CRES-1100 Foundations of Collaborative Conflict Resolution

Conversation Preparation Sheet

Use the following questions to assist you in preparing for a collaborative conflict conversation.
1. What are some of the beliefs, thoughts, and assumptions that I have with regards to this conflict?

In settling disagreements, I emphasize open communication and mutual understanding. Furthermore, it is critical
to put realistic restrictions on automobile usage, balancing T's independence with my erratic requirements. In
addition, I believe T’s knows the significance of responsibility and safety when borrowing the automobile.
Finding a middle ground that fosters confidence and meets both of our needs while addressing my fears about
unexpected happenings and potential accidents is critical for me.

2. What do I notice occurring in this conflict? E.g., style, feelings, power, history.

I see an interaction of assumptions and possible power dynamics in this disagreement. T's desire for unfettered
automobile use represents their growing freedom, whilst my reservations underscore the importance of setting
reasonable boundaries. Due to varied requirements and safety concerns, emotions may run high. The historical
background of T attaining freedom via a driver's license complicates matters. Recognizing these dynamics, for
me, allows for a more empathic approach, enabling a collaborative debate on setting realistic boundaries.

3. What are the subject areas/topics that need to be resolved? How can I describe the conflict using
descriptive rather than blaming language?

Defining borrowing limits, discussing usage frequency, and addressing concerns about unanticipated
demands and safety are all issues that must be addressed. Descriptive language is used to describe
human wants and concerns without assigning blame. For example, one might express the value of
having access to a car in case of an emergency and the shared duty for safety. This method promotes
comprehension and opens the door to a collaborative discussion with T about developing mutually
acceptable norms.

4. What is important to me regarding this conflict? What are my needs?

It's critical to me in this conflict that I have access to a car in case of an emergency. It is critical for me to have
clear communication and mutual understanding. Safety is a top consideration, and I need to know that T
understands the responsibility that comes with driving. Setting acceptable boundaries coincides with my desire
for a balanced and collaborative approach that takes into account both T's increasing independence and my
worries.

5. What might be important to the other person regarding this conflict? What are their needs?

T’s may value autonomy and the greater freedom that comes with getting a driver's license. They are likely to
cherish trust and may require freedom while driving the automobile to explore their independence. Recognizing
T's freedom demands while also addressing safety issues and creating suitable restrictions can be critical. A
collaborative approach that respects their autonomy while promoting ethical automobile use may aid in the
discovery of a mutually acceptable solution.

6. What will I do if we are unable to have this conversation? What is my backup plan?

If we are unable to have this conversation, my backup plan is to establish interim, well-expressed automobile
usage regulations. I'll specify when the automobile is available and underline the need of following safety
requirements. In addition, I can suggest a trial term to see how well this arrangement works for both of us. The
conversation would be revisited later to guarantee a collaborative, long-term solution.