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Subject.: Rer Hazardg of dating 1OE

Fi!s! off, I was going ro pos! on sonerhilg tike this. Many of us, v,ho were nor poputar wirh
wonen when we were younger, are hawing lhis new e*perience. IEis cal]ed enlering rhe wortit of
ho! women. We have lhese gtrls now qho sir in Ehe car \rirh us, and lhey yammer away abour how
hot Ehey are and atl lhe guys who l,ere hiEting on !hem. And rhen lney mee! another
gi!], lhey run,rp !o her and say, roh my godl r tove your hair/ehoes/be]!
. ,, And rhey begin rhis
weird comperitive riluar vrhere lhey keep complimenring each olher. Funniry enough, r,ve never
seen or been par! of rhis ri,orrd unlir rhe rasr couple vears, anit i! cracr<s me up because i!,s so
lame and shallos and insecure and ridiculous and weird and surreat and awesone.

Now, as for you and your silualion if you allows yourself to feet any jealousy or insecuriEy,
guess wha!? you 1o6e. I a.t, ny girls, I lowe going out and warching you flir!
"ar."" wirh olher
guys and watching orher guy6 rrying to hi! on you, because I know and chey all know Lhar aL Lr,e
end of the nigh!, we are going hone L o g e l h e r . A11 I require ts David x,s !h!ee rules: honeery,
crusl, and respec!.

anvrav, lhe wav !o ger her for good, and r nos know rhis, is Lo be a tirlle ali6ran!, Lo creare a
jealousy plobtine, !o ler her feet tike you,re raking her for granted. jus!
And rhen, as she,s
beginning to complain to her friends abour you, you rurn around and do somerhing super sweer.
You send her fl.wers or lake her ou! on an anazing dare or fry her somevhere .he wanr6 !o go or
finally rel1 her you tove her (assuming 6he atready toves you). And noll' you are a coupte iimty
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Su.bject: Itlr eDt€rlng a new phese Lrr ay P U A d e v e l o p s e n t - a r a n E

I'm in th16 new norlil no!t. I am alt ays alound ho! chickB' And they do weiral chings like

conElantLy talk about hov hot lhey are and how guys are al\tays hittlng on lhen. Yet lhey beconE

lnstantly completely tucklng obseaBeil with ne,

anct Bulcicta] because I donr! watr! to Live {ith her and reEcue ber
I have one l,[,TR piBEeil off
fron her sbilty deb!-filled life.

calling and lexEiDg te

I have another MIJTRcotnpletely ln love wilh rne anal obsesslng over me, and
every two fucklng tnlnuteg.

loo buEy reuurn her phone callE every d,ey.

I have anothet MLTRplssed at ne becauae I'n
and shers Eo fucking boring to talk on tbe phone lha! r get r i ! e d
liveB ln Florlda,
so hard !o keep the calls ]lvely.

caLling to
9o I canr! gel any fucklng work done, because lhese glrls are codstanlLy
me for it' lt
for not Paying enough atcentlon !o lhen. Anal Lhe mole they fucking critlcize
them even IJESSaltentio[ because a1l rhey do is give me grief'

lhere $lth nanaging mulliple relationBbipE (zan, r need you),

somehow, someone exPerienced ou!

And the sage aalvice is thal I am brirging thts on nyself Juat

can give me 6ome sage advice.

!rying to figure oul hon.

be a fuck of a lot hardet' more emotiolral ard more

The lessolr nanaging nulriple

Etressful Eo aleat wich than learnlng Ps.

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F Subject! vlaLon cragh€E to a low point - AGAIN

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E I lotalLy understand where you,re a!. I feel lhe safte way. And t have a loE more pelEpeclive on
whal lrve been noclcing in your posls larely after reading this, and your response to my pos! in
E the Quie! Party Ehread. Here are a few lhoughts:

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t 1. You are only as good as your 1a6s Earge. Il Eucks, buE lha s how we all feel nos! of lhe
!ime. If you go! a ONg, you feel a PUA god. Bu! rhen you can crash
t and feel like lhe biggesr loser
like

in the world. So the answer here is

and burn lhe

to Eeparate yourself
nexr day

flom
e ouEcome, and no! lake ir personally. Easier said lhan done.

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2. Yes, lhe self awareneBs rha! you get fron lhis community is a biEch. afler Eo nucb time
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invesled, Eo NOT be lhe moB! money guy in a room is aggravaling. You! staDdards and expeclations
t of yourself are raised too high. ce! lid of !hem, and focus on hawing a good time when you 90
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Youire still
the biggest

wacillating
i6sue: Y o u r N E l , ls e 1 t .

back and forth

IE's slill NEw. It,s

belween your o1d model/beliefs

not always there for

and the new one. And it's

you.

E hard !o tell sonetimes IiEICE is right. I'm not explaining this vel1, bu! ir is a MAJOR

E difficulty to make true fundamenlal changes a! the deepeet core of your personality. Makes

more lime lhan just six n'onthE or a year. Ard iE lakes

,l more repetitions of the new behaviors. I

knos for nyself I have SOMEnew beliefs and attitudes DowNr bur a! the same iime I stilt see
t myself sonetines as ny onD AFc self rirh this NEl{ Ii{ASK on that can sonetimes be lransparenr. I'n
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rea1ly explaining this badly, but the point is: It's harder lhan you think to change patts of

your personality and idenlity !o get the results you vant coneislentfy. I

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hard !o gel
problem, l sonder

phone rapporl.
if your mode of

Try making MEET cloEes

connunication-

instead.
answering/Ewing

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phone/message I
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Sublect: FR: fh€ Be6t Otrporlunily and the Worgt garging

s o t o d a y 1 l ' a sr n y L a s t d a y w i t h lhe gir18. and all en! well Finally. I am beginntng lo ge! lhis.
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afrer being around for a while, nor lrying !o quallfy myself, and getling social proof from lhe I
guys and lhe girl€ I've befriended, the walls came down. The girls \dere officially opened. I
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Then phase lwo, which realLy got me in, aE learned here in this thread/ was NoT Leaping through

the door once ir lras opened. In fac!, Ird prelend like I prefelled to talk !o lhe guys over
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Ehem. And Ird slop my conwoe with them Eo talk to guys. I
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Then, $hen I had then rogether iD a group, I lreated then like a group set, demonstrating value

to the girls and guys who weleD't the target and running Ehe rouEines (or similar ones) chal
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didn't work before. S u d d e n l y , t b e y w e r e M O N E Yi n s l e a d of suPPLIcaTIoN. I
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So, at lhe end of lhe day today, I at least made it so lhat lhey are all friends and sould be
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girls).
to Eee me again.

And r 90! HUGE rapport

I got a #close wirh one {not a ronantic

rith my target. what suckE is tha!

lead because she's mostly

sbe lefr shile 1 was away for

inlo
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a litrle

hotlest
while,

bu!
so I didn't

she had jus!

get to #close her.

golten out of a relationship.

IE's too bad, because not only was she the

By conweying value lo everyone else and

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being tolally cool and slightly negging with her, I finally 9ol her inleresled in ne. I'n so
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tl bunmed, because a #close $ould have been Eoratly possibte. Bu! r didn,r ger ro do ir before she

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No worries, Lhough- I! was a HUGE learning siruarion. And rhey ALL say that rhe mosE atrraciive
I thing in the world is a guy who can go up !o Ehem, atready (NOw that rhey HAVE rhem, and show a
Er conplete lack of needinesE when lalking, as if rhey reatty don'r give a shi!. (Mosr guys are so

lI scared to even lalk to them.) This of course was where r failed by supplicaling !ii!h rourlnes a!
fir8t. I!'s hard to maEEer you! stale enough ro do lhis wirh a porn slar on HER turf, because
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lhis is ALL lnner game. You can Eay lhe same bhing a6 every olher toser, but if you alo it wiEh
ta your INNER GAltlEdom, like you are the shit and they could be your next ex-gf if rhey ptay their
rI cards right, you are the man.

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Subject: Re! Venue Poacocklng & HeIp Flon Tho6e I Have !{et
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For your particular look/ you have rwo choices:
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il 1. You can go rock sEar: model eomeone like Mark Mccralh from Sugar Ray, like a prelry-boy, bad-
boy, ar!ist, singer, rocker.
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a 2. {Thle is my preference and new style) co !o!aL o v E R D R E s s E D ,i n a n O R r c l N A ! c e e r y t e wilh a
elight D A N D Ye l e m e n t . Thie means wearinq like wery well-cur, modern suirs. And lhen jusE adding
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a small touch of androgynous peacocking, like eyeliner and a btack scarf around Lhe neck. One of
a my favorite things that I uas wearing before Ehe a long dark iacke! Ehar goes down !o

a mld-lhigh, l{'ibh just the lop burlon done up and lhe resr open, and ruffted steeves sricking

a eLightly

Anylray,
out. wilh

you do this,
my goatee, people said r tooked like

you have !o go !o
the devil, Lot. r,lf rxy ro find a pic.
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a Ehe righr srores/designers and ger coot, originat,

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 T h e g o a l here is AI,WAYS!o be l h e b e s t - d r e s s e d at lhe party, like You stepPed
W E T - L - F I T T I N Gs h i l .

out of the sroxe vindow of the cooleEE boutique

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subjects: Re: venue Peacocking & Eelp Flom Thoee I Hava Met
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on peacocKlngl
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Here's my opinion -

It is no nagic Pil] (whar is?), bul il is useful The point i s t o W E A Ra n o p e n e r ' Tbrs aav vou t
canbenolicedinlheclub,l]'omencanopenyou,andit'ExAccErATEsanysocialproo!youmay

have. AIgo, if you dress I'ike tha!, lt forces you to l'iwe up !o

you hang ou! alone in the corner hugging lhe waIl,

yourself Eo do tha!. Also,

the image Yes' it backfires if

\"hich is vhy if you peacock vou t'on't a1low

peacocking isn'r a whole oulfilr it can be just wearing SOMETHING

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lhat a1lov,s a {oman to oPen You.
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! was at Myslery's last week, and he showetl ne a video
lhe
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clolbeB--lhe Eop hat, lhe gian! bools' the lalex panls' lhe eveline!'
puE on Mysterv'B

lhe arm banils, and probably the underv'ea! and he videolaped himself as he I
ekinlighr shitr,

walked rhrough lhe slreels of l,on.lo!1. It \,ra6 insaDe. ?eople wele slopping him in lhe srleels and I
aEking if they could be photographed wilh him and he becane RE;ALLYFUNNY and FUN' because ne I
had to come up with a pelsonal ily !o live up Eo lhe image'
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Furrhernote, MYeEerY's lalest MLTR (Iim 6ure he']l poel a vid soon) is s o m e o n e q ' h o o P E N E DH I M I
when she saw how he ltas dressed and thaE he vas leading the cooversation (it vas during a
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pea'ock I just dress VERY cooL and sTYLrsE, so that chicks
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Now, fot nyEe]f, I do not reatlv

commen! on my cloEhing.

advexEe !o peacocking--I
I have mv oton look,
just like to do it
which I'm refining

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ewery dav. That eaid' I'm not

c l o E h e s L n a r a r e C o o I J a r d n o ! s : m p - v L o U D'
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It A quick storv: Tonigh!, r wenr ou! wirh a girt r mer wirh crimbre ar a bar las! week.
F she 6aid

ts Eo neet her a! a friend'e

naned lJara who was wearing

house l,ho she had ro cheer up. I natked in, and iE was some aclress

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a see-rhrough lop rha! showed her whole breasls. r was my usual
charming self, and teft making plans ro go .wimning wilh rhem borh nexr week. when r gor hone, r
searched on Google Eo rry and figure our who Lara was, because rhey borh maale refexences !o rrara
berng well-known. Turns our iE $as Lara Ftynn Boyte. A!d,
FI for what ir,s worth, she rrovED rhe

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a Sublect: Doubl€ IrRt f.wo new layE in a day and a ques!:lon about 1ock6d uD women
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You may wonder why you don,t have lons of responses !o lhese awesome It's
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nor glvtng us a 10! !o go on in lhese FR6.
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t wha!,E lhe opeoer you're using when you \{ander lhe campus?

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sels lhe frame?

Thar said, wirh I{Br,toody, since ir was ctear ir was j u s t a brood sugar rhing/ r woutd have ended
=l the date abruptly aDd make ir seem tike i|s your fault--1ike you're the ol1e dissing her. nHey,

F HBMoody, I'm really

me. I had plans this

enjoying

morning,
my rime vilh

and r have a lon

you, bur L o t e l l Lhe ErL_h. Eodav's p*e!Ey crazy lor

of vrork to do tonighr.

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great connecLion on rhe phoner and r wanreit to see y o u a s s o o n a s p o s s i b l e , bur would be
E terribly offended if r pul1ed a disappearing ac!. I jus! want to be all here when |m with you

v and nor distracted. "

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That 6aid. who cares shers on your frane or not? Sone women {i11 never be (ever 6ee

Nicole Snith show) . goal iE to make her feel" CoMFoRTABLE, and lhen ATTRACTED, and

AROUSED. You can do this r{lthin ber frame !oo. {Hey, lbal'E what SS is fo!. lsn'! it?)

glyle wrlteE !
gubj€qfr varLou€ coclEy ald Funny suljects/fr.!€s

There 1B Bone AflEgOMEshi! here. A IJoT 1n one post. Ilnat I can tell a Io! of thla was developed

j.n the fleld, beca$e I kno$ i! al1 {orkB.

golng to start uslng tlre ndon'! cry notdn joke. And keeplng a lab for lbe gitl is
I'm deflnltely
hilarious. and uslng the Phole nI never liked you any ay'r frame 18 awesome. G r e a t B h l ! . Keep

posti4g tht6 stuff,

of course, there a l e b e t t e r "job8' to nenLlon than the on€s you have ]i8!ed helel

Anong then:

"slawe trader...you know, inpor!/expott"

Lighlet repaiflnan" (from l4IL PUA)

"disposable

the irhole "ass modeltr gadbit

Profe66ional hopscoEch player

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IrEortant for me lateLy - rethlnking chaslng & efficiency

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I haven,t read rhis whole rbread ye!, Just your originat lwo posrs,
things on my nind roo. r!'s nor jus! one issue yor:,re wriling abour.
bur lhis curs !o a to! of
Here are Eone rhouqhls:

=a l Yes/ \de give up verv easily. or a! leas! r do. rf ehe does!,! hawe boEh beauly and brains, r
tl jus! slop calling if like ONEphone call is no! relurneit or whalever. h lhe meartime, you
CoNSTANTLYhear of guys daring women --
? a.1d rhe girt always 6ays !ha! he catred and caLted, and
evenlua]]y she gave in. r,m no! a chaBer. Never have been. Too proud,
a and too lazy. But it clearly works f,or eome.
too annoyed by rejection,

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you baven,!
as these girls reEponses !o you ln your examptes, ir seems like chey,re inlo you blr
hir all Ehe switches yet. ThuB, lhey are leaving the door open ro seeing
ET again, bur in a way rhar (such as at work).
each oEhex
is safe yes, ir's Eupplicaring ro see rhem ar work,
it but not It you juEt stop by for a sec, say you're on your way somewhere etse, and insra dale
il rhem for afler work rhat nighr. I! may b e t h e I o I rhey need ro prove you,re serious and no! a

a player.

I 3. As far as the idea rhar gaming is onty for aftracriwe women, r disagree. r feel tike r can
EI game anv girl Bur r onfv give her as much as she rNsprREs in me. For example, r vas our one

Z night recentlv, nor ewen Earging, and was introatuceit !o an average Lalin gir1. r did NorHrNG
other than just being sociatty proofed (Ehree girls, inclualing
D numbers in fronr of her
the barrender, handed me rheir
r meE a guy and he asked wha! r itid, anit r lotd him I jusr slood bv rhe
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no qualifyitlg/challenging. Ard by night's end we *ere bolding hands and
walue denonEEration6,

makingoul.No!onlydidlknowl.tidn'tnee.ltodoanylhingelge,BuIshedldn'lin6piremeto

bolher to do anyEhing else.

ln conmon, and this ls sonething lrn

4, I notice a lo! of your recent PoelE have one thing

thin]<tngaboutlately:ThewAt!ogetlheno€!desiredlqomenincheroonlsVERaelmple.Auyou

have!odoisHooK!HEM,butwlTllou!I,ETTINGTHEMKNowYoU'REHITTINGoNTliEt"l.Andthisisa
atlenilon is an IoI rlrs crazyr tthen I
challenge, because of,ten Ju€t giving lhen ANY speclal

waB hanging out with the Poln starE, they sald lhat' they NEVER get hit on becauEe guys are too

Bu! lhe fact iE, they're shooting do!*n guyE as aoon as tbe guy
inllml.late.l !o !a]k !o !hem.

mouth. becau€e lhey -agBune tha! he just $antE to €leep {1!h then'
opens his

5.ofcourse,lhecagegyounentlonofgil'lyswhohitonagi!].conslantlyandlhenlakei!al'ay--
anal then sualdenly the glrl falls for them. Tha!'s a chapger rlghl out of Aos'

5. Ancl, in regarcls to your olher maln point, lf a glrl is cbaBlng you, and lhen you ]e! her

calch you, ln sone casea Bhe will ENJOYyou more becauBe she's worked for you' In olher caEea'

she w111 lose lntereB!, like you say. The anEner here ls to Ie! her Lhink that 8he iE STARTTNG

TO WIN YOUOVER, bu! hasn'! r',on. The!e!6 mole wolk to be done--you're s!il] nor eold yel'

gtyle wtltea,

SubJ6c!! AfrLcaDized KilLor Bee gtyle

I love your f-ing fteld reports, bro. Do you tatite fiction? You 8hou1d'

Note for the Thin-skinned: I am aot implving Ehat this is ficlion al aU'

when you Lold her, dI'n noE coning fron a scarcitv frane "
taughed ny aes off
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Any{ay, he has a RoLTINE tha! he rakes Ar,r, rhe girls rhrough. and ir is TEN TrMEs as effecrive
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as just ringing i! or doing a coffee date. Ee rakes them to clubs that axe I{Is TURF, shere he is
:t socially proofed, where he can perfom for them, and then has a whole loutine sith his roommales

{ for when he bringE then home. Everybody should have a syslem like this...

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a I'11 reply more on thLs late!. Thie is definile]y a high Eociat proof scene. It was much smaLler

a and scene-intense

malerial
lhan \,,here I look you guys. And it's

!o blov, lhem ou! of lhe water, but until

exacEly whar TD said:

c'e convey aclive disinteres!

qe have lhe

we won'! even be
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rt You a16o added an imporlant point he!e: if ar any momenr, you falrer and give IOls, you're

rl loast. AII of a sudden, yourre b a c k t o E q u a r e o n e . T h i s i s S A R D C O RgEa m e . A n d t h e r e ' s no better

feeling lhan winning. I!'6 like gerling through one of those really hard video games where
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lherels no rsaven or ncontinue" buClons,

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nole,
pos! is !ha! y o u m u E t R E E L T H E MB A C K I N . I! was okay to insu]E her

and don'! apologize for it. Bu! conlinue--giving total mixed messages, complimenls and
FI nege conlcined-- say, 'rHey wha! ar:e you getting so upser for. I didn,t say anyLhing negatiwe or
FI posilive about it. cindy crawford has a mole. I think I,m going to call you Cra,rfish.,, Then when

a she gers upset again, eay, 'lrhat are you talking about? That'6 the nicesr compliment ever. r
called ny sisf--

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rnew sirln on the scene sees you talking to ewervone and starls hitting on vou. so vou caa leave

with i:he new girl or oulsiCler, bu! the girls who are reallv IN are nore closed-off. Also' guvs

here are boring as fuck. They are conversation terrorists, and all lhev do is lalk about {ork

and their poseesEions. They're no! too haxd to befriend, but thev also trap vou in like half_

hour conversarions (probably because they're so coked up).

Anway, 1 q'i1l definilely try ou! your solutions. Maybe lhe follow-up opener after

she asks "wha|s your nane'r (vhich is E X A C T L Yl , h a ! s h e ' l l do) is, "Is that tt}e best you can do?'

Finally, here's a quesrion !ha! I KNowyou have an answer: when I was inlroduced lo lhose girls

who didE't even lislen when r la1ked and juar scanned the room, 1 jus! cur myself off mid_

senlence and walked avay. Irn no! going to \,taste my lime. Bu! lhac is PAssIvE behavior. I wasn't

Etrong there -- lhey won and I failed lhe shil !eB!. Wha! wouLd you do here? My curren! solution

I'11 lry is a variatlon of lhe Rick H line: "You kno\'r wha!, I don'l know how you l^'ere raised, I
bu! where r come from nanners are not opllonal. when someone is speaking lo me, chey have rhe I
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{on'!
focus

be talking.
of ny allenlion.
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So unril

seems harEh,
you can do somelhing

i!'s NOT tor thls

abou! your ADD problems,

scene; Irve used somelhing like

vou and I
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when one girl was trying to drag her friend away; afler I used il, !ha! girl apologized invited

me ro go !o an after-parly wilh lhem.)

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stuff, for sure. and lhe "shaking' line.
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a TD, you totally nailed it. Mystery, NrGHTr,rGET9 and r in r}1 played a game of Hot sear sith some

a gixts we mer. And E\IERY ONE of then said rhey didn'r like us when rhey firEr me! us. We were
cracking up, because we kllew we were playing game and had won, and tha!'s
lt the vhy rhey were
ower. So, as you said, yes iE's itrrpoltant to convey active disinEerest_ Even to nake rhem
il STRONGLYDISLIKE you. BUL rhen you reed lhat nomen! -- and it only takes thirty seconds -- to

I enlirely turn i! alound. And roulines llkel

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My leaslng as affeclion scrip!
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I we're llke (narne a classic Ho]l)'$ood couple who alvays bicker in thetr movles/Tv-ehows -- irom

il cary Grant/Audrey Hepburn !o Sam and Diafle from Cheers)

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A beauty is conmon variation
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a Someof you nay lemenber in rhe Old Lounge, X sarged an Asian HB in Londonwho tiwes in Toronro.

I I v{anted to hook her up with Mys. Anyway, I started getting phone calts from her, and decided ro

a keep her

not Eo sarge? It
for myself. After

6eens I'U!L of
ttro rourds

IOIg.
of enall, r get

At lbe same t.ime, Ehere's

this. l,ihat are your

lhe
rhoughts?
',surprise.,, rs ir
To sarge or

leal love
I or convenience? A16o, she vrites like a retald.
!|
Oh, and ber coment
1 a! the beginning i6 itr reference co the fac! rhat she said ny previous enail
was sveet. I wrole her, trTha! rasn,! a sweet email. 1r vras a mean enail. Style = Mean. ReDea!
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It soo vas a sweet emaill

exlerior. Isnipl I dont

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beliewe there
you want to be a bad as6 but

is a link !o RS Oz but I will 1el you knot if I can track

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in oz haha ISHE SAID THAT gIlE wAs GoING To BE IN RoLLING
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Irm going to visi! mY ftance Thals

r'11 be in I"A Jusl for a shorl lime. I !e11 you a secret'
how r workeal ou! lbe greencard. r'm a lucky ducky

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lhe pisB boy6 like

inlo

you are hatd t

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!o comebyl Nigh!, baby.

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ON. I am slaving ON game' l\nd' afEer reading !his'
Thanks guys. It iE definilelv
and play hard !o get' Bn!/ from vour guvs
those IOIS for granteal and !'ti11 conlinue to push-putl

I'n in if I donrt fuck this up The cooles! thinq is lhat lMEo she looks
opinions, i! seens like
cool eighties style of dressing l'11 1eE vou know wbar
BETTER in person. She has an amazingly

in back bar roon a! a show, I saw her lalking {ith an

Briefly, the FR on meeling her waE that

obstacle anal another guy. I walked in wilh ueual generic opinion opener, and totatlv ignoted I
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I ber- I befriended the guy so well that he gawe me his businesE card and inviled me ro hang ouE

il ar lhe FETISH CLLB he promotes. Found ou! lhat she wa6 visiling London, and staying eirh rhem a6
friends.
ll
I I negged her (1 forget on vhat). did an M, and, sben she said sonething about being Asian,
lr negged her for having a complex abouE it (but taclfutty). Atso did some mind-reading, got some

rl rapporE, and tben tried to set her up vith Mystery in Toronto (which hetped because iE Ehowed r
wasnrl hiEting on her).
:a met my firs! girlfriend
I think

belore
I may do lhis

discovering AsF.
in rhe furure. come Eo rhink o! it, that,s hor{ r

il A L A R MB E L L a R I N G I N S . . . N E I I R O U T I M J V S T T E O U G H T
OF...FrErD T E S T E DO N L Y r N R E T R O S P E C T . . .

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I *il,lhen you ge! rapporr q'ith an HB, TRY to Ber her up wilh your bes! fliend. Say she'll be
rl perfec! for him, and €eII HIM to het.**

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a JustreadTD'spost,moreawesome
shit.Still can'tbelieveI've hung
I outwith thatdudetwicebut still neveractuallysargedwith him to
z witnesshis gamefirst-hand.It feelsvery reassuring
to KNOW that
I
this stuffwork ifyou put in thecommitmentthatTD andPapahave.
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ashementionedin his post,here'swhatI've been
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into lately:
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Sincel've gotteninto this game,I've comeuPwith -

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thatis regularlyused- probablyover-used in the
community'And I t
althoughI'm prettygoodat
think thatthereasonis thatbecause, {

to failurc'Whodoesn't'
thisby now,I havea shongaversion

Nobodywantsto fail. Nobodywads to crashand

,'practice"
or "experienog."
right?

burn Not evenas I tl

!
this bizarre
Soeverr4hingI've comeup with sinceI started

journeyhasbeentweakedto ensuretheMoST andEASIEST

succassWhen

"Doyouthink
usingasanopener'
Ia
I firstmetMystery,hesuggested t
go there?SoI madeup
spellswork?"Thatwasit. Wherecanyou from I
nota big fanofthe I
theSpellsstory,whiohis trueby theway l'm
just very easyand I
Elvis openereither,soI mad€up othersthatwere
ThingslikeDentalFloss'
andalmostrejection-free
interactive I
Girlfriend,etc.
Jealous
I
I
I
is whatmy
Thenextstepafteryou openis to getIN- And this
manyguysjust
postis about.I want 100percenttight game'andtoo
interestorjust
trustluck (findinga receptivegirl who shows

continuestheconversation)'
automatically

thegirl ln
No sargecanevenprcperlybeginuntil youHOOK
a friendlystranger
otherworals,you musttransform,in hereyes'from
 to a guyshedoesn'twantto leave.Thismeanshavingvalue.That's

oneofthe first thingsI learnedaboutin this corununity.SoI tauglt

myselfthings
liketheCubeandmind-reading
andrunesandsoon.But

thosearelongioutinesthatrequirea womat or $oup,stotal

concentration
andattention.Theydon'tnecessarily
work well ifused

right afterthe opener.(Whoa,I'm startingto getwordyandoverly

basichere.Bettercutto thechasebeforeI beginto soundlike the

DatingWizard,)

SowhatI'vebeendoingnowis INSTANTNTERACTIVEVALUE

DEMONSTRATIONS.
If l madea livingoffseduction,
I'd callthemMs

andsellane-pamphlet
andseminars.(lfl
wasFormhandle,
I'd call

them"PosFpAIm
pre-isoilVD in vitro."j/k.) Thesearequiokwaysto

naturally
andcasually
HOOKa girl intoyourconversation.
Atd they
workwhether
itrsa coldapproaoh
or you'reintroduced
to someone.

Thesehavebecome
CRUCIALto my game.In fact,it hurtsto givethem

awaybecause
I usethemALL thetime.

Whatinterestsa strangerarethingslike telling hersomething

aboutherselfthatshedo€sn'tknow,leachingher something
that

benefitsher,makingher laughandhavea goodtime,and,in general,

makingherdght suddenlybetterandmoreinterestingthanit was

beforeshemetyou. SoI haveaboutfive routinesI useto accomplish

lr
all ofthe aboveQUICKLY in a fun andinteractiveway- unlikeothcr

valuedemoNhationslike, say,thewonderfulring fingerpattem,in

whichshejust LISTENSto you expound.And theyINSTANTLYmakeyou

standout fiom everyotherguyshe'sm€t,theymakeh€rlaughand

enjoyherself,andil's someftingsheoanxalkaboutwith others

later.Manyofyou evenknowthis stufrfrom your self improvement

studies,but maynot useit in your sarges.

Notieetoo howALL ofthes€canbelaunch€dinto right away- ard

naturally- withoutknowingan)'tling abouttheotherperson.

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Style:Oksy,I haveto ask how longhaveyou guysknowneachother
1
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for? (lfyou think theyle sistffsask Are you guyssistersor b€st

friends?)
I
HBs:blabla
It
Style:See,I knewthat. I
HBs:How couldyouknolvthat? I
Style:I'll showyou.In fac! l'll giveyoulhe bestfriendtest. I

I{Bs: (theyalwaysgetexaitedhere-theyloveiestsfor sometuckiog

reason)

Style:Okay.. ,(pretendlike I'm aboutto aska sqriousquestion-you're

I
hooked,right, soyou knowthey'realreadyhooked)' .doyoubothusethe
 sameshampoo?

IF HBs: (look at eachother,andthenopentheirmouthsto answei)

Style:Okay,theanswerdoesn'tmatter.You alreadypassed.

HBst???????.
a Style:See,ifyou weren'talos€to eachofter, you'dkeepeyeco sct
F with measyouanswered.
But iftwo peoplehavea connection,
fiey

F lookat €aoholherfirst. Kind oflike you'r€doingright nou.

HBs:giggle(Ihis is wherethes€ductioonewbiesyoujust metseeyou

E
makingtwo shang€rs
lsughandthink you'rea PUA God,LOL)

Style:See,youdon'tevenn€€dto sayanldftrg !o e3€hother,It's

F like youjust communioate

tclepa$icslly.

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Then,ftere area million plsc€sto go from here:Ofrenthey'lljust

openup andstarttellingyou&bouthowtheymct.(Nowyout€ REALLY

I in,) lfone lookedat tlrc othe.onefirst, thenyou saythatsh€is
a submissive
andtheotheris dominantin fte ftiendship.(CanbeI
I
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gr€atneg,)Ifthey wantmore,I getpenonalherc€ndaslq"IIas orc

ofyou ev€Ikissedsomeone
th€odl€rpersondated?"Theyfirckinglove

this one- but dotrl makeit your first qwstion.You oanalsousethe

E
telepathyline to leuDchiato I dtrd-rading/cold-readingroutineif

you dothat.You'll figurcthercstofthis outasyou do it in the

: field. It fuckinerocks.
IvD #2: cs vs Us
models,shippers'or anyonewho usestheir looksfor their career'
This oneis AWESOMEifyou re sargngachesses,

It's alsooompletelytrue.

Style:Smileagainfor me.

llB: unLokay.

Stylc(to wing)rSe€,she'sa U.

HB:????

StylE:I dated&girl whowant€dto bc a popsbl' And shehada

th€orythatpcoplewith U'slupedsmil€8ra'ereperceiv€d8sunfiiendly'

smileswereperceivedasfriendly'
And peoplewith C-shaped

HB: Sowhat'sa U then?

(eanadd
Style:A U is lvhenyourtceth8o sbaightbackin you mouth
ftere'sa big row
"kind of like a ho$e" ifshe'sa SHB).A C is when

of pearlywhitesin the front.And to my e& it ri'asmorethena

ftom a U to a
theory.sheaptuallygotherteethsurgicallyrcshap€d

c.
HB:No way.

Style:Antl shehadmego look at pioturcsoftike ChristinaAguilera'

who is I C' Look at th€coverofus or
who is a U, andBritn€ySpears,

andyou'll seethotit's alwaysa C sudleonthecover'

anymagazine,

Fromhere,meandthetargetstartinspectingthet€ethofrandom
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F shangers
lookingfor thepefect C or U. It,sflm. Thisnextsection

F isn'tpartofthe I\rD, but this is therestofthe routineifyou want

lt:

F
F
Style:lt's crazyhowmanyplasticsurgeries
theyhavefor celebsnow.
Shehadhereyemakeupandher lipsticktaftooedon,andwhenshe
F changedherhaircolor,shehadher lipsre-tattooed,
F open-minded,
I continue
(lfthe HB seems

withthefollowing:) Anddoyouwantto hear

F
F
Fr
thegrossest
thing?OnedayI noticedthatshehadtwo rounddotson

herupperthighs.Sheworkedouttwo hoursa dayandwassuper_fit,

F
F
butevid€ntlyshegot lipo too.But here,swhat'scr&zy.Becauseshe

uscdto work asanexoticdancer,shegotthe fat injectedintoher

F
F
labiasothatshealwayslookedaroused.(I REALLY saythis to HBs,

thenafterward
Ijokinglywave,,bye,,and
leavelikeI,m embarrassed.)
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ThcnI throwin thisjoke,withoreditgoingto Nightlightg:
Shewas
t
fiom LA, andyouhaveto becarefulwith them,Whenever
you go out
il
with girls in LA, everythingcanbe reallyfake. Fakehair (pointto
a
yourhair),fakeeyes(PTE),fakenose(pTfg, faketeeth(pTT), fake
z
a breasts(cupyow brcasts).You haveto takethemto thedoctorfi$t

I to lmd outwhichpartsarereal...Theyput herthrougha machine,

, andyou geta print-outal theend,"

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IVD #3:NameMnemonios
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IIB: What'syourname?
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Style:I'm Style.
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Thisis Donna.Andthat'sTony
HB: I'm Janet.

Youknow'I usedto bereallybadwith

Style:Okay..,....Janet...Donna...Tony.

names. I
HBs:Omigod,I'm sobadwithnames.
I
Here,I'll showyouin hvo
Style:Butyoudonrthaveto beanymore. i
All I do whenI'm introducedto you is makea picturein my
seconds. I
head.Soifyou're Janet,I pictureyou with theheadof Janetiiom I
And for Donna,ljust picturelikethe
company.No offense.
Thr€e's
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dawn,andthesunrisingoveryourhead.Andfor Tony,I seeyouon
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Here,I'll showyou.
Flakes.
thefrontofa boxofFrosted
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I
my wholename:First,
Now,in theolddays,I'd havethemmemorize I
Now,I grabmy
Middle,andLast.But it cameoffastoogimmick-y. I
wing,or a shangerin the olub(like anothergbl I wantto me€t)and I
his/herFirst,Middle,andLastname'Leam
teachthemhowto memorize I
ifyou don'tknowthis.But for it to work,you MUST
aboutmnemonics I
fun
havethemreally SEEthepicturein theirminds.It alsobecomes I
testingthemlaterin thesargeto seeifthey still remember'
I
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it's enoughvalueto a
ThetheorybehindtheseMs is thatsometimes
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F
F
F to becocky/funnyor deeplyspi tualor in a highsexualstate

F or usegrcatpattemlanguage,
but not always.Ontheirownthey're

F not enoughto consistently

GRABsomeone's
attei iondght away.Soyou

F canstill do all that- be oooky/funny,

besexual,usepattem
F
r
-
whatever-- AS youarcbeinginteresting,exhaordinary,
language,

tun,andbette.thanthe competition.You aredisplayingINSTANTLY

thatyouarea KEEPER.
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F Therearemoreoftheseroutines.Let meknowifyou wantthem,And,
l|
il please,
shareyours.Butthisshouldkeepyoubusyfor a while.

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a Style, /€$
a SubjectrRe:InstaniInteractiveValueDemotrstratioDs
a
I I onehundredpercentagree(well, 95percent)with your post.But,
a for a lot ofguys, whatyou$rit€ is goingfiom A to D. Thereare
a stepsthattheyne€dto takein betweento build up thatconfid€nce
I
andbecomeinteresting.This is whereroutinescomein. Theyare
a
trainingwheels.
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a Wlat youw te hereis theULTIMATE goalfor everyonehere,But, fact

a is, I (andothe$hereI've met)amvery interesting,well-traveled,

t andhavea widearrayofknowledgesothatI canhavean interesting

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conversationon any topio. And that's geal. But it didn't help me
E
meet strangersin a crowdednightclub' That'swhere ASF camein'
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And,factis,ofall thepeoplel'vemet(andI'vemetlotsof guys),
aretheoneswho saytheEXACT
theoneswhoarethgmostsuccessful

theywork.
samethingsall thetime.Wly? Because
I
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It's easyto sayibethec/f leaderall thetime andnaturallyexude I
it. lfyour aren't,I'd
value.ButI thinkyou'reover-simplifuing
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every I
loveto knowihowdoesonekeepit ONall thetime?Pe$onally'
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time I needto getin TtlE MOODfirst.
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subject: 6P! rnconELstents ApProachlng

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corra say, seevie PUA, r was thinking of Miring lhis exact poeE And for lhe exac! reason vou I
And coolwaler qives greaE
write. Ewerything you say here has happened !o me a! sorne Poin! I
not !ea]1v going lo solve it fo! you Because it'E easv lo
rs lhe answer_-but i!'s
ailwice--tha!
problen is an emotional {i e ' inlernal'
1
inleLlecluatly uDdersland wbat be wriles, buL vout

behavioral ) problem.

in two a t i f f e r e n t states. slare one is quiet and

I call lhe problem Approach Freeze. We are all

is going to know lhat you,re hitting on ihern -- and lamelv at

boring, anil anyone you approach
good e n e r : g y a n d l h e r e ' s no ooe you can't talk
that. State tso is that you'le fun and ra'liating
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F Bu! i! can be hard to wark into a crovded crub whexe you knor nobody anat you,re in stare one and

F need to puss yourself

the more you retreat.

60 hard for thar firsr approach. And rhe tonger you {airr as orhers say,

F
inro your olrn head.

rr The mos! usable solution

FAR you need to get with

here is TD,s: Focus onty on rhe opener.

each girl to meer your expeclarions

If

of yoursetf,
you erar!

you,tl
thinking of how

ato much berler.

rF wribe

ou!.
down lwo of your

Every tine
nomal

you Leave the house.

openels anal one nev, one rha!

have openers prepared

you \ranr !o lesr

so you don,t
out before

have ro lhink.
you go

F This brtngs ne to lhe moE! imporrant poinr: vou need to go insiare yourselt and lake a survey of

F tthat beliefs/feafs/mi6conceptions you have lhat are slopping you flom approaching. In my

r experience, and lm
see an HB, you think
Bure yours, rhe MArN problem ie THTNKTNG
before acrrNc.
of an opener, and ihefi you rhtnk of how !o do i! or say i!.
rn oEber worits, you
By lhen you,re

F so nervous and uncomfortable that you can't do it. The Kly ls !o Acr as you TBTNK, you see an

F HB, you walk towards ber, and you throo out an opener. I! just comes ro you because tt I{jqSTO.

F
ET
Yourve afready approached. you can'! Btraleglze anymore once you,re ro lhe fierar. you musr jusr

F Anl'way, r'|al like !o conlinue lhis diEcu6si.on. so if you can, r,m curious: whar are rhe beliefs
I and fears and enolions and even feetings that preven! you frorn approaching sonetine. r STILIT
have lhese nightB, And Ilwe been ou! with TD when he had one of rhese nighrs.
il and I've seen
Mystery have lhese nlghls. And we've Ar,L had them for DIFFERENTrea6ons. For ne, I geE
rI unconfortable in rny o$n skin, ior TD, he blanes someEhing exlernal 0n his own 106s of srare; for
a Mysrery, irrE all nfubarr because lhere aren,t any targets worEhy of
him OR he,e ro! DRESSED
I
a And the crazieeL thing i6: we,re some of rhe besr. W h e n w e approachr
a rejecled. Il,s entirely illogica1. So whar is ir a n d w h e r e does it
we alnos!

come fron
NEVER 9e!

then?
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l'm Eure it's happene't to

necessarily a problem vith my gamet but iL 1s a problem
This isnrt
her a few days latet. The object of tbe Phone conwo is sinple:
you. You get the number, you call
confortable' vou fluff for a couple
a slorv to stalt with to make he! feel
you hawe prepared

minules aflersards, and lhen You nake a p 1 a n . E a s Y .

up but she's reallv noE THERE

on her mobile' and she picks
Bu! wha! haPPens \then You call'
ale around' and she's nor
lhe background or ehers driving or people
Things are going on in
firs! call avkwatd so \that
No rnaEler wha!' i! makes that all_importan!
REALIY paylng a!!en!ion.

(a lit. e suppticating)
1, Tell her you'I] call her back when she can focus

2. Tel] her to call you back nhen sbers

flee (but !rha! if she doesnrl) I
3. Barlel through and nake a Plan'
wltl lalk !o her
I
someone jusl arrlved a! your house and vou nave t o g o r a n d
4. Pretend l.ike
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of phone callB -_ I'm
I ju6! tboughl of four, t'hi'ch mlghc be lhe beBl oplion But lbese lypee I
-- drive me crazv l hang up
the worit NotwERsaTroN for !hem' a non-conversaEion
going to coin
if i!'s a borderli'ne Elrl who ien't
I musl have Los! Ehe sarge lnil rrm sure lha!
feeLing like
to bolh feet conrforcable on !ha!
you, ttlat nay De crue' Because il's inportant
suRE yet abou!

firEE call afler lhe sarge'

Thoughts or experiencee?

sEyLe wtiteB t
oB/ 09/2003 FR and OMG I just Ehaved lry head!
subject: silP1if,ted
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Looks alre6one. soty shir. ft,s so weild. E"very time I hang out with someone, rhe nex! day rhev
shave their head, LoL.

F okay, some adwice:

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F 1. Get a Mach 3 razor and do i! thar l'ay. Ctippers don,r ge! close enough. JuEr rry ir once.

F rr's a grea! razor and vou non'i! cu! yoursetf.

inspec! when you,re alonero nake sure you dldn't
r rined ir. rr takes 15 ninules.
niss any spols.
Hawea frienit

F
F 2. Make sure you shave (or cltpper if you srick !o !har) every orher day. Ir ts par! of etaying

F v,e11-groomed.

F 3. Get a !an. Seriou8ty, find a spray-lanning ptace firs! and go lhere. Just do i! as an

F experimen! and see how vou r{ork. Then report back. rt,tl make a woRLDof differencet vou'l] qo

F up one full point on lhe allracllveaess scale.

F 4. I don,! know 1f you vork ouE. you don'r have to go crazy wlEh i!, bu! get into a routine anat
F improve your shoulders and cheEt jus! a LITTT,E. Starr wtth lhe Dconslruk! torkou!.

F s. A nice little touch is !o get 6ome earrings -- reat or fake -- !o pu! on you!
=
lips. Adds sorne life and glirter !o lhe mass of skin rhar
F is now your head.

F
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welcome to lhe c1ub...I'11 put my before and afler pics up here one day.

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il Subject: LR-: Jtaix,s Big Fuckl!, Saturday Night

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I!'s !o discu66 PASSIVE lgnorance wereus AcTIvE ignorance. For exanPler when you dissed her,

that iras aclive ignolance. rihen you just igBored her. thac was passive igDorance. and I'm sure

she sEEs thar flon guys trho are attracled but ju€t dplaying it coolr or trtoo shy to !a1k ro

so, IMHO, your attitude wieh EBNlne, lhough it $as probably lbe beEt game you could play under

the circumstances wilh BBTexaE ghere, !,ta€nrt lhe best gane you could play.

I B!it] don't have lhls nastered, but I l.!tto!t I've been much more effeclive wich these suPerdodel

lypes in Eels tlrat are falrnlng over them when I alo the tollowlng ln this orde!:

1, Acllve dlslnterest
2. Hardcore neg
3. Chlck gets upaet and confrongs ne.
4, I Erlck up fo! nygeLf, donr! apologlze, and reel her ln.

5. She 1B reeleil in.

6. I reward h6r wlth a compllmen! based on cold-!eadlng
7. I nay NOwbegln the game I nolmally uae r19h! away.

I'm s!i.11 wolki.ng on !hls, and as far as I knov,, it doesn'! get digcusBed. Bu! wouLd Love to

hear lhought s.

oh, aE fo! your,,I wanna tick il" line, trled l! once and didn't $ork for me. so I'n sllcklng lo

lo!-verbal connrunication lhere, Maybe I'd have to see you do 1! ln conlex! to undersland, LOL.

Jlaix.s I!-Bed t{orkshop: you can have 6ix Eludent6 ove! for $500 eacb'

Sqle Ntites:

subject: What most people do wrong when approaching

WhenI lventoutth€ first nighton Mystery'sworkshop,I tri€dan experiment.

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F approached
a set,opened,andthenDlved. And not a SINGLEsetstuck.I

F didn'treachthehookpoint.Everythingjustsortof seemed
flat, until I

l'r excused
mysellThisis because
I dropped
TWOimportant
piecesoutofmy

F game.Ifyou knowwhattheyarealready,thenyou areobviouslyalready

F
rF
successful
in thefield.

Thenextday,I did theexactsamething,exceptI addedNEGSandTIME

F CONSTRAINTS
to theapproach.
Everything
flewopen.I waspullinggirlsoffof
F guysleftandright.
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F So,ifyou areapproaching,
butnothavingsuccess
gettinglN withtheset,go

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outtonightandaddnegsandtimeconstraints

yourapproach.
It makesa HUGEdifference.
to thelirstTHREEminutes
of

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TIME CONSTRAINT:I canonly stayfor a minute,because
I haveto rejoinmy
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fiiendsoverthere.
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NEG:Oh my cod, is shealwayslike that?How do youroll with her?
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a And,a third point,which I've madeoften.In orderfor anapproach
to work in

EI a baror club,youMUST enterthe setwith anenergy/funlevelEeUAI to or

ll SLIGHTLYgreaterthanits cunentenergylevel.lfyou walkingin not smiling,

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talking softly, and with bad body languagg you're going to get blown out, no

matter WIIAT you say right.

Hopethis helpssomepeople...

gEyle wtlEeB,

gubject: A few good lLned anil n€98

NEWNEG
A great neg I used rhe other day...,for girls qrhoaay Ehey work al trendy bars/c]ube... I
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HBNon-rarger: Hey, did you hear rhar HB gor a job a! Lolus?
Style: l,lo\,r.As a barback? I
HBTarger: aB a barlender.

The oprional ending to this

places, and il
only guys are barbacks lhere.

is: Afler, I satd, "oh, I know il's

you don'r have a Lot of experience you have to slart
really
off
hard !o gec jobE at lhose
as a barback. n
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It's funny, becauge i! putB a model/aclress/lrannabe in the posirion of having lo say, rrl have a
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1ol of elQerience... (as a barlerder),rr LOL.
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NEW C/F I,INE I
My new favorite liDe is ',Newer heard ot it." Said really stlaight and dry, with eye contacr.
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Then, after pausing fo! a fe$ seclions, break into a 6nile letting her knolr yourre kidding.
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EB: I'n from California. !
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HB: Yeah, we v,ent to

Slyle:

EB: Matrix
what mowie?

Retoaded.
see a

tr style: Never heard of ir.

F TATTOO C/F NEG

F I just did tbis once and it anused me, but maybe they ger i! aI1 rhe Lime. .l\n)4vay, use if you

F
F With FBs with latrooes, just Etart rubbing It

F
wilh your finger. Then, when she looks a! vou.
say, 0I was trying !o see if i! cones off.'r
ET
!
-
?hen Ehe,l] say j.t,s real.
already), we! your finger
Don't believe her and (if
anit try harder
you have altractlon or have
d o n i t t h i n k s h e , 1 1 be confor!able

! si.!h you. saflva on he! arm, jusr rub 1t barder.

F Then aay, ,,!ook, ir's coning off. Righ! there.r

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A NOTE ON FVNNY LINES: They don'r ge! you a nakeout or anylbing. They contrlbute !o your
personality and sense of humor, ard rhey can be realty enjoyable to say. But saying lhe word

F rdorktr to a girl i6 nor going to geL you a naKe ouE or n u m b e r . l t u s r r e m e m b e ! ! h i s . Theee are all

F
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fun lhingE !o add in

language, and the progression

laler when you have lhe

of a sarge.
BIG CHUNKb a s i c s dom of inEernat stale/ body

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StyTe wrlEes,
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Ilere are some Ehoughts. Not' on tbis post, but o! the Photos.

one: The btonde girl. what happened? Irm lrondering only b/c Ehe body lang]rage waa a little

distanl, fron h€r and her frlend, tn lhe photo. Th16, btll,l, in Ito l,llay reflecta on your gane,

only reflects on my ablUty !o read body lang:rage.

T!'o t You alreEs llke RoEE ifefferles. go,

l'oin OmaIDE of shi!83. They ghoulal AIWAYS be flueh agalne! your chesl, which
a. No necklaces

leadB me t.o.,..

b. No collars llghl agalnat you! thtoat. $ear form-filtlng Bhlrts thaL are utlbuteoned, and tbu€

Bhow your che€t aDd necklace.

c, No !-Ehlrts unaler button dlownBhlrtE.

tshe healthy allernativ€ to Iry rays Try 1! TruE! me

d. Go !o a place that glves Epray tans,

e. In genelal, change your Elyle. You'rie a gooat looking guy' Your sgyle of dleBsr yotr colol
vllh a 9ir1 wittt
selecLl.on, adal lhe way you wear yout clotbeB are holding you back' Go Bhopplng
gootl taste' buy wha! Ehe Lells:!'ou to, don't 6ay "but thatrs tlot me'"

gtyLe vflEeg,

subjecl: LR, d€s9ttg a cB'lsg fri,€nd, followod by . thtg Tost

Quick IrR:
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one l{hole

bellydancer
year

there
ago I wenE ro

atso. s o I did the cologne

bellydance.

oPener,
There was a young,

and then just flirred.

thin,

Tha
cuEe

e it.

rF Anyway,

The ff,iend
it seems sherE been asking

warned, howewer/ that

her friends

HBBellydancer
about me since

is a reat
and they

man-killer.
ser us up lwo nigbrs

Awesome, r lhoughb, r love

ago.

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rF r did the usual dav lwo reirh her: look her our wilh a buncb of friends. r had an 19 year olar kiil
l,i!h me. Anal the kid was a Eota} CB. He kept asking togical quesrions, like. rttey, whar
do you

F rhink of the net, )qxxx cDr and sruff.

And rhen he,d say, "remember when you were hilling 0n

F lhose lwo 9ir1E. doing rba! face reading sht!, and they loralty dtdn,r believe you.,'ne was
doing rhia accidenEalLy. tte,s Jue! an tdio!. Bu€ r did NOTIe! it ruffle ne, I jusr laughed

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abou! it vrilh hin and lhen made fun of him for putEing bj.s foor in hig nourn.

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Finally,
isolared
I grabbed lhe gir1, EBBellydancer, by rhe hand and satat, 'IJe s rake a watk.i r
her in the bar, dlal the cube, and made ou!. AfrerlratdE, my frlend drove her friend

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F Haff an hour of rapport and making ou! later, I suggesled we leawe. We haat Beparale car6, so I

F needed !o figure somelhing out.

F Style. Where do you live?

F l.IB: XXXXXXX

F Slyle: tlow far is that from here?

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HB: 10 minutes.

sEyle. (saying nothing, just keepirs eye coDracr)

rlB: Are you inviting yourself ovelt
EI styfei I can only Elay unril 2:30 lhough, becauee r have a tor of work !o do.
I
a so went over, nade our, shirr off, ny panrs off, bur sropped by LMR. No worries since I,m in.
leawe at 4 am or Eonelhing.
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nake out, start che novie. anat lhen full close without resislance. she's awesome in bed' h lhe

norning, t hawe her lake a cab home (I told her lhe light befote that r did!'t hawe time

drive her) . she's deiinilely M L T Rm a t e r i a l . Lowe this gamel

StyLe wtitea t

Subject: The Tr.o-Part KLas Open€r

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Ipogleilrhi6onAsF.I'mtrylng!oependalilllemoreljmelherelalely,becausetherealeso

many nisguialeil ne$bles there fucking proslituteE and gelling confused by the guru wars and jus!
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Bcreamrng for help, Kooper, likeal your junk-food gounner loutine therel You should repos! thal

hele (as weLl as lhe reeponse that adds mole llnes to i!.)
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anway, moving on !o lhe PoBt. .
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openers are getting ttred. Bu! chere IS a hole in
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Yeah, I knov,, new oplnion

opinion openerE, and lhiE one fills ir' Tbe problem iB thaE lhe mos! commonly

uEed opinion openerB (jealous girLfriend, david boltie, who lies mole, eEc)

appeat moslly to ltomen. And most of us are approaching MIXED €er6'

so lhis neq one, which I've been using consislently for months now {and am

loalhe to give aqay bu! juEt can't help nv6elt for some reason), is designed

do seweral lhings. 1! appeals to guvs firEt and foremos!; vonen ge! super-

into it also; anat it prowides a wav !o Al4oG guys in front of sonen '

So, without furEher ado (okay, naybe a litr1e more aalo), I bumblv present for

your coneideraEion.. Tl'e Tvo-Par! K-sE Opener.

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PUA: Hey guye, lterre having a debale and need a quick opinion on
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one night and makes out with

C R O U P :Y e a h r i r ' s chealing.
a guy jusr for fun, is ir chearing?

PUA. Okay, lhat makes sense. so here'E lhe real quesrion. And r,1I rett you why
tl I'm asking in a 6econd: rf she goes our and gels drunk and makes our walh a
rl GIRL for fun, is it cheaEing?
GRoUP: (Ehe responses lrill vary/
il bu! if any guy6 say,,no.,' you can bus! on
lhem for having a doubte-srandard etc.)
il PUAj Okay. lnteresring. The reason r'ft asking is because my frienal over Enere
I haE been daling Ehie gir]. And sbe tikes to go ou! anal ge! drunk anil make ouE
:l with 9ir1s. Now, some guye mighr be inro !har, but ir pisses hin off and he
thinks i!'s chealing. She says it isn,t. go we were lrying
il to figure o u ! w r 1 ow a s

T GROUP: (dlecussion ensues, which you ottl have !o soon cuE off and move inro
t your nex! piece of marerial because lhey wilt go on and on about rhtE and

:l slale lhe toplc and convo)

I Enjoy. Ir,s a nice change of pace for lhose $ho tove Jeatous Gtltfriend but are
I lired of it. Repor! back on your resuttE.

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Asfor the guyswhoworryaboutthe openerlasflngnot longenoughor too
I
long,youworrytoo much.An opener
ls simplymeantto open.Andit only
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needsto lastuntilthe conversation
or energylevelbeginsto flag.Andthen
I you hit themup withyorrrnextpiece.If you,rea newbie,here'syournext
t piece(creditto Mystery):
il
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As for the questionabout Glvistyle, this is a delicatebalance.BecauseI am so I
I canget awaywith franksexualtalk or kidding.
non-threatening,

The subtledistinctlonwith this kind of talk is: it's okay to come off as

sexualBUTit's not okayto comeolf as hornyor perverted.

Seyle wrLtest

SubJec!: A lant on sballgwDeFg

YeE, you n€ed outer game to apploach succeE8fully. Yes, you need ime! game ro close succeEEfutly. But ln
belteen/ gll1E ale looktng tor value dd staluE, tte, rhlE soundB houibte. Bu! I norlce rha! when MyEteiy
o! Eomeonegi.veE me an AccoMpLrsgMBNT
INtRo {o! r do so fo! then) , the g1!1s afe all ove! rne and sometlmes
I 6anrr get ltd of them. orhe! !1re8, ohen I do lc for orhe! puAs, r' . notice thel! whole demeanor change
and theyrll 1lEten to any bE he haE to say. irrd I've Eeetl rhe way womenbehave around celebE hele o!
backgtage a! conceltE: It doeB no! nalte! whethe! rhey have a bf o! nor.

Thls po€t is not in any aay b1tler. In fact, r've been having GREATEuccesE 1are1y, And o! coulge Ehe
Ehings I mentlon hele ale ju6E FACTORS
ln a g1!1'E decislon. your game if iE's righr can ourrelgh tbose
factols, But, Ia!ge1y, E1!ls ale attracted !o theEe elenenrs of HTGHER
STATUS,and if rhey ale hrgh
enougll, you can circumvent the6e rules. Remembe!rhen I was nigraken fo! Moby? The 9ii1 @de out in6Eanrly
and wanted lne to .one ove! to her house lare! rhar nighr. I{hy? She wa€n'r even a fo. she lusr eanled
blagging alghrs or the validaEion.

of coulse, rhi€ doe6n't mean glve up all ltope oD the game, because chicks will inveEr in you. h olher

FAME is the sare thing as the IOTEIITIAI, TO BE AAMOUS

RICE i6 the sane thing as lhe POTENTIAT TO BE R1CH

eooD IJooKING is dlfferenr ro every girl

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rt For evelyone e1se, rhen, make sure you have loutines bhab demonsrrale this porenrlal or, much berre!,

f, have your {ing do then to! you,

!l I'd be cullous to hear o!he!s' thoughts on rhis, esp tf you are riving in ciries like Miani, Ny, and In.

f, Fowever, this is tlue evellrhef,e; rhele i6 lusr a louer rhreEhold ar which someone i6 famous/coothich in

a €maller

rhereas
cities,

he'd
You know: a SCREENiTRITERfo!

be lust anolhe! screenw!fte!

an Adafr Sandle!

tn rrA,
movie woutd be a cereb in a smal1 tom.

z
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z subj€ct: re: Shallowness

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a Nice lesponses and thoughls. In general, fty molivalion for wriring this p o s ! $ a s L E A V I N GL A a n d

z sarging

luEt
elsev,here and seeing !ha!,

ae slalus-seeking
when confronred

and i.mpressed by the bs as in LA. Not a negalive

wilh lhe opportuniry, girls everFvhere were

by lhe way, just an

z observalion. And, yes, i!'s lrue what Toecutre! says: you can,! brag abou! ir or quaLify

a yoursetf, orherwiEe you lose. You must carry iE triEh you ae parr of who you are, and olher

z people mu6t te]1

scops lalking
her who you are for

wirh an HB or even crashes & burne,

her !o be impressed. Try an experimen!;
,,Do you kno{ who rhar
afler you! wing

say, was? He's the heix

fl Lo Lhe caapbeLl's soup forlure' or whaLever. See wrar happens.
I
I 14ha! Toecutter is saying here is thar every girl has her !)'pe. True. Bur 6he oflen witt eeII our

z her tl?e i n a S E c o N Df o r

mega-millionaire or a ridiculously
a shor wiEh a limired-edilion

handsome guy. I see i!

ceteb or a chance to be on the am ot a

happen att rhe rime, and nor jusL in

r LA. A11 of a eudden this loratty weak-kneed, srarsrruck, caughe-up side coneB our of girts. They
z juBt donr! ADMIT it, and like !o BIAG sometines they turned dom a high sralus mate (because it

:l makes them seem even cooler). And, sure there are exceprions: peopte have rurned all sorrs of
celebsr nillionaires, and loo-altractiwe guys down. And, again, ii's no! abour wealrh, tooks, 01:
I money: it's about PERCEIVED STATUS, Hett, took a! who fenate cetebs date and marry: cI]uB owNERs.
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STATUS than !hen. Fuck. Mick iragger irA.!4Ssith Paul A]1en.

Bur Irm getting vray off topic and into a langent I don't nrant to 90 into. I guess the reaeon I|m
irriting this is because!

1. Once again, it reaffiiM the importance of llfestyle over sarging pick-up barE. Those girls
e8pecially, lhe party glrlE, vlll go for lhe Lifesryle guy over lhe solitar"y player with game.

2. Same's 6tll1 lmporlan!: lone of high slatus maleE do not 9e! laid. But rhere's a hierarchy of
value a guy can have for a glrl, anal gTAfiIS is near the very rop. Tbus, the ILIJUSIONOF STATUS
i.s PARTol game.

3. It's a reallty check,

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4. Ilta somelhlng !o keep ln ml.lrd when winging and sargtng.
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5. There are new routineB, Iike lhe acconpllshment' lnlro, !ha! can be devetoped around rhls. t
6. Engineering 6ocj.a] proof should be the next flonlier for PU.

I dod,t klrow wttere exacrly atl this ls leading, but I was hoping to post lt here, r leally
notice that lhe CREWI hang out with affect8 lhe DEGREE
of ny success when I'm in rhe club

sEyle adde,

Righ!, Toeculter. The life6tyle i6 conveyed not by yourself direccly. It is best told ro your
target {hen you are out of earshor. A rich nan does not. have ro flaunc hi6 realth iE words,

dress, or lavigh ependiDg; he enbodies i!.

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i Lifestyle lhen is conveyed not by your words bur by vhat,s around you: itow women rrear you, whar

ir your friends say, how the club manager lrears you. r! is somerhing roo !ha! a girt jusL finds

out abou!, on her own. 1! is conveyed by lhe facr rhar you don'r need ro and have no inreres! in
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being part of her world. she must abandon her unfutfitting rourine and slep inro your exciring
? world, [NOTE FROM STYLE, 2006: IF YOU,VE READ T11I€ FAR/ EMAIL ME AT I4ANOFSTYLE@GMAII].
COMWITH
fl THE SUBJECT HEADING {FRANK IS WRONG'FOR A FREE BONUSSURPRISE TO REWARDYOUR DEDICATIONI

a PERSEVERANCE,
NND COMIIIryENT. ]

rl Roulines include, Ehen:

z 1. Accomplishment inlro {as discusEed), and having orhers lett Erories about you.

a 2. Pivols, \dho are plepped lrirh lines like lhe ones Nigh]ighrg posteil way back {hen, abour how
biggest crush on him for so long, bur he,s atways raken.
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3. Myslery celeb ideas: being iollowed around by a r/ring vrilh a canera, bringing headshors ro
z autograph/ having people slop !o take photos wilh you.

a 4. Your body Language (geslures, the way you hold yourself) and dress. very confidenr and setf

a
z 5. Going ou!

quickly).
ln environmenls where you are known by lhe staff (or if new, can befriend rhe sraft

= 6. Krowledge of what,s going on in !own, especiaLly larer !ha! nighL, and the more exctusi.ve or

- vIP Lhe be!!er. In olher words, you're her ticket.

z 6a- Irere's

parties.
a rnoney Line. r re]l HBs tha!

So she ha6 to hang ouE lJith fre three

people in !A always rry to befrrend me Lo go !o rhe

EimeB and do normat thinge before I,11 rake her !o

!a any of my cool places.

I ?. Appearing lo be the leader of your group: The leaders, a6.ruggter (I Ehink) said, is Ehe one

z who people are TALKING TO and trying ro irnpreas.

z 8. Berng busy/ having a fu11 social

kno!,ra few of you v,ill be using this

schedule.

tine
I like

ronigh!,
to tel1

lot.)
EBs/ ,'My dance card s futL.' ir

I 9. Having an entourage/ oflen eeared (as opposed ro aandering rhe ctub tone-wotf styte). Thar
z doesnrt mean you hawe !o be silting with thern att rhe time, bu! jusE having a home base in rhe

:t club where you,re sulrounded by a protectiwe enclave of hangers-on.

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lPs Of course celebs get tejecled;
get an IOI. Bu! I'al also be! that same gir1, if she was bit on in the RIGHT (non-creepv' non- I
celeb, soulal have gone for it And, ves' status i6 ius! oNE prEcE in
asD Eriggering) way by lhe

Ehepuzzle.Bu!it'sapieceldon'!thinkueehoulitneglectb/cit'sbigfora}otofgirls.

AndleElsnotfolge!lhatgirls.ton'tsAYwbattheyMEAN'l,ihenshesaYs,,'t{ekeptbraggingaboul
quv I'm
his ilaguar. Whal a jerkli Wha! she means is, rI would love to ride around {iEh a ho!
about il !o inpress me "l
alaling in his Ltaguar, bul DoE some lose! who feele he needs to brag

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Subj6ct: Project Holllntood IE a GOI Room for ONE more"' I

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S o , w e g o h l h e h o u s e . No! lbe one Papa posted piclures of, bu! a differenl place lluch belter I
Locati.on lool Eerers I
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rr,s lhe old Ra! Pack houae.
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It,6 five sleps ofi gunEe! Boulevard, walking distance from Skv Bar, Barfly, Saddle Ranch and I
any other place can rhink of in Lhe lrollveood scene

rr,s four bedrooms, wirh a huge ouldoor pool/jacuzzilbar deck overlooking sunset BouLevard' I!

is fucking beautiful: lhe nicesE ptace I've ever lived in or seen

The plan is ro live

tJe hawe one bedroon

the lifestvle.

open. flrs
rt's

not
also big

cheap. But it's

enough lhat yourll

noE expeneiwe eilher

hawe irhe option

for
of privacv

whaE you're
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Subjecl: Project Holll rood L6 a cOI Roon for ONE nore...

I christened rhe houEe todayt snuck in with one girl. (a iirs! nreeling) and nade our for a \rhite.
Then snuck ln with a FB and had sex on lhe liEtle calpeled slairs leadtng flom the tiving loom
lo the dtning a!ea. She also happens to be an lnterior designer. And she wrole me up a foltowing
con!!ac! saying lhat Ehe would do inlerlor design for rhe house in exchange for otle sushi
dlnner. sounds f alf.

Style wrltest

Subj€ct: Re: A Vialeoot ilystery, Includlng r R€vl€w by Destlntg

Wow. I can,! nake it rhrough lhis whole rhread. Bu! catting lhe glrls we me! in Canada coke
whores lras really fucking wrong-headed and, frankly, hurtful. I don'r reatly nind the personal
dlsses, bu! those girls DO NOT do coke and coke had nolhing to do ar atl with pg'ing rhoBe
9ir1s. Dude, Mysrery doe6n,t ewen fucking drink. obwiouEly, the review is leposled from
elsewhere, bul I just lrant Eo emphasj.ze thar not a drug waE touched or menrioned att nighr. That
may be in Desting'B realily (if she sees people staying up lare oi louching t.heir no6e), bur noE

That 6aid, lhe video was in no !^'ay neant for PU or promorional purposes. It 11\'asiusr a fun home
movie menerro of a crazy nigh! and nex! day.

Itope rhose who sas the leaked wideo enjoyed it anlaay.

 keep people fron rationalizing lhat I get
ugty bald one" -- 1ol, at least this wilt

of my looks novr. )

Stvle w tes:

Subject: Rer A Video of ilystery, Including a Review by Destinig

Now thatI've readthewholethread,a few morethoughtsi

onvoicetonalityis RIOHTON,asfar asI'm

1.moever madethecomments
I
eventaking
gottenpast,despite
lt's reallytheoneSPI haven't
concerned,
I
I
lt's neverhurtme,butI'd likeit to bebetter.
voicelessons.
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I
likeonlyoneor two ofyou herewereusingthevid asanexcuse
2.lt seems to
I
says,it
flameMys,thegirls,or me.But mostpeoplegetit: likeThundercat

wasa videojustfor MysandI to showourfiiends.Not in anywaya PUor PU

t
it makesa nice
!
video.Forthosewhohavgseenit, I suppose
instructional
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to theFR:nowyouhavethevisuals.(Andyou knowat leastthat
supplement

nothingwasmadeup.)
tt
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3. Thatsaid,it wasneverpostedin theLoungeor anywhereonline'I haveno I
ideahow it gotout there.I talkedto Mys andhesaidhedidn'tlet anyone !
copyit. Sothatis a mystery,But eitherway,neitherhim nor myselfhaveany
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F interestin thevideobeingpublic.And obviouslyno onesignedreleases
for a

F homemovie,Soplease
takeit down,espeoially
because
notonlydowe showthe

rF facesofthegirlsbutwe alsomention
theirnames.
Hi, mom.

F
rF 5, Do youknowwhatmy favodtepartofthe videowas?No onementionedit.

It's thenextmoming,at breakfast,

whentheblondegirl tooksat me.She

looksat mein a wholedifferentwaythanshedid thenightbefore.Like, she's

F in lovenow.It wassointerestingto seethatchangeovemightwhenwatching
F
F thevideolater.Shewasa reallysweetgirl andbecame
anMLTRafterthis,so

F that'sreallywhyI foundDesting's
postsodisgusting
andhateful.

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6. Onthebrightside,at leastsomeofyou herecanstoprationalizing
thatmy looks
getmelaidnowthatyou'veseenwhatI looklike.What'sreallyinteresting
is thatI
t hadjustanivedin Canada
thatday.AndI hadn'tshaved
my heador cleaned
up or
:l prepared
to PU at all, And afterwards,
whenwe watchedthevideo,w9 wereamazed
z thatit didn'tmatter,
thatit wasstillpossible
to gohomewitha cutegirl whowasabou!
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I 0 yearsmyjunior, thatmaybewhatwe leamherreally is (gasp)true.
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Okay.I'm sureI'll think ofmore later.But this hasbeenan interesting
I
a thread.And I reallydo feelafterreadingit that,overall,this is a grcat

I communityoffriends (anda coupleenemiesbut,hey,that'spartofa community

I too).To behonest,I'm reallyfuckingpissedandfreakedout thatthevideo

:| wasmadepublic.And I wantmorethar anythingfor it to betakendown.But, in

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the meantime,one thing I've leamedfiom all thosebookswe recommendhere is I
not to losesleepover something
you can'tcontrol.
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StyTe wtiEeBt

Subject.: Does Lt ever jusb not work?

so, a follow up to ny personals experimenr. I wen! ouE o n t h e s e c o n d

i
ever Personals neeEing of
my life. The firs! one r did, r ended up steepins wilh h e r . T h i s E e c o n d
one \{as slrange.
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The girl was realt"y cu!e. And she reEpondeatto ny asshole profite. Then r made her jump lhrough
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hoops, lraded insutrs via email, and tolat her !o bring me a gif! !ha! was under a dollar to the I
meeling. She rnade me a CD.
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So we sat down at a lrounge, and 6he never reatLy opedeil up. I did ati Ene
usuatEr spetls, Es!, t
r'Ds, etc. Maybe x lalked roo nuch, but she never realry conrribureat
walk me to qet
to anyrhing. Then r had her
a wideo. And ir was jusr clear in my mind lhe whote rime, ,rThis jusr isn,t
tI
working our.' r! llas clear ro her atso.

The Ehing is: I can,! figure ou! wHy. r don,t knot^,. rf I had !o ito ir over again, lhere's nor
rhat nucb I,d do differen!]y. The bes! r can rbink of i6 rhar s h e h a d some sort of criteria for
rhe guy she waE looking

so, with
for, and r didn't march bhar crireria_
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the failure fresh in my mind, I,m curious with orhere who hawe been
lhrough lhe personats. Ewen lhough the girt nay be physicatty alrracErve, is lnere ever jusr No
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vibe between you, no nalEer whaE you do?
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Does anyone have any other

Ioulines
ideas as ro wby she never reatty opened up? At wors!, I II
rithout reatly connecting with her, bur r was newer qiven the opporruniEy
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F have lhis feeling as I write this rhar she reatty wanred !o latk abour her favorire novies and

F booke aDd camping trips, and I'm so brainnashed into wow,ing girls vrth rvDs and ESp anal alt

rF that I didn,t

COMMoNALTTIESgoing.
just relax and ratk abou! rhe boring sruff !o ger those at] imporranr

:l I wonder if my boring nerdy pre-ASF setf woutd have connecred wirh this girt betrer lhan sryle?

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oh we]1. Live and lealn. I!'s a problern lve seen orher have: you forger to reatly ]isren to the

F
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girl and sense l,hat she needs.

F I guesE l,we answered nV own quesrlon now, bur would be curious to hear olher thoughtE?

F TNOTEFROII STYLE, 2006r IT TUPIIED OU! TEAT THE GIRL HAD RECENTLYMET A BOyFRIEND THROUGBTEE

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PERSoNAi's,
Bur FoLLowED
TIIROUGH
oN corNc our lVrrH MEaNYwAY
OF \CURIOUS]TY' BECAVgEMY PROFII,E WAS SO COCKY.]
Nor our oF RoMANTTC
rN?EREsraur our

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gtyle wtiEes t
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gequel to DoeE Mve!
z Subj6ct: No! Work! Molk€d

I go I l,en! out tonlgh! with the second 9ir1 tron my asshote profite. SeriouEty, of lhe TIiREE
I girls I emailed, all responded. ThlB one had a happy ending. r did ir torally diffelent.

I
I met her a! a trerdy bar, {here I knew rbe wailress (Myerery's new Mr,TR) I also had a friend
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neet me tbere. So now 6be was in my world, where r bad sociat proof.
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I As soon as I sar her, I was atLracred. Better than her photo. a lhin btonde wilh a loral Bo,s

I new vave haircut. ,fu6t a great energy and sense of style. Anyrcay. we sat down. And INSTANTLY,
got IoDs. Eer body language wa6 REALIY bad and she lr'loutd NoT look ne in rhe eyes. (Tha s lhe
!|
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 aeav and talketl to mv friend for a fell minutes and just let her sit
worst IoD.) So I lurned

back to her' we ttid lhe cube Bul instead of doinq i! aE a

Then, when r was ready, r turned
- fractionating a lot for jokes and things'
routine, I used it to convev mv personalilv

co geL rapport. Then, I Pointe.l oul a guy in lhe bar, and we joked
Aftetwar.t, {e were Starllng
her bo'tv language \das changing l rold her my fliend was nv
around making fun of him sudalenlY,

and that he protecEs ne and makes causes anv riouble'

GooN {lhanks ,luggler),

bar, anocner thing lhal gor me poinrs' was inleractinq wiEh a randon
on lhe way out of lhe

couple

rapporr.
-- being

I realized
reatly funny

that
and reasiEg Ehe 9ir1

s h e E X P E C T E Dl h e a s s h o l e ;

discardedherExPEcTATloNandgre\,tolikeslyteevenmore.Irealizelharwon't'happenevery
also'

inslead,
introducing

she 90! sEyle

mv HB ae lf \{e had great

And' slo$l"v' she

Ia
!ine, bu! il did in lhis inElance.
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Aflerwarit, r wen! !o $eet chrlBtophe a! a concert l jusE happened lo be going lhere, and she
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happeneal to love lhe band. Perfec! The venue change w a s g r e a ! ,

the phases had been passed __ she didn'l

and no$ lhere

like me a! first,
wele IOIS aL1 over

rhe$ the cube t

rhe place.

anal lhe Bociat

I knew all
proof of lhe bar demonsllaled value' The fac! lhah we had similar tasle 1n nuslc
t
and joked around a lol

and brushed cheeks or pu! ny arm around her {hen I wanred to

During the show, I leaned in close

waE tolaIly po6ilive' she was giving me klno opporlunlrles Dv

cell her something. Her reaction

brushing up against me a lot.

Afrerward, at lhe bar, my fltencl wenE !o ernoke a cigarelle Time to Pha6e shif! r did mv
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ewolulionscripc.I!wentoverjuelokay.Fina]ly,ljustEaid,Bilemyneck'shedidwithoul
soon' we llere making o'rl'
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hesitating. Then I tolat her she $as 'toing iE wtotlg' an't bit her neck'

I must say bhe biggest rush r bave is when, on the first

k i e s ' t h e g i r l j u s t R E S p o N D Ss o w e l l
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an.lhasherhandsalloveryou.Ilol.Iherlpai.lnygoonlwentybucketoleaveusalone.l
at even mv stupid bad jokes) lhat I
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coulal just !e11 from the eav she wae respon'ling ilaughing
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t of the night, Ehe dropped ne o f f at ny car. we made out
20 minules and talked abour surprised we were lhal
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rl ArF ay, like I said, you're only as good as your lasr sarge. .t\nd now rrn in a good mood. Thanks
l| .., frc idvi-a i h- t-s- r.er. rric -rrni n9 lrom You! misrakes,

a correcling yourself, figuling ou! a method tha! works.

a Altnvay, I really like rhis girl, add wilt nake her an MLTR.
z
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ll StyTe wtLEea,

a SubJ€ct: CalLblallng *C1o6e

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had aEkedhow I could !e11 wiEh an HB, afler saying \r,n lrying so hard nor ro kiss
Someone
7 you/' whelher I lra8 in or not. When a girl does NOT wan! to kiss you afrer you say rhis, she
a eilher comes up wirh an excuEe righ! alray or jusr gives you an unconscious WTF? took or her body
I Language closes off right away. Ellher way, you rorow if your calibralion was off.

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If a girl W A N T Sy o u t o k i s E h e r ,
a up Ec. Or, she lurns
she eirher

her head a'ray demurely

€lays exacrly

and Emiles. or,

as Bhe is afre!

as happened recenrty,
you say it and keepe

a girl says
a "You can if you wan!.r Anolher girl recently did the firsb lhing: didn'r move her head or change

z her BL. she almost {anted me to kiss her rhen.

z I was rrying ro experiment wilh David D'6 sexual communicarion sruff when we were on rhe bed.
I I'd get cloee to her, then rearrange my posirion and be very far atray. r,d put my am around
z her, and Ehen be dlslant. EEc. I don,t know if ir uttinarely conrribuled !o lhe facr rhar r

z didn't ge! any LMRor not, though it could hawe.

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StyTe iEltes,
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subject: You sher8 married
queation)

wilh EBNewave (from lhe personals) . We hang out for a couple

so, I'm out on ny second neeling
and t h e n a t 1 1 , r d o l h e o 1 d "whal do you have in the refrigeraEorr
hours, hold hands, make out,
ine shers rnarried l don't believe her at fitst' but
Iine. she is hesitant, and then she lells

i!'s rrue. (I suppose that c o m e s lrirh che lerriEory on lhe Personals )

l$y$ay, so HoW would you respoDd? I ius! sot! of ignored it Bul it felt a liltle weird afler'
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Fuck, she's jus! in i! for the sex; I feel eo used and dirlv'
Il also made me realize:

- SHE WAS JoKING PHEI'l'l

INOTE FROM STYLE, 2006: TURNS OUT TIIAT SHE WASN'T MARRIED
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B O N U SQ U E S T I O N :S o I r I n g o i n g lhrough my elable (which is fucking big righ! no11', bu! nol sHBs) I
for a threesome'

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and llying !o flgure o!.1! how I carl get lwo of lhe girls together

are 1 1 9 v e a r o l d b l o n d e w h o ' s v e r y c o m f o r l a b l e !li!h womenAND a 35-year-

show rhe nosl inlerest

old brunelle w h o ' s n e v e r b e e n wi.th a wonan before. Problem is: Thev jus! 6een so d i f f e r e n ! and

misftatched. would You try !o do it any1ay, or keep searching for a better malcrr w i l h e a c h g i r l ? I
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A. Not encourage her wilh poEitive feedback and rewards But !hen' the nore you v,ithdraw, Lbe I
more this fuels her obsession
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I r{ho's like thac right nor. She actually Eaid, "I lowe you'r before we hung up on rbe phone rhe

olher day. I said, 'Talk to you la!er.', IE seened so cold and caltousr bu! whar else waE r
Il
Eupposed to say?
:.

I The orher problem i€ that shen a girl (who r do nor towe) does rhis and gets loo ctingy & needyr
--
I she becomes SO unacLractiwe and I lose interest in her sexual aDd other\rise.

a Now l,e know how girLs feel (and irhy Davld D's non-wusglness stuff works).
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a Sublectr OE! fh€ !donl,. ncosediantr !€ pU analogy

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t l'tyslery read about lhe,Je!.ry Seinfeld movte Conedian eilher here or on ASF, so c'e renred it. I!
i3 a GREATnetaphor for the game. And it is GREATlnEplralion for sarging. r,BD askedt When are
t you good? The anave! j.n conedian is NEIER. Evely set is a new one.
!l
a An)4\'ay, I nanted to write do$n my though!6 before I forget then. Eerers wha! I learned:

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No one wants !o go lnlo a Bet. Thele's tha! moinent right before you walk in !ha! you're scared
I EhitleE6. Then you jusr push youraelf and do ir. And once you r^'atk in, there is nothing you can
I do but perfonn youl best.

I
Srlck co field-lesled malerial. Don,! inprovise a new rhoughr or rouline or opener wirh a se!
t lbal you vatue. scick to wba! works: you don't have to keep comlng up lrith nelr materiat.
I continue !o refine your besEnaEerial un!i1 iE,s Lorally kitter.

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You stat! over from square one \{tith ewery set You watk into each 6et tith NOTHING and mueE win

rhem over fron scratch. If you have social proof or are incredibly handsome, navbe vou can buy

yourBelf a liLtle time. But tha!'s it.

You have NO adwantage because of who vou a r e . \tust because you're Mystery o! S!Y1e

a chick isn't g o i n g t o l o w e y o u . Y o u r r e judged on ho\,, you Present

SoneEimes you botrib because thete are circumslances bevond

You are only as good as your las! eet.

your control; somelines you bonb because you could have done beller or done sornelhlng

differenlly. Either way, you alvays lake i! hald unril your next eet.

It never slops gelting ilifficul!. It ts always a challenge. Your self-esleem is always on trial'

lo
And rhe6e people who are lolal slrangers l4'ho have no credenlia]8 v'halsoever Judge vou
t
sudden}yhavegleatint]uenceoveryouan.tyourgelf-eeleemandhowyor.rac!inthefulule.Their

rejecllon or acceplance can affec! how vou act in Ehe fulure I! is wrong They should NOT have I
tha! nuch polrer. But lhey alo, because !ha!'s rhe game vou're pLaving I

And it ltas great to see Jerrv

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as $.lch !o stand-up as to lhe PU arcs.
AII of

Seinfeld
the
just
above apply

a B nervouB as an amaleur before qalking on slage to lrv to win over vet another
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s!.bj€ct: Fidellhy and Halet! Management

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firEt neet her:
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I re]1 every girl this, sometimes wben I

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ON CHEATING:

belween good
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and
an not

evit.
a jealous

T g-ve any gir_

person. The way I look at ib is,

T ' m w i r h L h e c h o . L c e between good and ewil

cod gave nan the choice

also. sbe
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if
to do what she vants.

she chooseE evil, she is

And if

expelled.
she chooses good,

It,s rhar simple.'

grear, she gers ro 6ray in lhe garaten_ AniI

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rF That said.

because I'm not giving

I really DO NOT care if

then ewelylhing
my FBs are steeping

rhar they need. rn fac!,

wirh olher

if
peopte. r expec! lhem Lor

Ehey areD'! sleeping,irh

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r-
olher people,

good or healthy.
then they become obeessed with ne and get unreatisric expeclaEions, and !ha!,s nor

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ra Subject: More on my onllne aE6hol€ €xpe!1ttt6nt (wlth r€Epec! to Lovedrop and

z ,t1a1x)

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a This is a contlnualion of an o1d thread. I still jusr do no! understand vrhy women respond to my

a asshole profile.

response fa!e.
And lt's

And any gtrl

also hard for me !o be congruen! wi!h.

r'we wanEed Eo nee!, I had that option.

Bu! so far

of !h!ee
I have a 100 percenr

meels, r,ve step!

u with lwo of the glrl8. Bolh very cu!e.

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another girl
I did an experlment I I sent

an email frorn the asshole profile.

one 9ir1 an emait flom the nice

cuees which one responded? Tha!,s

guy profile. r sent

a the girl who got lhe asshole email responded. It bog91e6 my mind. Here,6 here responee. what,s
lighr. Onty

I intereEEing i6 lhat she SAYS !ba! she hare6 me in lhe email, ye! sritl she responds (ror), 6ends

I a n E X T R Ap i c l u r e (IOI 2), and playE along with my frame ot qualifying hersetf Lo ne (IOI 3).

a She !,ritee: "You sound like a r:eal asshote actually. I am gtad you !,arned me rhere are ,setfi6h
a pricks' like yourgelf all over the world. I $i11 indutge your fanrasy by adniLrinq Eo rhe

I following three Ehings, I don,! beliewe nen can be monogamous, I hawe been knoldn ro have fun

l| wilh girls, I ea! raw fish in the moming. "

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 RESPONDED; lIoliEvER' WE GOT ToGgrSB
TNOTE FRoM STYLE, 2006: lEE GIRI' wAS AWAY IN EUEOPE WI{EN SIIE
A MON]rH I'ATER']
WHEN SITE CAME IIOME TO I,OS ANGEI'ES O\TER

SEyTe vi.'Eeq,
gubjeqt: sttcklng Polnb3 TranEltj'onj'lg to the close

sheru be idtelested in' r!

For llumber€, SEEDthe convelsation nlth Ptan lhat you lhtnk
a futule
on Thursday'
that you'I] be going lo sone concett
othe! worals, if she's lnto muslc, ne[ti on
trHey' you should
hits a high o! nears lhe endr say'|
Dorl't invile her. But as lhe conversatlod
you exit' sherll
hav€ !o geL the nulibe! Before
done !{1!h r If she agrees, you 'lonrt even
usually lus! glve 1t to you'

evolution
once you ge! the tequislte IoIs ol DDB' Just ito lhe money_back-gualanteed
For klsses,
phase shift.

sEyie wtltea,

Eubj€clr lRt I.PR (LeEl PUA ReElgtanc')

really backflreil in a !tav' llerers lhe story:

okay, this one was where the whole pua thlng
l'ho t reaLly like' r me! her lltrough nry 6ocial'
EBblaceB ls a supe! cuee blonde wilh braces
I took i! as an tol' sbe ]lves rn
out of lhe blue'
circle, anal Ehe sent me a shore emal] one 'Iav
virh gexvlibrarian abowe
NY, so r net he! !he!e. The vthole exact bo'ly ranguage lhirg 'lescribeil
during a
dlld Lhe cube andl lols of ceaBinq' Ueuallv'
was i{hat happeneal. t nec het aE a bar a!r'I
of rry
tbrough an'I iust sot! of rake a surveY
first neeling, r'lL go to the bathroon halfway
qoing well or icrs noL'
pit of ny stonach thal elther iE's
fee1ing6. r'll bave a feellng in the
goirg good' she plav6 her car'I6 close to
rt's non- in!el1ec!ua1. Antt the feeling $46 EhaE it sas

her cheEE, so ic va6 hard to tell_

venue-changed !o another bar, where I knew ewerybody. great social proof. lhen we sat down on a

couch, evolution phase shift, and make ou!.

I talked abour a short novie I had nade, and tried to get invited back to her hou6e to watch it

on DvD. tuxns out shers ln a really sma1l aparlnren! wilh a roonrnale, so I !el1 her wer11 {a!ch

it in my horel roon. Of course, I know full well Eha! I don,t even have a D\.Dplayer lhere. she

sits in my lap in lhe cab, and we hake oul al] lhe way lhere. She spends rhe nighl, buE it

pretry much slays abowe the vais!.

Alrvay, she visils LA a tew 'reeks later. IE,s awesome!o Eee her. But she knows aboul lhe vhole

PU thing and \rho I,m living with. So I9e! T O N S o f I r M Re a c h n i g h ! . She s no! rrusring herself to

tully let go. ltts annoying as fuck, esp because I aclually really like her. So aMough we

lechnically had sex, we never real1y ge! lnlo i! because she,s just ro! relaxing, This happene

borh nighls lle spend EogeEher. IE's incredibly a noylng. And do you know what? lerhaps it,s my

fault. I never did -- and slllf hawen,! done -- the hardcore freeze-ouls !ha! Mysrery has

maslered. Ir11 be seeing her again lhis q'eekend, and if she,s still not comEorEable, I 1I rly

Style wtlt6s,

Subject: Questlon for Style and othe! travellng PUaE

par! of my gare berore. iJer re rry -! 'eels

Pma. T reve- aralyzed rhis to brierly. lrke you a-e

doing the right thing, because the6e girls are ca11in9 you and staying in touch, so you don't

have to vorry too much.

There are Two kinds of long disrance siruations:

1. Gills you bave already ha'I 6ex oith'

2. Glrl You haven't '

vou see trer again Adt

you havenrt hact Eex wilh a glrr' chen vou needl to keep ber ll,atn unliI
If
to see he' l,ithin a
neeclto --" montlrs'
- fel,t -l or er€e risk losine her attla:tron
you
vou neecr :"T']l- tor l,l"T"i
six ltee*j
lh.m r rbloti that can run
This glves lhen a "pIot"
Styl'ers EV via €mail
do thie by perfonnlng
belr'een the gvro of vou'
i.f you 1et- lt, ancl keeP everychLng fte€h an'I evotvldg

lheY are in a
you BAVEhad sex lrIth' Ehe 'loo! is aL{aYE open whelher
I feel that
wiEh girls
a6k and uhey dontt lelt There are sorne {ornen trv€ been Eleepiag
relatlonship or no!, t dolr't
talk !o lhen ol email lhem
fo! yearB -- anal nay only s€e them once evely six montbB an'l
lrith
I w111 be in and out of their
becaus€ I traveL' they know that
t$ice in beti|e€n. t thlnk that rl'm going to be
polnt, they lfl11 get tsha! enail or call or !ex! tha! BayB'
llvee. Arlal at sorne
do the Eane when
lfhat are you doi4g on F!i'lay' troubLemaker?i An'l lhev'll
ln to!,,n lomorfovt.
theyrle in $Y to$al.

I rdl] telMen tltat lheY ate the

i6 a routine, a! BomePolnl'
I think a16o, and I suPPoEethis
have to talk every weeR Eo
be fliends ltith. llndl we donrt
kind of Person I know t'11 aLway8
connectlon. it's alwaYs there'
reninal each olher !ha! we have a

rrtho else they may be Beeing,

LhiB heIPE either: but I never ju'tge lhen o! care
I a!o!'t kI!o$ if
'Io -- unleBs I happen to D€
golng to have Be:' (lhough ite alwavs
and I never assume that lle ale
$ich another girl, 1of) '

on anyEhing or try to explain

at all' let me know lf I sbould elaborale
Don't kno\t i! this helpE
have time to maintain' but
just che frame tlrat I.n a busy guy anat dod't
be!!er. I Ehink therers
when our live6
and we enjov seeing each olher
I appreciate thern atrd \te are good in bed together
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I girl lhinks she's going ro be your girlfrienal. Tha! Eakes mainrenance, and if you,re leading her
on in lhat respecrr i! blows up in your face...nor
t r e c o n m e n a l e du n l e s s y o u / r e serious abour her.

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Style writes!
I Subject! Re: Date Flake, Why did this happen?
I
! Formhandle's
right, She gaveyou her reason,Thenyou want all loglcal
I on her, and suddenlyfoundyourselfgotngdown a dark all€y

I conversation-wlse,

I
I've done thls enoughto knowRIGHTAWAYwhen a conversauonis
I
startingto take a bad turn. And if you get lnto a i'flght,,ltke that
I thls early, it wlll destroyyour chances.So what you haveto do ts
I lust CUTIT OFFrlght away,WhatI'll usuallydo lf a conversaflon
I with someoneIJust met (or In your casehaven,tmet) starts golng

t downa bad path ls just sayi

I
"Youknowwhat, we'rejust tlkeCybjlSh€ppardand BruceWillison
I
Moonlighting.r'And
then changethe topic, (Alternately,you can use
t "Samand Dianeon Cheers,,,)
I
I It's a GREATreframe.Becausenow suddenlyyour bickeinq has changed

I from 'noL gettingalong, to "romantictension,

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subieqt! Re: On€ of the KEYSto sex on the first

here'Hardcore'
Gottastandwith Cassius

A flrst meetlng'
Here'swhereit's comein handyfor meespecially:
especlally if ifs fromthe personals' I don'tknowthe WHYof lt' but
language go from
It'strue. ln the flrst locatlon,I c,n s€eher body
ctosedoff to lnterested, Butthenlt hitsa celllngSowetakea
the walkand
walkto the nextlocatlon(a loungeor bar),andon
In the second
arrlval,the rapportbulldsfor somereasonso
ln the flrst
locatlon,a *closeIs nowposslblelf we hadstayed
staledandwe both
locatlontoo long,the moodwouldhaveeventually
wouldhavebecomeuncomfortEble'

lt wellenough'but locatlonchanges
I don'tknowlf I'm explalnlng
(thoughnot ALWAYS necessary) are GoLDfor bulldlngrappon'

if you makethemat the rlghttlme'

Especlally

8t!,7e ttlEea t
{
A r,IttsIe Ellall frlqk for lbo RePeltolte I
SubJ.cs:

I'n qoing !o steal it'

Eime' an'I I love i! so inucb that
Oue of my ULTRg aloeB this al-1 the

EIIAII, EXAMPLE ONE:

lhoughl of You

while i $as gnitabrutsan

 EI|IAIL EXAIIPI,ETWO:
are you doing anything tontgbt?

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other rhan gnikcuf

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sexy yet suggestive. Cute thlng to add r.o the repertoire.

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h€re- andhonestones.I think this post
Wow,lots ofgood responses

ftom IN I oSEactuallyanswelsa lot ofyou questiols,especiallywith

whathesaysaboutPUA beinga skillsetandnot an identity.

t
I Ard he is correcton theColdReadingbookI m€ntion:CompletelyCold

is thetitle. It's abouteightpageslong,andit aptuallyworks.

Londonaskedabouta solution;BesideswhatINI oSEsays,youhaveto

leamthis all like you'dlealnbodybuilding.It's notjust about

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weight-liftingin the glan,it's alsoaboutealingandsle€pingright

Io otherwotds,trakingcareofyourself.

SoPU,asI seei! is actuallynotjust aboutsarging,asIVe said

b€fore,lt's aboutlifestyl€.And it's notjust aboutgirls,it's

aboutyowself.

the
Theproblemis thatthe SocialRobotleamstheprogam' And
20
programonly reallylasts,asbestI cantell, for the first I 5 to

minutesor so,After that,you mustrely on charact€tandintuition'

to leam'
And th€setaketime andexpedence

EXACTLY whatto
In otherwords,I cantak€ANY guy' And I cantell him
a shortamount
sayandwhen.And hecangeta girl VERY interesiedin
havea
oftime. But a socialrobotlt'ill haveNo day2 game;hewill

lot ofphoneflumbers,but no gfs or ov€nregularFBs'

houlsto
Thetheorythesedaysonhereis thatit iak€sroughlyseven

go tom begimingto end.That'sa lot of time for a HB to tell if

you'
youre CONGRUENTandhavesomethingmoregoingfor

of offthe
Sowhat'sthe solution?Herearee few thingsI canthink

top of my head:

-MakeASF a hobby,rct a lifestyle'

ofASF
-Realizethatyouarenot sup€riorthananyoneelsebecause

knowledge
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F -Hangaroundwith people/$oupswhoaremoreexperienced./well-rounded

F thanyou (asopposedto clonesor sycophants)

F -Haveanambitionfor youself, andtakethe stepsnecessary

to

F achieveit (Havingdirectionandambitionis a hugeplusbothon and

F offthefield.)

F -Geta girlffiend,especially
ifyou'veneverhadone.Evenallow
F yourselftofall in loveat sornepoinqit'sa beautiful
thing,though
F weall fearit because
it makesusvulnerablc.
F -lfyou'rearoundcollegeage,figureoutyourIDEALwork,thengetan
F
F intemship
atthatplace;fewwill denyfreelabor.

F -Travel,meetpeople.
beopenro newexperiences

F withgirl you,vemetsoyoucan,'sarge
-Stopblowingoffmeetings

F
il
mote

-ln general,
spendmorgtimein thecompany
ofwomen,All womenare
il noteitherMLTRS,FBs,or Pivots,Somemakeawesome
friends.
a -As theyalwayssay,live in your ownrealityanddon,tseekthe
ir approval
ofothers.
z -Wlen youdo sarge,try, everysooften,just leftinggo andbeingin
I
themoment.
Youmaynotsucceed
z aswell aswith shucture
or routines,

z butyou'llleamsomething.

z -Pursuea hobbyor activityyou lovethat,scompletelynotrelatedto

a sarging.

t -Learnto loveenjoyingthecompanyofpeopleWITHOUTeitherwanting

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an]4hingfiom themor rcedilg to bethecenterofatt€ntion'

-- - youwill
Ifyou don'tlovepeople,women,andyourself all thr€e

nevergetgr€atat this

human
You'll find thatthemoreyou groomyourselfa'sa complct€
8t the same
b€ing,thatit's ALL ultimatelyr€latedto sarging'And'
keep
time,YES,you shouldkeepleaminghereandyou should
back€verysooftoq andask
Facticing in the field. Butjust step
yourseEAm I tuminginto a soai8lrobot?

Hopethis answ€rsthequestionsabov€'And
but nothingyou do
lookingb&ckov€I it' som€maysoundevenAFcish'
yours€lf"'
will everbe AFC ifyou aremakingyourchoia€sfor

Styl. vtlgea,
gubJecg: on Ul Gtrt (plus velbaElt! routj'Deg)
oPlDionF

I donrt know rMs me' this larelv happens, andl by the name r asaune
so I'm online, antl a gilL
But I 'Ieci'Ie co assune the be6t'
tha! she's soliciling for a \tebEite or vebcamor someuhirg.
Ehis for two reasons:
sarge her anFay. The respon€e I
gel is great' But I'm posting I
I
if t haven'! alreadly' Lbe
my routines. (AnaI I mu6l cte'IiE'
1. rt'I1 show You how I
EV rouline to INloSE. )
inepiraLion for style's
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F ,). Somelhirg ooesn't seem ljghr abouL Ehjs 9_rl: S h e lives in Vegas, and she haE rhe rnlerner

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handle of a sex worker, and her opener is super weak. It Eeens like Eomething she'd send our ro
a bunch of men to lry ro ge! lheir atlenrion, ye! she i n l e r a c l s with me like a regular girl. So,

F after reading this, does this seem reat? Do you think she ',,as originally going ro selt me some

F sex website

off.
rhing, bur lhen gor drann inro the conwo? C a n , t f i g u r e thi6 out, bur somerhing seems

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Also, see her pic I posred.

t 3 This is onlv lhe second Eime lve

II I've Blighlly alEered her name tor
ever sarged on rM. seen6 like

priwacy rea6ons, obviousty.

lhe 6arne E!ur! works. Nore:

F sexyBlondchickoos l8:a9 pMl: her do we know each olher?

F SexyBloDdchicko0518:49 pMl' thi

F S!y1e ter51 PMII Hmm.No! sure. you seem ltke lroub]e.

v Style [8151 PM]| In {hich case, we probably do knos' each olher.

EI sexyBlondchlcko05 [8:52 pM]: 1o1

SexyBlondchickoos 18:53 pMl' \,rhyis lhaE
a sexyBlondchicko0s 18.54 pMl: so irhatB your name?
ir Styte [8:54 PM]| My irlends calt me Style. And the why is because your name is so shady. A rich

t man doesn,! have !o rell you he's rich.

a sexyBlondchickoos 18| 54 pMl: 1o1... . inreresring vay of putring i!

Slyle [8:55 PM]| But as long as you,re here, you can hetp wirh a femate opinion.
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z So I do the jealous girlfriend openerr then Ev. This goes on a white. she,s sucked inlo it. and

z suggests exchanging pics_ she is supER cure-

a style [9:3s PM]: One lhing v e h a v e i n c o m m o ni E t h a ! we're no! smiling our pics.
z Style [9.37 PM]: tlnm. You seem like a good egg, perhaps a lillte pouty
shame.
Eimes. I knew you were
z
a sexyBlondchickoos t9:3? pMl: i donr like to snite on pics
SexyBlondcbickoos [9:3? pM]: 1o1. .. O
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pretty slraighl teeErl
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good teeth to be impoilant'
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plan" '
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aha '
SexyBlondchickoos 19:38 PMI:

slyle [9:38 PM]: Aha?

SexyBlondchickoo5 t9:38 FMI I lisleninq

Style [9.38 PM]: I'm going to 90

eaE But filst " I
nanee 'and then "
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sexyBlondcbickoos t9'39 PMI:

she waB ]lke one of those

!o meet in vegas. r still
feel though lhat
Any!,ay, we now have plans
liked me. Can'l !ell-'
girls or someEhing' bu! rhen BHicched gears because s h e
\{ebcam-!}?e

scyle wtlEeB I
RouglneE In The Tra6h And eets Lalal Li.ke crazyl
- - >IIow To fhlolf Your
subject!

lo buy ne
r!'e t h e lrhole r'1 need a rich 9ir1
here Is a r o u i i n e .
Wait a minute. Bul vhat You Post so
but iE'e a c/F frame \{e use here
stufftrrourine. I ! nay nol be 100 Percenl s c r i p l e d ,
oul in tluft wilh
from stalling
basicallY Y o u k e p t yourself

are cases -- like in ny

anar a'ree. Hoqewer, lhere
r Do see whar you're Eaying
on rhe orher hand,
{ith a routine lf I'n at a
-- unere vou do need ro blow soneone awav
Heidi F1eiss experience
in a moclel'filLed LA club
c o u n t v , f i n e -- r can jusl "be myself'" But if I'n
bar in Oxange onlv
depen'tent on them l reallv
the touEines' An'I vou know what? It sucks to be
scene, I NEED I am
open'l or n\owe fon"ard in some v'av; otherc'ise
to plcK things upr
use a rouEine r',hen I nee'I
But thevrre sli]t necessarv'
jusl mote naturallv fumv and cool
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glEh-proflt€
Help NeedEd t{tth garge
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I I $as hanglng out nlth a busidesBperso[ r,ho r aort of know the olher alay, and afieri?arat,
she
Eaid Ehe want€d !o se! me up vrlth a sort_of hlgh-profile pop Elnger, I cantt say who it tE but
sbe,E vefy reorlhy and lf i! work6 out, 1r1I post about
1t.

My friend Euggested havlng a dinner ac her house, and tnvitlrlg

lhe two of us. Bu! I thorrgh! lhat
r{ould be awkward, and i! mlgh! be harat ro ge! atlraction golng in that forced_dinner situation
in a bright house vlth bableE anat at1.

So inslead, she sent me the pop BCar'B €mall address and asked ne to
enail ber. anal HBREis
where the Lounge comes iflr what do I Bay ln tha! firs!
emalt.

The challenge, IUO, ts tha! itrs a vely AgC stluaeion, because now I,m in the postlion
of
chasing her a''d perhaps just dccepting her because she rs famous, so r neeat !o wrrle a
SHORT
enaif that has SOUEetetnent' of push-puU/quallfying (without being a totat asshote) . I
once I ge! the meet, it'll be easy. But f!ft stunped oll lhe icebleaker emalt.

Suggestions?

gtyle {rites 3
gubjects Eelp [eeded With High_profile garg6
 big credit to David D for sone of
(thanks to all' {ith
gere,s the enBil r eniled up senaltng her

tbls):

togeLher a! her house fo!

{e''I hlt lt off' an'l auggestedl geEting
IMutual Friendl seens to think
migh! be a betrer idea'r
r lhought a ehorrer, nore casuar. ger-together
passover atinner. i{oweve!,
escape !o go i{ax $y dog'r or somethtn'' r
Thls !qay, if you're a compl€te freak shon' I can Just

relallonshlp' fa11 na'llv

fron here' lle could star! an enait
I giuesE we have a couple of oPtslonB
'
plle6t to inatry ua in a live chat celemony
in lova. and naybe even get a

conversatlon call
for a cup of lea and Eome'stinulaling
Then agatn, mayb€ we coul'l get together
tuln ou! to be all !ha!
werlL makc planB' And then' if'you
mer or Eend me your nunbel, and
go fllrd that online prle6t"'
lfrienall saye ]|ou arc, $e can

style
phone *

I'ater);
HER REsPoNgE(sen! Just a f,ell| hour€
Dear sEyle,
atBo really reaLlv love plzza lsmall
well, t'm ln NYc this \te€k' My nudbar iE x)oaorx' anil I

talk snippedl Talk to you laler' [BBPoDchick]

you are a fleak shoi|, I can quickly
p.S. Yes, a s}toft get together woul.I be gogil- that \'ay lf
psychic'
escape !o fiy very urgent antl taBc nilrute neeting $ith my caLs'

fact Lhac 6he'6 plavlng along

goo'I sigiD: lbe pronp! teply, the
Bnylray, r take the enal1 aE a
wilh lhe jokeE, aIld the phone nunber'

NexL step ls Eo call her lonorrow: trying lo think of a good openins slory or opinion
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So t had ny filst meelirg ,,high-profile" you guys helped
I with rhe salge that me our on. Thanks.

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- First, before our rneeting time, t $ent Eo Ebe lounge wbere we had pl.ans half an hour earty. 1

fl gave lhe manager there 9100. I told bln the ei!ua!i.on. then told him ro make Eure we were

lreateal we]l., lhat we got a cotne! lable lrith a couch, and that all our drinks were ion lhe
il
house,r Then he could Eplll whalever money waE left-over afterwards with the waitress.
z
z My plan wa€ fo! gelbal, Myslery and hi6 (gulp) wife to meeE us lhere, then get us back Eo rhe

a house for rrhome vldeoE. tr Bu! MyB and the mlssus look loo long !o get ready, so no probten.

z Inslead,

on lime,
Eerbal

looktng
and a gay friend

quile cute.
of MyE's wife

the's in her early

(l?) came to rhe bar.

3O,Er and looks fantaslic

HBpopchlck arri.wed exacrty

and is very sftar!. I

I introduced her, and did an ILID I nane nemorizing, which wa6 a grea! l,ay to avoid an}-way airkri,ard
:I initial convo,

z Then I paced her real.iry, and rold her !ba! this waE my first blind dare like rhi6. (t,ihich is
ir rrue.) She definitely felt retievedr it \das a gieat connecling momen!. tte then lrenr !o eir dow!.
T (Herbal -- you weren,t supposed to FOILOW tJS, LoL. she a6ked, ,,Are you like babysirting chen or

a some!hing?'r)

a Did Spells to start up the conversation lrith a slory. She started to relax. When I did a rnini,
I easy mind-reading game, and then played the ]ying game lrith Herbal and his gay buddy, it was ALL

e over. I had hi! the hook poinl. she ra6 realty brighl and ajOT sluff, I lras really impressed sirh

:| her. One problen cane when a rock star I knew walked in- I go! lhe social proof b/c he knew me,
but then he looked at my date and 6aid, "Oh, are you inlervie\,ring her?' ouch!
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so I had to
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MYs and the wifev ha'tn'! sbown up ve! to {ing us back to the bouse'
she lras hungry.
being flexible we dexe comfortabfe now' so I
abanilon lhe plan- That'e one of the kevs to this:
so fruch tapporr !o move around i're wenr to a
rhought a venue change woulat be perfecl rt buil'ls
I ilid the cube lhere' which I do
place nearbY for the best creserE 1n LA (she has a elreet tooth)
Then Mvs an'I his old ladv came bv'
so fucking we1l. she said at's accutacv ltas a 9 ou! of lO
chem (and Forrihandle) ' which was REAI'LY veird lt
Bu! lhey had HerbaL and the gay friend vltb
njuel tan inLo" MYs and his bitch' bul {hen rhe olher lwo guYs were
was supposed to look like I

v-Eh Ehem, it seemed real]y cleepv and planned'

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EBPopchick and I met lhem over there
Anyway, they go! che hint and went to tt1e Srandard.

wanteal Mys !o watch our vibe, and he said ir was oN. J as getLjng Eons of rols she cane around I
and Ea! next !o ne on the coucbes. I
I
Olherwise' i!'E
l,{e Ealkeal, and got a liltle kino gotng she's only b e e n o n O N E d a l e i n h e r 1 i f e .
thing ls new !o her, and t! was clear !ha! norhlng I
been three LTRg forever. So the nhole daling
had her drop me off at hone, poinled
crazy was going to happen. so I walked her back to her car,
!o my cheek for a kiss, and nade a plan for Friday'

a rnake-out session or anylhing crazv, IMo Mv onl-v mislake

There was no way l coul.d have gotten

her hand a! sone point near tne end of Ehe night, and SETTINGa
was Do! raking
frane. People yelled o u ! her name a feq lines, which mademe feel a Iiltle
romance/conneclion/BF

bela, which q'as inleresllng.

HER and for ME r reallv dig her' she's emart'

As it is, r know i! went \te]1 lor

a good family, doesn't nave obvious "baggage"' and she's not easv and
comes iron
so vhen I see her nex!' I just ree't !o make A GF PRESUMPTION
with other guys seens trustworlhv

and proceed accordingly.

and I reallv hope I can Mke her nv !lr'

Iu*l.lay, it wae interesling. she's an aweEone cbick,

sEyIe wrileg,
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F
rF te!,s make a new ru1e.

a group with a voman lhey

D o N O T discuss

are sax9in9.
salging or give FRs !o orher pUAs when rhey are wrTH or in

F It leads to MASSIVE rrMR when rhey see how rhe guys are ratking abour girts, b/c rhen rhey rhink

F lhey,ll jus! be another erory like cnar.

F This has happened to me on ny One nigbr a! rhe srandalil,

F Thunderca! come to the lable !o elarr discussing game when I,m with a girt
crinble and
wbo is atreaity a
F lirrle freaked ou! bv rhe fac! thaE my roomnare teaches Ehis stuff. rhen she sees mole quvs wirh

F nlcknames coine up and starr ralking abour it. weirded her our.

F turcEher nighr, I,m in beatwith a HB I haven,! stepr wirh ye!. And Myslery comeEup and sEarts
a doing a breakdown.
a
a Everyone is no! aE coof h,1th lhis d6 eEp if lhey Ehink !hey're formins a special

a conneclion wllb

as one of rhe girls

us. And i!

told
will

ne 1ater.
l e a d !O LMR s o ! h a ! she doesn,! seem like i'jusr anothe! binrbo,

I
=f so, ar lhe VERYr,EAsT, ask if there's a girl around !o give a FR, di6cuss rhe
game/ or give a breakdolm. I love hearing
il b u t n o ! v , h e nI , m i n s e r . . .

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 i6 NoT coning up witb nelr naEerial Look at
beliewe that anyone l'lho i6 in the fietal regiulaily
shouldn'l be jusl a fen of us shating.
Playboy's !'RB. So POST ruE S T U F F Y o U ' F E U S T N G T h e T e

AMOCS
otr girl3 X'm sarging. It's anazing' Ilerera
By lhe !tay, Irve gtartetl using sorne of the AMOGlines
Al'toc line I've come up with' I hate givlng ir away, because nol]llI
an exampte lrith ny favorite
{hea You use lhe female
can't use it on you guys. Afld somen get che nos! anesome expression

llonen love hln' (a11 Baid compllmentarv

For a guy: Check lhiB ltuy ouL: rIe'E so fucktng funny'
he's stlL1 a virgin'
anal settouEly then pause ancl Bay) woultt you believe

and funny...rqould you belleve

For a girl: ol'tc, thts girl ls anazing' She,e Bo snart and !{itty

ahe'6 never hadl a boyfriend.

I{AYPOIM DISTINCTION
rrHowdo
single set after the opener' Ilrs
since Mystery laught ne LhiE L1ne, I u6e il tn every
ou! lf lhe girl you're intereBted ln i B
you all kllow each other, I lt's ao llulocent rvay to flnal
notice't lhat if you use lhiB line lhe giuy
laken or not. Iloctevel, ln naLe_ienale Ev'o-se!s' I
INSTANTLYknowglhaLyou'fefishlngtogeelflheylrelogelherornoE.soI'vebeenualng
lnslead ellher rHo\trd you guys meettr

If you have a betler line for n_f tito setB' Iet ne k[o!f'

- PIJLTNEG-COMPLIMENT
PUSH
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You l{ere fa! Pueh-Pulr neg

noc. were you fa! when you ltere in

Style: I have Eo ask. And thi6 mav eoundl obnoxious ' but lt'€

middle or hrgh school?

nB: Yeelnol{hatewer.
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I slyle: The reason I/n asking is because girls who were fat in grade school always had to develop

their personalities to be popular. And you hawe all these cutesy little gesrures and mannerisms
f 'beauly
rhat are so original. tcan inser! is comnon' xouline here if desired, then continue
e with:l You knolv !ha! rhe bes! girls !o dare are girls who were fa! in grade school but 9ol

e altracLive laEer in life, because they had to dewelop Eheir personaliEy and their sense of humor

and their attitude to get friend6 and guys.

i
e FUN I]ITTIE NEG
z OMG,your Ehouldera shake lrhen you laugh. IL's so cuEe. toptional reference if you know it:l

a You're like Muttley from lhe Dascaldly and Mullley carloons. [Ehe'11 laugh again, then go:i

There il goes again.

:t Il's awesome.

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e gubJect! TR: Anolher Threesome
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I so herers an updale on a lor of Eluff:

t
Firsr, and most important, Ty and I lhrev in lhe Eowe] on lhe sl.eep experiment. The adjustnent
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period was too lough. Af,le! so rnany days of Eleeping in 20 minute naps, we couldn'E keep our
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eyes open and vere sEarEing Eo have rhese strange microsleep hallucinalions. we wldeo-laped a
- 1o! of il, so maybe MyElery will make a WTF episode or somelhing. INOTE FRoM STYI,E, 2006. HERBAL

e I,ATER TRIED TIIE SLEEP EXPERIMENTAGAIN, AND NOWSLEEPS ONI,Y TWOI{OURSA DAY IN SIX TWENTYMINUTE

a N A P S .]

z speaking of Mystery, I haven'r talked ro him yet, but he didn't ju6t wing the CB, he lclosed

z her. r am in total shock abouE that one. sounde nore like someEhing I would do. And, by rhe way,

t dude (and I'll say it here because i!'s lhal imporlant !o me): ALWAYSusE a coNDoM THE wHoLE

TIMEI (That 6aid, the cB is fine and disease free, and has a boyfriend even.)
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tes! it one note lime l hate vrhen people posls 'rnew T
And I',ll p o s L a full Mo afler I field

killer routinesrl after they ldork jus! oNE !ime, becauEe vho kno\ts what olher variables were I
going on in lhat one isolaled situalion. Ar leas! this is going to be a fun one lo field tes! '
I
is that T E E R E A S O Ni t ' e so 'tifficult to ger girls Lo do lhings
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Finally, and somewhat imPortantr

likethisisttlereareCONsEQuENcEsForthefirstthreesome,itturnsou!!hat'slncelmelmv I
MLTR through Gabby (lhe nutly girl who Mvsterv was brieflv sleepiDg {ith) ' lhe guys in the house
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TonDGabby.whoevertoltlsabby,pleaEeletrneknow'lwillnotbemad'Bu!obwious]yi!,sVERY I
your buddy. Girls wiLl only do this stuff if lhey lhink thal no one elEe
bad form, and bad for
s!i11 glad she did it and enjoved lhe
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qill fintl ouE. {Tha! saial, I talkeal !o nv MITR and she's
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!o my FB veBEetday Sheid never seriously been wilh a
As for lhe second experience, I talketl
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befole, and neilher hail experlenceal a threeeome before' They bolh reallv enjoved iE'
9ir1
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Ho!'ever,lheoTl{ERgirl!ol.lherBFaboutil.Ihavenoideawha!shewaslhinking,bulregpecl
thal will happen again I
her for being hones! $l!h him. Now all he]]'s breaking loose, so I doub!

with !hem. Antl I doubr ny FB will brj.ng any of her female fliends lo the Projecr Holl] vood
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mansion again, toI. l

Style wrlt€E:

Sublect: LR: ThleeEome Attellpt (wl'th feealback)

FR, becauEe I was lraweling the olher day and bried for a
This rnay prove to be an intetesling

I got an enait from lhe girl who backed out, rationalizing while she did'
lhreesone. Afterward,

A good peek inlo chick logic.

anlray, l was lraweting and I inviteil three diffetent FBs to the partv You'we seen pics here of

T-ounge with black hair, EBBigEyes; lhe b]ack-haired gir] who

al] of lhen befole: lhe one in the
(HBFirst); and lhe blonde v/ith braces (HBBraces) Then I invited
t as my first conmunity succees

oneqitlvholha.Inevernet,bubhadbeencorlespon.lingwithviaemailon]ine(HBPersian).And
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I then HBPersian brought EBFriend with a fanrasric, sparkling personaliry. sickboy was wirh me

I thaL nigh! and saw it all uniold.

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The party was pretty crazy. I was alt ower the ptace ratking !o peopte. Bur my plan was to Lake
a ihe lwo glrls I liked the mos! and thoughr woutd be mosr responsive, and rry !o bring rhem back
:I to the place I was sraying. Atong rhe way, r mer Tera palrick and her husband, and #ctoseal rhem

ir to hang in LA. Her husband, who was in Biohazard, tells ne he,s ihe bes! pUA ewer. His Mo
sounded similar to Myslery'8, 60 when r see him, I,n going to pick his brain and pos! i! here.
=l I'm a! a whole new lewe] with pUA lhing,
lhis which r,11 exptain in aroLner posE.
z
a Anyway, so I got my group togerher, and we wen! ro a horet lounge. Ar rhis poinr, I knew r coutd
have ANY of lhe girrs. A11 I needed !o do was pick. r! was crazy: the sociat proof of lhe nighE
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sas so fucking powerful. They AL! v,anred me/ and ir was fun !o have the oplion for once. sickboy
z told me HBBraces and HEFirs! were gerring along wetl, and since lhey wexe the mos! aErraclive
a too, I chose them !o work.

z
Firs!,
a pe hadnrl
I went with HBFirst

seen each orher

ourside

in like
60 she could smoke. We made our prerry

lvro years. she has an amazing thin, tigh!

insranrty,

body (scorr
ewen rhough

from lhe
e Lounge,s L}?e). And afterward, she said she hadn'r kissed a guy in Like rhree monlhs. !,rhar a

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z Afteruard, we exited to a diwe bar. r made ou! wilh HBBraces rhere. r atso venr into rhe
I b a t h r o o r T rw i l h HBPersian, and we made ou!. HBFriend mer an Asian guy she was qoing ro 90 home
t pith, bul passed ic up !o go back to r,,here r qas sraying for a shor with me. So r goL in a cab

a uilh,rUsT HBFirs! and HBBraces. This was my isotarion. r go! in firBr, rhen Braces, lhen Firsr.

z I iurned

me. Then,
to face lhem and,

as we laughed abour someLhing,

ratking/ pur ny arm6 around HBBraces and pu]Ied

HBBraces pulled EBFirEr inro her. Even rhough

her in ro

r rhough!
z HBBraces wa6 prude and ItBFirs! was advenrurous, HBBr:aces seemed !o know what was uD.

z
a HBFirs! telar<ed into HBBrace's arms, lhen euddenly jumped up and sald. ',Jus! so you guys know, r

don'b like girls. I only tike guys.,' r s ama?ing hov chicks pick up on rhis sruff. r acEed
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unconcerneal, and figuled we']1 just freeze he! out a little, let' her think about il, and see

what happens when we ge! hone.

Back at my place, we hung out. Everyone was on separale couches and chairs watching Tv'

Eventually, Persian and her Friend 1eft, disappointed. The real bumner is that thev had made

our, as a johe, a! some point in the night, so I probablv could have been with them Bu! I

*anred the other gixls, and 1really liked their personalilies. Now r needed !o figure our a way
rwanna see something cool
!o isolate myself wilh Firsl anal Braces. So I said, " And I pulled

Ehem inro ny room, anat naale a prosthellc scar on one of the girls's face. (anolher sign oi

inpending doom vaE lhac ABFirEt lta€ too uptlght lo let me pul a scar on het face, eo I did it on

EBBrace's inslead.) I learned hotd to do Prostheric scarE on lhe ee! of a movie. any skill. vou

learn comes in handy in the sarge. l

I,{e were all on lhe bed nov. and r was slarliog !o feel lhe vibe. I knew I didn't even need a

dual induclion massage, because ttral \tould bave made it too obvious. I jus! needed lo start

!hings.

slood up and said, ' r I have to go." And Bhe rockeled lhrough lbe room and
But suddenLy HBFlrs!
her' In lhe hall., Bhe Eaid, 'I'm nol having a Ehreesorne{tiEh
ou! lhe fronE door. I chased afler

you. Tha!'s what yorl guys want, isnrt i!?'r I said, no. Don'l worry. Le! e Jus! go !o sleep I!'s

lare. I,d hale for her to leave like lhis Elc.

sosheconesback.Nowl'minbed.HBBlacesisonmylefl,vlthherbacktome.I{BFirslisonmy

righl,sirhherback!one.I'mlyingintheniddlethiDking,v,tf?Hotdolworktbis?SoIturn

llBBracesover,sosbe'sregtingonmyEhoulderandfacingne.ThenlturngBFirs!owelsoshels

restingonnyshoultleranatfaciDgme.ThenlstarEmakingou!l'tilhHBFirst,figuringsheneeds

the altention first.

Bu!gud.Ienlyl'BBracegstan.tsupan.tleaveslheroom.Fuck!solmakeoutwithHBFirslalitt]e

nore, tben te! her go to sleeP. IErs like 4:30 am at this point. I go outside, and see HBBraces

steepinginanarmchair.shesai.t6hefeltbadfolEBFirstanddidn,tknowif6he$agwanted,so
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t she left the room. I lell her that it's E E R I w a n ! / not the other girl

I out, then go !o the batrhroom and hawe uncomfortable sex on the linoleum

a After, I bring her back !o lhe room and v,e all steep logether in peace. h rhe norning, HBFirsr
a leawes righ! away. she'6 wery huffy, and I figure I've bloi,n mysetf out sith her. r spend Lhe

!I tnorning with EBBxaces, and iE's cool.

a In retrospec!, I give my6e1f points fo! rrying and pusbing it. My only misrake $as Eetection. I
:I should have palred HBBraces up trith one of the olher girts. HBFriend seriousty would have done
I anyEhing. And even though her looks are just okay, Ehe had a rocking personaticy and woutd have

f, been fun. The fact i6, until i! cornes doun to lr, you can,t alirays telt wbo's going to be up for

a being ll'ith anolher

ae:(].ral preferences
girl or not.

and nolaLs
I!,s

and rules
like choosing

are, no natter
a rarger:

wha! they
yor.r real1y CAN'T te]l

say or hov lbey

!rha! lheir

act, unEil i!
I comes down !o lhe momen! o! ttulh.

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u Anyway, a fun experimen! . . . and lhe funny thing
have even thoughr oi ttylng lbis before. and I WIIJIJlry
is rhe pUA mentatity I have no\,,. I never woutd

a it again...

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il Subject: TR: Ulxlng and ldatchlng FBE
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a For lhe pasc week, I've been thinking about a nelr MO. The orher day, r decided !o try i!.

a TEE FIRST GIRL ARRIVES

e I invited ower nBlibrarian, a really thinr cule FB rho gives amazing deep rhroar.
e
e She came ower, and lre t,'ent up to ny room and fooled around vith our c1olhes on. when she starred
!o get hot, rI,m going to call
t she asked,
I told
'You think
her,

6o?n
ower a 1itt1e ptaFhing for us."

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I told her, 'Eer name'e EBTats. You'11 like her'rr
't,ie donrt hawe to alo this. werll inwite her ower, aDd
she was a little he6ilant, so I !o1d hex,

if you don't like her, no worries. we']l have her teawe'

She askeil how t knew lhe gir1, and 1 eaid she worked at U r b a n O u t f i t t e r s .

Laler, Ehe said, i'The only girls I'we been with were mv

the only reason 1 was with lhiE gitl in the

l whispereat in her ear, "Let me Eel] vou sonelhing:
you' she's very open and sexual, and has
tirst place is that I thoughE she'd be perfect for

amazing latlooeE. r'

ThefacEis,IwaBworrieil,becausetheotherHBigreallyyoungandhasgrealskin,buEhas

some baby fa! chunk going on.

EBTats 0where are you?" I aEked'
Anway, r wen! !o lhe batbroon anal called

she said she vas nearbv and coming ovet.

rlhat r have Eomeone over hele fo! us lo plav wilh'l
,,I juEl want !o ]e! yor.1 kno!'t, r' I tol.d her,
Not eaying trnor is
she didn,t say anyrhing, so I addeal, soon.rr Atld hung up.

agreeing in lheBe asD lype caseE.

THE SECONDGIRL ARRIVES

I waE jus! on mv way !o give HBlibrarian a
I,ihen HBTars came upBlailE !o ny room, I said, "Hey,

rune reading. r
Ryans and NaturalLJ and all these otber
I broughc rhem downslairs, and gave them a rune reaillng
all' the nale enelgv would fuck it up'
guys were running a1l' over lhe bouse, anil I was worrieit

and did a grear rune readinq l kepl accidenlally

But I ignored ir, nade lhem gin and lonice,

lelling lIBTats, trIr11 'lo vou too" (in reference Lo lhe runee)
naking double enlendres, like

This wasnrr game: i! waE kiDd of funnv, though'

nlrlt back r I left lhem alone for: a godd fiwe minutes to qet
Afterwalals, I eaid, be ngllt

r'HeY, I gor paparazzird. You golla check it out (It's true: I

when I reLutned, I !o1d rhen, "

descenited on by photograPhers lrll post the link at

was at Me1's ltilh courlney Love and we got

TtlE FUN BEGINS

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I brought

them lhe

room, so they

I could
them up to ny roonr

phoroE.

feet
rhen a coupte

were boEh on lhe

the energy srarL

vhere

videos

bed bur

!o bui1d.
a cD vas atreaaly

on ny computer.

silring far

The conwersaEion
playing

My beal is

aparE.

just
and rhe tighrs

the only

naEuralty rurned
eere

ptace
tow.

to Eir

!o lhe
r sholred

in my

ropic of

F sex. At one poinr, HBtibrarian slapped my ass anat lhe orher girl said, irt is a nice aEs., So r

F could lell lhey were ready, and jus! wa.led me !o srar! rhinqs.

F so the onlv obsEacle lefr v,as srarEing lhinge: so iDstead of lhe dual inducrion massage, r lir

F up lhe hookah and shared the sfroke. INoTE FRoM sTyLE, 2006: T1{1S ItAIr RrcuLAR TOBACCOIN IT, NOT

F DRUCS, FYI]

F As soon ae I nade a move for

Then I made out wirh rhe olher

one of

glrt.
rhe girts, everylhing

Then rhey borh slarted

happereil so fasE. r made out with her.

F off rhe bed and look off aLL her crolhes excep! her panlies.
making our passlonarety.

r removed liBrribrarian,s
HBTars go!

shlrt anai

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F thev were so into each olher i! wa. ridicutous. r! was as if elecrrrcrly haar se! lhe room on

F
fire. It waE total porn shi!.

There were rv,o lhings I wanted !o rryt The firsr was lhe

F
famous Triangl_e poEilion,Jtaix has
discussed tn his FRE. I,e! me retl your I alidn,! ltke i!. The probtem iE lhaE when a girt is
lr slrllng on your tace, vou can'! see. The grea! lhing abou! a threesonre is rhe vrsual, for ne.
ir Afler I had sex wirh Ehem both, I dia! the other rhing I atways sanlear ro do. HBlibrarian said

u sbe wanted rne !o

other one down. I!

cum in he! mouth.

v,as grear:
So ehe !ren! dov,n on me, lhen r gently pushed Nhe head of Ehe
firs! ooe was jacking
a were lakins lurnE. I came in EBlibraria.,s
me off

moulh (r know, graphic),

rrhite lhe orher sucked nre, lhen rhey

rhen mid_srream she pu. rhe

I head of the olher girl ower it. when r vas done, HBlibrarian (god bless her) juer spir my \dad

a inlo lhe mourh of Ehe orher girt. Anat they slarced naking ouE in my mess paseionalety. I can,r

e beliewe this happened ro ne...andr can,! betiewe !m sharing i!.

z THE FIJN CONTINUES

z But the fun lrasn't over. we fooled arounat a lirEre more, wenr domsrair. and qor sone drinke and
watched the begidring
i of Napoteon Dtmanice on my compurer. Some of my roommaEeE kep! turking
around: Tolaf cB shir,
a knowing wha! was up.
because

Sone rules
r didn'!

nust
!ran! Ehem !o be nade unconfortable

be ser, esp in proEo no!, that i

by guys in

s cra{ting wirh
rhe house

dudes.
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for guys to be axound (to make lhe house seen like
There are times
jn the bubble of intimacv) '
times for the girls bo have privacv {!o keep away ASD antl keeP lhem
girls went to wof,k I kep! trying !o lurn
Jacuzzi and we got in' and lhe
Ant'{ay, I warmeat up lhe
half a dozen otner
heads awav fron Papa's bathroon' because Thomas Crown (an'I probablv
thei!
out' orobabl/ lakjn9 picE'
guye) uae sP/rng on me k-i!h the lighls

Ialsospie.IGeoff,sHBflont}isliwe-rninutes.to]ayreportlookingatusflomthekitcben,gol
I'You'!e {elcome !o join us' if you'd 1ike " I figured mavbe we could
wen! do!\,nstairs, anit said,

get something ctazy gotng on {ith the girls'

!o join us' bu! she chickened out
lells i.t. they were watking up the staira
l{oll'ever, as Geoft

\,{hengheheardmylwoEBsmoaningreallyloudly.Theyqeregoingclazy:fingeringeachorberup
of lhe jacuzzi' and giving me double head on the side
the ass, eallng each other ouE on the side
ThoftaB Crown walching ny Lily-
of the jacuzzi (but I couLdn'! ger hard enough with lhe image of

nakeil asB f,lom Papa's balhroom' lol) '

whire
in lhe jacuzzl l even figured out how !o use a condom
AnF,ay, tols of fun positlonB exploted

each girl, and jus! la1k I didnit menlron lne

The nex! day, I made Bure E o c a l . I o r r e x !
were in my good books so i! could happen
Jus! wanled to make Bure lhey know they
lhreesone.

aga1n.
in rhis TR. r!'s slrictlY for lhe
I guess lhere are not a loL of lacllcs and lechniques

chreesorne post ior lhe Mo for repear expe!iences

perverls. see ny other

Style wtiEeq t

Subjecg: ltixtng and matcbtng

BuE' filsl' though eome of this may make more senee logica1lv'
Hnm. A11 interesting coftrnents
have alolher threesome sirh tvo
to change it' I alreaaly
this is WORKINGfor me, so I'm not' Soing

new gir]6 sec up to* satlrday aidhr'

sav, r think it's betler tha! we're all

aE for getting not, ae sensei anal Nightbtue
nore: I hawe the FRAME!ha! that is nornal
maybe I Ehould explain a little
COMPLICIT. I lhink
Itrs somethirg I do aII the tine. It's like saying, trI'n in rhe nood for Mexicd
horr caEuar it is proposed, and then. like a meal, i! is not' inertioned again unt.it ire ea! ir.

{n]loa ! Good metaphor. )

I thi.nk if you JuEt a€sume aucceaE and Bet it up, ar Eofte poinr, sith some gtr1e, you may bave
resistance to deal vith, e8pecially lf lt seems ttke you,re beilg sneaky.

Also, geneei, irhen I scteen for biEexuallry, lt ie SEPAIATEfrom lhe lime uhen r ptan it. In
othe! uords, lf you'le talklng leith a FB, at some poht, it,s JuB! going !o become clea! lhat
Ehe,e either had an experlence with a glll or tB culious. you just make a rneatat nole of it, and
lhen at aome polnt later, make tt happen $lthou! dj.scuBslon other than the trp1aylhingi line.

gtyL. wtlte't

Subj€cl3 Ul:rlnE rld [atcbLng

will read your TR tonlgh!. Psyched. I don,! have lntefiet coffrection where I'n at' right now,
Irm clouching outaiale soneore'B blalg in the cold. Holr paLhetic. gtealing thelr bandiridth.

llnyway, if a roullde goes nrong, one of lrrro probfema haa happcneal I

1. You inade a[ error ln ch€ atcp BEEoRBthe loutire, whlch ls usually the case.

2. You ditlntt deliver its wilh confldedce and congruence, ot an under8tanding of it.

h tbi6 case, I'n betllng It wa6 one: ellher you berrayeat your inlention ahead of !ime, or 6he
just wasr' r comforlable yer.
 an't are exciled about' an'l il's
The frame is that it's a lun ching you .JuST experienced
A tlp:
a quescion' It'e like saving' "ney' check ouE nY net,
cool anal they'dl be into il I!'s not
really

shoe6. Thev're so cool. youtu love chen l

geyTe writee,

the Dual rDduetlo! gtrtke€ aEalu

suuectr

Ivent!oNlrfo!tha$e€ken.l,al]'owillgmetlme!ocalchuplfltb6omeFB€arl.Idogomesalglng.I
me'
had a fucklng amazing e:q)ertetrce that Bur?li8ed

I kllovr' white I !'tas ln his ho!€t roon' h13 daughler

I happened !o flln lnto a well-hnown nusician
walk€dtn.An.lshewasa€mokinglto!Afllcanllmerican-.tall,thtnbu!thick,wilhgleat
hlgh ltr her Blteacer an'l pelfectly snooth Bkin AB soon aa I aa$ her' ny hearc
breastB lifled
Girlfllend !o B!a!! a
starteat flultering anal I krlew I llacl !o have her' I ran JealouB
the lvaB 21' Pe!fec!'
converBatlon, and also to fltr'l out her age'

her father tel]1ng

gberal never been Lo !{Y before, and norl{ she !'as 6cuck in a holel room with
pumplng he!
bad guy -- another whiie tnusic fan
Eeories Ehe was ltred of. I felt llke I ltas lhe
go shopPing l hyped her llp on
farhe! for rrivia from fi.tty yealB ago. go I sngg€Ble'l $e all
lunch' lthen her fatber vas Llre'l' I
goiog to my lavorlte clothing store in NY Atd' after

offer€il gallantty to take het tlrere

to 'llan her out l{hat !*"o!ked the besc wag

She $as super guleE. anal shy, attl I kept trying
for each other' and lelling ber
cocky/funny role-playing lvhtle Bhopptng' Choosing goofy oulflcs

that6heha.ltoconebacktol,Aanclbenystytistandltdgela$onograffinedbeanbagchairfor
I also ma'le sule not to fotlolt her around lhe
her (TD 1i4e -- firBt tlme usilrg ie' money)
for ber first subi{av tide afeerward ilus! so sr}e
6tore, buts to ato ny own lhlng' r took her
.liihtEthinkltlAshittingonher(tooearlyinrhe6a'ge)llhadberhelpnebuyap'esentfo'
though' lhere waB liqht kino' but no 1016
ny !TR. She €aial she hatt a b!' No needl to BF deslroy'
working'
ye!. I began to think thaE lhe maEerial wasnrt
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T Our lasE Etop was a record 6tore. I boughL a CD for myself, gawe it ro her, and rold hc! Lo

I tisten to it and giwe ir back bo me when she nexE. (Great lechnique which I'11 use in rhe

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a lrhen we parled, I told her I \ras going Eo a concert thar nighr, and rrd call her if r haal an

a extra licket. Unforlunarely, r had pronised an FB ld see he! rhac day, and was atready fiwe
hours lale after spending all day wirh HBDaughrer. so r lotd HBDaughler r couldn,! ge! an exlra
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Licke!/ and ven! over t.o rny FB's house. The FB rold me, ryou,re like heroin...at1 my friends say
=t !o stay aeay fron you because |m slarting ro fall in lowe with you.u wow, is Lhar ever a rurn_
7 off in a gill you,re just nor rha! into. Shame. Each rime I had sex wirh her, I imaqided beinq

a wlth llBDaughter.

z on ny las! nigh! in Ny, r had plans wilh like four girts. r ner HBBigNosrxits and took her to
T Lhe falher's concer!. There, FBDaughter ran up !o fty table anit gave me back ny CD. Nice.

z Aflerward, I told her we wele going ro some fun parlies, and she shouLd Join us. She said she

z had !o go home and change, and so we picked her up half ad hour La!e! a! her horel and Eook hex
to an electroclash party a t a f a n c y N e w y o r k h o E e t . o n t h e w a y r i . t B D a u g h E e rs a i i t s h e r a t k e d ro
I her bovfriend for lhe first lifte in a week, and was bored and fer! rike she haar nolhinq ro sav.
r I look lt as an lOL

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z a! 1 am, I9or

ro'r'ance novels.
a call

Ird
from EBHarlequin,

hooked up with
a perire

her once before,

btack-hailed

way back.
girt who,s lhe noatel fox tlartequin

r had her meet me at lhe horel. as

il soon as she arriwed, looking fanrastic in a riny leopard-pallern rop, she asked if r wanted ro
f sp]lt a! Ecslasy pi1l wilh her. I don'! do drugs, but r Baid yes and figured I,d just palm iL

a and prelend to lake it - because ir would at teasr pur her in a rouchy-feety mood. Bur as she

z broke lhe pill,

I lhought, ,,Oh, fuck.

i! shattered

I don,!
into dusr and she jusr

wanr ro trip!"
opened my mourh anit dumped rhe pilt

so r prerended ro lake sips of my dr:ink and kepr

inside.

3 spilring lhe dust and pilt powder inro it_ r was scared shiltese rhat r,at slarr x,inq ar anv

3 moment, but fortunarely r never did.

a I dldnr! have a plan yet with these girts,

a FB lras supposed to mee! me Ehere.
and things

r nov, had FoUR options,

were gerring

sith
confusing

HBDaughrer being
because one orher

ny number one

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 blossoned and lhe
noie aitractlon
the more girls I bad wITs Iner lhe
priority. t notice'I that
monent that I could hawe had anv of them'
I 90! I realized at a cer:tain
more lols
then
I did rlouse race on HBliarlequin'
qent to another barr and eaL dosn togettler'
An)4\,ay, we all rlo it on HBDaughter' and
'rroee gardenn game on nv arm Then I had her
she dlat rhar childhood ne know if
-- anotber childhooil qame (let
pdralYze their fist
afterlratal, I shoq'ed tbem rroi'r !o
involved group kino'
you donlt l<now it) 411 of bhis' of course'

anil I srarled Eo realize

srarred giving flBDaughcer a massaqe,
btees ber bearc,
Then HBnarlequin, point'
was rea1lv a lurning
migh! head rtle group kino
where che nigh!

like because r
wilh !ie' vhich I didn'l
nBHarlequin leaned io and made ou!
Every now and lhen, and wide-eyed'
t^'ho waB very shy and innocenc
didn'! wan! to scare a{ay EBDaugnter'

and flBDaughler and I were IefE'

girls lett' and just HB'arlequin
nlghl wen! on' tbe otner
As the hail snall" parlies lhere
lhen thar they usualLy
at a friends' foit' ana r lold
I \tas Blaying
it ouE'
every night and ''e Bhould check

corimon room' and

My turon iB in lhe
everyone era6 sleeping.
ro rhe lof!, and of, cou!6e,
so we gor
I sat on the bed $it!1
q'ere on couches there around the corner'
tlro oEher guys B1eeping
a ganitwich she had bought'
and HBDaugbler 6aE on a labLe ealidg
HBEarlequin,

her a VmF video on my laprop'

ro lhe fulon lo sho
I called nBDaughEer over
After a few ninules' nassage' I had
the dual induction
poundilg wilh fear' I Eo1it lhem abou!
wilh my beart
Afleflald,
one And' finalty' we gave one co
it fitst Afcerward' I got
EBHarlequin tie dolln to receive

EBDaugbter'

her our. r fiqurear sbe was thinking'

a r*rle creepy, and freaking
r ferr rike we {ere being
r {Do vou ewer feet really
hot' do I get out of here
I'Tbese tvo nust do lhis all the time'
n out' and
nassaqing is aboui to iump up'
'Jlaix' like the girl vou're
predaEory doing lhis'
lo get her rurned on?)
ftientls abouE lne two cteePs wbo tried
te1l a1I her
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F -Aryncay, aflerward, I starled naking our {irh EBHarlequin ower rhe back of HBDaughrer. But:

F sBHarlequin didn,!

on her back unconfortable.

know the p]an,

so,
and was being

I stopped kissing
a titrle

tiBEartequin,
dislant. Anal EBDaughler

and leE HBDaughrer get

\ras juEr lying

F
up and pur
her Ehirt back on. while she wen! ro rhe bathroom, r asked t{BHartequin whar she though! -- r

F kne\r sIlE was up for the threesone. She said she wasn'r sure \rhar HBDaughler \,,as thinking. So lre

F
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decided !o just check out lhe wibe when she retumed, and if i! wasn,r on, we'd iusr steeD wirh

ir At thi6 poinE, I was rea1ly feeling like a lorat faiture wirh HBDaughter afler putting ouE a}t
I the big guns, and getling nowhere wirh her. ghe relurned and saE uncomforlably on lhe 6iite of

r Lhe bed. so I figured tbls was an IOD.

F rrl,lell, you should ge! some 6Leep before your plane lonorrow/ r cotd
" her, ',so le|s get you a
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z she lay down on the bed, hugged me, and said, nThanks.n

I As soon as ehe gave me that tillle hug, r jusr X N E Wi r v a e o n . S h e W A N T E Di ! !o happen. Fuckl

r
il So I began ro kiss her, and 6he respondeat. lBHartequin was tying behind u€, so I pulteal he! over
and starled making out lrith her. Then we reftoved
3 HBDaughle!'s !op, and each look a breas!.

I Anylray, throughour lhe whole lhing, lhere was absotuEety no LMR from any of rhem. Ewen $hen ir
I iook me like five ninuEes to find a condom (which sucked because I l^'as vorr:ied lhey'd tose

I Btate), lhey vere Etill up for it. I had sex wirh rhem borh, and we pretry much aliat ewerything.

a HBDa'rghter was near-perfect naked. I had do idea wherher she,d done anvrhinq tike thie before.

a These days, q'hen I have lhreesomes, r nake sure r don'r come litt rhe very, wery end. r van! !o
a make sure I,m up Eo enjoy it ALL, because r noEice rhe girls N E V E Rs e e n r o g e t r i r e d . . )

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 lhe other band, I
great vonen' Ehinks ' I'I de6erve thie " Me'
lilyslery, when he has 6ex ltith
is bappening Eo meli r stlll b1o!m awaY
nt,{ha! the fuck? r car't believe this
Briu think,

lhal this is mY lifeslyle nov'

have rea11y enjoyed

we took lBDaughte! back to her hoteL room in a cab. she seernealto
afternaral,
tor
6he reLurned home to t'he South Eo thar* ne
the expetience. She calLe'l ne $h€n
of these girl6 IILTR€'
aroudit lW. I thtnl I'lt 6ee he! again' I itt1l be naking both

I hear! litY. . .

gEYI. wtlLaa.

gubjectt for Eff,.cel've c/F PuEh-Pull

An Er.Y li€tbod

at any Elage'
I've slarted aloing th16. florks great !01th any wonan

1, Say sonething loea]ly AlC

with a PUA njndse!'
2. Try to recover from Ehe coflnent
3. Repeat

hilarious slring of pusb-0u11

like three tineB, you en'l up l0ith a really
If you do lhiB
'Iaugbter ' (Bv lhe vtay' 6he
x aliscovereal tlds rhell I $as ln be'l with the rnusiciatr's
wTF?)
tolal rne, her faiher askeal her: iare you black-lopping slyle?"

lacelv' So' instead' tor

aJIy of the shit I've been saying
I canrt remenber woral f,ol itot'l
Eerle6 of gtatements:
exarnpl-e, hete'B a po6gible
you out co dtnner (AFC)
1. I ltould love to take
in a nice car that vroD'! enlcarraEg
going to bave to pav ad'I Pick ne up aE eight
2. BuE you're

me. (PgA recovery)

gB: Yourre 60 mean" '

F 3. I'm sorry, You knoe |m just kidding- {AFC)

F 4. But you like il s o n u c h w h e n I ' m m e a n . I c a n see how it makes lhe hair on your arms sland up.

F
F Don't know if this is the bes! example. Bu! lry speaking wirh if you ever caLch

F Youiself making an A r c s L a L e m e n L , t r y

funny push-pu1I.
!o recover the fratre as a PUA, and i!'s i nci:ri .^-Lv-

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EI Su.bject: TR! Tri6d fo! a Flvesom€, but End6d Up !d.th a Thr€edome
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EI PREAMBI,E

a 1. There areni! going to be a 1o! of raclics here, because i! was rhe gtrts who realty made i!
happen.
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2. Afrer reading Badboy' s parody of myself, I reatize how neurotic I am, consrantly dwetling
I over lilrle details afEer every Eeduction. rt was eye-opening in ils o$,n speciat way.
ir 3. The funny lhlng abou! lhis is tha! I'm home from a lhreesone, and 6!i.tt lrying ro figule out

I whar I did wrong becauEe lhere could have been u{o more chick6 in it. Don,r ger ne qrong, r,m
happy--ecatatic even--bur I lrant to be playing pelfect game a1way6. Tha!'s how r ger berre!:
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looking ar ny lasr Earge, add figuring ou! whar r would hawe needed Eo do ro take i! one slep
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I THE MAIN INS]GHT

r All you need !o have all

A. One adventurous bisexual

the threesomes,

girl who isn'!

foursomes,

afraid
and orgies

ro be sexuatty
of your

predalory.
lritdeer drean is.

z B. A comforlable private roon wilh a bed

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a THE CRAZINESS

one of the reasons I vent up !o San Fran this {eekend wa6 because a good friend said she wa6
t going to hook me up wiEh her girtfriend lqho gives amazing deep rhroar and has alone kegels hatf
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actuallv lives in anothet citv'
tler life. {wetll call her ItB BiI ) Mv frien'I
to hook uP 1dilh rt lras
ltas picked uP by this lotal slranger r 1{as suppose'l
gan Fr.an airport an'l
kjck-ass car and huge cleawage'
itas a hoL' slighlly o1'Ier blonile woman' l}iLh a
very 6tratge. She
a cily boy an'I am never axound
a li.tEle lthlEe trasb-y' which kicke'I ass because I'm
Anit she 1das
girls like t.hat '

a! Ehe
ltrs iue! undererood tha!
is goo'l: t charrn her' an'l exceeil he! expectallonB
any{ay, all her
ne tlo' ar1't sbe lives uP Eo
we wj'l1 9o up co ny hotel loom and have sex'
enat of the night,
bi111ng

rrl lhe
to brlng alons a giruriend I
60 6he says trrat for night t-tdo' she's going
sh€'s biseroal, t:::"::::t"
bave also t"u" nt-:-:t
6ince it's nv onlv nish! Lef! itl san F!an' I "
neantime, wlll renedber me I
who was Ehele way back ltth€n
\{orkshop ' }nyone
girl I net 'luring MysEety's
five gllys cro{ited around and I
lranlan' r vtaE doing style'6 Ev on her as like
sarging the amazing all these guys hovered
tnpreBse'l' becauae she 'ltdnrt get unconf,orlable as
listeneil. I waB

around.
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and I ha'l preparect'The tlanian ltB ha'l enailed * *til""'
Myplan was to go for a lour6olne' 1"
l emalled her back' and Baid
lhal I
Tantra
Rumi (the poet) and one on
saicl she boughl a book on be fun ro al1 I
with a lantra teacher th€le' an'l navbe iE would
up
by coinclttence r rvas $eetl4g go along wilh rr and talk |
tor.ar ltB BJ the pran, andl she sarar she'cr
have dinner rogethef. lhen
ianlra.
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HB Neurolic lrm not lhar
her frlentt'
ac ny room on night lvo wtth
so, an)'way, HB B'J slto\ts uD I
Neurotic i6 a16o one of the most neulotic *-t"
excite.l, but nhacever' 1lB : l" :::: ::::"::" lo I
x give her none ' lIB BJ tetls ne 6he's been lrying
of courEe'
live6 oit Ehe pity of otherE' co boqfI
anar Eonight,B the night. to go fo! ir. r'we rord lhem
years,
get FB Neuroric into beal ror r er*n ttl
60 we nake a preurv crazy group (probabry like "rtrr
peacock, anat |in alressed up Loo,
gTostiluEes, lol)
l
than the people *t ' *f
to be a lilt'le differFnt
that inv frien'IE are goi'g
I {arn HB lranian
place where' converiently' Last Tangoin Paris ie -* -"t"cled ""1
to. we go to 'lirrner aE a
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ir movie screen. I stay the cenler of attenrion ar firEr by just doing rourines--spetts, ana! a wery

I LITTLE but powerful lease of magic. Afler I do rhe magic, HB BJ comes up with a n A w E s o M Et i n e
Lhat all W I N G Ss h o u l d u s e . s h e r e t t s EB lranian, 'rf he can send his energy ro objecrer inagine
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wha! he can do wilh parts of your body.,'Awesome, huh? Mysrery, if you're reading this, you l,4UsT
a have ivingE say this afler you do strav mowingt

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a Evenrually, HB Neurolic takes over ihe conversarion, and ir ie jusr exhausEing rrying to keep up
with her neuroEes. I aclua]ly ge! a headache, and just wanr !o go hone and forge! the foursome.
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f so, afler dinner, r lel] rhen rhar r'11 mee! rhem back at rhe horel bar, and go in the car wirh

a HB Tranian. I figure maybe r'11 jus! spend lhe nigh! v,irh her. The lwo HBs erop by a friend of
theirs house, and gB Iranian and I go to a parly she knows abour.
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elrange, because ir seems like HB Iranian regards me as a guru of some sor!. She quizzes me
a all nighr abou! lantra and ESP. (I a nod-rnagic ESP routire; in it we do a real/ non-magic

a EsP experimenE, wheEhe!you believe i! or noE; I will post iE here 6oon.)

I A6 we,re lalking, I can jus! sense tha! i!,s on. Tatking now jusr Eeens tike a v,asre of time,
iI because I atleady feel llke she's hor fron lhe dinner convo. Our ]egs are ower each olhers, and

a a]t lhe IOIS ale there. I go in for lhe kiss, and she kiEses back, bu! lhere is none of the

z paesion rha! should be lhere.

PDA, so we go ro the car.

It,s ju6! polite responding.

llowever, I ge! Ehe 6ane response. Either

I figure maybe she jusr

she sees me as a guru

doeen,c ]ike
(raiEed
a myself TOO high) or she lras uncomforlable wirh rhe olher girts Ehe mer at dinner (and she

I though! lhey vere my sex partners). I'we never before fel! this aftracrion, and noE hait ir tead

F lo an intense make-out se6sioD, a! lhe very leas!.

E| Anyway, she drops ne off at my hotel, and I donrr really lry hard enough ro have her come
a upsrairs. Maybe I could hawe.

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By coincldence, HB BLI and HB Irania!
EI have arrived. And are wiLh a Eh:rd frie.ro, HB Dreads.
She,s a super-cule, oe-iLe pa!r-La!rn gi!I, abou! rive vith long hair extensions down to
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buL figure they have one. {e 90 into the
I .Ion't leally kno$ lrhac the p}an is,

h a v e G q B . H B B i r a n t l g B D r e a . t s n a v e g o l n e , b u ! g B N e u r o t i c a n d I . I e c } i n e . T h e n t hplaying
e y a l l s E dress
alt up is
overnlght bags' (BTw' rrve founit lhaE
on clothe6 out of each othet's
trylng noo'l')
to set a fun' ractile
great lhing to alo once youlre Dack at your place vtith glt16'
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EB BJ is eallng out HB
up once bef,ore' 8o ar1 of, a eud'Ien'
EB BiI anal l{B DleaalB have hooke't
the be'l next !o ghen and \tagch
DleaalB otl tlre beal' I JuBt tle on

avall.ble
r nove io, vra the neares.
a fu1I on sesslon
Bay iB tbat
HB BiI keeps hlttillg
annoylng.
Bhe neeals air and lranEs !o leave'
ar1 r'r'1
bf€a€t, any$ay, since thrs rsnrt a .ex newsgroup,
EB Neurolic ls being REALIY
o! every inaginable conbo e4auea But
bul HB Neurotlc keeps saylng
on hel aIId inviglng her lo Join us'

we evenluarly t!1ne
\rBefur, r give !re! rry canera and she takes photos. Anway,
To rnake her feel
HB Neurotic go€B in !o
ItB N€Urotlc becauge Bhe keeps talking an'l asoyj ng us Eventually'
ou!
bDt HB Neuro!'c decideB to
there, anil tlles !o get i! on,
Ehe bathroon. tlB Bir follo\,ls her ln
chill out alone ln Ehe bath'

I have a feelinE that lhere ia a

'lecl'leB Lo pull a irLaix/Turnces
This is !,hen vour boy style
P A R T o f H B N e u r o t i c t h a t D o E S w a n ! t o J o i n . b u t w a n t s t o b e w l E h a m a n a n . l n o E a g o n a n . sao lEoweL
lhe bathroon witlt
be'I for a !0h11e' anil valk lnto
leave the tno gi!]s alone on lhe
Then I just take off
me. I sit' on lhe sicte of the ba!b' an'l talk to HB Neurotic
nrappetl alound
believe I'm {riLtng all thi6:
anat slip into lhe other en'l of EIle bath' (Fuck' I canr!
tbe !o\rel,
on thiB')
r aritkr'r even pl-an to wfiEe a rJR I

But 1leach be!'/''een

x maEsage hel arms and legs' Then x suck her breast a tlttle
we Lalk, alal I
an'I puLls it away' t shotid have turne'I her or more before
her legB, antl she caEcheB ttry band gfrls ou! ilf I
Brlers ucomtorLable agaio' okay' no Problen' r've got lwo
leaching right fo! it' so
to think about ithat shels m_i6sinq
the ot'be! toon, so I leave lrer lnere l
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I hinsetf, can,t 90 to sleep.) EB Neurolic doesn'r join uE in bed, bur sirs in rhe \rindov sitt and

=r talks

LOL.
my ear off. since she says she's an insomiac, r have her make me tea and iron nv 6hirr.

a
= h the morning, while HB B.t and HB Neuroric are in rhe balhroom, sB Dreads and r have sex agaiD.
It's funny, because when I slart to moan, HB Dreads shushes ne, as if
I we shouldn'r be doing lhis
since I am, in this relationship, rechnically HB BJ's man. hreresling insigh! inlo menage
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a AIso, in lhe morning, I an gelring rOIs from HB Neurotic. she rubs my hanits and keepE saying ho$

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I So, I check our of the ho!e1 wilh three girls in !ow, and t!'s clear !o ewelyone in the tobby
g lhal eome crazy eacapades have occurred. They dlive me ro lhe airporr. Ae they do, I ask HB
Neurolic €o tetl me !.'hat she waE thinktng
I tas! nighr. She wrires ne a nole and seate ir in an
envelope, \rhich Bhe proceeds to cover wirh ltpsli.ck kisses. r open ir on rhe ptane, and rhis is
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I '!I wa6 gelring mixed 6ignals. Firsr was inlereered in having sex wirh all. Bur rhen you were
rhinking of gewing to know me. Ya know 6ex. Bur rhan r read rhat you fet! I needed some hetpl
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f #+#-+##+ or email ne. You turned me on, wery much. ft was a retaxing, sexual feeting, a turn on
=r lhat I never felr. I would of really liked !o e)Aerience being wirh youl r wan! to rhank you for

FI making me feel the way you did, and you didn,r even know rhar you diat. r sure vaDteal !o suck

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e lltr6 inleresting, because thiE pelson she's vriring !o is rhe Dew me lhat's emersed in rhe ]aer

3 few weeks, lhe guy on the pumped-up Dconslruk! work-our who now betieves he,s a 9. The guy sho
can lean be back and be coo1,
ET ewen ftuff, and no! worry abou! rrying ro inpress evelyone. l

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I don'! Ieally kno\' lgbat Ehe p].an ig,
and I decline Then thev aI1 sEalL
have GHB. HB E,f, antl IIB Dleaals have sone, bu! HB Neurotlc
I've found chat playing dress up 16
trying on ctothes out of each other's overnlght bagB {81'W'
place $ith girler to set a f,un' tactile nood')
a great chj.ng to ato once vou re Dack at your

HBB.'an.lHBDleadsbavehookeduponcebefore.soallofaeudden,qBB,'iBeallngoulHB
and r"atch'
Dreaals on lhe bed. I jusl lie on the bed nexE to then

j'e['t a sex newBgroup' all IrlI

I nove in, via lhe nealest avallable breaBt ' Anyx'ay' since lhiE

say ls ghat a fu1L on seBBj.on of every tnaglnable combo enaueB But EB Neuroulc l€ belng REALLY

annoying. llB Bir keeps hltLlng on her an'l lnvillng her to join ue' but HB Neurollc keepB saying

Ehe neeals alr and wanls to leave.

ve eventually tune
To dEke her feel useful, I give he! ny canera altt she lakeB pholoB' Anlt{ay'
us, Eventually, IIB Neurotic goeB ln !o
ou! HB Neurollc because she k€eps !a1ki4g and annoying
it on' but HB Neurotlc decl'leE !o
the bathloom. HB B,l folLoNs her ln lhere, anil lrle6 t'o 9e!
chill ou! aLone in lhe batlr.

a 'Ilaix/Tuilrces ' I have a feeling thal lhere is a

This is v,hen your boy style ileciales Lo Pull
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PARTof ltB Neurotlc bul vants to be with a man and 4ot a wonan' so
!ha! DoEs !{ant to joln,
{alk inlo Lhe bathroom nllh a tovrel
Ieave the tuo girlE alone or! the bed for a !0hi]e' an'I
ta]k Eo HB NeuroEic' Th'en I luat lake off
rrappeat aroulld ne I sit oI! the B:lde of, thc bath' an'l
(zuck' I cantE believe lrm wllcing all this:
tbe tovel, anit sllp into lhe other en'I o; lhe bath'
I atialnrl even plar to lrlite a LR on !hls')

Then r suck he! bleaat a little But r reach belween

we talk, anil r nassage tle! afinE andt legs'
aitay' I shoulil have luned her on nore betore
her 1e98, antl she catcheE ny han't an'l puus it
again' OkaY' no probten' I've got tr"o girls out in
reachirg lighr fot it. So 6hers uncomfollable

the oEher toon, so I leave her there to think aboul !tha! she's mi6sing'
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I More shenanigans fo1]ow, and ewentually both girls fall asleep satisfied. (Sry]e, quite proud of

I himself, canrl 90 to sleep.) EB Neurotic doesn't join us in bed, but sits in the windos si]l and
talk6 my ear off- Since she says she's an insomiac, I have her make me rea and iron my shirt,
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il In the norning, vhile EB B.T and IiB NeuroEic are in the bathroom, EB Dreads and r have sex agaiD.

Itts funny, because vheD I s!ar! to moan, HB Dreads shushes me, as if \re shoutdn,r be doing rhis
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since I am, in this relalionship, technically HB B!t's man. Inleresling insigh! inlo menage
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a Also, ln ihe morning, I an gelting IOls from HB Neurotic. She rubs my hands and keepE saying ho\t

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I So, I cbeck out of lhe ho!e] wilh lhree girls ln t.ol', and it,s clear to everyone in lhe lobby

t lhar aorrre crazy eacapades have occurred. They drive ne to lhe airporE. as they do, r aEk HB

t Neurolic to !e1.1 me !rha! she was lhinking lasr nigh!. She \drlreE re a nole and seals ir in an
envelope, whlch ehe ploceeds !o cover wirh llpstick kiBses. I open iE on lhe plane, and rhis is
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I rI lraB gelling nixed signals. First was intereEted ln having sex with aL1. But then you $ere

lhinking of getling lo kno1]' rne. Ya knov sex. Bu! lhan I read that you felE I needed 6ome help!
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INOTE FRoM sTYl,E: NOT AT A!L. I REFUSEDTO PLAY INTO HER NEEDY FIIAME.I You can call me nexr v,eek
I #+*-+*** or enail ne. You turEed rne on, very much. It t,as a relaxing, Eexual feeling, a lurn on

I !ha! I never felt. I trrould of really liked to experience being with youl I wanL to thank you for

I making ne feel the way you did, and you didn,t ewen know !ha! you did. I sure wanled to suck

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I [It'E interesting, because lhis person she,s writing to i6 the new ne tha!'s emerged in the ]ast

t few weeks, lhe guy on the punped-up Dconslrukt work-ouE who now beliewes he,s a 9. The guy who

can lean be back and be coot, even fluff, and not worry about Erying to impress everyone.
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so I coulat hawe easilv had lhree

sticking point here was sometbing Ross ileffries obsered on Cliff's l,ist about me: "You hawe to
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Thanks for reading all !his...nan, life has been crazY 1atelv'

gtyle wtiEea: I
SubJ€cC! IJR IN PROGRESS:SargLng in a lduglim Country I
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game is !ha! it's just lotally changed my life In l
so the ihing I like moEt aboul knowing the

I Dever ever hooked up I lhlnk r was jusr roo

high school and college, when I wen! on vacalion,
girlfriends l don't knol,' r could never understand i!'
serious and uptight !o get vacatlon

because !hat'3 when everyone'E Eupposed !o be hooklng up'

r'm having threesones everyr/vhere r lravel But

Bu! now tha! r know game, it's lucking insane

nowllminaMuEtlmcounEry,wnelelhereienoalcohol,noctubs,andrhemarliaqeEare
Here's the story would love sone advice loo
arrangeit, and r fucking bave oplions. 1!'B nule

flom Lounge members wirh expeliences $i!h wonen r.n Muslim counlries'

bail happen6 to ne or I disappear' vou guys will know what

lm aLso wriEing rhis i n case anythlng
shaily and is Eupposedlv friends wilh the prime
happened. she works for a guy l/lho's a tillle

s o o o E n e very 6ma11 chance that I'm breaking Bome laboo here' vou guvs knoq lthar
miniscers so!.

a long story. And at firs!, tly only option 1E

so lln here for tbis weir.l nagic convention, It,s

fil fron hawing been trained as an acrobat eince

a chinese nagician who's super cute and very

lheageoflhree.Butshedoesn'tspeaka{ordofEnglishAndlcan'tdoanvmagiconber'like
a fuckinc amazing nLagictan
I Nould normally do fo! non Englieh sPeakers, because' !te1t' she's

anat has seen it all.

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F wrapped up in

thinks my earrings
a sarong or whatewer

and bald
they

head are very

lrear here.

slrange
she speaks EngIiEh,

and unconnon.
60 r ralk

I geE her phone nunber,

!o her. she

anal Ehe

F says she has exams ttlis $eek. I te11 her she should come Eo rhe magic Ehow lhe next nighr.

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Fr The next morning, aE I,m leaving my hotel !oom, Ehere,E rhis rea11y cure vonan wrapped up in atl
white. She's t{i!h one of the magic conference organizexs, and they,re looking for one of Ehe
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magicians. She'e really pre!!y, wirh long btack hair, 6exy lips, nor lhe besr reelh, and nice
I sized natural breasts. She 6ay6 she likes ny earrings and rouches then. Since women newer louch
7 nen i! this countryr I assume it,e an IOI. Iler EngliEh i6n/! very gooat. Bur she tells me she,E a

a fashion designer and a magicians assiEtant, and she asks it I,m in fashion roo. I !e11 her no,
bu! my frtende call me Slyle (1o1). LaEer, at the elevalor, she asks !o touch my head, So I
il jus!
figuree she's super flirtations, which is really rare here. r go tnlo an I\D on name
il memorizing, but I lealn !ha! II'DE are way too compticated ro explain to peopte who barely speak

z English.

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Later, she is 1n the hotel lobby sellllrg lickels larer !o lhe nagic show {i!b eone olherE, and
I every line I walk paEE, Bhe gives me serious eye con!ac!. So r decide !o 90 down ro the ticket
it labLe, and ask her !o come eat wllh me. Fowever, Bhe i6 with a guy. And lhe guy has just broughr

I back some kind of 6picy rice dish from lbe s!ree!. r ftnd Eorreone I know, and casuatty ask who
lhe guy is. Ue says it,s her cousin. I figure noir that nothing,E going !o happen, since nen here
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are Euper-prot.ective of the lromen.
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I offermeoneoftheboXesofspicyrice.Ile11then,

the girl and lhe couEin. (Disarrning the ob€lac]es, righr?) so qe go !o one of rhe magicians,
I rooms and eat. l get my computer, jusr
and do rhe photo rouline wilh then, because it,s abour
I the only non nagic, non-verbal rouline I have for peopte vho don,t speak Engtish rhar vet1. She

r i6 6iL!in9 next to rne, and I can jusE feet rhe sexuat energy. rt/s slarling to make me
- lhal,
=I uncomfortable combined with rbe brutal spiciness of rhe rice dish and lhe fear rbar rhis
stree! tood is going to nake me REALrry sick larer.
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so aftel we ea!, 1te.L] lhen 1,m going back domstairs. ilowewet, vhen the guy 9et6 leady to join

- we']1 her HlJsarong - thispers somethjng to him and he slavs' In the elewator
us, the girl calt
kino when she sniffs mv
bank, I feel the lension, so I do the cologne oPener on her to star!
her hair' I've tacched some loca1 movies' and
hanal, she kisses it and snlles at me. so 1 stroke

but 'ton't, so I tease her like thal a lillle'

I know they always cone close to kissing

off in mv roon she folLows' and I leave lhe door

Then I !ef1 her I need to drop mv computer
on the be't, we hold hands Then sHE sets up and closes the
open to nake sure shers comfottable.

door. wTF?

for a while Then she savs somelhing abou! BilI Clinton and Monica
i,le lie ilo1lln, and 11'emake out
offering me a blot'job or just
Lewinsky, which !o!al]y conluses me because I wonder if she's

she shivets and noves ny hand away like she's too

lalking abouE Anerica. Every tine I louch her,

sensilive !o louch. Bu! she's all over me, and lying on lop ot me, and ro\rching my baie chest'

ny dick lhrougb ny pants l 'lon'l push it loo far' because I'm jus!
anil leanlng her arm against

lotallyconfusedanddonl!knowhovlhingsworkhe!e'shekeepswhisperingsomelhlnglike
trchula !e, realLv 6ensual1y in my ear' (I laler aBk someone what it mean6' and besl r
"chol"o" or
can figure out, it eilhel means thangirlg

making ou!, she 6ays lhat llle can'! tel] anyone, especially her bos6' because he \"i11 be wery

upset.ItellherlknowwhaclhemenarelikeinlhissocieEy.Anorhe!funnythingig!ha!lhe

whole good girr/bad girl Ehing is uniwersal she keeps saying lhal Ehe is a qood 9ir1' and I

aqree, antl she's not a bad girl for coning in ny roorn v'i!h mer because she likes ne

Tharnight,IseeheratEhemagicshotl'.wesilinrhebackrow'whereit'senplv'andhold
now and then Then' suddenlv' one
hands. she puts her hanil on my inner thigh anit squeezes every
6its next t'o me, anit like puts his arm around me Tolallv
of the conference organizers

cockb1ocking.Thenheasks,"AreyoumaIxie.l?/Ite11hin,

he!?' I tell him char se jus! meE

A]go,thejourna]istI*cloeedsho{supwhi]eI,mlalkingto$Bsarong,andsayghi'Igeta

lilt]enervous,andrhejoufnalis!Icantel]isalittlepiseediha!1,nclear]yap]ayel,so

she says she has Eo neeE t never see ne- agajr'

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I Anylray, for the rest of the night, all these Muslin guys are cockblocking ne. They newer leawe

ne alone wilh her. They just lotally follow us around, and stand between us shenewer lhey can,
I and invade ny perEonal space as much as possible. And every nov, and then say sone Ehit about
I marriage. Nolr I'm getling fucking nerous, and jus! decide, fuck it, it/s not worrh it.

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Bu!...I'm Style. The next day, she,e Bitting at the ticket !ab1e again. I come dolrll and invent a
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wariation of 80's dog. (This I lhink iE the new ultlnate llaweling-in-a-strange-country opener:
I we']l catl it the FORETGN
CATSOPENER.) I lell them a fr-end aL home jusE emailed me, and Eaid
I she wanled !o give her ca! (I figured a dog nighr sound degrading) a Bangladeshi nane/ and ask

EI if lhey have any suggestions. AnFray. af!e! lhat, HBgarong - who/s in aLl black loday -- rells

me !ha! her bos6 hae folbidden her from leaving the lable loday. I !e11 he! !o tly !o come up !o
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my room an).ray. I sllp her an exlra loon key.
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T Then, when I leave lhe tlcket lable, I leave my sunglasses lhere, jusr so she has a prelex! to

z Ieave - !o relurn lhen to me. While I,m lraitlng, I come up wilb a FORCEDMARRIAGEDESTROYER.If

she or anyone Blarls lalklng abou! malriage, I'11 reLl lhem I'm Mormon and have rhree lrlves at
I hone. Bu! if she \,rants to be wife nun'ber four, I,]f be glad !o marry her. I figure rhat way,
I lhey can't force rne inlo marriage, becau€e ir would be degrading for her co marry me. (Note to

I self: Whac rhe fuck an I alolng?)

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Anway, 6he comes up. since she Baial the Clinron/Lewinsky stuff las! rine/ I decide !o see how
I far I can push it. l{e make oul, and I puc her hand on ny dick through my pants. She calls it a

I "baba," I think. She kisses it rhrough the pants. I Etart !o uDbuckle, bur she stops me. So

I anrray, I do some bieas!-Eucking and she does sorne hand-jobbing. But she haE Eo go do$ngtairs

soon. go I tel] he!, I'n going to preleod like I,m sick and miss tonigh!,s nagic sholr, and she
I should slip ai!,ay and meel me in the room. She 6ayE yeE. Then I slip off one of my sEring
I bracelets, and put it around he! v!is! !o renind her.

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rl Suddenly, sbe slarts talking about hor local guys sben they have sex, jus! open a woman/s robes,
pump for ten minutes, then go to sleep- She says she likes it for half an hour. so I think now
il whar I've found is not a girl who {ants to trap a guy into marriage bu! a rare n}frpho. l don/t
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know. ALl I know is now I'm in mv hotel room with blue ba116, waiting for her to show
fucking

totally confuseal because it's such a strange, alien culture_ There's so mucb
up. I am iusl

sneaking around and fxustralion involweil \'ith gettilg hel a1one, and making sure no guys knou

know. Tbis is a counlrv !''here they lhrow acid in the faces of loose
anat lhe hoEel staff doesn't

']\'omen. so I just don't wan! !o get her or mvself in trouble'

if anyone {iih a similar exPerience can tetl me

I'11 update you lomorroli. Bu! in the neantime,

their interPrelation of vhat is going on, I'd appreciate it

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Th€ PoEBI'bly Gay !firBlln cockblock (and lhe pov'er I
subject: Al8oFt IJR contlnued:
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of, peacocklng)
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so, finalty, r arrange for the girl lo eneak thlough lhe lobbv and come up !o mv holel loon I I
maale up and radian!, and slanding righ! nex! !o her is one of
open the door !o see her looklng

Not{, I neglecled ro sav lhis before because when I wrote the fi!8t FR I lhouqhl
lhe cockblocks.

i! llas regu}ar Musl.im male frlendlineEE (slraigh! guvs oflen hold hands bere) ' buE he acls

R E A L L Yw e i r d a r o u n d m e . H e d o e s n ' ! lusr hug ne, he like touches ny bulton flv and asks' "what is

my ass and massage6 my hand. and he vorks for the magician she a16o {orks
rhis?" and touches

NoT leawe her alone in lhe roon wilh me. whenewer he leaves for a Eecond, we
So, anyvay, he will

and ewenEuallv walks her out of lhe holel. And there's nothing I can
kiss. Then hers back again,
these guvs ox her b o E s e s k n o w i n g s h a l shers up to/ s' r
do: because ehe's teally worr:ied about

can,t telf him to juEt leawe us a10ne tilhout making her look like a slut.

whole car ride ro dinner lonight, he's gtoping ne And I keep pulling nY hand or arm
Then, the

avay. I tolat his friends, If be did this in ny counlrv, I'd smasil his face in. {l'rhoah -- those

nartial arls lessons are getling to ne, lot.)

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1. Is he jusl cockblocking to keep Americans away fxon 1oca1 women, and preEending ro be gay?
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t 2. Is he cockblocking, and really gay and jealous?

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ir 3. Is he maybe Erying to save me, becauEe she wants to use me to get a visa !o Anerica or

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I 4. Is lhis jueE parr ot her plan -- to fead me on hardcore buE have rhia guy around !o prevenr

t her from acEually hawing to follolr through on the sex, because she has sohe sort of ulrerior

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I Ln^ui nd rha 1.n^,,!^-

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ON AN VNREI,ATEDNOTE...THE UNIVERSA! APPEAIJOF PEACOCKING
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I Today, \re wen! !o a bunch oi really small villages to Eee nedicide wonen and all kinds of crazy

il Ehr!. And even though I,m traveltng with a large retinue of locaL celeblilies and foreigners,
everyone in each toBrr flocks around me. EBpecially lhe women. Why? Because |m peacocking
I {a!
leasl for here). They keep asking abou! my earrings and my jel,elry and my bald head. And EEaring
I ac me and asking to louch it. IE's crazy. So at firs! I rhink !m a novelry, bur then one of Ehe
I guys !e]1s me, "A11 the womenreally like you.tr And I think: Everyone lravels ro exolic locales

I and trie6 to don naEive garb and blend in. Fuck that. You night as welL be exoric for then -- as
long as your clothing is aE t'he Eane lime practical. It i'as crazy here: a few of lhe women in
I (Obviou6ly,
the willage vere so beautiful. there was no porenrial \,rharsoever ro inreract wilhout
t geEting narried -- but it really taught ne about standing out wersus fitring in.)

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wentoutlastnightandwentfuckingcrazysarging'ltjustexplodedoutofme,becauEeit,s
general conmunllv
been a whil.e 6ince r've been an cne field or even poste'lr betveen the work and

(The problem, I realize' is NOT the comerciaLization of the game' i!'s lhe
disillusionnent

coMpETITIoN of lhe people tho've commercialized )

so, I had one insight and one Problem:

best piece of maLerial h othet lrotds'

Structure entire rouEine slack on vour
Trle insighE: vour
it tilt throw you! enlire solid gane off' because you
if you are crying a completely new opener'|
set like a comic You canrt jusE
lose your transj.lions inlo eadb pj"ece You have !o run a lighl

bes!' r lhink' when I wen! fron spellB to EsP

freeflolr flom piede !o plece. Mv gane vas aE ils

!oDonl!lbink-feelpa!!ern,becausetheyvlerealloneconvergalionalf1o{.

Ehe one rha! gels you lo the HOOK

So lhe poin! is lhist fi'gure out vour bes! ptece ot malerial''
you !he!e And from lhere' develop a
poin!, and rhen develop an opener rha! nalurally leads

(or kino escalarion pallern or iBolalion ganitl!) lhat comes ouT of !ha!'
phase shi!

se!. Make Bense? Maybe it,s obvious. Bul r waB playing greal gane' wilh
You need !o have a tIGllT
poin! each tine where I tlialn'! have a transilion into
new material, bur hit a Eticking

escala!ing lo iEolation/kino/elc'

rich l'A girl' who was lhere wilh ber

l.ly faworite set of the flight was lhi6 cute-as-a-bullon

sisreran.thexmom(11'holooke.tlikePamelaAnderson,burhadthreekidg'shewasdressedlikea
guv (probablv her bf) was
to!a! lrarnp) Anlavay, this girt LovED ne But lhe wHoLE !ime' some
ile was confident and qood-looking'
just Btanding wilh ber, hol'ting her hand some of the tinie
'tid not reepon'l to anvthing either'
and did not intetrupl ne But a! the same line'

Il\l'asn,Elikehe1,ttasbeingajerk,hewasprobablyjustaquietguy.Ifhe!,asaroo],Iwou]d
But he was cool' but conplelely not open !o
have just atone ewervthing in tronr of his face

ne an'l threw ne off IE was teallv interesting

rapport. Il flustered
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I NEVERdo the daling frame. I see your point, but I DO applove of value ptans. In other vrords,
T Ehe knows she's of value to her because you,re tnvtling her Eo somerhtng cool, bu! Iou,re nor

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aEking her for a date technlcauy,
r{'an!. This keeps her on her loes looklng
so she's not in daling ilane anit she doesn,r knov wbat you
for eignals from you. The problem v,irh the dating frane
is tha! li inplies SHE has lhe choice anat power to SEIECT you or not. And rhe game ts ptayed
il beEt when Bhe,a unsure of what YOUwan!.
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sleeping lriEh Courlney Love.
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!I 6eein9 Courtney's blonde guirarisr. She,s like rhe first girl l,ve had a crush on in a! teasr a

!l year. It'6 ctazy. r told her tha! she sas ,'ny oneiris,n tol. And, fumily enough/ one night when

a I was out wiLh her, I ran into EBPopstar (fron that otd thread) wbo gave me rOTs and wanr6 ro

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see me again. lieird. so allrs been good here. I'n winging the RsD workshop tonight. which sbould

bake care of any lingering approach fteeze...

EtyLe wrtEee t

subjeclr Rer Qu€Ellon on Ealanclng you! Llf€ wLtb beLng a PUA

Duate, lf you're Eaylng that you never want !o have another LTR, then vou havent! featned
anylhlng flom lhiE conmunity, FlrB!, you will have olher 'TRE 1n your llfe. It's a grea! and

t/ronderful thtng. Bu! in lbe fulure, you wllf be slro[ger. And you w111 sPenil the amount of line

lrirh your lTR lhat You want, and you wlll spend tbe amount of line workiag tha! You want, and

you will Epend the amount of time {ith your buddles lhat Yov want. Yee, there's never enough

time -- unless you use 1! wisety and productively, and draw boundaries \there lhey need !o be

You,re being a slave !o lhe needs and denands of olherB. glart being you! own master'

Style wtite',

Subj€cl! FR: Nighl tdllh tbe guper.$ode16

Though I have an rJTR, x can still post FRs. This one oets a! a bunch of ideas:

1. Faiehfulness -- i6 it Possible?

2. The LA guys who get lhe HoTrEsT girls.

4. RouLine Dependerce.
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Anlray,

with
so I got a call from a friend

a bunch of top models and asked if

who's a nusic

I !'anted to join
nanager. He said he vas going

him. As we vere ralking/

our ro dinner

I said: ',rs it

ok.1 i' - br-ng my glrlrriencl?'And he goes, 'thaE's -

liqh fo-go!.

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so Iget there, and the girls

of the models, and the third

arrive.

v,as -
Three were top models/ one wa6 a hoc btonde friend

ger Lhis -- one of rhe girls r salged when r had lhac pU

of one

compe!ilion with Eeidi Fleiss.

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T Now, here's the lhing: This fliend of mine i6 like 6,5", bur eftremely dorky. He is nor
7 attracliwe ln any aay whalsoever, and his personatiry i6 extremely boring. rn shor!, he,s nor

a cool or good-looking or interesring. (I kno\,,how ro pick 'em, huh?) Hovewer, he does hawe a

high-profile enlerEainment induslxy job and can ger the girtE into rhe mosr exclusiwe parrieE.
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And he lakes them ou! !o the expensiwe reslauranrs and pays for chem. There axe many guys who
I can do lhis a]so, I €uppose, bu! Ehis guy is always surrounded by amazlng Looking v,omen. Lisa

T (my ltr) saye il'6 because in olher x'ords caf,es enough Eo do aII rhis for rhem.

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Anyway, l juEt sit and hang ouE and conlribute !o the conversalion. These girls hawe NO
I allentlon span \rhatsoever. And one in particular is dumb as a brick. However, this bLonde model
I -- who is v,earing Do makeup and an oversized slrerched our undershir! and is 6riLl perfecr is

I comparalively bright and cool. So I transition inro Egp. AE soon as r bust out sone magic, atl
o f a s u d d e n E V E R Yg i r l
t ar the table flocke ro me. They're a]t fucking over me. As soon as Lhe
routine ends/ I bask in a couple more ninutes of atrention and iois. Then, because r don'!
I follow up with the next piece, ir's back ro normal.
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I And rhis is very amoying !o rne/ because I can'!JuST hang and chill and geE arLracrion. r sertl
need the naleria]. As many know, this has been one of my greaLesL frusrrarions over rhe years.
I A11 night, this was true.
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I After, we sen! !o a Prada parly. Dude, for rhe guys here v,ho say rhere are ho! LA 9ir.L6 aL

:t Eighlande, you're out of your ninds. This was srcK. And guess whar? No one was having fun.

:r Alrnosr no one wae smiling. Eweryone was just looking around, watking around/ bored wirh ADD.

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sovealltookoffan.Irrelttoanotherclub.Again.atlboredbeaucies.!i6aan.lI]eftnynntsic
lhe hand of the blonde I liked'
manager frientl SURROUNDED bv four gorgeous wonen' lle lqas hol'ting
if
cloBing rate is lrn curious to see if this {ORKS' or
I juel emailed hin to find ou! r"bat his
Ehe girl6 to hin ls one thing' Ee geEs
wha! atlracts
he gets Looleit. Lisa and I think ultlmately
waiting' (rtrs not enough ln I-a to jusc be ho! and
rhem inlo the top parlies rigtrt away, {lEhout
himseu? Ee brings
tenale to ge! paEt the velvet ropes') Alld how 'toeB he get lnto the parties

rockstarsan.lfemaleg.solinsnor!,lllsno!hismoneytheY'reattracledtoorhislooks,
ihe coftnrunitv' NoL sure'
it's his LIFESTILE. hagine tf he had game ! I may even bltng hlm lnlo

Styta wrlt#,

Subiect! R€! PoBt for styl€: R€ply to hl8 Quertlon

HeyMan,

I wrotethe post Andthen,whenI reread

Youweren'thalluclnaHng.
It, I sawthEtthe answer\{asoovlous'

I wlll wrlteup a FRonthlsglrl Forthe record,I have,for the

flrsttimestnceI got Intothlscommunlty, founda glrlwhoI feela

sedousemotlonal connectlonto. She'sHSE,hlghlyIntelllgent'

challenge,
lovesto peacoc&ls a constant as fuck'ls a
ls confident
girt
totalsnob,andrulesanyroomshewalksInto She'sthe klndof
and
I neverwouldhavebeenableto handlewlthoutthe exped€nce
I've gottenhere.Shewasmy oneltis,andagainstthe odds'
resources
'oneitls'"lol'
I endedup wlthher-- I eventold hershewasmy

to havesexwitha
Tosounda llttlesappy:tt ls sotucklngamazing
girlyoufeelgreatemotionfor andconnectionto lt reallymakes
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everythingelse pale In comparison,
just lying next to her. And she

constantlytells me that she'sneverfelt tiis way about a guy before.

neverlet a guy h6vepowerover her before,etc, The questionI had

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askedwas: Whatthe fuck do I do with all the other girtsI was
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sleepingwith?And the answerisr stop sleepingwith them. I don't
!t
want to blow thls, becausejt's so rare.
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I That said, I'm still goingto go out and sarge.And I'm stittgojngto

7 be part of this community.I'm just not gotngto get physacal

wtth

z anyoneelse -- becausethis girl adually FULFILLS

me.

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Herbalhasan LTRtooi, I\4ystery's
ex not-wife,adually. AndTD and
I Playboyhave beenexperlenclngsomeshortltved oneitlses.It's been
7 slrangetlmes in projectHollywoodthesedays,..
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I SubjectrFRrH€re'san Unusual# Close
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I This happeneda month bac( but I had to post tt becauseit was so

I ridiculous:

z I was at a concertin San Diegowith Vision,And whilewe were

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waitingto qet out of our parkingspace,we noticeda girl in a car in
t front of us (and perpendlcular
to us) was givingus the finger.We
I couldn'tfigureout why, then noticedit was becauseour headlights

:I were shiningIn her eyes.So I told Vlslon,"Flipon the brights."

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The girl then flippedus off morevehemently.Thenwe turned them off.
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notlcedthat shehada FoRSALEsignonthe car,wltha phonenumber'

So,lust to bean ass,I calledthe number.ButI gothervolcemaill
lefta message,Somethlng like,'Hey,youknow,youhaveterrlble

Youcouldhaveaskednlcely,andwe wouldhavebeengladto
manners.
tum off our headllghts."

phone
Halfan hourlater,I wasdrlvlnghomefromsan Dlegot{henmy
we'llcall
range.lt wasthe glrlwhowasfltcklngus off (HBFlnger
whynot gofor lt'
her).So,lnstantly,I declded:

fl sald,"Hey,beforeI let you

Afterwe fluffedaboutthe Inaident,

9o,let megetyouroplnlonon somethlng..."

opener,thenI dld Style'sEV'weloked

I dldthelealousglrlfrlend
aroundandgot EpPortShementioned hercarwasstlckshlft,andI
So,to close,I sald,"l1l tell
don'tknowhowto drlvestlckshlft.
youwhat:we'llmakea deal Youteachmeto drlvestlckshlft, and

rll takeyouto the xxxx concertthat I'm golngto In SanDlegoln a

shewentfor lt Wetalkeda fewtlmesonthe phone

Unbellevably,
shewas
after,andthenmetat the concertIn SanDlegoFortunately,
reallycute,thougha llttleplaln.I SObadtywanteditto workout,
because lt wasoneof the funniest#closesI've had ARerth€ show'
we satdown,andranthroughthe CubeandJokedaroundln hercar' I
PhaseShlftroutlne,butit
dida plsspoorverslonof my Evolutlon
+ctose
workedanywayandwe madeout for halfan hour(alsoknownas a
term"makeout ')
for loyalasFerswhomlghtnot knowthe technical
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I The bad newsis that I haven'tbeento San Diegosince,and now I have

il an LTRso wouldn'tgo there anyway.But, nonetheless,

I tett the story

z -- it's a good one.

nov/as a ROIJTINE

t There'sbeensomegreat FRsand tacticshere lately,Wllltry to check

T in more!
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a SubJect: The Future

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Therers no need !o respond to this pos!. Just read i!.
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I I was looking over Lounge archives, ard jusr wanled !o remind eweryone of wha! rhe rrounge qas
I like a year ago. Mysrery had lhis idea tha! lhe game wasn,r ju6r abou! relalionships, ir pas

t abou! heallh and weallh as well. And we decided we weren'! a communiry of !UAs, bu! a
fraternily. And v,e eere all going Eo hetp each orher geE !o rhe lop of our respecrive fields.
t Ard when se teached Lhe Eop, we were going Eo pu]l each oEher up.
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r Now, rhree rhings are happening. Everyone,s bat!]ing each orher over whose schoot of pUA is rhe

t best. Theyrre fighEing ower gir1s. And tho6e who are having real-wortd success {r know rwo
specifically qhose careers are fucking rocking) are nor sharing rhe good news wirh their
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1. wetre here ro help and suppor! each othex. crilicism of courEe is always wetcome -- even
!r desired 60 long as i!'s honeet and cons!rucriwe.
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2.IfsomeonesloopEtobreakilgchecodeofhonor,don.tEtooptolheirlewel.Takethehlgh
at$tavs come ou! clean' and ahead'
roaal anat you'tl

of brothers on the road Lo guccesE in

back into a tracernity
would fove to see lhiB ptace t.utn
heallh, anal lrealth togelher'

98y7. fitrceat
chtcks l1lv' Ltr dLf,forent ar€eg
SubJect: K.€PInE

Easy.

but have no! hail aex' i!'s

you've fooled aroun'l ltith a girl
1. Be gooit in bedl. (Note: ti luE!

I,oTha!.le!tokeepthemwafinto!nex!timeifyou!onlylntentiBtohaveaFB.)

2.Don'taBkthenabout'wha!elseEheyhavegoingon,lelallonship-wt€e.

llme limPortant ro get rid of asd) before vou reave to\'rn'

3. ?ry to sleep with lhem a secoa'l

i!'s a
lrafln (occaslonal ahort emall) ' bu! no! so nuch !ha!
4. slay in louch enough to keep Ehem
and phone cal'Is'
conslant eflorE !o leturn emails

p]'an
coming !o !or"n nex! alrd make a
5. call then a couple dlays befole you're

(Eometines years) ' and all I

f,or 6ix rnodlhs
ilhen I waE 8ing1e' f, i{ontE have tsaLked to a 9ir1

let lhem kno\t r'n coning Eo tonn!

have to do is

geyTe wtiCee,
r'ritsb GrouP-ilirect gase
SubJect.: ore €:E erimetttatioD
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I Not to r:eopen the whole debate, but WxY keep trying direct when i! doesn'r work as wel1. Think
about iL: A- Lhe peak ot my sarging, w.!h an _nd_recL opener, T lad
il ius! aooJL roo percenr
success ln opening groups (!,,ithout gelring
z getting the phone nunber of my larget.
ever

It vorked
blown our) and pxobably

from rhe beginning; ir

80-90 percenr

works nou.
chance of

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I Here's the secre! of direct: it generalty onty works if lhe girt is inreresred in you ro begin
wilh. ThaEts righl.
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7 Now, gentlemen, here's the eecret of openers, direcL or indirect: they don'r HAVE!o be an
z opinioo. T h e y h a v e ! o A P P E A RS P O N T A N E o U ST.h a ! ' s it. iihelher you do an direct OR indirecr opener

T matlers less rhan if you do a SPONTANEOUS

OIENER.

I I wonder how YOU came off, The One? SponEaneousor nor?

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Subiect! The Attraction Switches
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Lately,l'veonlybeenchecking
thisboardoncea monthor everyfew
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months,
soapologies
for notbeingaround.
Havea lot ofthoughts
to
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share.
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My concemlatelyhasbeenthebiggerpicturcin a PU.That,I think, is
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I whatshouldbefocused
on onceyoucangetrid ofthetrainingwheels

!l of constantlyscriptedsargesandlearningto be

I cool/charminyathactive.

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For a while, I've be€ndiscussing that
the SWITCFIES

mustbe flippeditr a womanin orderfor herto fe€lathaction.we put

togethera reallylong list. Ffom it,l boiledit downto jusi a few

mah switches.Thereis no ord€rto th€m'Theyshouldjustb€

consciouslyflippedat somcpoint.Solv€ mnowedthis dovn, andwould

loveto heerdpughtsandcontributionsl

1. You mustshowherthatyou'r€safe.Trustis 8nimportantissu€for

Soswitch#1: in orderto
mostwomen.This mustbed€monstrated.

youneedSAFETYaodTRUST.
proaeed,
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2.Youmustshowherthatyouhsveeith€rsmbition,motivation,
job/financial
cun€nvfttur€ tn otherwords,youmusthavea life andgoals'
security.
to h€Ithatyouhav€STABILIry and
Soswitch#2is dcrnonstating
youjusthaveto showfte
AMBITION.Youdon'thaveto besucc€ssfirl'
to besuccassful.
Dotential

3. You mustshowhertfi&tyou'rcdilTcEntdun th€ odrerguys,tlnt you

arerct generiaor boring,that sheasrtl€amsomelhingfrom youor grow

with you,thstyou hav€a senseofadventureor orcativityor

spidtuality.Soswitch#3 is showingherthatyouHAVE SOMETIIINGTO

OFFE& evenifyou dont give it to her in themomed'This is where

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!t 4. YoumustbethePRIZEoftheroom.Shewantsa guyotherswillenvy
z herfor, thatshecanbragaboutto herfriends.This is wheresocial
z proofoomes
in, wherestory-telling
comesin. It'salsowherealpha
a qualities
comein, cocky/funny,
andnotsupplicating.
Soswitoh#4 is
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demonstrating
all ofthemanyqualities
ofCONFIDENCE,
LEADERSHIP,
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AUTHORIry, andPOPULARITY
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I 5. lt'sa bigworldandwe all feelalonein it, soifyou can

v demonstrate
thatyouTJNDERSTAND
herandwhereshecomesfrom,shewill

z feelchemistry.
Thiscanlargelybedonethroughdgmonstrating
either
I cultural,
mental,emotional,
worldview,humor,or life/background
r commonalities.
Themoreobscure
andrarea traitthatyouconnect
on,
t themorechemistry
youcreate.
SoSwitch#5 is demonstrating
I COMMONALITIES
in oder to triggerCHEMISTRY.
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6. You needanauraofdepthandmystery.You mustmaybeshowa
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vulnerable
or wounded
sideofyourseliyoumustnotgiveaway
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everfhing for free,youmustbea puzzleshewantsto figureout and
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maybeevenhavea woundsheoanheal.Switch#6thenis hookingherwith
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:l yourDEPTHandMYSTERY.

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7. You mustshowherthatyou areNOT homy,but sexual'This is where
ofher
anunderstanding
sooialproofcomesin too,alsodemonstmting
your
world (liking herfor who SHEis). Soswitch#7 is demonstrating

while showingherthatyouRECOGNZESOMETHING
ownLACK OF DESPERATION

SPECIALlN HERTHAT ATTRACTSYOU TO IIER This is whereQUAUFYING is

thatyou like hel for who she

useful,in otherwordsdemonshating

ifyou area player.

is--even

Styte wrttes.
subi€ct! Re! The Attraction switch€a

It's betterfor
You'veraiseda goodpointon this,Formhandle,

MLTR4,TR€ven FB gameThoughI maygo for samedaysituations,

I NEVERgo for ONS.ln fact,I havealmostNEVERhada ONSfor the

simplereasonthatI'm only goingto sleepwith a womanofquality, and

ifsheis ofquality,whyjustsleepwithheronce?

However,I do think thatfor a guyto talk with PASSIONabout

somethinghefeelsstronglyaboutis a HIIGE turn-onfor women,whether

ONSor LTR. lt flips a switoh.

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In largepart,this pointprobablycameftom hearingmy LTR'Sclose

friendtalk in my livingroom.Shehadjustmeta guywhoshe\'r'as

in
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lovewith.However,
shewasbreaking
upwithhimbecause
hewas30or
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so,andwasnton anycareertrack.Thatwasher SOLEcritedafor
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breakingupwith him, And it hadnothingto do with herwantingto
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marryhim.Shejustneeded
to bewitha guywhowasheading
somewhere.
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But,in general,
Formhandle,
I thinkyouareright.Perhaps
I'vebeen
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3r bninwashed
by thematerialists
in thiscify,

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Style wtlEea,
T gubj€cl! Con$on fruglratlon - no glrlfrlend
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T I don,t buy any of rhis. Sorry. In my experience, and I play mostly night game, I've met lors of
z Ewen al super-exclusive lrendy Hollyvood nighls. And some have been MIrTRs, some

I have become good friends. I fe]! like, especially at a shallow txendy parly, I,ve been able ro
make a grea! conneclion wich a t^'omanof quaLily because l r e r e c o g n i z e d 6ome depth in each olher.
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I I Lhink !hat, in general, before ne poinr out att rhis 6ruff - LA womensuck, you can'r find a

r gf in clubs, elc - we hawe to poin! Ehe fingers a! ourselves firsL. Maybe rhe gane we're ptaying

z in a club

behawior
isn,t

for
attracting

women. sorry,
gfs;

guys,
maybe rhere are inner game problems !ha! are crealinq rhas

I do nos! of my game ar nighr and in lhese clubs, and hawe mer

I lore of asesome, quality girls. Mink sone of us here are diequalifying ALL wonen who 90 ou!
a to clubs at night (ridiculouE, brw) sinpty because of bad experiences viEh a coupte.

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 game for years' And vre bit a poinl wtlere
I,m just SoinS to add that some of us bave been in the
a l1ltle and get stuck there for a while we forget
lre geE great results, anct then we backsli'Ie
a Little success makes us lazv so the point
ro naintain the work we're aloing on oursetwes;
point being that' an),1there in the world' ic lakes a
being: Work on yourself first. lhe other

sPecial girl who co rects with vou on everv level

{hite to find an LTR MrrlRs are easv' BuE lhat

is rare -- an)avnere.

I can 90 on and on, so let me know lf vou'd like me to"'

sEyLe Jritgeg,
gubj€ct! chlckE who offer tou Other Chlckg

There afe ltdo optionEi

A. ft'a a E h i ! t e 6 ! ! o s e e if you'le a plaYer

B. She llkes you bu! has a bf o! Jus! got a bf' and is pasEing You on co a iriend'

Tell her lhe girl Beemg cool anal 6eems smar!, Lhough Ehe's nol reallv
My advice: Play i! safe'
in rhe narkel) ' It lroulal be fun for all three of you to ge!
you're type (or vou're not reallv
you ger the IoIs from the Japanese girl. ge!
together. Then hang oul, leall back, be cooL' and if

he! nuriber and rhen Eake her oul indiwidually'

but a! the sane lime al1ow it happen. The lhing

In oEher. 1,eord6, alo NoT srlow Eoo nuch inlereEt
a modeling -- not a real photo of lhe lwo of Ehern
!ha! raises my suspicions is lbal lt's Pholo

It rnav be a TES! to see if yourre an Asian feliehist'

hanging our together.

bappene'I to ne' But/ in nv caser it sas B'

This exact sane situation
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I Subjects: LTR LEEu€s

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None of the above.
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T The solurion: PIay the game. Aos-styte.
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z I! sounds like maybe you,ve been somewhat needy lrirh her. l,tithdraw (disappear for a day or two
and alonrE call) or creale a Jealousy plotllne (where a beauliful girl i€ tnlerested in you).
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Tha! should do the trick and make her feel rhe lequisile ernottons for you.
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Power 1n a relarlon8hip beLongs ro the person vho rran!6 lhe feasr coffinilment.
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T Subject: Quegtj,on for STYLE and otshele - Netwolklng lrlth Celobrltl€e thIE
I weekend
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I Okay. In your particular positlonr here,s lrhat ld do.

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celebs are used to being taken car.e of. Every{here they arive, there's a SAFE pelson (or tv,o)
I who take care of i:hen, make sure they're comforrable, giwe rhem vrp rleatmen!. Anal once rhey
a feel SAFE wirh rhis person (because all noD-famous srraDgers are EhrearE and annoyances), they

I let dokr) their guard.

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seem confidenE, in
muEt take care of Lhem. You nnrst
You
So as 6oon as tbeY atrlwe'| place and hawe eone
not crying loo har'I ' Like You os'rl Ehe
back' Iaid
authoritacive,
micto vorld they've enEeted'
this snall llttle

rappot! at iIUBI TAKE CAR! Of EhCi'

Donrt try fo!
so al firsc, jusE be funny and cool' if they nee'I any'
okaY, then drinks
seat, make Bure €verythtngrs
grouP. Bring them to hhelr
$alt-reBs, etc'
introduce Ehemto thelr
t'ith' Noi'{ you can open
aB a safe person \tho uheyrre confortable
yonrseLt
once yourva establiBbe'l yourself a tim€ consgrallrc
{VERY
on cnem' an'l nold open the g!or'lp' give
for reat. Retud to cbeck (an obvlous naE $i11 backfile
llere'
neg the targeE'
an'I teasingly
lmportan!), andl very ltghtly neg nlIt b€ powerful') If you can get
ftft thlsi cyPe of
rroh my goct' i" tft"y"
buE a snilitlg denonBlrate value
"nt
an'l altenEion' af1 you have !o 'lo is
lheir lnEereBL
in rhiB fa! antl capture
antl You're ln'

glyl€ vrlt.s 3
Dgubls tniluctloa A Eucc€EF
gu.bj.ct t tR: rlrEg

undlelstand liltY '

works ' I dlon'! necessalily
Though lhi6 stuff

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tlne' ilrs p like
rL trtac vou tlescribe'l:
BecauBe everv t1ne,
BecauBe every , crazy .::':::.:other'
on each !ike
passion t"*"""'
a su'r'ren'that spark of "u ,111.l:"::' '." o! three
t."o go(
.tayBgoes
Ehree'ravB
"n." "t, ", jl],,';;;" u'"" an'r co leccrng !'ith ror
::'. ' ""'giog
"t"t.-" tr'me'
you hook up sith her for lhe first
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I they only (in my cases) lacitly agree to the rhreesone monenrs before i!

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Theyrre not friends before; then they woraciousl.y 6exual1y devour each olher; rhen they jusr 6ay
u goodbye and never speak again.

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z Subject: I'IJuck be a Lady" by Frank Slnatra

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Hey Man,
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T This problem occurs a 1oE \{iEh you. I always read FRs abou! how rhese you go ou! wirh run
9ir1s
a around lhe club hilling on other guys and you get pissed and teave lhen for holrer girts. Now,

al l\,hile lhis nay be a conmon probLem even back in the Rar pack days, hawe you ever lhoughr abour
how YoU may brtng lhis on.
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I FirsE, you are srrucEuring your second meeriDgEa! rhe ptaces where you Earge. MTSTAKE.
Do tike
I stevi.ePuA does: take lhem to a bar where you and her ca! ger intimare. you ONLYknov sarging.
You HAVEto 'riden your holizons.
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I secondly, I'm bettiDg tha! somelimeE you sarge v,hite on a second meering, perhaps even only to
I creale a jealousy plotline or demonsrrare value. This creares an almosphere rha! pERMrTsher !o

I sarge in her om way. And then you can,! take ir when SHE does exacrty wha! you were just doing.

I
So the solution is for second meelinge: rake lhem !o an inrimale bar, or rake lhen our wirh a
I non-sarging group of friends. when you're att sirring on a sofa ar the Slanatard, Iaughing,

I drinking, and playing games with your buddies and nor sraring aE every EB tha! v,atk6 by, she,s

a not going to v,aBt to talk to other guys and she witt be sucked inlo your reality.

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There shoul't be a contingency

tben'
ho\t YoU dleal lrith
probleR is NEVER Ehe wonen ltr6 in
The
avoi'led'
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anal mentaLltiee '
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very af€or'lable
lhe Bmalles!, but
B €x'a'
;";"-'''"" elBe to sleep wiuh Mvsterv'
Boneone l
:"tff;":

EEYT, lrtlE s'

l DLscu96lon
nay Wo4'a RqsDoDil i'tr Bed:
EubJ.qE3 trb'

bere' because I'n

regularly tbat I ltant to diFcuBs
Ehac happel to me
There are a fetd chings amongs! all nen
that lhey'le a cofiunonexperlence
see
".rtlou" "o l
Lo i{olry abo\rt Gane
x sleep l'ilh a {onan' I don'c hav€
of the tlne' once the aex'
Ninety-nine pelcen! *unt it !o lasE'
I feel' like befor€ I
al'I nttd '*'tl-t"* "" "n" set any El4)e
antnrore. It's on and lbe Bex At thal point' I can I
;"t-" af,ter
ag atlached "" ;* when a wonen
lrol'ever, she {a6n't may be because' evoLuuioBarily' l
r vatrt l tbink thi6
has had sex
of frane on Ehe reLationstrip and nake he! bon'I Eo the man she I
tt;" brain
chenicals t"""";:
orgasrne, she enits I
{ith. Thought6?
]
aftet I give he! a grea!
t tlave sex wit}. he!'
third or fourth tine
Einally, on the aecon'l o!
she thinks' in her bodv 1n tbe nonent' |
see tnt"'"*"" flip in her head' *
orgasn, I can lileraIly this euv'' somelinea
she'll
"'" "" I
deepll atrached ro
r coul'I
"r love tlti6 suv; ""t";; I

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 toud; other times Ehe'11 ger scared and need reassurance. i s qeirii. Has anyone erse noriced

we never discuss rhis here -- rhe way womenreepond ro us during sex anil orher non rechnique
details of rhe inreracrion. would be curious !o hear orher people's experiences,
and if rhey arl
malch or are wildty different? rn olher wordE, is Ehe above a cornnon
archerlpaj experience, or
am I doing something rigbr I shoutd backr^,ardsengineer?

StyTe writes,

Subject: ?he Way lfomen Respond ln Bed: A DlEcusslon

Yeah, Madbad, oha! you describe sounds REALLY siftjlar ro the vay I an in bed and rhe resporses r
get. You lorally get it, In fac!, just f r o f t r e a d i n g g u y s responses/ you can break it down rc,
lhree l!?es of people:
1. Tire rovers i n b e d , o h o f o c u e o n l h e e ' o m a n s' p r e a s u r e a n i l a r e i n r o x i c a l e d vilh her submissive
femininity

2. The takers in bed, who $aI1! a girl ro get them off

3. rhe doubters in bed, who ler the doubrs and heairancy q h i c h p l a g u e t s h e mi n r e a l tife conlinue
on into lhe eack.

so, afler reading this, r lhink lhe Lhings r ato lhat enable !hiE:
1. I am ACCEPTING. h orher !,ord6, v,harewer 6he wanr6 !o do or express, and ho!rcwer she wanrs ro
reac! and howewer far she *anrs !o 90, r sUppORT. I jusr wanr her go and tive
!o te! her
fantasies. S o r g i v e h e r p E R M r s s r O Nr o b e h e ! r r u e sexuat setf.

2. I focus on HER pteasure and making lhe experience posirive for her. My goal is !o ge! rhe
girl off. No! io an egorisricat way, but because r wanr her !o teawe hawang had a good
experience. And, ewen afrer she's lefr, I wanr !o make sure rhe experience was good for her.
Even if |n never going !o see her again (vhich i6 very, very rare), rrlr be nice ana! respecrfur
and cal] her, because r don,r wanE ro ruin her for a1t lhe other guys and pUAs ou! lhere.
 right spots' allowing
andl SIZE Glrls say it touche6 all che
3. I have decenE TECIAiIQUE gir]
till slill go dor"n
if I gec off'
orgasns l al'so enloY oral 6ex andl' eved
have vaginal passioDate si.dle that I
thiE etrong, inEense, f,ocusear,
off. rn actdition,
to nake Bure she g€t6
out in bed'
(but deed to nore) juBt coneB
iton't really atiBplay ia !ea1 life

ot you
juBl the lwo of rrr bed,
You in
sex' lthen it'6
I Iove cha! nonen! af,ter
4, I enjoy the A.FTER-ct'ol{ to hold anythilg back
o" n"'"":."::-:-"::":::::::,Tti;"::il;""
andyou'irenot tryins to get anv'hrng ;"-,
oya!,, uv q--'
can aek her alr. lhoEe questions yourve been
you,re ju6. both !ear. :rnal tien rrou
to ne? llhaltB v^irr
vour rantasy? Do You uBuaIlY have
reatlze vou }.'e!e attracte'l
l,'hen atid vou flrst ::trt:sv
one bLg one and feel ]lke you'te done afiet?
nulliple orgas$s, or have

Great lhoughtB an'l

leaallng lhls diBcussion'
can break iE ilown' afLel
I guess thatrs the besl I
of this Blufi from You'
sti1l gotla learn sone
insights I And, Di iIaY' I

S.;,,e wrlt€, t
Y'lth th€ who Ll€t op'nor
Subtecti Rootlng! Thc ProblGm

guys
wheneverfm wlnglngworkshops' andl9o aroundthe roomandask
And
say'"Whollesmore'menor women?'
whatopenertheyuse,halfof them
nlght'andhalfthe womenusually
thenI seethemgo out anduselt th't
asklng,'Why areyouasklngusthls?'or'Are youtaking
respond by by
elther
languageandW|ng
a suNeyor somethlng?'rOr by Justglvlngthembadbody
posslble'then laughingat them behlncl
to end the conve6ationas soonas
thelrback.

the openersuddenlyappearlng in the commuityllkea yearand

I remember
a
madeit up' thoughI think lt was
a half ago,andcan't rememberwho
great openerto leam' becauseles so short'
workshopsfudent.Andit is a
 But here'sthe problemtit's imperfectand incomplete,In
an earlierpost, I
discussedsubtletiesthat are necessaryto makewalk_upsairtight__
namely
time consbaintsand negs.Well,there,salso a sub ety to
the opener:THERE
IV1UST
BEA REASON
WHYYOU'RE
ASKINGIT.

In other words,you are Justwalkingup to a group and asking

a random
questionfor no purpose.It's weird.you needto ROOT
it in the time and
place,For example,when I sayjealousgirlfriend.I
mentionthat I,m asking
becauseI just got a phonecall from my brotherabout lt 'we
or weretrylng to
give my friendover there advtce.',WhenI do spelts,
I say tt's about 'my
friendWill, who tsn't out wtth us tonight becausehe,swtth
thts 9irl. you must
ROOTyour openerto makejt a valid reasonro approacna group.

lvlaybesomepeopjewho use Who LtesMoreactua y gtve it a

cont€xt,but no
one 1'veheard.So lf you are golngto conlinueto usethis opener,you
MUST
fiodlfy it, or flnd a new one. Examplesof rootsfor the who
lles moreopener
includei

"I was readtngEsquiretoday and they dtd this study,and guess

what the
resullswere?l{y friendsand I have beendebatang about it ajt day. We
I disagree."

il
I OR

I 'My friend
over therejust brokeup with his girlfriendbecauseshe kept tying
I to him about ljttte things,And we thoughtit was funny,becauseguys
are the
!l oneswho havethe reputationfor lying. But now he think5women
are worse,
I So we'retrying to savehtm from beingbjtter aboutwomenfor
the rest of his
a life, Onlyyou can help savehim from endingup a lonely,miserable
old man,

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down@wn
eatlngdog foodIn a studioapartment

top of my head'
rve put inrc me opener'ofr the
Theseareiust randomroots
a rooted
meantlme'lf anyonefield tests
lll field test them and,In the
elserpleasepost'
of who lles moreand lt worksas solldlyas everythlng
veFlon
openerso that everyonecanstart uslnglt corectly and
Lefs complete thls

effectlvely,

Styte wrlt6c!
Subt€.t! r.! Fl.w to Thrlhnd

on the sexual
gotta JumpIn hereand cladfya few thlngs' Congrdts
Dude,

experlence,but be awarei

gameon
gameon you;youarenot runnlng
1, Thesegldsarerunnlng
tnem.

lf you wantto use

to Godyou are havlngsatesexonlyl Beprotected
2. I hope
It on a real glr! In the future'

you are misslngotlt on other important

3. Whileyou are havlngsex'
on as soonas
that are part of sex andyou shouldstart worklng
components
we'reall In the gamefor the
you get backl valldatlon(leesfacelt'
they llke us)
beauufulwoman wanting to get nakedwith us because
validatlonof a
wlth this
(trust me' the sex ls MUCHbetter
ANDemouonalconnection
element).

Ducle,takeaworkshop'getsomegoodwinqtandcloNOTeverpayforsex
 agah. You dld it, cool,You experlencedit, cool.you havenothlngto fear

now, cool. Nowgo get a girlfriend-- she doesn'thaveto be perfect,any

girl you enjoy belngwith wtttdo -- and get to knoweverythingabout hel

body,until you are a ssxualgod,

gtyJe wtLteEt

Subject: Re: f,B L0 gte*aldess - 9ucc€s6 gtso!,y. Ihenkg Cuys.

congrars, shers gorgeous. Bu!. . .

L If ehe,s done !rl!h h e r e x a n s i n June, why no! jusr x,ai! a monlh?

2. Can she keep her airltne job bu! be baBed 1n rJondon.

Trush me, becauEe X've done l h l e . You wil] hl! problems because:

1. If ahe comeB lhere, with n o j o b o r s c h o o l or frlendE or money, she will be COMPLETELY

depeDdent on you.

2. This will turn you OFF. you witt r e s e n r h e r because she takes up all your lime and money and
atrenlion. And lf you slart gefting Cli6lant or raking her for granted or abandoning her, she
wil] totally resent you for naking her give up everylbing fo! you. This witl occur Eublty and
6tow1y, ower a period of Eix months after lhe initial three-month honeymoon period.

9o, prevent this fron happening by:

1. SeEting her up wiEh her OwNf!iend6. c o sarging for friends for her. Encourage hei to do a
girls nigbt out.
2. Making sure 6he gers a job AsAp so 6he i s n o ! . c o m p l e E e l y , fjnancialty dependerr on you.
 l

downtown."
eatingdogfoodIn a sfudioapartment

Theseare just randomrootsI've put tnto the opener,off the top of my head
lfanyonefleldtestsa rooted
I'llfleldtestthemand,In the meantime,
else,pleasepost.
versionofwho llesmoreandlt worksas solldlyas everythlng
canstartuslnglt corredlyand
thlsopenersothat everyone
Let'scomplete
effedlvely,

SVe wrttost
SubJed!r€! Fl€wto ThallEnd

on the sexual
Dude,gottatumpIn hereandclarlfya fewthlngs.Congrats

but be altare:
expedence,

1. Thesegldsarerunnlnggameon you;youarenot runnlnqgameon

them,

lf youwantto use
2. I hopeto Godyouare havlngsafesexonlylBeprotected
It on a realglrlIn thefuture.

3. whlleyouarehavlngsex,youaremlsslngout on otherlmportant
that arepartof sexandyoushouldstartworklngon assoonas
components
(lefs faceIt, we'reall In the gamefor the
youget back valldauon
valldauon womanwantlngto get nakedwlth us because
of a beautlful theyllkeus)

connectlon
ANDemotlonal betterwiththls
(trustme,the sexls MUCH

element).

get somegoodwings,anddo NOTeverpayfor sex

Dude,takea workshop,
 again,You did it, cool.You experienced
it, cool,you have nothingto fear
now, cool, Nowgo get a girlfiiend-- she doesn,thaveto be perfect.any
girr you enjoy beingwith wi do -- and get to knoweverything
about her
body, until you are a sexualgod.

SEyZe wtltas:

subject: Re: gB 10 Stewaldesg - gucceas Story. Thank€ cuys.

Congrate. She' s gorgeous. Bu!. . .

I. If she,s done with her exans tn June, ldhy no! jus! wai!
a nonth?

2. can Ehe keep her airtine job bu! be baEeil tn London.

TrusE rne, because I,ve done thtE. you wttt hi! problems because:

I 1. If 6he come6 lhere, s ' t t h n o j o b o r s c i l o o t o r fliend6 or noney, she wift be COMIr]ETELY

Er dependen! on you.

tl
r 2 This

atLenEion.
!di]l lurn

And if
vou oFF
yolr starr
you vilr

gerring
reEent

disrant
her because 6he rakes

or raking her,or
up ar1 your Eine and money and
granted or abandoning her, she
I will rotally resenr you for making her give up eweryrhing for you. Thrs witt occur subrly and
I slowly, over a period of Eix monrhs afre! the inirial rhree monrh honeymoon period.

I
so/ prewent rhi6 fron happening by:
t 1. Setting her up irirh her OWNfriends. co sarging for friends for her. Encourage her to do a
il girls nigh! our.

ir 2. Making sure she gers a iob AsAp so she iE nor compterely, financially dependen! on you.

F
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T
T
Einally. coDgrat6l

gEyLe |'tlLeEl.

subJect: My ex told ry gsB frlond nJustj,ce llkeg youn... what norr?

Chickg are nol lnlerested ilr rcu vrhen you fal1 ln love vtith them too eatly, but they becone very

interegted when you fall OUI of love qrith them.

Styla wrlt€st
subtect! Thc Llght .nd Darlcot The comnrunlty

Whenever
I dlscussthe communlty the samequestlons
wlth outslders, always
comeup. Andtherels no clear-cutanswerfor them.A lot of peoplewantto
passludgmenton us ior belnghere,lf they knowaboutlt, ButI knowfor

surethat lt's mademe a MUCHbetterperson.Whenpeopleseevldeosor

photosof me prlorto thls,they can'tevenbellevelt's the sameguy,
I

ButtherearealsopeopleItvemetwhowerereallycoolguyswhenthey
enteredthe communlty. passlonless
Andnowtheyare completely soclal
robots(andI've postedaboutthat alreadyIn the past).

Sothe wayI seeit nowis that the communltyis a forkingpath.Andit can

Thechoiceis yours.
leadyou intothe lightor the darkness.
 Theljghtis a placewhereyou are at yourbestall
the tjme.It is whereyou
finallyfind yourselfand bringout all the personatity
and sparkand
confidence
and charmand humorand talentthat onlyyour mother
everknew
you had before,It is whereall the schools
of seduction and routjnesarejust
trainingwheelson the journeyto self_realization. (Whoah,this js soundjng
morenew-ageythan I intended,) But it,strue: womenare EXTREIUELY
attradedto guyswhenthey do somethrng __evena smallgesture__
that is
totallyorjginaland pureand unselfconscious, and at the sametime lovable.
So if the communityis bringingyou out of your
shell,improvingyoursocial
skillsin all areasof your life,makingyou move
throughthe worldmore
confidently, makingyou the mEsterof your reality,improvingyour
physical
appearance, wideningyourcircleof friends,acquaintances,
and women,__
and ultimatejymaktngyou a happlerperson__then you
are in the light,

The dark js a placewhereyou lose yourself.It,s

whereyou stavishlyimitate
and modelotherpeople.It,s wheresomewhere
deepinsideyou hateyourself
T and don't believethat peoplewill like you jf you
revealyoLrrtrue setf. It,s
whereyou start hurting or deceivingpeopre__
men, women,whatever,It,s
I whereyou look at yourselfin the mirror and see
Tyler Durden,Mystery,Style,
f or Badboystaringbackat you.It,s whereyou
losetouchwith yourfriendsand
t family,and only hangout with sargers.
And the only reasonyou pullwomen
I is so that you can win the respectof other
sargers.lt,s whereyou make
I learningpickupthe numberone priorityin your
life,and neglectthe things
r that wjll leadto a real caree.. lt's whereyou look
at the world through dead
il eyesbecause
you,velostyoursoul,

:r
I step backfor a momentrand lookat yourexperiences
in the community.
!t
il
i
Makesurethat you areon the rightpath.If not,separateyourselffromyour
activitiesor takea road
frlends,enjoysomenon-sarging-related
communlty
trip to the beach,andthen returnreinvigoratedandreadyto beginthe
that we'reherefor.
vigorouscourseof all-roundself-lmprovement

Style wrltes:
Subject: FR-CIlffsemlnarsarg€4wayorgyFu meet Gonesavag€

Awesom€post.ly€ b€grlther€b€fore,in thosercomssofull ofsexual

tensionthatth€right v,rordcangetsomeinsanehijinx going,or ftek up th€

wholething.

in thatroomwad€dit. Butassoonasoneperson
Sq mythoughtEveryone
getsuBcomfofieble,
it'sell over.(KindalikeTD'ss€er€t post.)
sooiety

Sothelessonis,,,Yourwingscangctyou laid. Also,your wingsc-sngetyou

ejected.

to do theright thiug ifyou haven't

Nexttime,don'tcrunt on someone

wingedwith themenough.You will haveto takethelead.Andyou'll hav€to

dothatby arangiogeverybody,like a conduotor.

F
P Sothis wasnot a mistake.It wasa leaminglessonfor nexttime.
Thelesson:
F GetFOTIRgames/routines
togetherthatyou anpull out nexttimethis

F happens.
Likethedualinduction
massagq
or a gameofAsshole,
or a
P garneofspin theCellphone(betterthanspinthebottle
t havetheassooiations),
etc.
because
it doesn,t

fl

Nicejob,otherwise.
F

Styla wtlteg t
subject: sarglng Wlth Eleve Coogan
J

i!
r had Eo pos! lhis here. r supposeonry lhe
tr Brils wirr appreciale this. of course, rhis is nor
ro be ahared oulside rhe r,oungeI
I
r Anyway, r \ra6 ou! las! niqht, and \ras introduced Eo Sleve coogan (of rhe Atan partridge Show
elc.). we lalked
I for a vrhite and he said he wanled to meer
some girts, so r ran rhe Jeatous
Girrfriend opener on a ser. He pravea! al.ng fucking perfecrly.
il Test, and negged lhe larqer
Then r wenr lnro rhe Besr Friends
on her boaly tanguage. He was ftooreit,
sirling rher:e quietty, Eo !o
I compere, he putled our a maqic trick. he itid sone steighr of hanat wirh a cigarelre, and his
I perfor:nance of i! was rearlv funnv. Ee sa6 a good wing, lhough he sometimes did afc rhings like
introducing himself
I he'd bring lhe girls
to rhe g.irts roo soon. A tirtte cocky, he rold me ro go up Lo his roorn and
up. r Eotit hin !o use Lisa (my r,TR) as a wing so rhe gi!1s
il An}aay, he ended up coning up vilhouc rhe girts.
woutd feel safe.

I
Ir Eovewer, upsrairs, he ptayed a cool game wirh us. r rhink i! woutd be fun !o do in sers.

r
I
we'll call it the Coogan cane

RULES: Sreak up into leans of, t{o.

Eacb person lrrttes doltn ten ranes of celebs or vell-t<nom tigures on ter separate scrape of
paper, then folds tt. in half and doesn't shoo anltore. The names are aLl rossed into a haE or a
bag.

ROUNDONE
Each rturntr is exaclly one minule, Aad one person in a tean grabe one name at a lime out of the
hat, glveE lhe olher !,erson ln lhe leam clueE, and moves on onLy when the other person haE
gueEaed lhe nane. Each person guesslng can i,passir on a nane they don'! know only once. The goal
].s ro gue6e as many nanes a€ poBEibLe in a nritrute. ultlmalely, if you have two teams of !r,ro, the
game w111 last four ninutes as each person takes a turn as clue-giver and guesser.

The clues can be aNYTHING,aE Long as lhey don't. spelt the nane of lhe petson or u€e a cbeap
rhlane (like saying nRaBhton Bushetu as a clue fot "Aslon Kucher).

ROUNDTWO
So, afler lhe f,irst lounil of guesslng j.s done, you put atl the nanes back in the hat anit repea!
the Proceaa. Hoirever, thlB t,lme, since evetyone already knows lhe nanes, lbe clu€s can only be
TWOWORDS
and no PLSSASare allolred.

Itrs lea]ly fun, because le's such an adrenaline rush trying !o ger through a6 many namea a6
posslble in a minute.

Style writes:
Subject: American girls don't dig Japanesemen : (
E Wow,whata loadof shit.I knowSOmanywomanwho LOVEa
Japanese
coollooktng
guy.Theyall sayyouhavethe bestfashionandstyle.
say,Jameslha (SmashtngpumpkJns/perfect
Circle)
Checkout,

If youwant,sendmeyourplcture,andI'll glveyou

I someadvlce.Remember the rulei Whatyoucan,tfix, youfeature.you

Just
t needa coollook,andwomenwlll be approachlng
youl Thereare actuallv

I placesIn LA(llkethe glantrobotstore)whereyou

canFINDcoolwomen(of
all races/colo6)
whototallydlgJapanesemen.Sargesomeone there,then
closeher by suggesung9otn9clothesshopptng
the nextday.

F
II Style wrltas:
Subject! gggg Issues when golng out
i
I I hadthat sameproblem.I'll neverforget.I got the number
I intelllgent,
classyblack-hatred
of thtsta[,

I womanwtth modetlooksyet no atutude.She

wasJustperfect,Andfor our flrst meeungafterwafd,I took her

II
to a hotel
bar. Weeachhada drln&andthenthe checkcame.I remembered
the ruleof no_
supplicatlon,
andso I Inslstedthat we splltthe check.As a .esult,I ended
up lookhgIncredlbly
cheap.It wasso Incredibly

II
stupldandembaffasslno.

That'swhenI realized:thereare NOrules,onlyguldelines.

Andtf you
understand
the endpurposeof thosegutdelines,
you,llknowwhento us€

II !nem,

I
Sooneofthe purposes
of not buyingdrinksIsso that youdon'tlooklikeyou
needto buyher time or that shecanuseyoufor things,However,
if youare a
guywhonaturallybuysdrinksfor all his buddies,andlf by buyinghera drink
youare nottreatlngheranymorespeclalthanyoutreat anyoneelse,it's

fine,

to buyher a drlnkor a coffeethanlookcheap.If you're

So bettersometlmes
at a bar,Justsay,"I'll get this round;youcanget the nextone."At a cafe,

"I'll get thls; youcanplckup desert."Youdon'thaveto holdherto tt. Thepotnt

is simplyto conveythat yourrenotsomeone
shecanusefor moneyor free t
dlnners.AndI havea feellngyou'renotthat klndof guyanyway.

Style wfif€st
Subjectr FalseTlme Constraints?

YourgoalAFTER
dolnga falsetime constralntls to demonstrate
enoughvalueso
that theyDON'Twantyouto leave.(In otherwords,to reachthe HOOKPOINT.)

Onceyoudo that, youcanstartto pretendto leave,thenreluctantly

stay,and
giveTHEMshlt aboutkeeplngyoufrom yourfriends.(Alternately,
youcanmerge
groups.)
E
F SEyie wrlEeEt

tr Subj€ct: OT! Leavlng prollo - Space AvailabLe

F seiers lhe deal: I live in rhe be6t (IMO) and mo6t priwale room tD rine house. There,s no noise,

E
I
trlere,s

sirdolu8

've
a locked door,

wiih
painred

ProHo world.
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lhere's

wiew,
rorat

big
and kept up rhe roorn realry
seclusion.
tralk_in closer,

nicely.
you have your o$n ltttte

and a Ehower/barhroom

ir's a lrt!]e
balcony,

!ha!
picture

no one etse

oasie of lranquiliry
uses.

in lhe busy

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If you wanr to negorlale the Prrce, you can brlng tha!
up wlth Fapa. se may be arnenable.
Itosever, 1f you wanr !o ftnd a roommate or nore !o €bare
the coEt r{l!h you, lhat,s flne too.

alao, ao you kno$, itrE a short-lefin conmilrnent. The lease !o lhe houBe expiles ln June, wilh an
oplion !o renev if Papa decldes to keep the house.

P If you,d Like to dlecuss this furlher, or if yourre inlere€led, I'd be glad !o give you an
F honest breakdo!^rr of the pros, lhe co[s, and lbe expeliences of living there.

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