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15 Questions To Ask Your Kids To Help Them Have Good Mindsets
15 Questions To Ask Your Kids To Help Them Have Good Mindsets
Both determine how your child interprets the world. And asking the right questions
encourage behavior that brings positive change and also allows for the best use of
available resources.
One of the ways to encourage children to develop a positive mindset and practice it is to
talk to them honestly and ask them leading questions. It’s not about telling them what to
do; it’s about explaining to them the value of living positively and making the best of
what they already have.
Ask your kids these thoughtful questions to encourage conversation and help them
develop a healthy mindset. Some of these questions will also help you to enhance your
relationship with your children and bond with them, while learning to better understand
them.
The point of this question is to direct your child’s attention to the things that makes him
feel happy and open his eyes to the fact that he can actively choose to increase time
spent in those activities that bring him joy. Hopefully, this will teach him to pursue
activities, hobbies and even careers that make him happiest later on in life.
The question helps your child feel empowered and valued. It reminds her that she
is special and she has something to offer. When your child feels special and knows she
has something to offer, it builds self-confidence and self-worth, and also encourages
learning.
4. What is the most wonderful/worst thing that ever
happened to you?
Life is not all sunshine and rainbows, but neither is it all gloom and doom. Life is a mix
of good and bad experiences, and that’s what makes it so exciting.
Kids need to understand this fact early so they are mentally prepared for life. The
question is about directing that awareness. It helps your child realize (from her own
experience) that bad things don’t last forever.
The sun always shines after the storm, and the sunshine feels good. You also gain
valuable insight into areas you can help your child get past.
That’s one of the best ways to make progress and also the way to make the best of every
situation. When your child learns from her experiences, it means she is unlikely to
repeat the same or similar mistakes in the future.
When your child understands the value of what he is learning and how it can help him
in the future, it can motivate him to truly enjoy things like reading, studying and
learning.
This, in turn, can contribute to your child’s overall happiness, as there is a strong
correlation between gratitude and happiness.
Help her to develop empathy by asking her to wonder about what someone else feels.
Your child will become a more compassionate, helpful and happy person just by being
more considerate and empathetic. She will lead a richer, fuller life of meaning by
thinking of (and often helping) others.
You will in turn discover what your child is moving toward and see how you can help
him realize that dream from the conversation you have around this question.
11. Which of your friends do you think I’d like the
most? Why?
The company you keep has a big impact on your mindset and attitude. If you keep
negative people around you all the time, your attitude is likely to shift and become
negative. If you keep positive friends, you will become positive-minded yourself.
Ask your kids this question to figure out who among their circle of friends holds the
greatest influence in their life. Help your child see that everybody is the average of the
five people they spend the most time with, as Jim Rohn famously said.
What would you like people to remember you for? As your child ponders and responds
to these questions, you will find out the type of character your child is moving toward
and discover who influences your child as a role model. That is vital information for
overseeing your child’s character development.
Happy people are those who think of problems as surmountable and themselves as
effective problem solvers.
Edwin Markham rightly said, “The crest and crowning of all good, life’s final star, is
Brotherhood.”
And brotherhood and sisterhood means being there for each other. Ask your kids this
question regularly to incorporate a spirit of generosity into their daily life. Studies show
that giving releases oxytocin and endorphins, which produce a good kind of “high” that
your child can become addicted to.
15. If you could make one rule that everyone in the
world had to follow, what rule would you make? Why?
This question brings to the attention of children the fact that we live in a world with
rules and regulations, which we are obliged to follow to ensure order and everything
runs smoothly. Rules are not meant to punish us, but to help us live and interact with
others in a better way.
Your child will appreciate this fact more and be more receptive to following properly
laid down rules and regulations when he has his own personal rule that he believes in.
That personal rule or motto can be the key to raising respectful, law abiding citizens
who are also valuable members of society.