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“Winsome, wise, witty. This is a book that every woman must read. Chris-
tin shows us that our words can either wound or heal, and takes us on a
soul-search to discover how to harness our words for redemptive purposes.”
J e n n i f e r K e n n e d y D e a n , Executive Director, The Pray-
ing Life Foundation; author, Live a Praying Life
“Digging into the words of women of the Bible and the women of history,
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Christin Ditchfield renews our attention to one of the most important
things about us as women—the way we use our power and freedom to
I T C H F I E L D
speak to others.”
L a e l A r r i n g t o n , author, A Faith and Culture Devotional;
www.laelarrington.com
CHRISTIAN LIVING
C H R I S T I N D I T C H F I E L D
A Way with Words: What Women Should Know about the Power They Possess
Copyright © 2010 by Christin Ditchfield
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Ditchfield, Christin.
A way with words : what women should know about the power they possess /
Christin Ditchfield.
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Includes bibliographical references.
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And the way we wield that influence most often is with our
words. Women have a way with words. It begins in toddler-
hood, when linguistics experts note that nearly 100 percent of
the sounds emanating from our mouths are conversational—in
other words, “chit-chat.” Not true for our little brothers and
their friends. In fact, as much as 90 percent of their communi-
cation at the same age is unintelligible noise: “Vroom, vroom!
Bang! Pow!”
We women talk sooner, and we talk more. Way more. It’s been
suggested that the average adult man speaks as many as 25,000
words a day. The average woman: 50,000.2 That’s a staggering
amount! What kind of words are we speaking? Words that build
up, words that tear down. Words that guide and encourage and
teach. Words that control and manipulate and deceive.
Remember the women who have spoken powerful words that
have shaped your life. The words of a teacher who believed in
you . . . a grandmother who faithfully prayed . . . a friend who
took the time to listen—and then gave godly counsel—at a criti-
cal time in your life.
What about words that wounded you? Maybe your mother
told you that you were a disappointment to her. Or you had a
coach who ripped your performance to shreds. Remember the
girls who teased you at school, who told you that you were too
fat or too skinny or too tall. Or the boss who predicted you’d
never make it in this business. Remember the things you’ve said
to yourself in moments of discouragement or despair.
How have these words impacted you—for good or evil?
How have your words impacted others?
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When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey
us, we can turn the whole animal. Or take ships as an example.
Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they
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It’s a sobering thought, one that begs the question: How are
we doing in our efforts to “tame our tongues”? Are the words
we speak words that wound or words that heal? Words that
live or words that die? And what do our words reveal about
our hearts?
It’s really not overstating it to say that God has given us the
incredible potential, the awesome privilege, and the amazing
opportunity to impact the lives of those we love in a powerful
way. It’s up to us to make the most of it—to learn to use our
words wisely and well.
Bible Study
At the end of each chapter, you’ll find questions like these to
help you reflect on the biblical principles presented and apply
them to your own life. You’ll want to record your responses in
a separate notebook or journal.
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“Winsome, wise, witty. This is a book that every woman must read. Chris-
tin shows us that our words can either wound or heal, and takes us on a
soul-search to discover how to harness our words for redemptive purposes.”
J e n n i f e r K e n n e d y D e a n , Executive Director, The Pray-
ing Life Foundation; author, Live a Praying Life
“Digging into the words of women of the Bible and the women of history,
D
Christin Ditchfield renews our attention to one of the most important
things about us as women—the way we use our power and freedom to
I T C H F I E L D
speak to others.”
L a e l A r r i n g t o n , author, A Faith and Culture Devotional;
www.laelarrington.com
CHRISTIAN LIVING
C H R I S T I N D I T C H F I E L D