A Practice

Compassion with the

Pain of Failure
 Pain vs Psychological pain
Pain is a sensation of the body, and is always an
unpleasant emotional experience.
[https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25000837]

Psychological pain as the affective state

associated with discrepancy between ideal and
actual perception of self.
[https://www.karger.com/Article/FullText/343003]
 Stephen Levine wrote, “to heal is to touch with
love that which was previously touched by fear.”
So when we bring compassion home to include
ourselves, especially when we have failed, we
finally get to honor the hurt.
A Practice For Being With the Pain of Failure
To start, the two
components we’re
looking for are clear
seeing and willingness.
Allow yourself to feel the
pain and quite naturally
there'll be a
compassionate response
to it. Because If we can’t
feel it, we can’t heal it
You didn’t give birth to these energies,
they are universal, they belong to this
realm, not you. When it’s not taken
personally, we realize we can practice
with anything we come into contact with
stress, frustration, pain, nothing is outside
of our care
When something painful or difficult arises, allow
yourself to feel that compassionate response,
and see that pain is not the only guest at the
party. Allow yourself to experience yourself
fully. Then you can wrap yourself up with
warmth and affection and kiss your wounds, as
you would anyone you care for.
Not lost in the story of why me, but opening
to all the beings that know this particular
pain. Only when we understand that, can
the most caring part of ourselves become
known. With the courage of the undefended
heart it can transform into something
beautiful