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This past year have been almost overwhelming as I battled ovarian and peritoneal cancer.
I was tested in myriad ways, even though I already considered myself a self-sufficient person
with strength of spirit, mind, and body. This was a challenge I never thought I would have to
face. Little did I know that the composer of my life already had the melody and chord
Saybrook University in California since 2017. I loved the challenge of research, even as I myself
was my own subject. I had chosen to study how someone with Complex-PTSD from trauma in
childhood had somehow been able to have had several successful careers and led a mostly happy
life. I had been in marketing and advertising before I went back to college at UCLA and earned
Magna Cum Lauda honors in English with minors in Music and Spanish. I then went to
California State University Northridge for a teaching credential in K-12 education, after which I
taught gifted and talented elementary school. As a writer, dancer, actor and musician, I didn’t
realize I had yet to face my biggest challenges in all domains: mental, emotional, physical, and
spiritual. There was so much life for me to live and to face ahead of me yet. So much singing,
After teaching for ten years in California, I was active in a Unity church of practical
Christianity. The church sent me to Unity Village near Kansas City, MO, and I went to seminary
there. I met and married my husband Richard Talley and we co-ministered together for ten years
in four different ministries around the country. We then returned to California where I again
taught school until went to Washington State. I taught there for another four years while being
active in a Quaker church. Whatever I was doing, the arts were always a part of my being.
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succumbed to cancer, there was yet another challenge to come. The year was traumatic and
tragic with dysfunctional family drama as he neared his death. During that time, I would drive
six hours down to North Carolina to take a respite with my childhood friend. After the funeral in
Louisville, my husband and I moved to North Carolina ourselves and retired. We still run an
alternative ministry called PATH Ministries. I also performed in an acapella trio for ten years
which enriched my life considerably, as music was one of my passions even in my sixth and
seventh decades. Yes, you read that right! I went back to college to pursue a second graduate
writer must objectively observe and examine their own life. I realized how essential the arts—
poetry and literature, music, art, and dance had been in my own recovery from Complex-PTSD.
I wanted to know how that was possible without therapy and totally self-directed. Was it
possible that I had been spiritually led to heal myself through experiences in and love for the
arts? I began to reflect, meditate, remember, and journal my life story. At times I had to re-
experience traumas in order to get in touch with the feelings and wounds of having been living in
an alcoholic, violent home in virtual poverty, moving to at least ten different cities and attended a
minimum of thirteen schools before high school graduation, plus having been sexually molested
from ages five to eight. I loved all my required classes in the PhD Program of Transformative
Social Change (TSC). The research was on a level beyond that of my Master of Arts in
Teaching, and I loved it. I was dancing the tango with academics!
However, at least two years ago I began to feel exhausted all the time, plus I had a
pinched feeling in my left abdominal area. I reported this to my primary care physician who
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attributed it mostly to my aging process. Deep within myself I knew something was wrong, but I
couldn’t convince her. I even had to quit singing with my trio because I lost my balance and fell
over on stage after a performance. I had no idea what my dance card was filled in with next.
I found out in a most alarming way when one night at home I felt terrible pains in my
abdomen, so much so that my husband took me to the Emergency Department at the nearest
hospital. Once there I began to hemorrhage and was diagnosed immediately with cancer and
referred to the HOPE Women’s Cancer Center and to Dr. Amy Alexander. Since I already had a
diagnosis before I met with her, I was already prepared to die as most people do with the type of
cancer I had. Several friends plus my brother-in-law and my father had died horrific deaths from
cancer, and I decided ahead of time that I would just face the consequences and surrender to the
inevitable so as not to suffer the same as they had; neither did I want to put my husband, my
family, and my friends through it. I wasn’t afraid of dying, but I did have fears of how that might
happen.
When I met Dr. Alexander, however, after she outlined the proposed treatment along with
my life expectancy of less than a year if I opted out, and then at my family’s urging, I decided to
at least try chemotherapy and surgery. The medical staff promised if it was too awful and I quit,
they would see I wouldn’t suffer. Even though the doctor and her team did their best to keep me
from suffering, I was sufficiently nauseated, weak, dizzy, and bedridden for many months, but
they always encouraged me that I was getting better and would soon be strong enough for
surgery. Some days I wanted to die and begged my husband to just let me go peacefully. He held
me in his arms and called an ambulance to take me to the hospital once again. To make matters
worse, the drugs made me dizzy, and I fell twice; once I broke my wrist and then fell again and
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fractured my hip, both of which were extremely painful and required extensive rehabilitation in a
Time came for surgery after my first two rounds of chemotherapy ,and I was operated
upon by three specialists robotically at the same time. The surgery was so unprecedented that it
was filmed and is being written up in a medical journal. I underwent one more round of
chemotherapy to be certain they had gotten everything. Before and after the surgery I underwent
unpleasant tests and had several hospital stays as well as infusions for hydration along with the
poisonous chemicals and the drawers full of pills. Now, I am on a strong drug to keep the cancer
from returning; it has 70% success rate, and my oncologist expects me to do well on it since I did
so well on chemotherapy. Of course, it costs $16,000 per month, however, I am getting financial
assistance from Aztro-Zeneca, the pharmaceutical company who makes it. Still the economics of
cancer, even with insurance are just hinging on catastrophic. Co-pays, tests, and prescriptions,
plus the loss of my income from singing have made it financially difficult. But we make it; every
Through it all, I was cared for by my husband who took on all the household
responsibilities of grocery shopping, cooking and cleaning, as well as caring for all my medical
needs and appointments. The stress on him was immense and he broke down emotionally several
times; he always returned to my side to care for me. I was uplifted by my spiritual beliefs and by
my friends in and out of PATH ministries. From all over the world and several foreign countries
they wrote, called, visited, and texted, praying for me, laughing with me, and commiserating
with me. They gave me the courage not to quit treatment, and they reinstated my faith in
humankind.
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As I reported my ups and downs on Facebook and on the phone, my strength increased
and I began to realize I needed to live, I wanted to live, I still had to dance. I hadn’t yet fulfilled
my purpose for being here. I had things to celebrate with my husband, lessons to teach my
daughter and grandchildren, experiences to share with my friends and colleagues. I still had to
finish my healing from childhood; I had to finish my dissertation so my healing could be shared
with others who had suffered similar beginnings. I had to give them the hope and faith I had
gained through this experience; tortuous as it sometimes was, I had the moral, ethical, and
Now I face at least a year, maybe more of finishing my dissertation, and I have so much
more to include from my own healing, both physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. I
have been treated as a family member by the Saybrook faculty with love respect, and support
that I will indeed finish and earn a doctoral decree. Before this, I used to say jokingly I wanted
my degree because “Dr. Douglas” was so alliterative and I was an English major. Now I can
affirm that I want this experience to strengthen my faith in a plethora of ways, and I want to help
others transform their lives as I believe I have. And we can dance together.
One other thing I have learned through my dance with cancer is to trust myself,
something which abused children find hard to do. After all, I was brave enough to trust that I
knew something was wrong. I had enough courage to say yes to the chemotherapy treatment
when the facts were laid out to me by wise and loving people, and I developed the strength to
come out of it with a new sense of myself and what I am to do with the rest of my life. I know it