Well, as u know its pertinent to give a detailed introduction before we get started

in this affair and moreover I am new to this online dating of a thing, if not for
the fact that my close friend found her present fiancee from this site hence after
my break-up I decided to come on here to see if I would have same luck.

As you know quite well that on here its normal to have myriads of interested men
but its my choice to choose just one, I hope when I get to know u better it will
be safe to have u as my choice, provided u will be capable of handling the kind of
mild heart I have that needs tender care.

This is most important to me and to u so that we both would know how careful we
would be in getting off together this time around. I have been in a relationship
with a man before and it didn't workout for the both of us he was cheating on me so
I decided to move on

Am new to this internet match making, a friend of mine on campus introduce me to

it, My heritage is English I don't have any kid. I'm always smiling and don't
easily get irritated, I don't even remember the last time I frowned. I am not
positive, I am cool calm lady who take each and every day issue one after the
other..

I'm very much worried for the two of us been very far from each other and I know
that u are as well. It wont be easy for us to trust each other within just a day,
so in that case all I will ask from you is that we will have to take this slowly
and get to know more about each other. Am a lady of my words but if you think that
you are not willing for these to happen between the two of us then kindly let me
know before is too late but If you will also like us to get to know about each
other then it will be my pleasure as mmm well since no one knows where he/she will
meet his/her lover.

We first have to know about each other, trust each other, adore each other,
understand each other and respect each other. Secondly we will have to understand
the meaning of Love and what love means at first place. We will also have to know
what relationship means and the reason of been into a relationship. Since we are
very far apart from each other we will have to figure out a way we can be in an
open communication what I mean is that we will have to find a way we can hear each
others voice, and I think that is also a key for us to trust each other more since
we are far from each other. we have to get each others picture to see it all the
time so that we can pray to God that we will meet one day.

Where you will think that is the end for you is where you will meet the right
person for your life. time changes, it might be someone's turn today but never lose
hope because tommoro is there for you... What do you think. so can i try to start
with u by asking u questions or what do u think....?

I'm Caring, Faithful, Loyal, Truthful, Loving, Generous, Goals Achiever, Honest,
Spiritual oriented, Future driven, Confidential, Understands the ups and downs of
life, Committed to relationship, Reader, Visionary, Conservative, Passionate,
Romantic, sexy and loving.so can we start to see where this will lead us....?
 question 1

What is your full name..?

My full name is amina rashid amadu

How old are you?

Am 33years of age and no one is too young for love, because love doesn't come from
your mind, which knows your age, but from your heart, which knows no age...

where are u from...?

i was born in brazil but now in ghana where my granny stays.

Have you ever been married and do you have any kids?
Am single with no kid never been married...

What is your profession?

Am a graduated of Nursing and also a professional hair dresser and right now I do
hair dressing as my occupation because of the vast number of people.I hope when I
relocate to my man,I will get a good job as a Nurse and help in support of the
family.

Do you live alone in your house or apt?

Am living with my granny in a small apartment and I love it when am always with
families.

What are you seeking or looking for on here?

I am looking for a man who will be able to walk along the life path hand-in-hand
with me, the one who will look at the same direction and will have the same values
in our common life. I would like my future soul mate be intelligent and kind,
devoted and caring, tender and reliable

Tell me about your life style and character ?

Well I generally try to live a somewhat healthy lifestyle, exercising and some
sort of jogging, 3-4 days a week and eating healthy, (trust me, I love sweets and
pastries, but try not to over do it).I am a very open minded person, someone who
accepts people as they are, I am a fair individual who adapts to changes in life
and enjoys life to the fullest and looking to meet a man that i can spend the rest
of my life with

Am that type of person who always try to make people laugh. I always make sure to
share the little that I have with someone and also satisfied with whatever I have.

Am an all rounded person to cut it this is all i can say about me but if you feels
there's more you want to know about me please you're more than welcome to ask any
question u wished to know about me and am also alone and looking for someone to
share my whole life with, not just someone but one who have all the good characters
in life

I like to do things with the other significant person in my life, but I also
encourage him to go out and spend time with friends and pursue his own interests
and hobbies as well.What do you like for fun and hobbies (both in and outdoors)
1.How many Girlfriends you had before?
Ans : one

Do you know what went wrong in your past relationship(s)?

I guess I will have to let you know how it got hurt by men and
what I've been through with men in the past .. Well First I had this man that I
loved and we were closer of getting married, I went and court him red handed one
day when we where about to attend a party together with my friend.. We were suppose
to met at the party center but I finished early and said why not let me pass by so
I can go together with him, I went there and there he was with a friend of mine on
bed, I stood there for good 20 mints and they did not knew I was there until I made
a sound.. I left and did not talked to him for 2 months and he come and beg me, I
did accepted his apology and give him the second chance but he miss used it the
very moment that I found that he has involved him self into drugs..

The second, He was my God of love. He was the lover of my life, the one that I knew
I was going to get married with, one that I knew was here to take me out of the
pain that I uncounted in the first relationship but what happened, Nature loved him
more than I did. I lost him also at where he works, He was my everything, he loved
me and all my needs where been taking care of for me, I food, cloths, education
etc, everything of mine was been taking care of him for me, I really loved him and
also really did, It took me time to come out of that relationship and I am thankful
to Mum, Uncle, They stood by me and make sure I was able to raise up again.. After
all this battle, Then come this man that I found through this same internet named
Larry, His relationship was HELL,

I met him through the internet dating site. He then proposed to me that he is very
interested in me and want to be with me, I did agreed with his proposal and we
tried to get to know each other more for awhile. we then also heard each other real
voice on the phone to trust and believe each other more.

Within some weeks later, Larry told me that he would like me to come to the state
and be with him and if possible we can get married to each other. Larry told me
that he was single and looking without no kids, I did informed my mum about what
Larry said, My mum only advised me to take very good care of myself and now a days
men cannot be trusted and maybe he is up-to something.

A week later, I started to work on my papers to go to the state and be with . I met
at the airport, He then took me to a restaurant nearest the airport to have some
soft drinks and have fun. So after we moved from the restaurant, we then went to a
house where Larry told me that it was he's apartment, I did saw a lady with kids,
Larry told me that it was her sister so I didn't even bother to ask him so much
questions.

I was in Larry's apartment for a week, Larry served me good but it got to sometime
Larry came to make some discussions with me. Larry told me that, He would like me
to join a group of prostitution so that we can earn much money. And that is the
kind of job that he has been doing to earn money.

I felt so worried and sad ever since Larry told me about that issue. One day, a
that lady living in the house called me and warned me to stay away from Larry. Not
knowing the lady that with kids was Larry's wife and he lied to me that it was her
sister, that also make me confused and thinking always. So I tried to inform Larry
about it, He was not willing to tell me the truth about what his wife told me.

The lady kept on giving me warning to stay away from Larry and if not she is going
hurt me, So I did plead with her to tell me much about what she is saying, So we
did sat down and she told me that, She is already married with Larry with 4
wonderful children. And she even showed me their engagement ring's, She is also
showed me some pictures of their wedding day, She even advised me that, She is a
woman and it will pain her so much if I do get cheated and hurt by Larry so I
should try my best to find another man to be with and Larry is just going to use me
and dump me somewhere else.

I did went to my room cried so hardly, I prayed to the almighty God for guiding and
protecting me from getting hurt by that woman. When Larry arrived, I tried to ask
him to tell me the truth about what was going on in the house, But it seems like he
is not willing to tell me the truth. So even the woman help me with some amount to
get my trip back to Ghana, I did thank her so much for telling me the truth.

When I arrived here in Ghana, I did told a friend of mine about how I got hurt by
Larry, she even told me that now a days men cannot be trust with our heart. They
normally just uses us and dumped us too when they do get whatever they like from
the woman. She even did introduce me to the dating site to take another chance to
see whether I could find a right good man to be with me. So when my friend
registered me to the dating site, I just don't know much about it and you are the
first person I have ever met on there. And I know that the almighty God has
answered to my prayers.

Ever since Larry did hurt me I find It very difficult to trust you men and I
promised myself never to love again in my Life because of what happen to me but I
have deeply thought about this very well and I think I need to be Happy again so I
need to put the past behind me and then go on with my Life.

I guess you have learn a lot from what I have told you so far. Please If you know
that you are not ready for anything serious now or think you already have someone
in your life that you are sharing good time with please and please tell me so that
we should stop communicating with each other so that I move on with my life..

I guess you have learn a lot from what I have told you so far. Please If you know
that you are not ready for anything serious now or think you already have someone
in your life that you are sharing good time with please and please tell me so that
we should stop communicating with each other so that I move on with my life..

How many brothers and sisters etc. you have?( How big is your family?)
I'm Glad to let you know that I am the Only daughter of my Parents and Have no
Siblings . I Think I've " A Nuclear Family "

So what kind of woman are you looking for to settle down with?
Well I would like to find a like-minded male where we can participate in
activities together and encourage each other to pursue their interests as well.Also
a level headed individual who is not a procrastinator, who enjoys life to the
fullest and who loves to travel. A man that respects himself enough to respect the
ones he loves and care for

A conscious person who is serious about having a monogamous relationship. An honest

person who you can count on in times of needs, someone to laugh with someone to cry
with, to share your hopes and dreams in good times and bad times.And also looking
for a man who is very responsible and doesn't shed away from his responsibilities.A
man who is willing to take very good care of the family and always stick the family
together through thick and thick and hope you get me right?

I am looking for a man who will be able to walk along the life path hand-in-hand
with me, the one who will look at the same direction and will have the same values
in our common life. I would like my future soul mate be intelligent and kind,
devoted and caring, tender and reliable

quetion 2

Do you smoke cigarettes or drink alcohol or do drugs?

Ans : I Don't deal with All this Kind of Rubbish

What's the year you were born and how old you are?
Ans : I was Born on 6th April, 1981 and I'm 34 Years

What is your goals or dreams in life?

Ans : All I want in Life is to *Get* My Dream Man which I can Spend the Rest of My
Life With.

What do you dream about at night?

Ans : Nothing : Cause I would have being Dreaming of my Dream man if I Had One.

.what type of person you want to meet?

Ans : Any Type of Man who is Serious in Life

Can you drive a vehicle?

no

What's your religion?

i am a christian

What languages you speak?

i speak english and hausa

Are You left or right handed?

right

Do you believe in marriage?

Do you believe you should only marry once?

What do you hope to gain from a marriage?

What do you expect from a marriage partner?

What do you feel is the purpose of a couple getting married?

 RESHIPPED....

All relationships have some adjustment periods, but being hurt

shouldn’t be part of being in love. Loving relationships have good qualities, such
as support from your partner, a willingness to communicate, a desire to compromise,
and open an honest communication. When you do not have these fundamental qualities
in a relationship, that relationship isn’t likely to grow, and become something
that you desire.
We all turn to our loved ones for support from time to time. When
your loved one does not offer you their support it may be time to look at your
relationship. As we all want to nurture those that we love. We want the best in
life for those that we care about. If your partner is unwilling to listen to you,
and to your problems, they are not meeting your needs when you need support.
When engaging in a relationship with another person there is always
going to be thin no gs that you do not agree upon. You want to have the ability to
compromise so both partners are getting their wishes met. This may mean one night
you watch football, and one night your partner watches a movie you enjoy. It might
mean that your partner can agree to try a dish that you enjoy cooking......... In
any organization with more than one person in it, there will be more than one
opinion, work with your partner to see that both of you can compromise on different
subjects.. If someone isn’t willing to compromise, they are not willing to
acknowledge your wants and desires. If they can not acknowledge your wants they are
likely not emotionally developed enough for you to have your needs met.
Open and honest communication is one of the more desirable
qualities you want to have in a relationship. Watch to see that your partner is not
secretive, nor are they willing to tell lies to avoid certain subjects. For
example, if a partner is married, and fails to tell you that, you can rightfully
assume if they can lie about big things, they can lie about small things.Likewise,
you need to be open and honest with your partner; a relationship based upon false
truths is not likely to be successful, because both partners do not have the
correct frame of reference in the relationship.
There are many qualities that make relationships good support,
compromise, and open and honest communication is just a few of these qualities that
you may desire in a relationship. Engage only in relationships where both partners
can openly discuss their wants and needs, this can take practice. Remember loving
relationships grow and only become better, eliminate those who do not meet your
needs when they continually fail to support you, will not compromise, and will not
be honest. These three qualities alone will help you nurture and develop a deeper
relationship with your partner.

THINGS I LIKE

I want to laugh, laugh, laugh with you. I want to dance with you, listen to music
with you, and laugh with you. Let's laugh, let's free up, laughing together!.. I
like biking, I like going to the ocean and walking on the beach. You know it and I
love when you propose doing something that maybe you do not specifically like
doing, but you do because you know I like it. I love surprise gifts — a haircut, or
a day at a spa, or an hour of massage. It is a real gift when I come back home and
find tasks I was supposed to do during that time already taken care of!.. A dinner
invitation is nice too, but it has to be a surprise. I love when you anticipate my
desires; it means you know me very well, all the little things I care about, and my
habits

SEX
To me Sex is important. Love is outside and inside the bedroom. New things in bed
help strengthen and renew the relationship. You make me feel your sexual desire
with your eyes, and it usually takes only a few seconds. I love when you look at
me in the right way, when you gently put your hand in my hair. I like those kisses
with closed mouth, like in the movies. They are like a preliminary, and make me
thirsty for what is going to follow.

LOVE

To love me is to accept me as I am. I do not want to be judged for the things I do.
I want you to trust me and let me do what I feel is right. We women are always
"right" — it is a matter of love. When I feel alone, empty, a stranger, I want your
eyes to tell me I am the person you love and you want me for what I am. Do not do
or say things because you think you are "honest", do them because of your love for
me, and trust me even though you think I am wrong. Just as we do not judge our
children because they are our children and we love them. Love isn't blind or deaf
or dumb, in fact it sees far more than it will ever tell. It is going beyond
yourself and stretching who you are for someone else. Being in love entails seeing
someone as you wish they were, to love them is to see who they really are and still
care for them. Love isn't bitter, but you can't have love without pain, you need to
sacrifice is the hallmark of love , the coin of love. Being in love usually is used
in a romantic sense when you meet your significant other transforming a normal
relationship into a deeper one without further interest in others. Love means that
you trust the person, would do anything for the person, know that person is with
you through thick and thin, isn't afraid to be seen with you. make sure they treat
you right. To me I understand that the possible real meaning of love is to
reproduce. To stay together to protect each other long enough to continue your
blood line. And also the meaning of love is prolonged mutual protection. Love is
real when it is found and I guess you know that. It is free when it is grasped.

ROLE ,COMMITMENT

I do not want to be a role such as mother, wife, cook, or dishwasher. Even after
many years of marriage, I want you to see me as the person I am, the woman I was
when we first met, not the wife or mother or some kind of role. I do not like when
you do things that you "must" do. I do not feel them as sincere. I do not like your
flowers when you ask me for some kind of excuse, it is as if you want to give me
something to "cover your ass". The same for cheap compliments, they sound like
stereotypes.When I have a problem the first thing I do is to call you, and I expect
your comments and suggestions. You must always be there when I need you to support
me, it's indispensable. I do not want to feel alone when I need help, and I know it
can be difficult for you to realize that I need you, but I send an SOS just like
our daughter or any other person. Sometimes you realize I need you and it's too
late, and I feel you do not understand me, you are not there when I need you. Do
not be casual when you commit to something for me.

BUILD TRUST

I want you to know that I have open my heart for you because I believe in what we
are both here for. I want you to know that life is short for games and whatever
happens in your life direct you to new perspective ways. You always have to
appreciate whatever happens because God do things for reasons. I have forgotten
about my past to think ahead of me because I know I can't still think about the
past and never give opportunity to someone that God might sent my way. I believe it
was faith that lead both of us, so we have to believe and trust in our faith so
that it shall lead us to our destiny. I am a woman of my own words and love
children. I will never stand to think of hurting someone or cheating nor lie to
someone.. Especially You ( ) because if I do it will affects me also so trust me
baby I will never think of doing anything harmful to you my love... I respect every
humans dignity. As I believe to what God said in the bible, whatever you do onto
someone shall be done 3 times on to you, so I always like to do the good thing,
that will lead me to heaven on the day of judgment. To me money and material things
means nothing to me because we all came on earth without money nor material things,
we came and meet them so shall we go and leave them, only one thing will follow you
which is true love. I am so happy as you are a God fearing person which bring so
much love of God within you. God is love because the word love is huge, God brought
love to shower the world with friendship and happiness,without love this world
wouldn't have been together and do business on so many occasion. It is love that
unite the world to bring peace. The word love has brought good things within it,
as Faith was found through Love, then Hope was found through Faith whiles Destiny
was found through Hope,this are the fundamental things you always have to hold
within you for God to guide you through everything. Never doubt what you are
looking for, because your imagination and taught are what lead you to your destiny,
so always have a good taught about what you are looking for,so that God will guide
you to your good destination. I like a man who is very hard working but I don't
like him to do it too much as I want him to stay healthy for me, as I also like to
support my man in time of needs. I am always me and will always be a woman of my
own words. I'm a woman that support my man through thick and thin because the
happiness of my man means a lot to me. ( ), things will work for us, if only you
believe and have faith in what you are looking for.. Never judge someone you never
know no matter what happens to you. I never judge a person I don't know as that
person might be what God has sent to me. So we always have to forget the past and
take our opportunities as things happens for reason, because if that wouldn't has
happen you won't have come across me, Am here because true love can lead you
everywhere. I do what my heart tells me and believe in what I am here for. I will
never cheat on you because I respect everything about you. If you believe in what
we both are here for, then we can build a wonderful future. I will never think of
to scam you because I know if I cheat or hurt on you, I shall be punished on the
day of judgment which I don't want to. I was raise from a christian home and I love
the Lord with all my heart. I am ready to stand by your side and support you
through everything. I am ready to be with you so that we can build a wonderful
future...

TOPIC OF MONEY...

Happiness is the only thing on earth that cannot be paid by any

diamonds, gold or money.Money and love aren't the same thing. The more you spend
money, the less you have, the more you spend love, the more you get in return..Love
doesn't cost money, but it does require the payment of your heart.A man can inherit
a house and money from his parents, but only the Lord can give him a sensible
wife.Love is when money and materialistic things no longer matter. It's when you're
holding the hand of the woman you love and you feel like the richest man in the
world - you have everything.With money, we can buy all things, but with love, we
find everything that really matters.It isn't money, fame, or power, no, the
greatest adventure in life is love.Power is one thing; money and power are two
things, but love is everything....
 FIRST PLACE

i want to express to you what I desire in a man, and what I do not desire.
I am a serious Christan woman and I am Guided by my relationship with Jesus Christ.
I say that up front because my faith is very important to me. I will touch on that
more later. so I want a man Of faith who Has principles and values. we have all
made mistakes in life but need to be guided by something. i want a partner in life
some one to care for someone I can respect. I want a Best friend someone I can
share anything with. I need a partner not a judge or someone to tell me what to do.
I had a father and he is dead and gone and i do not seek to replace him. I do not
need a man to cook and clean if that was my desire I would hire a maid.I believe
That household chores should be by a couple. I can cook and do laundry sweep mop
and all that...

PROMISE...

I promise to never hurt you, I promise to always protect you from harm, I promise
to be there for you,Whether you want me to or not. I promise to remain faithful,
You're the only one I want. I promise to always be truthful, No matter what you ask
I promise to love you,With everything that I am. I promise to fulfill your every
need and want or to do the best I can... I promise to be understanding.When new
things come out I promise to hold my temper, Those times we don't agree..All these
things I promise you and more...

FORMAT FOR CALLING CARD....

I really been thinking right now that as we go on Chatting,I also i want to

hear your voice as our next step from here..and i don't have a phone that u can
call on ,So i would like you to help me to get the Ghana phone calling card to
call you ...........But i know that is not easy to get it to me here and it will
not work here since we both have different telecommunication companies.,For you to
try ur best and help me with money to get the calling card to call you is nothing
for you to do it ,Is just between me and you ,just wanna hear each other voices and
see how things will be taking us to ,becos i trust you and will always be trusting
you forever and ever. ,So now the calling card cost $100us dollars for 500unit that
i can call you for you to feel that i am near you.And then as soon as you send the
money get back to me with the Western Union Pick Up Information,So that as soon as
i pickup the money am going directly to get the calling card and call you...I know
how u will feel about this decision but if you are serious and interesting in me
and do this for me and you only ,Trust me and belive in me ,I will never let you
down,So take this risk with me and you will know that i am the right woman for
you......... ....

QUESTION

1) What types of Movies do you watch? I enjoy chick flicks but I also like those
movies you have to watch every little thing so you understand the plot and the
ending, movies that make you think. Horror movies usually scare me pretty
good, so I dont watch them every often. Action movies about blowing everything up
are okay
2) Do you like to play cards? Or board games? I love cards, and board games
sometimes.
3) When is your birthday? My birthday is May 13
4) What is your favorite color? My favorite color is Purple
5) What's your favorite holiday? My favorite holiday is Thanksgiving, because I
love every single dish that goes with that holiday and I love to eat
6)What makes you laugh, smile, and cry? Jim
7)What makes me cry, i'm always moved when i see scenes on tv between parent and
child when they are struggling or dealing with the relationship. Reminds me of my
mum. And also cos i miss my mum. I hope that this would be an end to my search for
a true partner.

Do you want to have children, or would you be happy with the children someone else
already has?

Children are precious gifts from the almighty God and we should take good care of
them both physically and spiritually in the lords direction so they would not go
astray and i can be that loving woman you seek and desire.Yes i want kids so much.
I love kids and i so much want to have 1-2. And teach them the love of God. But i
dont want to be strict with them

I want to shower them with love, devotion but with discipline. Not harsh but enough
to make them able to make their own decisions. To teach them to be tolerant of
others and loving to their own. To do great things but not necessarily to be seen
by others

I want my kids to grow up loving their parents and grandparents. But to find their
own destiniy and what God has in store for them. I dont want to dictate their lives
but i do want to mould them and direct them in the ways of the Lord. To love God
but not to become narrow minded sheep that church sometimes makes us into. I want
them to love God and have joy in what Jesus achieved for them on the cross. But i
also want them to fully appreciate the grace that God has given them and live their
lives free.

INTERNET BILL...

Dear Love,
How are You doing....Hope That you are doing great and how is
work going On..Hope That Everything is Moving On Very Well....Honey...I was In the
House today when i had a call from the Ghana Telecom...Told me to come Over to the
Office....So i went there and What They told me was all about My Internet
Bill...But Very Curious....But what they told me was That i have a Payment for
3Months Internet Bill and My Bill come within Every 3Months..But what they told me
was if am not able to Pay it with the next2 Business days...I will be
Disconnected...Honey.....Scared and i don't know what to do Now...and it will Pain
and feel so bad and Terrible That I will be Disconnected...Honey....As at Now i
don't work Now and Just schooling and i use the Internet too for school
research...i will Lose you and Lose something Big..That is what i feel In you In
you...Honey.......so what do you Think about This,....Hope to hear from you
soon.......
Ghana Telecommunications Ltd .

Date:6/01/2008 Batch # :E85471 Bill # :8524135536

Ghana Telecommunication is legitimately sending u this Bill of

3Months......We Kindly to let you know that the Bill of this the last tow month and
this month has come up and Customers are suppose to pay Early or else their
Internet Line will be Disconnected today .Thank You .

Explorer Bill : 50 $

Power Bill :50 $

Power Tax :20 $

 Used up Bill: 30 $

Total Bill : 150 $

Thank You .

QUESTION TWO
1. What is the socio-economic background of your family?
..My dad is an international business man,He travells a lot and also deals with
importation and exportation of goods.My mom is a pharmacist.As u well know that my
mom own a store here in nigeria.

2. What is your level of intelligence?

I think that I have above average intelligence; I was the first student in my class
of high school out of 8 students. I began studying at the university before
graduating from high school, because I had excellent grades. I like to learn new
things, intelligence is important to me.

3. What is your formal education?

I attended the university for 4 years. I studied computer science, but I did not
graduate. I left the school to begin to working in the computer industry.

4. What are your verbal abilities?

I think that I have above average abilities of communication, both writing and
verbal, and I enjoy interesting conversations.

5. What do you expect each partner to provide in the marriage?

God made the man primarily to provide the income and the protection for the home
and the family, and I think that the woman is made to control and guide the matters
of the house and to provide the instruction of the children, but each partner can
help the other person in their family responsibilities.

6. What are your views about the distribution of power inside the family?
God made the man to be the leader in the family, but there are many areas where the
woman can have more comprehension and understanding than the man, so she
contributes her ideas to him, and he listens to her reasoning.

7. How many children do you want?

I have always think about having a child, but I think it would be nice to have a
child, or children, with the man who loves me and lives all of his life with me.

8. When should a family be begun?

I want to wait some months before having children so I can enjoy much time alone
with my husband.

9. What are your views on the care of children?

Parents should be the primary influence for children, not the school, neither the
friends, neither the television nor the movies. I believe that children should
respect adults, and children should help in the matters of the house. The children
and the parents should be close to each other with good communication each day.

10. What is your political philosophy?

I prefer the conservative laws that are similar to the commandments in the Bible,
and I prefer less interference of government in personal lives.
11. What are your views about smoking, alcohol and drugs?
I think that these things are generally negative because in high volumes they
damage the body, but I like to drink some wine from time to time, and I want to
enjoy this with my husband.

12. How much contact should occur with in-laws?

After the wedding a couple should make their own decisions and the in-laws should
not intervene with these decisions. Occasional visits are acceptable, but not on a
frequent basis.

13. What is your sense of humor?

I am a happy person and I like to laugh and to enjoy life.

14. How punctual are you?

I am generally on time, but at times I am late.

15. How dependable are you?

I try to be very reliable and to maintain my promises. I value the truth in myself
and in others.

16. What is your desire for intimacy and your verbal ability to be intimate?
I have a strong desire for all forms of intimacy and I think that I have the
ability to give a lot of intimacy, physically and verbally.

17. What is the role of conflict and how to resolve conflict in marriage?
Conflict is a time when 2 people can speak their opinions and understand one
another better, but the conflicts should be discussed peacefully, sometimes in a
different environment.. There should not be the conflicts in the bedroom, because
this is a special sanctuary of love and harmony for the marriage.

18. What is the best way to handle anger?

At times it is good to have a period of reflection and meditation before discussing
the themes of anger, at times it is good to write down your feelings to discuss
with your companion.

19. How should friendships with the other sex be handled?

The husband and the wife should not have any better friends than each other, they
should be best friends with each other, and they should not have friendships with
the other sex unless approved by the other partner.

20. What is the quantity of the privacy in the marriage?

Many things of the marriage should be private to people outside the marriage, but
the people in the marriage should be capable of sharing all with one another.

21. What is your level of ambition?

I always try to become better and to attain the potential that God gave to me.. I
do not work to be rich, I work to be comfortable and to have love and peace in my
life.

22. What are the goals of your life?

A peaceful and loving marriage is the greatest goals in my life. Love is the most
important thing in the life.

23. What are your attitudes about body weight?

I want my wife to maintain a healthy weight and to maintain her body and in clean
and good condition. I prefer a small woman who is healthy. I have never been
overweight and I intend to keep my body size in proper proportion.
24. What are your faith and beliefs and spiritual preferences?
I have been s student of the Bible since I was a child. Communication with God
should be a daily priority for each person, and also the couple can share in their
devotion to God with one another. Although I do not attend church service every
week, I would like to do this with my wife. I am a Christian, and I want a
Christian wife..

25. What is the proper amount of church attendance?

Perhaps one time on the weekend, and maybe a study of the Bible once each week, but
I think that personal devotion is more important than church attendance.

26. What should be the spiritual involvement of the family?

I think the family should study the Bible together and also as individuals.

27. What are your hobbies and interests?

Exercising, playing and listening to music, learning, meditating, gardening..

28. What type of music do you like?

Gospel, contemporary Christian, rock, jazz.

29. What is your level of energy for physical activities?

I would want to have some type of physical activity each day with my wife; I hope
that we can exercise together.

30. What is the importance of sex?

It is very important for both partners to be satisfied completely sexually and to
maintain a high level of attention to the sexual needs of the other partner.

31. How much income should be spent and saved?

Money should be saved for emergencies and also for projects and special holidays.

32. How should money be assigned for clothes, vacations, etc.?

There should be short-term and long-term financial goals for the family, which
include using some money for clothes,
vacations, entertainment, etc.

33. How much money should be given and to whom?

Money can be given for gifts or for emergencies but not to maintain to other
members of the family.

34. How much risk should be taken with investments?

Very little.

35. What is your attitude toward cleanliness of the home, the clothes, the body,
etc.?
I appreciate cleanliness in every aspect. I do not like a lot of clutter in the
house.

36. What is your attitude toward personal health?

Eat healthy and exercise to prevent many illnesses, but medical attention is
necessary when illness persists.

37. How often do you go to see a doctor?

I have an annual physical checkup and dental checkup, and also I exercise to
maintain my body and to have good health.

38. What are your social and interpersonal skills?

I feel that my abilities are above average. I can talk to strangers and most
people feel comfortable speaking with me. However, I prefer to be quiet.
39. How much and what type of social participation do you prefer?
The majority of the focus should be on the marriage, with some time assigned for
outside social participation. I spend most of my time focused on achieving my
goals.

43. What is the quantity and the type of vacations preferred?

I want to travel and to take many trips with my wife. I prefer nature and quiet
and beautiful places, but sometimes I want to go to cities and public amusements.

44. How do you want to spend the vacations?

Seeing nature, learning history, being relaxed in nature, doing the things that are
peaceful, hiking in the mountains, playing in the snow.

45.. How do you want to celebrate the major holidays?

Usually with family and friends, but sometimes at home alone.

46. How much together time do you want to spend with your spouse?
As much as possible.

47. When do you go to sleep and when do you wake up?

I need 8 to 9 hours of sleep each night.

48. What is the temperature of the home during the day and night?
I prefer the house to be cool at night for sleeping.

49. What should be done during meals?

Meals are a good time for conversation, not to look at a lot of television.

50. What television programs do you prefer?

History, science, learning, some sports, Biblical and spiritual programs.

An Oath

I want you to swear by the bible and are you ready to do this ?I want you to know
that the bible will be a witness between the 2 of us and this will help build our
love with trust and honesty. Put the bible in your left hand and raise up your hand
and you're swearing this from deep down your heart.You, {Pal name } swear to the
Bible in the name of God to be for me Joyce Kumah to be there for me just as I
will be for you and to love me just as I will always love you and that nothing will
ever get us away from each other and that you'll care for me and be honest with me
just as I will do and forever you'll hold my heart and treat me like a queen and
never leave me.
My turn now, I Joyce Kumah on this day of {13/04/2012}swear by this Holy Bible to
be there for you {Pal name } and to love you for you and only you and to be honest
with you as well and treat you as a King and also make you happy like never before
and as well as to be there for you not only in good times but in bad times too and
on this day I propose myself to be yours and only you for me.

TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE...

Traditional Marriage Ceremony is a 3 days traditional marriage held

to signify that one is ready for commitment..It ensures that the community becomes
aware of the woes and feelings that each other has for one another and therefore as
custom requires or demands ..there must be a traditional marriage for any woman in
the community before the wedding ceremony itself occurs..Even though we are in a
community where superstition and beliefs are respected the Kingdom of the Almighty
God is also respected.In order not to violate the Traditional norms and customs of
a particular community the Chiefs and priests of the community where the woman is
are allowed to go on a 2 days ceremony to perform their rites to ensure the woman
into the correct mood of commitment.Anyway,the church is also honored and given the
Sabbath day to use to ask for God's guidance and protection unto the woman as she
is entering into a commitment.It occurs as a right to send a girl into Puberty and
all those women who get the chance to pass through the traditional marriage are
given due respect and can be invited into the seat of Elders of the community as It
serves as purity to make the individual clean.Anyway as I am also a member of the
Board of Elders of the community and wants the best for my Granddaughter I will
want to advise to pass through the Traditional marriage.Also .there is an
announcement to the whole community and make clear to the notice that the woman who
is going through the traditional marriage can't be dated by anyone and must be
respected in the society..To avoid bringing of Disgrace and Shame unto the
community any woman who does not pass through that stage and gives birth is
regardless in the society and sometimes banished from the society depending on how
serious the offense on the Gods are..It also serves as the place where the Family
members,loved ones and friends can go ahead and give their final verdict and give
blessings to the one.Since I guess you too are planning to be together one day,I
might not have the chance to witness your wedding ceremony as I am growing older
day by day.I will want to have the opportunity to give her my last blessings and
make known what her late parents had in store for her before they got killed in the
accident.I am therefore asking you whether you want her to go through the process
and I want you to know that is the norms and customs of the society so I don't have
the power or mandate to go against it so all I can tell is that you join hands and
go through the Traditional Marriage.Since you want to do it I will like to ask when
do you want the traditional Marriage ceremony to take place as this month the
Chiefs, and priests are kind of free and also the church has not announced any
marriage yet so we could hurry up and fix a date for it..I am thinking if you can
agree to let it start Next week Friday if we are still alive by the grace of the
Almighty God.I give you both my blessings and wish you a very happy and prosperous
marriage with lovely and wonderful kids..God be with you and guide you in anything
that you wanna do..I will talk to the chief and let them know about the Marriage
and also get all items that will be necessary for the wedding and then I will let
Jeniffer or I myself will let them get known to you.Anyway let me get Jeniffer for
you as I am feeling sleepy and wants to go to bed soon..Have a very nice time and
God be with you too..
My Dear,
I went to the Chief's palace and I had the arrangements
made.The priest and the church elders as well as members of the board of Elders and
also the Pastor.The items needed for the community and there are as follows
below..I will want to say them to you so you can see what you can do about that ...

Community Items
Local Drinks to sever the population has been estimated to about 5
Gallons and will cost $320.00
(Akpeteshie) Alcoholic Drinks to recall down the spirits of the
ancestors and lost family members to share the ceremony will cost $310.00
Pito for the Elders and community board members I mean the elders
as custom demands will cost $320.00
Local Kente cloth 9 yards for the ceremony and brisked African Mats
will cost $540.00
Jewelery and Adult tree cloth and I will handle that.....I can
provide that
Vehicle to convey her and family members to ritual Points will cost
$650...........00 for all the three days.

The Items for The church

Since it will be a communion service we will need to buy at least
two cartoons of communion wine and it will cost $400.00
Also Drinks to serve congregation after Program might cost $1100.00
These are all the things and registering fee will be $200.00 and be
share among the elders who are going to helped for the success of the Ceremony It
cost to a total of $3840.00..
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