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ASSERT YOURSELF
Reponse Styles
Some researchers have typically noted four different response styles and suggest that we tend to
behave consistently from one of these style: Aggressive, Passive, Passive-Aggressive, or Assertive.
The chart below outlines what you might see with each:
PASSIVE-
PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE AGGRESSIVE ASSERTIVE
Non-verbal Shrugging Clenched jaw and Can look like Makes eye
Sighing muscles either aggressive contact
Looking away Leaning into or passive, or Open body stance
personal space even assertive Relaxed
Arms crossed
Adapted from: Pfeiffer, J. (1981). A Handbook of Structured Experience for Human Relations, Vol. VIII. University Associates.
Reflect
Think of some situations at work where you have heard critical or judgmental comments. Write the
statement you heard and then write a rational reply, either as a question or a statement.
Statement:
Reply:
Statement:
Reply:
TIP Start small: pick one area to focus your attention, like your body
language or controlling emotional responses. Ask someone you trust to
help you improve in this area and give them permission to tell you when
you need to make a modication, and then, practice the change with
them. You can find more ideas to help you at
http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-living/stress-management/in-depth/
assertive/art-20044644 or http://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/
Assertiveness.htm.