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April 11, 2018 • By Andrea L. Bell, LCSW, SEP, GoodTherapy.org Topic Expert
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Over-coupling involves the parts of the brain known as the limbic system, or our
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emotional/threat response, and the reptilian brain, which is in charge of body regulation. When
these systems perceive a potential threat, they go into a stress response. Trauma can occur
when that threat feels overwhelming or bigger than our ability to effectively cope with it, and
the energy from that stress response gets stuck in our systems, under the surface. The
unconscious layers of the brain and body want to avoid any situation like that ever happening
again. So when something feels similar to the big, bad thing that happened in the past, our
reptile brains lock into the same threat response as the previous time. This happens whether or
not the logical mind is aware of any similarity between the previous and current situations.
That is over-coupling. Like a creaky old suit of armor, it’s meant to protect us, but what it really
does is get in our way, preventing us from freely living our lives.
OVER-COUPLING EXAMPLES
When our limbic, or
emotional/threat Let’s explore the above examples with this new awareness of
or body regulation In the first example, a new love interest equals a threat. This
brains perceive
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Different seasons of the year come with certain environmental
cues that remind us of an original difficult period or event in our
want to avoid any lives. The angle of the sunlight, the feeling in the air, the
situation like that ever
temperature, and the way the plants look and smell might all act
happening again. as subconscious cues. These cues may or may not stir up anxiety
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or panic; many people simply feel malaise and dread around
over-coupled times of the year. Grief anniversaries are one example. Alcohol is one
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strategy frequently used to turn off these feelings, even if it only works for a brief time.
However, as a central nervous system depressant, it can often worsen problems with
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mood.
Panic attacks become less of a mystery once these subconscious coupling dynamics are
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understood. Panic attacks are essentially the body’s emergency alarms going off at the
wrong time: “This is not a drill! We’re going to die, right now!” They consist of a lot of
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flight, or sympathetic nervous system, energy coursing through the system all at once.
The body is mobilizing to get out immediately because it thinks it’s going to die. Many
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people try to repress panic attacks, but this can be like holding a lid on a pot insistent on
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boiling over. Somatic therapy has developed many alternate ways to work with panic that
essentially turn off the figurative stove, allowing the water to cool and settle.
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experience, that a social environment is going to cause emotional or social harm. This
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caused damage. Social anxiety comes with varying levels of conscious acceptance of the
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acceptance of the belief, “I’m no good/not desirable,” it often carries a developmental
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message. Regardless, the subconscious mind is convinced the social environment is not
safe, and it often refuses to deactivate until the person gets away to be alone or with a
few trusted others.
Since these conditions usually involve the body’s unconscious trauma energies, which can be
tricky and powerful, treatment is best left to someone with specific training in this area.
Personally, I will always be grateful for my own continued training in somatic psychotherapy
and for Peter’s contributions in the area of coupling dynamics.
In a future article, we will examine under-coupling, which occurs when something feels so
overwhelming that the body numbs it out. Under-coupling is even more tricky, as it usually
takes place beneath the level of the person’s conscious awareness and shares a special
relationship with over-coupling. In the meantime, I invite you to start having compassion for
any over-coupling you might notice going on in your own system. As frustrating as it might be,
it is trying to protect you!
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