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YEAR 9 CCCB
Year 9
BE WITH ME
Unit 2: Be Alive
Theme 2.1: How do I look? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 18
Theme 2.2: How do I know what I know? . . . . . . . . . . . . 29
Theme 2.3: Is it okay to feel this way? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 37
Theme 2.4: How do I get along with others? . . . . . . . . . . 43
Unit 3: Be Faithful
Theme 3.1: What do I really believe? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 52
Theme 3.2: What’s the point of prayer? . . . . . . . . . . . . . 60
Unit 4: Be Loving
Theme 4.1: What is love? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 70
Theme 4.2: What is the loving thing to do? . . . . . . . . . . . 76
Theme 4.3: Why wait? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 87
Theme 4.4: How does love go wrong? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 96
Unit 5: Be Obedient
Theme 5.1: Why should I obey my parents
or anyone else in my family? . . . . . . . . . . . 108
Theme 5.2: Whom should I obey in society? . . . . . . . . . 116
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Unit 6: Be Just
Theme 6.1: What keeps us apart? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 126
Theme 6.2: How much is enough? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 132
Theme 6.3: How can the earth survive? . . . . . . . . . . . 140
Unit 7: Be Honest
Theme 7.1: When is it stealing? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 150
Theme 7.2: Why tell the truth when a lie will do? . . . . 156
Unit 8: Be Generous
Theme 8.1: Do I have a heart of gold? . . . . . . . . . . . . 164
Theme 8.2: How do I get satisfaction? . . . . . . . . . . . . . 175
Unit 9: Be Forgiving
Theme 9.1: What does it really mean to forgive? . . . . . 182
Theme 9.2: Can all broken relationships be healed? . . 190
Appendix
Background to Scripture . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 214
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Welcome to your new program. The prayers of all of the Canadian Bishops are
with you as you begin this exploration of our Catholic faith. Young people are a
very important part of our Church. We have made this program available to you
to share with you the rich tradition that is ours as Catholic Christians.
We know that teenagers face unique challenges and many difficult problems.
God does not leave you on your own to cope as best you can, but reaches out to
you in more ways than any of us can imagine. We say that because hope is
what Jesus Christ wants us to have, and hope is what we need in our lives to
live as Jesus’ followers.
We know also that you have a sense of enthusiasm and excitement that some of
us have lost. That is why we want this program to be especially for you. Jesus
and his Church are for everyone – including teenagers. When we speak of Jesus
to you, we have to try to speak in ways that are real for you.
We called this program Be With Me because that is a prayer that a lot of us,
both young and old, often make in our hearts to God. It’s a great prayer,
because that is the very same thing God is saying to us. This program is a little
different from others you might have done recently, because it doesn’t talk so
much about belief in God, but about how to live what we believe. It tries to help
you be a follower of Jesus facing the real situations that young persons face. We
have tried to make the stories and examples ones that people of your age meet
daily. In these real-life situations, especially when we just don’t know what is
the best thing to do, God says to us, and we say to God, “Be with me.”
We’ll end with two things about the Church: if you are involved in your parish,
help make it more “youth friendly” for other teens. If you are not involved yet,
try it – you will probably find there a caring and supportive community: one
that makes prayer, hope, and life itself a lot easier.
We think that you will really enjoy this program.
With prayers and very good wishes for you,
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Unit 1
Be With Me
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1.1
Who do I want
to be with?
Time Together That Counts see each other all the time, but it’s always
in a group. We never do anything with just
Sometimes Tara felt like school was one
the two of us. Every time I suggest we go
long soap opera, and classes were just the
out, Chris wants to ask someone else to
commercials that paid for it. During lunch
go, too. And every time Chris asks me to
and in the halls she would get a quick
do something, it always turns out that
glimpse into someone’s life and soul. Then
someone else is doing it with us. We
her conversation would be interrupted by
always have fun; but I’m beginning to
class. After class she’d be drawn into some-
think that Chris doesn’t really want to be
one else’s crisis, then another class, then
with me.”
another lesson in real life. By the end of
the day her life, her heart and her energy At that point the bell rang, and there
could be going in a million different direc- was no time for Jess and Tara to talk more.
tions, and algebra and grammar seemed Tara headed off feeling just a bit sad. She
totally irrelevant. Take today, for example. really liked both Jess and Chris, and they
It had started off as a perfectly normal had seemed so “right” for each other.
Thursday; Tara even felt prepared for all of Chris sat right in front of Tara in math,
her classes. She was just closing her lock- and Tara found it hard to concentrate on
er and heading off toward math class when what the teacher was saying. She just kept
Jess came walking down the hall. Tara thinking about what Jess had said. When
waved hello, saying, “Hey, Jess! What’s the class was over she walked with Chris.
up? I haven’t talked to you in over a week. “So, Chris, how’s life?” Tara tried to
How are things going with you and Chris?” sound nonchalant. “I was talking with Jess
Jess looked sad. “Not so great. We’re a little while ago and she said things with
never really with each other. I mean, we you two were a bit rough.”
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A strange look crossed Chris’ face. It Jess and Chris’ was. Or so she thought
was rapidly followed by a grin. “Very until lunch, when JB sat next to her.
funny, Tara. You had me going there for a “Hi, Tara. How was your weekend?”
second. I guess Jess was telling you about
“Pretty good. How about yours? Lou said
how much time we spend together.” you guys didn’t hike after all.”
“Umm, yeah, something like that.” “No. Thanks to the stupid weather, it
“We have an amazing relationship! We was a pretty boring weekend. Once the
spend almost all of our free time together hike was cancelled, we both just did our
and we never get tired of each other! own thing. This was supposed to be our
What’s more, we always have a blast. We great weekend together and it was one big
like to do the same things and spend time flop. I feel pretty bad. The hike was my
with the same people! I’ve never felt so idea and I didn’t have a backup plan.”
close to anyone. Say, Jess mentioned Tara was frantically searching for an
something about going to see a movie appropriate response when Des joined
tonight. How’d you like to come with us?” them. “Hey, JB, hey, Tara, could I ask you
“Thanks, Chris, but I’m busy tonight. two for some advice? I don’t know what to
Maybe you and Jess should just go alone.” do about Cam. I think something’s wrong.
“I’m sure we will, if no one else feels like We talk and talk and talk every day, but
coming. Talk to you later.” we never talk about anything that matters.
What’s the point of being with someone if
Chris headed down the hall leaving Tara you don’t share important stuff? What
to shake her head in confusion. should I do?”
“Yo, Tara. Wake up! I’ve called you “Have you talked with Cam about this?”
twice.” Lou was standing right next to Tara Tara asked.
and shaking her arm.
“Of course not. That would be talking
“Oh, sorry, Lou. I guess I was lost in about important stuff. I’m afraid if I tried
thought. I was trying to figure out relation- to do that the relationship would be over,
ships.” and I really can’t handle a breakup right
“They can be pretty messy and confus- now. Tara, why don’t you talk to Cam for
ing things until you find the right person. me? You two have been friends forever.”
I am so glad that I met JB. We just spent “Maybe. But I’m not making any promis-
one of the best weekends I’ve ever spent. es. I really think you should do the talking
We were supposed to go hiking but the yourself. Things may not be what you
weather was lousy so we just hung out think they are. Anyway, I’ve gotta go. If I’m
and read books and played computer late for another class Mr. Carroll said I’d
games. It was one of the first times we just lose 5 points.” Tara dashed down the hall
spent time together without having to do and slipped through the classroom door
anything.” just in front of the teacher.
“That’s cool,” Tara agreed, and then she Tara told herself that she wasn’t going to
added, “you two are really lucky.” Tara did say anything to Cam, but that afternoon
believe that JB and Lou were lucky; their when she and Cam were sitting next to
relationship wasn’t nearly as confusing as each other in science she found herself
8 Be With Me
think that good friends don’t have to say Learning to Be
anything.
No one of these perspectives is more Most of us would like to have good friends
Christian than another. Each friendship and to be seen as a good friend. But most of
must be shaped by the needs and the per- us have times when our own wishes and
sonalities of the people involved. From a our own likes and dislikes blind us to the
Christian perspective, the thing that wishes and needs of our friends. Sometimes
makes some friendships better than others we hurt our friends and weaken our friend-
is not the way friends spend time with ships. We do this not because we mean to,
each other, but the attitude friends have but because we don’t stop and think about
toward each other. how our actions will affect others.
In being with one another, we are called If we really want to be a good friend, we
to take on the attitude of Christ, who must develop the habits of friendship.
“humbled himself” (Philippians 2.5-8) to be Then the kinds of things we do without
the kind of friend others needed. As the thinking will make our friendships
Son of God, Jesus could have expected stronger, not weaker. In other words, if we
people to do things his way and serve his really want to be a good friend we need to
needs. Instead, he was willing to serve the become virtuous.
needs of others and to be with them as
they needed him to be. Jesus’ words and
example show us that in friendship, we
must balance our own needs with the
needs of others. When two people under-
stand “being together” in two very different
ways, each one must be willing to give up
a little in order to truly “be with” the other.
Let’s say that for one person, being togeth-
er means doing something together. For
another, it means sharing personal time in
the same place. Those two people must do
a little of each if they wish to really “be
together.”
From the Christian perspective, a good
friend is willing to be with another person
in a way that respects that person’s dignity,
feelings, values and needs. A good friend
will share both laughter and tears, will give
and receive, will say both “yes” and “no” to
you. A good friend will accept you as you
are and will challenge you to be more.
Above all, a good friend is someone whose
whole attitude says, “You are important to
me.”
Reuben: So what did you think? Isn’t Zach: I don’t know. Famous people, rich
Jesus amazing? Aren’t you glad I con- people...
vinced you to come with me today? Reuben: Come off it. I know you don’t
Zach: Not really. I don’t see why you’re buy that stereotype. The rich and
so worked up about this guy. He’s a famous are just as likely as anyone
nut! The things he was saying today else to be miserable – maybe even
made no sense at all! “Blessed are the more likely.
poor in spirit.” What is that supposed Zach: Okay, people who are really cool
to mean? Or “blessed are those who about everything – you know, people
mourn”! That’s total nonsense! There’s who are okay with who they are and
no blessing in being sad. are able to cope with every situation.
Reuben: I disagree. In fact, I thought People that other people want to be
what he said made a lot of sense. It around.
made me think about the way I’m liv- Reuben: Exactly! The way I see it, Jesus
ing my life right now. was telling us how to be, as you put it,
Zach: How? cool.
Reuben: It made me think about what I Zach: There is no way you could do the
need to do to really find happiness – kinds of things he was talking about
or, as Jesus says, blessings. Come on, and be cool. What normal person
think about it. Who would you say would want to hang around with the
was really blessed? kind of person Jesus described today?
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Reuben: Lots of people. Think about it. Zach: Whatever. But you’ve got to agree,
What kind of people do you really like admitting you’re not perfect isn’t
to be with? enough. There’s more you have to do
Zach: I don’t know. People who are to be able to cope in every situation.
themselves, who don’t put on an act And to be the kind of person others
when they’re with you. People who let want to be around, you need to do
you see their good points and their more than just admit that you need
bad points. them to be around. There are a lot of
things that are pretty important.
Reuben: I think you just described the Jesus didn’t talk about them.
first step in being poor in spirit.
Reuben: Like what?
People who are poor in spirit don’t try
to have some kind of image. They Zach: Well, for one thing, he didn’t seem
admit their weaknesses. to realize that there are things you
have to have to make it in today’s
Zach: You mean they stand around like
world. Everybody knows that in this
a bunch of weak whiners? That wasn’t
day and age you’re going to be out of
quite what I had in mind.
everything if you don’t own at least
Reuben: People who are poor in spirit some of the right things.
aren’t whiners. They admit their
Reuben: I thought you said the impor-
strengths as well as their weakness- tant thing was to be okay with who
es. It’s just that they know that those you are and able to handle every situ-
strengths don’t make them better ation. Doesn’t that mean being able to
than anyone else. People who are
poor in spirit admit that they need
God and that they need other people.
They don’t try for that false, macho
image that gets so boring after a
while. The way I see it, you can’t be
okay with who you are if you always
have to worry about blowing your
image. And there will be a lot of
things you can’t cope with if you’re
never willing to admit that you need
help.
Zach: All right, so maybe one of the
things Jesus said kind of makes
sense. Maybe you will be happier if
you’re poor in spirit.
Reuben: You mean, maybe you’ll even
understand that the kingdom of God
is around you?
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him or her because you didn’t want to not being treated fairly. I think good
be sad? friends should even stick up for you
Zach: No, but what’s your point? when you deserve what you’re getting.
Reuben: If we’re not sad when things The people I think of as cool are the
aren’t going well for our friends, it ones who gave me a second chance
means we’re pretty selfish and self- when I messed up.
centred and not much of a friend. Reuben: Hah! Got you again. You just
That’s hardly the kind of person others agreed that to be cool you have to
want to be with. Now take that a little hunger and thirst for righteousness
further. Say you don’t notice or feel and be merciful and forgiving when
sad that so many things in the world someone does something wrong.
aren’t the way they should be. If so,
Zach: This is scary. You’re almost begin-
you’re probably arrogant and greedy.
If you’re not unhappy that people are ning to make sense!
suffering, it probably means you bene- The people I really like to be with are
fit from the suffering. That’s not exact- my friends all the time, no matter
ly cool! If you don’t mourn some of the what. They aren’t hot one day and cold
time, you ought to be uncomfortable the next. They’re committed to me.
with yourself, and when God’s plan for Reuben: They’re pure of heart.
justice is fulfilled, you will be.
Zach: I suppose you’ve worked through
all of those sayings that Jesus had,
haven’t you?
Reuben: Pretty much. I figure the one
about hungering for righteousness
means that you can’t be cool unless
you stick up for people when they’re
being treated unfairly. If I were naming
people I want to have around, near the
top of my list would come two guys
who took my side when everyone else
was against me. When my brother
became a tax collector, a lot of people
said every member of our family should
be shunned. They wanted to kick me
out of our school. These two guys stuck
up for me. They made other people see
that it wouldn’t be fair to punish me
because of what my brother did.
Zach: Everyone knows that you have to
stick up for your friends when they’re
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Beatitude to find happiness. What’s more, the happi-
ness or blessing that they direct us to is
The word “beatitude” means “blessing” or one that we will find in our earthly life and
“promise of true happiness.” In biblical in eternal life with God.
times, beatitudes were often given as direc- Jesus’ Beatitudes will lead us to the
tions for life. Most of the beatitudes of the happiness of true and lasting friendship
Old Testament were statements of popular with others and with God. The Ten
wisdom or common sense, such as “Find Commandments and the Beatitudes are
wisdom and you’ll find happiness” (see the stepping stones on the path to the
Proverbs 3.13). The Beatitudes that Jesus kingdom of heaven.
gives are different. They direct us along
paths where we would not normally expect
Key Ter ms
beatitude virtues the Ten Commandments
the Beatitudes kingdom of heaven
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Unit 2
Be Alive
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2.1
How do I look?
The Perfect Reflection purred, Zeke would growl low in his throat
in imitation. Finnigan, the cat, thought
Zeke and Finnigan lived with their humans that she was really a small dog. When
in a small mining community in the north. Zeke took a bone out to bury it, Finnigan
Zeke was a huge, furry dog, half husky would dig in the ground right alongside
and half saint bernard. Finnigan was a him. Zeke and Finnigan raced and wres-
small tabby cat. Zeke and Finnigan were tled during the day and curled up together
the only pets in the community, so they to sleep at night. They both thought that
spent a lot of time together. In fact, you life was very good.
might say that they were best friends. But then one day something terrible
Since neither Zeke nor Finnigan knew happened. One of Zeke and Finnigan’s
any other pets, both assumed that they humans received a large package from her
were alike. Zeke, the dog, thought that he sister in the city. Inside the package was
was really a tall cat. When Finnigan an oval mirror in a shiny gold frame. The
18 Be Alive
mirror came with its own special floor the noise and came running just in time to
stand. The humans laughed and laughed prevent disaster. They dragged the two ani-
when they saw the mirror – how little the mals apart. Then they locked Finnigan in
people in the city understood their life! The the house and tied Zeke up outside.
humans called in several of their human After that, Zeke and Finnigan had to be
friends to share the joke; then they put the kept apart. One would be put outside in
mirror in a corner and went on with the the morning while the other was inside,
day’s work. then at lunchtime they would switch
When no one was around, Finnigan places. The one inside would spend the
decided that she would go and take a closer whole time preening in front of the mirror.
look at the odd thing that had caused so The one outside would pass the time
much laughter. As she got close to the mir- dreaming up new postures and expres-
ror she caught sight of a strange animal, sions to improve his or her reflection. Both
unlike any she had ever seen, coming right longed for a day when they would have a
toward her. She stopped and her hackles new companion, someone who looked like
began to rise. The other animal also an animal should look. Zeke and Finnigan
stopped and its hackles rose. Finnigan became so self-absorbed that their strong
hissed. The other animal hissed at the same friendship fell apart.
time. Finnigan stretched out her claws. The This went on day after day. Then, one
other animal did the same. Finnigan leapt afternoon, Finnigan was brought into the
at the glass. The other animal also leapt. house before Zeke came out. As soon as
Both of them hit the glass and fell onto the Finnigan entered the house, she headed
floor without ever touching one another. straight for the mirror. When she saw Zeke
Finnigan began to understand. sitting in front of it, she began to hiss.
Just then, Zeke came up to see what Zeke began to bark. Both animals leapt at
Finnigan was doing. When he caught sight each other at the same moment. The mir-
of himself in the mirror he was as con- ror fell over and the glass broke into a mil-
fused and frightened as Finnigan had lion pieces.
been. Zeke snarled and growled at his The humans came running. They
image; it snarled and growled back. Then grabbed Zeke and Finnigan by the scruffs of
Zeke noticed Finnigan preening in front of their necks, threw them both outside and
her own image. He noticed that the image closed the door. A few minutes later, the
was preening back. Zeke sniffed at his door opened again. One of the humans car-
image and found that there was nothing ried the empty oval frame and put it next to
but glass sniffing back. the tool shed. Zeke and Finnigan rushed
Zeke looked at Finnigan and began to toward it. One came from the front and one
growl. He was not like her after all! from the back. They both stopped short –
Finnigan looked at Zeke and began to hiss. when they looked through the frame, each
How could she have been so mistaken? one saw the other. Zeke walked slowly
Then Finnigan did something she had around to the other side of the mirror to
never done before; she raked her claws look from there. Finnigan did the same.
across Zeke’s nose. Zeke snarled and Both looked through the frame again, and
snapped at Finnigan. The humans heard once again they saw only each other.
20 Be Alive
sure you were still alive.” Then, without a
pause, Lisa turned to Linsey, saying, “Hi,
I’m Lisa. Devin’s not too big on politeness
so I thought I’d better introduce myself.”
“Nice to meet you,” Linsey slurred
through her wired teeth. “Sorry I can’t talk
well. I had an operation.”
“No problem,” Lisa smiled. “I don’t
always talk well and I haven’t had an oper-
ation. So why hasn’t Devin brought you
out to meet the rest of the gang?”
“I don’t know. Probably because I spit
when I talk and I make disgusting noises
when I eat. I guess I’d probably gross a few
people out so it’s better if I stay in.”
Devin could feel his face turning bright
red. He knew that if he tried to deny there. Even if she didn’t talk much and
Linsey’s statements he’d just look worse. didn’t eat. Sometimes she’s in real pain
He desperately wanted to say something so and she can’t help grimacing or making a
that he wouldn’t look like a complete jerk, noise. Everybody would be uncomfortable
but absolutely nothing came to mind. around her. Besides, it wouldn’t be fair to
“Would you be okay with meeting peo- her if we were all talking and laughing and
ple?” Lisa asked Linsey, not even looking she couldn’t really join in. And what if peo-
at Devin. “I mean, I doubt it’s a lot of fun ple decided to go out to eat somewhere
not being able to talk and eat like everyone where there was no soup? That would real-
else and having people either stare or just ly make her feel out of it. Isn’t it better to
avoid looking at you.” just keep her from being hurt?”
“I hate it. I’ve gone out on my own a Lisa just stared at Devin for a few min-
couple of times and it was pretty miser- utes, then she turned and left without say-
able. But it’s pretty miserable just sitting ing a word.
here doing nothing, too.” Linsey paused
and shrugged. “In a way I don’t blame peo- Reflection Questions
ple. I mean, every time I see myself in a
1. Which of the people in this story can you
mirror I can’t help staring, and I sound
identify with? Why?
stupid even to myself. But I’m still me, no
matter what’s wrong with my face! Aren’t 2. Is it ever right to exclude someone
I?” Linsey began to cry. She got up quickly because his or her appearance makes
and left the room. others uncomfortable?
Lisa glared at Devin. Devin held up his 3. What would you have done if you were
hands in a questioning gesture. “Come on, Devin? If you were Linsey? If you were Lisa?
Lisa, give me a break. Be realistic. Nobody 4. What can be done to make it easier for
would be able to act natural if she were people like Linsey to “fit in”?
22 Be Alive
respect for human bodies. Sometimes we for- human soul and spirit, is a part of God’s
get just how sacred and how valuable the plan. By becoming human right at the
human body really is. Sometimes we forget moment of conception, the Son will help peo-
that God values the human body so much ple understand that human life and the
that the Son of God became fully human. human body are sacred from the moment of
Jesus accepted all of the strengths and all of conception.”
the limitations of the human body. He did “That makes sense,” Asa nodded. “If God
this so that we might know just how loved becomes an embryo, then a fetus, then a
and just how valuable human beings – both helpless baby, humans will have to under-
body and soul – are. stand: the human body is precious to God no
Perhaps the following imaginary conver- matter what stage of development it’s in and
sation among the angels can help us reflect no matter what it is or isn’t able to do.”
upon the importance that the Incarnation “And if God goes through adolescence like
gives to the human body. every other human, then maybe more
The heavenly host was just about to begin teenagers will understand that their bodies
their evening concert when Sela, one of the must be respected and valued no matter how
younger angels, arrived out of breath and much their hormones are raging,” Raphael
very excited. “Did you hear the news? God is added. “I must say that would help me a lot.
sending Gabriel down to talk to Mary of I’ve been assigned as the guardian of a few
Nazareth. The Son is going to be born on teenagers who wanted to treat their bodies
earth as a human!” as if they were worth about as much as the
All thoughts of music vanished as every- trading cards in bubblegum. I’ve done some
one started talking at once. pretty fancy footwork to prevent permanent
“Sela, did you say the Son was going to damage, let me tell you.”
become human?” “But,” Gimmel interrupted, “no matter how
“That’s what I said!” people treat their bodies, they eventually
“In a human body? I don’t get it! Why break down and die. Surely the Son would
would God want a body?” Dalet asked, not abandon a body before he would go through
really expecting an answer. the indignity of physical suffering and death!”
“Yeah, who needs a body?” Gimel agreed. “Actually,” Sela said, “Gabriel says the Son
“We angels don’t have bodies, and it doesn’t is going to take a human body all the way
seem to be a problem. And even if the Son from beginning to end. He’s going to be born
did want a body, why wouldn’t he choose a with it. He’s going to suffer in it. He’s going
fully grown one? Why go through all of that to die with it. And he’s even going to rise
tedious, not to mention risky, growing and with it.”
developing? An infant’s body is basically “Whoa, wait a minute. What do you mean
helpless and useless. The Son won’t be able he’ll rise with it?” Gimmel asked.
to do anything for years!” “Just that. After he dies, the Son will be
“According to Gabriel,” Sela said, feeling raised again by God. In the resurrection he’ll
very important, “God wants people to under- still have his human body, complete with
stand just how valuable human life is, and any wounds he suffers. Remember, Psalm 22
how much the human body, along with the says he’ll be pierced.”
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3. What does the abuse of food, alcohol, how they treat their bodies. They must
tobacco or medicine, and the use of ille- never do anything to their bodies that
gal drugs, have to do with the fifth com- might show a lack of respect for God, who
mandment? is within them.
If we believe that our bodies are filled
1 Corinthians 6.15 with the presence of God, then we cannot
“Do you not know that your bodies are say, “It’s my body and I can do what I
members of Christ?” want with it.” If two people owned a house,
Christians did not have to follow the strict could one say, “It’s my house and I can do
dietary rules that Jews followed. Because what I want with it” without consulting the
other? No. Neither can we claim that we
of this, some people started to believe that
have a right to do as we wish with our
the Christian faith was only about the
body and ignore God’s presence within it.
human spirit and not the human body.
Some of the Corinthians believed that God
did not care what people did with their
bodies as long as they loved Christ.
In his letter to the Corinthians, Paul sets
the record straight. He says that our bod-
ies are part of the body of Christ. They
deserve to be respected and protected. Part
of loving Christ is taking care of our body
and all of the other bodies that are mem-
bers of the body of Christ. Anytime we
show a lack of respect for our body or for
other people’s bodies, we are showing a
lack of respect for Christ.
1 Corinthians 6.19
“Do you not know that your body is a tem-
ple of the Holy Spirit within you, which you
have from God, and that you are not your
own?”
The Temple in Jerusalem housed the pres-
ence of the living God. Jews understood
that God was present in the Temple in a
different way than God was present every-
where else. When Paul tells the
Corinthians that their bodies are temples
of the Holy Spirit, he is saying that God is
present in their bodies in a very special
way. Because of God’s presence in their
bodies, they must be very careful about
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make sure that he got everything. That’s and laugh about. I told myself that if they
why I had no control over my foot. weren’t letting their problems, which were
Two weeks later, they grafted a nerve so much worse than mine, take them
from another part of my leg onto the dam- down, I couldn’t let mine take me down.
aged nerve. If the graft worked I would I had been asking God, “Why me?” Now,
have some control over my foot, but the as I looked at those kids, I started asking,
doctor told me that there was a chance I “Why not me?” Things could have been so
would never walk normally and that I much worse. Why was I so lucky? I had
might always need a brace. At this point, been feeling sorry for myself for what had
my parents were all excited because the been taken away; now I started feeling
doctor told them that it wasn’t cancer. But grateful for all that I had. Instead of think-
I had never known that it might be cancer, ing that God had shortchanged me, I start-
so all I could think about was that I might ed thinking about how much God had
never walk normally and I might never given me. I learned not to take anything
play sports again. for granted. I learned to appreciate all the
In September I went back to school – everyday things, like the ability to walk
Grade 12, my final year. I was on crutches even with a limp.
and wearing a foot brace that gave me a My foot is now 95 percent okay. I don’t
very funny walk. Volleyball season started. need a brace and I can play sports again.
The team that I would have been on, prob- But my attitude has changed. Sports are
ably in the starting line-up, was doing no longer a chore that I have to do. Now
really well. Volleyball was the topic of con- they’re something that I do because I want
versation at the beginning of every class. to and because they are fun. I still like to
That year, while I limped around on win, but I don’t mind if I lose. I realize that
crutches, our team won the provincial title. sports aren’t everything. They’re not what
And then the hockey season started.... makes a person who he or she is.
I was feeling really sorry for myself. I I’m actually a better athlete now than I
couldn’t play volleyball and I couldn’t play was before my operation. I think that’s
hockey. My life no longer revolved around because I have a lot more confidence in
those two things, but everyone else’s life myself. I can relax and just enjoy playing a
still did. I kept asking God, “Why me?” game. I’m no longer concerned with
Then I had to go back to the Children’s impressing everyone. I know that whether I
Rehab Centre to be fitted for a new brace. win or lose, I’m lucky to be able to play.
I’d been there before and seen all those lit-
tle kids with no arms or no legs, but this
time I really started thinking about it. They
were so much younger than me, and their
injuries were so much worse, but they
seemed so much stronger. They weren’t
letting what they didn’t have get them
down. Instead, they were grateful for what
they did have. While I was feeling sorry for
myself, they were finding things to smile
2
This is a traditional Jewish prayer that celebrates the gift of
the body. Printed in Thank God: Prayers of Jews and
Christians Together (Chicago: Liturgy Training Publications,
1989), p. 26.
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2.2
How do I know
what I know?
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them to do. They can often learn a new Robin and Carey have both shown that
sport or a new dance step very quickly. they are sound smart – they have a well-
These people use their bodies to express developed musical intelligence. This is the
themselves. They usually like to be active. intelligence of sound and rhythm. People
They tend to be good at things that use with well-developed musical intelligence
strength or endurance, poise, grace or co- can hear, appreciate, mimic and create dif-
ordination. They learn by imitating and by ferent types of music and rhythms. They
doing. tend to be good at hearing and interpreting
sounds and using sound to express differ-
✔ Sound and Rhythm Smart – Musical, ent things and create different moods.
Rhythmic Intelligence People who are good at sports such as bas-
ketball also tend to have a well-developed
“Did you hear Robin imitating all of those rhythmic intelligence. One needs a sense of
animals and birds today? What an ear!” rhythm to dribble and pass well. When
“Yeah, but the one who really impressed things are set to music or to a beat, or
me was Carey. A bunch of kids were tap- when information is presented through
ping out different beats and Carey was music or with sound effects, it is easier for
reciting O Canada in time to whatever they people with well-developed musical, rhyth-
tapped out.” mic intelligence to learn.
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God a little. And what if we use all of our the equal value and dignity of each person,
intelligences, especially those that are we rank people according to what they can
most developed? We are far more likely to and cannot do. We often encourage and
come to know and love God and to under- support people with certain abilities while
stand how we are called to serve. we ignore or undermine people with other
If we look closely at the Bible, we begin abilities. People who are undervalued can
to see that people come to know and feel frustrated, angry and full of despair.
understand God using all seven intelli- Those who are valued more may accept
gences. God speaks to different people in this discrimination. We may not accept it
different ways. God asks different things of when people are killed, but we often accept
different people. God addresses each per- the killing of their spirit and the destruc-
son according to his or her unique way of tion of the creative energy that God has
understanding. God also expects things given them.
from each person according to his or her This killing of the spirit is a form of vio-
unique ability to give. Each of us probably lence that the fifth commandment forbids:
can find powerful and persuasive examples “You shall not kill.” Jesus challenged people
of faith in the Bible and in Christian histo- to be peaceful at heart. This peace is more
ry. The people who speak to us most are than an absence of fighting. It is a respect
likely to be the ones who approach God for the dignity of every person and an effort
using the intelligences we prefer to use. to love, care for and do what is best for
every person. This peace is only possible
Reflection Questions
1. Why can we be sure that every person is
capable of coming to know God?
2. What does understanding the different
types of intelligence have to do with
faith?
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ever changing and ever growing. As you do “I see that you were not serious about
that, the Creator will speak to you.” meeting the Creator,” Eagle sniffed. “If you
“But Beaver, I don’t cut down trees,” will not learn to fly long distances, and if
Sparrow replied. you cannot find the courage to spend
hours alone, you will never meet the
“Oh, that is too bad,” Beaver said, “for
Creator.” Then, with one strong flap of his
that’s the best way to get to know the
wings, Eagle left.
Creator. But don’t worry. I know another
way. Swim for a long distance underwater Deer told Sparrow that if she wanted to
and pay careful attention to the light as it meet the Creator she should run fast and
shines through the water and changes hard, listening to the sound of the wind in
everything it touches. Underwater light is her ears. Eventually that sound would
not like the light on land. It is a true reflec- change and she would hear the whisper of
tion of the Creator. When you learn to real- the Creator. When Sparrow pointed out
ly see it, you will see the Creator, too. that she could neither run nor fly with any
great speed, Deer shook her antlers and
“But Beaver,” Sparrow sighed, “I don’t observed that some things in life were very
swim.” sad indeed.
“Oh,” said Beaver, “that is very sad Meadowlark said that only a bird with a
indeed. I think if you ever wish to know beautiful singing voice could ever really
the Creator, you must first learn to swim know the Creator. “You see,” Meadowlark
or to chop down trees.”
Sparrow was very sad when she heard
that, but she was not ready to give up.
“Surely Beaver cannot be right,” she
thought, “for Eagle knows the Creator and
he neither swims nor chops down trees. I
will go and ask him.”
“Ah, little Sparrow,” Eagle said thought-
fully when he heard her question. “It is not
easy to get to know the Creator. But it is
well worth the effort. To meet the Creator,
you must fly high into the sky world and
visit the Creator in his home. It is a hard
journey that takes many days. What’s
more, it is a journey that must be taken
alone. Only a bird whose heart and mind
are not cluttered with chatter can hear the
Creator when he speaks.”
“But Eagle,” Sparrow cried, “I am not as
strong as you. I cannot fly for days into
the sky world. And I am far too small to
travel all alone. I must fly with the rest of
my flock.”
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2.3
Is it okay to feel
this way?
Bound in Leather that you are. Once a wish has been writ-
ten, the only way to break its hold over
Jacob found the old diary one afternoon you is to show it to someone else. At
when he was rummaging around in the least that’s what I was told. I never had
attic. The leather cover was worn thin in the courage to share what I had written,
places and there was a big water stain on and so this book was my undoing.
the binding. When Jacob opened the diary Jacob laughed to himself when he read
he saw that a large number of pages had the warning. He imagined his great grand-
been torn from the front; only one of the father or one of his long-dead uncles play-
remaining pages had writing on it: ing some complicated, imaginative game
To any who would write in this diary: during the long winter months when there
had been so little to do. He carried the
Beware!
book downstairs and put it on the desk in
This book is more than it appears to be. his room. Jacob had never kept a journal,
Certain wishes, once written in its pages, but the thought of writing on those ancient
will come true – not wishes for wealth or pages had a strange appeal. Perhaps, if
fame and not wishes about other people, something really interesting happened dur-
but any wish about the kind of person ing the week, he would try writing about it.
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As time passed, Jacob became more and seemed to have no joy in them. It made me
more aware of how often emotions seemed so sad and angry. I swore I’d find a way to
to take over and change people’s lives. help! But Jacob didn’t seem to care. He
Every emotion, even the ones that he’d said we’d come to research poverty, and
always thought were good, like love and this was poverty. He said our project was-
joy, seemed to have the ability to wreck n’t about changing anything.”
lives. His best friend, Carl, had fallen in Lynn, who was sitting just behind Alison,
love and suddenly he had no more interest joined the conversation. “Jacob’s one of
in just “hanging out” on the weekends; those people who always takes the path of
their friendship was dying. least resistance. He never agonizes over a
Jacob wrote about Carl in his diary, say- choice. He just goes with the flow and does
ing, “I would prefer to be the kind of person whatever takes the least amount of thought
who is never overwhelmed or changed by and commitment. The only reason he went
love.” out with Sara was because it was easier
Over time Jacob wished away every than trying to avoid her. Sometimes I won-
emotion he knew. He became calm and der if Jacob is really alive.”
detached, the kind of person no one dis- At that point Jacob turned towards
likes, but no one really likes, either. The them and the three girls fell silent. But
only thing he seemed to care about was Alison was determined to figure out what
the worn leather book that he carried made Jacob so “inhuman”; perhaps it was
everywhere. a cry for help.
When five members of the basketball
team were killed by a drunk driver and
Jacob’s class set up a memorial fund to
help fight drunk driving, Jacob’s response
was, “I think we’re just wasting energy and
money. If people want to drink and drive,
they will. That’s the way life is. We should
just accept it and move on.”
Most of the class ignored him. But
Alison, who was new to the school, could-
n’t believe her ears. She turned to the stu-
dent next to her, saying, “How can anyone
say something like that? What kind of a
stupid, heartless....”
Caitlin interrupted, saying, “Ignore it.
That’s just Jacob. He’s always like that.
Once I worked with him on a project on
poverty. We visited a community child care
centre where we saw kids who were mal-
nourished and neglected. Some of them
had clothes that hadn’t been washed in
ages and they stank! A lot of the kids
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Reflection Questions When we love another, we must ask our-
selves this: What can I do to bring out the
1. Why did Jacob wish away his emotions?
best in the other and in myself?
2. Lynn says that Jacob “always takes the
When we feel hatred towards another,
path of least resistance.” How is this
we must ask ourselves: What destructive
related to his lack of emotions?
forces do I need to face?
3. Do you think Jacob would wish away his
When we are angry, we need to ask:
emotions a second time? Why or why not?
What needs to change for God’s will to hap-
4. Are all emotions valuable? Explain. pen? What can I do to help bring about that
change in a loving and life-giving way?
Passions We must ask questions like these for
each emotion. Every emotion is a sign of a
In Christian writings, emotions are often
need or a possibility and a choice. Every
called “passions.” Our emotions, or pas-
emotion or passion is a call to action.
sions, are gifts from God that help us to
What action will we choose – good or evil?
make connections between the life of the
It is up to us to decide.
senses and the life of the mind. They
encourage us to act or not to act and to When the Israelites were in the desert,
make choices between good and evil. Our Moses said to them, “I have set before you
emotions let us be drawn to what is good life and death, blessing and curse; there-
and repelled by what is evil. Without emo- fore choose life, that you and your descen-
tions we might be indifferent to both good dants may live, loving the LORD your God,
and evil. obeying his voice, and cleaving to him;
Emotions are neither good nor bad in
themselves. They become good when they
lead us to act in ways that are good. They
become bad when they lead us to act in
ways that are bad. Every emotion can be
taken up into the virtues or perverted by
the vices. Emotions can help us to act in
either a positive or a negative way.
We cannot choose our emotions. We can
choose how we will act in response to
those emotions. Each time we feel a strong
emotion, it is important to identify two
things: Why do we feel this way? What
choices for action do we have?
Anger is often a sign that something
needs to change. Love can be a sign of a
great potential for good; hate shows that evil
is present or threatening. Whenever we feel
any of these emotions, we can be sure that
there are important decisions to be made:
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2.4
How do I get
along with others?
All the World’s a Stage that if I speak on a stage people will laugh
at my accent?”
“Papa! Papa! I’ve done it! I’ve been given a “On stage an accent can be a very good
part in the school musical! I’m in the cho- thing. I am sure that if your teacher thinks
rus. I’ll be learning the songs with all the that you can speak, you can speak.”
other kids. They said it doesn’t matter that
Laila nodded her head. The drama
I can’t read music! The drama instructor
teacher believed in her, her father believed
said I’d probably even get a line or two to
in her. She could do this, and do it well.
speak! Can you believe it?” Laila was so
She would show them that they were right.
excited, she barely paused for a breath as
the words came tumbling out. Laila skipped around her house singing
snippets of the songs from “her musical.”
Her father put down the paper he was It felt good to be in a place where everyone
reading and smiled. “Already you have was given a chance. She promised herself
been chosen for a play? You are doing well that she would pay careful attention to the
here. A little while ago you were worried kids who had been in lots of musicals. She
about coming here, but now this is your would learn how to avoid standing out too
home. What a daughter I have.” much. Laila knew that even a small part
Laila threw her arms around her father. done poorly could make it hard for an
“Oh, Papa, I’m so excited! Do you think audience to really enter into the show.
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Not Just Part of the Problem names of all of the students in the school
who had been given a detention over the
The phone in the principal’s office didn’t past two weeks and put them in a big
stop ringing all day. By around 2 o’clock bowl. Then she pulled out the names of
the secretaries were looking exhausted. It twenty kids – these were the ones who
was clear that they were beginning to feel would be hosts.
the strain of being polite to people who When people started to complain, Mrs.
were angry and unfriendly. Over and over Hutchinson said that she thought that
again they tried to explain that this was a these kids would have the best under-
Catholic school and that as Catholics we standing of the problems in our school and
believe in forgiveness, second chances and the types of actions that might help. I don’t
the equal dignity of all people regardless of think anyone heard her. Teachers and par-
their past. Over and over again that ents both started to complain that she was
answer failed to satisfy parents who making a mockery out of detention and
thought their child was being treated rewarding kids who got into trouble. A lot
unfairly. of parents were upset because their son or
It all started when our school was cho- daughter tried so hard and wouldn’t have
sen to host a delegation of political leaders, a chance to meet the celebrities while a
influential business people and celebrities “bunch of troublemakers who never made
who were working together to find solu- an effort” would.
tions to some of the problems in inner city A group of angry people came into the
schools. This group of people was travel- school late in the afternoon and demanded
ling from city to city across the country, to speak to Mrs. Hutchinson. They said
spending a half day in one school in each
city, talking with teachers and students
and trying to understand why things were
in such bad shape.
In our school, two students were to be
assigned as “hosts” to each guest. The
guests would go around the school with
those two students, eat lunch with them
and try to see the school from their per-
spective. These were some pretty important
people with lots of connections. Everybody
was aware of the fact that being chosen as
a “host” might lead to all kinds of opportu-
nities that kids from a school like ours
didn’t usually have. Everybody had an
opinion about who should be chosen and
why.
Nobody’s opinion on how things should
be done matched what the principal actu-
ally decided to do! The principal took the
Reflection Questions
1. Was Mrs. Hutchinson fair? Was she “sen-
sible”? Why or why not?
2. Should special privileges be given only to
those who are “good”?
3. When should people be given second
chances?
4. When do people deserve to be excluded?
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Who Will Sit at the Table?
Anthropologists study the science of
human beings. They say that if we pay
attention to the customs that surround
meals, we will begin to understand the
structure of a society. When we eat, where
we eat, what we eat and with whom we eat
all reveal a lot about how we understand
our positions and our relationship to oth-
ers in our society.
What’s the difference between these sce-
narios: sitting next to someone in the cafe-
teria; sharing a lunch with that person;
inviting him or her to eat at your house;
inviting him or her to go out with your standing. A person of low social standing
family to a fancy restaurant. Each scenario would not usually get either one.
reflects a different relationship between Banquets tended to be quite exclusive.
people. Observing how, when and where Only people of similar social standing were
people eat together shows us the relation- invited. It would not do to insult a person
ships people have with each other. by placing him next to someone of a much
In Jesus’ time, the customs that went lower social standing. Only the ritually
with meals were often quite formal. pure1 were invited to a Jewish banquet:
Banquets were a common way to socialize. the ritually pure did not want to be made
Most banquets were social occasions for “unclean” by the ritually impure. Banquets
free adult males. In general, women, chil- showed the divisions within the society
dren and slaves were not invited or allowed and made these divisions stronger.
to take part. That’s because women, chil- Both in his parables and in his actions,
dren and slaves had little or no social Jesus encouraged people to eat together
standing. They were nothing unless a free without worrying about social divisions. In
adult male chose to recognize them as the parable of the wedding banquet
something. (Matthew 22.1-10), the servants are sent
When guests arrived at a meal, they out to invite anyone they can find. At the
were greeted by a servant and led to a feast given by the king, all people will be
couch. The location of the couch was a mixed together: the rich and the poor, the
sign of how important the guest was com- good and the bad, the powerful and the
pared to the other guests. The more impor- powerless. None will be left out unless they
tant guests sat closer to the host. After choose to exclude themselves.
leading the guest to a couch, the servant 1
The pharisees divided both things and people into categories of
would then remove the guest’s sandals and clean and unclean, or ritually pure and ritually impure. Only
those who were ritually pure were allowed to approach God and
wash his feet. Both the couches and the the things of God. To become ritually pure or “clean,” a person
foot washing were signs of honour and had to go through a series of prayers and rituals that often
took a long time. A “clean” person who came into contact with
respect given to those of higher social an “unclean” person also became “unclean.”
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A GRACE
W
e thank thee, Lord, for happy hearts,
For rain and sunny weather;
We thank thee, Lord, for this our food,
And that we are together.
Key Ter ms
the fifth commandment logical intelligence the intelligence of vices
incarnation spatial intelligence relationships psalms
temples of the Holy Spirit physical intelligence the intelligence of the self inclusive
verbal intelligence musical, rhythmic passions
intelligence virtues
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Unit 3
Be Faithful
51
3.1
What do I really
believe?
Meryl T.: “If you can’t prove scientifically She really believes in God. She talks to
that God exists, then I can’t believe in God about everything. And I mean
God. That’s just the way I am. I believe everything. I don’t know, I guess it
in science. If something is real, you can works for her. She’s the kindest person I
prove it and explain it. If God existed, know. She’ll help anybody; and I think
then it would be possible to prove God’s she really does love everybody. When I
existence scientifically.” ask her how she can do it, she says it
Alex C.: “I don’t believe in God. I don’t not comes from God.”
believe in God. I just don’t see what all Drina R.: “I think I believe in God. I mean,
the fuss is about. I don’t know why peo- I ask God for help when things aren’t
ple who believe in God are always trying going well. But I’m not always sure that
to get me to believe, too. If I don’t have I know exactly what I believe. Sometimes
faith, I don’t have faith, and that’s all I have questions and doubts. I was real-
there is to it.” ly glad to hear my parents say that there
Darnel L.: “I don’t know if I believe in were times in their lives when they really
God. I kind of do, but not like my sister. weren’t sure if they believed.”
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Derek V.: “God is like a best friend. God They were headed for an almost certain
has always been there whenever I need- death unless they were spotted by some-
ed help. I don’t know how people who one from the downstream village.
don’t believe in God get through the Everyone in the downstream village was
tough times in life.” a strong swimmer. Each person was able
Vince F.: “I believe in God, no problem. It’s to swim across the river even when the
Jesus I have a hard time with. I mean, he currents were the strongest. What’s more,
was obviously a really good guy and all each one knew how to rescue someone
that, but how am I supposed to relate to else. Over the years, the people in the
someone who lived 2000 years ago and downstream village had saved the lives of
whom we know only through a book?” many of their upstream neighbours. But,
Laura C.: “I believe in God. I feel at peace unfortunately, some had still drowned
whenever I’m in church. The first time I because no one had been close enough to
really felt God’s presence at Mass I was the shore to see or hear them as they
kind of surprised. It wasn’t even a really swept by.
exciting Mass. Now I’ve come to expect One year, the river was running extra
that when I go to church I will know high and fast. Someone from the council of
that God is there.” the downstream village suggested that a
Toni M.: “Sometimes I would say that I’m round-the-clock watch be kept by the side
not sure about Jesus, but at other times of the river. Everyone agreed that this was
I feel like he’s kind of a friend of the a good idea. Then another proposal was
family. My mom does a lot of things to made that such a watch be kept year
help single moms. Sometimes I go with round. Committees were set up to look
her. When we come upon really tough into building a rescue station and placing
situations, she talks to Jesus as if he bright search lights at key points along the
were right there, and it always seems river bank. Other committees were set up
like things go okay.” to work out ways to feed large numbers of
rescue workers if necessary. There was
Why Look for Faith? talk of opening a river rescue school.
Everyone in the village was getting
“I don’t know why people who believe in involved. This would be the most elaborate
God are always trying to get me to believe, and successful rescue station anywhere.
too. If I don’t have faith, I don’t have faith,
and that’s all there is to it.” Then, just days before the official
ground-breaking ceremony, one young girl
There’s a story about two villages along went to the village council and asked,
a river. None of the people in the upstream “Wouldn’t it be better if we taught the peo-
village knew how to swim. During the ple from the other village to swim?”
rainy season, the river was higher than
normal and the currents swifter. People –––––––––––––––––
from the upstream village often fell into the People who believe in God understand that
river when they went down to get water, faith is like the ability to swim. Our rela-
bathe or wash their clothes. They would be tionship with God helps us avoid being
swept downstream by the strong currents. overwhelmed by things like anger, fear and
54 Be Faithful
of the God who created and sustains it. sonal relationship with someone who lived
The only “scientific” proof or knowledge we 2000 years ago and whom we know only
can have of God is that the universe does through a book?
not contain its own beginning and end. It The answer is, we can’t. To have a per-
came from something outside itself and it sonal relationship with Jesus we must
will end in something outside itself. That come to know him as more than a figure in
something (or someone) is God. God is the history. We can do this in two ways:
alpha and the omega, the beginning and through the stories of those who know and
the end, the one from whom all things love him, or through a personal encounter.
come and to whom all things go
“I feel at peace whenever I’m in church. The
(Revelation 1.8; 22.13).
first time I really felt God’s presence at
Reflection Questions Mass I was kind of surprised. It wasn’t
even a really exciting Mass. Now I’ve come
1. What does the uncertainty principle to expect that when I go to church I will
teach us? How does this relate to faith? know that God is there.”
2. What does it mean to say that God exists No one can say for sure when and where
outside of time? a personal encounter with Jesus will take
3. Why is our ability to know and describe place. We can say where it is most likely to
God limited? take place, and where those who are seek-
4. What is the only “proof” that we can have ing Jesus should look. Jesus said that
of God’s existence? whenever two or three were gathered in his
name he would be with them. Therefore,
one place to look for Jesus is in places
Love Leads to God where people are gathered in his name.
“When I ask my sister how she can love
everyone, she says her love comes from
God.”
The existence of love, like the existence
of God, is something that cannot be proved
scientifically. Yet love is something that
most of us believe in and can recognize.
When we recognize love, we are beginning
to recognize God. This is because “God is
love, and those who abide in love abide in
God, and God abides in them” (1 John
4.16). The more we love, the easier it is for
us to understand and believe in God.
Yet the Christian call is not only to
believe in God, but also to enter into a per-
sonal, loving and faithful relationship with
God through Jesus. This leads us to
Vince’s question: How can we have a per-
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will lead you through this meditation. It is You start asking Jesus questions to find
included here should you wish to return out if he really is the Son of God. What
to it.) questions do you ask?
Finally, you ask Jesus where he is staying.
An Imaginative Encounter with Jesus He answers, “Come and see.”
For a shorter meditation, eliminate the sec- You follow him.
tions in brackets. Picture yourself walking with Jesus into
Close your eyes and picture yourself sit- a small town. Walk with him as he
ting with a friend on the shore of a beautiful approaches a house and opens the door.
lake. In the distance you can see several He invites you in and offers you a seat at
small fishing boats outlined against the his kitchen table. He prepares a snack for
cliffs along the lake’s eastern shore. A gen- the two of you. Then he sits down across
tle breeze is blowing through the trees over- from you and starts to talk. “Did you know
head. It’s a perfect day for relaxing. Take a that I came so that you might have life to
deep breath and lean back. Let all the wor- the full?”
ries of the day drift away across the water. You ask him what that means.
Now imagine that as you are relaxing, He turns the question back to you.
another friend comes running up to you. “What do you think it means? What would
This friend calls you by name and says, it mean for you to live life fully?”
“Come quickly! We’ve met the one sent by
God to save the world.”
Picture how you would respond.
Imagine that the person you were sitting
with chooses not to go but tells you, “You
go ahead. Meet this guy and then tell me
all about him.” In your mind’s eye, see
yourself as you agree to go and see what
all the fuss is about.
Now, picture yourself walking along the
shore of the lake with the friend who came
to get you. Up ahead you see a group of
people your age sitting on the ground,
talking with someone you’ve never met.
Your friend points to the stranger and tells
you that he’s the one.
When you reach the group, your friend
introduces you to the stranger and tells
you that his name is Jesus. One of the
people in the group whispers to you, “Go
ahead, ask him some questions. That’s
what we did.”
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Jesus tells you that he needs to get What is it?
going. Before you go, he says, “I want to You say goodbye to Jesus and start
give you something to help you remember walking back along the shore of the lake.
this conversation, and to help you You see the friend you were sitting with
remember that I am with you even when earlier in the day. This friend asks you if
you can’t see me. I want to give you you really met the Messiah.
something to help you remember that if Answer your friend.
your heart is open to me I will help you Your friend then asks you what you
and give you peace.” Then he hands you talked about, and what you learned.
something. What do you say?
Mark 9.24
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fun and pleasure to keep their minds off greatest gifts from God are unanswered
the things that only God can provide. prayers. Your human has begun to under-
I am disappointed in your performance; stand that God only gives what is good
however, I believe that this is only a minor even when people ask for things that might
setback. Your human has turned to God to not be good. What’s worse, your human
ask for a few things that she wants. Now actually apologized to God for her doubt
the prayer of petition is a bit of a problem, and anger.
because it does mean that she has recog- Need I remind you that allowing your
nized that there are things she can’t do on human to ask God for forgiveness is a very
her own. However, I did some investigating dangerous thing! A relationship in which a
and I have found that at least one of her person can say “I’m sorry” is a relationship
requests is the sort that God is not likely that is getting stronger. You must be more
to answer right away. vigilant!
Your job now is to convince her that Now, before you despair completely, I
unanswered prayers are proof that God want to remind you that there is still hope.
isn’t listening or doesn’t care. Jesus tried At this point, all of your human’s prayer is
to tell people that they needed to be persis- focused on what she wants God to do for
tent in their prayer. He told the story of the her. Her prayer is fairly selfish. Make sure
friend who asked for bread in the middle of it stays that way and the relationship will
the night (Luke 11.5-13) and of the woman not get too strong.
who kept pestering the judge (Luke 18.1- Halitosis
8). These stories were to remind people
that they should never give up, but they Letter 4
almost never pay attention to those stories. Dear Skunkweed,
Yours, Halitosis How can you make so many mistakes?
Now your human has begun to pray for
Letter 3 others! The prayer of intercession leads
Dear Skunkweed, people to pray like Jesus prayed. This is a
I thought that I would be writing you a disaster. The more humans pray for one
letter of congratulations. I had heard that, another, the stronger their love for each
just as I predicted, your human’s faith other grows. The stronger their love is, the
began to waver when her prayers weren’t easier it is for them to withstand tempta-
answered. But you started to gloat and to tion and challenges to their faith! Your job
celebrate too soon! You weren’t watching has just gotten much harder!
her, and someone with a more mature Whatever you do, don’t let your human
faith was able to get to her and help her start praying for anyone she doesn’t
understand that God’s picture is bigger already love. And above all, never let her
than her picture, and that God has rea- pray for anyone she is angry at or doesn’t
sons for not always doing right away what like. Praying for one’s enemies can lead to
people ask. understanding and peace, two things that
How could you let this happen? Your definitely displease our master.
human’s friend told her that some of the Yours in irritation, Halitosis
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Letter 7 If you had paid more attention to the way
humans work, you would have seen this
Skunkweed,
danger. Haven’t you heard people who are
My sources tell me that yesterday your very close speak for each other? Haven’t
human’s prayer changed for the worse! Her
you heard mothers talking to a son or
prayer was no longer like a letter to God.
daughter who no longer lives at home say,
Instead, she was actually sitting in God’s
presence and admitting that God is God “And your father sends his love”? You
and she is one of God’s creatures. She was must know that the father’s love has been
not asking for things or even thanking God truly expressed through his wife. Well, a
for things. She was just sharing her life human who is close to God can offer God’s
with God. One of my more adept students love and blessing to another in the name
overheard her admitting that everything of God!
she has comes from God, belongs to God You were given a human with a very
and will one day return to God. I am now weak faith. Now you have a human with a
sick to my stomach. very strong faith who might even encour-
Skunkweed, you have let her develop a age faith in others. Because of your total
true respect for God! Her prayer is the incompetence, some of the other senior
prayer of blessing and adoration! She can tempters are beginning to question my
sit in silence with God and still be pray ability as a supervisor! If you do not turn
ing – still be communicating. What is things around immediately, any hell you’ve
worse, she has come to understand that known will look pleasant!
prayer cannot be something that she does
only when she feels a particular need for H.
God. She’s beginning to think of prayer as
something that she must make time for
every day.
This reminds me – can the rumours that
have reached me be true? Have you let
things get so bad that your human actual-
ly said that she needs to set aside time for
prayer even when she doesn’t have any-
thing special to say to God? Did she really
express a belief that God might want to
talk with her and she needs to make time
to listen?
Don’t you know that a relationship in
which each person pays as much attention
to the other person as to himself or herself
is a relationship that is growing very
strong indeed? Your human is actually
coming to know God so well that she can
bring a sense of God’s presence to others!
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sacks of seed, a rooster and a donkey. They fire. The second brother only grumbled
loaded everything onto the donkey and set about the rain and asked the first, “If God
out to seek their fortune. gives what is good, why do we have a fire
One of the brothers was deeply religious that provides more smoke and steam than
and believed strongly in the goodness of heat and light?”
God and the power of prayer. The other The first answered, “In all things God is
brother was a skeptic who thought that good, and God will provide what is good.”
prayer was just another way of talking to Suddenly they heard the howl of an animal
oneself. As they travelled, they frequently in pain. The fire had spit steam and hot
talked about faith and about prayer. “In all ash at a large wildcat just as it was
things, God is good,” the first brother said. crouching to spring at them. The first
“If what you seek is good, God, who is brother turned at the noise and saw the
good, will provide it.” cat. Thinking quickly, he grabbed his
“I think you are mistaken. But we shall brother by the arm and pulled him behind
put your theory to the test on this trip,” the tree where the donkey was tied. The
said the second. wildcat realized that the donkey was both
easier and meatier prey. It let the brothers
Toward the end of the fifth day it began go and killed the donkey. Then it began to
to rain, and both brothers longed for a devour it on the spot. The brothers
warm meal and a dry place to sleep. “I will grabbed those possessions that were not
pray and ask God to provide for us,” said too close to the wildcat and ran deeper
the first brother. into the woods.
“Humph!” replied the second, but he
waited patiently while his brother paused
to pray. About half an hour later the two
brothers came upon a small village com-
plete with an inn.
“As I told you, God will provide,” said
the first brother. But when they asked for
a room, they were told that the entire inn
was filled by the members of a wedding
party, and that they would have to keep
going on their way.
“So this is how God provides!” the sec-
ond brother scoffed. “Remind me not to
waste too much time in prayer.”
“In all things, God is good,” was the only
reply the first brother gave.
The two brothers set up camp under
some trees by the side of the road. The
rain kept dripping on their fire and making
it hiss and spit. Before eating, the first
brother thanked God for the food and the
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two bags of seed are
safe. We will stay in
this village and share
our seed with the vil-
lagers. They will not
starve and we will not
be homeless. Our
prayers have been
answered. God has
provided for us all.
“You shouldn’t have
doubted God. You
should have listened to
the prophet who said,
“S
o I say to you,
‘My thoughts are not
Ask, and it
your thoughts, nor are
will be given
your ways my ways,
you; search, and you
says the Lord. For as
will find; knock, and
the heavens are higher
the door will be
than the earth, so are
opened for you. For
my ways higher than
everyone who asks
your ways and my
receives, and every-
thoughts than your
one who searches
thoughts.’” (Isaiah
finds, and for every-
55.8-9)
one who knocks, the
door will be opened.”
Luke 11.9-10
Key Ter ms
poor in spirit prayer of thanksgiving faith
prayer of petition prayer of blessing trust
prayer of intercession and adoration perseverance
(or intercessory prayer) prayer of praise hope
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person be? Just how stupid? You’d think
forgetting to put oil in the tractor would be
enough. But no, not for me. I have to get
in a big fight with Dad about it when I
know it’s my own fault. You’d think the
fight would be enough; but no, I have to go
and take the car without asking. You’d
think taking the car would be enough; but
no, I have to go and drive like an idiot, and
now look.”
Rob did turn back and look. He looked
at his parent’s new car, the first new car
they’d owned in 18 years, folded in half
around a tree. He looked at the tracks in
the mud where he’d spun out of control
before hitting the tree. Then he looked a
little further up the road at the tracks
which showed that he’d been making the
car fishtail in the mud just for fun. Rob
desperately wished that there was at least
some way to erase those telltale tracks,
4.1 but they went on for far too long and they
were far too clear. There was no hope of
getting rid of them and no hope of his dad
missing them.
No walk had ever seemed as long as that
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found him living and working as a hired
hand on his uncle’s farm.
As Rob got near the house, he could see
his dad tinkering with the tractor outside
the barn. His dad was concentrating on
what he was doing and didn’t hear Rob
come up behind him.
Taking a deep breath, Rob started to
speak. “Umm, Dad, I need to talk to you.”
“Uh huh. By the way, I’m expecting
some extra hours from you to make up for
the time I had to spend on this tractor,”
his father said without looking up.
“Dad, after we argued, I took the car.”
“Uh huh.”
“I had an accident. It’s pretty bad. You’d
better come.”
“How far?” his dad asked, wiping the
grease off his hands.
“Down by the old bridge.” turned six when he’d been forgiven with a
hug and a “That’s okay, I love you any-
“All right. Let’s go look.” That was all his way.” He didn’t think his parents believed
dad said. Then the two of them began a
in unconditional love for anyone old
long silent walk down the road. Rob saw
enough to know what they were doing. As
his dad look at the tire tracks, note the
far as Rob knew, love came back when you
fishtailing and grunt. Rob braced himself
made up for the wrongs you’d done.
for a lecture, but his dad said nothing.
Rob didn’t know what he could do to
If asked, Rob would have said that he
make up for the car and for the fact that
supposed his dad loved him; but he didn’t
he’d taken it when he wasn’t supposed to.
really know. His dad had never said any-
He didn’t know how he could restore the
thing about love, but then again, he was
never mean and he always made sure that conditions for a good relationship with his
his children had what they needed. Rob dad. So he had no idea what to expect.
presumed that that was love. But he was Once again he looked at his dad out of the
pretty sure that it was conditional love – corner of his eye. He wondered what love
love on condition that kids were obedient looked like when it ended.
and pulled their share of the weight. Rob Rob and his father turned the bend in
could think of many times when he’d had the road. The car was just a few metres
to work to pay for something he’d broken, ahead. Rob’s dad stopped. He looked at the
or to show that he was sorry for hurting car, then he looked at the bridge that was
someone, or to make up for disobeying. He just a few metres beyond the car. For a
could not think of a single time since he long time he didn’t say anything.
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A Christ-like love desires what is best for wash his feet with her tears and dry them
the other. with her hair. She then anointed his feet
A man ran up and knelt before Jesus, ask- with expensive perfumed oil. Simon was
ing what he needed to do to inherit eternal horrified because Jesus was allowing a
life. Jesus’ first answer was that he should woman who was a known sinner to touch
obey the commandments; but that was not him. Jesus, however, praised the woman
a good enough answer for the man. He had for her generous love. (See Luke 7.36-50.)
obeyed the commandments all his life; he A Christ-like love is not repulsed by illness
wanted a more demanding answer. Jesus or ugliness.
looked at the man and realized that his In Jesus’ culture, those who had leprosy
wealth and his possessions were weighing were cut off from the rest of society and
him down. Jesus knew that the man spent forced to call out the warning “Unclean!” to
a lot of time thinking and worrying about any who came near them. Jesus’ attitude
what he owned. He did not have the time or toward those who were ill was totally dif-
energy to be the loving person God wanted ferent – it really stood out. Jesus under-
him to be. So Jesus told the man to sell all stood that those who were ill needed to
that he had and give the money to the poor. know that they were more than their ill-
The man had wanted a challenging ness. They needed to be touched and
answer; he had not wanted such a life- accepted in spite of their illness. Even
changing answer. He turned his back on before he healed people, he reached out
Jesus and walked away. Jesus could have his hand and touched them. (See Mark
called him back. He could have given him 1.40-42.)
an easier answer and gained a new follow-
er. But he didn’t. Jesus loved the man and
wanted the best for him. Jesus would not
lie to the man and tell him what he wanted
to hear just to gain his friendship. (See
Mark 10.17-22.)
A Christ-like love understands and accepts
the emotions of others, rejoicing with those
who rejoice and weeping with those who
weep.
When Lazarus died, Jesus wept. He knew
that he would raise Lazarus from the dead
and yet he understood and shared in the
sorrow, emptiness and loneliness that Mary
and Martha felt. Because he loved them,
Jesus shared their pain. (See John 11.32-44.)
A Christ-like love is generous and does not
calculate the cost of giving.
When Jesus was at the house of Simon the
pharisee, a woman came in and began to
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Christ-like love walks away
from harm when it is possible
to walk away and still be lov-
ing. Christ-like love stays and
faces harm when that is the
only way to be loving. Jesus
loved the people of Nazareth
enough to walk away when
they wanted to harm him.
Jesus loved sinners and out-
casts enough to face crucifix-
ion when that was the price
of caring for them.
The cross is the symbol of
Christ-like love.
The cross is a reminder of the
love that Christ has given us
and that we are called to share
with others. Jesus’ arms out-
stretched on the cross remind
us that we are called to love
without limits and conditions.
The love Christ has shown for
us is a love that desires what
is best for us, no matter what
“L ove is
patient;
love is kind; love
we have done. From the cross, is not envious or
Jesus calls us to show the boastful or arro-
same kind of love to others, gant or rude....
even to those who have hurt Love never
us. A Christ-like love is a love ends.”
that seeks reform, not revenge.
The cross also reminds us 1 Corinthians 13.4, 8
that a Christ-like love is a
love that cannot fail, because
it is rooted in God, who can-
not fail. Jesus’ arms out-
stretched in death point
toward the resurrection and
God’s promise that genuine
love, no matter how ridicu-
lous or hopeless it seems,
will always bring about good
in the end.
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That means it is important to learn how to brought to life by a good fairy need to take
make good moral decisions. time to develop and inform our conscience
if we want it to be able to help us out of
Reflection Questions sticky situations.
1. What makes a decision “moral”? The voice of our conscience is not our
2. Give two examples of moral decisions and own voice. It is not the voice of an inde-
explain why they are moral decisions. pendent observer. It is the voice of God
within us. It is the truth of God spoken to
3. Do you agree with this statement: “The us, so that our lives may be true to God
way we make moral decisions determines and to God’s plan.
the kind of people we will be and the kind
of lives we will have”? Why or why not? Developing Our Conscience
When we talk about developing and
Forming Your Conscience informing our conscience, we are talking
If you’ve seen the Walt Disney movie about learning how to listen to, under-
Pinocchio, you probably remember Jiminy stand and follow the voice of God speaking
in our hearts.
Cricket’s instruction to “always let your
conscience be your guide.” Jiminy tells The first step in developing our ability to
Pinocchio that whenever he needs help, all listen and understand – in developing our
he has to do is whistle and his conscience consciences – is to make a commitment to
– that is, Jiminy Cricket himself – will be love in a Christ-like way. The next step is
there to help him out. to take the time to understand what that
means in a wide variety of situations. Once
Jiminy Cricket wants Pinocchio to we have done those two things, we may
understand that in every important deci- trust our conscience to guide us on the
sion there is more to consider than just path to the kingdom of God.
the pleasure or pain of the moment. Good
decisions are those that encourage and sup- There are several things that can help
us understand what it means to love in a
port truly loving relationships. Pinocchio ’s
Christ-like way in different situations. One
conscience, depicted as a cricket in a top
of these is Scripture. It is in the Scriptures
hat, will help him to see how what he is
that we learn what Jesus did when he was
doing helps or harms those he loves.
facing various moral dilemmas. Through
the Scriptures we also learn how the early
The Role of Our Conscience
Church interpreted Jesus’ actions and
Helping people see how their decisions add developed guidelines for all Christians. The
to or take away from their love of God, love better we know and understand the Bible,
of self and love of neighbour is the job of the easier it will be for us to analyze events
every conscience. Our conscience will tell in our own lives in light of what Christ
us how to do good and avoid evil in the would do. As the Catechism of the Catholic
practical decisions we make every day. Church says, “In the formation of con-
Unfortunately, most of us do not have a science the Word of God is the light for our
conscience that will come when we whistle. path; we must assimilate it in faith and
Those of us who are not wooden puppets prayer and put it into practice.... We are
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• Is my decision really based on a love and Prayer makes it possible for us to hear and
concern for others? Will it bring me closer recognize the voice of God speaking in our
to them? hearts. Prayer can also help us understand
Whenever we are faced with an impor- and accept the teachings of Scripture and
tant decision, we are called to approach Tradition even when those teachings call
that decision with humility. That means us to make hard choices. Prayer can give
understanding our own limitations and our us the courage to do what is good even if it
need for other people. When we are hum- hurts and to avoid what is evil even if it
ble, we remember that on our own we can- feels good.
not see all of the different options for any
decision. We can never understand all of Making the Wrong Decision
the implications of a particular decision, It is important to do our best to make good
either. When we are humble, we admit that decisions. It is also important to remember
it is hard for us to separate what we want that no one makes the right decision all
and what feels good to us from what God the time. When we make a bad decision,
wants. We know that we tend to think that God is always ready to forgive us. God
the best decisions are the ones that are does not want us to waste a lot of time
best for us. being angry at ourselves. Instead, God
When we are humble, we can admit that calls us to admit that we were wrong, ask
we need the Christian community to chal- for forgiveness and then do our best to
lenge us and to expand our thinking. We make better decisions in the future. This is
also need the Christian community to true whether our bad decision was made
remind us that there are certain absolute because we didn’t know any better or
truths that cannot be ignored, even if our because we refused to do what was right.
culture tempts us to ignore them. If we face
decisions with humility, we will remember
that the knowledge, experience and wisdom
of the rest of the Catholic community
together is greater than our own. When we
are humble, we recognize that the complete
truth that is God is beyond even our best
understanding of what is “true.”
It is easy to be self-centered or arrogant
and believe that we always know what is
best for us. It is not so easy to develop
true Christian humility, which admits that
we need God and the Church. To develop
that humility, we need to pray. Prayer is
the final and most important way to devel-
op and inform our conscience, because
prayer moves us beyond ourselves.
Our conscience is our innermost core,
the place where we are alone with God.
GOD SPEAKS
SCRIPTURE TRADITION
MAGISTERIUM
CONSCIENCE
PERSONAL
SEE JUDGE ACT EXPERIENCE, PRAYER AND
EVALUATE RELATIONSHIPS
CULTURE
“Everybody’s doing it”
Our conscience helps us to make good decisions. b) listening to the advice of other Christians
It does this by helping us to see with eyes of love, c) praying and reflecting upon our personal
to judge the best options based on Christ’s teach- experience, and
ing, and to act on those judgments with care and
compassion. It is our responsibility to form our d) critically evaluating our culture.
conscience. Once we make the best decision we can, following
We do this by our conscience, we evaluate the consequences.
Our decision and evaluation in turn become part of
a) learning what Christ teaches through our personal experience and further shape our
Scripture and Tradition as they are authenti- conscience.
cally interpreted by the magisterium
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Making the Right Decision long time for prayer, an examen, or prayer-
ful review of our day, will keep us closely
When faced with any decision, we must go connected to God. During the examen, we
through a decision-making process. go back over our day and consider all of
Sometimes that process is carefully thought the choices we have made. We try to see
out. Sometimes we go through it without how God was guiding us and speaking to
even consciously thinking about it. Either us through those choices, and we ask our-
way, the process involves four basic steps: selves if we listened to God or if we turned
seeing, judging, acting and evaluating. away from God.
Seeing means recognizing that there is a As we evaluate our decisions, we should
decision to be made. It also involves asking keep in mind three principles:
questions about who the decision will
• The first is this: We must never do evil
affect. Seeing means finding out whether
the decision to be made is a moral deci-
even for the sake of accomplishing some-
sion. It means asking this question: “Does thing good.
this decision have anything to do with lov- • The second is this: We should always
ing God, loving myself or loving others?” In treat others with the same love and
this stage of the decision-making process, respect with which we wish to be treated.
we ask God to help us see the situation • And here is the third: Everything we do
with the eyes of love. should reflect genuine concern for other
Judging involves analyzing the options people.
and evaluating which options would truly As we evaluate our decisions, we should
be a loving choice. Judging means calling always begin by asking whether they meet
upon our conscience, and considering these three basic criteria.
what the Bible says, what the Church People sometimes kid themselves as they
teaches, and what can be learned from the go through life and convince themselves
experience of committed Catholics. To
that what they are doing isn’t really wrong,
judge well we must listen carefully to the
especially if lots of other people are doing
voice of God speaking in our hearts.
it. But when they are confronted with
Acting means deciding to do the loving moments of truth, such as death, the kid-
thing and then doing it. It is important to ding stops. The issues at such moments
ask God to help us put our decisions into become very clear. It is a good idea to eval-
action. uate our decisions regularly so we are not
Evaluating a decision means becoming surprised “when all the kidding stops.”
aware of how that decision has affected
our relationships with God, with ourselves
and with others. The way we evaluate deci-
Caught in the Act
sions now will shape the way we look at The youth rally was over. All of the local
decisions in the future. Evaluating all of kids and all of the kids from out of town
the decisions of our day is an important had gone home. For the first time in
part of Christian prayer. St. Ignatius, the weeks, Jon was able to take an afternoon
founder of the Jesuits, said that even if to do nothing but relax. He stretched out
our lives get so busy that we cannot take a on the couch and pressed the power
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upset him so much. After all, lots of people “Okay,” he responded to himself, “I’ll
smoke marijuana; it doesn’t make them grant you that. But does the parents’ right
bad people. But he really didn’t think he to discipline give me the obligation to tell
was overreacting. Illegal drugs were illegal. them that discipline is needed? After all, my
What’s more, the Church taught that it is responsibility is not only to the parents. I
seriously wrong to use them. According to have a responsibility to the youth who have
Church teachings, using illegal drugs was learned to trust me and confide in me.”
wrong because it showed a lack of respect
“Yes, and you have an obligation to the
for human health and life, both of which
parents who have also learned to trust
are gifts from God. Jon knew that the
Church was right. you. You know that they would want you
to tell them.”
All he had to do was close his eyes and
he could picture several of his friends who Two days later, as he drove downtown to
had flunked out of university, lost jobs meet Ryan, Jon was still arguing with him-
and missed wonderful opportunities self about what he should do. “Listen, Jon,
because they spent too much time getting you looked in the Catechism of the Catholic
high. They had gradually lost all of their Church in the section about truth, and it
motivation and had stopped caring about said that things told in confidence should
almost everything. None of them were in only be revealed if keeping them secret
jail or “on the streets,” but it made him would cause serious harm. So, do you
sad to think about how much potential really think harm will be done if you don’t
had gone to waste. He sometimes won- tell their parents?”
dered what part of God’s plan would have
to be rearranged because these people
refused to do their part.
Still, the issue for Jon wasn’t whether
drug use was acceptable. It was whether
he should tell parents that their teenagers
were doing something unacceptable. Jon
asked himself if his friends’ lives would
have been different if their parents had
known about their drug use and had
stepped in sooner.
Jon sat at his kitchen table and argued
with himself. “Look, Jon, God didn’t make
a mistake when he included ‘honour your
father and mother’ in the Ten Command-
ments. You can’t take the role of parents
lightly! Parents have a right to educate
their children. That means they have the
right and responsibility to educate and dis-
cipline their children when it comes to
drugs.”
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When Jon asked Chris the same question Reflection Questions
a few hours later, Chris barely stopped to
1. What do you think Jon decided to do?
think before saying, “I don’t care if you tell
Why?
them or not. I haven’t really been trying to
hide.” 2. How did Jon form his conscience in
order to make this decision?
Jon told both of them that he would let
them know what he had decided the next 3. Is there anything important you think
day. Then he went home to think and pray Jon failed to consider?
some more. The only things he was sure 4. What do you think is the most loving
about were these: he had to do the same thing to do in this case? Explain your
thing for both kids, and whatever he did had answer in light of our culture, Scripture
to be done out of love. and what the Church teaches.
What is sin?
Sin is a decision we make that goes God. When this happens, we have
against the truth that is God. It is a sinned.
deliberate refusal or failure to pay atten- Here are some questions to ask your-
tion to the rules and guidelines set by self when you are trying to decide
the Ten Commandments and by the whether you have sinned:
Church. Sin weakens our love for God,
for others and for ourselves. The more • Does what I have done go against
we love other people, the more we grow God’s commandments and the teaching
in our love for God. Jesus said, “Just as of Christ?
you did it to one of the least of these • Does what I have done weaken my love
who are members of my family, you did for God, my relationship with other peo-
it to me” (Matthew 25.40). The more we ple or my growth as a human person?
hurt our relationship with others, the
• Did I know that what I was doing was
more we weaken our love for God.
wrong? If I did not know, should I have
Sin is deciding to be less loving than known? Would I have known if I had
we could be. It is abusing the freedom taken care to develop my conscience
God has given us. It is a deliberate step and to become more aware of the way
backward in our life.
my behaviour affects others?
Sometimes it’s hard to know when we
• Was I aware of what I was doing at the
have sinned. We may know we have
time? Was it my own personal decision?
done something wrong, but we don’t
really think that we love God less If someone else was putting pressure
because of it. Each time we do some- on me, could I have said no?
thing that makes it harder for us to love If the answer to each of these ques-
others or to become the best people we tions is “yes,” then we have sinned and
can be, we weaken our relationship with need to be forgiven.
G od, all that I have and all that I am is a gift from you.
Thank you!
I especially want to thank you for today and for all the
things that you have shown me and taught me today.
I ask you to be with me and guide me as I review my day.
Help me to see how you have been guiding me; and
help me to see the obstacles which I have put in my
own way.
Some of the choices I made today were ...
One choice I think I made well was ...
It brought me closer to you by ...
One choice I made that was not very loving was ...
I ask your forgiveness for ...
As I look back over my day, I think you have been calling
me to ...
My response has been ...
Tomorrow I would like to ...
I ask you to ...
God, I believe in your love and your power to help me.
I entrust myself to your care.
Amen.
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4.3
Why wait?
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Eventually the apprentice did make his and well within relationships. Human sex-
bed. It took him a very long time. Each bed uality is a gift from God that draws us out
knob had to be perfectly shaped and of ourselves and towards others. If we do
smoothed. Each bed post had to be per- not learn to master our physical and emo-
fectly straight and exactly matched. The tional urges, our sexuality will become self-
curve for the canopy frame had to match ish rather than directed toward others,
the curve for the headboard; and the finish and the relationships we build will be weak
had to be able to withstand belt buckles and shallow.
and wet towels. He finished the bed shortly The apprentice in the story went to the
before his fifth anniversary. When he gave master carpenter because he wanted to
it to his wife it was no longer the great make a bed like the one in the palace. He
surprise he had intended, but it was truly wanted to skip all of the small projects
a gift of love.” which would teach him to be a great
The teacher stopped speaking and sat craftsman. He wanted to begin with a pro-
down. ject that he did not have the skill to do
“Umm...” The disciple who had asked well. If the master carpenter had allowed
the apprentice to have his way, the result
the question was looking puzzled. “That
would have been a piece of mediocre furni-
was a nice little story, but what does it
ture and a person who thought of himself
have to do with chastity?”
as a carpenter but had no real under-
“Everything,” said the teacher. “Chastity standing or love for his craft.
is an apprenticeship. It is an apprentice-
The apprentice is like the young person
ship in self-mastery. Chastity makes it
who enters into a relationship and wants
possible for us to be truly free as God
to have sex right away. If the young person
intended us to be. Without chastity, people
follows through with this desire, the result
are not in control of themselves. They are
is usually a relationship without strong
ruled by their bodies and their emotions
and deep roots and a person who knows
and they end up doing a lot of hurtful some sexual techniques but who does not
things to themselves and to others. A per- understand or value the true power of sex-
son who is not chaste is like a carpenter ual intimacy. Those who do not learn self-
who uses a dull saw and no sandpaper. mastery will not have the patience to
Everything he or she produces will be less develop the kind of relationship where two
than it could be. people truly become one.
A carpenter’s apprentice must learn to Before the apprentice could make a
control and co-ordinate his or her move- magnificent bed, he had to learn the
ments and woodworking tools to make safe importance and the value of each small
and fun toys and beautiful furniture. The step in the process. He had to learn good
apprentice must master both the tools and woodworking habits. Before two people are
the craft or the things he or she makes will ready for sexual intercourse, they have to
be of little lasting value. learn the importance and the value of each
In a similar way, chastity’s apprentice small element of their relationship and of
must learn to control his or her mind and their communication. They have to learn
body in order to communicate honestly good habits of loving.
Reflection Questions
1. Before the apprentice becomes a master,
he must learn the basics of carpentry
and woodworking, such as accurate mea-
surement, sawing, joining, selecting
wood, finishing, etc. What are the basic
skills that we must learn in order to
build strong, loving relationships?
2. How does chastity help us learn these
basic skills?
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armchair and said, “I need help, and I ing something on to see if it fits.” Nonethe-
need it bad.” less, he thought it would be better to get to
As we talked, I learned that Tim had know someone in “every way.”
been raised Catholic but had decided that As we talked some more, Tim admitted
the Church was old-fashioned and back- that sex could take energy away from get-
ward when it came to sex. As far as Tim ting to know a person in other ways. In
was concerned, any dating relationship past relationships, he said, he had used
without sex would be boring, unnatural sex as a way to end arguments and put off
and doomed to fail. Then Tim met Lisa. important but tough discussions. He
assured me that “You can sidetrack any-
Tim and Lisa started dating about a
thing with a bit of quick sex.”
month after they first met. It was a great
relationship. After a short while, both of When I asked him what he liked most
them were beginning to think that the about his relationship with Lisa, Tim
other might be “the right person.” Tim talked about all of the little things they did
started thinking that the time had come to for each other that really showed how
see if they were compatible in bed. much they cared and how much they
understood. I asked why those little things
Lisa, however, had no intention of sleep- hadn’t been part of other relationships. He
ing with someone until she was married. said, “Well, I guess if we had the sex I did-
She said, “God intended sex for marriage, n’t think the other stuff was so important.”
and sex outside of marriage is selfish and
Then we talked a bit about Tim’s past
destructive.” She told Tim that she loved
dating relationships, all of which had
him and wanted to keep dating, but sex
was “out.”
That’s when Tim came to talk to me. His
voice was laced with frustration as he said,
“I don’t want to be the kind of jerk who
pressures a woman to sleep with him. I
also don’t want to break up with Lisa, but
this is killing me. I don’t understand why a
smart, modern woman would think this
way. I mean, she wouldn’t buy a pair of
shoes without trying them on. Why would
she think about marrying someone she’d
never slept with?”
I tried to help Tim see that comparing a
relationship with another person to buying
a pair of shoes was insulting and degrad-
ing. Tim did agree that developing a good
relationship meant taking the time to get
to know a person well, to share dreams
and concerns, hopes and fears. And yes,
he “supposed that was different from try-
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am who I am, and if the Catholic Church knows I’m gay. We have a really close rela-
won’t accept that, I have to leave.” tionship, and it never gets confused by
“Alan, the Catholic Church accepts gay sex. So in a way I already know how to
people. The Church recognizes that you develop intimate relationships without sex.
have every bit as much human dignity as Sometimes I think Kate and I could teach
any other person. You deserve to be treat- other people a thing or two about love and
ed with every bit as much respect as any- intimacy.”
one else within or outside of the Church.” Then Alan told me about some gay men
“Then why is it that every time anyone he knew who had had sex just to prove
in the Church mentions homosexuality, something. “They seem to think that
they also mention chastity?” they’re letting society oppress them if they
I explained to Alan that the Church calls choose not to have sex. A lot of them have
all people to be chaste – that is, to be in suffered both physically and emotionally. I
control of their sexual urges, both physical don’t want to fall into the trap of having to
and emotional. We talked about the have sex to prove myself either as a homo-
Church’s teaching that genital sex has two sexual or as a heterosexual.”
equal and inseparable purposes: the shar- Alan paused. Then he said something
ing of love, and procreation. In a relation- that really made me stop and think. “You
ship where either of those two things is said sexuality is a language of love. Right?
deliberately excluded1, sex cannot be what It’s a way of communicating who we are at
God intended it to be. That is why the the very core of our being.”
Church teaches that sexual intercourse I nodded, unsure of where he was going
belongs only in a lifelong, committed rela- with this thought.
tionship that is open to new life. “So, since who I am as a gay man is dif-
I tried to help Alan see that the Church ferent from who I would be as a heterosex-
expected him to be chaste in the same way ual man, it makes sense that I have to
that the Church expects all people to be communicate differently, and my intimate
chaste: by limiting the genital expression of relationships have to look different. When I
their love to a married relationship open to start thinking that a committed relation-
children. We talked about the importance ship has to be sexual, I’m thinking like a
for all people of developing intimate rela- heterosexual who’s consciously or subcon-
tionships that did not involve sex. We also sciously looking for a wife to be mother to
talked about the problems of letting physi- his children. But I’m not heterosexual and
cal desires control one’s life, and of mistak- I’m not going to have a wife and children.
ing physical pleasure for real intimacy. So I need to think about intimacy in a way
“In a way,” Alan said, “I have an advan- that is true to me. Love, commitment and
tage over other people. My closest friend is procreation don’t go together for me; there-
female. She’s one of the only people who fore love, commitment and genital sex
don’t have to go together either.
1
Because procreation requires an egg and a sperm, the union
of two people of the same sex is seen as a deliberate exclu-
I have to think about this some more.
sion of the possibility of procreation. In the case where pro- Maybe the Church’s teaching isn’t as
creation is not possible because either the husband or wife is
sterile, the Church does not see a deliberate exclusion of pro-
oppressive as I thought. Maybe chastity
creation. (See the Catechism of the Catholic Church, #1654.) will actually free me to be me.”
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Reflection Questions 2. How did (Tim, Alan, Donna) view the
role of sexual intimacy within his/her
1. Why do you think (Tim, Alan, Donna) relationships?
came to speak to the university chaplain 3. How was (Tim, Alan, Donna) able to grow
about his/her sexuality? What do you as a result of his/her understanding and
think he/she expected? practice of chastity?
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be no glory to be gained from being a fol- Caiaphas, he was afraid of how the
lower of Jesus, only humiliation. The Romans might respond if they saw Jesus
thought of being humiliated was too much as a threat to Caesar’s authority. (See
for Peter’s pride. He denied being a follower John 11.47-50.) Judas was not patient or
of Jesus and claimed that he did not even trusting enough to let things run their
know who Jesus was. course. He did not trust Jesus – he
After he denied Jesus, Peter was thought Jesus might make things worse.
ashamed of himself and his actions. He He did not believe that the way of love that
had been so sure that his love for Jesus Jesus proclaimed could work in the long
could withstand anything, but it had fallen run. So Judas went to the Jewish leaders
apart after a simple question. At that point, and told them that he would help them
Peter could have run away in shame. He stop Jesus quietly.
could have refused to face the rest of disci- Perhaps Judas did not know that the
ples, who knew that Jesus had predicted Jewish leaders planned to have Jesus
this denial. He could have, but he didn’t. killed. Perhaps he thought they would just
Peter wept because of his failure, but he run Jesus out of Jerusalem. When Jesus
did not run away. When Jesus rose from was sentenced to death, Judas was very
the dead, Peter was able to profess his love sorry for betraying him. He told the chief
for Jesus again, but this time with humility priests that an innocent man was being
rather than pride. (See John 21.15-19.) condemned to death. But the chief priests
Then, after Pentecost, strengthened by the said that was not their problem. When the
Holy Spirit, Peter was the first to preach priests would not listen to Judas, he lost all
about Jesus publicly to crowds of people. his hope. His love was not strong enough to
Because of his fearless witness, many peo-
ple converted to the faith. Peter became the
leader Jesus intended him to be.
Part 2: Judas
We do not know as much about Judas as
we do about Peter. One thing we do know
is that, like Peter, Judas held a leadership
position among the twelve disciples. Judas
kept the money for Jesus and his follow-
ers. From this we can assume that he was
probably a practical person. When Mary
Magdalene anoints Jesus’ feet with expen-
sive oil, Judas is upset because she has
wasted so much money that could have
gone to the poor.
After Jesus’ triumphal entry into
Jerusalem, when so many seemed ready to
make him a king, Judas, like the Jewish
leaders, began to get worried. Perhaps, like
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Love Broken and Restored: The Story When the brothers bowed down to beg
for food, Joseph recognized them, but they
of Joseph and His Brothers did not recognize him. Joseph then
Jacob, also known as Israel, had twelve accused the brothers of being spies. They
sons. Joseph was the second youngest of swore that they were not, but Joseph pre-
Jacob’s sons. He was born to Rachel long tended not to believe them. Joseph told
after Jacob and Rachel had given up hope them that if they wished to prove that they
of Rachel’s ever conceiving. For this rea- were not spies, one of them must remain in
son, Joseph was Jacob’s favourite son. prison while the others returned to Canaan
When Joseph was seventeen, he worked to get Jacob’s youngest son, Benjamin.
for his older brothers by caring for the
Benjamin was Rachel’s second son and
sheep. Joseph spoke poorly of his brothers
the youngest of all Jacob’s children. He
to their father. As if that were not enough,
had become Jacob’s favourite after Joseph
Joseph told his brothers about the dreams
he was having. He said they were signs had disappeared. Benjamin had not trav-
that one day he would rule over the others. elled to Egypt because Jacob had been
Joseph’s brothers grew to hate him – both afraid that something might happen to
because their father loved him best and him, and he could not bear the thought of
because Joseph thought that he was better losing Rachel’s only remaining child.
than them. Simeon agreed to remain in prison while
One day, Joseph’s brothers decided that the others returned for Benjamin. He,
they would kill Joseph and put an end to along with the others, believed that God
his dreams and his thoughts that he was was punishing him for harming Joseph so
better than them. Reuben, the oldest of many years ago.
Jacob’s brothers, convinced the others to When the brothers returned to Egypt
throw Jacob into a pit and allow him to die with Benjamin, Joseph tested them to see
of natural causes rather than kill him out- if they had changed. He had his silver cup
right. (Reuben planned to come back and hidden in Benjamin’s sack and then he
rescue Joseph later.) accused Benjamin of stealing. Joseph
Joseph was stripped and thrown into a threatened to make Benjamin a slave. At
pit. Then, before Reuben could rescue him, that point, Judah begged Joseph to let
his other brothers pulled him out of the pit Benjamin go, saying that he would be a
and sold him as a slave to a passing cara- slave in his place. Judah explained how
van. Joseph’s brothers then dipped his much Benjamin meant to his father, and
robe in blood and took it to their father, how hard it would be on Jacob to lose
saying that Joseph must have been killed Benjamin after having lost Joseph.
by a wild animal.
From this Joseph knew that his broth-
Joseph, meanwhile, was taken to Egypt. ers had gotten over their jealousy and had
Years later, after a series of unusual events learned to love. Joseph told his brothers
(see Genesis 39–41), Joseph became gover- who he was and invited them to share his
nor of Egypt. When Joseph’s brothers trav- prosperity.
elled to Egypt to get food during the years
of famine, they went to Joseph without
knowing it.
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What’s more, love can endure and survive 2. What does it mean to say that “love
whatever tough choices we must make to bears all things”? Give an example of a
achieve that something better and to care situation in which it would be important
for ourselves and the ones we love. to remember these words.
3. When Paul says “love endures all things,”
Reflection Questions is he saying that if you really love some-
1. Give several specific examples of how one you will not leave even if that person
people misuse Paul’s words to the is abusive? Explain your answer.
Corinthians.
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A PRAYER FOR RECONCILIATION
Are you and the person you Are you going out with
love people who someone who
• Take the time necessary Love is patient • Pressures you for sex.
to build a strong relation- • Gets too serious about
ship. the relationship too fast.
• Allow one another to
grow and change at your
own pace.
• Have the patience to do
what is necessary to help
bring out the best in one
another.
• Want what is truly best Love is kind • Is scary. You worry about
for each other. how they will react to
• Are willing to let go of things you say or do.
short-term pleasure in Threatens you. Uses or
order to do what is truly owns weapons.
kind and caring in the
long run. • Is violent: has a history
• Bring out the best in of fighting, loses temper
each other. quickly, brags about mis-
treating others.
• Are happy when the Love is not envious
other is truly happy. • Is jealous and possessive
• Celebrate each other’s toward you. Won’t let you
achievements. have friends. Checks up
• Respect each other’s on you. Won’t accept
other relationships. breaking up.
• Believe in each other. Love is not boastful or • Brags about you to his or
• Praise each other. arrogant her friends, telling them
• Recognize how much the things about you that are
other has done for you. private.
• Help each other to be • Behaves as if you would
self-reliant. be nothing without his or
her love.
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Signs of Love that’s Going Paul’s Description of Love: Early Warning Signs of Love
Right 1 Corinthians 13.4-8 Going Wrong
Are you and the person you Are you going out with
love people who someone who
• Treat each other with Love is not rude • Shows affection inappro-
respect both in private priately in public in order
and in public. to attract attention.
• Makes fun of you in front
of his or her friends.
• Tells private and embar-
rassing things about you.
• Listen to each other’s Love does not insist on its • Tries to control you by
opinions. own way being very bossy, giving
• Criticize one another con- orders, making all the
structively, and in pri- decisions. Doesn’t take
vate. your opinion seriously.
• Are flexible when you • Berates you if you do
want different things. something that he or she
doesn’t like.
• Is manipulative.
• Show your love for each Love is not irritable or • Constantly reminds you
other even when you’re in resentful of past arguments or fail-
bad moods. ures even after they have
• Forgive one another. been dealt with.
• Are glad when something • Uses his or her love as a
good happens to the bargaining weapon,
other, even if things are threatening to withdraw
not as good for you. it if you do not behave in
a certain way.
• Take responsibility for Love does not rejoice in • Blames you when he or
your actions. wrongdoing, but rejoices in she mistreats you. Says
• Tell each other the truth the truth you provoked him/her,
even when it is hard. pressed his/her buttons,
• Help each other to recog- made him/her do it.
nize and change destruc- • Has a history of bad rela-
tive behaviour. tionships and blames the
other person for all the
problems.
• Abuses drugs or alcohol
and pressures you to
take them.
Key Ter ms
unconditional love magisterium humility peacemaker
informed conscience Tradition chastity assertiveness
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Unit 5
Be Obedient
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5.1
1
Note: The information that the old person in this dialogue gives comes
from the Catechism of the Catholic Church, in the section on the fourth
commandment.
108 Be Obedient
Old Person: for their own actions. When my cousin
A long time ago, a man asked Jesus exact- took a vow of obedience as a religious sis-
ly that question. I don’t think I can ter, I told her she was making the biggest
improve on Jesus’ answer: mistake of her life. In my opinion, obedi-
Keep the commandments – “You shall not ence was just a tool that helped people
murder; You shall not commit adultery; who were in power stay in power.
You shall not steal; You shall not bear Young Person:
false witness; Honour your father and That’s exactly my point! Obedience kills
mother...” creativity and initiative. Kids who always
Young Person: do what they’re told are either sucking
Oh, not those old rules again! Don’t you up or are too stupid to think of anything
have a better answer than that? else to do.
Old Person:
I guess you feel like the man who asked Reflection Questions
Jesus the question. You’ve been keeping 1. Do you agree with the young person that
all of the commandments since you were obedience kills creativity? Why or why not?
a kid and now you want more of a chal- 2. What is the difference between obeying
lenge, right? someone and sucking up?
Young Person:
I didn’t exactly say that. I mean, I’ve
Part II
never murdered anyone or stolen any- Old Person:
thing but I haven’t always obeyed my When you say that obedience shows a
parents, either. It’s just that I really lack of creativity, I have to disagree.
don’t see how running around saying Over time I’ve learned that obedience
“Yes, Mom; Yes, Dad” is going to help my shows the kind of self-discipline we need
relationship with God so much that I get to be really creative, to develop our gifts
into heaven. and direct them toward what is good.
Why is it that every time Catholics start Obedience is the discipline that keeps us
talking about doing what God wants they from acting as if we were the centre of the
always end up talking about doing what universe. In obeying our parents and
some person wants? Why does doing teachers we learn to share, co-operate
God’s will always come down to obeying and compromise. By demanding obedi-
this or that person? Isn’t creative think- ence and respect, they help us to under-
ing more important than obedience? Isn’t stand that what we want isn’t always the
developing your gifts and talents better most important thing. As we obey and
than just doing what you’re told? respect our parents and teachers, we
Old Person: become aware of the common good that
You sound like me a few years back. I must be part of our choices. Eventually
used to think that people who promised the habit of obedience will lead to self-dis-
to obey someone else must be people who cipline and we will think of the common
were afraid to think or take responsibility good without being told.
110 Be Obedient
could make me better. So why make such The Church says that as long as a child
a big deal out of obedience to my folks? lives at home with his or her parents, he
Old Person: or she should do what they ask when it
The Church teaches that the family is is for the good of the child or of the fam-
the “original cell of social life,” and the ily. That includes the things that are a
“nucleus” of society. In other words, “pain” and not all that important.
what goes on in families shapes all of Young Person:
what goes on in society as a whole. The But what if the thing I want to do is as
authority, stability and caring relation- good for me and the family as the thing
ships within the family are the founda- my parents want?
tion for freedom, security and caring Old Person:
relationships in society. An attitude of Then out of respect you should do what
respect for authority is essential for soci- your parents want. Respect for your par-
ety. That attitude begins in the family. ents is a necessary part of respect for
God. You cannot claim to respect your
Reflection Questions heavenly parent, whom you do not see,
7. Why is respect for and obedience to our if you do not respect the earthly parents
parents important even beyond the family? whom you see regularly. You cannot
8. Give an example of how family life can claim to respect your parents if you
shape life in society. always put your wishes ahead of theirs.
Reflection Question
Part V
9. How does our relationship with our par-
Young Person:
ents shape our relationship with God?
But why does the authority always Give an example.
belong to the parents even now that I’m
old enough to make decisions for myself? Part VI
Old Person: Young Person:
Parental authority comes from God, just What if my parents told me to do some-
as parenthood comes from God. We call thing that wasn’t good?
God a parent to remind us just how Old Person:
important the role of a parent is. God If you really are convinced in your con-
has given your parents both the right science that it would be morally wrong
and the duty to educate you. They can’t to do something, then you shouldn’t do
educate you without giving you direc- it, even if your parents tell you to.
tions and disciplining you. The Greek word for obey comes from the
Young Person: word for “listening.” The same word was
But a lot of the things they tell me to do also used for “answering the door.”
are just a pain and aren’t that important. Obedience is not about doing exactly what
They don’t educate me, they aggravate me. someone tells you to do; it is about listen-
Old Person: ing to those in authority and opening the
The Bible tells us that when we honour door of your heart to recognize the good
and obey our parents it pleases God. that may come from doing as they ask.
Follow His Example Joseph as his parents and gave them author-
ity over him. He trusted that by doing what
When Jesus was twelve years old, he and his his parents wanted him to do he would be
parents travelled with others from Nazareth doing God’s will.
to Jerusalem to celebrate Passover. When
Many years later, Jesus was with Mary at
Passover was over, the group from Nazareth
a wedding in the town of Cana. Part way
began the long journey home. Jesus’ parents
through the wedding celebration, the wine
assumed that Jesus was somewhere in the
ran out. Mary pointed out the problem to
group; Jesus had not told them that he had
Jesus and then instructed the waiters to do
decided to stay in Jerusalem. It was not until
whatever Jesus asked. Mary clearly expected
the end of the first day of travel that Mary
Jesus to do something to help out his hosts.
and Joseph realized that Jesus was not part
Jesus did not appear to be overly pleased
of their caravan. They went back to
that Mary had dragged him into something
Jerusalem right away and began searching
for him. Three days later they finally found that really had nothing to do with him. But
him in the Temple discussing theology. she was his mother, and what she had asked
him to do was a good thing even if the timing
By the time Mary and Joseph found Jesus, was not his. Once again, Jesus trusted that
they were upset with him. They asked him in following his mother he would be following
how he could have gone off and left them to God’s will. Out of respect for her he dealt
worry. Jesus didn’t think they should be so with the shortage of wine.
upset. After all, he was practically an adult
in his culture, and he had stayed in There is only one other passage in the
Jerusalem for very good reasons. But Jesus Bible in which Jesus’ parents ask something
returned with them to Nazareth, and we are of him. In this third story, however, Jesus
told that he was obedient to them. In other does not do what they ask.
words, even though Jesus might have want- Jesus is surrounded by a large crowd of
ed to stay in Jerusalem and study with the people. He has been healing and teaching
rabbis, and even though he knew that such them all day. He has been so busy that he
study would be a good thing, he still did has not even had a chance to eat. Jesus’
what his parents wanted him to do. Jesus mother, along with other members of his
respected the fact that God chose Mary and family, come to try to take him away from
112 Be Obedient
and he did always listen to what they had to
say. Jesus was willing to do what his parents
asked, even when it wasn’t what he wanted
to do, as long as it did not go against his
heavenly Father’s will.
Jesus tells us that if we want to have life
in abundance and joy in all its completeness,
we should follow him. We should even follow
him in our attitudes and responses toward
our parents. Jesus trusted that the disci-
pline and virtue of obedience would help him
to become the person God wanted him to be.
Jesus challenges us to look for the good and
listen for God in the voice of our parents. We
may not always find it, but we may be sur-
prised at how often we do find it.
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that belittles or undermines their husbands, relationships, so, too, are parents and chil-
but in a way that brings out the best in them. dren. Children are reminded to be obedient
Husbands have an equal duty to love and to their parents not only because their par-
respect their wives. All Christians are called to ents are the ones with power and authority
a meekness that will allow them to learn from in the family, but because when they obey
one another. This includes husbands in their their parents it pleases God. Parents are told
relationships with their wives. Husbands are not to take advantage of their power. They
not to behave harshly even when some people should not act in a way that makes the chil-
in society would seem to condone this. dren feel discouraged or that they cannot
please either their parents or God.
Just as husbands and wives are chal-
lenged to let Christian attitudes shape their
L oving God,
guardian of our homes,
when you entrusted your Son
to the care of Mary and Joseph,
you did not spare them the pains
that touch the life of every family.
Teach us to rely on your word,
that in our trials as in our joys
we may be clothed in gentleness and patience
and united in love.
Make us ever thankful
for the blessings you give us
through Jesus Christ, your Word made flesh,
who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the
Holy Spirit, in the splendor of eternal light,
God for ever and ever.
Amen 2
2 From Sunday Celebration of the Word and Hours, The Feast of the
Holy Family, Year A alternative opening prayer.
Whom should I
obey in society?
Crossing the Line fond of telling people that he had been
treated unfairly more times in his life than
Who could figure out Trevor? At 32 years he had used a washroom. I once heard
old he still expected his family to come him say that he had a lot of sympathy for
running every time he got into trouble. In the militant anti-government groups
other words, he expected someone to give “because all governments ever did was
him money or pull strings for him every make rules to interfere with individual
few months. Over the years, plenty of rights and make things easier for the para-
strings had been pulled for Trevor. Many sites of the world.”
times, members of his family had used
their influence to see that he was given a I must say, my perspective on things is a
job. But none of those jobs ever lasted for bit different from Trevor’s. I’ve heard stories
more than a few months. Every boss about Trevor most of my life. Although our
Trevor ever had was “incompetent,” “dis- family is not quick to admit it, he’s my
honest,” “overbearing” or some other thing mother’s younger brother. From what I’ve
that made it impossible for Trevor to work been told, and from what I’ve seen, Trevor’s
for him or her. always believed that no one had the right
Trevor was smart enough, and he wasn’t to tell him what to do, and he’s always
lazy. The problem was he was always com- caused trouble for anyone who tried.
ing up against “unreasonable” people who Mom says that when Trevor was in high
made arbitrary decisions against him. At school he made everyone’s life miserable.
least that was how he saw it. Trevor was He challenged every rule and every policy.
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He wasted everyone’s time with petty argu- principal asked them what other options
ments. He could kill the enthusiasm of an he had, they couldn’t think of any. Over
entire class for almost any project by start- the next few years, Trevor attended several
ing a debate about the rules surrounding different schools. Mom says he missed out
the project. He would only follow instruc- on a lot of his high school education just
tions if someone could convince him that because he wouldn’t follow the rules. Of
he personally had something to gain by course, Trevor says that he was “shafted
doing as he was asked. by the system.” He never did anything seri-
One time, Trevor’s entire class was given ously wrong; it was just that there were so
a detention because of the way they had many absurd rules.
treated a supply teacher. Trevor did not Trevor’s lack of respect for authority
feel that his behaviour had been inappro- wasn’t limited to the school. My uncle is
priate, so he skipped the detention. The the only person I know who actually spent
next day he was called down to the princi- time in jail for loitering. It happened right
pal’s office; but, since he had no desire to after he finished high school. Trevor’s high
see the principal, he didn’t go. The princi- school grades weren’t high enough to get
pal then went to his classroom and called him into a good university, and he thought
him aside to talk to him. The principal he was too smart to enroll in any of the
tried to explain that it was the class as a programs that he could get into, so he
whole and not just a few individuals who decided to get a job for a few months and
had made it impossible for the supply then travel.
teacher to do her job; therefore, the class Now Trevor didn’t want just any old job.
as a whole was being disciplined. He wanted a job that looked impressive
The principal said that teachers had a and paid well. Trevor picked out a few
right to give detentions as they saw fit; and retail places in town where he would like
since serving a detention wouldn’t hurt to work and then he applied for a job. I
anyone, students had a responsibility to will say this for him, he did pay some
accept the teacher’s authority and serve attention to the norms of the business
the detention whether they agreed with it world when he was applying for jobs. He
or not. A system of policies and conse- actually got all dressed up when he went
quences was a necessary part of every to talk to his prospective employers. But
organization that had a task to accom- that wasn’t enough to get him one of the
plish. If every student insisted on setting jobs he wanted. He was offered several
his or her own policies, it would be impos- minimum wage supply room and errand
sible for the school to operate smoothly boy jobs, but he turned those down.
and to meet the needs of the majority of Trevor was mad! He’d followed the rules.
students. He’d dressed up, he’d been polite; and it
As I heard the story, Trevor just had gotten him nowhere. So he took to
shrugged and said, “What difference does just hanging out outside the doors of the
that make to me? I’m not part of the places that had rejected him. At first peo-
majority.” Trevor was suspended, and then ple just ignored him; but then it became
he was expelled. My grandparents, Trevor’s clear that his presence was making cus-
parents, were not happy, but when the tomers uncomfortable. He was asked
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when it’s convenient. Sometimes Trevor “for the Lord’s sake” we should accept the
will show up at his son’s school and take authority of human institutions (1 Peter
him out of class for part of the day; since 2.13). Both letters make it clear that
he’s not abusive, there’s not much anyone Christians should obey those in authority
can do. I really feel sorry for my cousin. as long as they are not telling us to do
Sometimes when I don’t feel like follow- something that is opposed to God.
ing certain rules I think about my uncle This teaching is an extension of the
Trevor. I don’t know where he crossed the fourth commandment. The fourth com-
line from being a normal kid who was just mandment tells us to honour our parents
challenging authority to being the loser first, but after that to honour all those who
that he is. All I know is that I never want have legitimate authority. This message is
to cross that line. quite different from the message we get
from popular culture. Our culture often
Reflection Questions teaches us that we only need to respect
1. What is your reaction to Trevor’s behav- those who have “earned” it. The biblical
iour at various points in the story? perspective says that we should respect
2. Should Trevor have served the deten- people simply because they hold certain
tion? Why or why not? positions that deserve respect. The posi-
tions deserve respect because they serve
3. When do students have a right to dis- the common good and thus, indirectly,
obey and/or challenge school policies or serve God.
discipline?
Even if we dislike certain politicians or
4. Did Trevor have a right to hang out government officials, we must admit that
outside the stores? Why or why not? things would be worse if there were no
5. When does a person have a right to government and no laws. Even if we dislike
ignore a law? certain teachers, we must admit that edu-
6. What would you have said to Trevor if cation is valuable and it requires people
you were Father Mike? who are willing to teach. Because the posi-
7. How do you tell when a person has tions of authority are important for the
“crossed the line” and is challenging well-being of society, we are called to
authority too much? respect, support and protect them. It is
our duty, as members of society, to avoid
doing things that make it hard for those in
Another Look at the Fourth authority to give the service they have
Commandment been called to give.
In his letter to the Romans, Paul says, “Let The fourth commandment challenges
every person be subject to the governing students to avoid doing anything that will
authorities; for there is no authority except make it harder for teachers to teach, for
from God, and those authorities that exist workers to keep public property in good
have been instituted by God. Therefore, condition, or for police officers to maintain
whoever resists authority resists what God order. It challenges citizens to respect gov-
has appointed” (Romans 13.1-2). In a simi- ernment officials so that they may serve
lar way, the first letter of Peter tells us that the common good. It challenges all of us to
120 Be Obedient
In the first letter to the Corinthians, munities to God. The magisterium (the
Paul compares the human body to the Pope and the bishops in their role as
body of Christ. This analogy or comparison teachers of the faith) has several important
can relate to the common good, too. All of jobs to do:
the members of a society are interconnect- • to give voice to the truths of our faith
ed, just as all the parts of a person’s body • to name those behaviours needed for the
are interconnected. If something is bad for faith to be preserved, explained and
one part of the body, it is bad for the body observed
as a whole. In the same way, if something
is bad for one part of society, it is bad for • to help people understand the demands
society as a whole. If a doctor tells some- of natural law, and
one that he needs to lose weight so his • to remind people of what they should be
heart can work better, the person should before God.
not respond by cutting off a limb. In the
same way, we should not fix a problem in
one part of society by doing something that
damages another part. Our bodies cannot
be healthy if we mistreat parts of them,
even if we take superb care of other parts.
Our society cannot be healthy if we take
superb care of some people but allow oth-
ers to suffer.
All of the policies of those in authority
must be judged and praised or challenged
on how well they serve the common good.
We should ask the following questions of
all authorities:
• Do they respect and strive to protect the
basic rights of every individual?
• Are the basic needs of every individual
and family provided for by the policies of
those in authority?
• Does the governing authority promote the
peace and security that are necessary for
development?
The faithful have a right to know what Communion as often as possible. The
the magisterium teaches and a duty to Eucharist is the source and summit of
obey its teachings. In particular, every Christian life. If we do not take part in the
Catholic has a duty to obey the precepts Eucharist, we will not be as close to God
or rules of the Church. These six pre- as we could be. The Easter season is the
cepts set the minimum standards of high point of the liturgical year. All other
behaviour for prayer, moral effort and liturgies point toward the Easter liturgies.
growth in love of God and love of neigh- The fourth precept instructs us to
bour. Anyone who ignores one or more of keep the holy days of obligation holy. We
the precepts of the Church needs to should not forget the major feasts of the
examine seriously the state of his or her Church, which honour the mysteries of
relationship with God. the Lord, the Virgin Mary and the saints.
The first precept demands that In Canada, there are two holy days of
Catholics attend Mass on Sundays and obligation that do not always fall on a
on holy days of obligation. To have a Sunday. One is Christmas. The other is
healthy relationship with God and with the Feast of Mary the Mother of God,
the Christian community, we need to which is celebrated on New Year’s Day.
gather regularly as a community to cele- The fifth precept reminds us to
brate the resurrection of the Lord. observe the prescribed days of fasting
The second precept directs us to con- and abstinence (not eating meat). In
fess serious sins at least once a year. Canada, Ash Wednesday, Good Friday
This precept reminds us that we are sin- and Holy Saturday (up to the Easter
ners who must rely on God’s mercy and Vigil) are days of fasting and abstinence.
grace. The words “I’m sorry” and “I for- The faithful are encouraged to abstain
give you” are important words in every from meat on all Fridays during Lent;
healthy relationship, including our rela- however, they may do works of charity
tionship with God. The sacrament of rec- instead. We need to prepare for major
onciliation is the framework we use to feast days through acts of self-denial.
offer our sincere apologies to God. We These acts help us master our instincts
apologize for all the things we have done and find true freedom.
that have hurt our relationship with God The sixth and final precept obliges us
and with God’s people. Through the to contribute to the Church as far as we
sacrament we receive God’s forgiveness. are able. It reminds us that the Church’s
The third precept directs us to receive responsibility to proclaim God’s truth
Holy Communion at least once a year dur- and to help those in need is shared by all
ing the Easter season. Of course, like the of the faithful. Each one of us must do
other precepts, this is stating a mini- what we can to ensure that those
mum. Everyone is encouraged to receive responsibilities are carried out.
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A PRAYER FROM THE GENERAL INTERCESSIONS
FOR GOOD FRIDAY
W
e pray for those who serve in public
office, that God will direct their minds
and hearts in accordance with [God’s]
will to ensure true peace and freedom.
Almighty and eternal God,
whose hand upholds the rights
and aspirations of all,
guide those in authority,
that people everywhere on earth
may enjoy prosperity, freedom of worship,
security and peace.
We ask this through Jesus Christ our Lord.
Amen.
Key Ter ms
the fourth commandment obedience the common good
the original cell of social life legitimate authority precepts of the Church
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Unit 6
Be Just
125
6.1
What keeps us
apart?
A Fly on the Wall I was buzzing around the lower end of
town when I got a wonderful whiff of sweat,
You would think that a fly could get a little
blood and dirt. I darted down a dim alley
more respect! I know people realize we have
gifts. They’re always saying things like, “I’d and came upon three of the filthiest people
like to be a fly on the wall during that conver- I’ve seen in a while. It was obvious that they
sation.” But they never make use of those had been in a few fights since the last time
gifts. When was the last time you heard of they’d bathed. That was fine by me. I landed
someone bothering to seek out the one who on the shortest one’s head just as he started
actually was a fly on the wall? You know, we to talk.
could tell you a lot if you’d just ask! We could “So do you think that last guy we hit today
also give you a lot of new insights. People will die?”
tend to see everything from just one point of
view. Flies, on the other hand, see and hear The one with a long scar across his face
things from untold numbers of points of view. answered, “He’ll die. He’s not the fighting
But don’t just take my word for it. Let me tell type. And like my old ma used to say, ‘If the
you what happened the other day. fight ain’t in ya then a fight will kill ya.’”
126 Be Just
“How can you be sure he isn’t a fighter?” for most of us; someone like him is just asking
the short one asked. “With three of us jump- for trouble by travelling it alone.” He paused,
ing him from behind he didn’t have a chance and then he said, “Rebecca, is that a fly under
to show us if he could fight or not.” the meat platter?”
“His kind don’t fight.” That was my cue to be off. I thought I
“They don’t? That’s almost enough to make might try the local inn – they always have
me feel sorry about what we did.” interesting garbage. I buzzed off down the
The third one joined the conversation. “Not street. On my way, I spotted a man on a don-
me! I’d never waste a minute feeling sorry for key talking to another man who was stand-
one of them! If it weren’t for them our fami- ing in the road. Now the inn was my destina-
lies would still have land. The way I see it, tion, but the inn wouldn’t go away, and a
robbing him was just taking back some of donkey is not the sort of opportunity that a
what was our own. And if he dies, well, he fly like me likes to pass up. Down I dove,
didn’t belong here anyway.” straight for the donkey’s ear.
It was at that point that the short one As it turns out, the man on the donkey
noticed me splashing through the sweat on was a Levite – someone who served in the
his neck. He took a swipe at me, and I decid- Temple – and he, too, had been on the road
ed it was time to be off to a new place. I between Jerusalem and Jericho that day.
buzzed off up town looking for a new feeding He was telling his companion what he had
ground. From a distance I spotted a family seen.
having a picnic. Perfect! As I got closer, I saw “I felt so sorry for that man in the ditch.
that things were even better than I had When I looked at him I remembered a time
hoped. It was the home of a priest and he when my donkey picked up a stone and I
and his family were actually eating meat! I had to walk along that road. I was terrified. I
landed in a terrific spot, just under the edge know just how that poor fellow must have
of the meat platter. The priest was telling felt when he heard that telltale noise behind
everyone about his day. him and knew his worst fears were about to
“I was reminded today of just how danger- come true.” The Levite paused and then
ous the road between Jerusalem and Jericho added, “Of course, it probably wasn’t as bad
can be.” He paused dramatically. “On my for him as it would have been for me. I’m
way to the Temple, I passed a man who had sure that he knows far more people than I do
obviously been attacked and beaten. It was a who’ve had that kind of experience. I’m sure
ghastly sight. He was dead or near dead.” he’s the type who knows how to handle that
“Did you stop?” the little boy nearest me sort of thing.”
asked. The man standing in the road asked the
“Of course not! If I had touched him, my Levite if he’d stopped to help.
hands would have been defiled. Then I couldn’t “Certainly not! There are enough people who
have done my work at the Temple. I have been travel that road. I’m sure someone with more
called to serve our community. I can’t ignore it in common with him came along and helped
for the sake of a stranger. I felt a bit sorry for him. It always feels much better to get help
the man, but he shouldn’t have been walking from one of your own rather than from some-
there in the first place. The road is bad enough one who is better than you.” He shook his
128 Be Just
No More “Us” and “Them”
Jesus told the story of the good Samaritan to
answer a lawyer who asked, “Who is my
neighbour?” The lawyer wanted to know what
a person had to do to be seen as a neighbour
– one of “us.” If the lawyer knew that, he
would know at what point his duty to love
ended and he could say, “I have done
enough.” Jesus’ answer must have given him
quite a shock. According to Jesus, the duty
to love never ends. No lines separate “us”
from “them.” Everyone is one of “us.”
This answer was not in keeping with the
culture of Jesus’ day. Jesus lived in a society He is committed to respecting and protecting
where prejudice was accepted as the norm. the dignity of the human person.
People from certain groups simply would not
mix with people from certain other groups. From the story of the good Samaritan we can
No one questioned this fact. Many people see that Jesus objects to prejudice for two rea-
even believed that keeping apart was pleas- sons: it creates barriers to love, and it keeps us
ing to God. The story of the good Samaritan from being the people God intended us to be.
challenged the beliefs of those who heard it. Prejudice focuses on the things that divide us.
It fails to see the things we have in common.
Jesus’ challenge to prejudice is slightly dif- Prejudice makes it hard for love to grow.
ferent from the challenge we hear most often
in our society. Today, people tend to object to The story of the good Samaritan is a call to
prejudice because it is unfair. Because of exchange prejudice for compassion. Com-
prejudice, people are misjudged and are passion is the ability to feel with another per-
treated differently. This happens because son. It is the ability to overlook the things that
others assume things about a group that are separate us from another person so we can see
either untrue or too general. and feel the world through that person’s eyes
and heart. Compassion is needed for love.
Jesus does not say anything about the
fairness or unfairness of prejudice. He does Sometimes people argue that certain
not challenge the Jewish belief that the actions are not prejudiced, just good sense.
Samaritans are ritually impure.1 Jesus is not For example, a shopkeeper might argue that
concerned with whether people deserve the more shoplifting and loitering is done by
treatment they get. He is concerned about teenagers or people of a particular ethnic
whether people are as loving as they can be. group; therefore, it is not unfair to watch
them more closely. What’s more, they may
argue, a person who is doing nothing wrong
1
The Pharisees divided both things and people into categories of will not suffer from being watched in a public
clean and unclean, or ritually pure and ritually impure. Only
those who were ritually pure were allowed to approach God place. But if we use compassion, we will see
and the things of God. To become ritually pure or “clean,” a that this kind of suspicion creates a barrier
person had to go through a series of prayers and rituals that
often took a long time. A “clean” person who came into contact to love. It is as wrong as other more obvious
with an “unclean” person also became “unclean.” forms of prejudice.
130 Be Just
people who were really in trouble, and how But you were amazing. You never aban-
she made a future for you and your brother doned me. Despite my self-righteous anger,
against some pretty bad odds. So I couldn’t despite your mom’s fear, despite the ridicule
hate her; but I couldn’t like her, either. of the other kids, you kept on reaching out to
I asked my parents how a good person me. Over and over you made the effort to put
could say you couldn’t come without even try- yourself in my shoes and understand me and
ing to get to know us. I think they were as sad my needs.
and puzzled as I was. My parents tried to Jamie, I’m sorry we never had a chance to
explain. They said, “Sometimes people are be friends outside of school, but I’m incredi-
frightened by differences, and sometimes peo- bly grateful for the friendship that you
ple are frightened by the problems and the offered me in school. I’m also grateful for the
violence that have been caused by differences. lesson that you taught me about compas-
You have to be patient while they work sion. Thank you for showing me how to be
through those fears. Jamie has really tried to with someone despite “a million” differences.
understand you and your family; now it’s time There have been many times in my life that
for you to try to understand and accept hers.” I’ve been in situations where prejudice was
I tried, Jamie. I tried to understand how dividing people. In each of those situations I
your mom could be so loving on one hand and have been reminded of you and the way you
so unwilling to trust on the other. But I never helped me to survive Grade 8. Your example
really succeeded; and I was so concerned with from so long ago still inspires me with the
what I saw as a shortcoming that I failed to see courage to overlook the differences that sepa-
your mom’s strength. It was only years later rate me from others and to respond to “the
that I realized that even though your mother stranger” with compassion.
was afraid, she did not pass on that fear to I’ve been thanked for helping strangers feel
you. Instead, she passed on the compassion
at home, and now, in turn, I give all that
that can put an end to fear and prejudice. I
thanks to you.
was frustrated with your mother when I should
have been impressed; and I was self righteous Shalom,
enough to let you see that frustration. Patricia
A REFLECTION ON COMPASSION
132 Be Just
shared fairly there would be enough to go
around! If the government invested in
money to help the poor instead of trying to
make things better for big businesses, so
much could be changed. But, as it was,
some people were suffering while others
had more than enough.
It was hard to listen to Maria and to see
those little kids who were so lovable and so
needy. It was even harder to go straight
from the daycare to Ricardo’s house.
Ricardo and Allen had known each other
in university. They had both been involved
with the Catholic chaplaincy on campus.
took the cat to the pet hospital and the vet
Ricardo had invited Allen and his friends to
did all he could,” Ricardo’s mother said.
stay at his house on their last night in El
“But the cat probably has only a few more
Salvador, saying, “I know you are here for a
days to live. She’s had that cat since she
service trip, but you ought to have at least
was six.” Ricardo excused himself to go
one good meal and spend one night in a and call his friend.
comfortable bed, so you don’t go home with a
completely wrong impression of our country.” Allen felt his stomach turn. It was all he
could do to be polite. He felt as if he were
The invitation had seemed like a good in the middle of the story of Lazarus and
thing when he had thought about it from the rich man. On the other side of town
home. As soon as Allen climbed into there were people without enough to eat,
Ricardo’s spotless new car, he knew that it with nothing but a dirt floor to sleep on.
had been a mistake to accept. They might catch cholera and would have
Ricardo’s home was in a beautiful and to decide if the hospital was more likely to
well-lit section of the city. “Why does kill them or cure them. Here on this side of
everyone have their lights on here? I town, people were eating hors d’oeuvres on
thought electricity was being rationed,” a beautiful patio and worrying about a sick
Karla said as they drove into the driveway cat! And then they had the nerve to call
of a large ranch-style home. themselves Christians!
“Electricity is being rationed. But most Allen struggled to be polite all evening.
of the people in this area have their own He was glad that he could blame much of
backup generators,” Ricardo said with a his silence on the fact that his Spanish
smile as he ushered his guests into the liv- was a bit rusty. He noticed that Karla and
ing room. Ricardo’s mother came in and Lynne seemed to be doing the same thing.
offered everyone something cool to drink All three of them excused themselves early,
and a light snack to tide them over until saying that they had a long trip ahead of
dinner. Then she told Ricardo that a friend them the next day. The truth was, they
of his had called and was very upset couldn’t bear the luxury and its marked
because her cat was extremely sick. “She contrast to the poverty of the people who
Reflection Questions
1. Why were Karla, Lynne and Allen
uncomfortable when they visited
Ricardo? Would you have been uncom-
fortable if you were them?
2. Karla and Allen think that Ricardo and
his family should be uncomfortable with
their wealth. Do you agree? Why or why
had hosted them so generously over the not?
past few weeks. 3. Lynne thinks that Ricardo’s situation is
The next morning, the three of them not that different from her own. Could
said goodbye to Ricardo. With some relief you say the same thing?
they climbed onto a crowded bus headed 4. Should the story of Lazarus and the rich
for the airport. For a long while, none of man make us uncomfortable? Why or
them said anything about the previous why not?
evening. But after a while, Karla said,
“Wasn’t that disgusting? Don’t you wonder Give Generously
how people who are so committed to the
Church can be so selfish and so blind?” The prophet Amos warns that God will not
spare even the chosen people from punish-
“I was wondering the same thing!” Allen
ment, because they “sell the righteous for
said. “They must get really uncomfortable
silver, and the needy for a pair of sandals –
when they hear the bible story about
they ... trample the head of the poor into
Lazarus and the rich man, and how the rich
the dust of the earth, and push the afflict-
man went to hell because he’d never noticed ed out of the way” (Amos 2.6-7a). Amos
Lazarus sick and starving by his gates.” challenges the people because they have
“I don’t know,” Lynne said. “That’s what ignored the command of the Lord who
I was thinking all last night. But then I said, “Since there will never cease to be
realized that the things that seemed like some in need on the earth, I therefore com-
luxury were just things like electricity, mand you, ‘Open your hand to the poor
running water, money to pay a vet, and a and needy neighbour in your land’”
patio. Our families have all those things, (Deuteronomy 15.11).
134 Be Just
Over and over in Scripture, the people of It takes a lifetime to become just. Each
God are called to be more loving and more step in the process may be a very small
generous toward the poor. Over and over one. We may begin by giving a cup of water
the people fall short. When a man ran up to someone who is thirsty and who cannot
to Jesus and asked what he must do to get water. Next we may offer food to some-
inherit eternal life, Jesus told him to obey one who is hungry. From there we may
the commandments. When the man said volunteer our time or give away some of
that he had obeyed all of the command- our things. Each time we do one of these
ments since his youth, Jesus told him that things we grow closer to those in need and
there was one more thing that he should closer to God. (See Matthew 25.31-45.) In
do – sell all that he had, give to the poor time, we may begin to think of the needs of
and then follow Jesus. The man went away the poor as our own needs. We may share
sad because he had many things and was without thinking and thus achieve a true
not prepared to give them up. (See Mark solidarity with the poor and a true unity
10.17-25.) with God.
Most of us would have done the same Jesus and the prophets call us to ask
thing if we had been in the rich man’s ourselves and to ask God in prayer, over
shoes. We have gotten used to having many and over, “What step can I take today?
things. We have come to see much of what What else can I do? What else could I do
we have as necessary, even though most without? How can I do my part to make
people in the world live with far less. The ‘justice roll down like waters, and right-
call to give up what we have for the sake of eousness like an ever-flowing stream’?”
those in need is not an easy one to answer. (See Amos 5.24.)
Jesus compares answering this call to get-
ting a camel through the eye of a needle.
He says that it is impossible to do without
God’s help. Learning to respond to the poor
with justice takes time and prayer.
Jesus and the prophets call us and
challenge us to engage in this process of
conversion. They do this in two ways.
First, they make us uncomfortable by
making us see how selfish and unfair we
often are with the poor. Then they invite us
to share in the deep and lasting joy that
comes from sharing generously and being
at peace with others and with God. The
discomfort helps us take another step in
the process of becoming just. The promise
of a deeper and more lasting happiness
helps us keep going when we find it hard
to let go of our wealth and power to live
more justly.
136 Be Just
helping those in need improve their situa- child labourers, many in slave-like condi-
tion are necessary steps for justice and for tions, as Iqbal had done, I knew that I had
peace. As Pope John Paul II reminded us to do something. I didn’t know what I
in his talk at Edmonton and Flatrock, could do, but I knew that I had to at least
“Development is a new name for peace.” try.
True and lasting peace cannot exist Many of us have paper routes or chores
until the basic needs of all people are met. to do around the house. This is a healthy
All people have a right to food, a decent way to learn to be responsible and some-
place to live, adequate clothing and health times to earn spending money. Child
care, work and freedom. The preferential labour, however, is work that is likely to be
option for the poor means that the needs hazardous, to interfere with a child’s edu-
of the poor must come before the wants or cation or to be harmful to a child’s physi-
luxuries of those who have enough to meet cal, mental, moral or social development.
their basic needs. It calls us to remember Working in a fireworks factory 16 hours a
that people are always more important day where life-threatening explosions fre-
than things, systems or policies. quently occur, hauling heavy bricks, cut-
ting sugar cane from dawn to dusk, inhal-
ing glue all day in shoe factories, sewing
Free the Children soccer balls for six cents an hour, working
Dear Grade 9 Students, in a brothel – these are all ways children
It was a regular school day. I was eating are being exploited, every day.
breakfast in a rush, and as usual, I reached You may be thinking, “Why should I be
for my favourite section of the morning concerned? This is far away in another coun-
paper – the comics – for my laugh of the try. What does this have to do with me?”
day. I noticed the picture of a boy on the
front page. The headlines read, “Battled
Child Labour, Boy, 12, Murdered.” Being 12
years old myself, I immediately felt a connec-
tion and grabbed the paper to read more.
The article told the story of a young
Pakistani boy, Iqbal Masih, who had been
sold into slavery at the age of 4 to pay a
$16.00 loan which his parents had made.
He was shackled to a carpet loom 12 hours
a day, six days a week, and forced to tie
tiny knots, hour after hour, to make car-
pets. At the age of 10, he was able to escape
and began to speak out against child
labour. Within two years he was murdered.
I had never heard about child labour,
but that day I decided to learn more. When
I discovered that there were more than 100
million children in the world working as
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A
REFLECTION
ON THE
MAGNIFICAT
“If Marian
hope has a
social sig-
nificance, it
MAGNIFICAT is, surpris-
140 Be Just
be observed on its own. It was only discov- Catholics believe that God’s will has
ered because it had a big effect on the orbit been given a voice in creation. Human
of Neptune. Scientists studying Neptune’s beings who use their powers of reason to
orbit realized that it had a pattern that study and understand creation are being
could only be explained if there were anoth- led to the truth by the hand of God
er planet beyond it. They searched the right whether they know it or not.
area of the sky until they found Pluto. St. Paul expresses this basic principle of
Scientists are finding that even very natural law in his letter to the Romans. He
small changes in one place can lead to very says, “Ever since the creation of the world
big changes in another. When a volcano [God’s] eternal power and divine nature,
erupted in the Philippines, it affected the invisible though they are, have been
weather in Newfoundland and the understood and seen through the things
Maritimes for many months. Some scien- [God] has made.” (Romans 1.20)
tists speculate that even something as ordi- Science and the study of the universe
nary as the flapping of a butterfly’s wings cannot reveal the purpose of creation or
may affect the world as we know it. The God’s plan for humanity. But they do
weather in British Columbia can be influ- teach us many things about how God
enced by an air disturbance that began wants us to act. We know that all things in
when a butterfly flew over a Pacific island! our world exist in a delicate balance. This
Physicists have found that two particles tells us that we need to pay attention to
that interact and then are separated by our actions and to how they affect others.
great distances continue to have an effect The world can survive only if the integrity
on each other. The theory is that all parti- and balance of creation is protected; we
cles that have ever interacted are part of can be sure that God expects us to protect
the same basic system. Therefore, the fate that balance. In other words, God expects
of each particle is linked. us to live justly.
As we understand more of the physical Justice and respect for the balance in
world, we can appreciate more deeply the creation go hand in hand. In ancient
delicate balance of all life. We know that Greece, to say that a person was “just” was
there is no such thing as an action that to say that the person maintained an inner
doesn’t affect anyone else. harmony or balance that let him or her do
So what does all of this have to do with what was right. In biblical times, to be
faith? The Catholic Church teaches that “just” or “righteous” meant to do what was
God is revealed in natural law. “Natural right – not only in the eyes of the law, but
law” has to do with the proper order and also in the eyes of God. To be “just,” a per-
balance of creation that God intended for son had to do what God wanted and
the universe. This law is called “natural” expected. Even today, the dictionary
because it is built into the natural order of defines “doing justice” as acting “in a way
things and because it is human nature to worthy of one’s powers.”
recognize it. Every person who really tries The righteous or just person is the one
to understand the universe and seek what who is true to his or her nature as created
is good will one day see and desire the bal- by God. God created all things to be in bal-
ance and order that God desires. ance. We know that to be true to their
142 Be Just
God called “seas.” And God saw that it the moon show forth the best of the
was good. day and the best of the night. They
Reader 3: give order to the day and the night.
God organized the chaos. They are signs of hope in the day and
Reader 4: the night.
God created diversity. Reader 2:
Chorus: To rule, then, is to bring out the best,
And God saw that the order and the to give order and give hope.
diversity were good. Reader 3:
Reader 1: order
Then God said, “Let the earth put Chorus:
forth vegetation; plants yielding seed, and hope
and fruit trees of every kind.” And it Reader 4:
was so. And God saw that it was good. hope
Reader 3: Chorus:
The plants and the trees are desired and order
by God in all of their variety. Reader 1:
Reader 5: And God said, “Let the waters bring
God was not content to have just a forth swarms of living creatures, and
few kinds. God desired every kind of let birds fly above the earth across the
plant and every kind of tree. dome of the sky. So God created every
Reader 4: living creature with which the waters
None of the plants or trees were swarm, and every winged bird of every
accidents. kind. And God saw that it was good.
Chorus: God blessed them, saying, “Be fruitful
When we destroy a habitat, when we and multiply and fill the waters in the
make a species extinct, we are undo- seas, and let birds multiply on the
ing what God has done. earth.”
Reader 1: Reader 2:
God made the two great lights – the God created the birds and the fish in
greater light to rule the day and the abundance and God wanted that abun-
lesser light to rule the night – and the dance to increase. The oceans should
stars. And God saw that it was good. be full of fish and the skies filled with
Reader 2: birds. That is what God desires.
The sun, the moon and the stars... Reader 3:
God created all of them. We are told Oceans teeming with fish, and skies
they rule the day and the night. alive with soaring birds.
Reader 5: Reader 5:
There is wisdom here, and insight into Natural abundance is part of God’s
what it means to rule. The sun and plan.
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The Song of the Meek – A choral reading
Reader 1: Reader 6:
Jesus said, “Blessed are the meek, for Look at the acid rain.
they shall inherit the earth.” Reader 4:
Reader 2: Look at the declining fish stocks and
Who are the meek? the contamination of ground water by
Reader 3: pesticides.
They are the ones who do not always Chorus:
put themselves first. Look. Look. Look. The greedy and the
Reader 4: self-centered are destroying the earth.
They are the ones who recognize that Reader 1:
creation is much bigger than they are. There will be an earth left to inherit
only if people learn to be meek, if they
Reader 3:
learn to do with less or do without for
They are the ones who give more than
the sake of others and for the sake of
they take.
the earth.
Reader 2:
Chorus:
Why would the meek inherit the earth?
The meek will inherit the earth.
It’s the strong who survive. The ones
who are not afraid to fight to get ahead. Reader 2:
The ones who are quick to take whatev- Who are the meek?
er they get their hands on, they’re the Reader 4:
ones who will end up with everything. The meek are those who respect and
Reader 1: value life.
No, the meek will inherit the earth. Reader 5:
The meek will protect the life of every
Reader 3:
other person, even when the one they
The greedy and the self-centered will
are protecting will make or has made
only destroy the earth.
their life harder.
Reader 2:
Reader 6:
What do you mean, destroy it? The meek are those who would rather
Reader 3: accept suffering than deny the good-
Look around you. ness of all life.
Reader 4: Chorus:
Look at the rainforests disappearing. The meek will inherit the earth.
Reader 3: Reader 2:
Look at the hole in the ozone. Who are the meek?
Reader 5: Reader 1:
Look at the industrial waste and the The meek are those who respect and
nuclear waste. value the environment.
Reader 3: Reader 1:
The meek will do with less or do with- Sometimes the poor accept pollution
out so that there will be enough for in their own area so that they can
others, both now and in the future. make cheaper products to sell to the
Reader 1: rich.
The meek know that the resources of Reader 3:
the earth have been given to everyone The meek will try to help the poor, not
for the good of all people. blame them.
Chorus: Chorus:
The meek will inherit the earth. The meek will inherit the earth.
Reader 2: Reader 1:
Who are the meek? The meek do not fight for themselves
Reader 3: over and against others. They know
The meek are the people who do not that in the order of creation, all people
take more than they need. They do not are interdependent.
waste the earth’s resources. Reader 1:
Reader 4: The meek know that we cannot sur-
The meek are those who give up their vive unless we learn to work together.
luxuries so that others may have what Chorus:
they need to survive. The meek will inherit the earth.
Reader 5: Reader 1:
The meek admit that the pollution in The meek believe in co-operation, but
poor areas may be the result of greed they do not use the lack of co-opera-
in rich areas. tion as an excuse for not acting.
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Reader 5: Reader 1:
They do not wait for others to act The meek are those who do not need
before taking action themselves. to surround themselves with the lat-
Reader 3: est, the fastest and the most powerful
The meek are those who will take of everything.
responsibility for their own actions Reader 3:
even when those actions seem minor The meek know that simplicity and
compared to the problems of the moderation must be a part of everyday
world. life if the earth is going to survive.
Reader 6: Chorus:
A meek person will not litter even in The meek will inherit the earth.
an area that is covered with litter. Reader 3:
Reader 5: The meek are those who do not need
A meek person will not buy products to control everything.
produced by companies with unjust Reader 6:
labour practices, even if the company The meek can see the beauty and the
will not be affected by the loss or gain goodness in the natural order of cre-
of one small purchase. ation, and they are willing to work
Reader 6: with it.
Meek people accept the fact that they Chorus:
might not be able to change the world The meek will inherit the earth.
but they can change themselves. Readers 1,3,4,5,6:
Chorus: Who are the meek?
The meek will inherit the earth.
B
ut ask the animals, and they will teach you;
the birds of the air, and they will tell you;
ask the plants of the earth, and they will teach you;
and the fish of the sea will declare to you.
Who among all these does not know that the hand of the LORD has done this?
In his hand is the life of every living thing and the breath of every human being.
Job 12.7-10
Key Ter ms
justice preferential option for the poor solidarity
compassion natural law conversion
love your neighbour as yourself meek necessity and luxury
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Unit 7
Be Honest
149
ticket, and now it was gone! She knew
she’d put it in the inside zipper compart-
ment of her bookbag, but it wasn’t there.
She knew there was no way it could have
fallen out accidentally. That meant some-
one had stolen it.
“NO!” Wyome threw her head back and
shrieked. Everybody turned to look at her,
but she was too upset to care. At this
moment it felt like a lot more than just a
concert ticket was missing from her bag.
Two months of her life were gone. A hope
and a dream had been stolen from her,
7.1 and along with them, her sense of control.
As she shook her empty bag, Wyome
mumbled, “I should have expected this. I
should have known better than to count
on anything or to plan for anything. The
world is full of thieves ready to take what-
When is it ever you have or whatever you’re hoping
for! You’d think I, of all people, would have
150 Be Honest
to her anger. “Somehow everyone thinks friend quickly picked up all the things that
that they can just copy the program from had been dumped on the floor, shoved them
their friends without paying for it. I’ll bet it back into the bookbag and ran after her.
never even occurs to most of them that
they’re stealing from our family.” Wyome Reflection Questions
swept her arm across the table and
1. Do you think Wyome overreacted? Why
knocked the remaining contents of her
or why not?
bookbag to the floor.
By this time everyone in the room was 2. Why does Wyome feel that more than
watching her. Without warning she turned just a ticket has been stolen?
around. Looking at everyone and no one 3. Do you think the thief has gained as much
and she yelled, “Thieves! Everywhere I go, as Wyome has lost? Why or why not?
everything I do, I find thieves! Which one 4. What is the overall cost to society when
of you stole my ticket? Which one of you something is stolen?
stole my mother’s work? Which one of you
stole my sister’s answers so that you could 5. Why does this incident remind Wyome of
get the scholarship she deserved? Which things that have happened to her par-
one of you....” ents? Were her parents victims of theft?
One of Wyome’s friends came up to her 6. Do you agree with Wyome’s statement
and tried to calm her down. Wyome shrug- that thieves are everywhere? Why or why
ged her off and left the study room. The not?
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A note from the editor: O F G R AV E C O N C E R N
This paper is a publication
all, if people did not person is blessed,
A
of the Guild of Thieves. It n article that
has three objectives: 1) to should be of lock their doors, it everyone is blessed.
help people to become grave concern would be easier for us In such a commu-
better thieves; 2) to pro- to most of our readers to take what we want- nity it would be
appeared recently in a ed. Then I realized
mote a deeper under- impossible to steal
Jesuit magazine. A that this kind of atti-
standing of and apprecia- from another person
religious educator tude can put an end
tion for the art of theft; 3) working with an Inuit to stealing. In a com- without stealing from
to make thieves aware of community in the munity that will not yourself. It would be
the issues that affect North reported this: lock its doors, the impossible to increase
them. Please stop wast- When asked what the needs of one person your own power by
ing my time by writing let- greatest sin was, the become the needs of increasing the weak-
ters to the editor that ask community said, all. In this kind of nesses of others. It
that theft and/or thieves “Locking your door.” community, people would be impossible
be condemned. They will At first I thought know that when one for a group like the
not be printed anyway. that this was great person suffers, every- Guild of Thieves to
news for thieves. After one suffers. When one exist.
T H I S W E E K I N H I S TO RY K E E P W H AT
We continue our anniversary celebration with another headline from the YOU FIND
past. This one is from 26 C.E.
THE SEVENTH member of the Guild respect and concern A thief who wishes
COMMANDMENT of Thieves. There are to remain anony-
for the rights and
R E A R S I T S U G LY two attitudes that mous (for obvious
property of others reasons) found a
HEAD AGAIN thieves depend on. than for their own. diamond engage-
The first is that When he said, “If
Galilee – A warning ment ring on the
“what’s mine is mine someone forces you to beach. He imme-
has been issued to all and I have absolute go one mile, go two,”
thieves to be wary of diately sold the
control over it.” The he probably meant ring to a jeweller
the influence of second is a lack of this: Roman soldiers and used the
Nazareth. respect for the prop- had the right to force money to buy a
Jesus continues to erty of others. anyone to carry their new computer
preach in the area Jesus’ words things for one mile. game. In an inter-
around the Sea of attack both of the Respect the soldier’s view with The
Galilee. Today he pro- attitudes on which we right and even give Robbers’ Weekly
claimed a sermon depend. Not only did him a little extra. If he said, “Too often
from a mountain near he tell people to stop everyone develops we overlook the
Capernaum. Many taking, he told them possibility of
that kind of respect
believe that what he to give instead! He serendipitous
and concern for oth-
said was too radical wanted them to step (arising from
for most people to fol- ers, theft will start to
back from their pos- disappear! We want to chance) stealing.
low, but others fear sessions and say, Whenever you find
the long-term effects hear things like, “Give
“Everything I have is something that
on the Guild of and do as little as
yours to share.” If has been lost,
Thieves. you can; even if there is a chance
people listen to him someone else has the
Jesus did not actu- and start sharing to steal. All you
right to something need to do is
ally quote the seventh everything they have,
you have, don’t give it nothing: Do noth-
commandment – “You some of the benefits
unless you have to.” ing that might
shall not steal.” But of stealing will be
he did say, “If anyone gone. Imagine that The Guild of make it easier for
wants to sue you and you, as a good thief, Thieves cannot exist the other person
take your coat, give want to take someone unless people decide to find the lost
your cloak as well; to court and legally to keep what they thing. Do not use
and if anyone forces rob him of as much have rather than the item in a way
you to go one mile, go as you can. When he share it or give it that brings good
also the second mile. says to you, “Oh, away. If theft is no to anyone but you
Give to everyone who don’t bother with the longer a way of gain- and your friends.
begs from you, and court. I’ll give you ing power over other Never publicize
do not refuse anyone whatever you think the fact that you
people, it will lose a
who wants to borrow you need,” you’ve lost have found some-
lot of its appeal. We thing, and never
from you.” (See some of your power repeat our warning:
Matthew 5.40-42.) over him. use what you
Beware of the influ- found to do some-
These words Jesus also called ence of Jesus of thing charitable.”
should scare every people to have more Nazareth!
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The Robbers’ Weekly — serving the art of theft for over 2000 years
UNEXPECTED HELP FROM have had. When people were being stopped by
are selfish, sloppy and the law, the quiet
T H E C AT H O L I C C H U R C H lazy, they steal from thieves have kept alive
change. Now we will the community by tak- many of the ideals and
A
id to the Guild of
not have to take ing away gifts that God attitudes needed for
Thieves has
responsibility for those wanted it to have. thievery to survive. Two
come from an
who have never lived Although sloppy or of these are “me first”
unexpected source. The
by our code of greed, lazy individuals may and “nobody can tell
Catechism of the
power and intimidation appear weak, in fact me what to do.”
Catholic Church gives a
definition of stealing but who simply took they have the strength It is worth noting
that has been very use- because they needed to destroy the commu- that, unlike other more
ful. It updates our to. No more rushing to nity. They have power direct forms of stealing,
support the man who because as long as they laziness and selfish-
charter and broadens
took a loaf of bread refuse to change, they ness cannot be con-
our self-understanding.
because his family had can stop the flow of trolled by law. They can
Here are some new
no food. No more gifts from God to the only be stopped if the
things on the list of community.
what is stealing: scrambling for a lawyer thief has a change of
for the woman who The Guild must heart. This alone would
• keeping things that think of a way to hon- be a good reason for
have been loaned to broke into an aban-
doned building and our and support these our guild to do all it
you or that you quiet thieves. When can to promote these
know someone else lived there because her
family had no shelter. more traditional thieves two traits.
has lost
• doing poor quality Adding “doing poor
work work” and “refusing to STEALING THE SHOW
share” to the catalogue
• wasting a lot of things that count as A group of west-side scheduled to begin
• spending too much stealing has broadened students promised to after the trip. All but
money the thinking of many donate their time to three students
• breaking a contract members of the Guild’s clean up a local park brought in excuses
• paying poor wages executive council. if all of the perfor- explaining why they
• damaging property According to the mances of the school could not take part
on purpose, and Catechism of the play were sold out. in the clean-up. The
• refusing to share Catholic Church, gifts The community three students who
your talents or your and talents have been turned out in record did not have excuses
possessions. given to individuals for numbers. An extra went to the park at
the good of all. performance was the scheduled time.
Here are two things
Individuals have a right even added. When they saw that
that have been taken
to private property, but The show itself they were the only
off the list:
private property must was a fundraiser for ones there, they left.
• taking things that be used for the good of
you urgently need, a big school trip. The The Guild will be
the community. When park clean-up was sending a letter of
and a person refuses to scheduled to begin commendation to the
• taking things that share his or her gifts, as soon as the trip students involved.
you really need or when a person gives was over. Of course, Breaking promises is
when this is the only far less than he or she softball, baseball, a kind of stealing
way of getting them. is capable of giving, the spring soccer and that is often over-
The Guild was quite community loses some- tennis were also looked.
relieved to see this thing that it should
A
t its meeting
last week, the arena the following
executive morning. When
council agreed that everyone had arrived,
those who buy the king brought
stolen goods should weasels into the
be let in to the arena and placed
Guild. There was portions of food in
some grumbling front of them. They
from delegates who took the food and
claimed that buyers carried it back to
take on none of the their holes. The king
risk of stealing and dismissed the people
SUCCESS IN THE WILD so did not deserve and told them to
the honour and priv- return at the same
The Guild of they camped. All of ileges of member- time the next day.
Thieves’ trip to the those who went on ship. The chairman
wilds was most the trip believe that On the second day
of the council told the king again
successful. Thieves they have taken the following Jewish
spraypainted graffi- something away brought the weasels
folktale to convince into the arena and
ti on many rocks from all future them:
and cliffs. They travellers to that placed food in front
were careful to area. They have “One day, a cer- of them. This time he
leave signs of their truly acted as tain king whose had all of the weasel
presence wherever thieves should act. kingdom was racked holes blocked. The
by thievery announ- weasels took the food
ced that from then and carried it back to
B E WA R E O F L O V E on, thieves would their holes just as
not be punished, but they had done the
The most danger- when those he or anyone who received day before. When
ous thing to a thief she loves are in stolen goods would they found that their
is love. As soon as need be killed. The citi- holes were blocked,
you start to love • may be tempted to zens of the kingdom however, they
someone, it do his or her best began to complain returned the food to
becomes hard to for the sake of that this was a the centre of the
think only of your- loved ones ridiculous and unfair arena.
self. A thief who • may develop a law that punished When all of the
loves others will habit of respect the innocent and let weasels had
have the following (and nothing is the guilty go free. returned with the
problems: more dangerous The king did not food, the king stood
• will be unable to than that for the respond to this com- and proclaimed, ‘If
take without giving future of thievery!) plaint. Instead, he there were no one to
• will feel bad about issued an order stat- receive stolen goods,
doing nothing ing that every person there would be no
in his kingdom theft.’”
154 Be Honest
The Robbers’ Weekly — serving the art of theft for over 2000 years
TA K I N G A D VA N TA G E O F N E E D
offered to help him if the free market. I can Although she wish-
N
ews has
reached us he gave her the charge whatever I es to remain anony-
about a young expensive backpack think you will pay. mous, this enterpris-
thief in *** who has he was carrying. At Since you are desper- ing young woman has
learned the art of first the man was ate, I think you will been nominated for a
profiting from the outraged and refused be willing to pay a Guild medal for
needs of others. Just her offer. But she lot.” The man gave “Excellence in Legal
last week, she was quickly pointed out her the pack. He also Robbery.” Taking
walking in the woods that he was in no gave her his watch in advantage of someone
when she came position to bargain. exchange for some of who is desperate in
across a man who She said, “It’s the law her water since he order to make a large
had hurt his leg and of supply and had drunk all of his profit is a high form
needed help. She demand, the law of while waiting for help. of robbery.
•
Stewardship and Prayer possessions and physical or mental abilities.
Many Christian churches have tithing as their
Deuteronomy 14.22 tells the Israelites to set custom. Members give to the church 10 per-
aside a full tithe – in other words, 10 percent – cent of all they earn for the work of God.
of all they produce. This tithe was to be used The sixth precept of the Church (see Unit 5,
for God and in celebration of God. It was to be Theme 2) reminds us that we cannot be faithful
used for the following things: in worship; to to God unless we share what we have with
support widows, orphans and others who had God’s people. It tells us to give generously of
no way to support themselves; and to support our time, our talents and our financial
the priests and Levites who served God and resources. Together, we are the Church. The
had no other support. Church needs our resources and talents to
The tithe reminded people that everything respond to the spiritual and physical needs of
they had came from God and belonged to God. people in the name of Christ.
We are the stewards (or caretakers), not the When we give to the Church and share our
owners, of the things we have. Everything there resources and talents with those in need, we
is belongs to God and is to be used to do God’s are offering a prayer of praise and thanksgiving
will. Malachi 3.8-10 makes it clear that anyone to God, who has given us so much.
who refuses to tithe, to give money to God’s St. John Chrysostom said, “Not to enable the
work, is robbing God and will suffer for it. poor to share in our goods is to steal from them
Anyone who does tithe is offering prayer and and deprive them of life.” St. Gregory the Great
praise to God and will be abundantly blessed. adds, “When we attend to the needs of those in
Tithing is not just an Old Testament notion. want, we give them what is theirs, not ours.
Today, too, we are called to give to the work of More than performing works of mercy, we are
the Church and to support God’s work on paying a debt of justice.”
earth. We are called to give back to God some A tithe is a commitment to honesty and jus-
of everything that we have – including material tice before God.
Most of us say that we want other people Tamara was a bit surprised at Scott’s
to be honest with us and we expect our response. She had anchored her boat
friends to be honest with us. However, almost half an hour before Scott. It seemed
according to a national survey taken in strange that she hadn’t noticed him rowing
1992, only 70 percent of teenagers in out a second anchor. “Oh, well,” she
Canada say that being honest is “very thought, “I was probably focused on orga-
important” to them. This is down from nizing things over here.”
85 percent in 1984.1
Tamara and Scott were both counsellors
in a marine studies program for inner-city
A Habit of Deceit kids. Each one was captaining a small
“You should go back and set a second boat carrying four students. Together with
anchor,” Tamara said to Scott as he rowed three other counsellors in three other
up alongside the dock. “The marine radio boats, they were teaching the kids about
is predicting a massive storm tonight.” weather, seamanship and marine ecology.
“I know, I heard that earlier,” Scott said. Tamara had been doing this for a few
“I put a second anchor out as soon as I got years. Scott was new this season. He made
here. You just can’t see it from here.” Tamara a bit uncomfortable, but she
couldn’t explain why. Since the kids
1
Reginald Bibby and Donald Posterski, Teen Trends: A Nation in seemed to like him, she didn’t say any-
Motion (Toronto: Stoddart Publishing Co., 1992), p. 19. thing to anyone.
156 Be Honest
“How come Scott got stuck with the real- “Then why didn’t he say that? Hey,
ly slow boat?” Sahil, one of the kids from Tamara, can I sleep on Barry’s boat?
Scott’s boat, asked as everyone gathered to Manuel and I are right in the middle of a
eat together. card game.”
“His boat’s not that slow. Maybe it’s his “No, Ezekiel. With a storm coming, we
crew,” Oleg, another counsellor, answered. need everybody on their own boats in case
“No way! Just ask him! That boat’s a of emergency,” Tamara explained. She was
tub! We had to motor halfway here just to grateful when Ezekiel didn’t try to push
catch up to you guys,” Sahil said. her any further.
Scott looked at Oleg and shrugged, The storm didn’t hit in full force until
“Another example of the landlubber’s four in the morning. Tamara was awak-
inability to judge time and distance. We ened by the rocking of the boat as it was
motored for about ten minutes. The wind lifted up and slammed down by enormous
behind Swan Island died just after the rest storm waves. She quickly put on her rain
of you rounded the point.” gear and life jacket and went out on the
“Scott, we had the engine on way past deck to check her anchors. Both were
that island,” Sahil insisted. holding well. She saw lights on the decks
of Oleg’s, Heidi’s and Barry’s boats, but
“Sahil,” Scott said, “remember when you
Scott’s was dark. She thought about call-
guys were guessing distances earlier
ing to him, but she knew her voice would
today? Remember how badly you did?
never carry over the wind. “The storm will
Trust me. We didn’t motor very far.”
wake him soon enough,” she thought.
Tamara backed Scott up. “The engines
on these boats are really small. They’re not Tamara sat on deck for a while, just
watching the shoreline to make sure her
much use except in emergencies or when
boat was not drifting. Then she went
the wind dies. It wouldn’t have made any
below. Just before six the storm quieted
sense for Scott to use the engine for a long
down and Tamara went out again. She
time. It would have just taken away the
checked her anchors. Both were holding
fun and challenge of sailing.”
tight. Then she looked around. Scott’s boat
Sahil gave Scott a strange look and was gone! She nearly panicked. Then she
walked away. Scott groaned. “Kids! I realized that it wasn’t gone, it had just
should have hung up when the boss called drifted and was moving toward the mouth
begging me to take this job.” of the cove. Scott had better wake up and
After dinner, the wind started to pick up do something before he drifted into open
and thunder could be heard in the dis- water. Tamara knew that yelling would be
tance. “Everybody back to your boats,” useless, so she blew a danger signal on
Oleg announced. “It’s time to batten down her fog horn. There was no response from
the hatches for this storm.” Scott’s boat, but Barry came up on his
“Say what?” Ezekiel asked. deck.
“Don’t worry, Ezekiel,” Tamara said. Tamara pointed to Scott’s boat. “We’d
“Oleg’s just trying to sound like an old better go get it,” she said. Barry nodded.
sailor. He just wants everybody and every- Tamara climbed into her dinghy and rowed
thing under cover before this storm hits.” over to pick up Barry. Then the two of
7.2 Why tell the truth when a lie will do? 157
blown into those rocks,” Tamara yelled.
Barry was already doing just that. Barry
sailed the boat back into the cove as
Tamara hauled in the anchor (one anchor
– Scott had clearly lied about the second
one) and got ready to anchor the boat
again.
Only after the boat was secure again did
she think to ask, “Where are Scott and the
kids?”
“My guess is the kids convinced Scott to
let them sleep on Oleg’s boat, and Scott
decided to spend the night on shore. I
think he knows someone who lives around
here.”
Tamara looked around. Sure enough,
she could see Sahil leaning over the edge
them rowed as hard as they could to catch
of Oleg’s boat trying to fish something out
Scott’s boat before it drifted beyond the
of the water. “Well, I’m going to get a little
shelter of the cove.
more sleep,” she said. “See you on shore in
“Scott! Scott!” They both started to holler about an hour.”
as soon as they thought he might hear, but
An hour and a half later, Tamara and
there was no response. “Scott!!” They
her crew joined the others on the shore for
pulled the dinghy alongside the sailboat
breakfast. As Tamara walked over to the
and climbed aboard. No one was there!
fire she heard Heidi say, “Scott, why is
“We’d better get the motor started,” your boat in a different place? Did you
Barry said. “Fifty more yards of drifting drift during the storm?”
and we won’t be sheltered by land any- “Yeah, I guess my anchor must have
more. Once the wind really catches us been caught on a rock instead of on the
we’re in trouble if we don’t have some bottom. I had to reanchor in the middle of
power of our own.” Barry moved to the the night. It was pretty freaky,” Scott
back of the boat to start the engine. Then answered.
he began to swear. “I can’t believe this!
There’s no fuel in his tank! Sahil must Tamara couldn’t believe what she was
have been right. He must have motored for hearing!
ages! We’re in big trouble!” “That’s funny,” Oleg said. “It looked an
awful lot like Tamara and Barry sailing
Tamara didn’t say anything. She was
that boat in this morning.”
busy unfolding the mainsail. Barry took
the tiller as she hauled up the sail. They Scott just gave him a strange look and
barely got it up before a gust of wind walked away.
caught it and sent the boom flying across “You know,” Oleg said, “I think Scott
the boat. “Bring her about before we get actually believed that he had reanchored
158 Be Honest
that boat! I think he’s lied so often that he They believe they are already free. Jesus
doesn’t even know he’s doing it anymore. says they are mistaken. They are not free;
My dad used to say that the way we com- in fact, they are slaves to sin. He explains
municate is as much a matter of habit as to them that anyone who has sinned has
anything else. I always figured that was his become a slave to sin. Sin blinds the sin-
way of getting us to be polite. I never ner to the truth. Without a clear under-
thought he meant anything like this!” standing of the truth, a person can’t help
sinning again.
Reflection Questions Jesus helps sinners to see and under-
1. What is your reaction to Scott at various stand the truth again. He gives them what
points in the story? they need to avoid sin in the future. The
2. What would you do if you were working truth that Jesus reveals is not a list of
with someone like Scott? facts; it is an understanding, “written on
3. How common do you think it is for lying our hearts,” of the way that God wants us
to become a habit? Under what condi- to be. This truth is about love and loving
tions is it most likely to happen? relationships. It is about what we must do
to be one with others and one with God. If
4. Explain how other things such as mak- we listen to the truth that Jesus speaks
ing excuses, boasting and always apolo- and follow his example of love, we will
gizing can destroy true communication if know the truth of ourselves. We will know
they become habits. what it means to be the people God creat-
5. Can people lie so often that they no ed us to be. And we will be free.
longer know they are doing it? What can
be done if this happens?
Truth and Dignity
6. What do you think will happen to Scott?
Why? Truthfulness is needed for community. As
St. Thomas Aquinas said, “[People] could
not live with one another if there were not
Truth and Freedom mutual confidence that they were being
All truth comes from God, and whatever truthful to one another.” Community
comes from God is true. God’s truth is depends on mutual respect, and respect
revealed to us in Scripture and in creation, requires honesty. If we respect and value
but above all, in Jesus. Jesus is the truth our own dignity, we will be truthful in
that has come to live among us. If we expressing what we know, what we believe
believe in Jesus and listen to him, we will and who we are. If we respect the dignity
know the truth. We will understand the of other people, we will try not to deceive
world as God intends us to do. We will also them.
be able to relate to the world as God wants Humans have dignity because we are
us to do. If we follow Jesus’ example, we created in the image and likeness of God.
will know the truth, and the truth will set We value, protect and nourish that dignity
us free. (See John 8.32.) when we let God’s image shine through us.
When Jesus tells the pharisees that the God is always true, so letting God shine
truth will set them free, they are confused. through us means we must be truthful.
7.2 Why tell the truth when a lie will do? 159
when what we say will affect what others do.
In some situations, people must tell the
truth, but they do not have to tell every-
thing they know. The right to know the
truth does not always mean the right to
know every truth. People do not have a
right to know anything private about some-
one unless knowing would serve the com-
mon good. No one has to tell the truth to
someone who has no right to have it. The
best thing to do would be just to avoid
answering any question like that.
Some people, such as doctors, lawyers
and priests, must keep private information
private. This is usually protected by the
Another way we value, protect and nourish law. Anything told to them in confidence
human dignity is by seeing God in one can almost never be told to another person
another. God always knows the truth, so without the permission of the one who told
seeing God in others means not deceiving it. The right to the truth means living free
them. from lies; it does not mean the right to
When we are not truthful, we insult and know everything.
hurt our own dignity and the dignity of The eighth commandment calls us to
others. We also insult and deny God. Most know that truthfulness is always good. It
of us do not lie if we believe we will be says that the best thing to do is to be
caught; we tend to lie only when we think truthful unless there are good reasons not
no one will find out. If we act as if no one to be. What are good reasons not to reveal
will catch us in our lie, we deny or deliber- the truth? Here are some:
ately forget God’s presence. When we lie, • when doing so will needlessly harm an
we are always “caught” by God. individual or take away his or her right
to privacy
The Right to the Truth • when doing so may be dangerous or
Ephesians 4.25 says, “So then, putting destructive, or
away falsehood, let all of us speak the truth • when it breaks a confidence.
to our neighbours, for we are members of In these cases, the person who knows
one another.” Because we are all members the truth must weigh the costs and bene-
of the one body of Christ, we have a duty to fits of telling or keeping the secret. Will
share the truth with one another so that all speaking or keeping silent be an act of love
of us may benefit from it. that will serve the common good? This is
People have a right to know the truth so what the person must decide. A person
they can make sound decisions or act in a who decides not to reveal the truth should
more loving way. We must tell the truth not lie but simply say nothing.
160 Be Honest
What Is Untruthful? Gossiping or spreading rumours to
make another person look bad is also
Lying is the most obvious and direct way of untruthful. Gossip tends to make other
denying or distorting the truth. Lying is try- people appear as less than God created
ing on purpose to make people act different- them to be. Rumours often take respect
ly than if they had known the truth. A lie is away from people. Judging someone by
more serious if it leads others to do things unproven rumours ignores his or her dig-
that are wrong or dangerous. Although a lie nity and the truth.
is seen as a mortal sin only when it is We know that God’s truth is revealed in
unloving on purpose or when it leads to Scripture, creation and Jesus. When we
injustice, all lies are sinful. All lies take accept or do something that goes against
away trust and tear at the fabric of society. God, that denies the goodness of creation,
What else is untruthful? Boasting and or that goes against the teaching and
bragging are. So are flattery, praise and example of Jesus, we are denying the truth
even silence in response to sinful acts. If and being dishonest.
we know that someone is being mean or
destructive and we encourage this, we are
being untruthful. Our actions say, “What
you are doing is okay.”
7.2 Why tell the truth when a lie will do? 161
Unit 7 Summary Statements
• Honesty is a virtue. It is a necessary part • When we own something, we are merely
of respect for God. We have to develop stewards. Each of us must use the things
honest habits if we wish to have a strong we own so that they benefit not only our-
relationship with God and with people in selves, but also the common good.
God’s community. When we are honest • The eighth commandment states: “You
about property, we will respect that all of shall not bear false witness against your
creation belongs to God. When we com- neighbour.” Truthfulness is the foundation
municate in an honest way, we respect the of all trusting relationships. It is necessary
truth, which has its source in God. Unless for community. When we are untruthful,
we respect God’s truth we will be unable we insult and hurt our own dignity and the
to tell the difference between good and dignity of others. We also insult and deny
evil. God.
• The seventh commandment – “You shall • All truth comes from God, and whatever
not steal” – forbids us to unjustly take or comes from God is true. God’s truth is
keep our neighbours’ goods or to wrong revealed in Scripture and in creation, but
our neighbours in any way to do with their above all in Jesus. We will know the truth
goods. It also demands that we give others if we follow Jesus.
all that is due to them – giving what we • Charity (love) and respect for the truth
have promised, giving high quality work to should help us decide how to answer any
those who pay us, and so on. request for information.
• We believe in the right to property; how- • All of the following may be seen as break-
ever, property must always be used for the ing the eighth commandment: lying; boast-
common good. ing and bragging; flattery, praise or silence
• All people have a right to get what they in response to sinful actions; gossiping,
need to survive. People’s basic needs spreading rumours and making judgements
always come first. on the basis of rumours or gossip.
Key Ter ms
seventh and eighth truthfulness stealing
commandments the right to know the truth stewardship
the right to property confidentiality tithing
162
Unit 8
Be Generous
163
8.1
Do I have a heart
of gold?
164 Be Generous
Gold is beautiful and malleable and it to “show mercy on their children and help
doesn’t tarnish and corrode easily. For this them end their suffering.” It was clear that
reason, gold has been used as the stan- this lawyer thought that suffering made a
dard of value in many different cultures for life worthless. What’s more, she seemed to
thousands of years. It has even been used think that a parent’s “right” to spare his or
as a standard for measuring people. We her child from pain was more important
talk about people being “worth their weight than the child’s right to life.
in gold” or having “hearts of gold.” Grace longed to call up the radio station
A person who has “a heart of gold” is and shout at the woman, “What do you
very loving and generous and doesn’t make know about suffering? What do you know
a big deal about it. The person’s heart is about watching a child die? What do you
pure, like 24 karat gold. It is like gold in know about real mercy?” She longed to,
that it can bend and stretch to meet the but she didn’t. Instead, she walked into
needs of others. It does not tarnish, cor- the bedroom to read another story to her
rode or break in tough conditions. People son, her oldest son, Gary, who had been
with hearts of gold have used the hard suffering for so long and now was dying.
times in their lives not to harden their It was hard for Grace to remember a
hearts, but to purify them and make them time when Gary hadn’t been in pain. Some
softer. This lets them respond to others days he would scarcely be able to move
with even greater love. without crying. Other days he would seem
There is no easy or quick way to purify to ignore the pain as he laughed and
gold. There is no easy or quick way to played simple games with his younger
purify our hearts so that they become brothers. But Grace knew that even on the
hearts of gold, either. If we wish to have good days, if she watched Gary closely she
hearts of gold, we must learn to stop would see him grimace every few minutes
thinking of ourselves first. We must as one of the “stabbing pains” shot
respond to others with generosity and joy. through his body.
We must learn to do this without calling Lately, there had been very few of the
attention to ourselves: to be generous and good days and lots of the bad ones. It had
modest at the same time. been months since Gary had been able to
play with his brothers for more than a few
minutes. It was agony to watch, but Grace
One Last Gift knew that even with the pain, Gary’s life
Grace wanted to throw something at the was a tremendous gift to the family. Gary
radio. Once again some self-righteous per- had taught them all so much about look-
son was spouting off about “mercy killing” ing out instead of in. Gary rarely felt sorry
and death with dignity. Some hotshot for himself, and he never used his illness
lawyer was talking about how cruel and to justify unloving behaviour.
unjust it was to expect parents to just Grace saw a love for life in everything
watch their child suffer when there was no Gary did. No matter how much he had
hope that things would get better. Grace been through in a day, his eyes would
seethed with anger as the woman on the sparkle when his little brothers came in the
radio said that parents should be allowed room, and he would think of a way to make
166 Be Generous
parents,” Tim said. “He was the one who Then one year, late in October, Old Nick
taught us how to give, and he is the one had a massive heart attack. On Halloween
who will keep on giving.” day he was in the hospital with tubes and
wires all around. His family had come to
visit. They were worried; the doctors had
Do You Smoke? made it clear that Nick’s chances of pulling
Old Nick Supple’s house was everyone’s through weren’t very good. Nick was the
favourite on Halloween. Every year, a few only one who was calm. He said, “This old
days before Halloween, Old Nick would carve heart has worked hard and given me a
a magnificent jack-o-lantern and put it on good life. If it wants to quit now I can’t
his front porch. Then, at 5:00 exactly on really complain.”
trick-or-treat night, he would light the can- His family kept asking if they could do
dle in the pumpkin and open his front door. something for him, bring him music or
When kids came to the door, Old Nick books on tape or rent him a movie.
would get up from his rocking chair, pull “There’s only one thing I want,” Nick told
an old felt hat down over one eye and them. “Promise that you’ll go back to the
shuffle to the door. (Mind you, he walked house and hand out the chocolate cigars.
without even the hint of a shuffle every I know the kids count on them, and I can’t
other day of the year.) He’d open the door, bear the thought of disappointing them. In
and in a gravelly voice he’d say, “So, kid, fact, this year give every kid two.”
do you smoke?” One of the nurses in the hospital over-
heard Nick’s comments. She repeated it to
New kids were always taken aback. They
the other nurses in the cafeteria, adding,
never knew what they should answer, but
“That old man must have a heart of gold.”
the old kids were always prepared. They
would shout, “Only the finest cigars!” Of course, any of the kids in the neigh-
bourhood could have told her that.
Then Nick would say, “Well, you’re in
luck, because that’s just what I have here.”
And out would come a box of expensive
chocolate cigars all wrapped in red and
gold foil. Each kid was allowed one cigar.
There were always a few kids who would
try to come back for a second one. But
somehow Old Nick always seemed to spot
them. He’d come to the door with the box
of cigars in his hand. Then he’d take one
out, unwrap it slowly and stick it in the
corner of his mouth. With a drawl he’d
say, “I don’t approve of heavy smokin’.
At this establishment you’re only served
once.” No one else gave out such good
candy, and no one else made getting the
candy so much fun!
168 Be Generous
Just before I went to my next class I Scripture Commentary and
said to Cyrah, “Thanks for listening and
talking. You really understand. Did you’re
Background Information
parents get divorced, too?”
Luke 6.32-38
“No.” She shook her head. “I guess I’m
lucky that way.” The “Sermon on the Plain” (Luke 6.17-49)
is a lot like the “Sermon on the Mount”
Later I was telling my friend Latoya
found in Matthew 5.1–7.29. In this “ser-
about how much better Cyrah had made
me feel. Latoya said, “I can never get over mon,” Jesus sums up many of his teach-
how sympathetic she is to other people. I ings. He challenges all who hear him to
would be so bitter if I were her.” think about their faith and their actions in
a new way. Jesus says that God judges
“Why?” I asked. people not just on their actions, but also
“Didn’t you know? She’s a refugee from on why they act the way they do. He tells
Uganda. Her dad was kidnapped and bru- people that if all the good things they do
tally killed. She and her mom escaped bring them rewards right away, they can-
across the border to a refugee camp, but not claim to be doing those things out of
then her mom died of some disease. She the goodness of their hearts. They should
lived on her own in the camp for a while, not expect God to be impressed by and
then some relatives adopted her and reward them for their goodness, either.
brought her here.”
God rewards the kind of goodness that
“She never said any of that!” comes from within. God is impressed by
“She never does,” Latoya said. “I only the kind of love and generosity that do not
know because my church helped sponsor change even if they are not appreciated or
her to come into the country.” deserved. Jesus tells his listeners that God
That really made me stop and think. is moved by people who act as God acts,
Cyrah was so sympathetic when I told her showing love and mercy even to those who
about my parents’ split! She didn’t criticize have not earned it. Jesus is echoing the
me when I said it wasn’t fair, even though words of Moses, who told the Israelites
her life was a lot less fair. She never once that their attitude toward others must be
said anything about how I should be glad I like God’s (Deuteronomy 10.17-19).
had parents. She just listened and offered
sympathy. Mark 7.18-23
Me, I’m a person who’s always compar- The Pharisees and scribes were question-
ing myself to everyone else and comparing ing Jesus. They wanted to know why his
everyone else to me. I have a lot of sympa- followers did not do all of the purification
thy for people who are going through stuff rituals. The Pharisees followed scrupulous-
that’s as bad as what I’ve been through or ly (very carefully and precisely) all the
worse, but I’m usually jealous or impatient practices of Judaism. This was an impor-
with people who have it a lot better than tant part of keeping their religious identity
me. I think I’m pretty typical that way. I while they were living under Roman rule.
wonder how my life would be different if The purification rituals were one of the
my attitude was more like Cyrah’s. things that separated the Jews from the
Matthew 6.1-4
The trumpet was used often during wor-
ship in Jesus’ day. Three trumpet blasts
signalled the opening of the temple gates in
the morning; nine blasts were sounded at
both the morning and the evening sacri-
fices. The trumpet was used to call people
to worship and to direct them during wor-
ship. Blowing the trumpet told people that
something important was about to happen.
It was also seen as an act of prayer in
itself. The trumpet reminded God of the
covenant with Israel.
We are not sure how the trumpet was
linked to almsgiving in Jesus’ day. Many
scholars believe that the trumpet was
“pagans” around them. These rituals made sounded in the Temple whenever some-
it clear that the Jews had a different atti- one gave a very large offering to encour-
tude toward life. They were a sign of holi- age other people to do the same. Those
ness and commitment to the covenant with who gave the large offerings were then
God. This is why the pharisees saw the rit- invited to sit among the rabbis as a sign
uals as very important. of honour.
A person who was defiled was separated Jesus is concerned that both the alms-
from God or from God’s people. The phar- giving and the trumpet blowing have lost
isees believed that Jews who broke the their meaning as offerings to God. He
rules about ritual purity were turning their thinks they have become more ways to
backs on God and the covenant and thus gain prestige. He tells people to give in
separating themselves from God. That’s secret to be sure that their motives are
why the Pharisees said that anyone who pure.
broke the purity rules was defiled.
Jesus tells the Pharisees that the purifi- Matthew 6.5-6
cation rituals are signs and reminders of Adult Jewish males were expected to pray
their relationship with God, but they do in the morning and the evening, three
not make or break that relationship. A per- times during the day (facing toward
son’s relationship with God depends on Jerusalem and the Temple), and before
how well he or she keeps the command- and after meals. At these times, people
ments to love God and neighbour. A person would stop what they were doing and turn
does not get separated from God by eating toward Jerusalem to offer prayer. Jesus
the wrong foods or by using the wrong encourages his followers to go to a quiet
170 Be Generous
place for their times of prayer. Then they and Holy Saturday. As we fast, we should
may be sure that the prayer will be direct- keep in mind Jesus’ teachings. We should
ed toward God and not just be a show of also consider the words of Pope Leo the
holiness for others. Great, who said, “Our fast is not mere
When Jesus tells people to pray in their abstinence from food; it does not profit
rooms, he is not telling them to stop pray- unless the mind is drawn back from
ing in the Temple and the synagogues with wrong-doing and the tongue restrained
other people. He is telling them that their from harmful words.” A true fast changes
private prayer, the prayer that is just our hearts, not our appearance.
between them and God, should be done in
Matthew 6.19-21
private. Jesus goes to the synagogue and
the Temple to join in the prayer of the Jewish writings often compared keeping
community, and he encourages his follow- God’s law to storing treasure in heaven.
ers to pray as a community after he is When we put God first in our lives, we are
gone. doing the only thing that can ever give us
lasting happiness and security. Things
Matthew 6.16-18 that we own can always break or be taken
from us. All we have to do is pay attention
Fasting was an important part of Jewish to the natural world and we will see that
life. On the Day of Atonement, the whole physical things do not last forever. As St.
community would fast. Many people would Paul says in 1 Corinthians 13.13, the only
also fast on other days as part of their things that last forever are faith, hope and
prayer. The pharisees fasted twice a week.
Fasting was seen as an act of mourning
for one’s sins and an act of penitence and
humility. Therefore, many people would
dress and act like mourners when they
were fasting. They would not wash or
anoint themselves. Instead, they would
sprinkle their heads with ashes, put on
sackcloth and try to look sad. Jesus said
that all these outward signs did was
attract attention to the one who was fast-
ing. (The original text in Greek uses a play
on words, saying that the hypocrites make
their faces unrecognizable so that they will
receive recognition.)
Fasting is a way of turning one’s mind
and heart back to God. It should be done
joyfully!
The fifth precept of the Church instructs
Catholics to fast and abstain from meat on
certain days: Ash Wednesday, Good Friday
172 Be Generous
• Modest people treat their bodies, their show off. How does doing these things
thoughts, their emotions, their relation- affect their relationships?
ships and their faith with respect. 3. Give three examples of how the human
• They don’t put down or show off any body and/or intimate relationships are
aspect of who they are. exploited in our culture.
• Modest people also treat the bodies, 4. How can people your age develop the
thoughts, emotions, relationships and strength to resist advertisements that try
faith of others with respect. to make them feel like they’re not good
• They do not try to find out or reveal enough?
things that other people have a right to 5. Name three ways that people call atten-
keep private. tion to themselves or to others in a way
• When they see the human body and inti- that keeps people from seeing God’s
mate relationships being exploited in our image in them or tempts people to forget
culture, they reject this behaviour. God’s will.
• They have the strength to resist adver- 6. Why do modest people tend to have
tisements that try to make them feel like stronger relationships?
they’re not good enough.
• Modest people do not call attention to Modesty and Generosity
themselves or to others in a way that To be truly generous, we must also be
keeps others from seeing God’s image in truly modest. When we are truly modest,
them or tempts people to forget God’s we realize that God has entrusted us with
will. precious gifts. When we have only a false
When people are modest, their relation- modesty, we forget that what we have
ships tend to be stronger. They are not comes from God and is part of God’s plan
embarrassed by one another; they are for creation. We forget that what we have
patient and loving even when the other must be valuable because it belongs to
person makes a mistake. They accept the God. False modesty looks upon all that we
physical, emotional and spiritual gifts that have as if it came only from ourselves and
others have without comparing them to therefore is not important in the large
some cultural ideal. They are also able to scheme of things. With false modesty, we
share their gifts without implying either do not value enough what we have to give.
that the gifts are not worth much or that As a result, giving takes very little of us
the gifts make them better people. and cannot be seen as generous. People
who are truly modest know that what they
Reflection Questions have to give is very valuable. And yet, they
give it freely without expecting or seeking
1. Give three examples of ways people show attention or praise.
respect for their bodies, their thoughts
and their emotions.
2. Name two common ways that people
your age put themselves down. Name
two common ways that people your age
174 Be Generous
8.2
How do I get
satisfaction?
The Song of the Dissatisfied day for the past week I’d been at the market
looking for work. I’d seen a few vineyard
(an old nursery rhyme) owners come in and hire day labourers, but
Oh, that I were it’s not a good year for grapes and nobody’s
Where I would be, been hiring as many people as usual. There
Then would I be are a lot more workers than there are jobs
Where I am not; so, of course, it’s always the youngest and
But where I am the strongest who are hired. A man like me,
There I must be, tired out from caring for a family of eight,
And where I would be just doesn’t have a chance.
I cannot. The problem, of course, has been that the
money is running out, and with it many of
Enough to Survive the things we need to survive. This morning
(a retelling of Matthew 20.1-16) there wasn’t even enough food for breakfast.
I really began to wonder what would hap-
As soon as the sky began to lighten, I was pen to us if I wasn’t hired soon. At 6:00
awakened by the squawking of the chickens. a.m. some vineyard owners came in looking
I dressed quickly, said my morning prayers for day labourers. Clusters of people crowd-
and hurried down to the marketplace. I ed around each one of them. I joined the
prayed that I would be hired today. Every smallest crowd, hoping that would increase
176 Be Generous
The people who were hired at the begin- As usual, I was one of the first people
ning of the day were really angry. They were hired. The owner of one of the biggest vine-
given a full day’s wage just as they had yards saw me and offered me the standard
been promised when they were hired, but day’s wage. I agreed to it quite happily.
they were mad because we had been given I worked hard all day. I noticed that more
the same amount. I guess they don’t think and more workers kept joining our work crew
our families deserve to eat. Or maybe they as the day went on. That was unusual. Most
were jealous because while they were in the employers hire people for the whole day or not
vineyard, we were going from employer to at all. It was interesting, but it really didn’t
employer in the marketplace, looking for make much difference to me. I had the same
work and having our hopes dashed. You amount of work to do no matter how many
would think that people would be happy other people were working in other places.
that everyone was given as much as they At the end of the day, all of us gathered to
need, but no, some people are unhappy receive our pay just as we usually do. The
because they weren’t given extra. It’s funny, vineyard manager first paid the three old
you never hear that group say that it’s guys who had only worked an hour. I was
unfair that they should get the best jobs close enough to hear how much he gave
day after day, and go home with plenty them – a full day’s wage! “Not bad for an
while we have nothing. It’s only unfair when hour’s worth of work,” I thought. “I’ll bet it’s
we go home with something, too. The real the first time in ages the three of them have
problem is they think they’re worth more as been able to bring home much to their fami-
human beings than we are. lies.” Then I started calculating how much I
would get for working a full day.
The Best Deserve the Best When the manager called me forward I
(another retelling of Matthew 20.1-16) was pretty excited. Then I was pretty angry!
I got exactly the same amount as the three
I arrived at the marketplace just before old guys!
dawn, just like I do every morning. I like to
“I paid you what I said I would,” the
be there when the first of the vineyard own-
owner said when I complained.
ers come in looking for day labourers. The
owners of the biggest vineyards often come “Yeah! But you paid them the same
in first. I’m hoping that some day one of amount and they did next to nothing! This
them will hire me as a permanent worker. isn’t fair.”
“Did you or did you not agree to work for
Anyway, I was in the market a little before
this amount this morning?”
6:00 a.m. There were a lot of other people
there, too. There was no way all of us would “I did, but... “
be hired. There just aren’t enough jobs to go “Did you or did you not think it was a fair
around this year. But some people never wage?”
want to admit that they’ve been beaten; they “I thought it was fair. I was even happy
come out here every day even though they’ll to get it. But that was before I knew you
never find work. Personally, I don’t have to were going to give the same amount to
worry. I always get hired. I’m big and strong. these others.”
I dress better than a lot of these other guys, “Do you really dislike these three so
too. An owner looks at me and knows that I much that you think their families should
will work hard and take pride in my work. starve?” the owner asked me.
178 Be Generous
This is the kind of happiness that St. Paul the secret of being well-fed and of going
writes about in his letter to the Philippians. hungry, of having plenty and of being in
He says, “I have learned to be content with need. I can do all things through him who
whatever I have. I know what it is to have strengthens me. (Philippians 4.11-13)
little, and I know what it is to have plenty.
In any and all circumstances I have learned
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commandments generosity
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182 Be Forgiving
things right. We stop rejecting them, even if How Can I Forgive?
we don’t welcome them with open arms.
In speaking about the importance of forgiv-
Why Forgive? ing one another, the Catechism of the
Jesus tells the story of a servant who owed Catholic Church says, “It is not in our
a lot of money to his master. (See Matthew power not to feel or to forget an offense.”
18.23-35.) The servant could not pay what (#2843) The Catechism goes on to say that
he owed, so he went to the master and what we can do is offer our hearts to the
begged for mercy. The master took pity on Holy Spirit. The Spirit will help us turn our
him and said he did not have to pay. hurt into compassion and help us to pray
It happened that this same servant was for the one who has hurt us. The Spirit can
owed a much smaller amount by a second help us see that people who act in hurtful
servant. When the second servant begged ways need our prayers. Their lives are mov-
for a little extra time to pay the debt, the ing them away from God and away from
first said no. He had the second servant true happiness.
thrown into jail. The story ends with the The kind of forgiving attitude that Jesus
master punishing the first servant for not calls us to have must come from the heart.
forgiving. After telling the story, Jesus It is not something that we can develop
restates its message so that no one will overnight. Even if we decide today to be
miss it: If we wish to be forgiven, we must more forgiving, it will take time before we
be willing to forgive others. feel only love and understanding toward
Love is not something that can be cut into anyone who hurts us. Becoming a forgiving
pieces. Love for God and love for other peo- person is a lifelong process. If we want to be
ple is part of a single whole. “Those who say, more forgiving, we should begin by praying
‘I love God,’ and hate their brothers or sis- for a closer relationship with God. Then,
ters, are liars; for those who do not love a whenever someone hurts us, we should ask
brother or sister whom they have seen, can- God to guide us in our response and to give
not love God whom they have not seen” (1 us the strength and the courage to respond
John 4.20). We cannot love God if we don’t in a loving way. Over time, it will seem more
love other people. When we harden our natural to us to respond with love rather
hearts to other people, we harden our hearts
than with hate, and with a desire for posi-
to God. Each time we refuse to forgive
tive change rather than for revenge.
another person, we harden our hearts. Then
it becomes hard or even impossible for God’s Once we have found it in our hearts to
forgiveness and healing love to touch us. forgive a person who has hurt us badly, we
When we forgive others, our hearts may not feel all “warm and fuzzy” inside.
become soft enough for us to receive love Forgiveness is a decision, not an emotion.
and forgiveness. When we accept others, we When we forgive other people, we make a
can experience God’s total acceptance of us. personal commitment to respect them and
Each time we pray the Lord’s Prayer, we ask desire what is good for them even though
God to forgive us in the same way that we we can see their faults. Those faults may
forgive other people. When we don’t forgive keep making us unhappy or uncomfortable.
another person, we suffer. Forgiving some- But they will no longer blind us to the good
one frees us from the destructive power of that is there or make it impossible for us to
hate and anger. love.
184 Be Forgiving
this ongoing harassment. That’s why I joke. Lisa had had the can of Cheese Whiz
decided to talk to Ms. Bandamo, one of my and Tonia had dared her to fill someone’s
teachers. locker with it. They thought I’d be a good
Ms. Bandamo listened to everything I target because I was new and they didn’t
said, then she talked to the principal. The really know me. Besides, they said, I was
principal said that all of us – me and Lisa “funny” when I got mad.
and Tonia, the two girls who were responsi- Then the mediators asked me to talk
ble for the Cheese Whiz – should go to peer about how I felt. I talked a bit about what it
mediation. That was a new experience for was like to be new in a school and to have
me. It’s what made me think there might be people always testing you to see how you’ll
some hope for a new kid. react. When I started talking it was hard
I was allowed to choose one friend who not to yell or to cry. I hated those girls so
would go through the whole mediation much I didn’t want to talk nicely to them. I
process with me. Lisa and Tonia were also don’t think I could have done it if Susan
allowed one friend each. Our “case” was hadn’t been with me. The more I talked,
assigned to two Grade 10 peer mediators. though, the easier it got.
The peer mediators met with my friend When I was done, the mediators asked
Susan and me alone. I told them about Lisa and Tonia about their feelings. They
what had happened and how I felt. Then were really angry at me for “ratting on
they met with Lisa and Tonia and heard them.” I asked what other choices I had. I’d
their story. Then they met with Lisa, Tonia already asked them to stop bugging me.
and me and our three friends all at the They admitted that they didn’t know what
same time. else I could have done that would have
We met in a small room with just a table worked, but they still thought ratting was
and chairs. There were no teachers with us; “low.” I asked why I should have to put up
the two Grade 10s were in charge. They with bullying. That took them back a bit. I
explained the rules. Everything we said was don’t think they’d ever thought of them-
to be kept strictly confidential. There was to selves as bullies. They both said that there
be no yelling, no swearing, no name calling,
no physical violence and no interrupting.
We were not expected to become friends
during the mediation sessions. We were
there to find ways of dealing with the situa-
tion so that everyone felt like they had been
treated fairly and so this kind of thing
would not happen again.
At first all of us just glared at each other.
The peer mediators asked some questions
about what had happened. At first Lisa and
Tonia tried to claim that they hadn’t done
anything. But I guess they had told the peer
mediators a different story earlier. After a
little while they admitted that they had
done it. When the peer mediators asked
why, they said that it was mostly just a
186 Be Forgiving
mediation with me, some of their other here on his own. The trick was to turn your
friends have been harassing me. It hasn’t bike in the air just before you landed so that
been anything really serious, but every so you’d hit the track on the other side at the
often when someone passes me they squeak right angle. Ouray flew through the air over
like a rat. Or if someone bumps against me the ditch, wrenched his body and his bike to
in the hall, Lisa and Tonia’s friends will say, one side and made a perfect landing.
“Well, I guess you’ll be getting a call to peer Darren circled back to try the same trick.
mediation.” It’s a nuisance, but it’s nothing He succeeded, but barely. “I want to try
compared to the kind of harassment that that a few more times.”
was happening before, so I still think peer “Sorry, man,” Ouray said, “I have to go. I
mediation is worth trying. promised I’d be back before six.”
“No problem. I’ll just practise on my
Reflection Questions own,” Darren answered. “See you tomor-
1. Which of the people in this story could row.” He drove his bike through the wide
you identify with? Why? part of the ditch to get into position to jump
2. Do you think the person telling the story again. Ouray headed for home.
forgave Lisa and Tonia? Do you think they Just before he drove into the woods,
forgave her? Why or why not? Ouray looked back to see how Darren was
3. Do you think that the “solution” of eating doing. He was just in time to see a group of
together once a week was likely to pro- older kids jump Darren. Ouray turned to go
mote forgiveness? Why or why not? help. But there were five of the older kids
4. What do you think would have happened and they were all big. Ouray knew that he
without the peer mediation process? How and Darren alone wouldn’t stand a chance.
do you think the person telling the story He turned his bike again and raced full
would have felt? speed to get more help.
5. In what situations do you think peer A little while later he came tearing back
mediation could help promote forgive- through the woods with five more friends.
ness? They met Darren limping along, pushing his
bike. He looked bad. Ouray felt like a jerk.
6. What difference do you think forgiveness He couldn’t get the feeling out of his head
makes in situations like this one? that he had betrayed his friend. A little
7. Why are Lisa and Tonia’s friends still voice inside him was yelling, “You’re nothing
harassing the person telling the story? but a coward. You could have helped him
8. What do you think Jesus would say to the but you were too scared. What kind of jerk
people in this story? runs away when his friend is in trouble?”
The other kids were all talking with
Go Ahead and Jump Darren about what had happened and try-
ing to help him with his bike. Ouray didn’t
“I bet you can’t make that jump without say a word. He wanted to tell everyone that
wiping out!” Darren yelled as he gunned the he’d done the only smart thing. But every-
engine on his dirt bike. thing he could think of to say just sounded
“Just watch me!” Ouray hollered back. He lame. After a few minutes he said, “Well, I’ve
circled back a little way so that he could get gotta go. I brought you enough help to get
a good run at the ditch. He knew he could you anywhere you need to go, and I’m
do it. He’d done it before when he was out gonna be in big trouble for being so late.”
188 Be Forgiving
doing more and more stupid things. I want- “Everyone has two choices,” Father Tony
ed to punish myself or to prove that what I said. “They can refuse to forgive themselves,
did wasn’t really that bad. The accident was like Judas, and be remembered forever as
the starting point for one long line of fail- failures; or they can accept forgiveness and
ures. I started to see that unless I found a forgive themselves, like Peter, and become
way to put that accident behind me for better people because of their mistakes.”
good, things would just keep getting worse.” Ouray didn’t change overnight. His tough
“So what did you do?” act had become part of who he was; he
“Since I didn’t know what else to do, I couldn’t just drop it. Eventually, however,
started to pray for forgiveness.” he did stop looking for punishment every-
Ouray had been leaning forward listening where he went. He also stopped doing
intently, but when Father Tony mentioned things just to prove himself, and he became
prayer, he slumped back into the chair and better at accepting his own failures and the
recrossed his arms. “I should have known failures of others. I guess you could say
that’s what a priest would do.” that Ouray eventually decided he would
rather be like Peter than like Judas.
“I wasn’t a priest then, Ouray. In fact, I
wasn’t very interested in God. I was just a Reflection Questions
university student who didn’t like the way
his life was going and who wanted to do 1. Why couldn’t Ouray forgive himself?
something about it.” 2. How do you think Ouray’s friends would
“Yeah, but what could prayer do?” have treated him if he had not changed so
“Among other things, it could change my much? Would they have forgiven him?
attitude in a way nothing else could.” 3. When is it hardest to forgive ourselves?
And that was the beginning of Ouray and 4. How does refusing to forgive yourself
Father Tony’s friendship. Father Tony affect a person?
helped Ouray to understand that forgiving 5. How did Father Tony help Ouray?
yourself isn’t easy, but since everyone 6. How can a person learn to forgive himself
messes up sometime in their life it’s some- or herself?
thing everyone needs to learn how to do.
190 Be Forgiving
Samuel: the land he will inherit. The land itself will
We have been blessed with a lot. It is our not actually come into Yagil’s possession.
job to use it in a way that brings bless- His father will still have a say over how
ings to others. the land is used, and he will continue to
Yagil: earn interest on what the land produces
That’s Dad’s line. I’m sure it makes no for as long as he is alive.
more sense to you than it does to me. You Chorus:
just won’t admit it. Well, I’ve had enough! If the income from the land still goes to
I’m going to ask Dad to give me my inher- the father, why would Yagil want the title?
itance now. Why should I have to wait Narrator 2:
until he dies to have a life of my own? Once Yagil has been given the title to the
Samuel: land, he can sell it. He may get less than
But Yagil, what difference will it make if the going rate, however, since whoever
you get the title to the property now or buys the land will not be able to take pos-
when Dad dies? session of it until the father dies.
Yagil: Narrator 1:
If I have the title now I can sell it now. Yagil might get more for the property if he
Samuel: waited until his father died before he sold it.
You would sell the family land? Don’t you
Narrator 2:
care that Dad has spent his whole life
But he wants money to spend now.
improving his lands for the sake of his
children and grandchildren and great- Chorus:
grandchildren? Beware, Yagil. Greed and impatience will
Yagil: get you nowhere.
I don’t care what his plans for the land Samuel:
were. When I inherit, I can do whatever I If you take your inheritance now, that’s
want with it. Why should Dad’s dreams all you’ll get. If Dad buys more land since
be any more important than mine? things are going so well, you won’t get any
Samuel: of it.
Because he’s put more into them, maybe. Yagil:
Anyway, how will you provide for your If Dad buys more land, then you’ll be
future if you sell your title now? richer. Personally I don’t want to hang
Yagil: around waiting for that possibility. I want
I’ll worry about the future in the future. to have fun now! I’m tired of Dad being in
Right now I want freedom. charge of how I spend my time. I’m sick of
Narrator 1: obligations and restrictions. I’ll take
Yagil is the younger of two sons. When his what’s mine and be done with it.
father dies, he will inherit one third of the Narrator 2:
property. Samuel, as the oldest son, will If the father does give Yagil his inheri-
receive two thirds. tance now, all legal ties between the
Narrator 2: father and Yagil will be at an end. Yagil
In asking for his inheritance now, Yagil is will have no right to inherit anything else,
asking his father to give him the title to even if the estate continues to grow.
192 Be Forgiving
Chorus: Narrator 2:
Once you had everything, now you have So Yagil took the first step toward recon-
nothing. We warned you. ciliation – conversion.
Narrator 2: Chorus:
Yagil was so hungry that he wanted to eat Conversion, a change of heart, a change
the pigs’ food. But he couldn’t bring him- of vision. The conversion of Yagil. But did
self to do it. He couldn’t stoop that low! it come too late?
Even if he was starving he wouldn’t take Yagil:
food from pigs. And yet, no one gave him I will go back to my father and I will tell
anything else. him that I have sinned against heaven
and before him. I know that I no longer
Narrator 1: have a right to be called a “son,” but per-
Yagil was raised in a family that would haps he will accept me as a hired hand.
not consider eating the meat of a pig, let
Narrator 2:
alone the food from a pig trough!
Conversion is a radical change in the way
Narrator 2: we see ourselves. It is a rethinking of
Maybe when Yagil realized that his Jewish some of our basic presuppositions. Yagil
roots were too strong to allow him to eat was finally seeing himself not as a son
pig food even if he was starving, he start- who had been stifled, but as a son who
ed to think about his family again. had been given everything and had
Narrator 1: thrown it all away.
He did start to think about them. As he
did, he had an inner conversion. He
Part III
began to see his father in a new light. Narrator 1:
Yagil realized that his father was a good So Yagil left his job as a swineherd and
man and a very fair boss. Yagil saw how began the trip home.
well his father treated those who worked
for him.
Yagil:
Even the men my father hires for only a
day or two and will never see again are
treated better than I am treated here. My
father would never treat a person like
something less than an animal. He would
never let anyone starve the way I am
starving here.
For so many years I thought my father was
overbearing and unfair. Now that I’ve been
a hired hand instead of a spoiled son, I
can see that he was an incredibly fair and
caring boss. I was just too selfish and lazy
to realize it.
194 Be Forgiving
Second half of the Chorus: Father:
When they meet with forgiveness, reconcili- Samuel, you have nothing to lose and a
ation happens. A new relationship begins. brother to gain. Please come inside. Let
Narrator 1: us be a family again. Let us celebrate
Soon after the celebration began, Samuel because there is a future where the future
came in from the fields. When he heard had been destroyed.
that Yagil had come home and that the Narrator 1:
party was for him, he became jealous and It is important to remember that the
angry. He refused to go in the house. father is not being unfair to Samuel.
Narrator 2: Samuel will lose nothing because Yagil
His father came outside to talk with him. has returned.
Samuel: Narrator 2:
For all these years I have been working The father is not asking Samuel to be
like a slave for you, and I have never dis- friends with Yagil. Yagil must approach
obeyed your command; yet you have Samuel on his own for that. The father is
never given me even a young goat so that only asking Samuel to be happy that his
I might celebrate with my friends. But brother has finally made a good choice.
when this son of yours came back, who Narrator 2:
has devoured your property with prosti- The father is not asking Samuel to begin
tutes, you killed the fatted calf for him. the reconciliation process. He is only ask-
Father: ing him to be open to the possibility of
reconciliation.
Samuel, you are always with me, and all
that is mine is yours. Chorus:
Samuel, Samuel, watch and see. If your
Narrator 1:
brother’s conversion is real, then the time
The father was reminding Samuel that he
has come to begin again.
will inherit all that the father has.
Narrator 2:
Yagil has returned, and he will be wel-
comed as a member of the family, but he
has given up his right to inherit. Anything
that he gets from his father now, he will
have to earn. All that the father has will
go to Samuel.
Narrator 1:
Reconciliation allows a new relationship
to grow. It does not always restore the old
relationship.
Chorus:
Some things cannot be undone.
Narrator 2:
Yagil cannot undo the fact that he has
given up his legal right to inherit.
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G od, the Father of mercies,
through the death and the resurrection of his Son
has reconciled the world to himself
and sent the Holy Spirit among us
for the forgiveness of sins;
through the ministry of the Church
may God give you pardon and peace.
I absolve you in the name of the Father and of the Son
and of the Holy Spirit. Amen
The Prayer of Absolution
T
he sacrament of recon-
ciliation provides the ment of reconciliation all we can to repair and make
form for all reconcilia- restores us to a right rela- up for the harm we have
tion. In the sacrament, two tionship with God. It also done. If we do not do this, we
equally essential elements are repairs our relationship with will not recover our full spiri-
brought together: the action of the whole Christian commu- tual health. Our relationship
the sinner who has undergone nity. For this reason, the sec- with God will still be fragile.
ond precept of the Church The sacrament reminds us
conversion, and the forgive-
requires that all the faithful that reconciliation in all
ness of God offered through
receive the sacrament of rec- human relationships is rooted
the Church. onciliation for serious sins at in reconciliation with God. All
In the sacrament of recon- least once a year. forgiveness comes first from
ciliation, we confess our fail- The sacrament alone, how- God. To forgive others, we
ings and express our contri- ever, cannot restore us to a must let God’s forgiveness
tion. By doing penance, we right relationship with those flow through us. All conver-
also make a commitment to we have hurt. It takes away sion also comes from God. If
correct the harm we have the sin, but it does not cor- we listen to the Holy Spirit in
done. We then receive God’s rect all the harm that the sin our hearts, we will have the
forgiveness as we are has done. Once we have been type of conversion that can
absolved through the min- reconciled with God, we must lead to restored relationships.
Key Ter ms
forgiveness conversion correction (satisfaction)
mercy contrition the sacrament of
reconciliation confession reconciliation
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Unit 10
Be Hopeful
199
10.1
What keeps us
going?
200 Be Hopeful
less. She knew that most people found it “My parents decided that they didn’t
hard to bear their own sense of hopeless- want to put Pablo in a home. I thought
ness and fear when they came face to face that my mom was clinging to the hope that
with a person like Pablo who seemed nei- God was trying to tell them something by
ther alive nor dead. keeping Pablo alive even after the
“They couldn’t bear our hope and they machines were unplugged. Anyway, Mom
couldn’t bear their own sense of helpless- gave up her job so that she could take care
ness,” Julia explained to her roommate of Pablo at home.
later that night, “and I’m pretty sure it was “For three years now Mom has spent a
because they didn’t understand either one.” big part of every day sitting by Pablo’s bed,
“What do you mean?” her roommate talking to him, reading the newspaper to
asked. him, listening to music with him and pray-
Julia rarely said much about her brother, ing with him. About a year and a half ago,
but on this night she was in a mood to talk. just after I finished high school, I felt like I
“Three and a half years ago, when my couldn’t take it any more. I don’t remem-
brother had his motorcycle accident, our ber what got me started, but one day I
family went on the hope and hopelessness started screaming at my mom.
rollercoaster ride. One minute we’d think ‘Give up, okay! Just give up. He’s not
Pablo was about to die, the next we’d be going to get better. He’s not going to wake
sure that he was coming out of the coma up some day and be the same old Pablo.
and everything would be fine. We took turns He’s not going to wake up period! Why do
at the hospital. Someone was always by his you keep hoping? Can’t you see what
bed talking or singing or holding his hand. everyone else can see? There is no hope
We’d all heard stories about how the sup- left!’
port of the family could pull someone out of “I probably said a lot more than that,
a deep coma. There was no way to tell if we but that’s what I remember. I remember
were reaching Pablo, but our hope was Mom’s response a lot more clearly. She
strong. Day after day went by and nothing said, ‘Julia, I don’t hope that your brother
changed. Death didn’t seem to get any clos- will wake up.’
er, but it didn’t get any farther away, either.
“I must have snorted or stared at her in
“The doctors finally told us that there disbelief, because then she said, ‘No,
was no real hope for Pablo. My parents you’re right, that’s not quite true. There is
decided that it would be best to unhook always a part of me that hopes he’ll wake
the heart and lung machines and let him up, but it’s like the part of me that hopes
die. Our family started making funeral I’ll win the lottery. It’s a pleasant dream,
arrangements. But when the machines but I know it’s unlikely.’
were unplugged, nothing happened. Pablo
didn’t die and he didn’t wake up. In some “So I asked her, ‘If you don’t have any
ways, that was harder to cope with than real hope, why do you keep talking to him
anything else. There was no hope for and stuff?’
Pablo, and at the same time the family was She said, ‘I do have hope. It is hope that
not given the freedom to say good-bye to makes me spend time with Pablo, but it’s
him and get on with life. not my hope that he will wake up. I spend
202 Be Hopeful
Hope allows us to take risks for the sake of to God’s people as a gift of love. To hope in
others. God is to rely on God and to ask God to be
Hope gives us the strength to act part of everything we do. When we don’t
unselfishly. hope in God, we break the first command-
Hope encourages us to give generously. ment.
Hope opens our eyes to the possibility of Both despair and presumption are
good in unexpected places. refusals to hope in God. When we despair
Hope helps us to see what can be changed and when we presume, we stop hoping
and gives us the courage and commit- that God will care for us, forgive us and
ment to make changes. save us. We place our trust in powers
Hope also enables us to accept and cope other than God.
with the things we can’t change. When we despair, we stop believing in
Hope sustains us when we feel abandoned. God’s love and mercy; we start believing
Hope inspires us when we are drifting aim- that our failures (and other people’s) are
lessly. the things with real power. When we
Hope anchors us when our lives are in despair, we turn our backs on God. We act
chaos. as if we were beyond God’s reach. We
Hope protects us from despair. question God’s goodness and God’s power.
Christian hope focuses on the promises We cannot worship and despair at the
that God has made, for we know that God same time.
always does what God has promised. Hope We cannot worship and presume at the
is nourished and made stronger by prayer. same time, either. There are two types of
As with all of the virtues, we need to work
hard to keep hope strong. If we wish to be
people of hope, we must choose to live
according to the virtue of hope. We must
look to God when we are in doubt. And,
like Abraham, we must “hope against
hope.” We must do what God would have
us do even when it is hard or seems point-
less. If we do this, our hope will grow
stronger. We will be able to find joy even in
the hardest times of our lives.
204 Be Hopeful
main way to do this is by sharing genuine We can never fully understand another
Christian love. person’s reasons for despairing and com-
Love and suicide are opposites. Suicide mitting suicide. Although suicide is wrong,
shows a lack of love for oneself and for “grave psychological disturbances, anguish
one’s neighbour. “It unjustly breaks the or grave fear of hardship, suffering or tor-
ties of solidarity with family” and with oth- ture can diminish the responsibility of the
ers to whom we have obligations or duties one committing suicide” (Catechism of the
(Catechism of the Catholic Church, #2281). Catholic Church, #2282). As a Church, we
Suicide also shows a lack of love for God, continue to pray for all who commit sui-
to whom all life belongs. Because suicide cide. We believe that through ways known
goes against love, an outpouring of love is to God alone, they will be given a chance
one of the best ways to overcome it. to repent and be forgiven.
A REFLECTION ON HOPE
“Christian, recognize your dignity and, now choice or action, we as Christians are
that you share in God’s own nature, do not called to develop virtues. Virtues are atti-
return to your former base condition by tudes and habits that make us likely to do
sinning. Remember who is your head and what is good. If we develop virtues, then
of whose body you are a member. Never the choices that come naturally will be in
forget that you have been rescued from the keeping with God’s will. If we fail to devel-
power of darkness and brought into the op virtues, our habits will tend to be self-
light of the Kingdom of God.” ish. The actions that come naturally will
(St. Leo the Great, quoted in the Catechism of tend to be opposed to God, no matter what
the Catholic Church, #1691) we say we believe.
All of the virtues we have been exploring
Virtues and the Beatitudes – A Review throughout this program grow out of our
During any given day, all of us do many profession of faith. We need all of them if
things without stopping to think about we wish to make that profession more than
them. We do what comes naturally. Since just words. If we truly believe the things we
we cannot stop and think before every say, and if we act on our beliefs, then we
206 Be Hopeful
will be people who are fully alive, faithful,
loving, obedient, just, honest, generous,
forgiving and hopeful. We will be the virtu-
ous people God created us to be, leading
the types of lives God intended us to lead.
Both the nature and the benefits of a
virtuous life are summed up in the
Beatitudes. The Beatitudes are at the heart
of Jesus’ preaching. In the Beatitudes, we
hear about the blessings and rewards that
are ours if we live virtuously. We also
receive the promise of even greater rewards
in the world to come. The Beatitudes help
us to be more aware of God’s blessings in
our lives right now. They also promise us
that one day we will share in a perfect
union with God. The Beatitudes encourage The poor in spirit are those who, like
us and give hope to get us through in hard Jesus, choose to be humble. Although
times. Jesus was God, he accepted human limi-
tations. For our sake, he gave up the
The Beatitudes also give us a sense of power that could have been his. He
direction to lead us beyond the hard times. accepted even suffering and death to bring
They help us understand the actions and us God’s love. People who are poor in spir-
attitudes that will put us on the path of it are willing to accept less than they
true happiness. The Church turns to the could get and to give more than they have
Beatitudes for guidance in interpreting and to for the sake of others.
applying the two great commandments: to Being poor in spirit lets us love and give
love God with all our heart, all our soul generously. It also lets us praise and adore
and all our mind; and to love our neigh- God with our whole being. It lets us stop
bour as ourself. relying on ourselves and be faithful to God.
It is only when we are poor in spirit that
Blessed are the poor in spirit, we can empty ourselves so that we may be
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. filled with the love of God.
To be poor in spirit means seeing that
everything we are and everything we have Blessed are those who mourn,
belongs to God and must be used for God. for they shall be comforted.
It means knowing that without God we are When Jesus speaks of those who mourn,
nothing and can do nothing. It means he is not only talking about those who
standing before God and others without mourn for a loved one who has died. He is
pretensions or defenses. It means being also talking about all those who ache
detached from our possessions so we can because all is not right with the world.
share them or give them away to those in Both types of mourning carry their own
need. blessings.
10.2 Where have we been and where will that take us? 207
It is a blessing to feel the emptiness of the possibilities in life. To mourn, a person
loss when someone dies. Only then can we must be blessed.
feel the overwhelming joy and wonder of
the resurrection. Blessed are the meek,
When those who have been separated by for they shall inherit the earth.
death are reunited, this will not be the The word “meek” in this Beatitude is some-
only blessing of the final resurrection. At times translated as “gentle.” Meek people
the end of time, God will return all things are those who reject the proud and violent
in the world to their proper order. Those ways of the powerful. They always respond
who have been saddened by the disorder with gentleness and compassion. The meek
and sin in the world will be happy. Those are willing to do with less so that others
who have enjoyed and benefited from all can have more. They respect and value all
that is wrong in the world will be sad. life, and will accept hardships in order to
People who mourn let themselves feel support and protect the life of another.
the full range of human emotions. They are They do not take more than their share of
aware of all the good and bad that is the earth’s resources.
around them. They see the potential for The meek see that all people and all of
good and they believe in that potential. At creation are interdependent. They work to
the same time, they see all the ways that keep a good and just order. They see the
we fall short of that potential. To mourn, a virtue in obeying where this is the right
person must be fully alive and aware of all thing to do.
208 Be Hopeful
The earth will not survive unless all of to others. The merciful believe that there is
us learn to be meek. real value in second chances. They believe
that love is stronger than sin.
Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for People who are merciful have given up
righteousness, for they shall be satisfied. the desire for vengeance. They seek what is
People who hunger and thirst for right- best for others, even those who have hurt
eousness long for a deeper right relation- them. They are always open to the possi-
ship with God for themselves and for the bility of reconciliation.
world. They act justly and do all they can Only those who believe in mercy are
to promote a justice rooted in love. Their truly able to receive mercy from God.
relationships mirror Jesus’ relationships.
Like Jesus, those who truly hunger and Blessed are the pure in heart,
thirst for righteousness have learned to for they shall see God.
respond with compassion – to those in The pure of heart are those whose commit-
need and to those in power. They try to ments are genuine and who always deal
respond with love in every situation. They honestly with others. They act out of love
do not use their anger about injustice to for God and for others, and not out of a
justify unloving behaviour. Instead, they desire for personal gain. They are generous
channel that anger into working for posi- and modest in all they do. They never stop
tive change. hoping, believing and loving.
These people see the dignity of every
person. They do all they can to honour and
uphold that dignity. They are willing to
change their own lives so they can respond
to the needs of others.
Wanting just and loving relationships is
the first step toward developing them.
When we take that first step, God promis-
es to be with us and to help us. God also
promises that as we work to improve our
relationships with others, God will help us
deepen and improve our relationship with
God.
10.2 Where have we been and where will that take us? 209
that the first step in true reconciliation is
conversion.
Peacemakers live as Jesus lived. They
hear Jesus’ words and act upon them.
They are the true brothers and sisters of
Jesus.
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C Alpha
hrist yesterday and today
the beginning and the end
and Omega
all time belongs to him
and all the ages
to him be glory and power
through every age for ever. Amen
May the light of Christ, rising in glory,
dispel the darkness of our hearts and minds.
Prayer from the Preparation of the
Candle at the Easter Vigil
10.2 Where have we been and where will that take us? 211
Unit 10 Summary Statements
• Hope is the virtue that keeps us search- • Virtues are attitudes and habits that
ing for true happiness, which is God. make us likely to do what is good and
Jesus’ death and resurrection are the avoid what is evil. All of us are called
foundation of Christian hope. to develop virtues so that doing God’s
will comes “naturally.”
• Hope sustains us during hard times.
Hope keeps us from being discouraged.
• Hope is nourished in prayer.
• The first commandment is a call to
avoid idolatry and to place all our hope
in God. Presumption and despair are
refusals to place all our hope in God.
They break the first commandment.
• Hope is a belief in things we cannot
see.
• “Blessed are you when people revile
you and persecute you and utter all
kinds of evil against you falsely on my
account. Rejoice and be glad, for your
reward is great in heaven” (Matthew
5.11-12).
Key Ter ms
hope the Beatitudes virtues
first commandment
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Appendix
Background to Scripture
213
Background to
Scripture
The Bible: Our Story The New Testament is the story of Jesus
as he reveals God’s love for us through his
The word “bible” means “the books.” Written life, death and resurrection. It is also the
by many different people who were guided story of the early followers of Jesus and how
by God’s Spirit, the Bible is like a small the Holy Spirit formed them into the people
library of books in one. It is divided into two of God – the Church. The oldest book of the
major parts: Christians call the books writ- New Testament (1 Thessalonians) was writ-
ten before Jesus the “Old Testament,” and ten around the year 51, about 21 years
the ones written after he came the “New after the death and resurrection of Jesus.
Testament.” Look at the diagram on the The other books of the New Testament were
next page to see how this “library” is set up. written over the next 60 years.
The Hebrew Scriptures make up most of The Bible is our story. It is about our
the Old Testament. In them, we find the relationship with God, and God’s relation-
story of God’s love for the Hebrew people ship with us, over time. It is the story of our
(also known as the Israelites or the Jews). creation in Adam and Eve, and the story of
These Scriptures, which were written over our re-creation in Jesus, when God “makes
about a thousand years, are the basis of the us new persons,” saving us from our sins
Jewish faith. and giving us new life. The Bible is our fam-
The Old Testament Scriptures were the ily history. It reminds us that we come from
ones Jesus was taught from when he was a long line of people who have been loved
growing up. They were also the ones that all and cared for by God even when they strug-
of the apostles and the writers of the New gled, doubted and failed. The Bible is our
Testament knew and believed in. Our “membership book.” It reminds us that we
Christian faith story is rooted in these do belong, we do fit into God’s plan, no mat-
Scriptures as well. We can trace our roots ter who we are or what we have done. Above
back about 4000 years! all, the Bible is our love story because it is
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the story of God’s deep love for each and Truth and the Bible
every one of us.
All of the Bible is the word of God, and every-
The Bible, however, is much more than our
thing that is in the Bible was written through
individual story – it is the story that makes
the inspiration of the Holy Spirit. Therefore,
us a community. No one of us alone has lived
everything in the Bible reveals the truth.
the entire biblical story. No one of us has
accepted all that God offers, and no one of us But the truth the Bible reveals can be mis-
has perfect faith. It is only together that we understood if we do not read and interpret
have lived and keep living the whole biblical carefully and prayerfully. The Catechism of
story. Together we have experienced and the Catholic Church says this: “To interpret
accepted the saving power of God in every Scripture correctly, the reader must be atten-
part of life. Together we know God, and tive to what the human authors truly wanted
together our faith is strong and complete. to affirm and to what God wanted to reveal
God’s self-revelation was not only to me or to to us by their words.” (#109)
you, to Moses or to Peter, but to all of us In reading any book or passage in the
together: to God’s people. So the Bible is our Bible, it is important that we know what the
story. As we share it and reflect upon it author intended. We need to know what type
together, we become one community. of writing the author was doing because each
T H E B I B L E
Deuteronomy
Zephaniah
Zechariah
Habakkuk
II Samuel
Jeremiah
Numbers
I Samuel
Leviticus
Obadiah
Genesis
Malachi
Exodus
II Kings
Joshua
Judges
Ezekiel
Nahum
Haggai
I Kings
Hosea
Jonah
Isaiah
Micah
Amos
Joel
Lamentations
II Maccabees
I Maccabees
II Chronicles
Ecclesiastes
I Chronicles
Nehemiah
Proverbs
Wisdom
Psalms
Baruch
Esther
Daniel
Sirach
Judith
Tobit
Ruth
Ezra
Job
WRITINGS
Matthew
Mark
Luke
John
Acts
Colossians
Philippians
Revelation
Ephesians
II Timothy
Galatians
Philemon
I Timothy
Hebrews
Romans
III John
II Peter
II John
James
I Peter
I John
Titus
Jude
LETTERS REVELATION
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BIBLICAL TIME CHART
DATE EVENT DESCRIPTION CONNECTION TO OUR LIVES
1800 BCE Abraham Our faith journey begins with We are a people who have had
the call and response of to go many new places and
Abraham and his wife, Sarah. begin many new things. We
trust that God is with us
because God was with Abraham
and Sarah.
1250–1050 Entry into The Hebrew people struggle The entry into Canaan, the
BCE Canaan to settle the land of Canaan. story told in Joshua and Judges
Even though this is the and Ruth, is our story when we
“promised land,” even though struggle to make our hopes and
it is part of God’s plan for the dreams a reality.
Israelites to live in Canaan, If we want our dreams to
the people must work to come true, we must give God an
make God’s plan a reality. important place in our lives.
1030–930 Kings of Israel Saul becomes the first king. The stories of the kings are the
BCE David creates a nation. stories of our struggle with power,
Solomon builds the Temple. control and responsibility.
Some people worship idols We must take responsibility
instead of God; others reject for our lives. It is up to us to
God. turn from things that pull us
away from God and destroy us.
Note: We have replaced the terms B.C. (before Christ) and A.D. (Anno Domini) with BCE (before the Common Era) and CE (the Common Era). BCE and CE are used by many
history and scripture scholars. BCE covers the same time period as B.C.; CE covers the same time period as A.D.
Beginning The Prophets God speaks through the These words are for all of us when
in 800 BCE prophets and calls the people we turn our backs on God and
to see the destructive power of God’s plan for us. We are the peo-
their sins. The prophets warn ple to whom the prophets speak.
the people that there will be We have seen the effects of sin
suffering if people keep ignor- and injustice, yet we ignore the
ing God and ignoring the injustice around us. This is our
needs of God’s children. warning.
587–538 Exile in The Kingdom of Judah is This is our story when we must
BCE Babylon brought down by the face the results of our actions.
Babylonians. The Temple in When we do not live as God calls
Jerusalem is destroyed. All of us to live, the world suffers. Our
the leading Jewish citizens communities can only survive if
are sent to Babylon. The we live in justice and love. (See
Hebrew people no longer have Amos 5.24.) This is our story
a nation of their own. when we see others in need and
do nothing.
During the Exile, faithful The story of Judith, like the later
Jews such as Judith helped story of Esther, reminds us that
keep the Hebrew faith alive. even during the bad times in our
lives, there are things we can do to
help others and stay faithful to God.
538–400 Return to The Jews (from the word This is our story as we develop a
BCE Jerusalem “Judah”) return home. The plan for becoming better people.
Temple in Jerusalem is Our plans are good as long as
rebuilt. Judaism becomes a they draw us closer to God and
religion of Law (Torah). one another. They become harm-
ful when they become ends in
themselves, when systems and
structures are more important
than God.
4 BCE Jesus’ birth Jesus is born to the Virgin This is the promise to each of us –
(approx.) Mary. God becomes human of hope in the midst of every dark-
and lives among us so that we ness. It is the promise that God
may come to understand God’s will always reach out to us in love.
love in a whole new way.
Note: We have replaced the terms B.C. (before Christ) and A.D. (Anno Domini) with BCE (before the Common Era) and CE (the Common Era). BCE and CE are used by many
history and scripture scholars. BCE covers the same time period as B.C.; CE covers the same time period as A.D.
218 Appendix
BIBLICAL TIME CHART
DATE EVENT DESCRIPTION CONNECTION TO OUR LIVES
27–30 CE Jesus’ public Jesus teaches in Galilee and The Gospel stories give us guid-
(approx.) ministry Jerusalem. He teaches people ance. The struggles of the disci-
about the reign of God and ples and of the women who
he helps people to under- stayed with Jesus until the end
stand what it means to love give us courage to keep going
God and to love our neigh- when we are afraid or when we
bours. have failed.
30 CE Jesus’ death Jesus is crucified. Three days This is our story of hope. This is
(approx.) and resurrec- later, he rises from the dead our promise that love is stronger
tion and appears first to Mary than hate and violence. This is
Magdalene and then to the our reason to care.
disciples.
30 CE The coming of God sent the Holy Spirit who This is our reminder that God
(approx.) the Holy Spirit gave the disciples the always gives us the gifts we
at Pentecost courage and the gifts they need to do the work God calls
needed to share the good us to do.
news of Jesus.
30–110 CE Spread of After the death and resurrec- This is our call and our pur-
Christianity tion of Jesus, his followers pose in life. We are to share
and the writing begin to spread the good God’s love with all those we
of the New news that God calls all of us meet. When we live in love as
Testament to new life and wholeness in Jesus taught us, our lives will
books Christ. have meaning and joy.
49–62 CE Paul’s ministry Paul writes to and visits Sometimes we get frustrated
newly-formed Christian com- because people in the Church
munities to advise them on do not agree on issues of faith,
many issues. Even in the or because people do not seem
early church there were to be practising what they
many struggles and disagree- preach. Paul’s letters help us
ments about what it meant remember that this is not a
to follow Jesus. new problem, and that with
faith, love and perseverance we
can work things out.
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stronger. It was also David who set Israel Under David, the size of Israel’s territory
up as a kingdom in a more modern sense. grew dramatically. He gained control of
Under David the Canaanite city-states many Canaanite city-states that were with-
became part of Israel. Under David, all of in Israel’s boundaries, and he conquered
the land of Canaan (not only the land that several nearby territories.
was held by those who shared a common Solomon, who ruled Israel after David,
faith) became Israelite territory. Israel was not a fighter like David was. He used
became more clearly defined as a territory. economic power instead. He took advan-
When the Canaanites were brought into tage of Israel’s position in the middle of the
Israel, they were not made part of the trib- major north–south trade route. Israel’s
al system; they became subjects of the treasury grew much richer.
crown. This, too, helped the Israelites feel
that they were part of a single nation. The End of the Empire
David created a court and a government in Solomon did not just make money; he also
the city of Jerusalem. He also recaptured spent it. He ordered many large and expen-
the Ark from the Philistines and brought it sive building projects. When the money
to Jerusalem. In doing this, David made from trade wasn’t enough for all of his pro-
the state the protector of the Israelite faith jects, Solomon divided Israel into twelve
and of Israel’s sacred institutions. districts. Each district was to support the
222 Appendix
central government for one month of the The reforms of King Josiah renewed
year. This heavy taxation made many peo- Israel’s commitment to the covenant with
ple angry. By the time Solomon died, the God that was the foundation of Israelite
people of the northern tribes were alienated society and that separated Judah from its
from Jerusalem. After his death, the empire pagan neighbours.
divided into two rival states – Israel in the
north and Judah in the south. Neither The Babylonian Exile
state was strong enough to hold the non- In 609 BCE, Judah once again lost some
Israelite territories that David had cap- of its independence. This time, it became a
tured. As a result, the Israelites lost their vassal of Egypt. In 603 BCE, when the
monopoly over the trade routes. They lost Babylonian armies defeated the Egyptian
both their economic and their military forces, King Jehoiakim of Judah trans-
power. Both Israel and Judah were now ferred allegiance from Egypt to Babylon.
more likely to be attacked by other nations. The people of Judah rebelled against the
Babylonians but their rebellion was
The Fall of the Northern State crushed. In 601 BCE, the king, other high
To survive the threat of the Assyrians, the officials and most of the leading citizens
nation of Israel had to make alliances. One were taken to Babylon. A second rebellion
of these alliances was sealed with the mar- in 589 BCE resulted in the burning of
riage of King Ahab of Israel with Jezebel, Jerusalem, the destruction of the city walls
the daughter of Ethbaal, the King of Sidon. and another deportation of many people.
This was an important event for Israel Much of Israel’s theology was rooted in a
because Jezebel tried to make the worship belief that God had chosen the city of
of the pagan god Ba’al the official religion Jerusalem and the descendants of David
of the court. Many in the court followed without any conditions and for all time.
her lead. This led to a huge struggle The Israelites’ faith was shaken when
between Israelite prophets and rulers. The Jerusalem was destroyed, but their faith
result was an overthrow and bloody purge was sustained by the prophets. Even
of the cult of Ba’al. In the end, the entire before the fall of Jerusalem, the prophets
court and most state officials were killed. had warned that even though God had
This in turn led to a loss of alliances and chosen Jerusalem, God would punish the
to a great internal weakness in the state. people severely if they kept ignoring the
By the middle of the eighth century BCE, demands of the covenant.
the state of Israel was near anarchy – there The prophets helped the Israelite people
was disorder and little authority. It was to see that the fall of Jerusalem was a
conquered by the Assyrians. punishment for their sins. It was not a
sign that God had abandoned them, or
Judah’s Struggle to Survive that God was not all-powerful. Instead, it
The state of Judah was not destroyed by was God’s way of teaching the people. It
the Assyrians, but it did become a vassal was part of God’s larger plan for history.
state. (This means it had to help the
Assyrians in war or by some other service.) Israel Is Restored
In 640 BCE, Assyria lost its grip on its The Babylonian empire fell to the Persians.
empire and Judah became independent. In 538 BCE, King Cyrus issued a decree
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ordering that the Jewish community and When Alexander the Great conquered
cult in Palestine be restored. He even the Persian Empire in 333 BCE, this rela-
ordered that the Temple be rebuilt. tionship between the Jewish people and
Restoring the Jewish people to Palestine the ruling state did not change.
was not the grand and triumphant event
that many had dreamed of; instead, it was Greek Rule
a very difficult struggle. It soon became After Alexander’s conquest, Greek culture
clear that the hopes for restoring the began to have a huge influence on the people
throne of David right away were not about of Palestine. Many Jews, especially the upper
to be fulfilled. Jewish morale was low. classes, wanted to be more a part of the
Many people stopped following the religious Greek culture. They began to be a bit embar-
laws and lived in an immoral way. rassed about many of the Jewish laws and
practices. A split was developing in Judaism.
Then, around the year 440 BCE,
Nehemiah, a Jewish cupbearer to the The situation got worse when Antiochus
Persian king, was appointed governor of IV became king. He sold the office of high
Judah. He rebuilt the walls of Jerusalem; priest in Jerusalem to the highest bidder.
this rebuilt the people’s morale. The man who became high priest was
Jason, the brother of the man who should
After Nehemiah came Ezra. The Persian have been high priest. Jason wanted Israel
king gave Ezra the power to teach Jewish to be more like the rest of the Greek
law to the Jews and to set up a system to empire. He welcomed the opening of a
make sure that Jewish law was obeyed by gymnasium in Jerusalem even though that
all the Jews. (The Persians allowed the meant welcoming part of the cult of the
people of conquered nations to continue Greek god Hercules. After a few years,
their own religious practices as long as Jason was replaced by Menelaus, who was
those practices were not used as a front for willing to pay Antiochus more money for
revolutionary activity.) Ezra brought the the honour of being high priest.
Jewish people back into the covenant with
Menelaus was worse than Jason. He did-
God. In particular, he insisted that
n’t care about Jewish worship and even
• there be no more intermarriage with began to sell sacred objects from the
pagans Temple to get money to pay for his position.
• there be no work on the Sabbath Then, in 168 BCE, Antiochus decided
that it was time to enforce Greek policies
• the land be left to lie fallow every
in Israel. In particular, he wanted the
seventh year
Greek religious system acknowledged and
• debts would not be collected every the God of the Jews equated with the
seventh year Greek god Zeus. When many Jews resisted,
• all Jews should tithe (give a portion of Antiochus banned Judaism and ordered
their income to God) that copies of the Law be destroyed. Jews
The Jews were still political subjects of were forced to eat pork (a food considered
Persia, but they were allowed to run their unclean and therefore forbidden by law) or
own affairs according to the laws of their be killed, and an altar for Zeus was set up
God. in the Temple. The Jews rebelled.
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The Maccabean revolt, led by Judas long as the rituals and sacrifices of the
“Maccabeus” (“The Hammer”) defeated the Temple were allowed and were left in the
troops sent by Antiochus, retook hands of the priests.
Jerusalem and cleansed and rededicated The Sadducees did not accept any theo-
the Temple. For a brief time (135-104 logical ideas that were not found in the
BCE), Israel was ruled by the Hasmonaean Torah. Therefore, they did not believe in
priest-kings. These rulers were not what the resurrection or in rewards and punish-
faithful Jews had hoped for. They were ments after death. They did not believe in
quick to make deals with non-Jewish angels and demons and they did not think
rulers. They believed that the important about God’s final plans.
thing was to protect the Temple, to keep
things as they were, and to wait for the day The Pharisees
when God would act. Jews who were
The Pharisees were concerned with keeping
unhappy with the Hasmoneans believed
the distinctive character of the Jewish peo-
that the important thing was to keep a
ple. Their work was centred around the
Jewish identity that was distinct from that
synagogue and was focused on three main
of the Gentiles and that was clearly
things: study, worship and works of chari-
marked by a commitment to the covenant
ty. The Pharisees believed that the Torah
with God.
must be enough for all times and all situa-
In 63 BCE, when Palestine was con- tions. They believed that in every situation,
quered by the Romans, Judaism was divid- the Scriptures had to be interpreted in a
ed into several very distinct groups. Each way that addressed the situation.
group responded to the Romans in a differ- According to the Pharisees, the oral law
ent way. helped people understand and apply the
demands of the Torah in different situa-
Jewish Groups in Jesus’ Time tions. The oral law was an essential part-
ner to the written law of the Torah and was
The Sadducees every bit as binding. The Pharisees believed
The Sadducees were mostly members of that the future of Judaism depended upon
the upper classes. Their religious and polit- keeping every last detail of both the oral
ical views were conservative. Most of the and the written law.
Sadducees were Jews who held powerful The Sadducees kept their distance from
positions. They liked things as they were the common people and never lost sight of
and didn’t want them to change. They the importance of the priests and the
believed that only the Torah (the first five Temple. The Pharisees, on the other hand,
books of the Bible) had authority. If the tried to make everyone equal within
Torah did not talk about a particular situa- Judaism. They wanted to raise all of the
tion, the Sadducees believed that it was up people to the level of priests in accordance
to the rulers of the time to decide the best with Exodus 19.6: “You shall be for me a
thing to do. priestly kingdom.” The Pharisees required
The Sadducees’ main concern was the that every Israelite go through priestly
temple cult. They were willing to make purification. For them, every home was a
deals with the non-Jewish authorities as temple, every table an altar and every Jew
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learned what he would preach all his life: Jesus and living by Christ’s values were
Jesus was truly risen and alive! He, Paul, more important than following the law of
was truly an apostle, for he had witnessed Moses. In 49 C.E., at the first council of the
the Resurrected Lord. The Christian com- Church, the Council of Jerusalem, Paul
munity was the Body of Christ: Jesus defended his position and won: Gentile
wanted to save all humanity. Christians did not have to become Jews in
At some point Paul began to preach this order to be Christians. Welcoming Gentiles
message to more and more non-Jewish into the Church was a huge achievement. In
people, known as the Gentiles. While he making the Church a community that
still preached to Jews in the synagogues appealed to all cultures and peoples and
wherever he went, he spread the Gospel welcomed all who would accept Jesus as
message to non-Jews as well. His actions their Lord and Saviour, Paul’s vision enabled
upset a number of Jewish Christians called Christianity to become a universal religion.
Judaizers. They didn’t like the idea that Paul made three journeys around the
pagan Gentiles could become Christians eastern end of the Mediterranean Sea.
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God, Paul understood that God’s love
for people is a free gift. No one earns
it; it is given without reservation, helped people to gain a deeper understand-
without conditions,Attack on Jason
without
Paul & Silas arrested &
released; Lydia baptized any strings ing of Christ and of how to live as recipi-
(Paul’s host)
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them. God’s gift of love – the gift of Jesus (“St. Paul and the Early Church” adapted from “What’s So
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Important About Paul?” by Paul McNeil Crouch, S.J., in the
on the cross – and people’s faith in God’s Resource Book of Roots: Finding Strength in Biblical Tradition,
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Paul before
good lives.
Gallio If they truly accept the gift of
love from God, then Speech on they will respond by
Areopagus
being just, compassionate and peaceful –
by living lives of love. Barnabus & Mark
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Beatitudes
Blessed are the poor in spirit,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are those who mourn,
for they shall be comforted.
Blessed are the meek,
for they shall inherit the earth.
Blessed are those who hunger
and thirst for righteousness,
for they shall be satisfied.
Blessed are the merciful,
for they shall obtain mercy.
Blessed are the pure in heart,
for they shall see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers,
for they shall be called sons
[and daughters] of God.
Blessed are those who are persecuted
for righteousness’ sake,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Matthew 5.3-10
Ten
Commandments
1. I am the Lord your God:
you shall not have strange gods
before me.
2. You shall not take the name of the
Lord your God in vain.
3. Remember to keep holy the Lord’s Day.
4. Honour your father and your mother.
5. You shall not kill.
6. You shall not commit adultery.
7. You shall not steal.
8. You shall not bear false witness
against your neighbour.
9. You shall not covet your
neighbour’s wife.
10. You shall not covet your
neighbour’s goods.
Exodus 20.1-7