𝟕 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤

"𝐎𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐨𝐫 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭"

1/ Freedom for fear

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The possibilities for the future are infinite. When we focus on the unfortunate possibilities, that's called
fear. When we remember the other possibilities, which are usually more likely, that's called freedom
from fear.

2/True love

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The trouble with romance is that when the fantasy is broken, the disappointment can badly hurt s
romantic love, we don't really love our partner, only love the way they make us feel. It is the high' we
feel their presence that we love. Which is why, when they ar absent, we miss them and ask to be sent a
bottle of... (see the previous story). Like any 'high', it wears out after a while True love is selfless love.
We are concerned only for the other person. We tell them, 'The door of my heart will always be open to
you, whatever you do', and we mean it. We just want them to be happy. True love is rare.

Many of us like to think that our special relationship is true love, not romantic love. Here is a test for you
to discover which type of love it is. Think of your partner. Picture them in your mind. Recall the day you
came together and the wonderful times you have enjoyed ever since. Now imagine receiving a letter
from your partner. It tells you that they have fallen deeply in love with your best friend, and the two of
them have run away to live together. How would you feel?

If it were true love, you would be so thrilled that your partner has found someone even better than you,
and is now even more happy. You would be delighted that your partner and best friend were having
such a good time together. You'd be ecstatic that they were in love. Isn't your partner's happi ness the
most important thing in true love?

True love is rare.

A Queen was looking through the palace window at the Buddha walking for alms food in the city. The
King saw her and grew jealous of her devotion to the Great Monk. He con fronted his Queen and
demanded to know who she loved most, the Buddha or her husband? She was a devoted disciple
of the Buddha, but in those days you had to be very careful if your husband was the King. Losing your
head meant losing your head. She kept her head and replied with searing hon esty, I love myself more
than the both of you.

3/Flattery gets you everywhere.

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We all like to hear ourselves praised but unfor tunately most of the time we only hear about our faults.
That's fair, I suppose, because most of the time we only speak about someone else's faults. We hardly
ever speak praise. Try listening to yourself speaking.

Without praise, without positive reinforcement of good qualities, those qualities wither and die. But a
little bit of praise is a grandstand of encouragement. We all want to hear ourselves praised; we just want
to be sure about what we have to do to hear it.

4/This too will pass'

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This too will pass' helps us pull through. It also avoids one of the great causes of depression, which is
taking the happy times too much for granted.

5/It's too much to hope for...

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It's too much to hope for a life without pain,

It's wrong to expect a life without pain,

For pain is our body's defense.

No matter how much we dislike it,

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6/The biggest thing in the world.

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Your mind can see all that your eye can see, and it can see more that is supplied through your
imagination. It can also know sounds, which your eye can never see, and know touch, both real and
made of dream stuff. Your mind can also know what lies outside your five senses. Because everything
that can be known can fit into your mind, your mind must be the biggest thing in the world. The mind
contains all.

7/ The Science of silence.

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Perhaps it is better to stop arguing altogether. A famous Eastern proverb goes: He who knows, doesn't
say; He who says, doesn't know. This might sound profound until you work out that who ever said it,
therefore didn't know!

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