Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Eryn White
Dwaine Souveny
Hold up! You jumped a few steps there cowboy. It’s good that you’ve extended the problem
solving to the teacher though.
“Teachers found coaching and being coached to shift their beliefs about learning and teaching.
School leaders took the strategic view that a coaching model, which trusts the capacities of
teachers to reflect and improve, was empowering and capacity building.” (Netolicky. 2016).
Following the Crucial Conversations process should have you knowing what to do already
though:
STATE my path Share my facts: Please correct me if I am wrong but from what I
Share my facts saw, you had to leave class to deal with Rodney. When he was here,
Tell your story you didn’t ask for any assistance. I saw you work with him, and you
Ask for others path were clear and direct, which he responded to. After that, you left him
(goal) in the seclusion room until the end of the day. I wasn’t in your
Talk Tentatively classroom to see what happened there, however, but I spoke to
Encourage testing - Rodney to see what he had to say.
am i hearing it right
Tell my story: (feelings and opinions)
I am feeling a little hesitant about having this conversation though. I
want to be able to help you out, but I feel that maybe you don’t
respect my opinion in the matter, or maybe you don’t even agree with
the idea of how Vince and I deal with kids. In the end, I’ve never
thought that tests are really the most important part of assessment
either. I’d like to be able to report on what we see as professionals.
Journal article “Explicit self-awareness will often help save you from engaging in a conversation
in a way that panders to your feelings rather than one that serves your needs” (Weeks, 2001) split
the conversation into two parts – 1. address issues, 2. hold meeting
How are you gonna screw this up some more?
Me Frankly, I’m not really happy with your tone right now, it’s
pretty confrontational.
Tanya Oh, what? Shocked
I wasn’t trying to be confrontational! Voice raises pitch
I was just thinking about what you were saying! Arms still crossed
Me Well, I’m sorry I accused you of being confrontational. It's just
that I was reading your face and your posture, and you looked
pretty upset.
Tanya No, I’m not upset. I’m just thinking about what you’re Arms lowered
saying... Eyebrows raised
Talking softer
You’ve kind of righted this boat. At least you apologized.
LQS 1 Fostering effective Relationships (Alberta Education, 2020) – (Kouzes & Posner,
2017)- Model the Way
So weak bro, this was your chance to really clarify what to do. There was an attempt to
define some deadlines, but she is obviously struggling with how to talk to parents.
“As these data from this study show, a pressing need exists to have skills to communicate
articulately and precisely with parents, teachers, and students. These data also support a definite
need for instructional strategies and techniques in the area of parent communication, and such
should be included as an integral part of teacher preparation programs” (Jarid, 1997)
Use the AMPP acronym next time:
Explore others’ Ask for clarification
path You want some more clarification on expectations?
Ask I am wondering if you are okay with talking to parents directly?
Mirror Mirror the others emotions
Paraphrase
Prime Paraphrase
“persistent pursuit of personal goals is only part of adaptive self-regulation and that an equally
important part is played by a set of processes that lead to the exact opposite outcome—giving up
personal goals. Specifically, we propose that in situations in which people are confronted with
unattainable goals, benefits accrue from the capacities to abandon goal-directed activities and to
reengage in valued alternative goals. An important implication of this proposition is that adaptive
self-regulation of unattainable goals depends on the availability of alternative goals toward
which people can direct their efforts. By having new goals available and reengaging in those new
goals, a person can reduce the distress that arises from the desire to attain the unattainable while
continuing to derive a sense of purpose in life by finding other pursuits of value.” (Wrosch et
al., 2003)
It couldn’t get much worse from here, I hope.
Me And if there’s an issue, then you can contact the parents to talk
about what’s going on there.
Tanya Yeah. I have an email drafted. I just haven’t sent it off yet. Ends with brief,
closed-lipped smile
Me Okay. If you have anything that goes wrong, let me know.
Tanya Okay. Big, exaggerated
Sure. smile
Sounding bright
That wasn’t a train wreck. Not a home run either though. The attempt to let the teacher
know you were supporting them was there, but not prominent.
"principal support and teacher cooperation were statistically significant predictors of job
satisfaction for all teachers” (Olsen & Huang, 2019)
Let’s see how it stacks up to the WWWF
Move to action Who You
Who does what when - What need to talk to him about your expectations
Follow through?
When today
What will follow through look like if anything goes wrong, let me
know.
https://www.alberta.ca/assets/documents/ed-leadership-quality-standard-english.pdf
Duan, W., Ting Li, T., van Zyl, L., Richter, S., Roll, L., & Stander, M. (2021). Positive
https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyt.2021.667200
Epton, T., Currie, S., & Armitage, C. (2017). Unique Effects of Setting Goals on Behavior
https://www.proquest.com/trade-journals/coaching-
conversations/docview/1691618070/se-2
Jared, E. (1997). Preparing new teachers to effectively communicate with parents. Journal of
Kouzes, J., & Posner, B. (2017). The leadership challenge (6th ed.). John Wiley & Sons.
Netolicky, D. (2016). Coaching for professional growth in one Australian school: “oil in water.”
https://doi.org/10.1108/IJMCE-09-2015-0025
Olsen, A., & Huang, F. (2019). Teacher job satisfaction by principal support and teacher
cooperation: Results from the Schools and Staffing Survey. Education Policy Analysis
Patterson, K., Grenny, J., McMillan, R., & Switzler, A. (2012). Crucial conversations: Tools for
talking when stakes are high. New York, NY: McGraw Hill.
Patrick, V., & Hagtvedt, H. (2011). “I Don’t” versus “I Can’t”: When Empowered Refusal
https://doi.org/10.1086/663212
https://doi.org/10.1523/JNEUROSCI.4374-12.2013
Weeks, H. (2001). Taking the stress out of stressful conversations. Harvard Business Review, 79,
112-119. https://www.proquest.com/magazines/taking-stress-out-stressful-
conversations/docview/227782025/se-2
Wrosch, C., Scheier, M., Miller, G., Schulz, R., & Carver, C. (2003). Adaptive Self-Regulation
https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167203256921