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You can’t understand someone who is talking to you if you don’t listen carefully? Surprise!
Like most of us you probably don’t know how to listen very well. We are usually too busy
preparing our response, judging or making words fit our own paradigms. Usually we use one of
these five poor listening styles:
1. Spacing out
What is “Spacing out” listening?
This is when someone is talking to us but our minds are wandering off.
It made me feel:
This didn’t make me feel that good but I understood because I space out a lot too.
I find myself doing this to someone else often. True or False? Why?
This is true because I cant really control it, it just happens and I dot realize.
2. Pretending to listen
What is “Pretend listening”?
This is when we aren’t really listening but we still make small comments in between.
It made me feel:
This didn’t make me feel that bad honestly because sometimes people are busy or their
head is just somewhere else.
I find myself doing this to someone else often. True or false? Why?
I find myself doing this kind of often because I get distracted or I’m just not that
interested in what they are saying.
3. Selective listening
What is “Selective” listening?
this is when you only pay attention to the part of the conversation that you are
actually interested in.
It made me feel:
If this were to happen to me it would probably make me feel like they are being a bit
insensitive but I wouldn’t really care.
I find myself doing this to someone else often. True or false? Why?
This is true because I have done this before but it was because the other things thy were
saying were just boring and it was just basically rambling without reason.
4. Word Listening
What is “Word” listening?
This is when you only listen to the words rather than look at it with the body language
to further understand.
It made me feel:
This made me feel like she didn’t care but I didn’t really mind because I do it too.
I find myself doing this to someone else often. True or false? Why?
This is true because sometimes I just don’t look into their body language because I’m not
interested.
5. Self-centered listening
What is “self-centered” listening?
This is when we make everything be from your perspective which can be hurtful to others
because it looks like you are trying to make everything about yourself.
1. What is “judging”?
This is when you are too busy nit picking what the person is saying and you don’t
actually pay attention to what the person wants you to know.
2. What is “advising”?
This is when the person tries to give you advise but they just end up making it about how
they already went through what you did and they know better and are more experienced
rath than listening to what you have to say.
3. What is “probing”?
This is when the other person tries to get you to say things that maybe you aren’t ready to
talk about and it starts to feel like an interview instead of a conversation that both people
want to have and be a part of.