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The Performativity of Purity, ChristyLynnAilmanBanasihan
The Performativity of Purity, ChristyLynnAilmanBanasihan
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Christy Lynn Ailman Banasihan
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Mechanism of Misogyny by Christy Lynn Ailman Banasihan, and that in my opinion this
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philosophy, religious studies and auto-theory, I decode a misogynist logic within four
pieces of purity literature: Elizabeth Elliot’s Passion and Purity, Joshua Harris’s I Kissed
Dating Goodbye, John and Stasi Eldredge’s’ Captivating, and Kristen Clark and Bethany
Baird’s Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart. Specifically, I analyze purity
literature’s structure, affect, and images using Van Gennup’s rite to passage structure,
Julia Kristeva’s theory of abjection, and Judith Butler’s theory of gender performativity. I
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ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
when he said that one day I would have to face my Christian heritage. To my surprise, it
only took one semester in graduate school, and I was back wrestling with my very own
Professor Tanya Augsburg, for hearing my voice and validating its significance I turned a
first semester seminar paper into a master’s thesis. Without Professor Augsburg’s
encouragement and motivation, this project would not have been possible. I would like to
also thank the School of Humanities and Liberal Studies at San Francisco State
University for enabling my interdisciplinary inquiries and for continuing the diligent
work of teaching how to critically engage cultural texts. More importantly, I would like
to thank my partner and husband, Joey Banasihan. His patience and commitment to my
goals carried me through the emotions of such a personal project. Finally, my hope is
writing this paper is to inspire the critical examination of everyday texts. In particular, my
hope is to inspire others to critical analyses of purity texts as they continue to shape
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Introduction ..................................................................................................................... 1
Scope ................................................................................................................... 3
Notes ............................................................................................................................. 72
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LIST OF TABLES
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Introduction
purity culture, I listened to Christian music, i.e. Zoe Girls and Jump 5. Top music hits
including Brittney Spears, NSYNC, and Christina Aguilera were off limits. Modest
clothing was required. Nothing too tight, too short, or too low cut or else my friends
would gossip. I could not watch certain television shows, TV stations, or movies rated
PG-13 throughout high school. Even the books I read were censored, banning the Harry
Potter series for The Babysitters Club series. My Christian high school took purity culture
seriously. Proms were banquets. We got all balled up to sit around a table in the cafeteria
and eat. The problem here is not censorship itself; but the desire to be censored. I wanted
to be pure. I believed in the goodness of being pure for marriage and so I fought to
protect my own. While I did not oppose the censorship of purity culture, I could not
comprehend what purity was actually doing to me. That is, until I sat across from my
counselor, who said to me, “You have good girl syndrome.” Then and there began my
A decade ago, New York Times journalist and bestselling author, Jessica Valenti,
Purity Myth: How America’s Obsession with Virginity is Hurting Young Women, Valenti
argues the virgin and whore dichotomy is created by the lie that virginity exists. Virginity
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is underdetermined (what counts as sex?) and indeterminate (some women are born
without intact hymens) she explains. Nevertheless, the virginity movement enabled the
labeling of women as “other” for being too sexual or not “young, white, and skinny” (30).
The virginity myth continues on today in spite of Valenti’s poignant critique. Just this
year, American rappers Kanye West and T.I. supported annual hymen check-up’s on their
While Valenti acknowledges that the misogynist beliefs permeating pop culture
Christianity’s purity culture emphasizes moral purity in addition to sexual purity. Like
virginity, women are supposedly born with their purity intact. Growing up within the
Conservative Christian culture of purity and wearing a purity ring for twenty years, I
believe Christian purity literature contains a more fundamental and more insidious myth
than the lie that virginity exists. Namely, the myth that purity exists.2
philosophy, religious studies and auto-theory, I decode a misogynist logic within four of
the most widely read pieces of purity literature: Elizabeth Elliot’s Passion and Purity,
Joshua Harris’s I Kissed Dating Goodbye, John and Stasi Eldredges’ Captivating, and
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Kristen Clark and Bethany Baird’s Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart.3
Where misogyny is understood to be a moral system in which women are “not allowed to
be in the same ways as [man] is” because women are “positioned as human givers” and
men the takers, I assert purity to be a performative mechanism of misogyny (Manne, xix).
Said otherwise, drawing from French poststructuralist and existentialist feminist thought,
purity is a linguistic system in which women’s sexuality determines their otherness in the
eyes of God, humanity, and future male spouses.4 I argue that women are not born pure,
but become pure. More specifically, I argue purity literature’s structure, images, and
representations of purity encode its readers with a misogynist logic for doing purity such
Scope
Although Evangelical purity culture has been criticized for its white nationalist
(Finch, Schermer Sellers) and social work (Mann, Levy). This thesis begins to fill the gap
sexuality. Specifically, I analyze purity literature’s structure, affect, and images to assess
the logic of purity—how and why do women do purity. Following Paul B. Peciado and
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Other than DeRogatis’ Saving Sex, purity literature has not been analyzed. Most
other studies of purity culture rely on ethnographical data including interviews and
observation of purity events such as purity balls or True Love Waits rallies.5 Purity
DeRogatis calls them, written for Christian teenagers entering the dating scene. Each
author uses their own experiences with love, sex, and desire to inform teenagers’ sexual
conduct. From providing five steps to avoid masturbation to seven reasons not to date, the
images, representations, and affects within these texts are constitutive of the embodiment
of purity—or, as I call it, the logic for doing purity. The trouble is decoding the
Evangelical creation narrative and discourse of salvation to see that women’s sexual
of purity culture texts in terms of ritual and to the affect of purity culture texts in terms of
Danger: An Analysis of The Concepts of Pollution and Taboo, then not only is the coded
language, or symbolic system as Douglas calls it, of Evangelism purity taken for granted
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but a structuralist reading perpetuates the binary of purity and impurity. It is, as Butler
distinctions become malleable or proliferate beyond the binary frame” (Gender Trouble
179).To elaborate, Mary Douglas states that purity is the absence of dirt—i.e. pollution.
conception of dirt. Douglas admits, what is labeled dirt is labeled dangerous and therefore
unsatisfied.
For the sake of scope, I do not take on a Foucauldian analysis of power relations in
the “discourse” of purity culture. While certainly applicable, critical theorist and
philosopher Foucault’s analysis of power and discourses of sexuality must wait for
another day. I simply do not have the space to explore what would include racial,
religious, and political relations of power. Instead, I focus here on Evangelical purity
incitement for a normative form of sexuality. That is to say, evangelicals are not anti-sex.
In fact, they are very pro-sex. As one purity author explains, “The desires still exist, are
still strong, natural, and human, but they are subjugated to the higher power of the Spirit.
They are purified and corrected as we live day by day in faith and obedience” (Elliot 95).
Finally, unlike the majority of the existing critical analyses of purity culture, my
Mead lays out the rituals of girlhood in Samoa in order to falsify the assumption that
adolescence is a trying stage of life. What she found in Samoan adolescent girls was a
simple transition into womanhood. Their sexuality was not sacred, nor was it made taboo.
Mead demystified a truism of adolescent sexuality. In a similar manner, I will lay out the
rituals of Evangelical purity provided within purity literature in order to falsify the myth
that girls are born pure. My method here is strictly in line with interdisciplinary
Key Terms
traveling concept. From racial purity to mathematical purity, purity plays a significant
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role within a large variety of cultural texts. The concept of purity, nevertheless, remains
the same: to be without taint of otherness. What constitutes otherness will vary. No
matter the context, however, purity invokes an ontological hierarchy. There exists a
superior form; a form untouched and unscathed by dirt as Douglas would say (Purity and
Danger). The superiority of a form can be measured and quantified. For example, the
For the purposes of this paper, purity refers to the Evangelical interpretation of
God’s design for sex, marriage, and intimacy as sacred. Evangelist Billy Graham
From the very beginning, God has given us moral laws governing the subject of
sex that are absolute and unchangeable. Nowhere does the Bible teach that sex in
itself is a sin. But from Genesis to Revelation, the Bible condemns the wrong use
of sex. (Graham)
Evangelical leader and reverend, Jerry Falwell states, “To practice sexually anything
other than the heterosexual lifestyle for which God created and made us… is to go
against God's plan” (Falwall). Sex was “good,” according to American Evangelicalism,
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heteronormativity.8
The theological basis for Evangelical purity is contentious. Graham, Falwell and
other leaders in the preservation of sexual purity rely upon a literalist reading of the
Genesis creation narrative: God created Adam and Eve, therefore God intended for
exclaims, “Adam is a genderless word for ‘from the earth’” (77). The story of Adam and
Eve has been maliciously misinterpreted, “distorting” (95) and “fracturing” (70)
Baptist pastor, Jennifer Wright Knust states, " We might have not only polygamy with
wives, we might have polygamy with concubines and slaves" (NPR). Suffice it to say,
Purity culture, specifically, refers to the texts, images, and tropes of twenty-first
century American sexual politics. The fight to protect the sanctity of sex and the God
created order of man and wife took place within an increasingly liberal American sexual
politics. In the 1970s, adolescent sexuality became a central issue in American politics as
divorce rates increased, the Supreme Court legalized abortion, and the commercialization
psychologist and racial eugenicist G. Stanley Hall in 1904, was used by the YMCA
(Young Men’s Christian Association) to rehabilitate Christian morals and values into
Anthropology, Sociology, Sex, Crime, Religion, and Education). With the rise of
American conservatism in the late twentieth century, adolescent sexual purity became a
key moral force that would shape American politics for generations to come (Rightward
Bound 5).
context, the Evangelical purity movement is both a political and a social movement at its
core. Purity culture began as a religious, political, and social conservative movement led
by Evangelical figures such Jerry Falwell, Billy Graham, and James Dobson. Their
message was “pro-life, pro-family, pro-moral, and pro-America” (Schulman, Zelizer 44).
These initial figures of purity culture aroused leaders of the Republican Party to adopt a
standardized sex education program in the 1996 Welfare Reform Act. The act provided
continue to receive federal funding over comprehensive sex education programs. In fact,
between the purity movement and sex education, my analysis of purity focuses on the
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relationship between sexuality and gender, not the relationship between sex, health, and
wellness. What I hope to make clear here is contemporary purity culture remains both a
The embodiment of purity is what I term the logic for doing purity. In Pure:
Inside the Evangelical Movement that Shamed a Generation of Young Women and How I
Broke Free, Linda Kay Klein explains the consequences of embodying purity. She states,
maturing women haunted by sexual and gender-based anxiety, fear, and physical
experiences” (8). This was true of my experience and many others according to
psychologist and specialist in religious sexual trauma, Tina Schermer Sellers. For the
twenty-first century evangelical women to be pure requires that she be “utterly and
absolutely nonsexual until the day she marry a man” (Klein 77). Any sign of sexual
desire or even sex appeal is seen as disobedience against God’s divine design. One
interviewee of Klein’s expressed her frustration saying, “Either you’re bad, or God is”
(73). The system of sexual purity within American Evangelicalism is set against women.
Specifically, your body and your sexual desires are measured against the divine order of
God where you are made out to either be pure or impure. Suffice it to say, purity within
Evangelical purity culture is the measurement of a woman’s sexuality against the socio-
What role does purity literature play in the logic for doing purity? What did
performances beyond the theater and into the streets. When you are the actor and the
world is your audience, the doing of something done becomes a way of belonging—
socially, legally, religiously, politically, etc. We perform every day through behavior,
gesture, and speech twice behaved. These performances, performance studies scholar
Diana Taylor explains, “operate as vital acts of transfer, transmitting social knowledge,
performativity can be traced back to philosopher J.L. Austin’s Doing Thing with Words.
He argues that speech acts alone can do something. The quintessential example of
something to you. Legally, you are now married. The speaker is both the subject and the
object of their own words. Take another example, the Lord’s Prayer. Each time the prayer
is repeated, you are forgiven of your sins. There is an action taking place within the
Now, speech acts can misfire if not performed properly within the constative
circumstances in which the words are uttered should be in some way, or ways,
appropriate, and it is very commonly necessary that either the speaker himself or other
persons should also perform certain other actions” (8-9). The context of the utterance and
the coinciding actions of the speaker determine the performativity of speech acts. In the
case of the examples above, “I do” is performative only within the context of a marriage
ceremony. In the same way, “Forgive us our Sins” is not performative outside the
ritualistic context of prayer. The words themselves are not inherently performative.
the importance of context and the irrelevance of intention for performative speech acts in
“Signature Event Context.” He argued, in order for speech acts to be performative, they
require a mark or a code. This requirement is what Derrida calls iterable. Performative
speech acts retain meaning only when take place within a recognizable form. In other
words, a speech act is performative if and only if the context is sufficiently structured to
determine the meaning. As a result, “The first consequence of this will be the following:
given that structure of iteration, the intention animating the utterance will never be
through and through present to itself and to its content. The iteration structuring it a
priori introduces into it a dehiscence and a cleft [brisure], which are essential” (18). The
intention of the speaker does not, and cannot, determine the meaning of a performative
intention.
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Ritual, and rites of passage in particular, contain iterable utterances because of its
form. Richard Schechner defines rituals as “collective memories encoded into actions”
(52). In other words, rituals are a series of actions, both physical and spoken, endowed
with meaning by the linguistic community. They carry meaning as a recognizable social
intention.
For instance, philosopher Judith Butler argues in Gender Trouble and Bodies that
Matter that gender is performative. Gender is not a stable innate identity. Butler argues,
“female” and “male” not by some essential quality, but by normative social
by the subject which then act upon the subject as object. Regardless of intention, gender
acts upon one’s body. Furthermore, bodies which fail to conform to the binary construct
of gender are disowned and ostracized from society as precarious. In sum, gender is
performative. Gender is the illusion of an interior essence when in fact, gender is a social
In the case of purity culture, the most common purity ritual would be the purity
ring. Both the virginity movement and purity culture consist of public declarations of
virginity, and the commitment to remain so until marriage. Purity rings act as proof of
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their commitment. Even celebrities such as Brittney Spears, Beyoncé, and the Jonas
Brothers wore purity rings. The purity ring signified a commitment to purity thanks to
national organizations such as True Love Waits, Silver Ring Thing, and others. It could
be a ring of any kind, but it must be worn on the ring finger. As a vow of one’s
commitment to remain virgin until marriage, the purity ring would be replaced by a
wedding ring. Citing the institution of marriage, the ring is an existing form of
As such, the material artifact that is the purity ring is performative. Wearing it
your commitment. The ring is recognized by your parents, teachers, friends, and church.
Even outside of the Evangelical context, the purity ring operates as a sign to men that she
using material artifacts to mark purity, I contend purity literature utilizes a linguistic
showing that purity literature is not reinforcing an existing desire for purity but creating a
new desire for purity. Structured as rituals, doing purity instills the value and therefore
the desire for purity. This desire, however, is reliant upon a logic of horror. Female
sexuality is made into the abject within Evangelical purity culture. Women, I argue, have
internalized their sexuality as a sin, thereby subjecting themselves to the binary logic of
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purity and impurity. Finally, I show that where the exemplars of purity and impurity are
gender tropes—the good girl and the bag girl—performing purity rituals enacts the
illusion of a gendered identity. Purity rituals are performative. Indoctrinated into the
horror of their own sexuality, I argue, women’s embodiment of purity is nothing but the
program called Passport to Purity, the cliff represented the edge of purity. Each space
represented an act, desire, or thought that brought me closer towards the edge. At the ripe
age of 12, I filled in the cliff edge as “kissing a boy after dating him for a month.” In
other words, I defined impurity as kissing! That one kiss would be enough to push me
over the edge (to never return). Swept away on an adventure-filled weekend retreat with
my mom, I performed a series of exercises to earn my very own passport to purity and
purity ring. At the end of the cliff exercise, I signed my passport of purity. Now, I am
pure. Or, so I was told. These artifacts—passport and ring—marked a change; they
signified a new identity. What was I before? Why a retreat? What happened to me over
Purity and impurity—a descriptive system of sexuality within Christianity is also the
descriptive reality (who you really are) and as a prescriptive reality (what you ought to
do). In my experience, I did not doubt the value of purity over promiscuity. Nor did I
doubt the definition of purity. It seemed as if purity were an objective truth about my
body, about women’s bodies, and therefore of inherent value. Sexual purity and moral
purity are a woman’s greatest treasure in the eyes of God and man. It was as simple as
that. Women living in accordance to their innate design are pure and women living in
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defiance to their innate design are impure. Reflecting back on my adolescence, I ask
myself, was purity desirable because I was designed to be pure or because I was taught to
Going back to the books I read as an adolescent, I uncover the logic for doing purity--
descriptive. First, I identify what each author defines as purity, detailing what it means to
embody purity as an adolescent woman. I conclude the logic for doing purity is
conditional to a misogynist system of desire. Next, I analyze the structure of the texts. I
specifically, the texts are structure to indoctrinate girls into the value of purity. Based
upon their structure, Evangelical purity texts function as rituals of indoctrination. The
In 1984, wife to the martyr Jim Elliot and author of eleven publications, Elisabeth
Elliot published Passion and Purity: Learning to Bring Your Love Life Under Christ’s
Control. In this book, Elliot describes purity as the passion to be loved by God over the
passion to be loved by men. She exclaims that you cannot love God fully and love a man
at the same time. She states, “Discipleship usually brings us into the necessity of choice
between duty and desire” (51). For a woman’s attention is divided even in small acts such
as prayer, Elliot exclaims. The same assertion, however, is not made of men. Interlocking
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purity and passion, the key to a woman’s purity is the process of dying to one’s own
prayer. In other words, a woman’s sexuality is inferior, if not imposing upon the will of
God. Here, we already see how the system is stacked against women. According to Elliot,
purity is a process of being “purified and corrected” (95). A woman’s duty in loving God
desirable. If you love God, then it is your duty to sacrifice your romantic desires for the
work of God. Since the first edition, two new editions have been printed, selling over half
Focusing more on pleasure, Joshua Harris states in his book I Kissed Dating
Goodbye: A New Attitude Toward Romance and Relationships that true purity is “a
purity is an ongoing process, not a state of being. Written at the young age of twenty-one,
he confesses his own past mistakes saying, “I’d only be using that girl to meet my short-
term needs…I wouldn’t truly be loving her and putting her interests first” (19). Now
“This direction [of purity] starts in the heart, and we express it in a lifestyle that flees
prepare for marriage. Now, the logic for doing purity is based upon pleasure and
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commitment” (28). In other words, short term intimacy is harmful and less fulfilling.
Then John and Stasi Eldredge posit in Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a
Woman’s Soul there is an innate essence of womanhood. Although they do not use the
word “purity,” this text sold over three million copies during the height of the purity
movement. Captivating is a sequel to the men’s version, Wild at Heart. In both, the
Eldredges’ plea for a return to the essence of masculinity and femininity. “Your true
heart,” or as it is called elsewhere “the essence that God gave to every woman,” is to be
“captivating” (x). Women naturally desire to be desired; they say. Hence, the captivating
women satisfies her need to be desired by being “romanced by God” (112). The pure
woman is the satisfied women—a woman who knows she is loved. Satisfied in the love
of God, these women are then able to create a space for men to breathe in. They are not
demanding, needy, or desperate for attention. A woman’s purpose is to love and affirm
men. The purity of womanhood ought to be desirable for its own sake. It is clear even at
this point, the Eldredges’ definition of purity contains a logic of misogyny where the
woman’s essence is predetermined as the giver and the male essence is predetermined as
the receiver.
Lastly, Kristen Clark and Bethany Baird explain in Sex, Purity, and the Longings
“Sexual purity is not just about saying no to sex before marriage; it’s about taking every
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thought captive and living in a way that reflects the perfect holiness of your Father”
sexual desires, and sexual acts. Purity is embracing God’s design. This design, according
they say, “are physically designed to receive from the man in a sexual relationship. A
woman’s physical design is only a mere reflection of her overall distinct role” (30).
Women are dependent upon men. They are designed to complement and not co-exist.
Clark and Baird go on, “[purity is] ultimately about embracing your identity as a daughter
of God and striving every day to become more like Him” (109). Described as a marathon,
purity is less desirable in the moment but will in the end be the most rewarding with or
without marriage (184). Ultimately, although every woman wants a hero, the pure
From this brief analysis, the logic for doing purity is conditional to a particular belief
system. This system of belief, however, is more complex than your typical Evangelical
belief system which consists of 1) the infallibility of the Bible, 2) the death and
resurrection of Jesus Christ, and 3) the great commission of God’s disciples to go out and
evangelize. In Damaged Goods, freelance writer and blogger of Faith and Feminism,
Dianna Anderson catalogues five biblically inaccurate beliefs that purity culture assumes
to be true. Providing biblical evidence to the contrary, sex is not equal to marriage,
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biblical marriage includes polygamy, thinking lustful thoughts is not sinful, spouses do
not own our bodies, and premarital sex is not clearly sinful. Similarly, New York Times
narrative as false and misleading. Purity consists of a more complex system of beliefs.
What we find here instead are misogynist beliefs surrounding duty, pleasure, gender,
and sexuality: 1) a woman’s sexual desire conflicts with her duty to God, 2) pleasure is
sexuality is heteronormative. These beliefs are not deducible from the Bible nor are they
deducible from the Evangelical belief system. In fact, these beliefs establish a system of
male supremacy. The woman is framed as other and less than insofar as male sexual
desire remains unlimited. Throughout the rest of the paper, it will become clear that to
sexuality. That is, stemming from both a religious movement and a socio-political
movement, the logic for doing purity is conditional to a misogynist system of desire.
desire innate or acquired? In Arnold Van Gennep’s foundational work, Rites of Passage,
Specifically, this structure belongs to rituals such as ceremonies, indoctrinations, etc. that
transform the social identity of the participant. Take for example the Quinceañera. This
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girlhood into womanhood. Only after this ceremony are the participants endowed with
new responsibilities, new privileges, and even new desires. After examining the structure
of each text, I propose that purity literature follows the structure of a ritual. Although a
solitary act of reading, purity tests such as Passion and Purity, I Kissed Dating Goodbye,
Captivating, and Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart operate as a
Within a rite of passage, Van Gennep identified the first step in transforming
one’s social status is to create literal or metaphorical distance from the old self, i.e. a
metric distance away from home or a metaphorical death of self. The rituals at this stage
emphasize the sacred and differences from normal, everyday life. What is normal is
stripped away and the participant lay bare and exposed, ready to take on new meaning.
constituting the liminal stage. Unlike the preliminal phase, the liminal phase is elusive.
The participant is in between the two identities. Training and disciplining or gift giving
and sacrificing, the orientation of the identity is transformed. The third and final phase of
identity with markings, documents, or artifacts of some sort. These act as certifications of
complete passage, allowing those who were not present to verify their new identity. Now
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transformed, the new self is reintegrated into the community and affirmed with this new
“These three [phases of a rite of passage] are not always equally important or
equally elaborated,” he goes on, “in certain ceremonial patterns where the
Some rites to passage may have minimal postliminal rites or no postliminal rites at all
when there is an extended liminal period. Using his own example, engagement is a well-
defined state between singleness and wedded. It is not, however, a stable identity. The
liminal ritual of proposal and putting on a ring is reiterated in the marriage ceremony.
Only in the wedding ceremony, it is a public and legally binding ritual. The “sufficiently
elaborated” state Turner refers to cannot be more than a transitory state. The in-between
identity of being promised to one another, not yet betrothed, does not afford legal rights
as marriage does. Although a possible stage of its own, the liminal, cannot provide
permanent identity.
Analyzing the texts I read as an adolescent, I find that the texts are doing
something to the girls. Namely, these texts are in fact indoctrinating young girls into a
system of desire. Set up as a ritual, girls are endowed with new identities—i.e. pure. Girls
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are fed the narrative that they contain a precious gift, a gift that God himself endowed
upon her. Only, she must perform particular rituals in order to continue to preserve this
gift for her husband. What I find in my analysis is these women are unconsciously
creating a new reality. Women are ‘making belief” as Richard Schechner described in
contrast to ‘make believing,’ the conscious acting out of the unreal (Schechner,
Performance Studies 43). Purity texts function as indoctrination rituals into a liminal
identity. I did not innately desire to be pure; I was indoctrinated into a desire to be pure.
Structured as individual rites of passage, each book contains their own preliminal,
liminal, and postliminal rites. Beginning with the preliminal, purity rituals vary from
breaking up with boyfriends to praying for forgiveness of past sexual sins. We see here
both a metric and metaphorical distancing from the old self. Moreover, we see the
assertion of authority over the neophyte. Girls are described as “the servant” (Elliot 48),
“God’s daughter” (Clark and Baird, Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart 109)
and “a Beauty to rescue” (Eldredge 18). Released from their old habits and old identity,
Jumping ahead, the postliminal stage assumes women are married by this point.
Women began the purity ritual process single and uninformed and end married and
informed. In some cases, singleness is more than a stage. God ‘calls’ on some to live a
life of singleness as a missionary. It is not “sensible” in this case to look for a man to
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marry (Elliot 37). In Elliot’s case, Jim had the call to the mission field. Part of their long-
distance relationship was determining whether Jim would ever marry. She had to silence
her wishes in order to honor his duty (54). In her journal she prayed, “wash me now,
without, within, or purge with fire, if that must be” (32). If the vocation of missionary
(including both international and local missions) is the calling for a young woman, then
For most, however, the postliminal stage consists of living out a set of new desires.
As seen in Table 1, love, romance, and beauty take on new meaning within marriage.
Elliot 1. Put honor above 1. Die to Self, case Love is charity, not
Eldredge Let Christ’s love 1. Cultivate your inner Entice, inspire, and
loneliness.
Clark & Baird Acknowledge that 1. Make Jesus the Hero Walk in
Elliot argues pre-marriage, women are “holding” themselves from men to be pure. Once
in marriage, women are “giving” themselves to men to be pure (Elliot 180). Their body is
femininity arouses true masculinity...a true Beauty is [a man’s] inspiration” (151). Love
charity to your spouse. Restraint is the key before marriage, and submission is the key
within marriage. As a single woman, you are measured by your obedience to God’s will.
Here, at the end of the indoctrination, women are measured by their obedience, allure,
and charity to their husbands. What happens in the liminal period? What changes?
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According to Van Gennup, the liminal period is elusive because the participant is
neither here nor there. Girl’s reading these texts are neither pure nor impure. In fact, I
label the liminal period of purity as “performing purity.” Waiting for marriage, women
are held in a holding pattern. They want to get married but should not engage in a serious
In spite of using different methodologies, each author leaves the reader with a set of
rituals to navigate the liminal phase of purity.9 I identify three types of liminal rituals
Preventative rituals prevent the arousal of sexual desires. For example, Harris instructs
women to dress modestly and refrain from flirting. He says, “Yes, guys are responsible
for maintaining self-control, but you can help by refusing to wear clothing designed to
attract attention to your body” (Harris 99). To learn what is modest and what is not,
Harris encourages girls to ask their fathers every day if what the clothes they are wearing
are appropriate. Clark and Baird also emphasize modesty to the point of modeling modest
outfits for each season on their blog.10 Dressing modestly is specifically a preventative
ritual performed by female for the sake of males. Note, the object of prevention is male
arousal, not female arousal. More on the double standard of male and female sexuality in
A redirecting purity ritual reorients the desire for intimacy and the longing for
romance with a man towards intimacy and romance with God. Take Clark and Baird’s
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“strategies to win the inner struggle for purity” as an example (Clark and Baird, Sex,
Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart 132). They list five steps to get rid of lustful
thoughts and sexual fantasies: 1) purge the source of these thoughts (i.e. magazines,
movies, erotica), 2) study the Bible to know what is right and wrong, 3) memorize
scripture to repeat when you are tempted, 4) strategize new routines to replace the old
habits, and 5) pray for strength. Repeated as often as needed, this five-step process is a
ritual to replace impure thoughts with pure thoughts. In other words, this ritual replaces
sexual desire with a desire for purity. Note, these rituals function to delay the attachment
Performing purity encodes women with the value of purity which therein
increases the urgency to maintain purity. In other words, as they perform redirecting
purity rituals, their desire for purity increases. Clark and Baird’s five step ritual aligns
your sexual desires with God’s design for you—i.e. no masturbation, virgin, no porn, etc.
Redirected towards God, the desire for male attention or physical pleasure is mitigated.
Replacing the desire for male attention is the desire for attention from God. Redirected,
not quenched, purity rituals are built to increase the desire for purity. The logic for doing
new identity. Prayer and scripture are more obvious types of self-developing rituals.
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Their function is to rewrite or reorient the self. Less obviously, after redirecting their
romantic desires away from dating, Harris says, “Girls can view their relationships with
men in their lives as training session for loving and respecting a future husband” (158).
Girls should learn “the art of sharing life” in the liminal phase (Harris 158). Redirecting
rituals such as writing a letter to your future spouse or talking with are supplemented with
self-developing rituals such as learning what love is from your parents. In self-developing
rituals, your attitude and behavior are modified. For Harris, the liminal period consists of
taking responsibility of your finances, learning to love your family, practicing parenthood
with your siblings, and building healthy life habits. He urges, “As singles, part of good
stewardship involves gaining the skills we’ll need in marriage” (162). What some see as a
natural stage of development, Harris sees as a training session for marriage. The result is
perform purity rituals. These three types of liminal rituals easily flow together in Elliot’s
exposition of navigating singlehood. For instance, Elliot advocates that women adopt the
preventative ritual of playing hard to get. Do not initiate, she warns. “Females are made
to be receptors,” not “initiators” (Elliot 110, 98). Where women want “recognition,
response, protection,” according to Elliot, men “wander, experiment, conquer” (31). She
is essentialist in these claims. Women ought to “let [men] do the chasing” (103). Be
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mysterious and “keep them at arm’s length,” she encourages. Chasing women is what
Therefore, rather than pursuing men, Elliot redirects female sexual energy towards
the home. Women ought to be the “hostess,” the “mother,” “womanly,” “modest,” and
Patriarchy, Elliot stands behind “the concept of matriarchy and an absence of male
domination as absurd” (Elliot 109). Because women have broken ranks with their
The conduct of men and women in every society on earth up till now has always been
seen as a fairly delicate and potentially explosive business. For that reason, it has
been surrounded with customs, taboos, rituals, prohibitions, protocol, and courtesies.
(108)
In the face of the woman’s liberation movement, Elliot exclaims women becoming
firemen and women paying for a man’s meal is “the order disordered” (111). Women
Finally, Elliot calls for a change in the female disposition. Accusatory of women’s
“submission” to men (Elliot 103). Elliot’s position is made explicit in her principle of
route to purity” (185). A woman must submit to her husband and obey him for “It is the
husband’s assignment to exercise the authority of the head,” moreover, “it is not the
husband’s job to demand obedience” (183). Women ought to know their role is to obey
sacrifice. In a quote from her journal Elliot states,, “The disposition to leave the dearest
obviously unfavorable to the growth and even the existence of the life of the self” (151).
The self must dissolve for purity to exist. Women ought not to grow too attached to male
attention. Our affinity for them is a distraction, she explains after an episode of “whetted
appetites” with Jim on the beach (124). The principle of love as charity which Elliot
advances is one in which women must withdraw their advances as to not “distract [male]
energies” from their “call of God” (133). To achieve a love of charity is not only to
respect and submit to men, but also to maintain a state of noninterference. Elliot’s self-
developing ritual for women of self-crucifixion is a steep ask. Male initiative is the only
permissible awakening for the pure woman’s sexuality. A woman’s sexuality ought to
identity. As Turner explained, if a liminal stage is sufficiently elaborated, then the liminal
stage may amount to an independent identity apart from the postliminal identity (11).
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performance of purity, i.e. modest clothing, not watching porn, and writing letters to her
future husband. However, to acquire and maintain the identity of “pure,” women must
perpetually perform purity rituals. If you are pure then you will do y and not do x.
Remember, liminal identities are transitional and therefore unstable. More akin to a
Obviously, purity is not a trait inherently possessed by women. To say “no” to sex
is one thing, but to be a particular type of woman presents a new set of complexities.
Purity is a matter of willfully doing or acting out what has been prescribed as pure. Purity
home to become pure. What occurred after my Passport to Purity weekend was not a
celebration. No, after that weekend, I was expected to perform perpetual rituals to
maintain my purity. Haunted by the eyes of my parents, God, and future husband, my
adolescent years were filled with anxiety. I was responsible for preventing men from
desiring me by dressing modestly and not flirting. I would ask myself, am I doing this
purity would be performative if purity is achieved by doing purity rituals. Indeed, doing
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purity enacts a new identity. Regardless of intent, purity rituals do something to those
who embody them. If I wanted to be pure, I had to perform purity rituals over and over
again. The achievement of purity is temporary; the finality of purity is only attained by
marriage. In the case of missionary women, it is less clear. On one hand, purity is
foreclosed by their decision to serve God as an unmarried woman. Yet, that could
change. Marriage is for life; missions is not necessarily so. Regardless, purity rituals
make women both the subject and the object. Now, in line with Derrida’s requirement of
iterability for performative speech acts, I will argue in the final section that purity rituals
The structure of the texts is indicative of transformation via a rite of passage. The logic
for doing purity lies within the purity rituals themselves. For instance in preventative
rituals, women internalize male lust as their responsibility. When women dress modestly
to mitigate male lust, what they are doing in effect is labeling their own bodies as
dangerous. Redirecting rituals distinguish a woman’s sexuality insofar as the pure body is
the desexualized body. In these rituals, female desire is mitigated, if not transformed to
From Elliot’s ritual of crucifixion to Harris’ ritual of writing love letters to your future
spouse, purity is acquired and maintained in ritual. Reorienting their desires and longings
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away from men and towards God, women do purity to be pure. The desire for doing
woman’s sexual desire conflicts with her duty to God, 2) pleasure is greatest inside
heteronormative. The logic for doing purity is premised upon these misogynist beliefs. In
sum, purity is not some innate design or natural quality of women; no, it is a liminal
Before I explore performativity at length, I want to pause and reflect upon the
desirability of purity. Since purity rituals operate on you as you embody them, encoding a
logic for doing purity, I am suspicious of girls’ emotional responses to purity. Looking
back on own adolescence, my affect towards purity appears to be less of a longing for
purity and more of a horror of impurity. My church and high school teachers supplied me
with a plethora of analogies as to explain why I should be pure. Impurity, for instance
was analogous to a piece of tape that lost its stickiness after being ‘stuck’ on too many
things. It only takes one touch for you to lose what makes you special, they would say,
marriageability. Women are like paper heart cut-outs. They are fragile and unique. But
once they lose their virginity, that heart is crumpled into a ball. If you try to unfold it,
there will always be creases. It will never again be perfectly smooth. What I find in my
analysis of purity literature’s affect are several examples similar to the one’s listed above.
What is an affect? Longing and horror are affects. An affect refers to an emotional
reaction evoked by an experience, a book, a movie, etc. which limits one’s power to act.
Literary theorist Simone Ngai explains in Ugly Feelings, affect is an aesthetic category of
irritation, anxiety, and paranoia. I mention these because Ngai summarizes their cathartic
function as “ironic distancing” (10). Rather than drawing the subject in closer, these
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emotional responses contain the subject and can even consume the subject. The affective
(Ngai 212). Alfred Hitchock’s Vertigo illustrates this concept in Scottie’s dream,
according to Ngai, when he is thrown into the empty sky. Anxiety defamiliarizes the
subject with reality to the point of dysphoria. Ngai calls this “suspended agency” or
“passivity” (12).
subject than the state Clark and Baird describe as freedom. Imagine being a young
teenager again, unfamiliar with your body, and ignorant of the hormonal changes to
come. Then add on what seem to be monthly “sex talks” about how often guys imagine
you to be naked and what you must do to prevent their imaginations from spinning wild.
Imagine hearing this. I sure did, and I internalized these messages as ‘my body is bad.’ I
was sickened by the thought of men subjecting me like that. I was afraid of what had
been seen and what could be seen by men. I had an initial affective response of horror.
myself from my body. My body became the object I manipulated to gain control of my
fear. The affective response I experienced turned me into a suspended subject—I could
not exist without controlling my body’s appearance. Horror consumed me. Rather than
Finch detail cases of body shame, sexual trauma, and PTSD. It seems odd that girls
would long for their own demise. Why did I self-elect my own asceticism? What did I
have to believe about my body to believe in the necessity of hiding it from the eyes of
men? I know that I was led to believe that purity would result in delayed gratification.
Just wait till you are married, adults would say, the most pleasurable sex is sex within
marriage. Is purity just a utilitarian pleasure principle? No, this seems inadequate for a
religious community. I argue, what made the conversion to purity culture successful was
not an altruistic longing for purity (longing for sexuality as God designed it) nor was it a
strategic maximization of pleasure (longing for the highest form of pleasure). Rather,
purity literature’s indoctrination strategy is successful because the texts evoke the affect
of horror.
sexual abstinence rock concerts that horny high schoolers are consistently convinced to
suppress their provocative inclinations by the allure of the fairy-tale narrative. “Complete
with beautiful princesses in distress [and] valiant princes on horseback” teenage girls and
boys identify with these heroic figures (Gardner 19). Only, the princess requires rescuing
The most telling example of horror in purity literature, and what I will soon explain as
abjection, is on the opening pages of I Kissed Dating Goodbye. Harris retells the dream,
or rather the nightmare, a young woman had of her wedding day. She sees a picturesque
wedding scene facing her fiancé, ready to repeat their vows. Only it is interrupted by a
line of six women walking down the aisle. One by one, they link hand in hand in between
the couple. Confused by the presence of these women, the fiancé whispers and lowers his
gaze to the floor, “I’m…I’m so sorry.” He explains, “They’re girls from my past…they
do not mean anything to me now…but I’ve given part of my heart to each of them”
(Harris 14). Woken to feeling betrayed, this young woman felt sick at the chance that she
too could have lingering romances. Just as much as she would not want to get married to
a man separated by six other women, she knows a man would not want to marry her if
disgusted, horrified. There is not enough information to determine what affect she
experienced. However it is clear, there was a cathartic response of purging herself of that
possible outcome.
Following the young woman’s dream, Harris admits, “I gave my heart away too many
times. And I took from girls what wasn’t mine” (14). Harris frames sex as an amputation
of the body and dating as a form of consumption. Value depletes after every use. It is
implied that in each relationship, you give the other person a physical or emotional part
“intimacy without commitment, like icing with the cake, can be sweet, but it ends up
making us sick” (32). Impurity will only lead to pain and loss. Again, Harris describes the
Elliot echoes Harris’ sentiment explaining, “by trying to grab fulfillment everywhere,
we find it nowhere” (22, 23). She flips the logic of pleasure on its head saying, “There is
dullness, monotony, sheer boredom in all of life when virginity and purity are no longer
protected and prized” (Elliot 23). In her opinion, sleeping around depletes the sanctity of
sex and therefore depletes the pleasure gained from experiencing it. Elliot compares
sexual pleasure outside the sacred consummation of marriage to a leaking water tank.
Even within a relationship, sexuality is dangerous. Clark and Baird explain pleasure
as a zero-sum value. They think having sex outside of marriage turns sex into a chore.
“With access to unlimited sexual opportunities and experiences, boredom was the
outcome,” according to another evangelical women (Clark and Baird, Sex, Purity, and the
Longings of a Girl’s Heart 87). Freedom of inhibition is not true freedom. According to
these female authors of purity, woman’s sexuality is not liberating. Instead, sexual
liberation “deepens our discontentment” (87). Sex requires stewardship or else it loses its
value.
important for learning who you are, and a kissing is just fun. This system of dating is
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criticizes this “hook-up culture” for a lack of discipline and restraint (129). Not alone in
his feelings, Clark and Baird reiterate a gloomy sentiment towards dating culture. “We
don’t see a beautiful landscape…rather, we see a vast sea of confusion, pain, and hurt”
(Clark and Baird, Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart 38). They describe sex
as cheap, broken, and complicated. The only way to avoid this emotional turmoil is
through purity.
Moreover, all four books contain the rhetoric of war: a woman’s purity is under
attack. The irony is women have to battle themselves to protect it. Bethany Baird
“victory” (Clark and Baird, Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart 146).
“Militant morality” is what Elliot calls women’s responsibility towards purity (146).
Draw the line, then hold the line she instructs. Women are put on the defensive,
ruminating in a state of unease and caution. Like a “criminal tied to a chair who would
like to break free and knock you over the head,” Harris says women must stand guard
over their desires (141). There is hope for women who embrace their “inner warrior,”
says the Eldredges’ (188). Put on “the full armor of God daily” and take a stand against
“the powers of darkness” (201). Set up as war waged by women against women, the only
written to say, women cannot act upon the problem of male desire. Women can only take
the action of separating from their bodies, manipulating them, and doing so consistently
to avoid the sickness, dullness, and victory-less state of impurity. Women are suspended
Now, I propose the subjective logic for doing purity is premised upon the affective
logic of the abject. In the following sections, I use Julia Kristeva’s theory of abjection to
elucidate purity literature’s use of horror as an affective strategy. Where the abject is
“one of those violent, dark revolts of being, directed against a threat that seems to
emanate from an exorbitant outside or inside,” the abject is an object once a part of its
subject (Kristeva 3). Now divided, it stands opposed to, as the opposite of, at the limit of
the subject. The abject is not you, and yet it is you. This is to say, purity literature not
only indoctrinates girls into a system of desire but divides her subjectivity against herself.
In The Powers of Horror, Kristeva spends two chapters on the Judeo-Christian belief
system and the role of the abject. It operates uniquely from other systems. Normally, the
abject is excluded as taboo. In the case of Christianity, however, the abject is absorbed
into subjective existence. Sin is “subjectified abjection” (Kristeva 121) insofar as sin is a
defiant action willfully made (128). Therefore, the “I” is both subject and object (i.e.
abject). Kristeva calls the interiorization of the abject the “persecuting machine” because
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“abjection is no longer exterior. It is permanent and comes from within” (112-113). Sin
Now, according to Kristeva, there is no innate social or subjective logic. There is only
order through abjection. This affective mechanism is a universal phenomenon just like
Freudian incest (Kristeva 68). The speaking subject is civilized into unique socio-
historical system’s abject, Kristeva says to look at what that system classifies as “filth”
(69). Since the logic of the abject is a binary logic, examining what does not fit into the
system will illuminate where the border is. The border determines subject from object—
Perhaps more accurately, the abject is a symbolic system of horror. Out of horror, a sense
of self is created. Kristeva explains, the abject starts out as something not yet “detached
and autonomous” from the subject and is distinguished within “the twisted braid of
affects and thoughts” (1). Constituted by emotive reactions, the abject divides what once
For example, in Kristeva’s example of the corpse, the corpse is the abject to the living
being because it exceeds what constitutes alive. The body, while still human, evokes the
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affects and thoughts of horror—what is the border of life and death? Expelled as other,
the corpse constitutes both the border of the living and what lies beyond the border as
death. Kristeva theorizes that the subconscious process goes something like this—1)
“spasm,” she calls it, is an inescapable cycle where an understanding of the self becomes
irrevocably reliant upon the abjection of the other (Kristeva 1). Horror clearly operates as
As a result, the “I” in Kristeva’s theory of the abject, is always in danger. She says,
“’I’ am in the process of becoming other at the expense of death. During that course in
which “I” become, I give birth to myself amid the violence of sobs, of vomit” (Kristeva 3,
my italics). Like a boomerang, what constitutes the essence of subjectivity is the very
presence of the abject. The abject is a precondition of the self. Exerting power over the
other and creating meaning for the self through horror, the sense of self that results is a
Refusing to fit into an existing structure or system, the abject does not exist outside of
the system, but on the contrary, is a necessary part of defining the system itself. It creates
dissolution of the border would entail the assimilation of the self into the abject (Kristeva
9, 13). Kristeva says the only way to pacify this danger is through sublimation—
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dissolving the horror of abject into the fascination of the sublime (11). The sacred and the
This dialectic instantiates itself into the binary coding of our lived reality in systems
of difference and systems of purification. Kristeva says, “One is led to conceive the
opposition between pure and impure not as an archetype but as one coding of the
differentiation of the speaking subject as such, a coding of his repulsion in relation to the
other in order to autonomize himself” (82). Purity refers to the unity of self /order/system.
Purification then pacifies the horror of the abject/disorder/otherness. Out of the pre-
linguistic, the social order is arranged, predicated upon difference and purity of what is
labeled defilement.
function as one of three things, 1) purge pollution from the self (i.e. confession), 2) to
the divine apart from the pollution (i.e. baptism, ordination). If the abject is sin,
Christianity does not try to separate man from sin, for sin is essential to salvation. What
Christianity does instead is cleanse bodies of sin through confession. Kristeva explains,
abject, sin is accepted as the state of humanity and surrounded in prayer, confession, and
ritual. The abject is, in Kristeva’s words, “reabsorbed into speech” in the most auspicious
places, “as the point where the scales are tipped towards pure spirituality” (113, 127).
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Never separated, confession pacifies the horror of the abject that lay within. Hence, the
primary function of religious ritual has less to do with restoring relations to the sacred
and much more to do with differentiating the subject from the sin.
Purity culture also differentiates subject from sin. If the Evangelical system of purity
is predicated upon the logic of the abject, then impurity is the abject, correct? No, if this
were the case, then why are men not regulated in the same way as women within
Evangelical circles? Why is female virginity the prize, the object of protection, etc.? The
source of danger is not both male and female sexual promiscuity. The danger, according
to Evangelical purity culture, is solely female sexual promiscuity. In the next section I
analyze the images of impurity within each of the four texts of purity literature. I find that
not only is purity culture predicated upon the logic of the abject but that female sexuality
is the abject.
It began with Eve. Each purity author references Eve as the image of impurity—
the source of the abject. Now, according to Christian tradition, Eve was the first sinner.
She wanted her own version of happiness, not the happiness God provided for her in the
Garden of Eden. Tradition has it that Eve is responsible for tempting Adam to take a bite
of the apple. Moreover, she is made responsible for the sexual pollution of man and all of
humanity. Wanting more than what God designed and intended, Eve is ostracized as
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other than. Her persuasion over men led to the fall of all humanity. This persuasive
Mitigating the arousal of male desire, females are the object purity culture is
apprehensive of and therefore must be purged. We know from the first section, women’s
sexuality by not initiating, dressing modestly, and removing sexually stimulating objects
(i.e., porn). Women label themselves dangerous. Men are not labeled and do not label
themselves as dangerous.
Women are made other through purity literatures images of impurity. Take
Harris, for instance. His image of impurity is the seductress and wayward adulteress of
Proverbs 7. There is no male image of impurity. Harris is disgusted by the way the
adulteress of Proverbs lures her victim in with romantic gestures and sexual favors,
achieving her own pleasure, and then rejecting her lover (31). The image of the adulteress
he says, is the image of fraudulent love. It is unclear if the fraudulency is the existence of
female sexual desire or the independence of female sexual desire. Both seem to trouble
Harris. When referring to women he uses adjectives such as naïve, fake, petty, and flirts,
while men are referred to as innocent, engaging, and objectified. Women, and not men,
are capable of trickery, seduction, and enchantment in his opinion. Moreover, it is unclear
if the pure woman even exists. Harris does not refer any woman living up to his standard
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of purity, only failing. We are left to conclude that impurity is essentially female
according to Harris.
fulfillment,” “instinctual,” and “petty” (16, 22, 27, 39, 54). Alongside these descriptions
picturesque. To women, Harris instructs, “Please be aware of how easily your actions and
glances can stir up lust in a guy’s mind” (99). More poignantly, “Your job is to keep your
brothers from being led astray by her charms.” Girls must prevent the arousal of male
sexual desire. Forget male self-control. It is the women’s responsibility to mitigate her
men and therefore must be purified. Women must purify themselves of their own
instability noting, “men aren’t men unless they’ve proved it by seducing as many women
as possible,” she ultimately places the onus of social instability upon women’s
promiscuity and newfound liberation (22). Women, Elliot believes, “hold the key to the
situation where a man’s passions are involved” (146). Men are following your lead— “he
will measure her reserve, always testing the limits, probing” out of lust or sometimes out
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of “a confused sense of obligation, or even chivalry” (146). Men are given the excuses;
women are given the responsibility to say no! Therefore, the responsibility of a women’s
sexual purity rest upon nothing else than her own self. To women, Elliot says, “Keep you
distance” (146). To men, Elliot says, “be careful with us, please. Be circumspect” (102).
Again, reinserting the order of patriarchy, male sexual desire is permissible while female
John and Stasi Eldredge attempt to justify the double standard of male
permissiveness and female purity. Women, they explain, “uniquely carry the glory of
God to the world” as the image of perfect beauty (85-86). Women carry the image of God
in their beauty. “Beauty is powerful,” they explain, “Beauty may be the most power thing
on Earth” (133). Women exhibit their beauty by inviting, nourishing, comforting, and
inspiring men. Specifically, a woman of pure beauty “offers others the grace to be and the
room to become” (137). The Eldredges’ state this ability is something men lack. Women
are designed to “minister something to the heart of God that men do not” (126).
Therefore, “They are hated because of their beauty and power” (86).
points to the origins of the logic of the abject within purity culture. Supplying their own
interpretation of the Genesis creation narrative, John and Stasi believe Eve is endowed
with a special gift. Men, apprehensive of the power of beauty and desire to be greater
than women, are sickened by the gift of beauty, rejecting beauty as the abject. Women’s
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beauty, ultimately desirable, is turned into a source of horror. The only way to sublimate
this horror is to reject women’s beauty as the abject. Hence, the Evangelical system of
purity where it is the woman’s responsibility to prevent male arousal. Their attractiveness
Reiterating the same logic, Clark and Baird only see two options for women. “The
desire to be enticing and feel attractive is a core aspect of our womanhood,” but “our
sensuality was created to be a private gift for the marriage bed” (Clark and Baird, Sex,
Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Hear 90). As a result, women can only use their
beauty in one of two ways: modest stewardship or self-affirming flaunting. They explain,
“we can use [our beauty] for selfish gain (power, immorality, manipulation, personal
gratification, etc.) or we can embrace [our beauty] is ways that bless others and glorify
God” (91). Women must choose between “wisdom and folly.” The way of wisdom is the
way of purity.
Across all four texts, the image of impurity is essentially female. Moreover, the image
in purity literature. Purged from their bodies and purified of their desires, women may
become pure. Therefore, women’s sexuality is the abject of purity culture. As a result,
women are divided against themselves in horror of their own sexuality. Clearly an
affective strategy, purity literature follows the logic of the abject. Women do purity
In the first section, I argued that Christian women are indoctrinated into a new desire.
Now, I argue that this desire is premised upon the symbolic logic of the abject. Naming
their sexuality as the abject, Evangelical adolescent girls are imprisoned in a perpetual
performance of purification. The subjective logic of purity is not one of longing but of
horror. Looking back upon my own adolescence, I feared my body even though I barely
knew anything about it. I did not even know what my clitoris was until college.
Now having discussed the rite of passage structure and then the affect of horror
purity literature as strategic tools of indoctrination, in this final section, I bring the
discussion back into performance theory. Specifically, my task is to explain the iterability
of purity such that purity is performative. After performing purity rituals, is there a point
in which the woman finally reaches an affirmation of purity? Do women ever actually
become pure? If so, what marks this performance as successful? As I mentioned earlier,
placeholder for marriage or missions work. If a woman reaches marriage a pure woman,
then one might say she has achieved purity. However, several of these authors claim
purity extends into marriage. What I find is a pattern is purity literature’s representations
of the pure woman and impure woman, regardless or single or married. The pattern turns
out to be a pattern of gender tropes. Therefore, what makes purity performative are purity
sexual awareness was scripted, subscribed, and even nullified, all to never be self-
analyzed. Now, I find myself in the couch across from a counselor who is telling me that
I have ‘Good Girl Syndrome’: the quiet, perfect, well rounded, follower, who is modest
but flirtatious, who is confident but doesn’t get mad, who is intelligent but has no
opinions on things, thereby towing a tenuous line between being something, but not being
it too much (Simmons 2). In response to criticism and judgement, I crumble, shamed into
my limbic system as my six-year-old self being told, “You are bad!” My behavior was
monitored just as my virginity was measured. Somehow the messages overlapped: you
Using Judith Butler’s theory of gender performativity, I aim to show that purity is
as the good girl trope and the impure woman is represented as the bad girl trope, then
purity is marked by its conformity to gender tropes. If iterable, as Derrida requires, then
purity is performative. Therefore, just as gender is the illusion of a stable identity, purity
is the illusion of a stable identity. The pure woman does not exist.
gender. In one of her earlier works, “Performative Acts and Gender Constitution: An
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Essay in Phenomenology and Feminist Theory,” Butler posits that gender is more like the
acting done by a performer than the role played by a performer. Gender is not put and to
then be taken off; rather, gender is the embodiment of a character, of its manners. Butler
interplay of obligation and desire, and a desire that is and is not one’s own (xi).
In other words, the cultural norms of “feminine” and “masculine” precede gender acts,
acting upon the psyche affectively to be reenacted. Gender is not like the playing out a
scripted role but the actions of the actors themselves. The “I” is produced upon
embodying these norms. Unlike a theatrical performance where the suspension of belief
is dissolved when the performance ends and reality resumes, the suspension of belief of
believed to be reality.
According to Butler, masculinity and femininity are a stylization of the body, not
innate or biological traits. Butler explains, “bodily gestures, movements, and enactments
of various kinds” (Butler, “Performative Acts and Gender Constitution” 519) constitute
gendered identity insofar as “constituting acts not only as constituting the identity of the
actor, but as constituting the identity as a compelling illusion, an object of belief” (520).
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Gender is performative, meaning gender is created in the doing of gender. In other words,
gender categories are created and sustained by its performances. “One is not simply a
body,” Butler proposed, “but, in some very key sense, one does one’s body and, indeed,
one does one’s body differently from one’s contemporaries and from one’s embodied
a descriptive system—i.e. myth. Gendered selves exist only insofar as there is a body
putting on what is deemed feminine and masculine. Or, as performance theorist Diana
Taylor states it, the body literally is “the medium as well as the message” (Performance
60).
restricted to how the social norms are defined. Gender identity is a performative
designated as privileged in the social system with security and support. Performativity
reveals what one must do in order to be considered ‘real’ or ‘pure.’ Those who do not
perform their role correctly are criminalized and stigmatized as “unreal” or “impure.”
In this final section, I posit that purity and impurity are particular types of bodily
stylizations and gestures of the body. Specifically, I find that the tropes of purity and
impurity mirror gender tropes. The pure bodies are praised as the good girl while the
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impure body is precarious like the bad girl. Instead of using physical artifacts like the
purity ring, purity literature employs a different strategy to mark purity and impurity. The
iterability of purity and impurity within purity literature is dependent upon the
associations of each with a gender trope. Connecting the moral and sexual behaviors of
Evangelical purity with gender enables the illusion of essentialist—i.e. the illusion that
find they consistently correlate to the binary system of gender. Specifically, purity
literature represents purity in terms of gender tropes: the good girl and the bad girl. If this
is the case, then purity is coded into a recognizable form and is therefore performative.
Purity is not an innate trait of women; purity is the embodiment of the good girl. See
table 2 for a comparison of the good girl and bad girl gender tropes.
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In Captivating, John and Stasi Eldredge clearly associate purity with the good girl
gender trope. Purity in their opinion is to live to the full potential of your design. They
state, “you are a woman to your soul, to the very core of your being.” Woman’s essence,
moreover, “is the most important thing about [them]” (8). The design of women, or
God’s intent for women, is known according to the Eldredges’ by women’s base
beauty” (9). In other words, a true woman will want to be rescued, to play the faithful
sidekick role, and to be a figure of beauty, grace, and kindness. The Eldredge’s
secondary characters in novels such as Lord of the Rings, and little girls playing dress up.
First off, these are all fictional characters. Even the little girl is in a state of play which
Richard Schechner explains is a state of make believe—the conscious acting out of the
unreal. The Eldredges’ do not supply any concrete examples of a pure woman. Their
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ideal woman does not exist. She is but a fairytale in book and movies, or as I argue, a
Continuing to elaborate upon the true essence of a woman, John and Stasi
Eldredge include the image of complementarian wife, i.e. the homemaker. See here, the
essential qualities of pure woman are stated: “She is inviting. She is vulnerable. She is
tender. She embodies mercy. She is also fierce and fiercely devoted” (Eldredge 31). This
woman is subordinate and homely. Without explicitly stating her place is in the kitchen,
John and Stasi Eldredge believe the woman’s place is curating the home, the church, and
the emotional state of men. In comparison, the image of the impure woman is the
“dominating” woman and “desolate” woman (51-60). The impure woman can appear as
one of two extremes: “hard, rigid, and controlling” or “naïve, lost, or bereft of any sense
of self” (54). In either case, she is uncontrollable by way of will or emotion. Just as
women are either pure or impure, women are either good girls or bad girls.
Not far off, Kirsten Clark and Bethany Baird directly connect purity with the
feminine traits of the good girl gender trope. However, Clark and Baird lack a real-life
example of the pure woman just like the Eldredges’. They state the following in regard
femininity and lets them know they are loved and cherished…Women are
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physical design is only a mere reflection of her overall distinct role. (30)
If purity is living in accordance with God’s design for our sexuality, then women are cis-
gendered, heterosexual, and complementarian. In their first book, Girl Defined, Clark and
God. Their recommendations extend from superficial acts, i.e. the vanity of selfies, to the
existential acts, i.e. the hopelessness of suicide. Only the woman living outside of God’s
design would have the vanity to take selfies or the hopelessness to take her own life. Girls
are either living “wild or wise” (Clark and Baird, “The Difference Between a Wild and a
Wise Woman”). They explain, a pure woman does not “cherry pick” what the Bible says
about her sexual identity (Clark and Baird, Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s
Heart 77). She must encompass the entirely of what God intended for her—to receive
from men. For example, if a girl posts seductive photos or purses queer relationships,
then she is a wild woman. Clearly, the impure woman is the stereotypical bag girl. The
wise or pure women, on the other hand, is the patient woman waiting to serve and receive
There is a clear pattern throughout each of these texts. Harris’s and Elliot’s image
of the pure woman is the stereotypical good girl and the image of the impure woman is
the stereotypical bad girl. Specifically for Elliot, the pure woman is the missionary’s wife
and the impure woman is the feminist. The impure woman is selfish with her time and
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pleasure. She is not accommodating to men. Specifically for Harris, the impure woman is
the “slut” or “flirt” who flaunts her body to attract male attention without true care for
them. His image of the impure woman is the adulteress or temptress of Proverbs. The
pure woman will care for men by protecting them from lusting after her body and her
attention. She will dress modestly, and she will not flirt. In sum, the impure woman is the
bad girl who disrupts the social norms of the good girl, the good wife—the pure woman.
Deflating purity to a series of reiterated acts, purity rituals constitute not only the
appearance of purity but also constitute the reality of purity. The social construct of
gender marks purity performances, making these rituals performative. Performing within
a misogynist system of desire, women are relegated into one of two gendered tropes,
thereby perpetuating the misogynist system itself. Either pure or impure, good or bad, the
I thought I was doing Biblical womanhood. No, I was performing the good girl
gender trope. I argue that young adolescent girls, like I once was, are indoctrinated into a
misogynist system of gender and sexuality. Taught to mark ourselves with stylizations
(modest clothing) and gestures (polite manners, play hard to get) in order to pass as
“pure,” girls are trapped in a system of double standards. Carefully navigating the
balance of beauty and sexuality, kindness and flirtatiousness, and service and strength,
girls master the art of appearances to the point of self-deception. Girls believe in the
system of purity—they are in fact pure if they do x, y, and z. Indoctrinated and horrified
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into the system of purity and impurity, girls do purity to save themselves from what
I argue that successful performances of purity will engage the bodily gestures and
stylizations of the good girl gender trope. Only then will purity rituals successfully refer
to the pure woman. For purity is measured not only according to a girls’ ability to
mitigate her sexuality but is also measured by her ability to adopt the gender constructs.
A pure woman is not only a woman who wears modest clothing, who prays, or who is a
virgin, but a woman who will serve and give to a husband without complaint, who is
gentile and not disruptive, who is controlled by societal norms not recklessly breaking
them. Purity is performative only insofar as purity is a performance of both sexuality and
gender. Regardless of a girl’s intention, purity performances operate on her body, making
her sexuality inferior to men’s and determining her gender identity. Women are both the
Hence, the power of purity lies within its performativity. Where purity is
performative, purity rituals conceal their misogynist fabrication. Horrified into a system
where woman’s sexuality is the abject, purity acts appear to be “saving” women. So long
as a woman performs purity, she is not impure and therefore not abject. Purity rituals are
her only way of proving she is not that—i.e. the abject. When in fact, purity acts are
validation of the system. Purity is a mask unto itself. Therefore, purity is a mechanism of
something women do to with their bodies. By doing purity, women become pure. The
desire for purity is premised upon a misogynist logic. This logic is insidiously encoded
into an indoctrination strategy of horror. Horrified of their own sexuality, women label
their bodies as dangerous and conform to the images of purity. This image of purity,
however, is the image of the good girl. Stylized into a gender trope, the performance of
Concluding Remarks
sexual promiscuity threatened the moral order of America. The church and state
coalesced to reverse engineer sexual promiscuity into sexual purity. The rhetoric of purity
structure. Moslener, however, argues the rhetoric of purity and impurity was weaponized
examination of the historical discourse of Evangelical purity, the threat of impurity is not
In Virgin Nation, American religion scholar Sara Moslener argues against the
common notion that the rhetoric of the twenty first century Evangelical purity movement
originated in socio-political climate of the 1970s. Rather, Moslener argues the rhetoric of
the twenty-first century purity movement dates back to the rhetoric of the twentieth
century’s social purity movement. The concept of purity as “a cultural project” of the
social purity movement was created to “ensure sexual purity, including heterosexual
Purity in this context is referring not only to abstinence but to the integrity of the
white race, i.e. racial hygiene. In the late 1800s, religious institutions such as the
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Woman’s Christian Temperance Union (WCTU), the Young Men’s Christian Association
(YMCA) and the Moody Bible Institute of Chicago sought to preserve the Anglo-Saxon
race by equating social norms with religious ethics according to Moslener. Impurity
fornication. Holy are the white folks, heterosexual couples, and healthy individuals and
damned were the black folks, homosexuals, and diseased. I agree with Moslener,
American purity culture’s rhetoric originates from the white supremist discourse of social
purity.
Moreover, the social purity movement sought to secure not only white supremacy
commitment to cooperation between the sexes. Ideal manhood and womanhood increased
the social stability of marriage and family life” (27). Moslener demonstrates that these
two purity movements contain a very similar rhetoric—preserve the American family
The difference between the two purity movements was their strategy for
preserving the heteronormative family structure. The social purity movement of the
twentieth century did not consist of regulating women’s sexuality but in regulating men’s
sexuality. Men were the ones asked to make purity pledges, not women.12 Moslener
movement problematized the means by which manhood was achieved” (Moslener 26).
D’Emilo and Freedman support Moslener’s claim in their history of American sexuality,
Intimate Matters, quoting a New York Physician who “sounded the alarm for a social
hygiene movement” and stated, “the Male Factor is the chief malefactor” (204). Even
prostitution was understood to be a male creation for male pleasure for which men were
judged more harshly than female prostitutes (D’Emilo 210). The social purity movement
placed the blame of polluting of American civilization upon male sexuality, not women.
What changed? Why was there a shift between the twentieth and twenty first
century purity movements from male sexual purity to female sexual purity? Moslener
explains, “Concerned that women have had charge of the church long enough, liberal
protestant men sought to reclaim Christian piety” (57). Known as muscular Christianity,
matters” that were left to the women at the time (Baker 45). Men reasserted moral
authority over women, defeminizing images of Christ and the Church. Not only that,
male spiritual leadership was declared to be biblically mandated. Sexual promiscuity was
not encouraged in men, but it was excusable. Muscular Christianity enabled the
justification of male promiscuity with the claim that males had a higher sex drive. Men
cannot help themselves, but women can. Women were to blame for male promiscuity. All
the while, the resurrection of male strength, vitality, and health led to the importance of
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male adolescent health. Led by Torrey Johnson, Billy Graham, and James Dobson, youth
programs emerged around the nation to indoctrinate adolescence into a Christian sexual
ethic such as Young Men’s Christian Association (YMCA), Youth for Christ, and
The discourse of gender and sexuality in the Evangelical purity movement abided
A counter-culture discourse where women were rewarded for ascribing to the Victorian
gender roles, women belonged in the home while men belonged at work. Caught within a
double standard, young evangelical women performed what acts were scripted to them
within the repertoire of purity. In the same way gender acts upon the body to create a
gendered identity, purity acts upon the body to create a pure or impure identity for young
women. What it means to be pure is nothing more than successfully performing the
purity is a trait women either do or do not possess is false. The embodiment of purity is a
a critical examination of the texts of purity culture. The text’s structure, images, and
encode a misogynist logic for doing purity and encode a gendered binary for purity to be
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NOTES
1
Evangelical is a sect of protestant Christianity that emphasizes evangelism and the
Assemblies of God, Covenant, Lutheran, and Nazarene can fall under the category of
Evangelical.
2
In fact, I find the purity myth to truly be a myth as Barthes defined in Mythologies
(1957): fiction naturalized into fact. Evangelicalism takes it as a matter of fact that
females are born “pure.”2 What I aim to show is the fiction of this supposed fact.
However, rather than demystifying the purity myth by identifying the semiotic
purity myth by identifying the affective logic of purity as Julia Kristeva proposes in
Medusa (1976), and Luce Irigaray’s Speculum of the Other Woman (1974).
5
Similar to my project, Browning’s Acting out Abstinence examines gender roles in
Abstinence.
7
See https://www.epm.org/resources/2010/Jan/28/guidelines-sexual-purity/;
https://bible.org/seriespage/lesson-11-sexual-purity-1-thessalonians-43-8;
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=etsxCFblzqA
8
Opinions on sexual pleasure may vary within the Evangelical purity culture. Is it sinful
to find pleasure in sexual intercourse, even if it is between husband and wife? A few may
say yes, but the majority of Evangelicals believe that sexual pleasure within the correct
context of marriage is what God designed it to be. When I say asceticism of sexual
Bodily pleasure out of context, i.e. masturbation, is outright sinful. Sexual pleasure is
difficult but rewarding transformative process the reader must mimic. Similarly, Harris
and Clark and Baird retell their rite of passage experiences alongside sets of rituals. For
instance, to take on quitting porn and masturbation, Kristen Clark shares four steps she
took to shake her bad habits (repent, confess to a friend or family member, get discipled
by a mentor, and get rid of negative influences). In contrast, the Eldredges’ hardly refer to
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themselves. Instead, they reference pop culture, i.e. Disney movies. Then, perhaps most
obviously, Harris provides a literal guide to navigate dating. Between “seven habits of
defective dating” and “principles that can guide you from friendship to matrimony,”
Harris directs the reader through the liminal stage of performing purity using his own life
gender and sexuality. Gender acts are determined by the “punitive and regulatory social
conventions” of the time, not some internal essence (527). Inevitable within gender then,
is a question of taboo and therefore of power. What culture defines as taboo is stripped of
power in contrast to what culture defines as normal which is elated in power. “The ‘I’
that is its body is, of necessity, a mode of embodying, and the ‘what’ that it embodies is
respect, and endeavor to protect them from wrong and degradation. 2) To endeavor to put
down all indecent language and coarse jests. 3) To maintain the law of purity as equally
binding upon men and women. 4) To endeavor to spread the principles among my
companions, and try to help my younger brothers. 5) To use every possible means to