Show them gratitude

Your parents have done more for you than provide food and shelter. The sacrifices each parent
makes in terms of their rest, work, career and lifestyle is beyond the imagination of any child. In
the form of reciprocation, show gratitude towards them.

Obey them
Your parents have your best interest at heart. Listen to their advice and adhere to them. Only if
they give you an advice against Islam, should you disobey your parents.

Respect them
Sometimes it becomes really hard to be patient with your parents. It can be totally exasperating.
But hey, don’t lose your cool. Speak to them in a polite manner, let them begin the meals, let
them walk ahead of you. Little things can make them feel valued and respected.

Be sensitive towards their feelings

As we grow up, we don’t realize that they are also growing old. They become more sensitive and
can get hurt, even at the slightest negligence from your side. So be sensitive. Make time for
them, sit with them and talk to them at length. Five minutes spent with them

Take care of them

When you were an infant and dependent, they took care of you. Now when they are old, you are
the one who takes care of them.

Make Dua for them

Make ample Dua for your parents. Dua for their health and well being, Dua for their life and
their hereafter.
Allah when enjoins the duty of being kind and compassionate to their parents in the Quran, this
injunction always appears soon after the injunction to worship only one God. Allah exalted says
in the Quran:
“Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and that you be kind to parents.
Whether one or both of them attain old age, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them,
but address them in terms of honor. And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility,
and say: “My Lord! bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood.”
[The Night Journey: 23,24]

Give Them Your Undivided Attention

One of the easiest ways to show your parents you care is to give them your time. Whether you
live with them or not, you can still make the effort to catch up with them either in person, if
possible, or by Skype, email, chat or any other form of communication. Talk with them about the
things they’re doing, what they’re interested in and care about, what they’ve been cooking, what
they did that day, plans they have for the week, what they’ve been watching on tv, how their job
is going, etc. At the end of the day, talking with your parents is just like talking with your
friends: There’s no pressure. Think of it as an informal gathering with someone you’ve known
for a very long time. Along with the theme of giving your parents your undivided attention,
when you’re with them (even if it’s a long distance chat), try to avoid being distracted by your
phone or other technologies. Let your time with them be about them.

Send Them Respectful Gifts As Often As Possible

Thoughtful gift-giving is one of those of those things that slips away from us throughout the
year. We all miss holidays and birthdays, and it can hard to pre-plan for them when you have so
many other things going on. But one way to navigate around this is to pre-plan and budget
holidays by treating them as projects or errands you need to complete, rather than as an option. If
you need some help figuring out what to gift your parents, check out How Does She?.Keeping a
list of items you need to create a shippable present, and storing it close to your more frequently-
used gifts, will help you buy those items the next time you’re out. 

Pay It Back (When Possible)

The fact is that throughout their lives, our parents often give us more of themselves than have at
any given moment. This includes giving us money when we need it without so much as a second
thought to their own needs. So, if it’s within your means, pay it back as often as you can.
While it’s not something that’s expected, it’s a nice, respectful thing to do when you’re in the
position to take care of all your needs, while also having an ample sum left over.

Show Affection
Let’s be honest, parents would much rather have their love repaid with love, than money. So
simply showing affection every now and then is a great way to show them you care. As humans
we crave human contact. Unfortunately, as we age, many of us are less likely to be as open to
affection as we once were. But, showing affection to our parents through hugging and kissing
sends an instant emotional spark from our heart to theirs that translates to feelings of (love),
gratitude and respect.