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On September 6, 1992, a moose hunter named Butch Killian came across an abandoned bus
in the middle of the Alaskan wild. Inside the bus, he found the unfortunate remains of
Christopher McCandless in a sleeping bag. He had starved to death. McCandless’ story was
chronicled in Jon Krakauer’s book Into the Wild and made even more famous by Sean Penn’s
2007 movie by the same title. McCandless romanticized living off the land in the Alaskan
frontier with limited resources. His death was the tragic result of being unprepared. Two
months before, he had killed a moose; however, he was unable to preserve the meat. He had
leaned on the expertise of hunters from South Dakota on preserving meat after a kill;
however, meat in South Dakota is preserved differently than in Alaska. In Alaska, meat must
be cut into thin strips while trying to preserve it in the Qeld. The information he based his life
Teenagers receive a lot of information to help guide their lives. Believing the wrong
information or lies has a signiQcant cost. We need to Qll them with the truth so they can make
choices that are life-giving. Here are dangerous lies teenage boys believe.
that buy into this lie live with an anxiety every day. Fear of failure and aUrmation is the driving
force. When failure arrives, it deQnes them. They constantly compare themselves to others
and never feel good enough. The others all have the key to success that he does not have.
though they are left behind. It is as if their peers have become men and they are still a boy.
Sadly, for teenage boys, sex becomes viewed as a goal to be achieved like getting a driver
license or getting into college. The true design, context, and beauty of sex gets lost in a
manhood conquest. This lie leaves battered and bruised hearts in its wake.
times, conquer every challenge, and meet every requirement. When things get diUcult, man
up and take care of business. Anything less may deQne them as weak. This is an isolating
and stress-Qlled road that I’ve seen many teenage boys walk. They feel pressure from
teachers, coaches, and parents. What happens more often is they work harder at upholding
an image of strength and competency, rather than the actual thing. Maturity and growth end
The people our culture deQnes as “successful” or “doing well” are always people that make a
lot of money. When they believe this lie, they will seek out vocations that earn a high wage,
rather than where their talents and passions lead. They potentially miss doing things that Qll
them with an enthusiasm which is truly rich. Another fallout is their attitude toward the poor
or even themselves when they earn a lower wage. Integrity gets thrown in the trash pretty
quickly when a boy believes his personal worth is found in the size of his bank account.
HUDDLE UP QUESTION
Huddle up with your kids and ask, “How do you tell whether or not something is true?”
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Shane Evenden
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6 months ago
I have a 15yearold son that has been diagnosed with opposituonal defiance disorder. He has his issues and is going thru some tuff times growing up.
I am trying my best to be there for him but he wants to grow up on his terms. I recently found out that he met someone in an online gay chat forum.
he allowed someone to come to my home without me knowing and they engaged in sex i found out. I am traumatized and dont know what to do???
He told me he is bi sexual but how do i even know that he knows what he believes? Dont know what steps my wife and i should take? We are an
involved christian family that now is turned upside down???
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He is not just your earthly son, he is your brother in Christ. Show him the scriptures on what God says about it. Many don't know exactly what the
Bible has to say. I think the most popular are in Leviticus, Romans, and 1 Corinthians, but there are more. Then pray the Holy Spirit would work in
him. Then love him. He's still your boy and God still loves him as much as His own Son! The enemy wants us to believe the lie that it's okay, but
the Bible is clear; it is detestable to God and those who practice it and do not repent will not inherit the Kingdom. You do have say so over who he
brings into your house though, no matter who or for what purpose.
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Thank you Layla for your response. It means alot to know there are people who are out there if someone just needs and ear. I 100% agree with
praying for him without ceasing. I think ive given it to God and what will be will be. I still will try my vest to dirrct him in the right path but the rest
is up to him and God.
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jamminjamy
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a year ago
Thanks Coach!
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Thank you for articulating what I have (inartfully) attmepted to explain to my kids as they go through this period. Our youngest is 7 and I will be sure to
refer to this to help drive a meaningful conversation. Great advice! Thanks again!
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Thanks Jose! Glad it helped. Prayed for you and your 7 year old this morning.
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T. Ray Phillips
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a year ago
great article to share with my son .. difficult to print however as I don't want to just send by email.. not sure what the settings are doing but every
variation cuts off some salient points... even when using the print icon on the app...
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You should be able to highlight the text, then copy and paste in to another document that you can control the print properties in.
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The printing issue has been resolved. Let me know if you have any more issues.
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Sorry sir. We will work to fix that problem. Glad you enjoyed the article!
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