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A Taste of Defusion
I’m now going to take you through several defusion techniques, which is
typically what I do next with my clients, after the work outlined in the
previous chapter. So pull out a scrap of paper and write down two or three
negative, self-judgmental thoughts your mind throws up from time to time to
give you a good thrashing. You’ll need these to work with during the
exercises.
Have you done that? Okay, now pick the thought that bothers you the
most and use it to work through the following exercises. (At the start of each
exercise, I’ll ask you to fuse with your thought for ten seconds. You
generally won’t need to ask your clients to do that as they’ll already be
fused!)
Do This as an Experiment
When we do these kinds of exercises with our clients, it’s useful to say,
“Can we do this as an experiment? I’m expecting it to be helpful, but I never
know for sure what will happen.” This helps both client and therapist to tap
into an attitude of openness and curiosity. And the same applies to you as
you try the exercises that follow; regard them as experiments, and be open to
unexpected results. Some of these exercises will have no effect at all; your
level of fusion won’t alter. Some may give rise to just a little bit of defusion;
others to a massive amount. Some may even create a bit of fusion, ramp it up
a notch. So be curious; see what happens.
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What happened? Did you notice a sense of separation or distance from
the thought? If not, run through the exercise again with a different thought.
In a therapy session, you could follow up as below:
Therapist: So what happened to the thought?
Client: It sort of lost some of its sting.
Therapist: Did you get some sense of separation or distance from it?
Client: Yeah. It sort of backed off a bit.
Therapist: Could you just show me with your hands and your arms
where the thought seemed to move to?
Client: Out here. (The client stretches his arms out in front of his
chest.)
Therapist: So that’s part of what we mean by unhooking: you start to
separate from your thoughts and give them some space to
move around in.
You could follow up in other ways, too. For example, you could ask the
client, “I wonder if you’d be willing to try talking this way in our sessions.
Suppose you have some sort of distressing, painful, or unhelpful thought like
This is all too hard. When you have a thought like that, could you say to me,
‘I’m having the thought that this is all too hard?’”
Once this convention is established, you can come back to it again and
again and play with it as a brief intervention. Here are two examples:
Client: I can’t handle this.
Therapist: So you’re having the thought that you can’t handle this?
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Therapist: Could you say that again, but this time, preface it with
“I’m having the thought that…”?
Client: I’m having the thought that I’m a stupid idiot.
Therapist: Did you notice any difference?
Client: Yes, it didn’t bother me so much the second time.
Practical Tip You can use the “I’m having a…” technique
with emotions, urges, memories, sensations, and so on: “I’m
having a feeling of anxiety” or “I’m having the urge to run
away.” A good alternative phrase is “I’m noticing…,” for
example, “I’m noticing a bad memory” or “I’m noticing
tightness in my chest.”
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COMPUTER SCREEN
This exercise (Harris, 2007) is particularly useful for people who are
good at visualizing. The script calls for using an imaginary computer screen,
but you can also do this on a real computer (type it out in a PowerPoint or
Keynote presentation on a laptop, tablet, or iPad), on paper with colored
pens, or using one of the many smartphone apps for sketching, drawing, or
painting. These are the steps:
Fuse with your negative self-judgment for ten seconds.
Now imagine a computer screen and imagine your thought written up
there as plain black text.
Now in your mind’s eye, play around with the formatting. Space the
words out, make large gaps between them; then run them together, all
one word with no gaps; and then run them vertically down the screen.
Now in your imagination, play around with the color. See it written in
green, then blue, then yellow.
Now play around with the font. See it written in italics, then in stylish
graphics, then in one of those big playful fonts you see on the covers of
children’s books.
Now put it back as plain black text, and this time, animate the words
like those cartoons on Sesame Street. Have the words jump up and
down, or wriggle like a caterpillar, or spin in a circle.
Now put it back as plain black text, and this time imagine a karaoke
ball bouncing from word to word. (And if you like, at the same time,
hear it sung to “Happy Birthday.”)
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Common Misconceptions
Clients often have misconceptions about defusion, as do many new
ACT therapists. They may think the point of defusion is to get rid of painful
thoughts, images, or memories or to reduce the painful feelings associated
with them. But please remember:
Clients often find that when they defuse from a painful thought, it
disappears, or they feel better, or both. When this happens, the therapist
needs to clarify that (1) this is merely a bonus, not the primary purpose, and
(2) it won’t always happen, so don’t expect it. If the therapist doesn’t do this,
clients will start using defusion to try to control their thoughts and feelings.
And then, of course, it no longer functions as a mindfulness technique but as
an emotional control technique. And then it’s only a matter of time before
the client becomes frustrated or disappointed (and comes back to say, “It’s
not working”). Here are two examples of how the therapist may handle this:
Client: That was great. The thought just went away.
Therapist: Interesting. You know, sometimes that happens, and
sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes a thought just keeps on
hanging around. Our aim is not to try and make it go away;
our aim is to stop getting caught up in it, make some room for
it, allow it to be there without struggling—so that if and when
it does hang around, it doesn’t stop you from doing what
matters and engaging fully in your life.
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Extra Bits
See chapter 12 in ACT Made Simple: The Extra Bits (downloadable
from the “Free Stuff” page at http://www.actmindfully.com.au). There
you’ll find (a) how to tell when your clients are defusing and (b) a
popular defusion technique called Titchener’s Repetition.
Skilling Up
Is this the end of defusion? No way. In the next chapter, we’ll look at the
defusion smorgasbord, and in the chapter after that, we’ll look at common
barriers to defusion. But before reading on, some suggestions to develop
your skills are:
Go back and try out any of the above defusion techniques you skipped.
Read all the exercises out loud as if taking a client through them (or at
least, vividly imagine doing so).
Pick your favorite technique and use it during the week ahead. When
you realize you’ve been hooked, drop anchor, and notice the thought
that hooked you. If you’re still entangled in it after dropping anchor,
then use your chosen technique to play around with it, and notice what
happens.
Takeaway
There are zillions of defusion techniques, and the ones in this chapter are but
a few. When you introduce them to clients, always do so with great empathy
and respect, and make sure you’ve first established a clear rationale (see
“Make the Link” in chapter 11) to avoid the risk of confusion or invalidation.
Do everything as an experiment—because you never know for sure
what will happen. And be alert for common misconceptions, such as
thinking the aim is to feel good or to get rid of unwanted thoughts.