives lectured some pastors and some are
still lecturing in various seminaries especially Gindiri Theological Seminary. To ignore the
place of the pastor’s wife in the church could be a suicide mission. If the pastor’s wife is not
recognized and honoured by the instruments of the church, then, the pastor’s wife could be
The pastor’s wife in Church of Christ in Nations is considered as an adviser to the women
fellowship. The position of the pastor’s wife as an adviser to the women fellowship in
COCIN is what Mrs. Esther Gokum in an oral interview referred to as “Giring suggestion and
advice without authority.” Mrs. Plang Chuwang made this clearer by staking that, “Her role
as adviser is passive as her advice may be taken.” She could be understood that she is
considered an advicer but her advice is not in any binding on the women fellowship.
In another dimension, Vwi stated that the pastor’s wife as an adviser means “she is to guide
the activities of the COCIN women fellowship and advice where necessary.” In her words,
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Mrs. Deborah Malizo stated that “she pastor’s wife is an adviser and not to complete with the
CWF leader. She is to help them know the Lord, encourage them and groom the young ones.”
Another respondent made the very explicit by stating that; “the pastor’s wife as an adviser is
second in command to the CWF leader. She has no authority but to advice and her advice
may be considered.” In a contrary opinion, Rev. Bulus Dung Tsok stated that, “pastor’s wife
as adviser to the CWF as leader to the CWF.” Leader. She has no authority but to advice and
her advice may be considered.” In a contrary opinion, Rev. Bulus Dung Tsok stated that,
Rev. Stephen Hosea Vonydip in view ses the pastor’s wife as an adviser to mean “she is a
tutor in the CWF and there should be any gap between her and the CWF leader as she is
pastor the group”. In the same way, Rev. Paul Ganamu Mangkam state explicitly that, “I do
not accept that she is an adviser to the CWF. Let her be the head of the CWF at all levels.”
Mrs. Lami Dakop in a controversial way stated that, “She is better on the women side like a
leader though not all advice given by her may be taken by the CWF.”
She is important to note that the place of the pastor’s wife as an adviser to the CWF as
captured the Bye-laws is vagueand hence, subject or various interpretations. Rev. William
Istifanus John stated that, “ She is an adviser and thus inferior to the CWF leader. The church
considered her a common denominator who is not working side by side with her husband as
her roles are not enshrined in the constitution of the church.” It is for this cause that Dashan
administer? The answer is simply “No”. What is the meaning of advising? It just means
consultant, counselor, and advice giver. This advice giving may or may not be taken or
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rejected or kept in view (KIV). That does not mean disrespect. It just do not feel they can use
Unanimous in stating the following as some of the challenges faced by the pastor’s wives as
1. Her role is not clearly defined in the COCIN constitution and CWF handbook
8. The CWF leadership felt they are elected and can do without the pastor’s wife
The pastor's wife is confronted with many problems in functioning as a pastor'swife. The
following are some of the major challenges faced by the Pastor's wife:
i. Gender Bias
It is a reality that women in general terms are considered as second classcitizen and thus,
inferior. Across the world, women are treated unequallyand less value is placed on their lives
marketcommunity, church, and state, (Reeves and Baden, 2000:7). It is anundeniable fact that
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women play certain irreplaceable roles in society, butquite often there unique roles are not
The conception of women in the Christian religion seems oppression.Prior to the nineteenth
people thought that only men werephysically qualified to engage in such pioneering task.
Some conservativereligious men even believe that it was forbidden for women to engage
inmission; thus, the prejudice about women had been with the church sincetime immemorial,
Women do, of course, have a part to play in many religious (not peculiarto Christianity), but
it is almost always subordinate to the role of man..the major world religious have been if
anything even more maledominated. The way in which women are treated within their
religioustraditions has to be seen in the wider context of the almost universal phenomenon of
There are some erroneous teachings based on traditions that have beenimported into the
church. Christian writers from Paul onwards used thisstory in two ways. First, it showed that
women are subordinate to mebecause they, are created alter men and from men and for men.
There is anatural hierarchy, to be male is the norm, the female half of the humanrace is other
and subordinate. The second way is which Christian writerscame to use this version of the
creation myth was to emphasize thefundamental wickedness of women. They are responsible
for leading menastray; if the woman had not tempted the man, he would not have
sinned(Drury, 1994:34).
The discrimination against women in the church and society in Nigeria isvery clear. Gender
is the twenty-first centuryyet tradition, culture, religion, and other factors have continued to
widenthe disparity between a man and woman by keeping women in asubordinate position to
men. The larger society and the male sub-culturesstill see women and their aspirations as
It is important to note that the Church aligned with the patriarch naturewomen are inferior,
second class citizen, subordinated and oppressed. Thechurch is all a man's domain and the
woman really do not have much to31say. They do a lot of work, they cook for picnics and
socials, and theyraise the most money... but when you get to policy, the men have it alltied
The funny part of this gender imbalance in the church especially inNigeria is that women are
alınost more in number in all churches,sacrificial and yet not good enough to be
number, influence and commitment but mainly as worshippers while leadershiphas largely
Women are considered good for nothing. In fact, they are looked upon aspeople of no
valuable. The historical impression made of women in manyAfrican Novels, and especially in
male-authored texts, is that they are apeople completely devoid of logical thinking - a people
considered tohave a heart and some degree of beauty but to be totally benefit of soundbrains,
(Azuike, 2015:7).
All religious consider women as unequal and secondary beings to men. Itcan also be said that
Defenders of their respectivereligious most often quote the liberative elements in defence and
excusethe oppressive elements, stating that one must see it in the light of thattime, and
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attempt to hide behind a façade of being spiritual. Others, thereare many who quote the
women in society, therebystamping it with a spiritual favour, obtaining the approval of the
From the foregoing, patriarchy as practice in the church is a big challengeto the pastor's wife.
i. Salary
In most of the churches, the pastor's wife is a full time wife. She is not onsalary or any form
church. Sometimes there areaccusations that the pastor's wife does not welcome and treat
guests whocome to the pastor's house well. Sometimes the elders of the churchrestricts the
pastor's wife from advising the church and say it is herhusband they employed and not her
and so pastor's wives are sometimesstopped from full participation in the church work.
(Gotom, I19-120).
In most of the churches, the pastor's wife is not on salary, hence, she hasno job description,
and church leaders have no defined role for in thechurch officially for her (Gotom, 118).
According to Ajayi and Dorcas (20l6:11-12), the following are some of thechallenges of a
i. She is expected to be more mature spiritually than the average women in the
church, that is why no matter her age, she is still called “our mother” – Mamanmu.
ii. She may tend to feel inferior and inadequate to stand before the literate and highly
iii. Another challenge may also be how to manage the meager resources available to
the family.
iv. Loneliness because her husband is always preoccupied with members needs for
attention
v. Discouragement may sometimes come about if expected reward for labour in the
vi. The temptation to disrespect her seniors in the ministry either because of her age,
As earlier in this study, the pastor’s wife is a co-worker and partner with her husband in the
ministry to the church. For the pastor’s wife to perform in her duties effectively and
efficiently, the following are considered necessary steps to be taken by the church.
This is an important step taken by the church in the constitution that the pastor’s wife
is to be a “counselor and adviser” to the women fellowship and other groups. She is
also very good that in the policy statement of the church a pastor without a wife
the consent of the wife. However, the functions and roles of the pastor’s wife as an
adviser to the women fellowship are not stated. This study considers the constitutional
identification of the roles of the pastor’s wife as an adviser to the women fellowship
expedient.
God created man and women to exist as male and female, and husband and wife(Genesis
1:26-27). This means, the man and woman are made equal though withdifferent roles and
The woman was made of rib out of the side of Adam, not made
out of his head torule over him, not made of his feet to be
trampled upon by him, but out of his sideto be equal with him,
loved(Henry; 2014:8).
The book of Genesis s put it very clear that man and woman are to complementeach other;
thus; "The Lord God said it is not good for the man to be alone. I willmake a helper suitable
Because men and women are equal (by creation and in Christ),
they have been created by God with equal dignity, men and
1984:243).
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To show that God created man and woman to be equal, Horton (2006: 162) statesthat;
Human beings were created by God as male and female (Genesis 1:27). Meaningthat what is
said generally of humanity must be said of both he male and thefemale, and that the truest
picture of what it means to be human is to be found inthe context of man and woman
together. The commands to multiply and exercisesovereignty over the earth were given to
It is then necessary for the Church to break gender walls in the church to enablethe pastor's
wife to perform just as the popular saying has it that, "what a man cando, a woman can do
even better."
The pastor's wife should be a person who is always studying. The Bible statesthat, "study to
shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to beashamed, rightly dividing
the word of truth" (2 Timothy 2:15, KJV). A pastor'swife should not feel too old to learn.
Aquila and Priscilla as earlier seen in this study were tent makers and so promotedthe
preaching of the gospel. A pastor's wife should not depend on the stipendsfrom the church
A wife of noble character who can find, she is worth more than rubies. Herhusband has full
confidence in her and lacks nothing of value she brings him good.not harm all the days of his
life she selects wool and flax and works with eagerhands. She is like the merchant ships,
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bringing her food from a far ... she watchesthe affair at her household and does not eat the
bread of idleness. Her childrenarise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises
her ... Give her thereward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
Helen Oyekanmi (108-109) stated the following as means through which the pastor’s wife
3. She must draw strength and inspiration from God who richly provide them with
4. She must get necessary encouragement and specific support to be excellent wife to
her husband and family by being in intimate relationship with her husband,
5. She must be very hard working and contribute to the on-going project of the
church. Hand work will also protect her integrity and help her to appear neat and
attractive,
6. She must be prayerful to the extent that she becomes regular attendant at the
7. She should make use of her time by learning something new; such as soap
8. She should understand her gifts and use them to move the church forward.
CHAPTER FOUR
CHAPTER FIVE
5.1 Summary
This research is centered on the Role of the Pastor’s wife as an Adviser in the COCIN
women Fellowship in the Regional Church Council (RCC), Gigiring. The scope was restrict
to five (5) local government councils within the larger scope of RCC Gigiring. Chapter one
dealt with the various aspects to set the research on foot; the background of the study,
statement of the problem, research questions, aims and objectives of the study, significance of
the study, methodology, and definition of operational terms. Chapter two was committed to
literature review, chapter three centered on the place of the pastor’s wife in COCIN and her
role as adviser to the CWF, chapter four was on Data presentation and Analysis, while
5.2 Conclusion
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The pastor’s wife is an integral part of the pastoral ministry. However, this stay unveiled that
COCIN has subjected the pastor’s wife to be an adviser to the CWF and other groups in the
church. This is quite laudable but the gap so discovered is that that constitution of the church
does not have a backing for her as her roles as adviser are not constitutional defined.
The Bye-laws just mentioned that the pastor’s wife to be an advisers to the CWF but it is as a
toothless bull-dog, that is, she has no authority to function as an adviser. She is most pitied as
the advice she gives is subject to the scrutiny of the leadership of the CWF. Thus, her advice
may be considered.
This research revealed that there have been serious collusions between the pastor’s wives and
the leaders of the CWF. The leaders of the CWF considered themselves as superior to the
pastor’s wives as they are elected by their members while the later one were advisers. Thus, it
is a necessity to ensure that all hands are put on deck to see that CWF function smoothly and
achieve her aims, goals and objectives by placing round pegs in round holes.
5.3 Recommendations
In view of the findings in chapter four of this work, the following recommendations have
become necessary;
1. The church, that is COCIN, should make a review of the constitution and clearly spelt
out what the roles the pastor’s wife is expected to achieve as an adviser to the CWF.
2. The pastor’s wife is part and parcel of the pastoral ministry and to look down on her is
not good enough. Her roles as a pastor’s wife need to be explicitly defined. If this is
done, the pastor’s wife be able to function well using her areas of gifting.
3. The church should come out with a chain of command for the subgroups and
especially the CWF in such a way that the pastor’s input should not be considered as
thrash.
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4. The church should also help the pastor’s wife to move with dynamic nature of the
society especially in terms of educational improvement. The pastor’s wife should
have a minimum educational standard set by the church. The church can offer
scholarship to the pastor’s wives to achieve this so that others should not see the
pastor’s wife as less educated.
5. Another very vital suggestion is that the church should considered pastor’s wives to
be gainful employment so that others should not see that as “parasites”. They should
be given jobs perhaps with the church to ensure they are on salaries, especially now
that money is a parameter for livelihood and the harsh economic reality of the society.
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I will be grateful if you can give me an appointment to interact with you at your convenient.
Yours faithfully,
1. What is the place of the Pastor’s Wife in the church of Christ in nation (COCIN)?
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Fellowship?
3. What are the challenges faced by the Pastor’s Wife as an adviser to the Women
Fellowship?
4. How can the Problem faced by the Pastor’s Wife as an adviser to the women
Fellowship be overcome.
W
1. Mrs. Esther Gokum Assistant women F Jos 01/08/2020
leader, RCC
Gigiring
2. Mrs. Matheg Pastor’s wife F Jos 31/07/2020
Yahnan
3. Mrs. Plong Pastor’s wife F Jos 31/07/2020
Chuwang
4. Mrs. Vwi Assistant Secretary F Jos 31/07/2020
CWF RCC Gigiring
5. Rev. William RCC Chairman RCC F Jos 06/08/2020
Istifanus John Gigiring
6. Mrs. Paulina Nyako Pastor’s wife F Jos 06/08/2020
7. Mrs. Nandi Japhath Member CWF RCC F Jos 06/08/2020
Gigiring
8. Mrs. Mili Yakubu Member CWF RCC F Jos 06/08/2020
Gigiring
9. Rev. Seth Usman Former COCIN M Jos 14/08/2020
Nden General Secretary
10. Rev. Bulus Dung COCIN Director of M Jos 14/08/2020
Tsok Evangelism and
church Growth
11. Rev. Paul Ganamu Former COCIN M Jos 14/08/2020
Mankan Director of
Evangelism and
Church Growth
12. Mrs. Lami Dakap CWF Leader Godl & F Jos 14/08/2020
Baze
13. Mrs. Deborah COCIN General F Jos 20/08/2020
Molizo Secretary’s