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Midterm Lesson 1 - Topic - Comparison of Poor Listening and Good Listening Habits
Midterm Lesson 1 - Topic - Comparison of Poor Listening and Good Listening Habits
Listening is important. It allows us to gather information from others, which is fundamental to understanding
people. In turn, listening enables us to learn, work together, and solve difficult problems. Listening also shows
respect. Respect is fundamental for relationships, which lead to beautiful life experiences, great business
opportunities and everything in between.
The case for good listening is clear: Good listening leads to progress and strong relationships. Bad listening leads to stagnation and frustration.
However, listening well is difficult.
In truth, we are not a Good listener or a Bad listener all the time. Sometimes we listen well, other times we don’t.
The goal of this list is to bring attention to when each of us could be a better listener. This will help us build better
relationships and do great things together.
This information below is from “How to Be a Better Listener” by Sherman K. Okum, Nation’s Business, August 1975,
and from “Building a Professional Image: Improving Listening Behavior” by Philip Morgan and Kent Baker, Supervisory
Management, November 1995. Only about 25% of listeners grasp the central ideas in communications. To improve
listening skills, consider the following:
Things to Remember:
If you are really listening intently, you should feel tired after your speaker has finished. Effective listening is an active rather
than a passive activity.
When you find yourself drifting away during a listening session, change your body position and concentrate on using one of
the above skills. Once one of the skills is being used, the other active skills will come into place as well.
Your body position defines whether you will have the chance of being a good listener or a good deflector. Good listeners
are like poor boxers: they lead with their faces.
Meaning cannot just be transmitted as a tangible substance by the speaker. It must also be stimulated or aroused in the
receiver. The receiver must therefore be an active participant for the cycle of communication to be complete.
Good listeners listen with their faces.
Good listening habits are essential for effective communication. They help foster understanding, build trust, and
strengthen relationships. Here are some habits that differentiate good from poor listening:
Patience: Good listeners are patient and give speakers ample time to express themselves1.
Focus: Good listeners focus on the goal of the conversation and drive it forward, even if it gets heated 1.
Open-mindedness: Good listeners are open-minded and receptive to different perspectives 1.
Empathy: Good listeners empathize with the speaker’s emotions and experiences 2.
Non-verbal cues: Good listeners make others feel comfortable through open body language, smiling, and
eye contact1.
Avoidance of defensiveness: Good listeners avoid becoming defensive or taking things personally 1.
Knowing when to pause: Good listeners sense when to take a break in a discussion that no longer moves
forward1.
On the other hand, poor listening habits can hinder effective communication. Some examples of poor listening
habits include:
Interrupting: Poor listeners tend to interrupt speakers before they finish expressing their thoughts 3.
Distractions: Poor listeners get easily distracted by their surroundings or their own thoughts 3.
Prejudice: Poor listeners let their preconceived notions or biases cloud their judgment 3.
Lack of empathy: Poor listeners fail to understand or acknowledge the speaker’s emotions and
experiences1.
Inattentiveness: Poor listeners may appear disinterested or inattentive during conversations 3.
Developing good listening habits takes practice and conscious effort. By cultivating these habits, you can become a
better listener and enhance your communication skills.