Accountability: it’s a big word, not because it contains 14

letters, but rather because very few people actually understand

the concept in the first place, and even fewer people practice it
consistently in their lives.

Instead of seeking (e)scapegoats and distractions, it is best to

deal with reality (as uncomfortable as it may be) exactly as it is,
rather than in delusion (as sweet, tempting, or convenient as it
may be).

In fact, this foundation is an absolute prerequisite in the

process to develop and maintain self-respect. Self-respect is a
function of honesty, responsibility, accountability, and - most
importantly — keeping your word to yourself. The thing is, you
can’t fake it. Because whether you consciously want to be
honest and admit it to yourself or not, your subconscious mind
already knows the truth and reality…as it ACTUALLY is. It’s your
ego and/or your life-long conditioning and lies that you
continue to tell yourself that distort it. Given that premise,
trust with others and yourself can only be built when you truly
take ownership of the outcomes resulting from your choices,
behaviours, and actions. It’s as simple as that.

Being accountable to others around yourself is indeed a

commendable goal; however, that part can only be achieved if
you start by being honest about yourself with yourself, first.
So, in order to attain that, you must be willing to answer to
yourself for the outcomes resulting from your behaviors, the
choices you’ve made, and the actions you’ve taken.
If you are serious about growth, be serious about
accountability. Because the two concepts go together hand-in-
hand. Otherwise, your ‘growth’ is not really real — it’s a
fictional lie your egotistical self tries to sell to others as well as
yourself. But no matter how hard you try - and, it’s especially
apparent over a longer period of time — you’re not fooling
anyone but yourself

At the end of the day, without personal accountability, you

cannot and will not be able to deepen your relationship with
either yourself or anyone else. Without accountability, you
cannot have self love (or love with others, for that matter),
because how can you love someone - including yourself - if you
do not have self respect? And of course, it’s not easy. It never
is. Because respect - even self respect - has to be earned.
So, if your emotions are volatile, your sense of calm is
inconsistent, and you feel that you generally lack inner
peace….it’s highly likely a result of you lying to not only others,
but also yourself. Remember, you won’t actually grow unless
you face it: face-to-face, up close and personal. Your only
answer is to face the person you see in the mirror!

This is what self-love actually is, you fuckin’ coward!