Muslim family lovers of the Prophet's Sunnah

There will never be a family before marriage and there will never be a household before marriage.
Therefore, getting married is inevitable so that the family can receive blessings in the frame of the purity
of the intention of worshiping God alone.

Getting married is the word that ends a person's single life. This word also becomes the final marker of
all things that are lonely. That lonely space has been filled by a name, our partner, our future husband or
wife. That's when a couple made a promise in the name of God to build a household. It's already half
din!

Further, the days that roll in front are blank pages that record the great work of a husband and wife. A
great work planned in order to cultivate the welfare of righteous charity. It doesn't matter if the story is
covered with flowers or even the sweat of suffering. As long as everything is rooted in faith-enhancing
wisdom, we can achieve happiness like the Prophet's household.

A household is like a vehicle. It is used to travel. All family members are like passengers with their
respective roles. Father and mother are like the captain and the navigator. They are the ones who have
a plan and will announce it to all family members; where is the destination, the length of the journey
and what will be done when you get there.

Armed with this information, each family member can measure their preparation, what provisions are
needed.

But it's very unfortunate, the portrait of today's household is really apprehensive. Households are like
vehicles driving aimlessly. The family members inside just swayed in emptiness and confusion. Everyone
in it has a different perception. If that's the case, we can imagine how chaotic the journey of a vehicle
with a driver and so many passengers who don't understand where the final destination of the vehicle
they're traveling in is.

Let's start with a question,

"If we die what will we take with us?"

During the twenty-four hours we are active, at least half of it is our life with our partner or family.
Maybe we have been disappointed in not passing an exam, have also failed to pass an interview test for
a prestigious job or not won a competition, or have even won a tender or project contract. But the
regret is not comparable to the loss of togetherness with family members. Regretted missing the
opportunity to chat with the children or just have a dialogue with our partner, even if it was just small
talk about the day's activities. So, really the family should be the most comfortable place for all its
members.

Therefore, don't let our family members stay away from this togetherness. In fact, make togetherness in
the afterlife a noble goal. This is the real success of life.
And when the time comes, the angel of death picks up our souls, the family's cries accompany the
bodies, they are washed, shrouded and prayed. Then the time came for us to be escorted by all the
friends to the cemetery. After we are buried. Then all that remains with us is charity. The rest, family,
friends, possessions that we have all return to their respective 'places'. Only charity will accompany us in
the dark solitude of the grave.

In fact Islamic teachings provide a very detailed picture of this reality. Not only the reality of world life
that will be passed by every human being. But the reality of the afterlife too. Indeed, this is immortality
which is the fruit of mortality as long as we do good deeds in the world. But not a few of us are deceived
and trapped in mortality and the relativity of life. Pursuing all material needs in the world, as if this is
where we find the peak of enjoyment. Islam actually teaches that Muslims have a vision of the
hereafter. Not only for each individual, even Islam teaches its adherents to build a vision of the afterlife-
oriented Muslim family.

Let's see how the Quran teaches us to build this vision. There are three verses that we can use as a basis
for thinking and motivation for charity in family life. This is the big vision of the Muslim family:

َ ‫ون َر َّب َنا َهبْ لَ َنا مِنْ َأ ْز َوا ِج َنا َو ُذرِّ َّي ِت َنا قُرَّ َة َأعْ يُن َواجْ َع ْل َنا ل ِْل ُم َّتق‬
‫ِين ِإ َمامًا‬ َ ُ‫ِين َيقُول‬
َ ‫َوالَّذ‬
And those who say: "O our Lord, grant us our wives and our descendants as a delight to (our) hearts, and
we are for the pious (QS. Al Furqon: 74)

The verse above is an explanation from Allah about one of the characteristics of His noble servants. They
are the people who always pray, "O our Lord, grant us our wives and our offspring as a delight to our
hearts (we ), and make us priests for the pious".

Meditate on this beautiful prayer. There are two tadabbur in this prayer:

1. The sentence puts the word spouse first, then mentions the offspring

2. The verse precedes the prayer: pleasing (our) hearts, then the sound of the prayer: and make us
priests for the pious

As it is known by the experts of the Al Quran, that there is no coincidence in everything in the Al Quran.
Among them; sequence or placing something before something, like the point above. Because the
Quran is a miracle. Because Al Quran is kalamullah.
Let's now pray our daily prayers as a provision for our family's vision. As for the one, First, the new
partner comes first then the offspring

hints at two great wisdoms of causality:

a. A person should not have obtained offspring before having a legal spouse.

b. Ancestry; children and grandchildren, will only be present as descendants that cool the eyes when the
spouse has been present as we wish for our descendants. Each of us hopes to give birth to offspring that
cool the eyes. And that will only happen when the couple has been well entwined that cools the eyes. If
not, it will be very difficult to give birth to a special offspring when there is a conflict between couples.
So that sadness always becomes a black cloud that hovers in the household sky.

While the second, first the prayer: pleases (our) hearts, then the sound of the prayer: and make us
imams (leaders) for the pious

This is a process that is missing today. That is, the birth of leaders is a long process that is born from the
womb of every Muslim household. The home is the first and foremost place for the birth of just and
special leaders. Those who have been able to cool their eyes at home, it is hoped that later when the big
mandate comes, he will become a special leader. As well as being a strong rebuke to every Muslim
family. That the failure to produce a special and just leader is proof of the failure of Muslim families in
educating their initial foundation as prospective leaders who are eye-catching at home.

That was Umar bin Abdul Aziz with his family. Read the sentence of Umar bin Abdul Aziz to his wife
when he was appointed as Caliph. And his children are pleased with wealth that is not worthy of a
supreme leader. But the blessing overshadowed the halalness of his father's property. And read the
history of their children, how they became pious generations and worked with sincerity for Islam and its
people.

This is how the Prophet, the leader for all of Adam's children and grandchildren, is a perfect picture of a
family that gave birth to great and powerful leaders. Rasulullah and his family is a picture of the
perfection of happiness for a household. Cools the eyes.

And the birth of great figures whose ummah agreed that they were the best leaders of their time. Even
to the afterlife.

So, a special Leader comes from a special family.

Leaders who make their people happy are those who make their families happy.

A special leader is the work of a harmonious blend of husband and wife. And, giving birth to a special
leader is a big task for a family.

Furthermore, it takes great work to get and give birth to partners and offspring that are soothing to the
eye. There is no greatness to be gained by standing still.

But if until today, we have been praying for so long to have a pleasing partner and offspring that have
not yet come true, then we should ask ourselves, what concrete steps can we take to get them? What
strategies have we prepared to realize this demand? Or perhaps, it's been so long since we've been
praying, it turns out that we don't understand what the real meaning of the prayers we pray is. If so, is it
appropriate for Allah to grant our request when we ourselves do not know what we are asking for? If we
ourselves don't know what we are asking for then how can we possibly make all kinds of efforts and
endeavors to make that hope come true?

If we are able to contemplate the first fragment of the prayer, then we ask in the next prayer fragment
"and make us leaders for pious people".

Not a good leader either, but like in a den of thieves. His subordinates who are under his leadership
hierarchy, are a group of broken systems that have taken over. If a good leader is present in the midst of
a den of thieves, the leader is usually unable to do much. Even if he doesn't join the vortex of satanic
currents, he usually doesn't produce big and good works. Because usually policies that are not in line
with the interests of the coffers will be tackled on the ground by the rogues beneath them.

Now, how great. How tall. The hope of a Muslim family. Because a pious society is a society that is not
only noble and high in the eyes of humans. But Allah also conveys that they are the most noble human
beings in His sight. Among them was born a leader who became their choice. And it is our ancestry.
Masha Allah, how high and great are the expectations of the Muslim family for their generation.