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Learning Byte 1: Do you suffer from Tiara Syndrome?

One of my past managers had shared a line that still rings a bell “Doing something good is one
thing and presenting that you have done it well is another thing. Learn to do both-it’s equally
important.”

Some of us, especially in the early years of our careers believed that if we just put our head
down and do our job well, we will be recognized. Someone will notice and come to place
a “tiara” on our head.

Read the article to know more about the tiara syndrome and ways in which you actually
claim your tiara.

“Tiara Syndrome” is a term originally developed by Carol Frohlinger and Deborah Kolb founder
of Negotiating Women and then used by Sheryl Sandberg in her book Lean In. While this
syndrome is gender agnostic, this syndrome is more common in women because of socialization
and not any innate gender differences.

Drawing a parallel with my work with a theatre artist, he introduced me to the three Circles of
Energy™ by Patsy Rodenburg. First circle people are introverted or self-absorbed, and when
they are talking to others, they focus their energy inward.  Third circle people are bombastic or
bullies, and they focus their energy outward to dominate.  Second circle people have the right
balance between self-awareness and presence for others.

Similarly, when you showcase your work, neither do you need not be completely inward
(claiming less credit for what you did) or be overbearing and showcasing more than you did. The
balance act of showcasing what and how you did to appropriate stakeholders at the right
juncture is an art.

Here are few ways in which you can share that you aspire and deserve the tiara.

1. Be your cheer leader. Look for right opportunities to share your experiences and
learnings in appropriate forums and meetings.
2. Build credible teammates and champions/sponsors across levels who can vouch for you
and your work even in your absence. The experiences you have provided, the way you
have contributed and connected all comes into play in these moments.
3. Ongoingly solicit feedback on your strengths and areas of development. It will help you
know how you are being perceived by others.
4. Voice your aspiration, kind of projects and experiences you wish to have in your role.
5. Be part of key internal organizational projects. This is a great way to understand larger
perspective and connect with cross-functional stakeholders.
6. Stay curious about business, other functions and industry in general. Network with
different folks