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Rabbi Mordechai Eliyahu:
A Flash of Wisdom that
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education, garnered at
seeing the grace of God
in all things in reality.
It follows the order of
creation, from how time
and space emerge from
nothingness and proceeds
to develop until the
intellect is revealed.
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Rabbi Mordechai Eliyahu
A Flash of Wisdom that Prevented Intermarriage
Rabbi Mordechai Tzemach Eliyahu was born on 21 Adar A 5689 (1929) to
Rabbi Salman Eliyahu, a Kabbalist and disciple of the Ben Ish Chai, and to
his mother Mazal nee Tzadkah, the sister of Rabbi Yehudah Tzadkah and the
granddaughter of the Ben Ish Chai’s sister. From childhood, Rabbi Eliyahu
was exceptionally talented. The family, however, lived in dire poverty. When
Rabbi Eliyahu was just eleven years old, his father passed away and he had
to work to help support his family. He went to work selling cooked garbanzo
beans and then became a mezuzah checker for the mezuzot that his brother,
Rabbi Na’im Eliyahu, had written. Despite the hard work, Rabbi Eliyahu
continued to study whenever and wherever he could. In his youth, he learned
under the tutelage of Rabbi Ezra Atiyah in the Porat Yosef Yeshivah and
under Rabbi Tzedakah Chutzin. When he was 20 years old, he was a member
of the Brit HaKana’im, an underground movement that aimed to make Israel
a state that would be governed by Jewish law and coerce the public to keep
the mitzvot of the Torah. Years later he said that “the path that I had chosen
in the past is not appropriate for our generation.”
At the beginning of 5720 (1960) Rabbi Eliyahu was appointed as the youngest
ever dayan (judge) to the rabbinical court in Be’er Sheva. That year, the bones
of the famous rabbinic figure, Chaim Yosef David Azulai—the Chida—were
brought to Israel for reburial from Italy and Rabbi Eliyahu attended to his
burial in Jerusalem. After four years in Be’er Sheva, he became a member of
the regional rabbinical court in Jerusalem. In 5730 (1970), he was appointed
to the Great Rabbinical Court. On 4 Nissan 5743 (1983) Rabbi Eliyahu was
chosen as the Sephardic Chief Rabbi of Israel, alongside Chief Ashkenazi
Rabbi Avraham Elkanah Kahana Shapira. Even after he finished his tenure
as Chief Rabbi, Rabbi Eliyahu remained the spiritual leader of multitudes. He
was known as a Kabbalist and miracle worker.
Rabbi Eliyahu was the president of Kollel Darchei Hora’ah in Jerusalem,
which trains young Torah scholars to become rabbis and community leaders
in Israel and abroad. Today, there are over 60 shluchim (emissaries) of Rabbi
Eliyahu’s disciples throughout the world and in Israel.
After a period of two years in which Rabbi Eliyahu’s health constantly
deteriorated, the tzaddik passed away on 25 Sivan 5770 (2010). He was
buried together with the Chida, whose bones he had buried there fifty years
earlier.
Once, when Rabbi Mordechai Eliyahu was Chief Rabbi of Israel, he made an official
visit to France, where the official delegation of the Jewish community of France
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awaited him. There was a woman there, one of the important members of the CRIF
(Representative Council of the Jewish Institutions of France) responsible for the
reception. During the event, this woman approached Rabbi Eliyahu and asked to
speak to him alone.
The Rabbi found a quiet corner and the woman poured out her heart to him: “My
daughter met a young Muslim man. She fell in love with him and has informed
me that they are getting married.” Rabbi Eliyahu asked a number of questions,
and the woman related that the young man was a member of an important family
and they had already set a wedding date for the near future. In keeping with the
Muslim sha’ariya, the chief mufti of Paris would be performing the wedding. The
woman told Rabbi Eliyahu, that she no longer wished to live, for her daughter had
hardened her heart and would not listen to any of her pleas.
“When you go home today,” Rabbi Eliyahu replied, “I ask you to tell your daughter
that she should at least take upon herself to keep one of the mitzvot of the holy
Torah. In the home she is planning on making with the Muslim, there should
be two kitchen sinks: one for meat and the other for dairy. The woman agreed
and Rabbi Eliyahu blessed her from the depths of his heart that his words would
penetrate her daughter’s heart and that she would agree to that one request.
A number of days later, an official ceremony was held for Rabbi Eliyahu in the
palace of the then French President, Jacques Chirac. Among the other guests, the
Rabbi met the Chief Mufti of Paris, who was invited to the event as the head of the
Muslim community. Rabbi Eliyahu approached him, shook his hand warmly and
embarked on a friendly conversation with him in Arabic. They asked each other
where they were born, and discovered that both of them were born in the Old City
of Jerusalem and that they had even been neighbors as children. The conversation
became more and more friendly and the Mufti was taken with Rabbi Eliyahu’s
charm.
“My dear friend,” Rabbi Eliyahu whispered to the Mufti, “because we are not only
friends, but also neighbors, I want to reveal something important to you. True, I
am a Jew, and you are a Muslim, but we must each preserve our own unique path.
When I came to France, I heard about a Jewish girl who is planning to marry a
Muslim boy. Actually however her plan is to draw him into Judaism and to cause
him to convert to Judaism!”
The Mufti reddened with anger, but Rabbi Eliyahu continued: “I did not come here
to anger you, but I do want to give you all the details, the girl’s name and her
The Mufti saw that Rabbi Eliyahu was serious and paid close attention to the
details about the girl. The rabbi gave him her name and mentioned that she had
decided to demand that there would be two sinks in their home. That would be
only the beginning, for she intended to add more and more commandments until
the Muslim would convert to Judaism. “I know them and they have asked me to
officiate at their wedding,” the Mufti said. I will call the boy tomorrow and will ask
him if his fiancée is planning to install two sinks in their new kitchen. If so, nothing
will help him. I will force him to leave her!” the Mufti said.
On the day that Rabbi Eliyahu was returning to Israel, the CRIF delegation once
again accompanied him. Once again, the same woman approached Rabbi Eliyahu
and asked to speak with him privately. This time the tears in her eyes were tears of
joy. She related that less than just a week ago, she had convinced her daughter, as
per Rabbi Eliyahu’s instructions, to install two separate sinks in her future home.
Yesterday, her daughter came home sobbing and broken. She told her mother that
her Muslim boyfriend had broken their engagement and told her that he never
wanted to see her again. He was overtaken by the thought that the two sinks were
just an excuse that would eventually convince him to convert to Judaism, and he
was furious. As much as she denied this, she did not manage to convince him, and
he abandoned her forever.
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The Zohar also refers to it as the “rod born [or begotten]” and in this case,
of measurement” ( )קַ ו הַ ִּמדָּ ה, because it Rabbi Eliyahu was shrewd enough to see
is also the basis of all measurements; that by getting the young woman to set up
measurements are used to define the boundaries between dairy and meat, her
limited size of an object. engagement to the Muslim man would be
In our story, we see the connection called off.
between Rabbi Eliyahu’s wisdom and his Rabbi Eliyahu’s clarity and propitious
might, which as noted is responsible for advice came as the result of years upon
setting up limits and borders—in this years of studying the intricacies of
case at first between dairy and meat and the Torah’s fine print in legal matters,
then in his words to the mufti that men which train the individual to make hair-
and women of different religions should splitting decisions, thereby exercising and
not mix. About wisdom it is said, “Who awakening his super-conscious powers of
is wise? He who sees that which will be the intellect.
1. Proverbs 8:12.
2. Berachot 17a.
3. Tanya, Sha’ar HaYichud VeHaEmunah, ch. 4.
yud time
hei space
* Excerpted from the teshurah passed out at the wedding of HaRav Ginsburgh's grandson, Shalom Dovber
Hendel and Heti Leah, 17 Sivan, 5783
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like leap. Time/wisdom constitutes the from the realm of reality (which includes
"beginning of the revelation" 8 of the time and space) and its building blocks
nothingness that brings existence into (referring to energy and mass). First, there
being; it is the beginning of the revelation of is motion. Within space and time, particles
"[know that] you come from nothingness" 9 of matter move as a result of energy. Pure
( את
ָ )מֵ אַ יִן ָּב. It is this “nothingness” ( )אָ יִןthat motion, without friction or resistance,
is revealed to "the wise who sees what continues indefinitely—unidirectionally,
will be brought into being" 10 ( חָ ָכם הָ ר ֹואֶ ה אֶ ת if the universe is unlimited, or back and
—)הַ ּנ ֹולָדthe eternal coming into being from forth, if the the universe is limited. Even
nothingness. 11 Space/understanding is the transition from a state of a dormant
considered the "beginning of reality," 12 i.e., particle to one that is in motion is
it constitutes "the possibility of reality," 13 a something of a leap, which still requires
connotation for the World of Creation in some examination to see how it is defined
which understanding nests, and that is the scientifically.
creation of space in which the existence Then comes a huge leap—from random
of reality is possible. Thus, time enables motion to life. A leap of this type can be
the summoning or the invitation of reality seen taking place between the descriptions
to appear from the nothingness, but still of the second and third days of Genesis.
requires a contraction-type leap to conceal At first this leap leads to life in the
the nothingness from which reality is form of the plant kingdom and then
created and which provides a space where continues to the life inherent in living
existence will be possible. creatures. Motion, like the four levels
After the creation of time and space, that preceded it, has no way to overcome,
described in the first two verses of the if only temporarily, entropy. But life is a
Torah, the light-energy appears in the third miraculous phenomenon that contradicts
verse (force as energy, relative to ordinary and fights against the law of entropy. The
light, refers to the electromagnetic leap to life begins with motion, following
force). The light particle, the photon, is the statement that, "all living things are in
massless and the transition from energy motion." 16 Thus, motion is what enables
to matter also requires a leap. This leap is the appearance of life. The next stage,
described in Kabbalah as a result of "the the seventh (and cherished element 17) in
condensation of the lights" 14 from which this contemplation is the leap from life
vessels were created. In physics, the leap is to intelligent life, life that can be defined
the result of a mysterious particle to which as sentient or intelligent (intelligence).
belongs the mysterious number 137, the The mind of the intelligent creature is
fine-structure constant, which is the ratio expressed through all its senses and among
between the speed of the wave to the speed the people of Israel it also includes free
of the lightest particle 15). choice. 18
This structure can be extended further Let us offer a numerical allusion
to include three more concepts that evolve analyzing these seven levels. The value of
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between what the Mittler Rebbe prescribed Thus, relatively speaking, following the
and our suggestion here. By the Mittler process from above to below corresponds
Rebbe, we contemplate the evolution of to the Written Torah—the Torah that
reality from above to below. Our seven- itself descended from heaven to earth
stage contemplation proceeds in the (“Those situated above will come down”),
opposite direction, from below to above, in while following the process from below
what is essentially a process of development to above corresponds to the Oral Torah,
(like an evolution) from bottom to top, which “grows” from below (completing the
from the simple to the complex. The second half of this saying, with “The lower
order from the simple to the complex was ascends” 32).
known by the early philosophers as the These two directions and approaches
“natural order” 31 ( ) ְק ִדימָ ה ִ ּבזְ מַ ן, the order are characterized by the relationship
of development of Nature itself. Even if between a groom and a bride. For our
the roots of time and space are ultimately generation, the generation of the coming
higher, their reality constitutes a relatively of the Mashiach, which is a feminine
simple concept. generation, 33 contemplation from below
In other words, in our meditative to above (using the natural order) is more
structure, we start from the Divine appropriate. Going from below to above
nothingness, from which the simple and is akin to the concept of reflected light,
lowest foundation is formed first, and then which tends to “returns to [above] its
higher and higher complexity emerges. origin.” 34
1. Deuteronomy 4:39.
2. See also the shiur from the 7th of Elul, 5782 (can be found in Hebrew on www.galeinai.org.il(.
3. Tanya, Sha’ar HaYichud VeHa’emunah, ch. 7.
4. In a seminar dedicated to Einstein’s special and general theories of relativity. A transcription of the
seminar appears in Mivchar Shi’urei Hitbonenut vol. 15 and this particular topic is covered from pp. 163ff.
5. See Zohar 3:290b and 1:123a.
6. From the perspective of the Torah’s inner dimension there are two possible ways to see the relationship
between time and space. One possibility is that the empty void created by the contraction of God’s infinite
light is itself space, while time is represented by the ray of light that entered the empty void. This first
option follows the philosophical stance expressed by Rav Sa’adyah Ga’on in Emunot VeDe’ot end of ma’amar
1 and in Maimonides’ Guide to the Perplexed 2:13 and 2:30. Another possibility is that time precedes space
and allows it to come into being. These two options correspond to the relationship between wisdom and
understanding, which have separate origins, with
7. Which stands for Energy equals mass times the square of the speed of light, where the square of the
speed of light is alluded to in the two mentions of the word “light” in the verse describing light’s creation,
“God said, ‘Let there be light,’ and there was light.”
8. See Eitz Chaim 42:1.
9. Avot 3:1.
10. Tamid 32a.
11. Tanya ch. 43.
12. See Shiurim BeSod HaShem LiYerei’av vol. 3, p. 163.
13. See Sefer Hama’amarim 5662, p. 356 and Sefer Hama’amarim 5686 p. 30. See Sod HaShem LiYerei’av 2:1.
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Pirkei Avot 2:9
Good, Better, and Even
Better
Rabbi Yochanan ben Zakai had five disciples…He would recount their
praises… Rabbi Elazar ben Arach is as an ever-increasing wellspring…
Abba Shaul said in his name: If all the sages of Israel were to be
placed on one cup of a balance-scale and Elazar ben Arach was in the
other, he would outweigh them all.
A Third Stage
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Mystery of Marriage
Mirror Psychology
This article is part of a series of rewrites of HaRav Ginsburgh’s bestselling
book, The Mystery of Marriage, intended for a universal audience. Written
by Mrs. Sara Esther Crispe who lectures widely and coaches singles and
couples based on HaRav Ginsburgh’s teachings.
Jacob seemed to be a bit of a serial dater. He always had a girlfriend and yet his
relationships didn’t seem to last very long. Everyone joked that he would never get
married because he was terrified of commitment and got bored too easily. But then
he met Laya.
Laya was different. She really understood him and they connected on seemingly
every level and had so much in common. He really fell for her and to everyone’s
surprised they got engaged and soon after married.
Marriage was great for Jacob. He no longer felt this need to keep looking for
something and someone else. He was attracted to his wife, loved spending time and
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enjoyed speaking with her, and was encouraged and supported by her to take risks
and try new things.
What Jacob didn’t realize was that his sole way of gauging if things were going
well was if he was happy. He was so used to looking at relationships for what they
could do for him that he didn’t know how to focus on his wife’s needs and what he
could do for her.
After some time passed, Laya was no longer the outgoing, positive, curious,
interesting woman he had dated. She started acting moodier, was quick to snap,
and wasn’t always pleasant to be around. Jacob’s first response was that he should
end the marriage. After all, it wasn’t working and he wasn’t happy. And if he wasn’t
happy, why should he stay in the relationship?
Fortunately, he was open to marriage counseling and it was there that he and
Laya were able to be honest about what was bothering them. Jacob listed all the ways
things had changed and what he didn’t like. Laya then was able to express to Jacob
that he was so busy thinking about himself that he never took the time to ensure that
she was happy. When her interests happened to coincide with his all was good. But as
soon as she wanted something different, there was no room for that.
Jacob had not been aware that he had been doing this but with all the examples
given it was pretty clear that he had been self-consumed. The next few months he
really made the effort to find out what she wanted to do, talk about, focus on. The
more time he spent concerned with what concerned her, the more connected he
felt, and the more he naturally wanted to give to her.
Likewise, the more Laya felt that he cared about her interests and feelings, the
more she wanted to spend time with him, share with him, and express her love. It
was clear that Jacob had made the greatest turning point when during a counseling
session his proof for why things were going well was not that he was happy, but that
he knew that Laya was happy, which in turn was the reason he felt things were so
positive.
1. Proverbs 27:19.
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