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    ‘OHAPTER 2 HEY, BUZZ OFF! Am Not Defensive! 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Detensiveness is always based ona far. FE spent en ca eS Te Be tw 2 ark i a2 1 EE. ‘on hae Segette it ia rans someone in He defense jo steal Ce ipl knw hat Teor sc unde ee sthestened ot fad. When pepe el ‘aoreascotiasonarion nig, inomptnt oul, hey may ot In ons toll thne uncefole flngs They ay act ut orn them ‘SLome seep, elt seo Non thew nor Ivan fo fase auc mh amo, be cholo Ur ct in dsm fate wy ooo upc th ‘ico: By eon sil ea and ep eos role ole moe ako the undeing enesved fokngsnd ead ake eon ores the, Bag ect apm ter at les ovees omni et aver bldg el wes Desens so en mth as eet som exe trcng ur orn rental lng The srg resin ort Stree a yous eptene tae eng Dol 901 er th Dot sido Sen them by fmoring away fm tery ctor ve ua her, Fema ‘ham fino oe Conlon sl cksouedgg then. While thei eamerintives the mow fecve way Hows pe henna deere Remco tha dees ae Bley tse and sally cord wis pyle nthe hho deste can se ‘ies be eet fm plea ues Tho may nel ae ‘pl esting a ez pe rte estos ho, to alo ‘esl: Oter nin ih ene the oponte t,o Ibe te Sonne, tention and por concent. The tenons wate wed esenencingancfrateelng, ‘Dein sade wth ce dese ore sy of ur coc dhkig_picencs. They aby ante automo a wsincn Peple ae oe omc See ht he Behar eyo dfn heels fom el {Moiese ekg hey a he mene, they nl st teey eae ancora dese tes tid bdr eer nth et tere "We ae not ting, wes, ae pole sould meer df hone The wad sno lo ly tha a tes See from ack ppc Thi sre a Botha ntratonal vel {tan trp evel Nor verone car be rte ak ach ther ner Hoo. mount When peel egitely ded ‘hemelesfwn ak neve thy Soa Tora ee entered sl-warnes. ther ten fee a rity dared by “Ate eter with pine deve i hat provide on temporary Bre eave Rus cca eo ‘cree lng oly ers = rg the nile iMedia The dee edie wth the dyer elem re len ae ou ht may ice poe "cine deg with ny svete ae Ral your Src stegy ying whe ha een on Yor oer {Ree toed dno: lr eer ree th nrg ea tty. Teel imac pes eas a cee ‘ede, an neal tsk pepe ay on tates Anone ‘bub the perf a eeton shal vc ow othe ay ‘rom ft Amon id wleriog ka rch. waite ly emmy i fs ating og sep ih ‘whpped ren ay ak fd sel Bete Ter sat me, bt ws ‘revenge clan vo temas. WHERE DEFENSES COME Fao Defane tem however ae nee Haan dfs ae ore volusnary Sesoenent. nde Jel emerged fom ch fre sty They beled esl cope nth the sew of owing {weld whee they ha deen over he ive ona ‘Senden to defen ene fom ah ae he ineanencmptee nal, ce heen Those ees [eae these tha tcl then fm uelcoe fins Whos ging wth cdo locas wolbae enexceshag ifsc mpoble “The ote th eee mechani cin acne ef aie cor and uly conta shite esl ex ti ees ‘eh the some hc faves that the show when they open 2 RADICAL COLLABORATION hog, ie tee go simi climb a of ee They (Bet thin todhewstver Leth hi nex tp ihe hn he {atone ot nen ory oe oa ten cess, eat wee gh nought non the top ofthe nest sep sted he ‘ihirhastecme prof hem sehen and mt The tine they even crc wha they dng ‘Rego tt dees pple may ote ee way shot ise ne ben icf thee hood fa we no knee lads Thy cool to cen ht te reads and telvow sen fe Smee es They can ‘Sulfite repens ater tan eering an open od te sd of ngewe an ston, "Aon neo mer me pe Rave aes sha pia chit aera tha le eo eee bhi > Srvc hig pts The ny lod expres eve hi Treen Sele nets tse Pep ed rat ne 0" fey ol than none expe, esas tl hypo ‘anc tha hen ctf nq ‘fal acre aden ile, hy wold tan ube erin he om ant open an eel They neal that they weld ve Talc do Then hypocrite TE Mikey are gen he seston leu So emus, ‘ten thy aw the age Pee er gu am the de, fel sec the so ofa sar femoed an ue peel shelve cased tk he unl Then {Royce ened oe i od coped he question = "aig waa jo ocare “Foe mee nereing fa the expeinent cones fm thi eqoes en tenets te aed why hey opened an ute ‘eth nlf ononcng the ustonare Exch peru ea ‘fue. Novo pera dst oe hy he eal a he ‘SuTbcv Hing nooner lla hey ae the, ea let peed a Seeble” eae. Sead hey mee ‘walt s gg ome een a eo a cy xn they were gcse the wei ‘all wot Erne endeup ate har tele een Tanon rte etoaltesoe Weel menang-eing sie, ‘Me mmourtehsvntomake ee fantasies me > tec eran msoneen eben we drut he ee “Take sore 1 let ck on your thon hiking san igten yearlong hypo acton- Thi ofthe eins thar ou ape ad the menage that you ened pd ave sce gun You wih iow dees ha were el Sido may have taken on + ie of hoo ard may 0 ret Teel to you an ae Sto nat pl flat Aft aan 1p eapenes the fan so they aoe asa ‘eh that ip them ot el he ae Ba os alata ‘orca bse lars vara eter tha pop ‘although they ay steven eal they reacting dea. waa yu tht tor eichoot a an agnosis hyp into, ys hve abt en ot aw teas hl ee hep tus 2 eM Ma vlan na et er a on ay Bb Plu is. {When you er chil example f our pret ean, fating t-sments cull cue you ge pu. Yow count op hem fm ing an yo ont moe out on our om Fr apne ay ht yc deen youself that a owe sc to sep stentg ell, if you dl es dhe ing ‘oul te yan So, mast i os eo es na lan Than efit sual tte os chi in the furmnces sno an efecve eee an yo nnd ‘hi dente ey of mot eng wel ding sic ad we ban aul, you've seg ron op to e's has Utes What Telesyn ar hd maker ou nlectve stan nae ‘Maybe ou sue Heck ut the nose of our ret hing soa us ere detent ene ele ofa hea. Inge wot joy hve mmf your etn, you weet Fels mach pun You sbt Jom yur ets and cone ote toying nese Myo ery eh sate no nod, ou wl ‘penance te ge of emo You may el es iat tsps, ou wil al experienc soe and excite ‘ee bec yu renee aes yu mht be. Bee Ys Teed deel yours th wy ci ou now expres 2 sexy range emt ar anal ‘Ce pera yo oe ick You woul et mented lane Map youll obese sweat or wihannoetote panne The prema for fone ow logic obese colnet har elles #aetng (euch fom ape ent heey ts ane tec ein ie yoy wb des nesta! ht eich hate ‘ht bes ene defi The feck sesh deo. ark dei ant oel he behaves oy ha allows imo ‘out uncomfoable lings He ges cnft an doen et ‘andthe etc ie doen unr ee ene, eds Theo el th he mcs «ns “sre cll penal ve pce owe 0 siege, When ed wih rene een ens, {hetay sly neo ay feng coc he than ineconeinn thus lng ding wth thom ore Ait Hoe rian ton elie see pole le were pone coke in he nen dt gcc ‘ict oun Beg tf dna. Whe the ney doe ma ‘Shela i penting ran ens: Teves toe how aed the fess vce yet thos that incl see or abnive prs ulkple ‘Srey Sst of pet But ess are lo ro eve noma ver, avrg, ona hs, TE say competence, nel atemging to conince pel bec T, “hone hob ucteinel Honee cae Iam nate tis ‘leds el etsy oan ne Feces as a competent nner She pc ay hone, wih ‘wath who cosy tl ee Ht she wat od enough ha ‘key the my wa sae Francs cae th ng th lobia ve leaysen herman dese wee glen She projected ht leone er srs wry wed Ute wa deapoiting ber sper Cay Fane ei hersiperoc sw Frc ao ot lene eng, Tae spect ely agptnent wat that Ponce mul ot tke 8 ‘ene lakh in theo The etna fl esos inher usher anh poet her wn fae ober ape {dtm oer ces tnd wn rd eae ‘Weaten ee pojecton at work no meta fen a cnecues nperior ads du whan erlayee The pei ‘rs cei st nplib of cose Bede tha matt tone ues he cys even dete there war solely no erence of thi inthe feb of the ployee The super poeta hi own uncon Secef ‘netresate he aloe wa “Dems dss el cali send sot ‘eatin hon ole sg. Reged of whether the dr ens nen oi HOW DEFENSES CRUSE PROBLEMS Deksenes et people nti by itoicg ly pies ‘hou pee. ase ben ees ens ec om fend onngeincter pce tha ia ene Fn Indl has noe ling he mit psec thes oo ‘thes pr They te them elg tthe ae Peo, trend yon sje rely bac him deo cl ACIS the ve uveole ea ter my on compen, ct he ot ua Bn ole hr you thnk Pi ae ‘Site hn at ating you gh sy pjeion wee ‘oy es yo anday eying cosines youth Thm competent Alta es that tying conics ovat td sky one ht eet tsier cok in ever snes fe on ay ol elton, ‘oOKING AT YOUR OWN DEFENSES “The ft tp torr oot acing esl to bso sm yaa gng eae ting your laa Sot Tor dle re i nce the acy of our cet ‘Were ven re et ily oe een ditt ens At rove ice thinner) ae ab ber ale te Fw ches echo. sr aerated rng ere your istry So we swine youtsengeinone ema achnry Leuncveing e yen cnunorrion il torre ou dso the of your ow een Se ecm mts ding hae we oll Cait Lice PopSet ry the cote aes Tar anh oe pee The Caf Lene 2 ol ‘Sihg erreur we our dees my hve ce fm ‘NR romans eth Cos Lie pon a 38 Ayoub your Col Life, tans whe fe the mun dower Use won pcre sis oe ay ther ‘Shp evensinyourfe Ary daw wegen Teens nce wiht vem Dot wor abot wh dhe (Srna lnk ie, rth page toe tno Beer Non dnt nv to haw tt anyone ee you do mat ‘Een the signin oie our ie wl el you soe ‘Giese tat you may ve leaned over 2 Ue © Jeege att fey uncaring asta “ec afew examples of Confit ilies" or ‘a Liina wale wevomzen.. | ee rehnte eeeears our, reflected by the hourglass ard the ticking clock. “ mo. 4 oF Pipi too, a Lisi cm tf ego owen de Goa low meat ot and then nom. aaa oy we AGE —. wo Lisi xl an MEA sa: The chao" fveiyeng elton tc? tena Teen ea couasomsron tow cone in igh hos when ing mack na cd me fips wcconic hari Vitam xa os oni itl Yc mab hs sige ib 8 pear pee a ai th ct ‘Slo yon srt tony th culo eo ot i ou oe ted 2 fe eck on hese, smo a ce yu hw epee ‘ict imt ie eine ra ech ower fi oo Spouses: nis tort eager poe, ita) rts (neigh, ovement esp foes cama Exel dy escent att saben pets sng wa wa eerie cee marae ae ae Pate ene em renanzarr... When you are done ding yo Confis Lln, yao cre feral ofthe mpc thence may tv hl on you Take one of th ear chide ene ya nde itn ald he vinta nell ob Read the viaalaton andthe flip suet ah oe {Roet tory endo thevoultb set cise 22 UetineVsuaiation ‘tet ck nena Cr Lie wen ou ee i ate sl a sro sr we wo some ga oe bao Co Jeol ta tsmain ar toys yar me hen hoe sacle Stet cance ce hay eign ae sts hee ‘body. Then answer the follwing questions: tines Tat wee ong mata Yr on fe ‘erat mrs hs ey 2 it Nene nr? eer cnunion Night to tesheg dented i re hoe ee oe a ‘las your vision oF hearing ated in any may? Recreate ene eat ra ee Sing nto snd ssc ete vn tnt gpg oe Hoe orgs 4 charg mee it Wt hopned sara Oa ye etinborgronk edayesnuse 6 arte beer sini stains cece in or as ite? ee I eS eon Ne eee TS eR eee ented cone pectin ei, sn these nee SMe ac we elie ee anenr eh conc ad mesic : ee dwt raved "igh ype response. 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