12 “I live with my father, mother, brother and me.” A: Do you live in the dorm? B: No, I live with my fat in a very small apartment. A: Really? Who do you live with? B: [live with my father, mother, brother, and me. L live with my amily and me, Don't say... Don't say and me when talking about your living arrangements. When you begin the sentence with J live with... you have already included yourself, When you add yourself at the end, it sounds like there are 2 of you!!! Imagine you are talking about someone else. Wouldn’t it sound silly to say this: My sister lives in Seoul with her husband and her. Do say... Do say live with and then list the people. | live with my family. Iive in the dorm with my roommate. My brother lives in Daegu with his wife and children,16 ISTE “I live with father and mother.” A: Where do you live? B: Ilive in Incheon. A: Really? Who do you live with? B: Hive with father and mother. Mother Father Don't say... Don't say father or mother, without using “my” when you're talking about your parents. When native speakers say Mother or Father, that is the name they call that parent. Notice that it’s capitalized! It’s the same as calling someone Min Sook or Julia, Referring to a parent in general terms needs a possessive. Do say... Do say my mother or my father when you're talking about your parents. It’s the same with all of your relatives. I talked to my mother on the phone last night. ‘My brother wrote my sister a long letter. Do say Father or Mother if you call them by that name. Mother, would you please help me with my homework I told Father that he needs to exercise more.“There are four members in my family.” : Do you live alone or with your family? : Hive with my family in a very small apartment. : How many members are there in your family? B: There are four members in my family: my father, my mother, my brother, and me. Td like to join ‘Sure Fill out this form the Park family? ‘and pay W10,000. Be a member of the Park family today! & Don't say... Don’t say member without the word fantily when talking about the people in your family. The word member is most often used to describe a person who joins a group; this group member usually pays dues and attends regular meetings. © Do sa Do say people, or nothing at all, instead of members when talking about your immediate family. There are only three people in her family. How many (people) are there in your family? Use member only when you are talking about the members of an organization, or in ‘combination with the word family referring to your extended family. How many members are there in your pansori club? Are all your family members coming to your graduation? 20Corrected dialogue A: Do you live in the dorm*? B: No, I live with my family in a very small apartment. A: Really? Who do you live with? B: I live with my father, mother, and brother. ‘HOIDIEED} CHSISIOIAY 7ISON Bah are mY S2H= Uf ALIS Flo RALAIPHE BIO] ICH, a] 7S aH Lhe O|0| BBIsIo| UOUT} #2 Bol and mes Be BL7t Sich, LFt 7-So} Bey WE oy MES As 2} BO] AK 3S 2HMSH7 lol ZO] HHS Cs Bt U7! GCL OS Sol SoioIL19} ACHEAI ste Sa @f A}BIO| SUS Ne OFF OtaRE + SIC, HOES CHT all my tokse ABSH7IE BIC, When a native speaker is asked a question about family, he or she will usually mention only the number of children. Native speakers assume that a young person is living with his or her parents — both a mother and a father. Native speakers don’t feel this is something that has to be said! If it is different, then the person might say something like, “I live with my mom and my sister.” This ‘means that there is no father — because of death, divorce, or another reason. Furthermore, when asked where someone lives, the answer is more likely to be “at home” than “with my family." If the parents are mentioned, the response will more likely be “with my parents” or, in some parts of the US, “with my folks” than “with my mother and father.” *And one more thing Many words common to American college campuses are shortened. While everyone will understand you if you say “dormitory” the commonly used word is dorm. Family «13Try Thi © Complete the following sentences with the words below: parents roommates wife son _ children 1. Ilive in the dormitory with my three 2. Mi-Young’s grandparents live with their oldest 3. Until [have a job, I will live with my 4, Min-Sook’s brother is married so he lives with his 5. Most American parents want their to move out once they graduate from university. © Reorganize these words into correct, logical sentences. Begin each sentence with the underlined word. Llived did he at say home he 2.father mother I with my live and 3. Americans parents don’t Young with to their want live © Translate the following sentences from Korean into English. 1.9 Bo] FHS Baa sloja, 2. BBLS sh LopA? 3. URE 7)S4b 14) SalolEat Ayia, + Answers on page 24 14When and why do American children move out? One major difference between American and Korean cultures has to do with children continuing to live at home after graduating from school or once they are in their 20s. Although the economy and job market have changed things a little, most young people want to move out of the family home as soon as they can! While studying at a university, many students will continue to stay at home if they live near their university, but once they have graduated and found a job, they move out. Students who don't go on to college will try to find a job as soon as they graduate from high school and will also move out. In fact, sons and daughters who continue to live at home once they are out of school tend to be viewed negatively. They are perceived as somewhat of a failure — they can't make it on their own and need to live with their mom and dad! In America, living independently is seen os a sign of adulthood and cial independence, In Korea it is normal for sons and daughters to continue to live at home well into their 20s and even longer. Married couples will often live with the husband's parents, In the U.S. this rarely happens, and if it does, it is not seen in a positive light. Most ‘American parents want their children to move out of the family home as much as most ‘American children want to leave. American families are a lot like birds. We build a nest, lay our eggs and hatch ‘them. We take very good care of our babies, but then comes the time to teach them how to fly. Once our baby birds have learned how to fly, they leave the “family nest* ‘and go out on their own. Like bird parents, we feel we've done a good job when our children leave home and are successful out in the world. Nonetheless, it can be difficult for parents to see their children leave the family home. In fact, the feeling of sadness and loneliness that parents, and especially mothers, might feel after their childen have moved out is referred to as “the ‘empty nest syndrome." Family «15