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Being praised
Being listened to
Being spoken to respectfully
Getting attention and hugs
Experiencing success in sports or school
In contrast, childhood experiences that lead to low self-esteem include the following:
Being harshly criticized
Being yelled at or beaten
Being ignored, ridiculed, or teased
Being expected to be “perfect” all the time
Experiencing failures in sports or school
Often being given messages that failed experiences (losing a game, getting a poor grade, and
so forth) were failures of one’s whole self
Another aspect of career success related to the core self-evaluation is profiting from training.
Performing well in training contributes to career success because of workplace emphasis on
continuous learning. Evidence about the link between profiting from training and the core self-
evaluation comes from a study of 638 military personnel who participated in job-required foreign
language training. Training lasted eighteen to twenty-four weeks, depending on the difficulty of the
language. Foreign language proficiency was considered necessary for the jobs of the study
participants. A key finding of the study was that a positive core self-evaluation facilitates success in
acquiring language skills partially because it contributes to the motivation to learn. People with core
high core self-evaluations are more likely to have high job performance when they combine positive
attitudes toward the self with a concern for the welfare of others. (Consistently good job performance
enhances career success.) For example, call-center employees with positive core self-evaluations
tended to perform better when they worried about letting other people down. The call-center work
involved telemarketing to generate funds to support new jobs at a university.
Organizational Prosperity
The combined effect of workers having high self-esteem helps a company prosper. Self-esteem is a
critical source of competitive advantage in an information society. Companies
gain the edge when, in addition to having an educated workforce, employees have high
self-esteem, as shown by such behaviors as the following:
• Being creative and innovative
• Taking personal responsibility for problems
• Feeling independent (yet still wanting to work cooperatively with others)
• Trusting one’s own capabilities
• Taking the initiative to solve problems
Behaviors such as these help you cope with the challenge of a rapidly changing workplace where
products and ideas become obsolete quickly. Workers with high self-esteem are more likely to be able
to cope with new challenges regularly because they are confident that they can master their
environment.
Kristin Neff, a professor of educational psychology at the University of Texas at Austin, supports the
idea that making social comparisons can lead to problems with self-esteem. She explains that in
American culture, people tend to acquire a sense of self-worth from feeling special. A musician who
compares herself to a musician of less talent will feel superior and will even have a boost in self-
esteem. But if she compares herself to a more talented musician, she will feel a decrease in self-
esteem even if her talent and skills have not diminished.
The people whose opinion matters to you, esteem-worthy behavior would include the following:
As you have probably observed, all these esteem - worthy accomplishments reflect values about what
is important. For example, a person might have criminals and swindlers in his or her reference group.
Self-esteem for this person based on the acclamation of others would therefore stem from such
activities as defrauding others of money and not paying taxes.
A potential difficulty in assessing whether you have attained a legitimate accomplishment is the
motivation of the person giving you feedback on performance. An extensive analysis of the subject
suggests that managers often give subordinates overly-positive performance reviews because high
performers enhance the self-image of the manager. The preconscious thinking might be “If the
members of my team are all performing well, that means I am a very effective manager.”
Closely related to attaining legitimate accomplishments is to have constructive goals that can make a
difference for others. When a person’s self-esteem is low, helping others can take the attention away
from oneself thereby taking away some of the discomfort associated with low self-esteem. In this
sense, a person’s self-esteem would feel elevated. Jennifer Crocker, a psychology professor at the
University of Michigan, explains that by taking your ego out of the situation—and focusing on
helping others—your self-esteem will gain a legitimate boost.20 An example of a constructive goal
that would be to develop a plan to directly help others is to distribute donated food to families in dire
need.
Minimize Settings and Interactions that Detract from Your Feelings of Competence
Most of us have situations in work and personal life that make us feel less than our best. If you can
minimize exposure to those situations, you will have fewer feelings of incompetence. The problem
with feeling incompetent is that it lowers your self-esteem. An office supervisor said she detests
company picnics, most of all because she is forced to play softball. At her own admission, she had
less aptitude for athletics than any able-bodied person she knew. In addition, she felt uncomfortable
with the small-talk characteristic of picnics. To minimize discomfort, the woman attended only those
picnics she thought were absolutely necessary. Instead of playing on the softball team, she
volunteered to be the equipment manager.
A problem with avoiding all situations in which you feel incompetent is that it might prevent you
from acquiring needed skills. Also, it boosts your self-confidence and selfesteem to become
comfortable in a previously uncomfortable situation.