Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Build trust
Marriage therapist and researcher John Gottman, Ph.D., has found
that criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling are serious
threats to a marriage. The more a couple engages in these destructive
activities, the more likely they are to divorce. His decades of research
and of working with couples have shown that spouses who stay
together know how to fight without being hostile and to take
responsibility for their actions. They are also more likely to respond
quickly to each other’s wishes to make up after fights and repair the
relationship.
Learn to forgive
Everyone makes mistakes. Your spouse may hurt your feelings or do
something that upsets you, and that may make you angry, even
furious. But it's important to deal with your feelings, let them go, and
move on. don’t keep bringing up the past.