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Value Sensetive Therapy
Value Sensetive Therapy
*Harold M. Proshansky Professor of Sociology and Jewish Studies, City University of New York.
Mailing address: Department of Sociology, Queens College C.U.N.Y.,Flushing, N.Y. 11367.
*"Director of Psychotherapy Supervision, Beersheeba Mental Health Center and Community and
Associate Professor, Faculty of Health Sciences, Ben Gurion University of the Negev, Beersheeba,
Israel.
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talk." Moreover, it often also requires the patient to accept the therapist's
"judgments concerning the desirability and advisability of various courses
of action."' Sometimes, as has been argued in the literature on the
development of "culturally sensitive" mental health training (particularly in
the context of those from the dominant culture treating those of a minority
culture), it simultaneously calls for the mental health professional to
reframe his or her diagnosis and try to perceive the reality of the situation
not simply through the therapists' explanatory framework but also through
the prism of the patient's cultural metaphor^.^^
When the divide across which the therapy occurs also not only defines
different cultural realities but contradictory and clashing values, a cognitive
comprehension of differences may be insufficient. The therapist must also
pursue a therapeutic strategy that is sensitive to the patients' values, even
when this seems to oppose commonly accepted therapeutic approaches, so
that patients do not emerge from the encounter having not only been
healed but also "converted" to a new set of values that undermine a sacred
or social order that matters, deeply to them. Perhaps nowhere do these
issues become clearer than in the case of an encounter between a secular
therapist, trained in modern therapeutic methods, and a religious patient,
bonded to a traditional community of believers whose heritage and folk-
ways are incongruent with the values and cultural assumptions that most
psychotherapists share.
For such patients, therapy may be an encounter fraught with danger. In
large measure this is because commonly there is the risk that, as Allen
Bergin has articulated it, "therapists, as secular moralists, may promote
changes not valued by the [religious] client or the community."' Moreover,
even if particular practitioners are determined not to promote such changes,
the fact remains that, as Aponte and others have demonstrated, "values
frame the entire process of therapy," and thus even religiously tolerant
therapists, as they "establish criteria for evaluation, fix parameters for
technical interventions and select therapeutic goals" may remain insensitive
to and unable "to understand and maintain an empathic respect for
patients' religious orientations and beliefsn8
To be sure, the very act of seeking therapy from someone who does not
share one's religious values and outlook should force the potential patient
to confront the possibility that the therapist may disapprove or devalue the
religious way of life and try to deconvert the believer as part of the therapy
or at the very least "argue with the patient about the patient's doctrine
because the therapist regards it as destructive or theologically incorrect,
even though it is normative for the patient's den~mination."~ Moreover,
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the body and for the married among them, a head covering that may range
from a kerchief over a shorn head for the most extreme to a wig for those
less so. Haredim also distinguish themselves by speaking in Yiddish, a
Jewish language that increasingly is limited only to them. In addition, they
have created environmental and residential barriers-segregated neighbor-
hoods, for example-behind which they build their relatively insular
communities. They also send their children to private Jewish schools in
which only those who share their values and lifestyles are included. They
are overwhelmingly endogamous, arranging marriages rather than allowing
individuals to find mates according to the demands of romantic love.
Although haredim appear to constitute a single ultra-Orthodox group,
they are in fact subdivided into hasidim, who are organized around their
fidelity to a particular charismatic rabbi-leader or rebbe on the one hand,
and b'nai those who identify with a particular academy of Jewish
learning and its leading scholar (Rosh Yeshiva), students, and interpretive
traditions, on the other. Within each of these two subcultures, there are
further divisions. Hence one sect of hasidim may strictly distinguish itself
from another, while those who are attached to one yeshiva may have little to
do with those associated with another. Thus a haredi is either a particular
kind of hasid or a member of a particular yeshiva community, follower of a
particular rabbi's interpretation of Jewish law.17 The divisions may be so
great as to erupt in conflict and even violence. Yet what divides these
haredim from one another pales in comparison with what divides haredim
in general from the rest of society.
Nowhere is this division clearer than in the psychosocial world view that
haredim share. This is defined by their common (often hostile) perception
of a secular world that opposes them and seeks to undermine their
attachments to one another and to the tradition. As one man said to one of
us (SCH): "In today's world, Yidn Dews1 are alone and Yiddishkeit
[Judaism and the Jewish way of life] is under attack." (Haredi Jews often
refer to themselves simply as Yidn, assuming that all others who call
themselves Jews are really counterfeit.) They see themselves "as a [lonely]
force endlessly combating obstacles," convinced that "catastrophes of
existence come as the inevitable culmination of past choices and experi-
ences," which most contemporary members of secular society have made
and had.l8 While a few haredim-most prominently LubavitcherKhabad
hasidim-have tried to engage and reach out to this world in order to try to
bring it in line with their image of what is authentic, most haredim are
content to try to struggle against it by demanding it provide protection for
their way of life or at the very least leave them alone. They view the culture
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month (specifically, only from seven days after the end of the woman's
menstrual period and after she has immersed herself in a ritual bath or
mikveh) and even within the permitted period there are those haredim who
consider some times superior to others (the Sabbath, for example).16
CASE STUDIES
All this serves as background to the case histories of three haredim from
Jerusalem. All were seen clinically by one of the authors (EW) who,
although he is a secular Jew, serves as a psychiatrist to a large haredi
clientele. The cases were then discussed and analyzed with the other author
(SCH), a social anthropologist, who has specialized in haredi life and
culture.
CASE1: NOTENOUGH LOVE
Hannah, a 24-year-old haredi woman, had immigrated to Jerusalem
from Western Europe. At the time she was first seen by the therapist, she
suffered from acute sleeplessness, high tension, and free-floating anxiety.
She had been married four years, was the mother of two young children,
and her husband was a full-time student in a kollel, a yeshiva for married
men. As is common in the haredi world, Hannah's marriage was the result
of matchmaking. Yet, while Hannah accepted the match offered, she
claimed that she did so against her d for from the first time she met her
husband to be, she decided that she did not like him very much. In fact,
according to her testimony, she married simply in order to conform with
the expectations that are part of the haredi patterns of marriage.
Hannah was the middle one of three daughters. The eldest, a more
assertive woman, when presented with a match she did not like, was able to
reject it. She left home, moved to Jerusalem, and found someone acceptable
to marry. The youngest daughter, to the contrary, submissively married the
first person her parents selected for her and stayed close to home in Europe
after her wedding. Hannah, however, while trying to be as compliant as her
younger "good" sister but also wishing to be no less willful and assertive
than her elder one, found herself in a situation where on the one hand, like
her younger sister, she married the first person her father selected for her,
but, on the other-in a way emulating the willfulness and rejection of her
older sister-remained unhappy with that choice and moved away to
Jerusalem.
Nevertheless, she continued to believe and hope (as her parents assured
her would be the case) that in time, as was common in the haredi world,
love and contentment would follow marriage and she would become
attached to this husband of hers. But, though they had the two children,
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this love did not come. Instead, she grew even further alienated from her
spouse, refused finally to have sexual relations with him, and reached a
point of such desperation that she threatened suicide. It was at this point
that she came for a consultation at the urging of her elder sister.
On the basis of a psychiatric evaluation, Hannah showed no evidence of
a major psychiatric disorder, such as depression or psychosis. She did
present symptoms of acute anxiety. When she was asked by the therapist
what precisely was her problem, she said she needed a partner she would be
able to love. She simply felt that she did not have enough love for her
husband. In the course of the interview, she allowed this was not his fault,
that on the contrary he treated her well, and loved her (indeed, he admitted
that he was ready to do anything she asked to help her love him more). Her
reply was that she simply did not love him, and she could not continue to
live any more without such love. She wanted a husband to love, a husband
who was, to be sure, a "ben torah," (a yeshiva student in the haredi world)
but one she could and would love.
Divorce was not an option. She knew that as a divorcee with two
children, who had left her husband because she did not love him, she
would be perceived in the narrow confines of the haredi world as "damaged
goods," as would her husband. Both would find it enormously difficult to
remarry, particularly if the reason for the divorce were this curious (and in
the haredi world culturally irrelevant) lack of love. To the haredi world, this
sort of reason for a divorce would stigmatize her as "crazy," and a
troublesome woman. It would also make her husband seem to be a vaguely
unsatisfactory partner. The result would be to throw both into a social
limbo out of which it would be difficult if not impossible to escape. For her
part, she would be unlikely to find another match with any among the
superior yeshiva students, the population among whom she sought some-
one to love. Moreover, she knew that to get a divorce, she needed her
husband's agreement for according to Jewish law, he alone could initiate
such an action. So while divorce was possible, from Hannah's perspective it
was enormously complex and in many ways culturally unthinkable. Thus,
she contemplated suicide and subsequently settled on the solution that
her's was a medical problem for which the doctor could somehow find a
miracle cure. She wanted a pill to make her love her husband.
The Therapist's Dilemma
Should the therapist ignore the demands of her religion and culture and
confront her with the fact that they are part of the etiology of her problem?
Should he encourage her deferred rebellion against her father's will and
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problems of separation which took the form of wanting to reject his choice
for her? Should he tell her to pursue her personal pleasure and happiness
even if this will cause a breach between her and her haredi values and
community? Should the therapist help her to gain personal independence
and self-actualization and in the process abandon the haredi world in order
to seek her true love? In short, should he follow the recommendation of
Perry London that, "if he believes that the client's religious convictions help
sustain the disorder, a confrontation with those convictions may be inevi-
table?"l9
Or, seeking to pursue a value-sensitive approach, should the therapist
consider other alternatives? He might conclude that Hannah's is not a case
for him at all, that a value-sensitive approach should move him to send her
instead to a community counselor or a rabbi or someone within the haredi
community who shares its values and might therefore find a solution
informed and shaped by those values and that culture and society. O r else,
the value-sensitive therapist might recognize that at most his role is to make
Hannah come to terms with the fact that her personal happiness might not
be the most important goal in her life. Or, as a third alternative, he might
help her to learn how to transform her desire for autonomy so that it allows
her to make peace with what she has, even at the expense of her personal
feelings and fuller expression of autonomy.
In fact, to try the first alternative ran the risk of stigmatizing Hannah
and her husband by highlighting her unusual concerns with romance; that
was why Hannah had come to the "outsider" psychiatrist in the first place.
The value-sensitive therapist instead chose a combination of the second
and third alternatives, assuming that if these did not work, Hannah herself
might choose to go elsewhere for help. After exploring the feelings of the
patient and offering her an empathic understanding, the therapist advised
her that from his point of view she had no real psychiatric problem. This
was a crucial message both for her and her family as it immediately allayed
their anxieties that they might all be stigmatized by virtue of her being
judged to have a psychiatric disorder. (In the haredi community such a
stigma can prove socially fatal and lead to a decline in social status and the
opportunities for other members of the family to find appropriate marriage
partners.) Rather, he suggested, her conflict emerged from the incongruous
expectations that she had absorbed from her European surroundings
which idealized romantic love and the cultural constructions of her haredi
social reality which, on the contrary, emphasize the nonerotic, non-
romantic elements of marriage and emphasize the positive aspects and
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greater importance of family life.20That is, the problem was not her fault or
her husband's.
In an effort to provide some room for Hannah's expression of autonomy
and personal initiative which underlay her desire for greater emotional
expression in her marriage, the therapist reframed the choice before her
and suggested that this was perhaps the first time in her life that she herself
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first case, the therapist could have pursued a long course of therapy that
would have perhaps explored Hannah's psychodynamic conflicts with her
father, their oedipal overtones and complex developmental issues of iden-
tity. H e might have tried to help her reach some level of self-actualization,
sought to encourage her tentative feelings of assertiveness and personal
independence, allowing her to separate from her husband and the loveless
marriage.*l But in the process, he might have also subverted her deeply
held community and religious attachments, and left her alone in limbo. In
brief, he might have solved one problem and created another.
Similarly, in the second case, the therapist might have allowed the
husband and wife to deal with their ambivalence by expressing their anger
at the rabbi for his false hope, by enabling them to separate from their
dependence upon him, and helping them take responsibility for their own
lives and family decisions. Yet here too, he would have done so by
essentially undermining their fundamental connection to the community
and religious beliefs that sustained them and that operate for hasidim
through their unquestioning reliance upon and trust in the rabbi.
CASE2: THEHOMOSEXUAL RABBI
Rabbi Eliezer was a 52-year-old, severe-looking, haredi man from
Jerusalem. A product of the yeshiva world, he excelled in his Torah
scholarship and became a Rosh Yeshiva. He was married and father to five
children, ranging in age from an 18-year-olddaughter to a 25-year-old son.
Suffering from sudden impotence, Rabbi Eliezer first visited a urologist.
Finding no organic reason for the problem, the urologist referred him for a
psychiatric consultation.
During the intake interview, Rabbi Eliezer kept his features tightly
controlled most of the time. In response to probing questions, he revealed
that his impotence emerged about four months after his youngest daugh-
ter's wedding. Describing the wedding, he spoke glowingly of his new
son-in-law, and when he did so, he became animated and his severe features
visibly softened. He characterized the young man as an outstanding
rabbinical student-which is the standard positive qualities by which
young males (so-called b'nai torah) are described-especially by someone
who is a Rosh Yeshiva. But then, he went beyond this characterization and
declared additionally that his new son-in-law was a handsome lad. To
describe him he made use of a biblical phrase (Sam. I 16:12), calling him
"admonee v'yefay einaim v'tov roeey," ruddy with beautiful eyes and
good-looking, an expression used to describe the legendary King David.
Although couched in Scriptural language, this sort of description referring
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had no complaints about his sexual behavior until the onset of his
impotence. This impotence came when, four months after their wedding,
the daughter and son-in-law, following a common haredi practice, moved
away to another city where they had found an apartment they could afford
and where the young man found habilitation as a student in a kollel. Within
the course of a month following their departure, Rabbi Eliezer said he
longed powerfully for the young man. It was then that he also grew
impotent.
It is important to note that the rabbi did not himself make the explicit
connection between these two events, indeed ignored any possible linkage
between them. Rather, he worried that he had somehow sinned-though
precisely in what he could not say-and that was the reason this grievous
illness had come upon him. Although he suspected a religious root to his
problem, he had not taken up the nature of his sins with any other rabbis
because of what he viewed as the intimate and embarrassing nature of his
affliction.
Later, when Rabbi Eliezer's wife came for her own interview with the
therapist, she was the one who inquired as to whether there could be a
association between her husband's condition and the departure of the
young man, whom, as everyone by now knew, the rabbi adored. Tentatively
broaching the subject in a subsequent interview, the therapist asked Rabbi
Eliezer if he had encouraged his daughter to marry the young man in order
to "acquire" him for himself through the medium of his daughter. Rabbi
Eliezer nodded in the affirmative. Yet, what Rabbi Eliezer believed he was
admitting was not any illicit desires but rather that he had acquired the
son-in-law as a student and disciple.
The Therapist's Dilemma
In the evaluation of the therapist, this was a case of latent and repressed
homosexuality, something that probably contributed to his earlier inability
to find any woman good enough for him to marry. Sensing his erotic
feelings for his son-in-law, Rabbi Eliezer had perhaps become over-
whelmed and frightened by his own homosexual desires and having lost the
young man found that his libido had become totally inhibited. Alterna-
tively, the impotence could be explained as an effort on the rabbi's part to
"punish" himself for his forbidden desires and appetites, thus removing all
potential sexual satisfaction from occurring. Finally, his impotence might
be explained as a self-inflicted brake or inhibitor that would prevent his
desires from driving him toward an act of sexual satisfaction (either
homosexual or masturbatory, both of which were strictly prohibited) that
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he would regret forever. Whatever explanation one accepts, each one has,
as its precipitating factor, the latent homosexual desire for the young man, a
desire that is totally incompatible with Rabbi Eliezer's haredi religious and
cultural values, which view homosexuality as an abomination.
In fact, the problems from which Rabbi Eliezer suffers could potentially
be alleviated by a therapy leading to his recognition and ultimate accep-
tance of his homosexual or bisexual character. However, while this might
solve the problem of his impotence, it would at the same time forever ban
him from the only world and set of values he has ever known and leave him
all alone in the world. Ironically, he would be even further from his love
object by virtue of this disclosure and life change than he now was. Even
were he not to express his homosexuality but simply admit it, this revela-
tion would have the same culturally disruptive and emotionally burden-
some effects.
The therapist is confronted by a dilemma here. Should he reveal to the
rabbi his apparent homosexual or bisexual nature or is his role to help the
rabbi suppress that nature or sublimate it so that he can continue to live in
the sexually regulated and highly structured haredi world where no
variations on the basic monogamous heterosexual union are tolerated or
even legitimately contemplated? In value terms, what is good and what is
bad here? The desirable is far from clear.
Clearly, therapists are in some way agents of the social and cultural
order, and their decision as to what strategy to take is affected not only by
the desire to make the patient well, but by a judgment as to which world
and value system can the patient be part of in order to be well. What
constitutes wellness in Greenwich Village or the San Francisco Bay area is
very distant from what does so in and around the haredi neighborhoods of
Jerusalem where Rabbi Eliezer made his life. Hence therapy requires a clear
sense of where in the world the patient is being sent when he gets well. The
therapist must thus not only cure the patient but also relocate him into one
world or another. That decision must be made in concert with the patient
and in such a way that will not cure the illness but leave the patient a
socially crippled individual and cultural solitary,
In this case, the psychiatrist dealt with the symptoms focally by medica-
tion and relaxation techniques and intentionally avoided giving a psycho-
dynamic interpretation of the symptoms that would allow the rabbi to face
the underlying issues of his sexuality. In brief, he decided not to share with
Rabbi Eliezer his own knowledge and insights, and told his wife that it was
not a good idea to explore the reasons for his impotence too deeply-a
restriction which she was able to accept (the notion that there are some
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matters which should not be explored too deeply is well rooted in haredi
life which emphasizes the restriction of free inquiry).
Ironically, the rabbi himself began to reach some insights into the
sources of his problem and himself raised the possibility of his homosexual-
ity which he immediately denied, adding that if it were true, he would kill
himself in some camouflaged way so that no one would know he had
committed suicide-but he would not continue to live. This, the therapist
concluded, was a not very disguised way of the rabbi's ratifying the
therapist's value-sensitive approach and that he, the rabbi, did not want to
know, or have confirmed these suspicions of his homosexuality. He would,
he indicated, rather deal with the symptoms than the root cause. The
therapist, in a value-sensitive response, therefore tried to provide the
treatment the culture and the patient wanted. This turned out to be the
successful approach.
CASE3: THEASCETIC HASID
Gabriel, a thirty-one-year-old man, married, with four children, was a
so-called repentant Jew (ba'al t'shuuah) who for the last seventeen years had
been a Breslaver hasid. In his youth, Gabriel had been a member of a
nonreligious kibbutz. At the time of his visit to the therapist, he was
suffering from a schizo-affective disorder that resulted in his displaying
mood disturbances with accompanying psychotic features. For five years,
Gabriel was in remission, dealing successfully with his life while on his
maintenance dose of the antipsychotic, thorazine.
When asked why he chose to express his religiosity in the form of
Breslav hasidism, which is filled with mystical practices and emphasizes
emotions and the importance of solitariness, he replied that he could
empathize and identify with the struggles of the sect's founder, the eigh-
teenth century Rabbi Nachman who in his collected writings describes
similar experiences2*In a way, his choice of Breslaver hasidism was his way
of dealing with sexual difficulties that he experienced as a newly religious
man. Because Orthodox Judaism forbids and negatively sanctions mastur-
bation and even nocturnal emissions, something that, as an 18-year-oldwho
was becoming religiously observant, Gabriel still experienced, he found
himself forced to come to terms with his sexual appetites that expressed
themselves in this forbidden way. H e did not know how to solve this
problem over which, on the one hand, he had no control physically and on
the other, he came to believe more and more was a mortal sin. Breslav
hasidism seem to offer him a solution.
In its practices, this sect pays special attention to the matters of sexual
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sins and onanism. To do penance for this sin or somehow cancel its
consequences, the Breslaver hasidim have a ritual which they call "tikkun
klalli," or universal repair. This ritual requires the mantra-like recitation of
particular psalms and prayers and immersion in a mikueh or ritual bath,
both of which serve to wipe clean the slate of sins caused by the emission
and sexual urges while providing some sort of protection against their
continued expression. Asceticism and sexual abstinence are not discour-
aged.
When he presented himself to the therapist, although not suffering from
any psychotic or affective episodes, Gabriel claimed to have two problems.
Specifically, Gabriel was disturbed by a vision he had. In it he beheld what
he believed were supernatural female figures from the netherworld who, he
concluded, were trying to seduce and hence corrupt him, drawing him
away from the path of righteousness that he had so long struggled to follow.
Secondly, he claimed to have problems with his wife.
In line with the norms of haredi life, his wife would immerse herself in
the mikveh seven days after the end of her menstrual cycle. That same
evening, according to custom and religious practice, she was once again
permitted (indeed, encouraged) by Jewish law and custom to renew sexual
relations with her husband-something strictly forbidden from the onset of
her period. The husband was expected to fulfil his conjugal obligations
upon her return from the mikveh or later that night. But this became
increasingly difficult for Gabriel. Although he fulfilled these conjugal
obligations, he felt that the entire day afterwards he was unable to focus his
energies or attentions on what he viewed as his primary religious and
vocational responsibility: the unending study of and meditation upon
Torah and other Jewish scholarly or mystical texts. Beyond this sense of
distraction, he also felt deeply that he had somehow become defiled. To
solve this, he would, as other hasidim sometimes do, immerse himself in the
mikveh afterwards. But all this was to no avail, as he came out of the
purdying waters still feeling defiled and impure.
To deal with these problems, he had for the last three months avoided
all sexual activity. While he was pleased with this ascetic solution, not
altogether out of line with some of the more extreme Breslaver customs, (in
fact some of Gabriel's peers considered him a holy man, a zaddtk), his wife
was deeply distressed by this cessation of sexual relations and felt rejected
and denied. More than Gabriel, she wanted to consult with the therapist,
and a week later she too arrived at the clinic, expressing great anxiety over
her husband's ascetic turn. At first she had believed that her husband was
acting this way because he had become more religious, something which in
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itself was a good thing in the world they inhabited. But though greater
religiosity was good, she could not tolerate a complete moratorium of her
sex life. Consequently she consulted one of the rabbis in their community
and told him the whole story seeking to know whether her husband was
doing the religiously correct thing. The rabbi, aware of Gabriel's medical
history, took a neutral position; he explained that, by religious law, her
husband was obligated to satisfy her sexually, but that certain ascetic
practices were also within the realm of the permissible. H e therefore
suggested that the couple see a doctor for advice to see if Gabriel's actions
were driven by his illness or not. Whatever the doctor who had been
treating her husband would say that would, he concluded, constitute the
rabbinic verdict as well. Reluctantly, the wife was ready to grant Gabriel his
zaddik status, if that was what drove his actions. But if he was sick, she
wanted a remedy. Gabriel and even more so his wife now wanted an answer.
The Therapist's Dilemma
In effect, the therapist, personally committed to a secular world view
and ethos, had been designated by the rabbi to decide whether Gabriel's
behavior was a genuine religious expression of asceticism or a symptom of
an affective disorder and, hence, in the rabbi's terms, an illness.
Now in fact, the difficulties that Gabriel had with sexuality all his adult
life were successfully handled by avoidance behaviors, which were legiti-
mated and even sanctioned by Breslav hasidism. H e had found a perfect
and institutionalized framework for handling his problem. In his value-
sensitive approach, the therapist also saw in Gabriel's actions an element of
normalcy within the framework and context of Breslav hasidism. In other
words, Gabriel was clearly within a typology, albeit perhaps at an extreme,
of Breslav religious lifestyle. For his wife, however, Gabriel's solution was
anathema.
In an effort to find a solution that would at once be value-sensitive and
provide some remedy for the wife while not calling into question Gabriel's
hard-won status as zaddik, the secular therapist decided to draw from
Jewish tradition for his solution and quoting the medieval Jewish sage,
Maimonides, whom the consulted rabbi had cited in his partial response,
argued for the golden mean that would require Gabriel to offer his wife
some sexual satisfaction but which would also require that she in turn
minimize her demands upon him in this regard. Now, while Gabriel was
familiar with the text, the fact that both the rabbi and the doctor cited the
same religious authorities in urging him to diminish his asceticism with
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regard to sexual activity with his wife was for him a divine sign that this was
the proper path. Both accepted the solution quickly.
For two years, Gabriel and his wife have found peace. Although Gabriel
continues to complain whenever he comes to renew his prescription that he
finds it difficult to comply with even the modified sexual demands of his
wife, he does so. That he no longer dreams about supernatural female
figures from the netherworld, who are trying to seduce and corrupt him, he
takes as a sign that the recipe for relations with his wife that he was given is
the correct one.
CONCLUDING REMARKS
In all these cases, there is a cultural conflict between the value system
and norms of the haredi client and those of the western civilization from
which the therapist comes. In some cases, the value-sensitive therapist
views the problem as not being psychological in its origins but rather
generated by the tension between the cultures and natural psychosexual
drives that express themselves as a problem for the client. He tries always to
keep a balance between the patient's complaint and the values that
otherwise sustain the patient and play an important role in who he is and
where and what he wants to be (even if these are at odds with the therapist's
own values). In a sense, he follows the recommendations of Hawkins and
Bullock2' who have argued that therapists should seriously address the
importance and impact of patients' values or religious beliefs for, if they do
not, they effectively "discount" and discriminate against their religious
clients.
In the case of not enough love this required offering the patient only
limited autonomy and encouraging her to make her own choice even if this
modified independence led to her inhibiting her passions, assuring her she
had no psychiatric problem but rather a cultural and interpersonal one for
which no one was to blame.
In the case of the homosexual rabbi, the therapist allowed the client to
deal with his symptoms but did not engage in a therapy that would force
him to confront his latent homosexuality and hence excise him from the
only world he knows and values. Thus the therapist chose to allow the
client to camouflage and treat his latent homosexuality as a disorder rather
than a lifestyle.
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value-sensitive therapy that drew on a literature and value system that
would alter behavior according to the terms of the culture from which the
client comes. It did not try to deconvert the patient from his sexual
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