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In his consolation
to Polybius, Seneca offers advice on how
to overcome whatever grief we happen to be experiencing.
Reason is our best weapon against grief, he maintains,
because “unless reason puts an end to our tears, fortune
will not do so.” More generally, Seneca thinks that
although reason might not be able to extinguish our grief, it
has the power to remove from it “whatever is excessive and
superfl uous.”5
Seneca then sets about using rational persuasion to cure
Polybius of his excessive grief. For example, he argues that
the brother whose death Polybius is grieving either would
or wouldn’t want Polybius to be tortured with tears. If he
would want Polybius to suffer, then he isn’t worthy of
tears, so Polybius should stop crying; if he wouldn’t want
Polybius to suffer, then it is incumbent on Polybius, if he
loves and respects his brother, to stop crying. In another
argument, Seneca points out that Polybius’s brother,
because he is dead, is no longer capable of grief and that
this is a good thing; it is therefore madness for Polybius to
go on grieving.6
Another of Seneca’s consolations is addressed to Helvia,
Seneca’s mother. Whereas Polybius had been grieving the
death of a loved one, Helvia was grieving the exile of
Seneca. In his advice to Helvia, Seneca takes the argument
he offered Polybius—that the person whose death Polybius
is grieving wouldn’t want him to grieve—one step further:
Because it is Seneca’s circumstances that Helvia is
grieving, he argues that inasmuch as he, being a Stoic,
doesn’t grieve his circumstances, Helvia shouldn’t either.
(His consolation to Helvia, he observes, is unique:
Although he read every consolation he could fi nd, in not
one of them did the author console people who were
bemoaning the author himself.)7
174 Stoic Advice
In some cases, such appeals to reason will doubtless help
alleviate, if only for a time, the grief someone is
experiencing. In cases of extreme grief, though, such
appeals are unlikely to succeed for the simple reason that
the grieving person’s emotions are ruling his intellect. But
even in these cases, our attempts to reason with him might
be useful, inasmuch as such attempts can make him
understand the extent to which his intellect has capitulated
to his emotions and thereby induce him, perhaps, to take
steps to restore his intellect to its rightful role.
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Grief