01 Habits Update

Lecture No.
Life and Learning-1

HABIT#1
MUHAMMAD AWAIS |Lecturer Life & Learning |SCHOOL OF BEHAVIORAL SCIENCE MUL LAHORE
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Life and Learning-1

(Course outlines)
• Introduction
• Circle of Concern & Influence
• Social Mirrors
• Between stimulus and Response
• Proactive or Reactive
• Tasks
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TWO TYPES OF PEOPLE
Reactive
Proactive
Reactive People
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Blame on others
Everything
Is
Ohh!!! Impossible
I can’t do it For Me
‫ریماامشریھبوتریمےدونمشںںیمےہ‬ ‫ںیموخدوہںاےنپآپےکےھچیپڑپاوہا‬
Proactive People
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NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE,
THE WORD ITSELF SAYS “I AM POSSIBLE!” Weldon !!
NO: Mean Next Opportunity Yes!!!
END: Mean Effort Never Dies I can do it
FAIL: Mean First Attempt In Learning
VISIONARY
Man? Taking responsibility and
be the Pilot of your life plane
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Proactive People
ALWAYS PLAN AHEAD!!!
MIGRATION TO MADINAH
GHAZWA-KHANDAQ)‫(زغوۂدنخق‬
Enemies=10,000
Muslims=3,000 Length of trench=5.25km
‫ہنیفسانبےئرانھک‬
‫وطافںآےنےسےلہپ‬
It wasn’t raining when
Noah built the ark.
REACTIVE Vs PROACTIVE
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If someone calls you a

name, you call them
one back.
If someone hits you,

you hit them back. You recognize you can’t
control everything that
happens to you, but you can
If you get a bad grade, control what you do about it.
you blame your teacher.
You don’t let others push
your buttons or allow you to
If you lose a game, you
become angry or upset.
blame the other team.
Very Reactive Very Active

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CIRCLE OF CONCERN & INFLUENCE
Things you can
control or change
CIRCLE OF
INFLUENCE
CIRCLE OF
CONCERN
Can you think of

other examples Things you
from your life? can’t control
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Company Notice: Yesterday the person
who has been hindering your growth in
this company passed away…….
‫وہوکناھت؟؟؟‬ "‫اکیبزرگ ےنیھبکظفل"ںیم‬

‫اامعتسلہنایکاھت۔۔۔۔۔‬
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The choice is yours!!!
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The Social Mirror

Genetic Determinism
Basically, says “your Grandparents
did it do you”
‫آہنیئدھکیذراایک ںیمطلغاتہک ں‬
‫ اپھریھےہ‬ ‫وتےنوخدےسیھبوکیئات‬
Psychic Determinism
Basically, says "your Parents did it do you”
‫اترمعاغلہیوھبلرکاتر ا‬
‫دوھلرہچے ہپیھتآہنیئاصفرکاتر ا‬
Environmental Determinism
Basically, says
“your Boss is doing this to you”
someone or something in your environment
is responsible for your situation.
Between stimulus and Response
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STIMULUS FREEDOM RESPONSE

to
REACTIVE Response PROACTIVE Response
PROACTIVE MODEL Choose Emotion-based Value-based
Self Awareness
Feeling-driven Choice-driven
Imagination
Conscience Situational Strategic
Independent Will Inconsistent Consistent
Proactive in every Situation 13
Watch the Video
https://youtu.be/uaWA2GbcnJU
LEARN TO PUSH PAUSE
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How to be Proactive?
So when someone is rude to you,
where do you get the power to resist
being rude back?
Sometimes things happen so fast that
we instantly react out of habit.
Learn to pause and gain control. ‫ےلہپوسوچ‬
Think about how you will respond. ‫رھپوتول‬
You will make better decisions ‫اوررھپوبول‬
A Former In Jail
Socrates Hazrat Yusuf A.S
In Jail In Jail
LET’S PRACTICE
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SCENARIO#1
• You overheard your friend talking about you to a group.
• She does not know that you overheard the conversation.
• Just 5 minutes ago the same friend was being extra nice to you.
• You feel hurt and betrayed.
• Let’s classify some reactive and proactive responses together.
Reactive Proactive
• Tell her off • Forgive her.
• Fall into a deep depression because • Confront her and Calmly explain how
you feel so bad about what she said. your fee
• Give her the silent treatment for • Ignore it and give her a second chance.
being two faced.
• Realize that sometimes you talk behind
• Spread rumors about her as
her back and you really don’t mean any
payback.
harm.
LET’S PRACTICE
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SCENARIO#2
• Before university, you were playing basketball/any game
with your friends.
• The other team cheated and ended up winning the game.
Make a list of reactive and proactive responses.
SCENARIO#3
• You just found out that your little sister/brother got a gift and
your father promised to give you a gift over the next month.
• Make a list of reactive and proactive responses.
Make a list of reactive and proactive responses.
Proactivity: 30 Days Test
Observe the ordinary events of every day; its how we
• Make and keep commitments, handle a traffic jam.
• Respond to an irate customer or a disobedient child.
• View our problems and where we focus energies
• Language we use.
Challenge
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For 30 days work only in your circle of influence

• Make small commitments and keep them.
• Be a light, not a judge
• Be a Model, not a Critic.
• be a Better Listener
• Be a Better Student
• Be part of the solution, not part of the problem.
• be a more cooperative and dedicated employee.
 Sometimes the most proactive thing we can do is to be happy,

just to genuinely SMILE.
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TURNING SETBACKS INTO SUCCESS
• Life often deals us a bad hand and it’s up to us to control
how we respond.
• Every setback is an opportunity for us
to turn it into a success.
 No Arms No Legs No Worries(Video)
https://youtu.be/6F8zK57Wa0A
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CONCLUSION
Habit#1 Be Proactive says
“I am the force. Being proactive is
not about doing the right thing.
it is about taking responsibility for yourself
and your life. You're the captain of your life.”
MOTIVATIONAL MOVIE 20
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Lecture No.

Life and Learning-1

Life and Learning-1

TWO TYPES OF PEOPLE

FAIL: Mean First Attempt In Learning

If someone calls you a

If someone hits you,

Very Reactive Very Active

Can you think of

‫وہوکناھت؟؟؟‬ "‫اکیبزرگ ےنیھبکظفل"ںیم‬

The choice is yours!!!

The Social Mirror

STIMULUS FREEDOM RESPONSE

Watch the Video

For 30 days work only in your circle of influence

 Sometimes the most proactive thing we can do is to be happy,

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