CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOREVER – EIGHT CHOICES

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The Coach Connection is our place for informing, connecting with and learning from the Coach and other women of
The Country Club. It is here that the results of Survey Confidential, as well as information bytes on Personal
Leadership, Performance, Management and Emotional Intelligence, are published.

A Message from Oliver

I recently attended a funeral of a friend. Perhaps it has had more of an impact on me

because I am a year older than my friend, but I think more so because he recorded this
particular chapter.

Over the course of his journey with cancer, he updated friends and co-workers daily -
sometimes including quotes and inspirational thoughts (by the way, these inspirational
quotes & antidotes will be incorporated into our weekly motivators) but always ending each
update with a simple but effective request, asking each of us to “make someone’s day”.

Bearing that in mind, I feel motivated to pass along one of his recorded messages to our
Members…with the hope that this particular message will “make your day” and you in turn
- in your own way – will do the same for others.

To continue, I am personally appreciative of these email transmissions as they are now a

collection of his thoughts and musings (very positive and humorous) and as you know; I
strongly believe that we are most empowered when we share our experiences and stories
with others.

As our choices and decisions impact our worlds around us, I am reminded that for every
action there is an equal and opposite reaction. In other words, we receive from the world
what we give to the world and we need to be forever mindful that we are often the cause of
our own effect…

With this in mind, I share the following (not as an absolute method but as a way of guiding
us through a reflection process) “Choices” for your consideration on what is important in
life and also to remind us that “great leaders make their choices and decisions based on their
desired outcome”.

OLIVER

“Happiness is never something you get from other people. The happiness you feel is in direct
proportion to the love you give” Oprah Winfrey

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EIGHT CHOICES YOU CAN MAKE TODAY THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE
FOREVER -Chris Widener

The direction of our lives is determined by the choices we make every day. They accumulate
and add up to our ultimate destiny. Here are eight choices you can make – choices that will
create for you a life of abundance and prosperity in all areas of your life.
1. Choose to grow personally. This sounds simple but many people only wish to grow
personally. They never choose to grow by taking action, such as actually exercising,
saving more money, etc. Make a decision today to be a person who is on the never ending
journey of personal growth.

2. Choose to always treat others right. We come across all sorts of people, many of whom
will treat us poorly. We can choose to treat them right, no matter how they treat us.
When they lie, we tell the truth. When they cheat, we will play by the rules. We may get
the short end of the stick sometimes, but in the long-run we will win. And most
importantly, we will be able to sleep at night.

3. Choose to break a bad habit. Take the biggie first. Tackle it head on. If you don’t know
what it is, ask a friend. Then spend every effort you can to break the habit. Forget about
the others, as you will get to them later. Stop smoking, get out of debt, lose your excess
weight, etc. Exercise the power to choose.

4. Choose to work smarter. Many people at work feel like they are out of balance. One of
the first things to do is try and find out how much time you are wasting at work, which
then makes you work longer, which throws the rest of your life into chaos. Getting your
work done by diligently working in the time you have will free your life up
extraordinarily.

5. Choose to see your work as a way to help others, and not a way to make money. If you
put your heart into helping others, the money will most assuredly come. Spend time
helping others grow and your finances will grow with it.

6. Choose to become balanced spiritually, emotionally and physically. Our lives are best
when we have these three major areas in balance. Spend some time cultivating your
spirituality, becoming emotionally healthy, and physically fit.

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7. Choose to sow more than you reap. There are many takers in this world, but our lives
will be better as we become givers. The world will become better as we become givers.
Give away your time, give away your money, give away your love.

8. Choose to get home for dinner more often. The family is the most important group of
people you will ever belong to. Make a decision today to grow in your relationship with
your parents, siblings, spouse and children. This one you will never regret.

As a Member, if you wish to gift a Membership from The Country Club –DISTINCTIVE
VOICES, DYNAMIC WOMEN to a friend - in the spirit of making someone’s day- please send
the contact details (including their email address) to oliver@thecountry-club.com and a
membership will be provided. If you receive this message and you wish to have a Membership,
please contact us.

If you wish to receive a weekly “online” motivator, you can sign up for a free subscription on
the site Reference: NEWS BRIEF | MOTIVATOR www.thecountry-club.com

It is always with excitement that I wake up in the morning wondering what my intuition will toss
up to me, like gifts from the sea. I do not go to my laboratory to work, I go to seek, to
understand, to discover. I live to make life more worth living for those who will follow, thereby
giving myself a reason for being. Dr. Jonas Salk

This issue of COACH CONNECTION and other articles and research on Leadership and
Emotional Intelligence, are stored in our data base. They are accessible to Members by
logging in with your passwords at www.thecountry-club.com

Reference: OUR SANCTUARY | COACH CONNECTION.

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For Members:

An excerpt from the “New Member Package” on CLUB CREDENTIALS …

CLUB CREDENTIALS
Why is it important to complete this part of the registration process?
For a number of reasons, first, it is important for you to thoroughly complete the sections of
Business Category, Occupation, and Life Credentials as each item that you check will be added
to the data base. This information is then used as the search criteria for Women Mentoring
Women.
For example, if you have checked off "Job Loss" then you are indicating that you have
experience with this subject matter. When another member is looking for a mentor with
experience with "Job Loss", you may be selected to be their Confidential and Anonymous
Mentor.

All of your experiences, challenges and lessons learned should be checked off within these three
sections. Remember, this is not necessarily what your current status is today but what your
experiences "up until now" have been- in your business, your career and in your life. You are
also able to add to your Club Credentials as your challenges change and your experiences grow.

It is our concept that all women have the ability to mentor others based on their own real
experience-women who have been there- allowing others to make better & more informed
choices for themselves.
Other information with in this questionnaire is used for demographics-so we are aware of who
the members are so we are better able to direct The Country Club initiatives relative to our
Member base.
Moreover, the Club Credentials document is a Coaching Assessment tool allowing members to
begin their Personal Leadership and Emotional Intelligence awareness basics.
This Club Credentials section also gives members the opportunity to add - on an ongoing basis -
their comments, stories and preferences etc., so we continually have a current snapshot, enabling
us to report back to the Members via the coaching periodical called Coach Connection.

It is the degree to which you fully engage in the process that you will derive the relative benefits.
Do not replace your information but add to it. The information overall is added to
the confidential and anonymous data base.
You can access your Club Credentials at any time through the following link: Our Sanctuary
and then scroll down the drop-down menu to My Account, then select Club Credentials.

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