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I am 100% certain that the thing to do with men, when they start something you don't
like, is to happily ignore them.
without resentment, or hissy fits, talks, or tears. just exit the convo. nicely, happily, and
go do something else. something you really enjoy. anything. go buy shoes. not kidding.
go to the beach. go get a kitten. sign up for tango.
eNjOy LiFe.
Mysterious, Serious [*Marriage2000*] - 04:40am Dec 26, 2000 EST (#73 of 321)
yes! no falling off of this board. I haven't even made it through one round yet!
this is what a hottie looks like--> [quartney] - 05:46pm Dec 27, 2000 EST (#74 of
321)
Lili*
>I've been dating a guy for almost 1 month,who hasn't brought up NYE yet. We are seeing each other
tonight. I'm wondering if Weds night (NYE is Sunday) is too late to accept a date with him if he hasn't
brought it up already?
yes! it is too late! it's New Year's Eve !!!! a smokin hot girl always has a NYE date set a
month before new year's eve.
she has received *many* invitations from guys for NYE. and she's booked already. ;)
you are booked for NYE whether you are booked or not.
if he asks, you, you're Plans Are Mysterious. a wink and a smile is all he gets. a flirty,
"oooh, I can't reveal that!" is all he gets! ;)
if you want him, do this.
if he learns you have no NYE date so close to NYE, he will become less attracted to you
and think you aren't precious & popular.
>He has always done the calling / pursuing,
as it should be. ;)
>...but I called him Xmas (I know this is bad after the fact, I thought it was OK before I called him, since I
never usually call him, and he was all alone on Xmas, I forgot I was a Rules Girl, and was just being nice .
. .OK it won't happen again).
don't BE a really nice girl. they finish last with men.
>Anyway, on that call, he asked me for Weds.
he should have asked you for saturday!
if he asks you for wednesday it means he's saving saturday nite for his #1 choice girl. or
it means he isn't trying to get other men out of the picture. he should be trying to tie up
your saturday nites so other guys who are insane for you, can't get dates in. this is how
men work.
>So I'm concerned things are becoming less rulesy, or he's taking me for granted (he got me a Xmas gift,
so I shouldn't be too worried?)
what was the gift? in details. how was it presented. what did he say when he gave it to
you?
this tells *everything*.
>Anyway, I don't have anything else to do yet (I left scads of voicemails for my friends). Should I still say
no, I'm Sooo Sorry, I already accepted an invitation from a friend!
nooo! don't say, "I'm soooo sorry" (or it will ruin your love affair!)
and dooooon't say, "I already accepted an invitation from a friend"
(the kiss of death to your love affair).
never apologize for not being at his beck and call or not focused on him!
be breezy!
be happy! be lite! you girls don't get men.
men want the Happy Shiny girl.
nevah explain what your plans are! Where Is Your Mystery? (!!!!!).
never ever never evereverever be spending NYE with "a freind".
YOU ALWAYS HAVE A HOTHOT date that nite.
this is what a hottie looks like--> [quartney] - 06:01pm Dec 27, 2000 EST (#75 of
321)
Rollerbebe,
I was hoping by inventing the neighborguy thing I was creating terror.
it was a good move. ;) now, don't dwell on it. Go To The Gym. this is the secret. ;)
Do you think I could "become" smokin hot in his eyes?
yes. you absolutely can. and you already are. not calling him, not chasing him for a
*relationship talk* (bleh), not sitting on his porchsteps crying, waiting for him to come
home, not writing him a looong letter about your feelings for him, and how he hurt you,
and not sending him a christmas card, buying him a christmas present, not calling him
to wish a merry christmas, and being light & breezy when he called, and being
showered with little presents from other men , is already making you hotter & cuter &
shinier.
continuing to ignore him (with no resentment at all!), and booking a fun, exciting trip to
Club Med for January ( perfect move!), are going to make you even more smokin. ;)
also, Go To The Gym every night you don't have a date.
and do dreamgirl treatments to your *feet* and make them ultra fem fem. girls have no
idea how important a turn on this is to guys. it is extremely important to guys. it's very
erotic to guys. it's very dreamgirl very feminine. what men want form women is their
femininty and thier erotic power. thier sensuality and thier illogic. this is what magnetizes
and impresses men.
forget everything else.
Men want the breezy girl.
girls *totally* don't get this.
they want the elsuive, pretty girl. with silky fem fem feet with pretty painted toes. and
pink, satin sheets. and Club Med plans for January. and a NYE date booked a month
before NYE. ;)
go to the beauty salon. get the works for NYE. get the *best* cut and color and
highlights, the *best* make up. get an Aveda make over. ;)
always dress fem & pretty when you go out of the house. even to the grocery store or
the hardware store or the boring post office or bank. always. 7 days & nites a week.
make the effort and you will soon rule the world. you will have more men than you know
what to do with.
men are into pretty. they're into fem fem. they're into precious & popular girls. they're
into the Happy Shiny girls.
I think it's a little late for that, but if you have any further advice
on this I'll galdly take it. That would be a really interesting
experiment.
it will be a very interesting experiment. ;)
...if he does i will ignore, like you advised. Yes when I finally do
pick up, I will mention the club med trip. I can't wait to go!
I can't wait to hear about it! it's so exciting! ")
make sure to get a pedicure there. or before you go. wear femmy strappy shoes. don't
underestimate the extreme power this has over men.
lol! also take you camera! take lots of pictures! leave them scattered on your coffee
table for when he finally comes over. lol. have strangers at Club Med take "souvenir"
pictures of you with sexy foreign waiters. noo lie. leave them scattered around. when he
comes ovah to your place (which he *will* try) be sure to wear strappy shoes & have
pretty pretty toes when he comes over and he's looking at (balking at) your carefree
Club Med pichurs. ;)
and wear perfume!!! and dangly earrings!
Tom Cruise's love interest in MI2 is... [Nyah] - 03:56am Jan 5, 2001 EST (#87 of 321)
thanks lamppost needed dat
The gestures of the air confuse all my demands [shakinglikemilk] - 12:11pm Jan
10, 2001 EST (#101 of 321)
katarina,
You said some posts back that guys know right away if they want to
marry you. Does that mean that their attraction is purely physical, and
that having the physical appearance that matches their "image of the
dreamgirl" is their only real requirement for attraction and marriage?
NO! not at *all*. they *know* when they see *her*, because they *see* her essence. it is
in her face, in her eyes, in the way she crosses the street and steps in a puddle, in the
*way* she reaches for a pear in the supermarket. the *way* she looks at it. the *way*
she buys a coke. the *way* she waits for the bus, holding her books. her essence
emanating from her every pore. it's her *her-ness*.
her spirit. something about her essence that is ineffable. that no one can copy if they
tried.
it's how she buys stamps. how she waits for the light to change. this is when men fall in
love and are struck with the knowledge she is their future wife.
it's her *look*, her spark. it's not her wieght, her measurements. it caannot be
meausured. it is beyond that.
practice just watching women on the street. stand there watching. hundreds walk by.
each one leaves a faint, wispy trail of her universe, as she goes past.
they sense her universe. it's like electro magneticly conveyed. beyond the eyes, but
comes through the eyes.
they see her for an instant, crossing the street, and they see her soul. it flickers to them.
suddenly she is more beeotiful than any woman who has longer legs, a smaller waist, a
dainty nose. these women pale next to her.
it's her *look*. they see her and they know. it's *her*!
Tom Cruise's love interest in MI2 is... [Nyah] - 09:27pm Jan 10, 2001 EST (#103 of
321)
Cool!
Tom Cruise's love interest in MI2 is... [Nyah] - 01:47am Jan 14, 2001 EST (#105 of
321)
oooooo Lampost
Tank u vera much
Ciao CUAOs [Anya] - 03:20pm Jan 27, 2001 EST (#110 of 321)
Anymore Lili classics? : )
Tom Cruise's love interest in MI2 is... [Nyah] - 06:10am Feb 5, 2001 EST (#247 of
321)
Thank you Chantall
Ciao CUAOs [Anya] - 04:30pm Feb 5, 2001 EST (#248 of 321)
These posts were GREAT! Thanks for doing that!
Go on! Go on! Leave me Breathless! [chameleon q] - 08:12am Feb 12, 2001 EST
(#250 of 321)
This is a permanent topic - you don't have to "save" it. The only way it will be deleted is
with the host's intervention.
Cham
Her serene highness [LA GIRL] - 03:01am Apr 18, 2001 EST (#258 of 321)
Even more dewdrops from Lili*!
[lili**] - 12:26am Apr 18, 2001 EST (#2225 of 2227)
" I've been reading Lili*'s classic posts, and love them to death!! Mostly because they
emphasize cultivating a fun & fascinating life for your own sake, and not to worry that
men will be disappointed when you stop doting on them so much and focus on yourself.
That's become more interesting to me than thinking about what the men are thinking
about all the time. I want to know more about becoming THAT GIRL. Does anyone know
what I mean? "
you will never be happier than if you become THAT GIRL (and I don't mean marlo
thomas) (lol).
all the cogitating in the world about men does *nothing* to make them love you! so book
that dream train trip you've always been dreaming about taking!
you'll have a LiFe you can look back on with no regrets. you'll *live* mystery and
adventure instead of pretending to be mysterious. you'll create allure and charm men by
your HaPpY sHiNey and not by your overthinking of them.
thinking does not atrrrract men! living BrIgHtLy does! live for YoUrSeLf...you never know
when the men might leave...
" I figured there might be some Lili* fans here who might know what books she'd
recommend on this subject. I mean, I'm getting sick of MVOAD, I'm sick of thinking
about how men are elastics and go into their caves, etc, etc. "
HaHAH!
yes, please try not to thik about it too much. because... come closah...verry
close...closah...
ssshhh!!
...it's...a...waste...of...TiMe. ;)
because...closah...it doesn't...improooove your LoVe LiFe one iota.
haHA!
if you're wearing lipstick and eye shadow not blabbing every single deetail of your life to
men, spritzing on perfume, and making your hair shiny, going to astronomy class, or the
libraree, Italy or Thailand, and taking dream train trips...with a leopard suitcase...
that's all you really have to do to attract men. you don't have to tHiNk about them night
and DaY.
if a man wants you bad you will know! he will TELL you! (and then your job is to stay
elusive*)
making beauty to get beauty [jagqueen] - 12:17pm May 6, 2001 EST (#259 of 321)
[lili**] - 09:09pm May 5, 2001 EST (#44 of 57) I haven't read the book, just the
comments & excerpts here. it strikes me that it rings true with books 1 & 2, in that those
books teach
Let the Man Take the Lead (and be happy & shiny) (Easy To Be With) examples: He
picks where you go on dates, you be sparkly about it, etc.
he initiates kissing
he initiates sex (not you)
He Initiates approaching you , asking for your number, phone calls, all forms of contact,
dates, kissing, sex, relationship talks, proposing. so, it doesn't surprise, upset or shock
me to read (here) that Rules 3 advocates more of the same: Let Him Lead
and while he leads,
Be Easy To Be With
Be Light & Breezy
The Rules was never about being a queen. that's much more of an interpretation that
got started on the boards. it's a boards twist/attitude that was never part of The Rules to
start with. they always advocated being very feminine, light, and letting the male lead in
everything, don't complain (disappear!), etc., etc..
it sounds so far consistent with the first two books.
un certain...je ne sais quoi [the gidge] - 04:34pm Jun 2, 2001 EST (#267 of 321)
It's ALL about *eSSenCe* girls:
From lili** on the What to Say When II board:
What do you say when you see a guy and he asks, "Do you have big plans for the weekend?" and
it's too late for him to be asking you out for the weekend, not to mention the fact that it may just
be a conversational question?
just smile flirtily. dooon't say anything. or smile, a slowly, rising, mysterious, cat girl like smile,
and *wink*.
men aren't drawn to language . they're drawn to mystery & feminity. to the languageless world. ;)
smile a slowly rising smile . a mysterious, flirty smile. lower your head, stroke your hair. look at
him, then look away. let your hair swoop over you...and smell some nearby flowahs...close your
eyes, femininely, as you drink in the scent of the flowahs...go "mmmm...these smell heavenly...".
adjust your stockings. put on some lipstick. go make a lemonaide and fan yourself with a pink,
chinese fan.
this is the languageless world that men are attracted to. don't agoznize ovah what to say in words
to men. forget words.
the whole point of being really busy iz for YOU, not him. but, the second reason is for him.
not to manipulate him , but to give him what he most needs to be fullfilled as a man. to meet his
masculine needs. we do this because we love men. we understand that when we meet thier true
needs, then they are happy with being with us. as opposoded to us meeting the needs we used to
think they had, such as
1) The Masculine Need To Receive Feminine Fluffy Cards
2) The Masculine Need to Receive Long, Boring Letters About Convoluted Feelings of Angst &
Attraction
3) The Masculine Need to Have a Woman With No Life Who's Avaialble To Go Out Anytime (a
woman who's not sought after)
4) The Masculine Need to Have a Woman Who Is a Total Slam Dunk (noo challenge whatsoever)
5) The Masculine Need to Have a Woman Who is a Dumb Unpaid Maid
6) The Masculine Need to Have a Woman Who Lectures Him, Cries, Screams
7) The Masculine Need to Have a Woman Who Has No Mystery
Note that these are *not* men's needs and never will be. if the seas run out of water, if the stars
fall out of the sky, and the fishes fly, till the end of all time, these will never be men's needs.
Men Like Women Who Are a Challenge. They Like Women Who are Cool. And who have lots of
Cool things going on in thier life, women who dress Cool, and have lots of other Cool men
chasing them.
They like women who are so Cool, you never know what they're thinking or where they are.
Watch more movies to learn how to be cool.
because that's what men want. they want it as bad as we want cute clothes and enagement rings.
if you want to succeed with men you have to start being really cool .
Have you ever noticed how many men cool girls have chasing after them? They get more
proposals than non-cool girls too.