When marriage was formalized as an institution, things were totally different, starting with

the fact that women were considered property of their husbands and had no way of
earning a living for themselves, and continuing with the fact that life expectancy was
different, so the people were married “till death do them part”, but death separated them at
30. Now that we live until 90, the perspective changes.

Having much more time to live, we begin to consider different things, because we have
much more space to choose different things in life, being able to change careers, cities
and tastes, it's almost impossible to think that you will be able to choose a single person to
share all that time you have ahead.

Our generation saw our parents grow up, evolve and become different person, and
suddenly, the partner they had chosen at 20 was no longer the person they wanted to
share their lives with at 50. And we understood that marriages can be finished, and that is
usually the healthiest thing. Our parents began to open the discussion that has us
wondering if it’s really worth all the expense, or if they could have lived together in holy
peace, until they no longer wanted to live together.

For us, marriage begins to be a mere social construct, a bureaucratic process that also
costs a lot of money and doesn't give greater validity to our relationships. Today it's much
more common to hear that couples choose to live together without signing any paper,
because the commitment is made to each other, without having to go through an
institution.

We have been questioning for many years what is the added value that this procedure
gives to our relationships, all this while we see many of our friends walking to the altar, and
on the other hand, we read hundreds of statistics that indicate that many of them are going
to divorce.

So, what is changing for our generation is the concept of marriage, and what is becoming
obsolete is the idea that it should be forever, or that it gives some kind of advantage to our
relationship. Our grandparents believed in living together forever, and they did whatever
they had to do to make it happen. I mean, they held on. Today, we would never stay like
this.

The idea of "holding on" is no longer consistent with the way we live our relationships, and
it seems normal to us to end a relationship that no longer suits us, for whatever reason.
And we begin to put on the table the idea that there’s no great love of our life, a Prince
Charming or the good one, but the options begin to open up to think that we are going to
have several wonderful relationships throughout of our life, and that some of them could
pass through the altar, but not necessarily.

This is incredible, because we are changing the idea that a relationship that ends was a
bad relationship, that divorce is a failure, or that being single is a burden, and we begin to
live much more authentic and free relationships.

Marriage isn’t outdated neither will be, but we changed the way we understood it, as a life
goal, as the validation of love, as something in which you have to stay forever, as your
ability to be happy or the only place where children fit. Nowadays, we live relationships
from our individuality and each couple begins to have the freedom to choose how they
want to demonstrate their commitment, whether with a ring, or with the daily choice of the
other person.