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Domenic Donjuan
10 April 2023
Introduction
Religion, religious families, and the LGBTQ+ community have not always been very
nice to each other. Across the globe, churches have different teachings about homosexuality.
Some say that it is only natural and should be accepted. On the other hand, some churches say
that it is not normal and should not be accepted, according to their sacred religious texts.
Similarly, the opinions and views of those who surround the parents of sexual minority children
could have an impact on how the parents react to their kid disclosing their orientation. Positive
reactions would allow a queer individual to feel good about themselves, which will help them in
maintaining a positive lifestyle. Contrarily, negative reactions from parents will cause a child to
feel regretful and turn to drugs/substances in an attempt to heal from the situation. Each outcome
is different for every household all around the world. Still, it remains uncertain what exactly
child. Some religious families struggle coming to terms with and accepting their child’s sexual
orientation because of homonegative things that are taught at churches, which can cause harm to
The religious beliefs that a family has could identify as a major reason as to why they
may or may not accept their sexual minority child. This all depends on what the family is being
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taught at church, as churches can sometimes promote different things around the nation. For
example, Yen and Zampelli state that “most religions teach that gay sex is unnatural, disordered,
and sinful” (197). On the other hand, other religions could teach that such actions are completely
normal and should not bother anybody. Conflicting teachings from different types of religions
could explain why some families are more queer friendly than others. Similarly, certain religious
people might have learned negative things about the LGBTQ+ community from any religious
texts. For example, Ward explains that “[h]omophobia in black churches is … directly related to
the authority given to a perceived literal interpretation of scripture” (495). People, at least those
in black churches, have formed negative perspectives on the LGBTQ+ community simply
because their religious texts say that homosexuality is not normal. These people will refuse to
listen to any other opinion on the LGBTQ+ community; they will follow through with whatever
their religion states. Additionally, Leach and Gore have found that some Christians want “to take
[LGBTQ] members away from their congregations” (86). Christians want absolutely nothing to
do with the LGBTQ+ community while they are doing their religious practices. However,
recently, the “views and attitudes” from Christians on the queer community continue to “become
more positive, especially with the support of civil rights movements and overall exposure”
(Leach and Gore 86). While there may not be a specific religion or church that causes a family to
condemn homosexuality, it all comes down to what they are exposed to while becoming more
Each family has their own ways of handling things, including how they react to their
child disclosing their sexual orientation to them. The consequences of a queer child doing so can
be positive, negative, or even a mix of the two. However, D’Augelli et al. state that “disclosure
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to families … [is a] critical [factor] in the adjustment of lesbian, gay, and bisexual youth” (367).
At some point in a LGBTQ+ person’s life, they will have to tell their family about their sexual
orientation whether they want to or not. The action of disclosing their orientation to their parents
has the possibility to be life changing for the individual, depending on the reaction from their
family. In fact, this is the reason some queer individuals choose to keep it to themselves.
LGBTQ+ identifying kids are sometimes reluctant to let their family know about their sexual
orientation because the action has the possibility of becoming one of the biggest issues in their
lives (McCormick and Baldridge 33). The last thing queer children want is to have problems
with their own parents. They may try to suppress anything that could make them come off as gay
to their loved ones, especially their father. Within the immediate family of the queer individual,
the father is most likely the one to have the worst reaction, as “negative reactions [are] twice as
common among [them]” (D’Augelli et al. 365). This is most likely a result of the father
attempting to portray an image of being very masculine, and to them, being homosexual is the
very opposite of that. Each coming out experience and reaction is different, per the LGBTQ+
person’s family.
The process of coming out to a highly faithful family and being rejected by them can
have negative effects on a LGBTQ+ person’s daily life and health. According to Bybee et al.,
“[g]ay […] men and women have a greater lifetime incidence of anxiety disorders, mood
disorders, and substance-use disorders” (144). After a person is rejected by their family or loved
ones, they experience feelings they have never encountered before. Those thoughts and feelings
can cause a queer person to feel insecure and uncertain about their future. Additionally, a
LGBTQ+ person rejected by their family could possibly turn to drugs that they have never used
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before so that they can numb their feelings and forget about what happened. After disclosing
their sexuality, members of the queer community may experience “loss of friends, or parents
distancing themselves” (Gattamorta and Quidley-Rodriguez 755). These actions can cause the
person to feel as if they are alone and have nobody to reach out to, especially if the relationship
with their parents changed negatively after disclosure. People being distant from the LGBTQ+
identifying person right after they come out is common for religious families and friends who
might feel as if homosexual feelings are being forced upon them by that person. If a family is
extremely serious about rejecting their queer child, they might consider sending them to
“conversion therapy in the hopes of redefining the self as heterosexual” (Leach and Gore 86).
Conversion therapy is a type of therapy that attempts to change a LGBTQ+ person’s sexual
orientation to heterosexual. Not only does it almost never work on people, but it is very harmful
and dangerous to a queer identifying person’s health. Such “therapy” can ruin a person’s life and
leave them traumatized. There are still many other ways that a LGBTQ+ person is affected when
they are rejected by their loved ones. However, not all people will experience rejection upon
coming out.
There may be times when a LGBTQ+ person is accepted and supported by their religious
family. For example, accepting parents of the individual are likely to say that “their love for their
child would not change under any circumstances,” resulting in “fewer relationship disruptions
following the coming out discussion” (Drumm et al. 141). Such assurance from parents to a
queer identifying child will make the kid ultimately feel glad that they disclosed their sexual
orientation to their parents. Additionally, unconditional love makes the bond between the parents
and the child stronger, as the mother and father feel like they can “stay connected with their
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child’s life” now (Drumm et al. 144). As the bond between the LGBTQ+ person and their
parents becomes more passionate, it removes any negative thoughts in the queer person’s mind
and allows them to share almost anything with their mother and father without the fear of being
rejected or denied by them. Similarly, according to McCormick and Baldridge, “[a]n LGBTQ
young person’s risk of suicide is cut in half when families are moderately accepting as compared
to young people with highly rejecting families” (34). Queer individuals who are supported by
their loved ones do not feel the stress and regret that rejected LGBTQ+ people have undergone.
Instead, they feel relieved that everything is going their way, and attempting suicide is the last
thing on their mind. A queer person being accepted by their mother and father makes them happy
and to want to continue with their life, knowing that their parents have their back.
Conclusion
influences a family household’s thoughts and opinions on the LGBTQ+ community, which
makes it difficult to know if they will be accepting or rejecting. There is no specific element that
can determine if a family will support their sexual minority child or not, as each situation is
different. However, the support or non-support from their mother and father can impact the queer
individual’s health positively or negatively. The information in this paper is important because
anyone who does not identify as LGBTQ+ has no clue about the challenges that queer
individuals face upon coming out. The stance that is presented on this topic should help people
understand that LGBTQ+ people are human too, and they suffer from their own battles like
everybody else. In today’s world, as more children come out of the closet and reveal their sexual
orientation, it is important that people make those queer individuals feel loved and supported.
Somebody disclosing their sexuality to a loved one or a close friend signifies that they have a lot
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of trust in whoever they are telling, so the last thing somebody should do is react negatively to
such action. Personal beliefs and religion should never make somebody of a sexual minority feel
belittled or unimportant.
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