WHAT MATTERS
TO ME & WHY?
FOUNDATION "SOLIDARITYWORKS"
CONTENTS
INTRODUCTION PAGE 04
CONTENTS
TEODOR MATUSKI PAGE 36
"MIRACLES HAPPEN WHEN WE DARE TO TRY"
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“ALL HUMANS SHOULD HAVE
EQUAL OPPORTUNITIES FOR
PROSPERITY “
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In my opinion, all human beings are equal, but not all people share
this view. Many of my friends at school still hold prejudice toward
the gypsy community. Unfortunately, that's why most of my
relatives at school don't even try to communicate with them. The
refusal to talk with each other summons a question in my head -
"How do we get rid of prejudice if we don't want to communicate
with each other"?
At my school, it feels like all of us are split into two large groups -
‘the Bulgarians’ and ‘the gypsies’, as others refer to them.These
labels are awful because after all, we all are born on Earth and
bleed in the same color - so why should we split into groups, if we
are all human? The problem is that these labels I'm talking about
are making us distant. As a part of the gypsy community, I've
always felt that communication is something all of us
underestimate. Before high school, I didn't communicate with my
Bulgarian peers because, actually, in my village, there weren't any.
When I went to study in the city, everything felt different. The
change has had a great impact on me - it's great to see different
perspectives and mindsets! Thanks to my friends, I sincerely
believe I managed to integrate into Bulgarian society. But not many
people encounter the same experience, sadly.
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And whenever I go back to visit the school in my village, I always
help kids with math and other subjects. Not only that, but I always
try to encourage them, by showing them that they can use their
potential in the best way possible.
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Such examples show us that a person should never set borders for
their goals. Everything is achievable if you have a will. As they say
- "when there is a will, there's a way..." To integrate minorities into
European society, we have to communicate. Communication is the
key to many doors - it could change our mindset if used in the right
way. A conversation with a person can give us a lot of value, the
same thing is with minorities. We can learn a lot from them - for
example, the Bulgarian Milet (the community I grew up in): we have
many interesting celebrations (Muslim ones) such as Kurban
Bayram - a celebration in which we sacrifice a sheep in the name of
the prophet. At this celebration, we usually ask for forgiveness
from the elderly people by kissing their hands, for which we get
candy or money in return. Exchanging different perspectives
between two human beings can be very beneficial for both because
this way they can learn a lot from each other. And the same is valid
for gypsy people. With people from my community, I've always had
interesting conversations - about literature, languages, the world,
etc., and I wish people understood that even if we have grown up in
a different environment, it shouldn't make us distant. Because in
this world, we can learn a lot from each other. If we are all friends,
we can overcome the differences between us, and turn them into
power.
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"REVISE, RELEARN, RESEARCH,
RECONSTRUCT, REPEAT"
And so, having been barraged with what’s a trojan horse full of
existential questions under the guise of an essay prompt, I took
upon answering them one by one.
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First and foremost, I would take this summer off. And the next one
as well! What a wonder – a teenager wanting to rest during their
government-assigned resting period. My family is on the poorer
side when it comes to income, and a summer job is essential for me
to indulge in plenty of things, simple and luxurious alike. It takes
the pressure off my parents to provide everything they deem
necessary for me, which more often than not doesn’t align with my
actual tastes. On top of that, it allows me to be more independent
with my resources, such as learning to track my expenses, save and
budget money, and which large chain pharmacies, much to my
dismay, do not take credit cards. But enough of that! Working in
kitchens is now magically a thing of the past – time for me to
spend my time some other way.
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seeing how many hours of sleep you need to properly function
during the day also self-discovery?
It’s this exact desire to constantly improve and outdo myself that
is going to lead me to my next activity. An endless pursuit of
knowledge, absolutely not just academic, but practical, worldly,
all-encompassing. Knowledge of abstract concepts, languages, and
ideas, but also myself, my emotions, and my body. My friends, the
world around me. Can’t most hobbies be summarized that way
anyway? Working out and sports is learning about your body and
mind’s limits. Reading and writing are learning about worlds beyond
this one. Playing an instrument is learning muscle memory and
dexterity. Online gaming is learning to distinguish languages only
by insults and swear words – peculiar, but highly beneficial skill to
have to properly navigate the internet. Hanging out with your
friends is learning about your friends! Learning is an instinct. It’s
an inherent part of being human, and who am I to go against human
nature?
All that means I would love to spend this summer, and then next
summer, and then the rest of my life “learning”. Getting to know
new people, reconnecting with old acquaintances and hearing
about their experiences, and meeting long-term online friends and
pen-pals. Reading anything from linguistics textbooks to sappy
romantic comedies to 80’s sci-fi. Journaling, perfecting my
handwriting, finding the perfect combination of pen ink and
notebook paper. There is always so much to do and explore in the
world around me, and even if I exhaust that someday, there’s my
inner world which is just as vast. And by the time I conquer it, my
environment will have changed, and by the time I overtake that
again, I will have absorbed and reconstructed so many new ideas
and concepts I will have changed. Repeat ad infinitum.
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Not being tied down to a job also means I could do so much more
for my community than I would have otherwise. Just interacting
with it would be sufficient – donating to libraries, exploring small
cafes, and supporting local artists and craftspeople. Putting money
back into the economy, in the grander scheme of things. But money
is just one resource, and I cannot overlook time and effort. I would
look into different non-profits and other organizations and
volunteer whenever I could – or maybe even start my own, or help
out without binding myself to a specific cause and group of people.
To give a specific example, I would like to volunteer as a judge at
local speech and debate tournaments. I’m an avid competitor right
now, but that is going to change pretty soon, as they are for high
school students only. It is no exaggeration to say that interacting
with that community of like-minded, ambitious people has altered
my worldview for the better – I doubt I would be writing this right
now had it not been for those tournaments!
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"TO LIVE IS TO PERSEVERE"
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A person could only go so far in the span of a single lifetime and,
therefore ought to focus on what they deem valuable in their
journey towards self-acceptance and happiness. Having
established that, I revel in the idea of viewing life as a story
without a predetermined ending, a maze full of questions with no
answer. I seek to find the pieces of myself along the way.
Sometimes I feel too much or nothing at all and it is indescribable,
the incessant need to achieve this goal that is always in sight but
never quite close enough. Something that truly matters to me is
going forward regardless of anything and everything. Maybe I will
not ever reach my true potential, yet growing while enduring life’s
hardships and thriving despite them is something beautiful, and
knowing I am a better person than I was yesterday, becoming
bigger, better, and brighter is a pride that I cherish deeply. I doubt
it will ever cease to be a source of comfort for me. The identity I
embody often appears as no more than another abstract concept
for me to dwell on. Building confidence with it and finding more
about the way my consciousness functions gives me a type of
validation that nothing else does. It is important to me that while
discovering the universe I discover myself and I consider that a
process with no designated outcome.
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am exhilarated by the idea that I could contribute towards a change
for the better. Being able to support or encourage the development
of a person or a community in any way possible provides me with
asense of purpose and empowerment that I have come to rely on; it
is something vital to my sense of identity. I love to love and I could
not imagine my life when it is not lived with passion. The moments
that seem to make the most sense to me are those that fill one’s
heart with fervor, the bitter-sweetness of raw emotion, with all the
horrifying vulnerability it entails. I think that truly and selflessly
loving, be it a person or an idea, is the easiest way to understand
oneself, even if I do not always know how to do so. Knowing all
there is to know is a goal unattainable to the limited human mind,
yet anytime a person loves, it is as if they feel all there is to feel.
The heart exists in mystery, outside the bounds of logic. It is a
source of greatness.
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How else would I know I have existed unless I were to leave
something behind? Unless I make space for myself in the hearts of
others? And when the last fragment of my existence is destroyed by
the passage of time do I disappear right along with it into the void
of matter? Or, is simply having been in the here and now, enough to
confirm that I once was even if I never will be again?
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"I AM FREE AND MY HAPPINESS
IS THE ONLY CONSIDERATION"
It is hideous, the things we are never taught. I was told to fit in but
never was I taught that my happiness doesn’t have to and shouldn’t
rely on someone else’s validation, whether it is coming from my
parents, my friends, my teachers, or the girl who looked at me
judgmentally on the street, or the disgusting looks drawn on the
faces of my peers when they look at the picture of me that I
posted. I was told to try harder and be better, but never that I am
enough. Appreciation is a sensation forbidden from ever being
shown. I was instructed to obey orders and follow rules, but never
to not do anything I feel uncomfortable with. I was warned to be
quiet, but never was I taught how to stand up for myself. That
sounds ridiculous to me, considering my voice is my most powerful
weapon. Pure oxygen comes out of my mouth and a sensation of
rising heat grows inside of me as I burn down the ideology with it.
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Speaking loudly and speaking proudly is the most influential part of
a person so we, as human beings ought to use it. Is this what
today’s education system is? A place supposed to prepare us for
real life. The place we go to learn and then forget. We are children
and one day we will be adults, trying to figure out life in a world
that we were never prepared for, realizing none of us are ready.
The system is failing us and we need a change.
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So, when they dare to tell me I do something like a girl, I say “Yes, I
do. So, what exactly is your point?” At the end of the day, I am a
girl and I am beyond proud of it. Furthermore, as a girl, there are a
couple of things I wish I knew when I was younger. I am so much
more than my body. Despite everyone trying to convince me
otherwise, thinking about the people I love, I realize that it isn’t
their features that stand out to me and make my love for them so
large, it is their hearts. The kindness and compassion I see in their
eyes are more than enough.
On that note, nobody needs makeup to be beautiful. Women are only
taught that as a marketing strategy because if we stopped buying
cosmetics, the economy would collapse. That is because there is no
profit in self-love. This society is doing everything in its power to
destroy women, making us small and quiet, feeling like we are not
enough. Never will I be ashamed of my femininity, because it is my
superpower.
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I shall not be stopped by anyone’s words, because the only thing
that can stop me is myself. Never would I let anyone think their
judgmental opinions can have any effect on me as a person. My
mission in this world is to share my kindness with anyone who may
need it and hope for a better future. So next time they ask me
“What matters to you?” or “Whom would you be?”, I will simply
answer – me.
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"YOU WILL SHINE YOUR LIGHT
AND WALK YOUR PATH,
LEADING FORWARD TO
GREATNESS"
"I have failed over and over again... and that's why I succeeded." So
loud have the words of one of the greatest athletes of our time
echoed in history that one wonders if there isn't more than glamour
to them. Behind every story lies a message. Michael Jordan's is
quite simple, but oh, so very fundamental - a tale about life's most
valuable lesson and the most competent teacher - failure.
Not one person on Earth has avoided its mighty swing. The
harshest truth anyone can learn, that I have learned, is that failure
is inevitable. Sooner or later, adversity reaches everybody. We
cannot outrun it. However, I believe storms come for a reason.
After the rain, the sun always shines brightest. Failure is the
foundation of learning, growth, and, eventually, the unleashing of
your true potential.
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To further reiterate: imagine life is your school's classroom, and a
variety of academics come and go - the one you'll unequivocally
derive the most value from is a failure. Only when you have
experienced pain, felt that all hope is lost, and lacked the energy
to move but still emerged from the darkest pit can you truly step
into your intrinsic being, start on your path, and allow your light to
flourish.
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In the Middle Ages, famine and disease ruled over. Nowadays, our
world is plagued by illnesses, albeit of a different kind, mercilessly
attacking upfront or, even worse, silently creeping through the
back door. Why do I include this as a type of failure? Simply
because everybody's wildest, most chased-after dream is to be
healthy. If we have health, we can acquire everything else. Yet it is
the case that humans often aren't in peak condition. Either innate
or through a multitude of circumstances, sickness strikes. Worst of
all, when no one expects it. Darkness ensues. Nobody finds joy in
being confined to a hospital bed, taking medication, and suffering
in pain. However, I realized that when the cloud of anguish and
sorrow looms over, unmatched intestinal fortitude emerges to
combat the monsters. Had we never experienced sickness, we
wouldn't appreciate the gift of health. If we never feel weakness,
we wouldn't discover our might. Although frailty seems
unconquerable, through it, we are guided towards our most
invaluable asset, trusted friend, and powerful weapon - the mind.
So, should ever pain rear its ugly head, ask not what you have lost,
but what is there to gain.
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Meaningful interactions with others aid in our development,
tremendously boost our mood, and give us a sense of value.
Although, in theory, the contemporary social jungle sounds simple,
it is complicated. Presently, we have tools such as social media,
designed with the sole ambition of easing communication, yet we
feel more alone than ever. We expand our circle of friends
endlessly yet remain misunderstood. With the risk of being called a
cynic, I would dare describe the entirety of modern society as a
social failure. We live in a world where fame is a priority over
empathy, condemning differences is considered normal, and
uniqueness gets stifled in favor of fitting in. If you dare to go
against the flow, you will be labeled an outcast. Society considers
standing out a social failure when, in reality, it could be the gate
of abundance opening before us. Choosing yourself, your values,
and your desires over what's hailed as popular and widely accepted
will teach you the fundamental trait of endurance. It will develop in
you the courage to stand proud and walk forward, unburdened by
people's opinions, freed from the chains of expectation. You will
discover the gift of your identity and appreciate yourself for
everything you are. You will shine your light and walk your path,
leading forward to greatness.
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Others may offer a hand, but they can never comprehend your
experience. These are your dreams, your crossroads, your pitfalls -
but also, your ascend. Not one other occurrence can make you
better. Not until you have invested your body, mind, and soul, your
everything into an endeavor, and have been decimated can you
unleash the fire hidden inside. Only when you have fallen into the
blackest abyss can you realize that all the strength, energy,
willpower, knowledge, and courage you could ever require are
already available - in you. Only when we are at our lowest point will
we be able to open ourselves to the greatest change.
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"THEY TEACH THEIR CHILDREN
THAT BEING DIFFERENT IS
BAD"
Every aspect of life has its problems but the Bulgarian education
system is a different story. I am going to try to address its major
issues and suggest solutions to them. The importance of this topic
should not be underestimated because as Nelson Mandela said:
“Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to
change the world.”
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Many kinds of research show that this system is not efficient
anymore. In the 21st century, more and more people are
becomingself-employed or working as freelancers which means
that they do not have a fixed schedule. The exhaustion that
students experience from getting up early, staying at school for
more than 6 hours, then doing homework is almost unbearable. The
solution to this problem is as simple as changing the school
schedule and reducing the study hours.
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Discrimination is something awful and should be dealt with
immediately. The government is trying to improve the situation but
the problem is not the students, it is that the majority of the
mature people in Bulgaria have outdated views. They teach their
children that being different is bad. The famous designer Coco
Chanel on the other hand states that: “To be irreplaceable, one
must always be different.” We can see from this quote that
students should be encouraged to be different and unique and not
punished for being themselves. The Bulgarian government should
consult with its European partners and develop a cooperative plan
to deal with the problem.
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"LIFE INDEED HAS ITS WAY OF
UNFOLDING FOR EACH ONE"
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The latter are circumstances, which in my opinion we have no
direct control over, such as, whether is it going to rain today, will
my neighbor is throwing a loud party this Friday, is the bus going to
be packed or not and all other inevitable events that “happen” to
us, despite our desire for them. Based on the information we have
about the plethora of things that affect our daily lives, we can take
certain precautions, or ‘preventative measures, like taking an
umbrella with us, purchasing noise cancellation earplugs, or taking
the most spacious place on the bus. Even though those things are
great to be aware of, even more, so a necessity to ‘survive’ in the
best way we currently can, in my personal experience there comes
a time when even such ‘little things can cause an information
overload in our minds and eventually lead us to not even try
anymore.
Life indeed has its way of unfolding for each one of us but as our
daily lives become busier in the pursuit of a certain ‘something’ -
making more means to live, finding that specific partner, planning
our next big purchase, taking a step back into our internal world
can feel almost illegal. After all, why to bother re-evaluating our
choices, when we already have so much to accomplish even outside
our material world - goals, relationships, friendships, trips over
the globe - for all of which we can often feel like we are on the run
for - the sooner we reach them and the more we plan and prepare
for them, the sooner we will finally feel accomplished and fulfilled.
Apart from the social pressure that can arise from our
environment, we tend to, consciously or not, put pressure on
ourselves while disregarding other aspects of the only source of
willpower that we possess - ourselves.
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tend to sometimes isolate ourselves in the process of achieving
due to labeling aspects otherwise crucial to our overall wellbeing
as a waste of time and unnecessary - after all they don’t seem to
bring direct value towards whatever it is we strive for. And this
strive, this motivation of a young person, combined with all the
other outside forces we must be ‘prepared for to avoid ‘bad
outcomes’ could counterintuitively become the very thing that
makes us wake up every day and think something along the lines of
“I’m doing this for what? Where are my results, I should have
already achieved this and that?”. Not to be confused for impatience
or the general anxiety of growing up but in the sense of feeling as
if we are lacking despite doing our best efforts. Now you might ask
why that would be if we were doing our best - then naturally, there
seems to be a fault in our choices, there must be something
lacking there which we have not yet realized - and you would be
completely right. Because in all the hustle and complexity of a
young adult’s life, we tend to even forget to stop for a second and
choose to just be. And I do not mean this in the sense of all of
those materials and expressions we have surely encountered at
least once from reading or hearing about concepts in the fields of
self-help and self-realization - such as being present in the ‘now’
or ‘ just ‘be yourself and the world will accept you, however
positive and wonderful these messages might be.
Choosing to just be, even for a few hours, could be a pretty painful
experience for a young adult because while choosing to do
distracts us temporarily with the act of ‘doing’, choosing to be
could bring us a level of introspection we might not be overall
ready for. While we do our best to prepare for whatever unforeseen
circumstances life can bring us, we tend to sometimes neglect the
other side of this thought process - that after all, we are in those
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situations, and how can we be so that our inner world is fully
aligned with whatever comes next?Touching on the subject of what
our true intentions are, we might have to face some answers that
are not pleasant for us to hear. Maybe this umbrella we purchased
to protect from the rain was a bit out of our price range, or the
complete opposite - we chose a low-quality one that broke easily
from the wind, maybe the noise cancellation earplugs weren’t
satisfactory and we chose to go out and party harder than our
neighbor only to wake up with the worst hangover in the morning,
or just maybe while calculating which space in the bus is the most
spacious we completely forgot we had the option to go to our
destination via another route.
What does all this have to do with me ‘just being’ you might ask,
and let me break the revelation life has presented to me with its
whole force so far - everything.
What I cannot control eventually will end up controlling me, but if I
just take a step back before reacting to it, I am in this moment
choosing to be first and act secondary. And while this is absolutely
an oversimplification of a vast subject discussed in scholarly
disciplines, self-help courses, and resources, life remains the
teacher who reveals those concepts in the first place.
For me, the beauty of this life lesson is that it applies to every
single aspect of my life and it’s the gift that keeps on giving
regardless of my level of understanding of it.
At the end of the day, whether I choose to do, or be, the results of
both will be reflected in the day that follows, then the one after it
and so on, largely due to the reason that however cliche it might be
- it is all a journey with solely one sure destination, and all that we
are doing is while we are being.
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"I AM A MOSAIC OF
EVERYTHING THAT HAS EVER
HAPPENED TO ME"
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I am a mosaic of everything that has ever happened to me and all
the people I’ve met. My dad’s sense of humor, my mom’s love for
reading, the first time my little brother said my name. The old
friends I no longer talk to and the ones I can’t stop talking to. The
soothing tone my elementary school teacher used when I couldn’t
fall asleep on my first overnight field trip. And so much more I
can’t fit in because you can’t fit an entire life in just a few pages.
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Although I am not sure how exactly I want to contribute to the
larger scheme of things, I am pretty sure I can take small steps
every day like educating myself on serious issues or making small
donations when I can.
Because helping people in the best way I know how matters so
much to me, I have also considered it as a career path. More
specifically – I want to work in the Mental health field. Even though
it’s the twenty-first century, the topic remains incredibly
stigmatized. Even more so in Bulgaria. I want to be part of the
change and aid people to grow and become the best versions of
themselves. Then there also comes the topic of different levels of
stigmatization. A person suffering from Depression or Anxiety is
more likely to be accepted by the rest of society than someone
with an eating disorder or a personality disorder. Bringing
awareness to more issues than just Depression or Anxiety is also
important. Whether I specialize as a psychiatrist, a therapist, a
caretaker, or something else in the field, I would be happy to make
at least one person feel less alone.
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"MIRACLE HAPPENS WHEN WE
DARE TO TRY"
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When a sailor learns to navigate their boat in stormy weather, they
have mastered the skill of managing their life. Smooth seas are
easy, but life has its ups and downs and it is rough seas that make
us strong sailors.
A popular quote says that “It doesn’t matter how many times you’ll
fall. The important thing is to always stand up and to keep trying
when you feel like something is right for you.”
A case in point is Joan K. Rowling’s life. She’s the author of the
Harry Potter books and now she’s rich, famous, and admired by
millions of fans. Kids and adults love J. K. Rowling and the amazing
world of wizards and magic she creates. Her life seems like a
dream, doesn’t it? But like everyone else she had her dark times,
too. Back in the years before the release of the “Harry Potter”
series, she is a single mum with 3 kids. She is very poor and in a
very deep depression. She writes the first book in a café, so she
can be in a warm place. The book gets rejected by 12 publishing
houses, but Rowling doesn’t give up and suddenly the book gets
accepted. It quickly starts gaining popularity and from a poor
depressed lady, she becomes one of the best-selling authors of all
time. Had she given up when she faced rejection, JK Rowling would
not be where she is right now.
I believe that we sail through rough seas not only in the struggle of
making a career but in the hard times of reaching our goals.
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This brings me to my second point which is that tough times are
part of our daily lives too. I already know that the “rough sea” tests
our abilities helping us grow personally. Challenges us to make
sense of who we are and what we want to achieve in life.
My recent experiences illustrate that pretty well.
About a year ago I felt very insecure and anxious. It was the
summer holiday and I was overthinking a lot. I was stuck in my head
without knowing who I am or what I’m not. I just had so many
questions I was unable to answer back then. But then school
started and I didn’t have time to think anymore. I’m thankful for
this experience because it helped me understand myself better. I
think that one of the reasons for this emotional storm was the
second rough sea for me – the seventh grade. I was about to begin
my preparation for the admission exams for the language school
where I study now. Perhaps I was afraid of failure. Online classes
did not help at the time. I’m a perfectionist and so I started
wanting more and more from myself and no matter how hard I
worked I was never proud. The thought that I may not get the
maximum score in my exams was just killing me. OK – to cut a long
story short – I did NOT get the maximum score but that Did NOT kill
me. As they say, it made me a little bit stronger because my hard
work paid off, and now, I study at the school of my choice.
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"HOW FAR CAN I GO IN LIFE?
HOW FAR CAN I REACH?"
I have one parent, a single mother. She and my two pets are my
only family. Mum is an amazing person and an absolutely beautiful
woman. Unfortunately, the situation we are in is complex. Because
of family drama, my mum and I were forced to move out of the flat
she potentially owns and bought through loans. She has a lover who
is also her boss at work. He helped us find a rentable studio and
started supporting us financially by paying the rent and electricity
bills because my mama earns enough money to just put food on the
table and buy a few new clothes. In the beginning, her lover was
kind and respectful to us. But as it usually happens, when my poor
mama and I became dependent on him he lost any respect for us
and started treating us, especially my mum as his maidservant. But
because if she goes against him, we will be left to live on the
street. She keeps silent when she is mistreated and perseveres.
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I have asked her a couple of times why she is not leaving him and
every time I hear her answer my question it makes my heart ache. “I
endure all of this because I want you to have an opportunity for a
better life. I do not want you to be dependent on somebody else
like I am right now and have to keep your head down. If you become
independent, I will be too. It will just take time."
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No, they are not the only things that matter to me. Put that way,
what matters to me would be how far I can go in life. How far can I
reach? To fulfill my potential. How many people's lives can I make
more positive or even better? How can I live my life to the fullest in
terms of personal development and achievements - that is
essentially what matters to me. I do not know how I am even going
to do all of these aspirations yet. But I deeply hope to find out on a
day when there is still a lot of time until my end.
To sum up, a person can have more than one answer to the
question ``What matters to me?". There is not only one thing that
matters to someone. When looked through different perspectives
the answer to that same question changes. On the one hand,
financial stability and being independent are the things that matter
most to me when I think of the present. On the other hand, when I
put into perspective my life as a whole the thing that matters to me
is getting the most out of life and leaving my imprint on people's
hearts.
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"GOODNESS MAKES THE HEART
BIGGER"
The first thing that comes to everyone's mind when they hear the
question "what matters to me" is family or friends.
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Of course, family is the people with whom you not only share blood
but also the people with whom you share an emotional connection.
They are the only ones who will love you despite everything you do.
Apart from the family, which comes first for most people, as well
as for me, there are other things that I consider important for
myself.
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And I stopped looking for them under the bed because I noticed
that some people were real monsters, that some people were real
monsters, but I still keep saying and believing that it is good in
them. However, no matter how disgusting someone is, everyone
deserves to hear something good about themselves. Somehow, we
are all human and we all deserve support. That kindness is a very
important quality. That someone has disappointed me shouldn't
stop me from believing that there is still humanity in people,
should it? The fact that the world has become home to rough
monsters shouldn't stop me from believing that there is still
humanity in them, right? Sure. Maybe the world has gone crazy
because we helped him. However, I will always help when and where
I can, because as different as we are, we are so alike. At the very
least, we share a common home. Yet goodness makes the heart
bigger. And "having a big heart doesn't weigh, it just helps."
I think these are the things that are important to me. It was a
challenging task, but through it, I was able to conclude for myself.
I managed to write my way of thinking, and yet "The world as we
created it is a process of our thinking. “I think it is a great success
if a person already knows what he wants in his youth. But most still
have a long way to go, consisting of trial and error, to understand
exactly what is important to them. Defining a person's life goals is
one of the main conditions for success. And it is important not only
to set goals but also to think often that you are capable of
achieving them and that you will achieve them.
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"ONE ONLY FINDS HAPPINESS
IF THEY LOVE WHAT THEY'VE
ACHIEVED WITH THEIR OWN
CHOICES"
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Now imagine a world without the need for money and all the free
time. To be able to do what you want, to follow your dreams,
experiment, travel, and understand new heights without being
forced into the cast of rich and poor. In other words, a land where
humanity could experience true freedom! What a fantastic place
that could be!
I ask myself the question, how I would use my time if I had the
opportunity to live in such a world? Let's see - I'd move to a
charming city near the sea. I'd bask in its waves, sand, sun, and
breeze. I would build a house on the shore and lay the foundations
of my life. And here is where the interesting part of my life would
begin. For sure, I would join a volunteering organization so I could
help people in need. This way, I'd be able to make new friendships
and learn to be selfless, which would make me feel satisfied with
how I've spent my time. Then I would set up my dream daily regime,
which would consist of waking up early, running on the beach,
training, and meditating. Then I'd come home and make myself a
healthy breakfast, lunch, and dinner meanwhile spending a lot of
time with my family. If it rains, I'd watch a movie, read a book, or
listen to music. Together with my family, we would go to places
we’d always dreamed of seeing. We would explore the entire world,
taking in every sight as we want it. As for myself, I'd do something
new, like write a book or try a new sport. Anything to truly
challenge me to the best of my ability. This way I’ll discover new
heights and understand more about the world around me. That is
how I’ll become a better person.
This is the life I would choose to live in a world where we are free
to use our time however we wish - the best version of myself. I
have no doubts that every other person would strive to become
their perfect image.
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Without money as a catalyst for greed, jealousy, and hate, people
would all be kind to each other. They would appreciate their
desires and would help them achieve a point of satisfaction.
Humanity would be prosperous and gentle, and in turn, the nature
that surrounds it would be the same. Everyone, including myself,
would be a part of harmonious existence, including the best part of
it.
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"IF DIDN’T HAVE TO WORK FOR
MONEY - I WOULD CREATE"
But what I think is more important here is that art always somehow
improves my mental health. If I’m feeling unmotivated and
discouraged with myself or with life in general - books for example
offer me a form of escapism where I can be safe and comfortable
inside of this little bubble of mine.
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I can forget for a second where am I and imagine everything being
different - I know this is not reality, I’m not delusional, but it still
helps me bring some positivity to my life. I know that if things
don’t work at the moment, I can always play my favorite movie and
laugh and cry and just feel with its characters.
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The feeling I get when the muse hits me when my imagination
unfolds, all of the wheels spinning inside, creating something
emotional and compelling and aesthetically pleasing - now this is
something to look forward to. It’s a great feeling when they say
your name and you hear all the applause as you go collect the
rewards and listen to the congratulations people are happy to give
you because you did a great job at making them feel something.
Last year this happened to me, and as I stepped onto the podium,
the author who gave me the award almost cried in front of everyone
and I remember her telling me: “Thank you for this story. When I
read it, I thought of myself, thought of my daughter, thought of the
possibility of what you have written becoming a reality and it made
me shiver to my core.” At this moment I swore this is what I wanted
to do for the rest of my life.
Funnily enough, here comes one of the most important lessons I’ve
learned - no one told you life would be fair. And by this I mean -
writing can make me happy and full-filed all it wants but when
reality slaps you, you understand that the possibility of making
good money and being able to provide for yourself and
hypothetically your future family seems unstable and unreliable.
All your life you need to either chase the “gold line” hoping you’re
somehow lucky to get everything right or settle for something
which seems like a solution but it’s ultimately not. I have countless
examples around me of sad people. People who go to work every
day, from 9 to 5, for so many years that they’ve lost every spark in
them. They have now become some creature that is hungry for
money, power, or simply tranquility and easiness. They are
miserable even though they don’t always admit it, but how can you
admit such a thing? All your life you’ve been doing what you
thought best, but best for who?
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Turns out the job you worked for so long is something you detest,
can’t even look at and every day, everything you want is to just
come home and forget about it for a while.
I can’t be sure of everything in this life - I’m not this wise and I
don’t think I want to be, but I do know that writing matters to me to
the point that I consider making it something I can practice in my
precious little life here, hoping it would last the test of time,
leaving a piece that people would look up to for whatever the
personal reason and it would help them in the best way possible.
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"THE MOST IMPORTANT
THINGS IN LIFE ARE THE ONES
MONEY CANNOT BUY"
Nowadays, what matters the most to the better part of society and
my peers, in particular, is money. Being rich and famous are the
only things they are convinced they need to be happy. However, in
my opinion, there are more important things in life- being healthy,
having an education, not being afraid for your life and well-being,
and feeling loved. Having a friend, you can count on is of utmost
importance, as well. But what matters the most to me is living my
life knowing that I hurt no one, knowing that no one I care about is
hurting.
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They are the ones who lend an ear to my troubles and help me find
a solution to my problems; they always give me sound advice. They
are the ones who love me unconditionally, just the way I love them
back unreservedly. I would not feel whole if I knew they were put in
harm’s way.
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Ever since I was a little girl, I have been giving my best at school,
have been participating in all aspects of school life, and so far, I
have won a lot of prizes which stimulated me to enrich and improve
myself further. All of this shaped me into the person I am today and
will benefit me in the process of achieving my goals and pursuing a
career path that is meant for me. Knowing that I am walking on the
right way to my success boosts my confidence and self-assurance.
I realize deeply, that education is what gives one a chance for a
better future. All in all, education aids people to gain knowledge
and enlightens them. Education can mold lives and help you turn
your life around when at a loss. Education can save lives.
Last but not least, being healthy is another thing that holds great
significance for me. Out of everything I have achieved and own,
knowing that my loved ones and I are in good health gives me the
feeling of being safe and protected, and simultaneously warms my
heart. Ever since the moment I felt bereavement- the intense grief
and pain following the loss of someone I loved dearly, I have felt
blessed that everyone I love is safe and sound. My health and the
well-being of my nearest and dearest is the greatest wealth. Health
is priceless. Health is crucial. It is something that money cannot
buy. Therefore, I do not forget to be grateful for it every single
day.
To sum up, the way I see it, the most important things in life are
the ones money cannot buy. Family, love, health, and the
opportunity to be educated are indispensable for my feeling
wholesome and are an integral part of a fulfilled life I would like to
live; which is why they all equally matter to me. Living your life to
the fullest without suffering and living your life without harming
others in the process- that is what matters. That is all you need.
That is all the world needs, and that is what matters the most.
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"ALL I WANT IS TO SHINE MY
WHITE LIGHT, WHEREVER I
POINT TO"
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You pay no mind to his “funny” quotation, until today he added, that
everybody wants to fill it to the top with an answer, but it just
overflows. Now you’re at home puzzling over his idea, while you
forgot that your right hand is holding a glass, which you’re filling
with water. All of a sudden it overflows. You got lost in your
spectrum and now your hand is wet and cold. Again. It becomes
ironic. Not only do you do this to yourself every day, but you get
lost in a different nuance every time. And now the world is asking
implicitly for you to take ownership. “What should I do?” you finally
get the courage to ask yourself.
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You realize that what matters is the ordinary matter. In this
moment of “…”, all questions answer themselves. “…” matters! It
occurs to you that your One feels suffocated, because you’re just
projecting to her one color from your spectrum and she loves your
whole inherently particular light, so you realize, that the pure,
naturally ordinary “…” matters! This is your definition of “matters”!
And you share it with her! The whole spectrum is understood, it is
transmitted as pure, natural white.
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"I BELIEVE THAT WE, AS
HUMANKIND, SHOULD CHANGE
FOR GOOD TOGETHER"
These days, from what I have seen I believe that more and more
people my age are easily satisfied by their current lifestyle and do
not dream for more. However, that is not the same for me. My
dreams are one of the main things that matter to me and more
precisely my dream of becoming an astronaut. The other prominent
idea that I strongly believe in is that we need to change.
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This is my current step towards my biggest goal. I am getting ready
to apply to American universities because I would like to study
aerospace engineering. For many, this may sound irrational or
impossible to achieve but it has been my dream for a long time
now. Getting a good degree in such a field is hard not only because
of the major itself but because not many universities in the world
offer a full scholarship to international students. Even though I
work even harder because the competition is ginormous, I still have
to face failure. For instance, last year I applied for an exchange
program in the United States. I was pretty confident in my essays
and recommendations. However, when I had to take an English test
to prove my English abilities, I had some trouble with it because it
was computer-based. Anyways, I kept my thoughts optimistic and I
end up having an interview which in my opinion went well. A couple
of days later, I received an email saying I was not approved to
continue further. I was devastated. I had to put up with mockery
and comments that ensured me that after all, I am not that smart. I
lost hope in myself, letting all the negative comments and thoughts
in my head. I lost my smile and even though I was trying to hide the
disappointment, I just could not. One day I went for a walk still
reflecting on the past event, when I remembered that I would have
another chance to live in the U.S – if I get into my dream university
and that my life does not end with this exchange program. Since
that day, I celebrate every small achievement throughout my
everyday life. For example, I tap my shoulder with a smile on my
face after every excellent grade or when I manage to finish all the
things I planned.
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That is why I am willing to move to a different continent by myself.
I am eager to try new activities such as American football, surfing,
and archery. I also believe that we, as humankind, should change
for good together so we can find cures for cancer, for example, or
explore the universe. Who knows what is hidden out there? I think
that if we spend more time learning new things instead of spending
every minute online watching Tik-Toks or whatever, we could make
major changes. Of course, before trying to colonize Mars, we should
help our planet because right now the Earth needs us more than
ever. We could stop child labor, pollution, and wars only if we
worked together for one cause.
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"FROM HOPELESSNESS TO
MEANINGFULNESS"
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What could a person, whose life has barely begun, tell others about
the lessons he‘s picked on through life and try to talk about
suffering in a real sense? I‘ll try as best as I can, one may only
hope it doesn‘t sound overly egotistical.
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friend groups and webs that would ultimately crumble on my head.
To keep an extremely lengthy and personal story short, I had to
grapple with a lack of communicative know-how and jargon that
was natural to other people which was, to me, completely
unintelligible, but I integrated it through humor, jokes, and
mimicking (i.e. a certain lack of personality and a wish for
adaptation) – I left one friend group I‘d been with for another after
a very bitter argument and so it was that, for a while, I was
content. My biggest mistake? Not thinking through where my
contention came from. It was not the people per se, it was the
acceptance and the unwavering support that I received from them
at that time, respect and a willingness to help that is very near and
dear to me – but I thought that it wasn‘t I who had something going
for me, I thought I was lucky. A year and a half of puberty, a year
and a half of misunderstandings and disrespect towards all I stood
for, a year and a half of tearing to shreds every single hope and
romance, the confidence that I had before, the feeling that the
world and its people stood before me. What did I do while my
friends in quotes were driving lives into the ground, including mine
– I was a quiet and broken bystander with Stockholm syndrome. I
believed, earnest to God, that it was I who had to bridge
differences, give out apologies and morph my personality, since
that‘s everything I did before to belong somewhere – I compromised
almost everything that made me who I am and it was never enough.
From a person, who‘s always been known for his sense of humor, I
became the owner – I never spoke, I only walked around like a spirit
and followed. This all came ahead one faithful night when my family
and one of my friends gathered for a very serious occasion and all
the dirty laundry was hung. And so it was that my longtime friend
decided to stop communicating with me without giving any sort of
explanation, and I, well, I fell into a serious depression the likes of
which I hadn‘t and hope I won‘t experience.
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I started doubting whether or not I could even speak my mother
language, so I stopped speaking for months, I was mute, and I felt
so inadequate that the thought of returning to reality and
friendships, let alone love, was so absurd, that it drove me to tears
– as if I was laying flowers on my epitaph, for a person who had
long past and refused to come back. Six months. Six months of
dread, torture, doubt, loneliness, and refusal to go back into
civilization, refusal to give people a chance, and thought that I
deserved none. Friends I did receive, quite unexpectedly, through
humor, ironically enough these were the same people that I had left
in the beginning and they gave me confidence that I hadn‘t
experienced in years – I learned that, no, I wasn‘t illiterate, I am, in
fact, a good public speaker, that I am not socially inept, but quite
the opposite – that it is people, and good-natured ones, that fill my
every day with inexplicable joy, that make me listen attentively to
every chirp and look at every tree with awe.
It is the life I cherish, people that I hold dear to me, and every new
person I meet is, in themselves, a world that I discover anew – this
is the lesson that I have learned thus far. And I am forever grateful
for the fact that I found a meaning so early on and that, when
asked about the mechanisms behind my day-to-day, I can answer
without a shadow of a doubt. I enjoyed life as a kid and I enjoy it
now, yet today I am sure of what and who stands behind me. This is
my tribute to everyone and thing that has formed my life thus far.
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"A CALM AND JOYFUL
ATMOSPHERE IS THE KEY TO
THE FORGING OF STRONG
CONNECTION"
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To start, the very first image that appeared in my mind when I read
the question was a picture of all my most trusted, loyal, and
supportive friends and all members of my precious family.Although
this might sound quite trivial and cliche, these are the people that
I can't (or wouldn’t like to) imagine my life without. I do admit that
the concepts of "family'' and ''friend'' are slippery ones, but I would
like to stick to the simple meanings of these simple, yet powerful
words. The relationships that I share with my closest people
haven't always been smooth and steady, but this is only a small
distraction (most of the time) that is quickly gotten rid of with
mutual understanding, heartfelt feelings, and smooth relationships.
In my opinion, behind these three standards of interaction, hides
the foundation of building a strong, loving, and trustworthy
relationship between people. In other words, a calm and joyful
atmosphere is the key to forging strong connections. This is the
main reason that I find my family and friend truly special.
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geniuses of the twentieth century, the father of modern chemistry,
Albert Einstein. One of his most powerful and fascinating
quotations is connected with the theme of nature. My personal
favorite is "Look deep into nature and you will understand
everything better." He has also admitted that even himself can
understand the essence of the wilderness only imperfectly and
partially, so I believe that it's only moral to take nature with
humility.
The third and final most valuable and dear thing for me is my
interests, or in other less formal words hobbies. In my humble
opinion, when a person carries out actions that include his
passions in one form or another, then he feels most fulfilled and,
as banal as it may sound, truly happy. During such times, I think a
person feels the most in his comfort zone, but not in the boring
meaning of the word. When a person is actively seeking more
information about a certain topic and trying to hone his knowledge
in a given field of knowledge, he is closest to enlightenment. It
doesn't matter what a person's interests are as long as they aren't
harmful and he or she passionately loves them. To put it simply
(and more philosophically), they give us purpose and that's what
separates life from mere existence. If you live aimlessly and for
today, then life wouldn’t be fulfilling. It's also important to note
that there exist two types of hobbies: real and non-existent ones.
If I have to speak for myself, I have several in both cases. As
wonderful as the effects might be, there are side effects also (like
most things in life). If you are more passionate about the other
type much more than the additional one, you might lose a sense of
the other world. For example, getting too nerdy about fantasy
interests can make you unskilled and unprepared for real life and
that's why a certain balance is needed.
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All in all, I can't imagine my life without these three aspects
contained in it, because it wouldn't be called living anymore - it
would be just a meaningless turn of events, and I am extremely
thankful that I have all three of them!
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"SMALL GESTURES OF
KINDNESS AND RESPECT FROM
OTHER PEOPLE ARE
ESSENTIAL"
To begin with, I would like to point out that health matters most to
me because if I am sick, I will not be able to be successful at
school and university. I will not be able to achieve my goals in life
either. I know that if I want to be healthy, I should take care of my
health as much as possible. Eating healthy food and exercising
properly are the basic things I can do. For example, I can cook
delicious meals at home, and instead of buying junk food during the
lunch break, I bring homemade food to school. I also try to eat an
abundance of fruit and vegetables and drink a lot of water. In
addition, I work out daily and monitor how many calories I burn
during the day.
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After my workout, I usually drink a protein shake because it helps
my body to grow and be strong and energetic. In our town, there is
an organized race in the sea garden on weekends and when the
weather is good, I participate. Since I live in Burgas-a town on the
Black Sea coast-I have a chance to swim every summer which is a
great opportunity to be in good health.
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Another essential thing that matters to me is friendship. In my
view, it is important to have true friends no matter how many they
are because good friendship has a positive impact on me, it gives
me emotional support and I feel more self-confident. As an
illustration, I have had a friend for two years. We have a lot in
common. We study at the same school, we go out together and we
help each other. She is my true friend because I can always count
on her. I get along with her without the fear of being criticized.
She respects my dignity and as a result, I feel loved and accepted.
This friendship enriches my life. She always challenges me to be
better. She encourages me to keep going and always celebrates my
success with me. “One study of high school students found that
those who were depressed were twice as likely to recover if they
had good friends”. When I feel unsure and sad my friend is beside
me and helps me to build my self-esteem. She is supportive and
tells me how amazing I am and how much I can offer others. As she
is generous, helpful, ambitious, and family-oriented, I also try to
develop these values myself. She is a great friend and encourages
me to be the best version of myself.
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And strangely Paige also wrote, “I like it when the teacher comes”.
This example shows us that it is extremely important how other
people treat us. Their attitude encourages us not to lose hope even
when we have hard times. For me small gestures of kindness and
respect from other people are essential and very often they make
me feel happy.
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In conclusion, health, family, friendship, a good attitude to me,
andknowledge are major factors that have a great impact on me
and help me to establish myself as a positive person and that is the
reason why they matter a lot to me. “Think positive, be positive and
positive things will happen”. As a positive person, I focus on what
is good in my life. I lead a healthy life, I respect my family, I spend
time with my good friends and I surround myself with positive
people. I look up to good people because they motivate me,
appreciate me, help me grow as a decent person, and encourage me
to achieve my goals.
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"LIFE ITSELF IS OUR BIGGEST
AND MOST PRECIOUS
TEACHER"
Every day we learn something new. From our first day till our last
destined day on this planet we never stop learning new lessons. We
learn many things in school, but school is not the only existing
thing we can learn from. Life itself is our biggest and most
precious teacher. Some of the lessons it gives us we cannot learn
anywhere else. One of these valuable lessons is that no matter
what happens we cannot surrender we must always fight. And from
my perspective right now this is the most important life lesson I
have learned so far. I am barely seventeen years old. An age that I
know looks negligible to most people. In the eyes of the adults, I
am still a child. And there came the question- what is this so
important lesson that this girl has already learned? Who does she
think she is to recount? What difficulties had she overcome? What
life experience does she have? Seventy years old men surely have
more life experience than her.
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He can tell us many things. Why listen to her? admit many adults
have overcome more problems than I have. Their difficulties have
given them various knowledge. They may know things that I will
never have the luck to learn on my own. But on another hand, there
are people double my age who haven’t been through all the stuff I
had been through and don’t know the life lessons I have learned.
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My panic attacks appeared more and more rarely than before and
soon they completely stopped. My mother and I were very happy.
Somewhere within the next few years I forgave my father, but not
because of the presents. I forgave him because I was tired. I
wanted to put every bad thing of my past behind my back. I wanted
to resume my life and if I wanted to do this well, I needed no more
rage, wrath, or thirst for vengeance in my life. I forgave him
because I wanted to continue my life.
When I was fourteen years old, he passed away. It turned out that
all these years within which he was trying to become on good terms
with me he was terminally ill. Back in the time maybe this was the
reason he contacted me after his two years long disappearance.
Maybe this was his last attempt to be a good dad maybe it was not.
I will never know for sure. But anyway, with time singing was no
longer just a hobby for me. I started singing professionally. Singing
became my biggest passion in life. When I am on a stage
performing and I see the people’s smiles I feel so happy. I feel at
peace and I know that there is nothing that can compare to it. I had
and still have things to improve in my singing but I am working hard
to achieve my goals and fix every inaccuracy in my singing. And I
can proudly say that I am making big progress with it. With every
passing year, I win bigger and bigger awards from the competitions
I participate which prove enough for me my progress.
And now here comes the question- why do I tell you all these things
from my past? Here’s the answer – thanks to all these difficulties I
overcame I learned a lot.
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It’s unhealthy for us to cling to them. I realized that most children
prefer more attention from their parents than one more expensive
toy to add to their collection. I realized that what happened in the
past had already happened and nothing we do now can’t change it.
There is no point in clinging to negative episodes from the past.
Accumulating unnecessary wrath in ourselves is deleterious. When
we forgive someone, it helps that someone, but it also helps us to
move forward. I learned that perfect people do not exist and that
not all people are good.
I learned many important things from both of them, but the most
essential one I learned is from my mother. For me, the most
important life lesson I have learned so far is that no matter what
happens we cannot surrender we must fight. Even in our most dark
moments, there is still a grain of hope that shines in the darkness.
If we don’t give up, but fight if we search for a solution to our
problems sooner or later, we will find it. And with the answer to our
problem, we can find and something more. Something precious and
new. Let’s look at my panic attacks for example. They are
something horrible but thanks to my stubbornness to deal with
them I found my passion for music.
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If I had surrendered fighting, I may still have been experiencing the
attacks every night and I may have never found my love for singing.
Thanks to my consistency and will now I am fine. I sincerely believe
that if a person doesn’t surrender when a difficult situation comes
to him and fights, he can do miracles. The key to success is
constant diligent work.
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"THINK TWICE BEFORE SAYING
ANYTHING"
If you learn how to figure out people’s personalities you can mimic
their personalities. They’d start liking you immediately because
people are narcissists. Their favorite animal is a rabbit, buy
yourself a rabbit plushie and go out with them boom friends. Most
people don’t care about you, your needs, or your liking. They will
talk shit behind the back call your name and you’d still be best
friends with them because you don’t know all that. That stabbing in
your back hurts you emotionally and it can even give you trauma
but they don’t care.
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They only care about you until you are useful to them, when they
stop using you, they’d throw you in a pit and won’t give two fucks
about you. But I mean if you knew that they were a shitty person all
that trauma and depression could’ve been avoided, but you can’t
know, you can never know. That is shitty.
Just because most people are shitty that doesn’t mean that all
people are though. Green flag people exist! My favorite examples of
that are probably people with glasses. They have these sweet and
innocent vibes. They’d never judge you and you can see it. I
recommend keeping these people close. They might have a lot of
insecurities but it’s worth it to get to know them. They are the pure
sun.
You might ask “What about red flag people?” Most red flags can’t be
seen in the appearance but sometimes they can. For example, a
teenage boy with shaved hair and always sporty clothes is a major
red flag. If a girl gets into a relationship with him, he’d try to put
his moves on seducing the girl because he is a teenager and
hormones are everything he has. Believe me one of 3 boys that look
like that is the guy I described. You might ask what about some
green flags on appearance.
If you want people to like you, for some weird reason, you’d have to
learn the fineness of reading people. If you see a person wearing
baggy clothes then you know they have father issues. A person’s
appearance matches their personality. A more masculine look on a
girl can tell you that her parents don’t have a good relationship. A
boy wearing a rock band t-shirt can tell you that he got his heart
broken as a child and now thinks that love is not for him. Especially
if the band is “My Chemical Romance”. People who listen to the
band have a lot of issues.
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Mostly parental or maybe some childhood trauma and are stuck on
that unhappy time and they have made their whole personality on
that. I recommend getting to know the people and their likes and
dislikes and then getting close. A very important rule that you’ll
have to remember is to not say too much information about
yourself. If you start the conversation with something that you like,
be careful what it is. If you get close to one person you attach
yourself to them with the invisible strings of fate and get
vulnerable. If a said person leaves you the depression will come
and when depression comes nothing good happens. You’d ask me
well okay but what will we talk about if I can’t bring up that I like
The Marvel Universe or sunny weather? Look I didn’t say you can’t
say those stuff but just be careful. Think twice before saying
anything. For example, you say you like the MCU (Marvel Universe)
and they also like it. Now you have something that you too can like
together for the time that you two are friends and when they leave
you every Marvel movie you see you’ll compare to them.
Of course, I’m not saying fuck your friends because you saw two
red flags in them. If it’s just two minor flags it’s fine, that’s fine.
Not everyone is a bad person, some just have had a rough past. As
one wise man once said “the kindest hearts have suffered the most
pain”, now I don’t know who said that but it is wise.
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"THE MOST PRECIOUS THING
IN ME IS MY IDENTITY"
As the famous physic, Einstein said, "Once you stop learning, you
start dying." We learn all our life - we study in school and
university. We learn from our experience; we learn from our
mistakes. There are important lessons that remain in our hearts
and help us grow and become mature people.
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I was thinking that it would be a good idea to do the same with
them, but when my parents found out, they advised me to not do it
anymore because that way I ruin my studies and my chance for a
better life in the future. I learned that the most precious thing in
me is my identity, and you don’t have to change just because you
want to be friends with someone.
Any person has different needs and goals in life. You need to follow
these goals until you reach them and accomplish them, and you’ll
be happy that you have done something you like and that makes you
happy. I always wanted to be a translator when I get older, and now
I have reached my goal to be in a school that can teach me a
language and prepares me for my dreams. That was my first big
goal, and with the help of my parent’s support, I reached that goal.
There are a lot of teenagers these days that are scared to express
themselves, including me, but what we all teens need to know is
that everything is possible if you do the right thing. People say, “A
person is as big as their dreams”.
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What is important is that when you fall you must get back on your
feet. One important life lesson I learned from my mistakes is that I
should tell the truth to the people I care about and love because
trust builds love.
But maybe the most important life lesson I learned from my parents
is the way a person responds to life challenges. Every challenge
represents a crossroads in your life. Therefore, every person needs
to respond to possibly the best way to a challenge even if it’s bad.
“What you sow you will reap”.
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"EVERYTHING WOULD BE
MUCH EASIER IF EVERYONE
HAD THE SAME AMOUNT OF
MONEY"
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It is one awesome feeling seeing your students and horses doing
well, competing at the top level, and winning a lot of classes! After
all that, I would like to travel around the world because I think it is
really interesting to see different countries, different people and
different cultures! When you travel to new places you can learn a
lot of new things! I think that I am a lucky person because I have
traveled to a lot of different countries and I have seen a lot of
things. For me, one human needs to want to know and to see new
things. You can always learn something new at every age of your
life! The places I most want to visit are maybe China and Japan.
These two countries are new worlds! They have nothing in common
with Europe and I am really curious to see what these places hide!
One more thing that I would do if I didn’t have to work for money is
to have shelter for animals. I adore animals and I enjoy helping
them and finding them new forever homes and loving owners. There
are so many unhappy animals that haven’t seen anything good from
the people and need a second chance! Most people don’t
understand this type of problem and continue buying from breeders
but we should change that.
The fourth thing that I would do is have an animal reserve that
helps the wild animals. I like looking at wild animals but I don’t like
the fact that they are kept in small cages for life even though they
are healthy and don’t have any problems! If I had a reserve, the
animals there would only be animals that need help and won’t be
able to survive in the wild. And if they have only small injuries I
would cure and release them back into nature.
And the fifth thing I would do if I didn’t have to work for money is
be a teacher. I think that this is one of the hardest and most tiring
jobs in the world!
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You have to be patient and have really big nerves and a really big
heart! You meet a lot of new people and make a lot of new friends!
When I look at my teachers in class, I can see that they are born for
their profession, they know what to do in every situation and it’s
never wrong! Even if you are the teacher and you teach the kids
you could always learn something from them too!
There are a lot of things that I would do if I had the freedom to not
work for money but the main one is my sport because that is my
passion and also spending time with my family and my friends!
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"SEE THE BEAUTY OF THE
WORLD AND USE IT AS AN
OPPORTUNITY FOR SELF-
DEVELOPMENT"
Since time is one of the things that you cannot buy, we have to
sacrifice a lot of our time, so we can have a comfortable life. Even
though it’s not a choice, we could do otherwise. We would still be
competent to achieve great things without the helping hand of
money.
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And I did not enjoy the social part of the job, not because of the
anxiety, but because it was harder to deal with some of the people
there, and how entitled and disrespectful some of them were. And
I’d say that such experiences humble you a lot and give you some
sense of respect for such workers.
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Whenever I had classes with my German teacher a big chunk of the
lessons would turn into a history one. Furthermore, I’ve learned so
much about how languages throughout the years evolved. My
teacher Mr. Łuczak said, ‘learning languages is like sports. You
have to practice very often, it takes years, and also you have to
maintain it. Once you stop, it can be easy to forget. But the
knowledge is always stored back there in your head. And when you
start going back to it, the words will be very familiar to you and
way easier to learn them again.’
I guess I would say that my teacher influenced my morals the most
since he is like a role model to me in a way. He managed to
convince me that you can achieve great things without money.
In conclusion, I would mostly travel and visit any country, from the
poorest to the richest. If you think about it no country is poor. I
think that every country has its wealth. That could be beautiful
places, culture, knowledge, etc. Mahatma Gandhi said, ‘A nation's
culture resides in the hearts and the soul of its people.’
And these are things that you cannot buy, but the experience. See
the beauty of the world and use it as an opportunity for self-
development.
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Most people go through a ‘’culture shock’’, they either hate it or
makes them more open-minded. Furthermore, that's how it
impacted me. It made me very open-minded about many things. I
assume that being open has great benefits. I’ve noticed a lot of
relatives becoming a bit more open after moving to other
countries. The more you travel and the more you see, you become
way less judgmental. Even if I had to work to be able to have a
lifestyle like this, I would still choose this kind of life. Traveling to
me it’s about being at peace with your mind, accepting differences,
exploring, knowledge, and judging others less.
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A COLLECTION OF YOUNG PEOPLE'S ESSAYS
WHAT MATTERS
TO ME & WHY?
Published by:
Foundation "SolidarityWorks", village of Drugan, Bulgaria
Partners:
AMG Publishing
FOUNDATION "SOLIDARITYWORKS"