n VALUES FORMATION GUIDE Unfold of timid flower! Lift up your radiant brow. ‘This day, youth of my native strand! Your abounding talents show resplendently and grand, Fair hope of my Motherland ! to the Philippine Youth Gose P. Rigel Introductory - Orientation activity Objective: at the end of the session, the participants will open —up one’s self as to re- discover one’s own goal as a student , moving towards a deeper knowledge of one’s self through visioning ‘Time Frame: One and a half (1%) hour session Material/s: personal updated 2x2 picture, ballpen, one (1) 50-page notebook as journal used every session researcher-made questionnaire sheets Dear student, : ‘How is college life for you? What do you really have at heart to attain in your college years? Write it here below and you may accompany it with a picture or sketch of yourself ! ' L Vision of my College Life ‘You have just done something very important — a great favor to yourself, because you deemed yourself as somebody worthy to care about. You have made a vision for yourself, a direction a goal to aim at ... After your vision, you would need to make the next step by answering this question: Dol really know myself? Yes or No is a sincere answer, but to assist you of your self-knowledge, here’s one help ~it’s called : Self — Assessment It's like when one goes on a journey, one needs to know if he/she is well- equipped with what are needed to reach his/her destination. Values Assessment Answer sincerely the following questionnaire : (The instrument utilized in this research) You will know your values stage of development from your facilitator later ‘Remember there are no right or wrong answers, low or high scores but sincere answers point to the real YOU whom you want to know better.2 1 Session 0 Objective: At the end of the session, the students will acquire the prosocial attitude on creation, how every thing and every human being has been created to be altruistic: no man is an island Time Frame 21/2 hours Material/s : ballpen, and journal Assessment results: Post —Assessment Work-out Distribution of participants results and guided interpretation. give free time for personal consultation regarding further explanation,etc. 2" Session Objective: at the end of the session , the participants will find themselves immersed in ‘what the rainbow lifestyle consists mainly in: It covers daily activities with altruism, empathy, and moral values “refracted” /applied in daily living Time Frame: Lhour ‘Material/s = ballpen, and journal The Rainbow alues Formation Have you ever wondered why the rainbow cheers you up when it appears in the sky, usually after the rain? Doesn’t it bring with it a sense of hope and a feeling of meaningfulness? Express your view: How does a rainbow come about? How does it originate and appear in the sky? Remember your Science Lesson? Exchange & discussion. Parallel to this is the Rainbow Lifestyle Majority, if not all of us cannot but admit the fact that LOVE, is the most beautiful thing on earth, and in the entire universe. Do you admit this? Can you find any other thing more beautiful than LOVE? But if we really trace it, we need to go higher: for if we go lower,it could only be an imitation and not the genuine or the original one! Yes it comes from above: As the Holy Bible states it, God is Love. So when He gave it to us at Baptism, He restored in us His image and likeness, that we have lost, as stated in the Bible, He gave this Love, free of charge, through Jesus His Son, who paid it at a high price, His very own life, to bring us to our destiny- complete happiness and fulfillment with Him,But in order to make our life meaningful and down to earth, this Love has to be refracted into different aspects Like the light refracted into 7 colors. THE RAINBOW LIFESTYLE ‘You too can paint a rainbow in your daily adventure! How? ‘Try this—Make this your motto for a colorful, meaningful life: T awe boon created as a gift of Love for the other, and the other, as a gift of Love for me. Chiara Lubich Just look at the whole of creation: the plants serve for the other creatures like the animals and humans, then the animals too serve as a gift for the inanimate things, as well as for humans; humans have been made as real gifted of Love to one another, endowed with the highest faculties of intelligence and free will. The human being, or Homo Sapiens is the “master gift” of Creation. ‘The Creator, the Supreme Being has made hin/her so, and entrusted humans as_ steward, of all the created things on earth; not to dominate, but cherish and develop . You and I are to a steward, a gift of Love to the world. Living along this motto would also help you to believe in the goodness of the other with the help of your intelligence without being always defensive against or suspicious about other’s words or actions, as well as remembering to consider the value of the other's point of view, his/her feelings, as well. It will then be a mutual treating each other as God’s precious gifts. Try to reflect on this. Now that you have finished your High School years, you can do something about it. if you wish to. If Yes, proceed with the following and undertake them with a sincere heart, Everything written in vour journal or answers from here onward are treasured and therefore unless vou wish to share with close friends or ka-pamilya : Equipped with your intelligence & determined will, you can do it all the way from color Red to Violet. Life will be a colorful, challenging, exciting, and a promising adventure as never before experienced. Note: 1) All protagonists of the life ‘experiences/stories have been named differently to ensure confidentiality. 2) Each color input and activities is good for a semester of processing and interiorizing.74 3rd Session Objective: At the end of the session , the participants discover the importance of prosocial reasoning through the joyful experience of 1) generously sharing one’s resources 2) decisively re-aligning one’s study attitudes and study habits and 3) radiating the habit to friends/classmates especially through one’s example ‘Time Frame: 2 hours Material/s: ballpen, and journal Color 1- Red: Sharing of What I Am and What I fiave; Managing My Resources Story of Tatoy, and His College Circle of Friends: The true story of an intelligent poor boy, who never gave up Tatoy was a school leaver for some years, his family couldn’t afford anymore to let him pursue college. But after finding some ways and means through sipag and tiyaga, sacrifice and patient endurance , finally Tatoy could go to College, He passed his entrance Exams to take his dream course: Mechanical Engineering! Five years-how can I climb those five mountains successfully....but he found good friends to. travel together. He joined friends who would discuss the lessons after class and would go to the library. They created study circles among them during their free time, Soon Tatoy found himself sharing his knowledge to his classmates. He marveled how easily he could solve out the difficult exercises in Math and the science subjects ,and wow those major subjects to tackle together! He also offered his time in the Peer tutors group of the Campus Ministry Reach out program, and he had a great passion for those who really were almost failing in those fatal subjects as students would call them. His fiends also joined the choir, doxology, and other committees where their talents fitted. They would go to Sto. Nino Basilica near their school and pray together to ask for strength to carry on inspite of difficulties.. They would also share their resources when some had little to buy handouts and other student necessities. Together they would also research in the internet and ‘would remind one another when internet pornography came to the picture and was very inviting. Their strong bond protected them from spending wasted time and money for such indecent past time, They would remind one another of their dream to become engineers one day, and so they were fiee from those dangerous fun for students. They ‘would lead in the Intramural games and field demos, their youth at full swing healthy and vibrant, smart, and why not? Good looking, as well. Finally the last leg ~end of 5" year ~they almost couldn’t believe it . time to reap the harvest of their struggles and sleepless nights, tears and sweat, suspense moments in those breath-taking exams. Before graduation week, they announced, Tatoy : Magna Cum Laude, a rare feat in the Engineering department! His friends rejoiced with him, it was their victory as he shared his jubilation . ‘Next to be tackled, Licensure review—also here they continued their solidarity and unity grew even stronger. Before the Board Exams they pledged to live for one other15 ‘They gathered altogether and prayed in the place where they used to have their unforgettable shopwork. Then they also went with those of the same faith in church ARer the Board Exams they thank the Lord together as they exchanged experiences, Tatoy was calm and peaceful and he radiated it to the other friends who were quite anxious. .After some weeks. The Engincering chairman was overjoyed when he reported the news to the president: Tatoy made it as second top placer in the country’s Board Exam for Mechanical Engineers! What great joy ! also majority of his circle of friends passed the Exams, even those who thought they would fail. The College now a University where Tatoy studied is proud of this humble poor boy guy who never gave up against all odds. Not only his family who helped him out but also his circle of friends have the credit for his success. Boundless was His thanksgiving to the Source and divine Planner of his seemingly insignificant life This story could very well be yours- why not?! What do you need to reach it? To “invest and earn” for your future as a gift to your parents, benefactors as well as to society where you will be an asset —— What can be your starting point now that you are Yr. in college? ‘What are the study habits you need to drop or cut off? vy Why? 2) Why?, ‘What are the good habits which you have to keep and develop more? ), How? 2) How? 4" Session Objective: At the end of the session , the participants will be able: 1) to have a hands-on experience on time and resource management 2) discover that generous sharing and empathy with our friends or family members have multiple benefits in terms of self development and interpersonal relationships ‘Time Frame: 2 hours Material/s: ballpen, calculator,( if possible), paper money, six(6) letter envelopes, and journal16 A. Budgeting: With special love and care this month I will start to budget my allowance well to give my share to the family budget using my gift of intelligence and free will. This I do as.a gift for the one taking care of me, putting myself in their shoes, how they sacrifice for my education. as well as for my future, o train myself for life. In so doing, I can also be an example to my siblings, to the people around me . My week”s allowance : Special acts of Love : © Targetted savings ; © Ltext & buy load only when I have surpassed my targeted savings Food 5 Hand-outs/projects school materials : 1 {avoid making utang(debis) to buy things/food I am attracted to eat ‘Transport 5 or possess Other expenses : Special acts of Love @ Specify — 1 I share something to a needy friend/classmate ,trying to make his/her suffering my own C1 Itty to buy only what I need, not what I want, empathizing with my parents who have many bills to pay * Acts of Love you have done as a gift of yourself: Total 1 Imade my schedule to make my day well spent without wasted time (separate sheet) Savings small 1 [followed with care, the day’s but I sincerely earned schedule that I plotted out [1 I shared my experience at school, with my friends, to my family members as a gift to them, to create stronger bond with them7 1 I returned honestly the change of the fees/payments given by my parents as my appreciation for their concen and love C1 I shared time and knowledge with my siblings/ schoolmates, trying to feel their need,if I were in their situation 1 I shared, also as a gift to my parents, or brother/sister, joys and difficulties not just with fiiends /barkada Special Activity: Role play the actual budgeting of your allowance with play money by putting them in their respective envelopes labeled : Transportation, food, etc. then act out a situation where you exercise self-control and wise spending of your budget Recount here how in that experience or exercise you have 1) thought of others’ welfare 2) put yourself in the shoes of others, like parents etc. 3) avoided temptation or other unhealthy or undesirable destructive practices White this experience in words spontaneous from your heart, in your journal: Rainbow connection: Red 5" Session — concluding with Red aspect of the rainbow lifestyle Objective: At the end of the session , the participants will be able to ; 1) know the real value of things or realities other than money 2) be able to identify one’s own wealth and treasures that are more precious than money conflicts of principles and ideas 3) recognize and apply ones ingenuity in sharing one’s discovered treasures, reaching out to to others and putting one’s self in their shoes for their “deeper” needs, starting with the family, and with those around us whom ‘we sometimes take for granted ‘Time Frame: 2 hours per meeting until 3" week ‘Material/s : ballpen, and journalB Money Can’t Buy Real Happiness — Read & reflect on the Story of Jenny Jenny was a Dean’s Lister in her Year level, Friends and classmates labeled her as “beauty and brains’, because she was also one of the cadet sponsors in the college. But life behind the scene wasn’t that easy. She would cry a lot when projects are asked in the different technological classes because her allowance was very limited due to lack of finances at home. She dreamt to be a teacher one day. In the summer before her Junior year, she had an exciting experience, she recounted. ‘While she was window shopping in one of the malls, she noticed a young blond foreigner following her, and finally wanted to make friends. Then he accompanied her home to know her family. From that day on, Jos, visited her everyday, until he proposed and promised to bring her to his home country in Europe. Jenny’s poor parents were overjoyed at the proposal, but Jenny had mixed feelings also because she did not have any positive feelings towards the guy. So she prayed before saying anything. She asked God for guidance and tried to weigh things out. She knew it could be the solution to their financial difficulties, but something within her told her, be careful ~ Money is not everything. ..So after some reflection and prayer, she told her parents calmly how she felt about the situation with Jos. She told them that she too has high dreams for them, for this she studied hard and had good grades. But conceming Jos, she couldn’t agree to his proposal because she didn’t feel any love for him. Moreover, she has heard many horrible and tragic stories of Filipina risk —takers marrying foreigners unknown to them. Her parents insisted to let her feeling develop without fear but with much “hope” in this” great opportunity”. She also warned them that being all alone in a foreign land, if she would be attacked by his wife or other legal relations, she would have nobody to run to. No argument could convince them....but she understood their side and kept silent .-In the meantime, Jos asked the parents if Jenny can start processing her passport. Jenny was reluctant, so Jos waited although trying to convince her more insistently. Then one time, in his usual daily visits, Jos expressed his disdain towards a miserable - looking dog, covered with wounds almost without fur anymore. He exclaimed. as Jenny recounted: Oh My! how miserable your dogs are, here.. our dogs back home are really beautiful and furry...In a spur of the moment, Jenny had an idea and retorted back forcefilly : alright Jos, if you don’t like our dogs here, you better get out of here and never come back again!! Jos was so embarrassed and hurt that he scurried off red-faced, blushing, and...to the parents’ disgust, he was never seen in that neighborhood again. Jenny felt relieved and peaceful. She assured her parents saying: don’t you worry Nay,Tay! I will be a teacher soon, then I will be a principal and I will give you what you need to your hearts content. Just let me be free to follow God’s plan for me and use my talents with freedom and Love! Is this story applicable or relevant these days? Why or why not?_Share and exchange deep insights with your group,19 Besides my time, or resources, I have gradually discovered that I have talents which others may not have, as they have other talents which I may not have either. In this way we colorfully complement one another in filling the world with LOVE ! ‘My God-given Talents I can share with others at home in school in the neighborhood /other people who need + * * * Film viewing the CD on CNN Awardee: fren Penaflorida Reflect and write on your journal: your insight on how a person can share hi/her talent, time, treasure through empathizing with the most needy, forgetting one’s needs to each out and improve their physical, mental, social, and moral life. Note his brief but, strong message to the youth, so as to remember to practice it and share it with others. Write also what you can do from your part as your gift-contribution to the needy youth around you. On your journal - Rainbow Connection: Red 6 Session — Entering into the orange aspect of the rainbow lifestyle Objective: At the end of the session , the participants will be able to : 4) reach out to others by trying to put one’s self in the others’ situation so as to feel what the other feel, in painful as well as joyful situations 5) to build true and sincere relationships with others, despite conflicts of principles and ideas 6) to establish genuine friendships starting out from one’self, without biases or prejudgments, discovering and appreciationg the positive qualities of others in one’s daily contacts, starting with the family ‘Time Frame: 2 hours per meeting until 3" week Material/s: ballpen, and journal Color 2 - Orange : Building Bridges, not Walls Liza’s “Advocacy” This is what an eleven-year-old Italian girl named Lisa did. She saw that her classmate and friend Georgina was extremely sad. She tried to comfort her, but it did no good. So she decided to find out what made her friend so sad. She learned that Georgina’s futher had died, and that her mother had left her alone with her grandmother and had gone to live with another man,80 As soon as she became aware of the tragedy, Lisa decided to do something about it, Even though Lisa was only a litile girl, she asked Georgina if she could talk to her mother, but Georgina begged her to go with her first to visit her father’s grave. With great love Lisa went with her. There she overheard Georgina sobbing and imploring her father to take her with him, Lisa felt heartbroken. The ruins of little church were nearby, and the two girls went in, the only things left inside the church were a small tabernacle and crucifix. Lisa said, “Look, in this world everything is going to be destroyed; only the crucifix and the Eucharist will always be with us.” Georgina dried her tears and replied, “Yes, you're right!” Then with tender love, Lisa took Georgina by the hand and accompanied her to her mother. When they got there Lisa boldly addressed the mother with these words: “I know this is none of my business, but I must tell you that you left your daughter without the mother’s love that she desperately needs. I must tell you also that you will never have peace until you repent and take your child back to live with you.” The following day Lisa met Georgina in school and again tried to cheer her up. But something new happened that day: a car came to pick Georgina up after school. The driver was her mother. From that they on, the car has kept coming regularly, because Georgina now lives with her mother, who no longer has any relationship with the man she was living with, In silence, reflect, on the story. Look into the secret of Liza, how she was able to do it? Are you in some similar situation, where this secret is needed to be applied? Write in your journal: Rainbow connection : Orange Action Line — No. of classmates this sem No. of classmates as my friend Old classmate-/neighbors ( in past school days) : went out of my way to make friends with new faces around me...I felt ! I specially made friends with those whom I felt not so easy to become friends with..! Wow, I really felt 1 New friends targeted/week Discover the positive qualities in them : Names of classmate His/Her Positive Quality/ies Awe81 ‘Names of Instructor His/Her Positive Quality/ties yaw Chauity begins at Home, although it does not stop there ... I tried to show love & appreciation to my father by to mother by tomy guardian (F any) by, tried to break down walls at home by building bridges of Love with my brother/sister by. with other members of the household by joined some friends’ circle during the break sharing our stories, talents introducing friends to one another, making the circle bigger, without leaving out anyone. ‘Talents I shared (even though I was shy) 1 tried to “put myself in the shoes” of the other person when there was some misunderstandings to be threshed out: In the family circle: I tried to “put myself in the shoes” of the other person when there was some misunderstandings to be threshed out: In my friends’ circle Tiistened with patience and care giving time for them to share their activities, problems, joys, with us at home, In the family circle: My special acts of Love to my kapamilya: 1 Itried to correct with love my young brothers/sisters (if any) to help them grow up well [I ttied to be the fist to say sorry when reconciliation & peace has to be regained and rebuilt at home 1 { make the first move to lighten the burdens/problems of our family by sharing my talent in cooking, singing, acting, or cracking healthy jokes or by7th Session a) & b)— culminating sessions of the 2™ color © Objective: At the end of the session , the participants will be able to: 1) realize the beauty & value the desirable values and practices of Filipinos individually and asa prosocial people, deep in empathy and morally healthy 2) thus to be proud being a Filipino and not being ashamed to continue these practices as an example to one’s friends & siblings Time Frame: | 1/2 hours per meeting until the 5 week Material/s: ballpen, and journal,VDO camera and other drama props prepared by group © _ » Filipino valued practices (almost forgotten values that I’m trying to preserve & practice without being ashamed of) : Mano po or amen to elders eget nel oraz Asking permission/advise from elders ( * __~ Gayanifian —__®aying a courtesy vist to relatives during free time or fofidays Angelus prayer together with some family members (collective prayer, sustaining moral values Other worthwhile Filipino practices sharing some home-made food with neighbors have grown much in my thoughtfulness and concern for others : At home by. In school by. Filipino Practices which do not build sincere and constructive relationships with others . Examples: “Manana” habit (procrastinating), crab mentality, “ kaikog” (exaggerated human respect ), “utang na loob” (unreasonable human gratitude) Share /exchange observations or experiences to team memberson both desirable and undesirable Filipino practices : I can still improve as my gift of Love for others by dropping some undesirable habits or practices such as How? Prepare together with your team a presentation to portray some episodes with your team, when you lived or witness some instances of people who tried to revive those Filipino values-practices and drop some undesirable ones. If possible portray simple but true to life experiences. Use VDO camera (if possible) to record it as a special treasure you want to remember and live on.83 @) b) Group presentations on how to be a true Filipino-builder of bridges, not of walls, nor “islands” ‘Write your impression and what you learned from the presentations in your journal Orange and share with the whole assembly. Group representatives will evaluate the presentations during a separate session with the facilitator. 8" Session —Entering into the yellow aspect of the rainbow lifestyle Objective: At the end of the session , the participants will be able to: 1) imbibe the significance of the vertical aspect of one’s life, one’s union with the Creator, with the Almighty, and the Redeemer, translated into a life of Prayer, the dynamo of altruistic and empathic disposition 2) relate one’s striving to be morally upright and just towards fellow humans with the Supreme Being the source of human dignity uprightness; for Christians, to make of Jesus Christ, the redeemer, one’s best friend, the model of outpouring unconditional Love 3) to acquire a_new paradigm of a God-centered spirituality, having God-Love in the vertical and horizontal dimentions of one’s daily adventure, a spirituality practices not only for one’s self, but empathizing with other’s pains,burdens, and needs, ‘Time Frame: 3 hours Material/s —_: Bible, or holy book of one’s religious affiliation /belief, ballpen, and journal Color 3 Yellow — My Link with the BEYOND A God-centeredness &, spirituality-my faith and relationship with God That flows in-what Iam and what I do during the day Heis Vie Heart of my day, His Love colors my difficulties and trials | —- His Plan of Love is the be-all of my studies of my life — 9th Session Deepening into the moral and psycho-spiritual wellness reached with the yellow aspect Objective: At the end of the session , the participants will be able to: 1) go in depth into the upgrading of one’s moral reasoning contained in the yellow aspect of the rainbow lifestyle 2) be vigilant in listening to that inner voice or conscience in making decisions and in helping others to do so, through one’s attitude and behavior Time Frame: 3 hours Material/s: ballpen, and journal ‘Talking with the One who created me and has Loved me up to the present and will afways Love me~84 My dialogue with the Supreme Being (the God one professes) and my religious practices as a Muslim, Mormon, ete. as indicated in my Church or religious group For Christians : my God, with His Son, Jesus, my best Friend, our Savior and Lord Inthe moming - My praise and thanksgiving for His magnificent creation, around me , in myself... My agreement with Him for my day’s adventure at school with friends... Lentrust to Him all my worries and the problems of my family... During the day ~ I talk with Him as my best Friend, my consultant , my Guide in my day’s continuous offering in each person I meet, in every situation I encounter At the end of each Day ~ I pray with my family members to thank Him for the countless blessing, for His protection, and Fatherly Love and care, for His faithfulness I say sorry for all my sins and failures to love Him, when I missed to offer my day to Him with Love, when I forgot my agreement with Him to be faithful and true. Es mith: _a “clean-up shower” ?’s abound sacrament of Confe Special : Read your Bible or Holy book at the most convenient time of your day- (just a age or some verses is enough) and translate it to life. Then share it to your circle of friends Faith integration in all my dealings /undertakings Maria do Socorro’s Experience You know that the world of students today is for the most part politicized and little room is left to those who would like to be useful to humanity basing their actions on their motives. This happened in Portugal. Maria do Socorro had just started college in a very tense environment. Many of the other students were involved in political disputes, each according to his or her own ideology and each trying to win over the students who had not joined any group as yet. Maria knew what she wanted to do, even though it ‘wasnot easy to explain her whole strategy to her friends. She wanted.to follow Christ and remain united to him. Her companions, who knew nothing of her ideas, however, labeled her wishy-washy, a girl without ideals. ‘At times she also felt awkward when they saw her go to church, but she went just the same because she felt she had to remain united to Jesus. Christmas was approaching. Maria was aware that among the students were some who could not go home because they lived too far away, She suggested to others that they get together and give them presents. To her great surprise, they all agreed right away. Later, school elections were held and another big surprise awaited her: she was elected as a class representative. Her amazement was even greater, however, when her friends told her that it was only logical that she should have been elected, since she was the only one who observed a precise line of conduct. “You know what you want” they said-“and how to go about accomplishing, it.” Now some of them want to find out more about the ideal of her life and to live it with her. This is the fruit of Maria do Socorro’s perseverance in remaining united to her God as an authentic Christian,85 How did you find her life and relationship with God? Does it inspire you to grow in this aspect of your life? Why or why not? On your experience with the Supreme Being, with God : Write this on your journal Rainbow Connection —Yellow a) a) Have you ever experienced that you had to be coherent / true and not plastic to your belief in Him ? * Add these treasured experiences on your journal Yellow b) Have you tried to be faithful to Him in the midst of temptations and challenge? If yes ‘when or on what situation? ‘Share these treasured experiences with your team. Think how they can also benefit from it- They are precious gifts ... How about your day of thanksgiving and worship-Sunday (for Catlolics/Christians) and other specified days for the other faiths/denominations: Set the time schedule of your date with the Lord ahead of time. Give it priority to give Him thanks for the whole week's blessing. Review the 10 commandments or Decalogue ( or its equivalent moral guide, in your own faith or religion) and as you learn them by heart, write them on your journal: Rainbow Connection Yellow b) Color 4- Green Keeping Fit and Healthy within in and Around We © 10th session Objective: At the end of the session , the participants will be able to . 1) have a new paradigm on good health-not just for one’s self, but for others-in the community and society 2) internalize the psycho —physical relevance of a healthy mind in a healthy body 3) share with others’pain and sickness experience through sincere service in any way 4) discover how moral reasonong is affected by a healthy mind and healthy body 5) realize the prime importance of ecology to society’s welfare ‘Time Frame: 2 hours/ per session Material/s : Bible (1* session), ballpen, and journal, materials for recycling & seed- lings for ecology session, food pictures/samples & recipes 3” session), camera ,if any A) The Story of Daniel — Daniel 1:1-20 ~ Share with your team the insights you have gained from this Old Testament story ? Now,after you read together the next true-to-life story, find its connection to Daniel’s story — although they took place in two different, distant periods. . Then try to ponder and discover what points you can apply in your daily life as a student at present-—86 B) Robert’s Rainbow Experience, CTU Graduate In his 1* Year of college, Robert brought with him his high School life of risky adventures. And he thought life would continue as such. So when he would finish classes. he would go out with ffiends and continue the fun they shared in high school: girls, alcohol, and other similar sources of “ dangerous fun”. Before finishing the first semester as an Engineering student, Robert felt his body numb all over. At first he just tolerated it, ‘but them he couldn’t go to school anymore, and he was almost. They had him examined and the doctors gave him medicine but it did not alleviate his condition. So he had to rest and was so worried of missing school. He thought he was going to die at the prime years of his youth Then his neighbors suggested to his parents to bring him to a well known priest to expel the evil spirits if ever he was possessed by them. So they did as the last attempt to save his life. In the peaceful compound of Mary’s Little Children Community, he arrived almost exhausted . As the priest talked gently to him laying his hands on him, he ‘was asked if he was happy to share with the priest all that was heavy deep within him, As a Catholic, he was also encouraged to feel free to confess what was bothering his conscience. Robert felt a great strength which seemed mysteriously coming from Above, His parents were praying as they waited for him. So he was happy to tell all about his past life, and felt free to confess to the priest. After the beautiful sharing which lasted some hours, the priest blessed him and with special prayers (that he was mandated to coffer for some persons who need it), he expelled the evil forces that may have enslaved the body of Robert to restore it as the temple of the Holy Spirit. Robert felt some kind of a power rushing in his body and like a miracle, he felt strengthened and re-invigorated again. When he came out of the consultation/reconciliation room, he felt all new within no longer physically weak but above all renewed in the spirit, filled with a new stamina coming from God, he understood. He thanked the Lord in the chapel as he prayed like he never prayed before. Thus Robert started a new life... He chose good friends in school and found them at the Campus Ministry. Since he had the talent to play the guitar he learned the Mass songs and served as the guitarist of the choir. He felt he was strengthened by good friends whom the Lord has placed near him, to continue his life’s journey. In 2008, Robert graduated college and after the review he passed the Mechanical Engineering Licensure Exam. Now he works in an overseas Shipping Company. He remarked, that the Lord prepared and strengthened him so that he could no longer be tempted by the world and its. attractions, He has seen how ugly and enslaving they are... he learned how to be in the ‘world but not of the world, ‘Write in your journal, Rainbow Connection : Green a) Write freely from your heart, without hurry: what lessons for life did you lea? What can you share to your friends about how to take care of one’s health in mind and body? How does one’s health affect others in one’s family.neighborhood or family circle? What other colors (or life’s aspects) were covered in his story? Describe them corresponding to the color involved.87 1th session A Healthy Mind in a Healthy Body - Keeping one’s body fit and healthy as a gift, not just for one’s self, but for others Arminority of students nowadays are health-conscious. Are you one of them? Hfnot, do you agree with me that this is due to some factors like: (mark a check in the box) (1 Lam away from my family, I’m just on my own as a boarder/bed spacer 1 Our family with little or limited income, father & mother don’t have a stable job 1 I got used to junk food when I was in High School C1 We were left on our own aso food choices and meal schedules at home (1 Other factors or causes you know ‘Check on how you take care of your health by honestly answering these : Health Watoh Weight : Blood type. inquire at the clinic or Red Cross Club their blood typing schedule) My daily food intake consists of the following: and ©) at these regular schedule : (at least you try most of the time) am/pm pm “Supper ‘How does a good meal (esp. a good breakfast) affect your studies, relationships? Your resistance towards attractions /temptations? Write this on our journal: Rainbow connection a) Green88 12th session © weaves weave As we grow, like the plants and animals, (and even. more than them) we need to nourish our body. It is a God given gift, as a capital for our Gife, for our future. As we choose our food, we notice how our body functions acconfing to our meal schedule as ‘well. Ten we realize how important it is to take care of our God to 6e fit as a student. ‘Have you had an experience when you were not feeling well and couldn’t go to school? Or have you tried serving somebody sick in your family circle? How did you feel being close to that suffering person? Have you tried putting yourself in the shoes of people who were sick? What would be the probable consequence? Write it briefly on your journal: “ Rainbow Connection — Green b) “ Why is it easier for one to serve others when one has eaten well or rested enough? ‘Try the following practices in the next days/weeks and share your observations afterwards: to your team mates. © Astudent's Health Fitness Work-out try hard to improve on my meals by eating a balanced diet, not necessarily expensive but — (1 Rich in vegetables and meat/fish, and fruits Drinking sufficient water []_Less/no more junk food nor carbonated drinks With respectful delicadeza, empathizing with the budget and, at the same time, the needs of the family, I offer to help plan affordable meals for the family (if living with family) Remember by fieart — esis fa i isnot always delicious, © but they give you the wealth of good health. Some common but nutritious foods suggestions Adobong Kangkong Camote tops salad with fresh tomatoes Use as juice the water from the boiling the eaves w/out salt, ‘Mix juice with calamansi and sugar with some ice-indeed very nutritious Ampalaya with egg (quantity as needed by family)89 Pancit Canton (or any preferred noodle) with an egg or % ground meat/ hot dogs cut in many pieces & some beans, carrots( without so much artificial seasoning) Dilis with Tokwa & peanuts (meat substitute) sautéed with garlic and then with soy sauce sugar & some vinegar ‘* Add here the favorite native dish cooked by your Mama/Papa when family is together originated from — what locality or province? e ECOLOGY - taking care of Mother Earth Objective: At the end of the session , the participants will be able to 1) understand the real meaning of ecology 2) internalize the altruistic value of being ecological 3) start being an ecology-sensitive person aware its moral aspect to planet earth and its inhabitants 4) share with others the enthusiasm and joy of preserving and saving the environment not only for the present, but for the future generations ‘Time Frame: 2 hours/ per session Material/s: Bible (1* session), ballpen, and journal, materials for recycling & seedlings for ecology session, food pictures/samples & recipes 3“ session), camera,if any Ecology ‘The earth and its ozone layer is being abused and running towards total destruction due to our unhealthy/unsafe practices which are not earth friendly. The ozone layer can no longer protect us from the direct harmful rays of the sun. Research about the ozone layer and how in some practical ways can we do to give our share to save it: ‘Much of the waste around us are not disposed properly; and they are neither segregated well. Go together with your group to list down the things to do around our campus to improve the segregation and collecting of garbage in our campus. List them below: Desirable ways of garbage: ‘Undesirable ways of garbage disposal &: segregation disposal & segregation - taking care of Mother Earth Planting Trees can contsibute to the watersheds which preserve or maintain our water supply. Trees also protect us water erosion from the uplands. They also give us shade from the heat and warmth of the sun. Write other great usefulness of trees, particularly those : which we may have taken for granted:90 Start planting some trees & plants around your house after consulting with parents and join with some friends to plant trees around the neighborhood or a barren land endorsed by your barangay for tree planting. Try to preserve all the trees around us. They are a priceless treasure in our planet. *Special Acts of Love* 1 _Lavoid friends who invite me to a drinking spree or offer me cigarettes; [] Lask help fiom my family to remind me, and to pray for us young people who are so prone eto ‘these allurements (ZI invented some techniques to help parents/siblings not to waste money and health on drinking and smoking, ‘When advised by doctor, I take my vitamins/medicines (if any) regularly & follow the diet prescribed such as: (if any) thus edifying others with my example Do's Dow's 1 Ltried to recycle instead of buying new things, like: Then share my saving for my school projects and other needed materials Ci Thelp make a vegetable garden at my backyard & water the plants to preserve the green around the house C1 Thelp and teach my brothers/sisters & neighbors to keep our canals free from garbage or & segregate garbage to protect the ozone and avoid blocking the free flow of water and thus avoid floods and other calamities Asa personal growth in the green aspect, I have improved in eating nutritious food and enjoined others to start improving too like: I shared with my team that I have dropped the unhealthy habit/s , such as: CONGRATULATIONS!!! and Reep it up with the other colors to make life meaningful, safe, and sound...for the future... for you and ....for others aroundo1 Color 5- Blue ‘Harmony and Beauty that comes from within ‘Objective: At the end of the session , the participants will be able to : 1) acquire the true significance of beauty and order inside-out as a gift for the others around me, _a) through cleanliness habits, b) way of dressing and grooming one’s self 2) assess one’s self thru the different stories or experiences researched or surveyed, on what one can still improve in this aspect - as one’s contribution to society in which one lives, 3) make initiatives not only individually, but collectively with one’s friends, threshing out with them the needs of one’s community/barangay, or neighborhood ‘Time Frame: 2 hours per session Material/s: ballpen, and journal, clippings or CD.DVD, of people with exemplary personalities in their humanitarian fields of endeavor 13" session Cleanliness is next to Godliness. When one feels clean inside, it automatically overflows—making one’s world clean, green and beautiful to gradually eliminate all filthiness and sadness around. Thus ,one becomes a concrete bringer of harmony and joy to others, in striving to apply this consistently everyday.as one undertakes one’s duties and responsibilities. *Survey with your team, the wonderful award-winning story of Barrio Luz’ clean-up and recycling campaign (Barrio Luz, Mabolo Cebu City) Read the following Russian story : The Lost Mom Ina busy mall in Moscow, a little boy who lost her mother, was crying in the midst of the crowd. The guard of that area took him gently by the hand and assured him that soon they will find his Mom. The boy continued crying “Mommy,mommy,” then taking more interest, the guard bent down and almost hugging the boy, he inquired: how does your Mom look like? The little boy stopped crying, thought awhile and said: she is the most beautiful Mommy... yes, the most beautiful woman you can see...he said amidst tears running down on his cute chubby cheeks. For some hours, in vain they couldn’t find the boy’s mother. The boy was already tired, hungry and sleepy; he was almost at the point of desperation when he looked towards his right, and his face gleamed with joy- lo and behold - Mommy was just running towards him! He ran and hugged her and wouldn’t let her go, not anymore. He was filled with joy, and seemed to be no longer tired, hungry,92 nor sleepy. The guards and the people around them were speechless as they stared at the scene of mother and son... especially looking closely at the mother! No trace ever on her as the most beautiful mother or woman the way she was described by her son, or as compared with the other women in the mall; in fact her hair was all ina mess, and her face was quite covered with sweat, looking groggy and drained probably from the pressure of looking desperately for the lost son; No special beautiful characteristics on her face could be found at all- just a plain common Russian mother ! But the most beautiful scene, was that one of the boy - who found at last the woman- whom he had the most beautiful loving relationship with, Yes, that made them understand why the little boy described her Mom as such—because he must have found in her the greatest love a Mom could give to her son and the son saw her true beauty therein. Recount to your team, your own perceptions of true beauty, and how it can be a gift to others,as well as to society or the environment in which one lives. In your journal write: Rainbow connection :Blue a) Lilies of the Field “Look at the the lilies of the filed, not even Solomon was ever dressed like these....” Matthew 6:7 Style of dressing — 1) must fit your personality 2) should be appropriate to the occasion 3) must be in accord with your budget (saving, allowance) 4) through its good taste, modesty and simplicity, people will feel good and comfortable to be in your company Paste/draw some types of clothes for different occasion in your journal ‘Rainbow connection —Blue a) 14™ session Objective: At this last session of the blue aspect , the participants wil] be able to : 1)_ make altruistic down-to-earth applications of what have been learned and internalized in the past sessions 2) consider one’s privilege to make some concrete action to actualize beauty and ‘harmony at home,in school or in the workplace 3) transcend one’s inconveniences and going out of one’s comfort zone to clean upand bring about harmony and order in the environment Time Frame: 2 hours Material/s: ballpen, and journal, cleaning materials, Reflect and remember in everyday living : ‘True beauty comes from within. It cannot be the other way around. Otherwise it would be artificial. Even how one fixes one self externally but the inside attitudes, disposition, motives and reasoning are “undesirable “ without LOVE, then one cannot possess genuine and true beauty. However beauty aids from the external can also help make the person beautiful, and pleasing to others thus contributing to the beauty of the surrounding and make people feel happy and good.93 Team Activity: Teams will choose to do one of these : ©)Try to observe what do we still need to do in order to make our university more clean and orderly : ~—=List the precious action points you can contribute for the beautification and cleanliness of CTU: ) Write in your journal Rainbow connection -Blue (B)—List what you and the others can suggest and do together to give your significant part in the Blue, be realistic: 1) Start in your home from your bedroom/or in your boarding house 2) in your university -a) Set an appointment to actualize together the I" steps in your Iforementioned Then, take your team’s picture in action on the( ex. CWTS) bulletin board and on the face book,o share it with your on line friends. b)Oserve what other action points you can initiate as a youth, to make the barangay a more clean and healthy environment and relate it to the SK youth for collective action Remember: A simple altruistic act of Love goes a long way ,it builds a new world _Write your initial action made here. Color 6- Indigo ‘Knowledge SL, Wisdom, Light & Love ‘Wisdom is possessed even without studies. That’s why some ancient stories call some the “wise men” who were hermits in the mountains or wilderness. Seeing a deeper meaning or message behind persons, happenings, things that touch the signs or needs of the times, Oftentimes wisdom is seasoned by experience of trials undergone, problems overcome or threshed out in time, from defeats & conquests passed, from ones relationships built through thick and thin. Objective: At the end of the session , the participants will be able to : 1) go in-depth into the distinction between knowledge & wisdom-and how they can lead one to be more altruistic and empathetic 2) realize the relevance of wise, planning, decisions, discernment, in the midst of today’s highly technical world where we are all immersed ‘Time Frame: 2 hours per session Material/s: bible, internet research, ballpen, and journal, materials for posters-making Even children posses wisdom due to Baptismal innocence and transparency, honesty ,and sincerity. Recall the following stories: 1) The Emperor’s New Clothes (library/intemet research ) How do you compare the child’s wisdom and the tailor’s cunning ? why the king’s naivete or stupidity? 2) The Wisdom of King Solomon (Sacred Scriptures, 2 Chronicles: 1) How did Solomon acquire wisdom? Write the Title and your answers in your journal under Rainbow connection -Indigo:15" Session Write a simple outline of your weekly tabulated schedule where you set a time for: * individual or group study and research — indigo, violet * prayer (individual or with family or friends)- yellow * family time & your part in the family tasks -red, blue, violet, * your recreation with friends or break from studying -orange * your health care-meals, exercise, sleep or rest green, violet Have you tried to form a study circle so as to study together some difficult or heavy subjects? If not, start with some diligent friends. If you need an expert from higher years to tutor Math or other subjects, ask from the reach- out committee in the Campus Ministry Office. They are there for that. If you are good in these subjects you can also join the peer tutorial reach-out! You will find your talent multiplied! Self-evaluation——— End of the indigo week ** improved in ¥* I still need to improve in Post indigo week : *** [improved in *** I still need to improve in Middle of the sem: #1 improved in. +++] gill need to improve in End of the sem: ***** T improved in. #4] still need to improve in ‘What lessons in have I learned , and then applied in my daily adventure as a student, ex. from the indigo? Life lesson: ‘My application in my daily life situations (at home, in school, with friends, etc. ) Bible: Learn these by heart for your life's armor: Fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. Proverbs 1:7 Fear of the Lord is one of the Gifts of the Holy Spirit, Its the fear of losing the One who Loves us the most...thus it is a fear motivated by Love.95 Be wise as a serpent, and Ge pure as a dove. Matt.10:16 Wisdom is complete with virtue eg. purity. Add here your own experience when you were enriched by practicing these verses from the Word of God in different actual situations with friends at school,or in the neighborhood or with the family,as well, Don't miss this chance to grow.... Color 7 - Violet Communication for one Global family Entering into the violet, the last color of the Rainbow Lifestyle Objective: At the end of the session, the participants through lively exchange and discussion will be able to 1) express how communications play a role in their daily routine 2) initially grasp the real significance of communications 3) have a sincere self-assessment or examination on how one communicates despite the obstacles and difficulties involving true communications with others starting as a student. Time Frame: 2 hours per session ‘Material/s: ballpen, and journal 16" session Beyond Barriers ‘That is what happened to Lella. Some months had passed since the day when, full of hope, she first reported to her new job in Belgium among the Flemish-speaking people. But now a sense of dismay and loneliness had taken hold of her heart, It was as though between her and the girls with whom she lived and worked, an insurmountable barrier had been erected. She felt isolated and estranged among those people whom she wanted only to serve with love. It was all because she had to speak a language which was neither hers nor those to whom she was speaking with. They had told her that everybody spoke French in Belgium and she had learned it. But coming in direct contact with those people she realized that the Flemish people studied French only in school and in general spoke it unwillingly. Many times she had tried to move this mountain of segregation that kept her apart from others, but in vain. What could she do for them? She could still see before her the face of her companion Godelieve, full of sadness. That evening Godelieve went up to her room without touching her supper. Lella tried to follow her, but she stopped in front of the door, timid and scared. She wanted to knock... but what words should she use to make herself understood? She remained there for a few seconds, then she gave up. Next morning she went to church and stayed at the back behind the last pews, her face buried in her hands so that no one would notice her tears. It was the only place where no other language needed to be spoken, where no explanations were required,96 because there was Someone who understood beyond words. With the certainty of being understood, she gathered courage and, her soul in anguish, she asked Jesus: “Why can I not share the cross of the other girls and tell them what you yourself have made me understand when I found you: that every suffering is love?” There she was in front of the tabemacle, almost expecting an answer from him who had brought light into every darkness of her life. She tumed her eyes to the Gospel of the day and read: “Trust ~ have faith —I have conquered the world.” These words were like balm on Lella’s soul, and she felt a great peace, When she went back for breakfast, she met Annj, the girl who did the housecleaning. She greeted Annj and followed her into the storeroom, then, without a word she started to help her prepare breakfast. The first person to come down from the room was Godelieve. She came to the kitchen for a cup of coffee, quite in a hurry to avoid seeing anyone. But there, she stopped; Lella’s peace had touched her soul in a manner stronger than any word. ‘That evening, on the way home, Godelieve pedaled her bicycle beside Lella’s, and trying to speak in a way Lella would understand, she whispered, “Your words are not necessary; today your life told me: love means more than words.” The mountain had been moved! Based on Lella’s experience , what does communication really consist in? How can we communicate to others in such a way as fo reach them and they, too reach us? ‘What stops us or people around us to communicate with one another especially when conflicts or miscommunication arise? What can Ido now to improve my way of communicating with others? Role play with your group on a) how you tried before to have an opentine with your family- connecting to my ka-pamilya: (by teams) b) On your observations about Media that connects when, or Disconnect and destroy? Then have an lively exchange and discussion with your team: by answering the following: Why, at times, media and other ways of communication ( face book,email,etc) connect and at times disconnect,or destroy our relationship with God, and with others? Opening -up with is easier because ‘Not as easy to open up with others because‘My link-up with my friends _ How can I improve it? My link-up with the world: AmT growing through it through facebook email,etc.? 17" Session ("to last Session) — entering into the violet, the last color of the Rainbow Lifestyle ‘Objective: At the end of the session, the participants through lively exchange and discussion will be able to 1) express how communications play a tole in their daily routine 2) initially fathom the real significance of communications 3) have a sincere self-assessment or examination on how one communicates or copes with the obstacles and difficulties involving true communications with others starting as a student Time Frame: 1 1/2 hours Material/s: ballpen, and journal,newspaper or magazine clippings with interesting headlines/topics Instruments to communicate and unite: the cell, telephone, internet ete: do we really always need them? Share an experience (yours or others”) which show their 1) advantage or benefits 2) disadvantage/hazard — ‘Write in your journal: Rainbow connection- Violet Ask your folks how did they connect with their close friends or kapuso during their time? ‘What did you learn from them? Reflect: then remember before communicating : ‘Communication is rooted in the benevolent desire to grow in one’s relationship with the other, to empathize and share with the other person what is of benefit to her/him so as to facilitate the journey together towards your targeted goal, towards fulfillment and success. ‘Thus communication facilitates unity and strengthens bonds with one another. It is therefore not to gain profit from the other or to make business out of the ‘communication done, it is not to put up one’s self and one’s group and to put others down, The secret in communication is to forget one’s own self, put aside one’s own idea, fo listen to the others'point of view, to appreciate the others? ideas/suggestions to reach a certain common goal and welfare.. It is to edify or build up the relationship by expressing mutual concern for the other, thus becoming part of one anothers’ joy’s and98 sorrows. Of course there are moments when one can disagree but not be disagreeable, especially when beliefs and principles are touched. But it is better to bend but not break, Only when it goes aaginst God’s law (or one’s conscience ) or when it destroys our dignity as His children, then we should no longer agree or accept. Consequently in communicating and sharing to the other, joys are multiplied and burdens and sorrows are divided and made lighter. Logically, with this type of communication, there is more understanding and openness, without fear of being misinterpreted or judged. There will be less conflicts, less jealousy and pride, and the wounds of hatred and division gradually healed. The way towards unity with God becomes the road more traveled because humanity will have learned how to be true brothers and sisters traveling hand in hand together in the holy journey of life towards that Paradise once lost, but now gained .The Divine Lover has made us One by His Love stronger than death! ! 18" Session — Follow-up of the last session towards the culmination session on the 7 Cok ny ‘lors Objective: At the end of the session , the participants will be able to reflect and capture the ultimate goal of one’s journey covered by the rainbow lifestyle: to be perfect 1) in being prosocial in our dealings with others 2) in forgetting one’s self so as to be one with others’ in their own circumstances 3) as.alliving example,through moral uprightness, even in pains and difficulties, of making all aspects of life be colored by selfless Love, manifested through one’s attitude and behavior Time Frame: 2 hours Material/s: ballpen, and journal, CD of Blessed Chiara Luce Badano CD presentation of Blessed Chiara Luce Badano, an 18 yr-old youth ( beatified on Sept.25, 2010) Reflection-application: Be guided by the following : 1) Chiara Luce’s vision in life 2) What/Who empowered her to pursue her vision despite her trials and pains? In which part of her story was it shown? 3) Why was she able to be projected to others, instead of focusing on her suffering,on herself? 4) How did she make herself one with others’ in their own situations? 5) If you were in her place what would be your way of pursuing your dream or vision in life?99 Don't wait until your youth fades, and you end up sobbing over a wasted life and have to say with St. Augustine:” Too late have I loved you! Too late have I loved You, Of Geauty ever ancient, ever new!” Chiara Lubich Plenary sharing of participants as to their varied, multi-colored experiences on the past seesions of the Rainbow Lifestyle. Let the special, deep sharing serve as a priceless gift to your co-participants and facilitators. ‘To wrap up your notes in the journal, write a Thanksgiving prayer followed by your special resolution to renew yourself regularly in living faithfully the colors of the Rainbow of LOVE! In doing so your life will shine out to others. Together we can invade the world with LOVE. Your friend facilitator, and co-traveler , GRACE ERA G. CENIZA.100 VALUES FORMATION 4% i : Facilitators’ /Feam Leaders’ Guide Reminders: 1. Divide the assembly into Teams with color names: if needed for a big group, extend into subgroups e.g. Team Red-1, Red- 2, etc. Minimum no.= 7; Maximum = average classroom seating capacity 2. The ideal time frame for the processing of the values in the participants would be a time span of one session/weekly,so as to have a hands-on experience and interiorize what is being inputted discussed,and shared during the session. 3. An allotment of 30 minutes. at the end of each session is always needed | for the team sharing to enhance the prosocial and the empathic (perspective-taking) development of the participants. 4, The Facilitator may delay or advance the next color according to the pace or readiness of the participants. What matters most is that they have made the application and undergone the interiorization process. = 5. Your role is in teamwork with the Guidance Counselor) Campus Minister r who, in turn, is in partnership with parents or guardians (always private 3) & confidential) to assure the maximum growth & development of the student/s concerned. o 6. Set a regular schedule for your group dialogue & exchange with the team Facilitators, team leaders, Guidance Counselors and Campus Minister- brief and unfrequent this may be, but this is considered indispensable for continuous growth and development. One cannot give what one doesn’t have. 4 c