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“I wanted to tell you how thankful I am for your podcast. You have
helped me to find peace within myself by studying the Dharma through
your podcasts, as well as through other literary resources inspired by your
teachings.” —DR
“Sometimes when hip hop music and celebrity gossip turns into
racket, I turn to Wendy’s podcast. She’s very humble and great at explaining
terms and theories. Listening to a podcast a day keeps my mind interacting
with those around me.” —KF
“Love this. Super relatable content. I like the emphasis on how these
concepts are hard, which is why we need to practice them. It feels helpful
without being judgmental.” —F
“Thank you for taking time to share your knowledge with such
practical language and easy to follow explanations. I’ve been studying
Buddhism on and off for years, and your lessons are right up there with
some of the best (i.e. Pema). :)” —RA
A special bow of devotion to my Sensei, Rev. Koyo Kubose; his late father
Rev. Gyomay Kubose; Adrienne Kubose Sensei; Rev. Albert Bloom and
Haya Akegarasu; my Bright Dawn family of Senseis and lay ministry
students; and the teacher and Buddha always at my side, my wife, Renée
Seiyo Phillips.
SETTING THE TONE
“Discarding all elements of supernaturalism and magical thinking,
one returns to the mystery and tragedy of the everyday sublime.
Instead of nirvana being located in a transcendent realm beyond the
human condition, it would be restored to its rightful place at the
heart of what it means each moment to be fully human. Rather than
devoutly repeating what has been said many times before, you risk
expressing your understanding in your own stammering voice.”
Secular Buddhism: Imagining the Dharma in an Uncertain World
— Stephen Batchelor
USING THE PRACTICE & REFLECTIONS
SECTIONS
At the end of each chapter there are two sections, a practice and a
reflection. Action means putting what you’re learning into practice. Try
doing the practices suggested at the end of each chapter to make the
Dharma your own in your everyday life.
Reflection or meditation is part of that action. One teaching on how to
be a student of the Dharma is to “hear, think, and meditate” on the
teachings. This means going beyond just reading and to immersing yourself
into the teachings. This immersion needs to go beyond mere words and
concepts.
The reflection section is to help you pause and immerse yourself into a
poem that can take you beyond rigid concepts and into the “suchness” of
what the words in the preceding chapter were trying to express. It is through
poetry that I have been able to express things exactly as they are. It is only
in poetry that I can speak to you without the concepts words create—
stopping time, ending the separation between us, and uniting us in the
immersion of suchness.
Yes, words are needed to write poetry, but the form of these words come
from suchness itself, come from all life through me to you. As Shunryu
Suzuki said “when you do something, you should burn yourself completely,
like a good bonfire, leaving no trace of yourself.”
PREFACE
IN THIS BOOK AND THE PODCAST THAT SHARES ITS TITLE, my
goal is to talk to everyday people about Buddhism in an everyday way—the
way I wished people talked to me when I initially began studying it. There
were some Buddhist teachers who wrote books and taught classes using
concepts that a Western or American mind could easily grasp—and who
minimized the use of complex terminology or Sanskrit and Pali words—but
only a few.
I realize there were far more of those teachers in the 1990s when I
started my search and study in earnest than in the 1950s, 1960s, and 1970s
when the true pioneers of American Buddhism found their places as our
teachers. And for that I am grateful. But it still took a hefty dose of
dedication and persistence to make enough sense of the teachings to apply
them in your everyday life.
To me, it seemed like trying to learn calculus when all I thought I
needed was to do the math required to balance my bank account or create a
simple business spreadsheet. Yet, in hindsight, the calculus (or big-picture
understanding of continuous change) is necessary to effectively apply the
simple math Buddhism offers to everyday life. And it isn’t as complicated
as it looks when you find a gentle guide to walk you deep into it. My
stubborn personality and desire to learn made me a tenacious student
willing to take that walk deep into the lists, cosmology, philosophy, and
theology to get to the psychological core that makes Buddhism an
invaluable practice for happiness.
And as I continued to learn, practice, and eventually become a Buddhist
teacher and lay minister, I realized that despite a person’s interest in
Buddhism they were unlikely to apply the same time and effort required to
make enough sense of the teachings to use in their lives—especially in the
Internet age where the virtue of patience is declining in reverse
correspondence to the quickness and availability of information.
I remember sitting and talking with the directors of the Tibetan Buddhist
center I belonged to, one evening after a class I taught in Buddhism Basics.
I distinctly remember saying these words, “I would love to be a part of a
Buddhist center or sangha that focused on Buddhism without the
complexities of cultural rituals or the focus on guru devotion. Maybe I need
to start one.” They both looked at me, with what I subtly detected as gentle
eye-rolls or winks and said, “good luck.”
The center directors, Frank and Gretchen Howard, devoted much of
their adult lives to establishing Mahayana Buddha Dharma in America and
built a thriving Buddhist center. The foundation of everything I learned of
Buddhism came from those initial years of study and practice with Frank,
Gretchen, the sangha, and the visiting Tibetan teachers. I had accumulated
tons of knowledge and information over the years I threw myself into study
and practice, but looking inside, I clearly saw that none of it was mine yet.
As Stephen Batchelor wrote in the quote at the beginning of the book,
“Rather than devoutly repeating what has been said many times before, you
risk expressing your understanding in your own stammering voice.” That
was the risk I wanted to take. Through my association with The Bright
Dawn Center of Oneness Buddhism, I was learning through practice that to
make the teachings of the Buddha my own, I needed to bring them into
everyday life and not silo them off in special secret practices from special
teachers, at special times in special places. If there is one thing I’d like to
emphasize in this book, it is this: When you make any teachers more special
than what is in your life at this very moment—things as they are—you are
moving farther away from true understanding and aligning yourself with the
delusion that spirituality is “out there” or something other than life as it is.
From the beginning, Bright Dawn turned my thinking around: From a
Buddhism “out there” possessed by special enlightened masters who I could
only hope to hang around with long enough so that some of their
enlightened mystery would rub off on me, to a Buddhism tried on and
conversed with in the “mystery and tragedy of the everyday sublime.” Like
Batchelor, my aim is to help myself and others awaken to nirvana in “its
rightful place at the heart of what it means each moment to be fully
human.”
INTRODUCTION: SEIZE THE MIND
“To cover all the earth with sheets of leather—
Where could such amounts of skin be found?
But with the leather soles of just my shoes
It is as though I cover all the earth!”
And this the outer course of things
I myself cannot restrain.
But let me just restrain my mind,
And what is left to be restrained?”
— Shantideva, Chapter 5 - Vigilant Introspection
from “The Way of The Bodhisattva”