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Getting Started:
Listening for specific information, page 128
Interviewer: Otis, can you tell me the name of one of your good friends?
Otis: Gee, that’s difficult! I have so many good friends.
Interviewer: OK, tell me one.
Otis: OK, uh, Tom.
Interviewer: And when and where did you meet him?
Otis: Uh, at Yale in – I guess it was 1956. We were in the same class, and we had a
lot of interests in common, like music, uh . . .
Interviewer: David, who is one of your best friends?
David: Uh, let’s say Douglas.
Interviewer: And when and where did you meet him?
David: In college – we were both studying music.
Interviewer: And when was that?
David: Uh, let’s see, 1982.
Interviewer: Pam, can you name a good friend of yours?
Pam: Uh, one of my best friends is Jeanette.
Interviewer: And when and how did you get to be friends?
Pam: Um, oh, back in 1981, I think, when we were in grade school. We were both
social outcasts.
Interviewer: Yeah?
Pam: Yeah, we were both terrible at sports.
Interviewer: Tony, can you tell me the name of one of your best friends?
Tony: Uh, Hubert.
Interviewer: And how did you meet him?
Tony: We met in college. We were in classes together, and we just got to be good
friends.
Interviewer: How long ago was this?
Tony: How long? Umm . . . Oh! Twenty-seven years!
Interviewer: Catherine, who would you say is one of your good friends?
Catherine: Uh, Odette.
Interviewer: OK, Odette. And when and where did you meet her?
Catherine: Uh, I met her in graduate school. And that was, let’s see, 1999.
Interviewer: Ruth, who’s one of your best friends?
Ruth: Oh! Well, the first person that comes to mind is Esther.
Interviewer: How did you get to be friends?
Ruth: Well, I met her in 1996 at my synagogue. I already knew about her from
another friend, and when I met her, I just knew I wanted to be friends.
In Your Own Voice: Describing a typical scene and activities, page 134
Catherine: . . . and it’s great because we’ll be talking, and he’ll say something like, “You
actually don’t look bad for your age” [both laugh]. And I recognize the room
where he’s sitting ’cuz, I’ve visited them, and his wife, Misayo, will walk
through, and she’ll stop and show me her knitting, and I’ll show her what I’m
working on – and . . . then his dog Peanut will wander through [both laugh] . .
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Lecture: Kenneth Warden, “Looking at Friendship”
Before the Lecture: Using morphology, context, and nonverbal cues to guess
meaning, page 137
1. But it’s also rather subjective; friendship means very different things to different people.
2. As a therapist, I’m always thinking about a client’s social network. Along with sleep
patterns and appetite, this is an important indicator of a person’s general functioning.
When I work with a client who’s suicidal, it’s always critical to take into account that
person’s support systems, and, and by that, I’m talking about family and friends.
3. You probably know of adults who consider themselves “loners” and say that they are
content
with that condition.
4. There can be a lot of pain involved with friendship – it’s a risky business. When we make
friends, or try to make them, we become vulnerable to rejection. Each of us probably has
a painful childhood memory of being cast aside by one friend in favor of another.
5. . . . you may have heard of the concept of the “overscheduled child” – who is always busy,
always going off to piano lessons or football practice or ballet class.