Let him be

Draupadi says that no woman should try to control her man --- she should let him be as it is. If she resorts to
black magic and other forms of methods to get her husband in control, there is a chance that these things might
back fire as well.

Know his family

A wise woman knows everything about her husband's family and his relations. Make sure you know too.

Company matters
According to Draupadi, a woman must stay away from other women who practise deceit and lie a lot. Being in
the company of such women can ruin your marriage as well.

Respect
A woman should never disrespect anyone, whether young or old --- she should always maintain love in the
family.

Don't be lazy
A woman should not get lazy while doing any chores around the house --- a man loves a woman who can take
care of him.

Too much visibility

According to Draupadi, a woman should not spend too much time whiling in her home balcony or by the
window. Doing so can spoil the image of the woman in society.

Controlling anger
A woman should control her anger as not doing so can land her in trouble --she should also avoid speaking
unnecessarily to strangers

If we want to change, improve, or be inspired, we have to study the bright spots,

not just the problems.

Happy couples can rarely identify what exactly it is that is making them so happy!

At the heart of mankind’s existence is the desire to be intimate and to be loved by

another. Marriage is designed to meet that need for intimacy and love.
Our dreams before marriage are of marital bliss…. It’s hard to believe anything
else when you are in love.

Rational, volitional love…is the kind of love to which the sages have always called
us.

Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse’s
perspective. We must first learn what is important to our spouse.

Words are important! Words are important! Words are important!

ENCOURAGING WORDS
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
HUMBLE WORDS
KIND WORDS
QUALITY CONVERSATION
LEARNING TO TALK

Forgive and Forget

Friendship First, Last, and Always
“A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.”

If we are to develop an intimate relationship, we need to know each other’s desires.

If we wish to love each other, we need to know what the other person wants.

Many of us…are trained to analyze problems and create solutions. We forget that
marriage is a relationship, not a project to be completed or a problem to solve.

1. Maintain eye contact when your spouse is talking.

2. Don’t listen to your spouse and do something else at the same time.

3 . Listen for feelings. Ask yourself, “What emotion is my spouse experiencing?”

4 . Observe body language.

5. Refuse to interrupt.

Requests give direction to love, but demands stop the flow of love.

Physical touch can make or break a relationship. It can communicate hate or love.

1. What does your spouse do or fail to do that hurts you most deeply? The opposite
of what hurts you most is probably your love language.

2. What have you most often requested of your spouse? The thing you have most
often requested is likely the thing that would make you feel most loved.

LOVE IS A CHOICE
How can we speak each other’s love language when we are full of hurt, anger, and
resentment over past failures? The answer to that question lies in the essential
nature of our humanity. We are creatures of choice. That means that we have the
capacity to make poor choices, which all of us have done. We have spoken critical
words, and we have done hurtful things. We are not proud of those choices,
although they may have seemed justified at the moment.

1. Mutual respect between the partners

2. No "Plan B"

3. Trust

4. Work as a team

5. Establish a daily routine

6. Don't take your spouse and your marriage too serious

7. Start dating your partner again

8. Have interests separate from your partner and your marriage

9. Believe in a higher power

10. Put your marriage before everything else

11. Your partner should also be your best friend

12. Surround yourself with other positive couples and individuals