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DARE YEMI
VIRGINS IN CRIME
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CO N T E N T S
Chapter ONE
VIRGINITY VS PURITY
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Chapter TWO
INDECENCY
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Chapter THREE
SEX-CHATTING
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Chapter FOUR
EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT
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Chapter FIVE
ORAL SEX
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Chapter SIX
MASTURBATION
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Chapter SEVEN
PORNOGRAPHY
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Chapter EIGHT
PURITY IS ACHIEVABLE
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ACKNOWLEDGEMENT
With a heart full of sincere praise. I accord every honor and glory
I'm fulfilled, knowing that you would get really blessed reading
"Virgins In Crime".
FOREWORD
To
WHAT IS VIRGINITY?
First, you have to understand that the word SEX
does not merely mean physical intercourse by penetration!
SEX encompasses ALL sexual-related activities, thus,
EVERY sexual pleasure obtained outside marriage is sinful.
When it comes to attaining purity, it's crucial to
understand that it cannot be achieved by flesh. It is a
spiritual matter and not an issue that can be mildly
handled.
The commonest definition of virginity is 'the state of
never having had 'sex'.
However, in the business of purity, total cleanliness
is the goal, as you are helped by God's Spirit to be
all-pleasing to Him as a sweet sacrifice. It's a journey that
cuts across all facets of your life. This includes how much
you are able to manage, guide and control your thoughts
and acts.
"Shun immorality and all sexual looseness [flee from
impurity in thought, word, or deed]. Any other sin which a
man commits is one outside the body, but he who
commits sexual immorality sins against his own body".
1 Corinthians 6:18-19.
Ephesians 5:4
"Let there be no filthiness..."
Purity does not border on what you do only but what
you do not do as well. Not just your actions but also your
inactions too, what you wear, and what you think about.
Virginity Says: Don't break the hymen.
Purity Says: NO! Abstain from immorality.
Hebrews 13:4
"Let marriage be held in honor (esteemed worthy,
precious, of great price, and especially dear) in all things.
And thus let THE MARRIAGE BED be undefiled (kept
undishonored); for God will judge and punish the
unchaste [all guilty of sexual vice] and adulterous".
1 John 3:3
And everyone who has this hope [resting] on Him
cleanses (purifies) himself just as He is pure (chaste,
undefiled, guiltless).
Psalm 100 :
"Know (perceive, recognize, and understand with
approval) that the Lord is God! It is He Who has made us,
not we ourselves [and we are His]! We are His people and
the sheep of His pasture."
...and Men?
A. Shamefulness
Nahum 3:5
"Behold, I am against you, says the Lord of hosts, and I
will lift up your skirts over your face, and I will let the
nations look on your nakedness [O Nineveh] and the
kingdoms on your shame."
The only time 'nakedness is regarded in a beautiful
light is in respect to the private openness between a
legally married man and woman —husband and wife.
Thus, signifying mutual trust, confidence and ownership.
Genesis 2:25.
Genesis 3:21
"For Adam also and for his wife the Lord God made long
coats (tunics) of skins and clothed them."
When asked:
When are (miniskirts, mini-gowns, etc.) all leading?
C. Fleshly Lusts
a. The Man —
Guard his mind and eyes from impurity.
b. The Woman —
Help to forestall any chance for the lustful looks.
1 Timothy 2:9, 10
"In like manner, that women adorn themselves
in modest apparel, with shamefastness and sobriety; not
with braided hair, and gold or pearls or costly raiment; but
(which becometh women professing godliness) through
good works."
WHY BE ON GUARD?
God can see the inside of your heart. He sees how
you're caught up in your own lusts and how that lust
conceives sin in you and also affects others. You can
cause others to stumble by the way you dress and God
won't fail to hold you accountable. Outward sins are just
as bad as inward sins.
Heb 4:13
"No creature is hidden from his sight, but all are naked
and exposed to the eyes of him to whom we must give
account”.
So when a person wears clothes and their
nakedness is not properly covered, the person is not only
doing wrong but also working against God’s original
purpose; it is very sinful and debasing.
1 Corinthians 6:18
"Do you not know that your body is the temple (the very
sanctuary) of the Holy Spirit Who lives within you, Whom
you have received [as a Gift] from God? You are not your
own".
Recall that Rom. 12:1 says this too... You are not your
own!
You are meant to be a reference point for excellence
and purity to witnesses around you. Becoming the living
Scripture, fulfilling the dictates of the Lord Jesus Christ.
You become a representation of the Bible pages those
who never read them.
DE-MYSTIFYING SEXTING
HERE.
Lust works the works of IMMORALITY.
Galatians 5:19 – 21 “The acts of the flesh are obvious:
sexual immorality, impurity and the likes. I warn you, as I
did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the
kingdom of God.”
Colossians 3:5
"Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual
immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and
covetousness, which is idolatry."
The dirty act of sexting provides a death-hole to
feed on all of these sexually immoral acts which you as
God's Beloved, are supposed to flee far from (1
Corinthians 6:18)—not toward.
2 Timothy 2:1 —
“Do your utmost to present yourself approved to God, a
workman with nothing to be ashamed of.”
PHYSICAL CONSEQUENCES OF SEXTING
2 Timothy 2:22 —
“Flee from the desires incidental to youth.”
Psalm 119:37 —
“Make my eyes pass on from seeing what is worthless.”
"Who am I to you?"
"What's the purpose or nature of our relationship?"
3. Personal Satisfaction:
Since it's sometimes borne out of a feeling of low
self esteem, you are looking up to another person to make
you complete on certain bases. This way, you are
trampling on your own creative power, your abundant
richness and great feeling of freedon. This is why it
feels so difficult for you to let go.
Find ways to satisfy your needs productively. It is
hard to do but it is highly needed for you to avoid falling
into a chasm of pain and emptiness.
THE TRUTH
Than regular intercourse, oral sex is even deeper
and intense. Yes, as even married couples are not clear if
they should do it or not.
It is a stage of intimacy that may not even be proper
for married people. And so to think it can be an innocent
2. IT IS STILL SEX
1 Thessalonians 4:3-4
For this is the will of God, that you should be consecrated
(separated and set apart for pure and holy living): that
you should abstain and shrink from all sexual vice,
That each one of you should know how to possess
(control, manage) his own body in consecration (purity,
separated from things profane) and honor.
1 Corinthians 6:15,18-20
Do you not see and know that your bodies are members
of Christ? Am I therefore to take the parts of Christ and
make [them] parts of a prostitute? Never! Never!
Shun immorality and all sexual looseness [flee from
impurity in thought, word, or deed]....he who commits
sexual immorality sins against his own body.
What Is Masturbation?
Masturbation is the act of touching and rubbing your
sensitive body parts for sexual pleasure — body parts
such as the penis, clitoris, vulva and breasts.
Lust is a sin.
One common cause of masturbation is lust and lust
happens to be intertwined with masturbation.
• Lewd Thoughts
Masturbation mostly occurs when a person is
thinking sexual thoughts about someone who is not
his/her spouse. The "lust of the flesh" 1 John 2:16 is the
sin. Masturbation is simply the result of the sin.
• Sexual Fantasies
This happens by projecting exciting and sensual and
sexual fantasising scenes to play their way into your mind.
This may happen by imagination, by pictures, movies,
stories, or porno— these are taboos on your mental and
spiritual purity (Matthew 5:28).
OVERCOMING MASTURBATION
1. Believe it is a SIN!
There have been enough arguments and debates on
this....and at the end if it all, it's always determined that
even though the Bible doesn't clearly spell it out in big
letters but as we have agreed that masturbation is very
wrong as a result of all that has been explained from the
beginning of this chapter.
So, you must believe you're offending God with this
sinful act and that you're ready to seek a lasting way out
to your drives and urges..
4. Live Triumphantly
You become a new creature in Christ. Therefore,
look forward unto God and tell yourself through
affirmations — of course, your affirmations are
professions and confessions of the words of Christ and His
finished works.
This is a result of your absolute belief and total
reliance on God to help you walk through temptations.
You're are hereby commissioned by Christ as FREE! No
longer shall you be held bound. No longer shall you be
drowned in guilt, shame and despair. The righteousnesses
of God is expressed over you.
What is Pornography?
There are many definitions of pornograph based
different relative perspectives, but I'll go with that of the
Webster Dictionary that describes pornography as:
Galatians 6:7 —
"Do not be deceived and deluded and misled; God will not
allow Himself to be sneered at (scorned, disdained, or
mocked by mere pretensions or professions, or by His
precepts being set aside.....For whatever a man sows, that
and that only is what he will reap"
3 LIES ABOUT PORNOGRAPHY
There has been a lot of false and wrong reasons for
which many people indulge in pornography.
4. Get A Confidant
Having established that you cannot overcome this
yourself, you need to get a confidant. It may be a difficult
battle to fight if you depend on promises and curse-binds
because they don’t work....at least not for addiction to
pornography. Curse-binds are self-made oaths and
promises you make to stop yourself from some habits or
addictions. Good intentions don't do much either. Talk to a
trusted friend, mentor family member who can be a pillar
of strength. Talk Openly discuss the problem with them.
Also, make yourself accountable to a spiritual
authority, perhaps your pastor or mentor. Just be sure
they are a matured believer.
In case you want to feel reluctant to do that....you
have to know this—
Secrets kill you by creating shame, fear and guilt. Go
See how King David fell into the trap of adultery and
murder because he couldn't run away from the temptation
of looking upon a naked bathing woman.
2 Samuel 11:2
"One evening David arose from his couch and was walking
on the roof of the king's house, when from there he saw a
woman bathing; and she was very lovely to behold."
Purity is attainable!
Even in a perverted society and world as ours. It is
still a standard of God. Purity, both physically and mentally
allows us to walk in everything God has for us. In a
season of my life, I struggled with forces to become a
victor. Yet, as Apostle Paul says....not as if I've worn the
crown but God is faithful and will ever be. Glory to God.
Hallelujah!
2 Corinthians 10:5 —
"....refute arguments and theories and reasonings and
every proud and lofty thing that sets itself up against the
[true] knowledge of God; and we lead every thought and
purpose away captive into the obedience of Christ"
Daily Sanctification
Genesis 39:8,10
"...But he refused and said to his master's wife, See here,
with me in the house my master has concern about
nothing; he has put all that he has in my care.
He is not greater in this house than I am; nor has he kept
anything from me except you, for you are his wife. HOW
THEN CAN I DO THIS GREAT EVIL AND SIN AGAINST
GOD? She spoke to Joseph DAY AFTER DAY, BUT HE DID
NOT LISTEN TO HER, to lie with her or to be with her."
THE WAY
Having mentioned a lot. I'm glad to tell you THERE
IS A WAY OUT! One of my personal quotes says:
"This life is a jungle where many people struggle; but few
do not, for they have the map— Jesus"
In the multitudes of voices and suggestions, Christ
Jesus remains not just the best way but THE ONLY WAY.
John 14:6
"Jesus said to him, I am the Way and the Truth and the
Life; no one comes to the Father except by (through) Me."
Step 1: Repent
It isn't enough to merely confess in speech or tears
that you have repented from your old ways. Your actions
after your confession should reflect your repentance.
Acts 17:30
[30]Such [former] ages of ignorance God, it is true,
ignored and allowed to pass unnoticed; but now He
charges all people everywhere to repent (to change their
minds for the better and heartily to amend their ways,
with abhorrence of their past sins),
2 Corinthians 5:17
[17]Therefore if any person is [ingrafted] in Christ (the
Messiah) he is a new creation (a new creature altogether);
the old [previous moral and spiritual condition] has passed
away. Behold, the fresh and new has come!
Both scriptures prove that God is still faithful and ready
not only to forgive you but also give you a wonderful and
amazing pure life in Himself.
Step 2: Request
Each time you attempt to help yourself by yourself,
you are hurting yourself. You can be assured of failure
every time you attempt to please God by your own power.
Request the help of the Holy Spirit.
Step 3: Resolve
There is a need for you to find friends who would
serve as props for your spiritual stabiliy. Not a company of
people that will stir or influence you to compromise your
decisions for worldliness.
Have and keep a circle of helpful and suportive
friends. Friends who will keep you accountable. Friends
that won't feed you with toxic contents.
Resolve in your heart to stay pure at all costs. If this
means hurting your old ungoldy relationships and
Hangouts, then so be it.
Each of them will try to make you feel like you will
be old and awkward, boring or archaic because you have
chosey to uphold the standard of God in purity, but rejoice
greatly in this.
Matthew 5:11-12
"Blessed (happy, to be envied, and spiritually
prosperous–with life-joy and satisfaction in God's favor
and salvation, regardless of your outward conditions) are
you when people revile you and persecute you and say all
kinds of evil things against you falsely on My account."
"Be glad and supremely joyful, for your reward in heaven
is great (strong and intense), for in this same way people
persecuted the prophets who were before you."
Revelation 22:15
"Outside are the dogs and sorcerers and the sexually
immoral and murderers and idolaters, and everyone who
loves and practices falsehood"
Let us Pray!
Lord Jesus, I thank you for my life. Thank you for loving
me, thank you for dying for me. I confess my weakness,
immorality and impurity. God have mercy upon me. Help
me in my moments of struggles and help me always. I
accept you as my personal Savior. I confess you as the
Only Son of God. Write my name in the book of life.
Thank you for saving me. Amen.
Prayer Points!
• I activate my victory power in Jesus Name.
Christ Jesus.
• Every bond that I'm entangled in, Jesus break them in pieces.
Declaration!
• Jesus, I confess you're my help, help my infirmities.
STEPHEN Oluyemi
Oluwadamilare popularly
known by his pen name—
Dare Yemi is a Poet, Writer,
Networker, Graphics
Designer, Teens Coach,
Radical Transformational Leader, Sexual Purity Crusader
and a Street and Digital Evangelist.
Founder of Young People Connect w/Dare Yemi— a
Network that aims at young minds who grow up knowing
knowing God and focus on making the difference with
core values that include Purity, Chasitity, Purpose,
Leadership.
He is the convener of #DVI —Dare Yemi Valentine
Initiative; a non-profit platform targeted at educating,
informing and sensitizing thousands of children,
teenagers, young adults and singles as well...on the
lurking dangers of the Feb. 14 Annual Valentine's Day
Celebration.
Dare is passionate about the overall wellness of
young minds especially that they do not miss it in the
areas of purpose and destiny. As a Digital and Street
Preacher, he recognises the scary fact that a man's life is
utterly bankrupt without Christ and he's willing to help
many know more about God's love and will for their lives.
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