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DR G. M. MPIGI
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JANUARY, 2016
INTRODUCTION
Every African community had ways of regulating the lives of individuals in the society. Though it is a
known fact that, in Africa in antiquity that there were no written law to regulate the lives of the people;
but there were those things that helped the Africans in their day to day lives to live according to the
regulation of the Community. In fact as Udo (1983) states, there were judicial as well as law enforcing
instruments in Ibibio; he mentioned some of the law enforcing instruments as including Mbiam (juju),
In this sense, Ukot is a very strong judicial instrument which helps in regulating the activities of
marriage. Marriage is the bedrock of any given society; it is a union between a man and a woman as
husband and wife which lasts for life time. Marriage is an important means of forming alliance beyond
one’s own kin group (clan). Marriage transforms relationships and conveys certain rights. These
establish legal parentage of children as well as establishing a social relationship (an affinal relationship
or affinity) between spouses and each other’s relatives (Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia)
In this work, we shall elucidate the concept of In-law ‘Ukot” and it vatious types. We shall go ahead to
discussing the place that of an In-law in a typical traditional Ibibio family as well as its religious
significance. But before we do this, we shall first of all discuss briefly about the Ibibio people whom
which we have used as case study in this work. We shall round it up by adumbrating the various
The name Ibibio is coined from the word "Ibio-ibio" means ‘short’ or ‘brief’ and doesn't have
anything to do with "ulok" and while it is called "ufok" by some other Ibibio groups. The name "Ikot"
often replaces "the house of... or the people of ", referring to their origin or ancestors. Another
The Ibibio-speaking people occupy an area of land in the extreme southeastern corner of Nigeria (Udo
1983: 1). According Encyclopedia Britannica, Ibibio are the people of southeastern Nigeria, mainly in
the Cross River state. They speak dialects of Efik-Ibibio, a language now grouped within the Benue-
Congo branch of the Niger-Congo language family. The Ibibio comprise the following major
divisions: Efik , Northern (Enyong), Southern (Eket), Delta (Andoni-Ibeno), Western (Anang), and
Eastern (the Ibibio proper). The Annang, Efik, Ekid, Oron and Ibeno share personal names, culture,
and traditions with the Ibibio, and speak closely related varieties of Ibibio-Efik
The Ibibio tribe is the 4th largest ethnic set in Nigeria, and barely outnumbered by the Igbo our
homeland of Ibibio is at Usak Edet (Isangele) in the Cameroon. Ibibio society consists of villages,
each of which belongs to a larger unit known as the “Clan.” The clan was often named after the
founder of the first village in the area. Each Ibibio village is independent and equal in status. The
villages consist of individual families comprising the husband, his wife/wives, children and
(https://closingdebateonafrica.wordpress.com)
MEANING OF IN-LAW “UKOT”
The word “Ukot” has two meanings which are in-law and legs (Udo 1983: 150). “Ukot” in the
connotative sense of In-law signifies that a married person has something that acts like legs between
him, that is, his wife (op cit, 150). In Ibibio, when a person marries or is married into any lineage,
there exists a kind of political, economic and social link (relationship) between the two lineages. That
is to say that there is an automatic tie that exist between the lineage of the groom and that of the bride,
and that gives birth to the notion of “Ukot”(In-law). According to Merriam Webster dictionary, an in-
law is a person you are related to because of your marriage; especially the father or mother of your
husband.
In an oral interview with Dr John Bosco Ekanem, Ekanem postulated an In-law “Ukot” as somebody
who goes out to marry another person; and in this case, if a man goes out to another family to marry he
becomes an in-law “Ukot” to that family and the parents (mother and father) brothers and sisters,
uncles of his wife automatically become his In-laws “Ukot”. Also, his family members also become
the in-laws “Mme Ukot” of his wife’s family. It is worth noting that “Ukot” is not a blood
relationship, it’s not bound by blood ties, but it’s a relationship of affinity; that is to say, when a
person goes out to marry a lady, he is affined to the family of his wife not by blood but by marriage
relationship. This relationship has a law and it is from it that we have “In- law “Ukot” which is usually
According to Montgomery (1995), relationships with in-laws are a special category within kinship
systems that has not been widely studied. Generally, kin relationships are defined by either blood
(consanguine) ties or marriage (affinal) ties. Blood relationships are bound together by genetic lines,
but relationships based on marriage are bound together by law and a code of conduct that accompanies
them. In-law relationships are unique in that they are defined through a third party by both a marriage
To really state clearly the types of in law, we shall divide in-law into Parent-in-law and Sibling-in-law.
PARENTS-IN-LAW
A parent-in-law is a person who has a legal affinity with another by being the parent of the other's
spouse. Many cultures and legal systems impose duties and responsibilities on persons connected by
this relationship. A person is a son-in-law or daughter-in-law to the parents of the spouse, who are in
turn also the parents of those sisters-in-law and brothers-in-law (if any) who are siblings of the spouse
(as opposed to spouses of siblings). Together the members of this family affinity group are called the
Fathers-in-law: A father-in-law is the father of a person's spouse. Two men who are fathers-in-law to
each other's children may be called co-fathers-in-law, or, if there are grandchildren, co-grandfathers.
Mothers-in-law: A mother-in-law is the mother of a person's spouse. Two women who are mothers-
in-law to each other's children may be called co-mothers-in-law, or, if there are grandchildren, co-
grandmothers. In some cases, the mother-in-law is sometimes shown as the bane of the husband, who
SIBLING-IN-LAW
wife or husband.
Sister-In-Law: A sister-in-law (plural sisters-in-law) is the sister of one's spouse or the wife of one's
Additionally, persons who have siblings who are married will refer to each other as "brother/sister-in-
In antiquity where extended family systems were practiced in Ibibio, In-law “Ukot” played a unique
role in so many aspects of the family life. In those days, “Ukot” was given a special place in the
decision making of the family. A clear example of this role could be seen in the area of peace making.
In Ibibio, the in-law “Ukot’ is regarded in fact as the mediator. It was definitely the role of the in-law
to settle dispute in cases where there are misunderstandings and quarrelling. The in-law “Ukot’ is seen
to be a bringer of peace to the family. For instance, if there is a quarrel between a man and his wife,
his brother-in-law can come and quickly settle the problem. In Ibibio, failure to conform to the peace
mission brought by the in-law was seen to contradict the traditional ethics of the Ibibios. So, in any
unsettled issue that the in-law comes to meet; such case was regarded as a settled issue by the
Furthermore, aside from the peace mission of the in-law; the in-law was regarded to serve as a judge in
conflicting cases. He was believed to be an impartial judge as he would not side any party. The
employment of the In-law in tough cases was aimed to bring free and fair ruling of such case. In this
case, the In-law in this capacity would punish the offender and also praise the deserving party. It is a
big offence in Ibibio land for a recalcitrant party to reject the verdict of an in-law in a case that
disfavors him, especially when so many has bear witness to the prove of such judgment. In a nutshell,
it can be stated here that In-law “Ukot” was indeed considered as a mediator in the Ibibio antiquity.
RELIGIOUS SIGNIFICANCE OF “UKOT” IN IBIBIO
This link is only significance if only the marriage continues. As Udo opines, this link becomes a bond
and because of this bond members of the man’s family regard members of the wife family as sacred
and so would respect and adore them, and vice versa. In this case, it is a big taboo to harm the in-law
in any way. According to Udo, it is a law that an in-law in must not be killed, nor should anybody who
is member of the wife’s family or village be party to his being killed. This brings us to Ibibio proverb
that says that “Edue Ukot Akpa Itong” meaning literally that “any person committing a crime against
an in-law must surely die”. The above belief and proverb speaks of how in-law is revered in Ibibio
land. It is serious judicial regulation for in-law “Ukot’ o be respected and revered. In those days, one
would refuse to harm a stranger fearing that might be his in-law; even if such a person were to wrong
Moreover, the in-law is believed to bring blessing to a barren or caused land. The coming of an in-law
to the family is believed in Ibibio to be a sign of blessing and growth to that household. Thus, they are
treated in a special manner. He has a say in that family matter and problems as concerning issues of
cause and blessing. In Ibibio, mbiam (juju) cannot harm an in-law “Ukot”. In this case, thre are some
lands have been abandoned because of dispute, may be because an enemy has planted mbiam (juju) in
such land. This kind of land is always referred to as a ‘cause land’ in Ibibio. So, when an in-law on
his or her visit, can enter the land and plant as well as harvesting without suffering any harm. In this
In some cases, if a person is suffering from a deadly pestilence, it was believed that the arrival of the
In-law “Ukot” would bring a special remedy to the problem. If not eradicating it; at least to offer a
temporary solution to the problem. That is the reason in Ibibio an In-law “Ukot” would always seek
for protection or cover in the side of a fellow In-law whenever he’s faced with a deadly challenge or
In Ibibio, much is expected of the son-in-law “Ebe Eyen” in the family. Especially, in a case where the
son-in-law is well to do; the wife’s family automatically sees him as their savior and thereby expecting
him to provide for all their basic needs. In many of the Ibibio family, the following are considered to
Providing for the Parents-in-law’s needs: In some poor Ibibio family where the parent-in-
laws are not well to do, especially in the case where they are sick or too old to work; it is
expected of the son-in-law to take good care of them. In this case, the Son-in-law who is
married to a girl in that family has the responsibility of providing food, money, clothes, and
among other basic needs to the incapable In-laws (Ukot). That is the reason why some parents
would borrow something from somebody believing that when their daughter is married that
they will pay such debt. Aside from this, even in a wealthy family, it is expected of the son-in-
law to be contributing at least in the up-keep of his In-law’s family; this is the more reason
why rich men do not give out their daughter to humble or average men in marriage, because
Settling of Issues among the brothers or sisters-in-law: Just as it was earlier opined, the in-
law “Ukot” plays the role of an intermediary in the In-law’s or “Ukot’s” family. For instance,
if a man marries to a family in which his wife is the first child or daughter of the family, the
man definitely has a role to play in her in-law’s family in the sense that it is his duty to join
forces with his wife to restore peace in her family in the case of conflict. For example, if two of
the man’s brother-In-laws are quarreling, it is the responsibility of the man to call them to
order. Considering his place in the family, the son-in-law as was stated before is always
mother-in-law dies, it is the responsibility of the son-in-law to join hands with his parents-in-
law family to give his father or mother-in-law a befitting burial ceremony. He does this by
giving a helping hand to his in-laws; that is why the family of the wife invites in-laws because
it is the responsibility of the in-law to do just that. In the traditional Ibibio family, the daughter
of the deceased will go to the husband’s family and sings, women from her husband side will
Taking care of the sisters and brother’s in-law: It is also expected of an in-law to impact
lives in the family of his wife. In this case, in a situation where the wife’s siblings are small; it
is expected of the son-in-law to take in those children and take care of them. This usually
manipulate the son-in-law to pump in resources into the family. In some cases, the son-in-law
is always in the dilemma of trying to please his wife and her family, and trying to devise means
In the other hand, a daughter in-law also has a role to play in the family of her husband. In Ibibio, a
woman who is married into a particular family is believed to be married to all the men in the family. In
this case, the daughter-in-law has the following responsibilities to play in her in-law’s family which is
1. Cooking for the family, especially when events call for such
2. Respecting every elderly and young person as refusal to do this will attract hate and
1. Infidelity on the part of the wife: As Udo (175) opines, in Ibibioland if a father had a number
of his daughters married to different men, and these ran away from their husbands, the man
would refund the large amount of money to his sons-in-law in compensation for the bride price
and other expenses on the daughters. If any amount of money is returned from the father-in-
law to the son-in-law as a result of any problem on the part of the lady; this would
automatically affect or even terminate the bond that binds the In-law relationship. Also, if a
woman is found guilty of committing adultery; she is automatically divorced by the husband
2. Maltreatment of the wife by the husband: A man who maltreats his wife is believed in
Ibibio to be disrespecting his In-laws. According to Udo, if a man failed to respect his parents-
in-laws, he may be forced to divorce the wife. This practice is continued to this day. This is
because parents-in-law were considered sacred and because the woman belongs to her lineage,
the man was expected to respect his In-law “Ukot” by treating his in-laws well.
3. Misdemeanor on the part of the wife: In Ibibio, the wrong behavior of the son-in-law is
taken into consideration in as much as he can provide for the In-law’s family, but every action
taken by the daughter in-law is evaluated. In this case, daughter-in-law is expected to be all
submissive to her in-laws. According to Udo (180), in Ibibio, offence generally occurs when
there was trouble between a mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law. As Udo notes (189), if a
daughter-in-law insults the Parents-in-law, she will be punished with a fine of a goat.
4. Pre-mature death of the Husband or wife: In Ibibio, pre-mature death is regarded as a cause.
In that case, there is a reason for every death and thus, no death is natural. So if a woman dies
pre-maturely in the matrimonial home, the husband is always held to ransom, because it is
believed the witches and witch craft in his family has killed the woman. In the other hand, it is
more difficult when the man dies. In this case, the woman is given undue treatment by her In-
laws as a result of her husband’s death. This is because, in Ibibio it is believed that when a man
dies, it is the sin of the woman that is responsible for the death of the husband. So, in this case,
the woman sometimes is sent back to her people because she is believed to have a hand in her
husband’s death.
5. Laziness on the part of the husband or wife: If the husband is lazy (that is, if the man does
not want to work in order to provide for the family), the wife may be retrieved from him so that
she will not to die of starvation. In the other hand, it is so abominable for a woman to be a lazy
type. This is because; in Ibibio the primary aim of marrying a lady is to have her to help in the
family. So, the In-law-ship relationship can be broken in the case where either of the husband
6. Barrenness: This is another factor that breaks the bond of the in-laws relationship. According
to Udo, if a wife did not have any issue within a year or so many years after marriage, the
parents-in-law would abuse her for inability of conceive. In fact, they would even go on to the
extent of abusing the girl’s parents and this cracks the relationship among the In-laws.
CONCLUSION
In antiquity, In-law was a very significance institution that was used in maintaining laws and orders in
the society. Such as it is stated above, the role of the In-law cannot be over-emphasized as it was a key
judicial instrument in the society i.e. the traditional Ibibio society. But, due to the advent of western
culture and tradition, the impact of In-law in the society has since faded away. In fact, it is seen
happening nowadays that In-laws would be suing a fellow In-law to court. It has come to the level that
a Son-In-Law is now threatening the parents-in-law. In the ancient Ibibio community, in-law were
respected; in fact people were conscious of doing any bad thing to strangers because of the believe that
such a stranger may turn out to be an In-law in disguise. This is because, in Ibibio when somebody is
married to a person, the whole community he/she is married automatically becomes his/her In-law.
REFERENCES
1. Oral interview with Dr John Bosco Ekanem on Thursday 28 th of January 2016 at about
01:48pm.
2. Udo, E. (1983), “Who are the Ibibios”, African-Fep Publishers Limited 79 Awka Road PMB
4. “Origin and Early History of the Ibibio People of Nigeria” retrieved from
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