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CLASE 7 - Jessica Benjamin
Psychoanalytic Inquiry: A
Topical Journal for Mental
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To cite this article: Jessica Benjamin Ph.D. (1995) Sameness and difference:
Toward an “overinclusive” model of gender development, Psychoanalytic
Inquiry: A Topical Journal for Mental Health Professionals, 15:1, 125-142, DOI:
10.1080/07351699509534021
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Sameness and Difference:
Toward an "Overinclusive" Model of
Gender Development
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Jessica Benjamin, Ph.D. is on the faculty of the New York University Postdoctoral Program
in Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy and of the Graduate Faculty Program in Psychoanalytic
Studies at the New School for Social Research. Her volume of essays Like Subjects and Love
Objects will appear in 1995.
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initially for both sexes when the primary caretaker is the mother.
Under traditional parenting arrangements, then, the outside object who
represents "difference" is father. This representation of difference has
been so important, so embedded in the culture, that it often continues
to be effective whether or not a person defined as father exists or plays
this role. At most, the absence of a defined or literal father figure
means that a more complex tension develops between experienced
relationships and the cultural ideals that the child internalizes.
But the relationship to father is not identical for both sexes. Identi-
ficatory love is the relational context which, for boys, not only sup-
ports separation but also confirms the achievement of masculinity as a
naturalized male destiny. This gives the relationship with father an
additional spin, making it perhaps more crucial to the boy's represen-
tation of gender identity, his sense of self-cohesion (as seems implicit
in Kohut's [1977] alignment of the father with the self—cohering
object). Conventionally, a stronger mutual attraction between father
and son is fostered by the father himself, and this promotes recogni-
tion through identification, a special erotic relationship. The practic-
ing toddler's "love affair with the world" turns into a homoerotic love
affair with the father who represents the world. The boy is in love with
his ideal. This homoerotic, identificatory love serves as the boy's
vehicle of establishing masculine identity both defensively and cre-
atively; it confirms his sense of himself as subject of desire. Of course,
this process of identification can only be successful when it is recipro-
cal, when the father identifies with his son and says, "You can be like
me," or when the validating mother says, "You are just like your dad."
The positive elaboration of those characteristics that are eventually
recognized as the other's prerogative depends in part on the parental
validation of the identificatory love that informs cross-sex identifica-
tion. In the preoedipal overinclusive phase as denoted by Fast, chil-
dren not only identify with both parents, they begin to symbolize
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has pointed out, the tension between the ideal self-representation and
actual self-experience is complicated by rigid notions of complemen-
tarity that are nonetheless contradictory. The maintenance of a gen-
dered self-representation is continually taxed by conflicting identifi-
cations, requiring a capacity for living with contradiction (Goldner,
1991). To remain true to the analytic posture, it is necessary to recog-
nize these contradictions. This means, as Harris (1991) has shown, to
divine the multiplicity of positions beneath the appearance of singu-
larity in object choice or identifications, to see gender experience as
both tenacious and fragile, as reified substance and dissolving insub-
stantial. This also means, as Dimen (1991) has argued, deconstructing
the reified gender dichotomies and thinking of gender in transitional
terms; leaving a world of fixed boundaries with uncrossable borders
for a transitional .territory in which the conventional opposites create
movable walls and pleasurable tension.
The use of a developmental trajectory may seem to imply a telos,
and in this case it might be thought that identification is simply the
basis for object love, that reaching an oedipal position is still the end-
all and be-all of development, that we need not look any further.
Despite what I have said about the need for integrating overinclusive-
ness with complementarity, the alignment of inclusiveness with early
narcissism might seem to privilege later sexual complementarity and
object love over early inclusiveness and identificatory love. Alterna-
tively, this view could move us toward a positive revaluing of narcis-
sism and a questioning of heterosexual complementarity as the goal of
development. In fact, I believe that proposing a developmental view of
differentiation is not the same as positing a normative system of
sexual identity. It is not necessary to abandon all empirically based
notions of development in order to avoid normative positions. If such
positions often are drawn from notions of development, that is because
of the acceptance of unrelated and unsupportable assumptions: that
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