Quarter 2 Module 9 - PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

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Personal
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Quarter 2 – Module 9:
Personal Relationships
Personal Development – Grade 12
Quarter 2 – Module 9: Personal Relationships
First Edition, 2020
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Quarter 2 – Module 9:
Introductory Message
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CONTENT : Personal Relationships
CONTENT STANDARD : The learners demonstrate an

understanding of the dynamics of attraction, love, and commitment.
PERFORMANCE STANDARD : The learners shall be able to appraise one’s

present relationships and make plans for building responsible future
relationships.
MOST ESSENTIAL LEARNING COMPETENCY: Discuss an understanding

of teen-age relationships, including the acceptable and unacceptable
expressions of attractions.
DURATION TO K-12 : Week 9
CG CODE : EsP-PD11/12PR-IIa-9.1
Let Us Learn!
OBJECTIVES: At the end of the module, you will be able to:
1. Discuss an understanding of teen-age relationships, including the

acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions.
(ESP-PD11/12PR-Iii-9.1)
2. Express your ways of showing attraction, love and commitment;
(ESP-PD11/12PR-Iii-9.2) and
3. Identify ways to become responsible in a relationship.
((ESP-PD11/12PR-Iii-9.3)
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Let Us Try!
PRE-TEST
MULTIPLE CHOICE:
Directions: Read each question carefully. Select the LETTER of the best
answer. Use a separate sheet for your answers.
1. Which of these refers to the close connections between people, formed by

emotional bonds and interactions?
A. Personal Development C. Personal Relationship
B. Intimacy D. Commitment
2. Which of the following is appropriate to do in expressing your attraction to
your significant other?
A. Kissing C. Intimate Activities
B. Smiling at each other D. Invading personal space
3. Which of the following influence the person to get attracted to people who
are geographically closer to them?
A. Physical Attractiveness C. Proximity
B. Similarity D. Reciprocity
4. Which of the following influences the person to get attracted to others who
like them back?
5. It is an act deciding to consistently fulfil and live by agreements made with
another person, entity, or cause, and where the values of integrity and
respect serve as a guide to one’s behavior and thinking. This is ___.
A. Passion C. Attraction
B. Commitment D. Attachment
6. It is described as the love-struck phase which is part of lust because it
involves focusing our attention to a particular person or desire. This is __.
7. According to Robert Stenberg, it is the type of love that is characterized by
intimate, non-passionate type of love with long term commitment.
A. Consummate C. Companionate
B. Romantic D. Fatuous
8. According to Robert Stenberg, it is the type of love that is ideal and
complete form of love with intimacy, passion and commitment.
9. Which of the following is a type of love named after ancient Greeks that is
considered as the selfless or unconditional love?
A. Philia C. Storge
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B. Agape D. Philautia
10. Which of the following is a type of love named after ancient Greeks that
is considered having a healthy “self-compassion” love towards one’s self?
A. Philia C. Storge
Let Us Study
ACTIVITY 1
Direction: Look at the pictures in the first column of the table. Put a (✓) if
the picture shows acceptable expressions of attractions and (x) if
unacceptable expressions of attractions as your response. Write your answers
in a separate sheet of paper.
PICTURE ANALYSIS
Pictures Response
(Source:
https://www.pexels.com/photo/pho
to-of-man-and-woman-holding-
hands-374033/)
(Source:
https://www.pexels.com/photo/kid
s-making-diy-easter-eggs-3971476/)
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(Source:
https://www.pexels.com/photo/roa
d-couple-girl-walk-36367/)
(Source:
https://www.pexels.com/photo/cal
m-woman-with-son-and-daughter-in-
face-masks-4472977/)
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Lesson
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Many years ago, people were already interacting with each other
through smiling, communicating, facial expressions and even having a sign
language if they don’t have the same language spoken. These were all
important especially if we belong to a group of people living in a community.
PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP
This refers to the association and close connections between people,

formed by emotional bonds and interactions. These bonds often grow from
and are formed by mutual experiences. Teenagers commonly have
relationships with their family, friends and significant other. The changes in
a teen’s physical and cognitive development come with big changes in their
relationship with family and friends. In adolescence stage, a new
understanding of one’s self occurs. This may include independence, identity
and self-esteem.
FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS
Family is defined as “two or more persons who are related by birth,

marriage, or adoption, and who live together as one household.” It includes
siblings and parents who may with you as you grow up, and relatives such as
grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins who you may not see frequently.
Family bond plays a vital role in person’s well-being since it may form
other kinds of relationships such as friendships and romantic relationships.
Having strong family relationships is ideal although it doesn’t happen
always. There should be love and closeness. Parents and older relatives’ role
is to guide discipline and support you when needed. Arguments,
disagreements, moments of anger and hurt are normal in a family since you
spend so much time together, and these are short-lived for families still love
and care about each other. There is an increase of arguments and conflicts
with parents when teenagers assert their independence and find their identity
as adult. These shall pass after teenage years.
In some families, there is little physical contact whereas in others, it is

common for family members to express affection by means such as hugging,
kissing on the cheek or forehead, patting the head or tousling the hair, patting
on the back etc. It is common for babies and younger children to be carried
or held.
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FRIENDSHIPS
Friends are the people who we are not related to but who we choose to
interact with. They are the people who we trust, respect, care about and feel
that we can confide in and want to spend time with. A friendship is a
reciprocal relationship. Both people must see each other as a friend for it to
exist.
There are different degrees of friendship. You may find that you feel
closer to some friends than others. This is perfectly normal. Some friends,
especially if they have only been known for a short time or are not seen very
often, may not be appropriate to confide in about personal issues or concerns.
You may find that you feel more comfortable and able to confide in friends
whom you have known for longer or spend more time with.
Furthermore, friends who are very close and know each other well are
referred to as “best friends or close friends”. Some people have many friends,
while others may only have one or two. There is no right or wrong number of
friends to have and everyone is different. Good friendships are mutually
respectful, supportive and share common interests and ideas. It should be
built on honesty, support and loyalty.
Some friendships can be close while some friends choose to greet each
other by hugging or kissing on the cheek, other friendships may have no
physical contact, or may simply shake hands. Romantic contact or Being
intimate physically is not appropriate in a friendship.
ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS
A romantic relationship is when you feel very strongly attracted to the

other person, both to their personality and, often, also physically and should
be reciprocated by the other person in the relationship. A romantic
relationship exists between a boyfriend and girlfriend (in a heterosexual
relationship) or a boyfriend and boyfriend or girlfriend and girlfriend (in a
homosexual relationship) or spouses (in a marriage) or life partners (in a civil
partnership or long-term unmarried relationship). People in a romantic
relationship often see each other and when apart will find ways to contact
each other by phone and the like. A romantic relationship is the closest form
of relationship in which, the two people who are involved will often describe
themselves as being attracted to each other and/or “in love”. They feel a strong
connection and bond to each other that they do not feel with anyone else, even
close friends. The bond is also exclusive and monogamous.
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Arguments and disagreements occur in romantic relationships
sometimes. These arguments can be overcome through effective
communication, understanding and compromise. In other cases, if there are
frequent arguments, the two people involved may decide to end the
relationship. Relationships can be of varying duration. Some relationships
quickly become apparent that the two people involved are not compatible and
do not want to spend their lives together, and so the relationship may end
after only a few months. In other cases, both may be together for many years
or may stay together for the rest of their lives.
Successful romantic relationships are built on love, trust, respect,

support, acceptance, shared interests and a desire for the two people involved
to share their lives together and end with marriage. For teenagers, various
kinds of physical contact are not appropriate. These include prolonged
cuddling and holding, kissing on the lips and sexual intercourse. Pre- marital
sex is unacceptable.
(Source: Labiscase, Shielamar L. 2020, Personal Development Quarter 2

Module 7, Division of Cagayan de Oro City, Fr. William F. Masterson Ave
Upper Balulang Cagayan de Oro pages 2 and 3)
QUESTIONS TO ANSWER
Directions: Read and answer each question. Before answering some of the
questions, you may go back and read the lesson about Personal Relationships
Use a separate sheet in answering the questions.
1. As a matured individual, why should we understand teen-age relationships

including the acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions?
2. How will you deal some unacceptable expressions of attractions in daily

living particularly this time of pandemic?
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Let Us Practice
Activity 2
MY FAMILY’S SONG
Directions: In a minute of silence, create a short song with a lyric on how

you describe your family. You may include different kinds of family situations
like trials and problems, happiness, sorrow and even how you deal the current
situation that we are facing right now in times of pandemic. Make it sure that
the title of the song is captivating. Then, write it in a long bond paper.
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Let Us Practice More
Activity 3
Directions: In the concept map below, recall your past teen-age

relationships. List down all the acceptable and unacceptable expressions of
attractions that you will never see in young teen-age of today.
MY TEEN-AGE MEMORIES
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Lesson
Attraction, Love and
2 Commitment
When you are attracted to someone else, you may always think of his
or her physical features. In fact, most young teenagers nowadays are looking
for their future partners based on physical aspects such as tall, dark and
handsome for the male and white skin complexion, long and shiny hair and
pointed nose for the female. These are the qualities whose most teenagers are
looking and searching throughout their lifetime. However, Love is more
complex feelings which sometimes you could never understand. There are
different kinds of love; love for oneself, love for God, love for someone
regardless of gender and sex. But the main point is, Love should be respected.
On the other hand, commitment is another level of person’s life. This is

the time in which you have decided to settle down and look for your own
partner for the rest of your lives. Many factors that you have to consider such
as the preparation. This is very practical since you need to consider your
income and occupation if you can already create and build a new home away
from your parents.
According to Helen Fisher, attraction is primarily on physiology or

certain hormones that get attracted to others and is the first stage during the
changes of personality development which leads to closeness, love and
commitment. But, disappointments in relationships occur usually because of
the misunderstanding about the different ways of expressing their attraction,
love and commitment. Thus, let us explore how we can express our attraction,
love and commitment to others.

Upper Balulang Cagayan de Oro page 5)
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Let Us Study
ACTIVITY 4
THE PEOPLE I AM ATTRACTED TO
Directions: Write down the name of the person/s that best fit for each
statement on the second column and on the third column, elaborate/specify
the reason/s of your attraction similar to the statement given. You can answer
as many as you can.
Example: I am physically attracted to (name of the person) because she has

lovely eyes and beautiful smile.
Statement Name of Reasons

Person/s
1. I like him/her because he/she is
physically attractive.
2. I am attracted to him/her because I
am familiar with him/her and we often
see each other.
3. I am attracted to him/her because we
are alike.
4. I am attracted to him/her because we
have the same feelings or we like each
other.

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Let Us Practice
Activity 5
Directions: Each item is a hypothetical situation that reveals

psychological aspects of you. However, the results are not necessarily true.
When answering a question, do not dwell too much on the item and simply
write your answer that comes in your mind first.
LOVE TEST
Hypothetical Situation Answer

1. You are walking to your boyfriend's or girlfriend's house.
There are two roads to get there. A straight path that you o Short
will arrive quickly but is very plain and boring. The other o Long
is longer but full of wonderful and interesting sights.
Which path will you choose?
2. On the way, there are two rose bushes which is full of
red roses and the other is full of white. You pick 20 roses
for your loved one. What color combination will you choose?
(Any combination including all one color is fine.
3. You finally get to your boyfriend's or girlfriend's house. o Do it
A family member answers the door. You can ask them to yourself
please get your boyfriend/girlfriend or you can go yourself. o Ask a family
Which do you do? member
4. You go up to your girlfriend's or boyfriend's room, but o Window sill
nobody is there. You can leave the rose. Where will you o Bed
out the roses?
5. Later, it's time for bed. Both of you sleep in separate o Awake
rooms. In the morning, when it is time for both of you to o Asleep
get up, you go into his or her room and check up on them.
When you arrive, is he or she awake or asleep?
6. Now it is time for you to go back home. Do you take the o Short
short but plain and boring road or the longer, sight filled o Long
road?

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Let Us Study
In the biological model of love as proposed by anthropologist Helen

Fisher, love can start with any of these three feelings: lust, attraction and
attachment depending on the person. Each involves different neurochemicals
in your brain.
THREE BRAIN SYSTEMS OF LOVE OR STAGES OF FALLING IN LOVE
1. Lust refers to an urge or desire that motivates us to partake in sexual

activity.
2. Attraction is described as the love-struck phase. This is the stage when a
person loses sleep and appetite over someone and become excited to someone
while daydreaming of special person. It is part of lust because it involves
focusing our attention to a particular person or desire. Many factors influence
attraction.
FACTORS OF ATTRACTION
a. Physical Attractiveness
It is one of the primary determinants of romantic attraction. Most people

prefer whom they consider physically attractive especially in the early
stages of dating.
b. Proximity
People tend to get attracted to people who are geographically closer to

them. They are more likely to develop feelings of mutual familiarity with
the people who live close to us or go to school with us and increased level
of comfort when there is regular contact and no prior negative feelings.
c. Similarity
People pick partners who we have similarities with such as social class,
background, religious beliefs, age and education. The more attitudes and
opinions two people share, especially when they are similar, the more they
will want to do the same activities, and would create a strong bond between
them.
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Upper Balulang Cagayan de Oro pages 7 - 10)
d. Reciprocity
People like others who like them back. People feel indebted when someone
does something good for them and tend to reciprocate the action. The more
we are liked by someone they equally like, the more we behave in ways that
promote mutual feelings of liking.
3. Attachment is a deep and enduring emotional bond that connects one

person to another across time and space. It is when long-lasting
commitments are exchanged.
Robert Strenberg (1988) suggests that there are three main components
of love. Love relationships vary and it depends on the presence or absence
of each of these components.
THREE COMPONENTS OF TRIANGULAR THEORY OF LOVE
1. INTIMACY is an intimate interpersonal relationship that involves physical

or emotional intimacy. It is characterized by friendship, familiarity, or
romantic love. It involves closeness, connectedness, and bondedness.
2. PASSION is an intense emotion, a compelling enthusiasm or desire for
something.
3. COMMITMENT is the attitude of someone who works very hard to do or
support something. It is an act deciding to consistently fulfil and live by
agreements made with another person, entity, or cause, and where the
values of integrity and respect serve as a guide to one’s behavior and
thinking. The easy ways to express your commitment to your relationships
is to show love and loyalty, respect and appreciate others, convey honesty
and trust, work as a team and compromise, and disagree agreeably.
The combination of the three (3) components can produce eight (8)
types of love.
Types of Intimacy Passion Commitment Example

Love
Nonlove No No No
Liking Yes No No Friendships
Infatuation No Yes No Experiencing love at
first sight or being
obsessed with a
person
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Empty Love No No Yes Stagnant
Relationships or
Arrange marriage
Fatuous No Yes Yes Relationships
motivated by
passion
Companiona Yes No Yes Relationships
te lacking passion
such as those
between family
members or close
friends
Romantic Yes Yes No Being bonded
emotionally and
physically to
another person
Consummat Yes Yes Yes Complete love
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Upper Balulang Cagayan de Oro pages 7 - 10)
Love occurs not solely between romantic partners only. Humans can
experience different types of love in various relationships, such as with
romantic partners, friends, family and even strangers. Ancient Greeks studied
love and denote each type by giving each one a Greek name. Lee (1973) offers
a theory love styles which are derived from an analysis of writings about love
through centuries.
1. PHILIA – Affectionate Love

It is a love that runs deep in true friendship. Love without romantic attraction
and occurs between friends or family members. It is called brotherly love when
both people share the same values and respect each other.
Ways to show this love:

Engage in deep conversation with a friend.
Exchange beliefs and imperfections with close friends.
Be open and trustworthy
Be supportive in difficult times.
2. PRAGMA – Enduring Love
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It is a mature love that develops over time. Commitment and efforts are
needed to reach “Pragma”. Instead of “falling in love”, you are “standing in
love” with the partner by your side.

Continue to strengthen the bond of long-term relationships
Seek and show effort with your partner.
Choose to work with your partner forever.
3. STORGE – Familiar love

It is naturally occurring love rooted in parents and children, as well as best
friends. It’s an infinite love built upon acceptance and deep emotional
connection. This love come easily and immediately in parent and child
relationships. It flows between parents and children or childhood friends.

Sacrifice your time, self or personal pleasures.
Quickly forgive harmful actions.
Share memorable and impactful moments.
Show gratitude towards the people close to you.
4. EROS – Romantic Love

It is a personal infatuation and physical pleasure. It is a passionate love
displayed through physical affection.

Admiring someone’s physical body
Engage in physical touch such as hugging and kissing but it is not
appropriate for you yet.
5. LUDUS – Playful love

Flirting and beginning stages of intimate love. It is a child-like and flirtatious
love found in the beginning. This type of love consists of teasing, playful
motives and laughter between two people.

Spend time together to laugh and have fun
Exemplify childlike behavior together.
6. MANIA – Obsessive Love

Obsessiveness or madness over a love partner is mania. It leads to unwanted
jealousy or possessiveness.
Ways to avoid this love:
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Recognize obsessive or possessive behavior before acting upon it.
Focus on yourself more than another person.
Put trust into your relationships
7. PHILAUTIA –Self Love

It is having a healthy “self-compassion” love towards one’s self.
It is when you recognize your self-worth and don’t ignore your personal needs.
Self-love begins with acknowledging your responsibility for your well-being.

Respect, accept ad appreciate yourself.
Create environment that nurtures your well-being.
Take care of yourself like a parent would care for a child
Spend time around people who supports you.
8. AGAPE –Selfless Love

It is an empathetic attitude of love for everyone and anyone. It is the highest
love to offer. It is given without any expectations of receiving anything in
return. It is considered as unconditional love.

Dedicate your life to improve the lives of others.
Stay conscious of your actions for the good of humankind.
Offer your time and charity to someone in need.
Express unconditional love in any situation
Let Us Practice More
Activity 6
Directions: Identify the perfect combination of different theory of love

styles that can create something beautiful on your connection with your
family, friends and significant other. Though there isn’t a perfect equation for
every relationship, these combinations can provide a perspective on how to
work various types of love into your relationships.
THEORY OF LOVE STYLES
Relationship Combination of Types of Love

Family ___________+____________+_____________
Friendship ___________+____________+_____________
Significant Other ___________+____________+_____________
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Lesson
Being Responsible in a
3 Healthy Relationships
Let Us Study
ACTIVITY 7
Direction: Recognize examples of positive and negative behaviors related to

healthy and unhealthy relationships. The purpose of this activity is to explore
relationships using stoplight analogy. Color the circle corresponding to you
answer.
FRIENDSHIP SPOTLIGHT ANALOGY
RED – Stop! These are bad sign of relationship.

YELLOW – Caution! These are warning signs of relationship.
GREEN – Go! These are good signs in a friendship
1. You are afraid of your 11. Your friend threatens to

friend’s temper. hurt you.
2. You enjoy being with this 9. You say that you agree
person but you also enjoy with your friends, even
spending time with other though you really don’t.
friends. You are afraid they won’t be
your friend anymore, if you
disagree.
3. Your friend pressures 10. You rarely get to plan
you to do things you do not what the two of you will do
want to do. together.
4. Your friend tells you not 12. You are nervous that if
to hang out with certain you tell your friend
people. something personal, he/she
will tell other people at
school.
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5. You usually feel happy 13. Your friend is happy
when you are with this when good things happen
person. to you and celebrates your
successes.
6. Your friends talks to you 14. Your friends sometimes
about his/her feelings. make fun of you.
7. Your friend criticizes you 15. Your friend respects
or people you care about. your feelings and your
opinions.
8. Your friend bullies and
makes fun of other people
at school.
The situations given in the previous activity can all be applicable among
your family and significant other or partner. Learn to recognize examples of
people who engage in negative behaviors that lead to unhealthy relationships.
These are some important aspects for healthy relationships.
Important Aspects for Healthy Relationships

Adapted from Woititz, J., Adult Children of Alcoholics
Mutual Respect Do I treat the other person as if he/she is of value?
Compassion Do I have genuine concern for the issues that cause the
other person concern?
Empathy To what degree am I able to allow myself to be open to
what he/she feels?
Understanding Do I try to understand the other peson, what they say or
do?
Acceptance Can I feel I am okay the way I am? Do I accept him/her
as he/she is?
Honesty Is the relationship built on truthfulness, or are there
games involved?
Trust To what degree am I willing to let the other person know
private aspects of my thoughts, feelings, and life?
Good Can we talk freely about issues that are important to the
Communication relationships?
Do we know how to talk so we each are understood and
sharing is safe?
Consideration Am I mindful of the other person’s needs as well as my
own?
Compatibility To what extent do we like and value the same things?
Mutual In areas of disagreement, are we able to agree or
Enjoyment disagree?
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Personal Am I able to maintain my beliefs and sense of self as well
Integrity as offer my time and attention to the relationship?
Vulnerability To what degree can I let down my barriers and allow the
other person to see my perceived weaknesses, without
fear of negative reactions from them?
Let Us Remember
Activity 8
Directions: The table below composes of two columns. The first column is the
list of persons whom you have personal relations. Fill in the second column
their corresponding role on how it affects and helps you become a better
person. Use a separate sheet of paper for your answers.
FAMILY ROLES
Persons Roles
1. Grandfather
2. Grandmother
3. Mother
4. Father
5. Siblings
6. Best friend
7. Boyfriend or Girlfriend
8. Nephew
9. Niece
10. Uncle
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Let Us Assess
POST-TEST
MULTIPLE CHOICE:
Directions: Read each question carefully. Select the LETTER of the best
answer. Use a separate sheet for your answers.
1. This refers to the close connections between people, formed by emotional

bonds and interactions?
A. Personal Development C. Personal Relationship
B. Intimacy D. Commitment
2. Which of the following is appropriate to do in expressing your attraction to
your significant other?
A. Kissing C. Intimate Activities
B. Smiling at each other D. Invading personal space
3. Which of the following influence the person to get attracted to people who
are geographically closer to them?
4. Which of the following influences the person to get attracted to others who
like them back?
5. It is an act deciding to consistently fulfil and live by agreements made with
another person, entity, or cause, and where the values of integrity and
respect serve as a guide to one’s behavior and thinking. This is ___.
6. It is described as the love-struck phase which is part of lust because it
involves focusing our attention to a particular person or desire. This is __.
7. According to Robert Stenberg, it is the type of love that is characterized by
intimate, non-passionate type of love with long term commitment.
8. According to Robert Stenberg, it is the type of love that is ideal and
complete form of love with intimacy, passion and commitment.
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9. Which of the following is a type of love named after ancient Greeks that is
considered as the selfless or unconditional love?
A. Philia C. Storge
10. Which of the following is a type of love named after ancient Greeks that
is considered having a healthy “self-compassion” love towards one’s self?
A. Philia C. Storge
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Let Us Enhance
Activity 9
Directions: In a piece of long bond paper, write a letter to your parents

(either father or mother). The content of your letter must focus on being
grateful for their sacrifices and guidance from the day you were born up to
the present. Then, allow your parents (either father or mother) to read your
letter. Make sure that he/she reads your letter. And ask him/her to reply to
your letter. Tell them to write it in vernacular words. Your outputs will be two;
your letter for them and their response letter.
LETTER FOR MY MAMA OR PAPA
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Activity 10
Directions: Divide your paper into two columns and identify healthy and
unhealthy relationships
CHARACTERISTICS OF HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
1. You feel good about yourself when you’re around the other person.
2. You do not try to control each other. There is equal amount of give and
take.
3. You feel sad, angry, scared, or worried.
4. There is communication, sharing and trust. You feel safe to share secrets.
5. You feel that you give more attention to them than they give to you. You
feel controlled.
6. You don’t communicate, share or trust.
7. You like to spend time together but also enjoy doing things apart.
8. You feel pressured to spend time together and you feel guilty when you’re
both apart from each other.
9. You feel the need to be someone that you are not.
10. It’s easy to be yourself when you are with them.
11. You respect each other’s opinion. You listen and try to understand their
point of view even if you don’t always agree with them.
12. You feel the need to be someone that you are not.
13. There is no fear in your relationship.
14. You feel there’s no respect for you or your opinion. You are not able to
disagree.
15. You feel fear in your relationship.
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Let Us Reflect
RELATIONSHIPS: TODAY VS THE PAST

By Kirsten Holmes and Patience McCoy
Past generations have had stronger and long-lasting

relationships. To explain further, in the past relationships
were made from the roots of the ancient courtships, the
medieval chivalry, and the Victorian formality. On the site
genealogy.about.com you can find out more about these
past traditions that have made stronger and long-lasting
relationships stated in the writing ‘Romance through the
ages. Ancient courtships had many different factors
involved when it came to marriage and relationships for
example family’s arranged marriages between their
children for the benefit of the family, also when a woman
was married off it was more like a business transaction
because they were considered property rather than a
human being. Tribes used to make a peace transaction by
marrying off the chief’s daughters to another chief’s sons
for the greater good of the tribes.
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POST TEST PRETEST
1. C 1. C
2. B 2. B
3. C 3. C
4. D 4. D
5. B 5. B
6. C 6. C
7. C 7. C
8. A 8. A
9. B 9. B
10.D 10.D
Answer key to Activities
References
A. Website:
1. https://www.pexels.com/photo/photo-of-man-and-woman-holding-hands-
374033/
2. https://www.pexels.com/photo/kids-making-diy-easter-eggs-3971476
3. https://www.pexels.com/photo/road-couple-girl-walk-36367/
4. https://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/what-do-we-mean-personal-
relationships
5. https://www.collinsdictionary.com/dictionary/english/personal-relationships
B. Module:
1. Labiscase, Shielamar L. 2020, Personal Development Quarter 2 Module 7,
Division of Cagayan de Oro City, Fr. William F. Masterson Ave Upper Balulang
Cagayan de Oro pages 2 and 34)
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https://opentext.wsu.edu/social-psychology/chapter/module-12-attraction/
6. “Which of 7 Types of Love Relationships Fits Yours?”, accessed last June 13,
2020, https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/fulfillment-any-
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This Self-Learning Module (SLM) is prepared so that you, our dear

Pre-tests are provided to measure your prior knowledge on lessons in

If you have any questions in using this SLM or any difficulty in

CONTENT STANDARD : The learners demonstrate an

PERFORMANCE STANDARD : The learners shall be able to appraise one’s

MOST ESSENTIAL LEARNING COMPETENCY: Discuss an understanding

DURATION TO K-12 : Week 9

OBJECTIVES: At the end of the module, you will be able to:

1. Discuss an understanding of teen-age relationships, including the

1. Which of these refers to the close connections between people, formed by

This refers to the association and close connections between people,

Family is defined as “two or more persons who are related by birth,

In some families, there is little physical contact whereas in others, it is

A romantic relationship is when you feel very strongly attracted to the

Successful romantic relationships are built on love, trust, respect,

(Source: Labiscase, Shielamar L. 2020, Personal Development Quarter 2

1. As a matured individual, why should we understand teen-age relationships

2. How will you deal some unacceptable expressions of attractions in daily

Directions: In a minute of silence, create a short song with a lyric on how

Directions: In the concept map below, recall your past teen-age

On the other hand, commitment is another level of person’s life. This is

According to Helen Fisher, attraction is primarily on physiology or

(Source: Labiscase, Shielamar L. 2020, Personal Development Quarter 2

THE PEOPLE I AM ATTRACTED TO

Example: I am physically attracted to (name of the person) because she has

Statement Name of Reasons

(Source: Labiscase, Shielamar L. 2020, Personal Development Quarter 2

Directions: Each item is a hypothetical situation that reveals

Hypothetical Situation Answer

(Source: Labiscase, Shielamar L. 2020, Personal Development Quarter 2

In the biological model of love as proposed by anthropologist Helen

THREE BRAIN SYSTEMS OF LOVE OR STAGES OF FALLING IN LOVE

1. Lust refers to an urge or desire that motivates us to partake in sexual

It is one of the primary determinants of romantic attraction. Most people

People tend to get attracted to people who are geographically closer to

3. Attachment is a deep and enduring emotional bond that connects one

THREE COMPONENTS OF TRIANGULAR THEORY OF LOVE

1. INTIMACY is an intimate interpersonal relationship that involves physical

Types of Intimacy Passion Commitment Example

(Source: Labiscase, Shielamar L. 2020, Personal Development Quarter 2

1. PHILIA – Affectionate Love

Ways to show this love:

2. PRAGMA – Enduring Love

Ways to show this love:

3. STORGE – Familiar love

Ways to show this love:

4. EROS – Romantic Love

Ways to show this love:

5. LUDUS – Playful love

Ways to show this love:

6. MANIA – Obsessive Love

Ways to avoid this love:

7. PHILAUTIA –Self Love

Ways to avoid this love:

8. AGAPE –Selfless Love